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BN Weddings: Favors for Life’s Biggest Event



Side-By-Side Photo AlbumLagos weddings are usually extremely elaborate affairs. From the designer gowns to the most sought after venues, Nigerian brides are insistent on making sure their wedding stands out. The wedding favor is usually one of the last items on a bride’s to-do list but is a very important part of the event. Favors must reflect the quality of your wedding and can be sent to guest that were unable to attend.

From the rich to the recession inflicted, there is an easy way to make sure your guests do not forget your wedding. Tomi Soyoye, a consultant at The Aspen Shops explains the process of choosing the right wedding favors.

So, Tomi what is the purpose of a wedding favor?

Giving out favors at weddings is a wonderful way of saying “Thank you” to the guests for attending, a  keepsake that will remind them of the fun they had at the party, and also thanking them for the gifts they bring for the bride.

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What are the most popular favors brides request for their wedding guests?

Popular favor requests I receive from brides are customized cosmetic bags, photo albums, handbag holders, bottle stoppers, luggage tags and more.

So how do you choose the right favors?

Choosing the right favors could be quite challenging for some brides-to-be. Should you make them yourself? Or buy them? How much favors should you buy? What type of box, bag or ribbon would look best? And lots of other questions. Just remember that your wedding favors should be unique and personalized to your own taste, and also, to complement the theme of your wedding!

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Tips for Choosing Wedding Favors

1.  Location, style and theme of wedding: Before purchasing favors, consider the location, style, and theme of your wedding. If the location or agenda of the ceremony will be anything except traditional, a theme wedding favor is likely the best option. For example, a beach wedding deserves beach favors. Welcome your guests and thank them for wedding gifts with a seashell.

For outside weddings in warm climates, you’ll need to avoid favors that could melt (chocolates, frosted cookies, etc.), unless these are placed in an air-conditioned space

Age and Gender: Don’t forget to take the age and gender of your guests into account. While women might love a silk pillow sachet favor, most men won’t relate — meaning you may be stuck with dozens of favors “left behind” at the reception.

2.  Cost: Choose Inexpensive Wedding Favors. Low budget weddings may require less expensive favors. Choose items that are simple and not too pricey. If you wish to give more expensive, high-end favors but need to find a way to skim the fat, give one gift per couple by placing the favor between their two dinner plates, and tagging it with the couple’s names. For your single friends, stick with one gift per person.

3.  Decide on Packaging: When wrapping your favors, personalized stickers and ribbons are a lovely touch. Make sure your favors are personalized to your own taste. Choose packaging that coordinates with the linens and flowers. Make sure your favor packaging should make as much of an impact as what’s inside. Try bundling favors with multiple items that contribute to your wedding theme.


4.  Select a Personalized Wedding Favor: Most couples want a wedding favor with more meaning. Add your own unique touch to your favors and make sure it reflects your style, personality and vision of the perfect wedding. After all, you are unique. Choose a favor as unique as you are.

5.  Present Your Favors Right: Once you’ve found the perfect favor, and packaged and personalized each one with pretty papers and bows, you’ll want to be sure each guest gets her hands on one, right? Decide on an “at the table” or “on the way out” location for your favors. If favors are large or colorful, placing them on the reception tables can take up precious table space or be distracting during the meal. Instead, many brides opt to place large trays (or a table) of favors in a hall or foyer where guests will exit. A tasteful sign — “Please take one favor per guest with our compliments and thanks!” — will let reluctant guests know that it’s okay to pick up the gifts.

About Tomi Soyoye, The Aspen Shops

TomiTomi Soyoye is a wedding consultant based in Baltimore, MD. She works with brides all over the United States, UK and Nigeria to create a lasting impression by choosing the right favors. No matter what type of favor you are looking for, her collection has a little bit of something to satisfy all tastes at a price that won’t break your budget, and without sacrificing the high quality you’ve come to expect. Please send her an email at [email protected] or visit for your international inquiries. She is currently taking orders to be personally delivered in Nigeria in December 2009.

*Additional web source: Better Homes and Gardens, Wedding Favor Tips.


  1. Ladi

    September 9, 2009 at 3:43 am

    Good business idea…but all these things are totally oyibo-ristic and uneccesary.

    Lagos weddings (Abuja is getting there slowly) are becoming wayyy too fancy which is great but with rising divorce rates, I’m not too wedding-obsessed as I used to be. My dreams of a crazy-ass romantic proposal and extravagant wedding have been placed on hold.

    Though as a business savvy, individual, I agree “wedding favors” will be good for business since Nigerians like excess uneccessary ephizzy. Forgetng we are a poor country. I wish Tomi success, I’m sure she’ll make Naira.

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  3. Kpakpando

    September 9, 2009 at 7:27 pm

    Hmm wedding favors? I always see them as a nice to have, but your guests aren’t going to even remember where they put them the day after your wedding. At $3- $10 a pop, I don’t fault folks for skipping this.
    What happened to the days of aunty & uncle donating trays & food flasks with a bad picture of the couple in blue ink or the jordan almonds wrapped in tulle?

  4. niyi

    September 9, 2009 at 8:12 pm

    @ ladi, are we poor as a country? do you think……..
    i agree with everything else

  5. Kpakpando

    September 9, 2009 at 8:38 pm

    If most of the population of a country is living below poverty level & there’s no middle class to speak of, I think its safe to say that Nigeria is a poor country.

  6. lilkunta(reply 2 ladi)

    September 9, 2009 at 8:39 pm

    Agreed. “oyibo ristic”is the perfect word.

  7. lilkunta(reply 2 kpakpando)

    September 9, 2009 at 8:42 pm

    WELL SAID. Do guests actually keep them? No. Immediate family may but most trash it.

    I think too many plan lavish WEDDINGS but not fulfulling MARRIAGES. Going into debt for the wedding is a horrible way 2 start a marriage.

  8. niyi

    September 9, 2009 at 10:23 pm

    …….I guess. (sighs) Sometimes I feel so sad for Nigeria/Nigerians but there’s only so much I can do. I cannot give away money on the streets. I wish I could change the mindset of bribery and corruption. I wish for so much……..

  9. hmmmmmm

    September 10, 2009 at 1:04 am

    on the fence where party favors are concerned. a lot of the ones i’ve seen and/or received are pointless and a waste of money. do guest really need to-go bags stuffed with customized handkerchiefs, notepads, pens, and keyholders? “thanks for coming to our wedding” really should suffice. for my wedding, i’ll ask family members who feel the compulsion to print my name on notepads and handkerchiefs to donate their money to my favorite charities. it seems like an infinitely more useful way to commemorate.

  10. Ladi

    September 10, 2009 at 3:49 am

    Abi, the calendars, mugs, towels, notepad courtesy of family and friends… thats more than a ‘favor.’

  11. Melesha

    September 11, 2009 at 6:19 pm

    With the huge selection of favors out there everyone can find one within their budget.

  12. Pensacola Beach weddings

    September 12, 2009 at 5:55 pm

    I like the wine bottle stopper with the heart. Favors are a great way to celebrate your date.

  13. Sara

    September 14, 2009 at 6:23 pm

    Thesepizza cutter favors are real cute and a hit at a wedding I went to. Getting a pizza from the local pizza shop that is not cut all the way through is a pet peeve of mine so it comes in handy. The best thing to do if you are going to give favors is to give something your guests will get use out of.

  14. Suzanna Efiok

    September 15, 2009 at 2:49 pm

    I like the idea of a simple, thoughtful favors that serve as both a reminder of the day for the guests and a “thank you” from the couple and while oyinbo people have managed to always keep it simple; trust Nigerians to take it over and do it extra, extra big. I like how it is done in America but I hate the way we do it. It doesn’t come from the heart but about showing off who could give away the grandest, most expensive gift on behalf of the couple so they can brag the next day. I went to a wedding in Lagos and at every table, one big auntie or the other had huge boxes blocking the isle and hollering at one another like they are hawking wares in the market, passing gifts back and forth to each other, it was disgusting! It is not happening at my wedding which is coming up very soon, NOPE it is not happening! I don’t care if auntie or uncle wants to give away diamonds to every guest, nobody is turning my reception into a market place OR using it as a venue to show off!

  15. no controversy

    September 20, 2009 at 2:58 pm

    I don’t think the things here are oyinbo ristic o. and even if they are, aren’t we all becoming oyinbo-ristic in our thinkin’ and day-to-day activities?

  16. PET

    December 2, 2009 at 1:02 pm

    leave wedding favours on the table?! sorry, wont work! have you forgotten that some people make it an habit to skip the church(solemnization). they arrive earlier than others at the reception venue and cart away everythin on the table, small chops inclusive!

    Intendin couples should channels such funds into sth else…like their honeymoon! its sad how some pple spend so much on these ‘favours’ only to fund themselves cash trapped on the honeymoon!

    Trust the Yorubas, with their exotic designs of aso ebi comes a new method of handing out favour…. very simple…. the favours are delivered early with the aso ebi so the reception id devoid of the show of wealth and inherent favouritism. and please please, if you have to hand out favours, make sure they are enough to go round. its annoying to have those big aunts rudely ignore your colleagues from the office because they are not known faces!

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