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Temi A.: The Same Sex Marriage Ban



When I woke up this morning, I had no idea I would start an online petition or do anything past my usual duties at work. All this changed when I was browsing the news and I read about the Harmonised Conference Committee Report of the Nigerian Senate. The effect of this report was to consolidate the bills proposed by the Senate and the House of Representative on the prohibition of same sex marriage. The result as I am sure most of you are aware of is to ban same sex marriages, void other marriages registered outside of Nigeria, and imprison club members, individuals or organisations that “supports the registration, operation of gay clubs, societies and organizations, processions or meetings in Nigeria”.

What is the big deal some may ask, “Go Nigeria” others may say, “we have many shortcomings, we don’t want to add this one (same sex marriage) to it the Senate President may opine, so same sex marriage or such relationships should indeed be banned. To these comments I will ask; when did people deciding to be themselves become the “shortcoming of a nation?” or more importantly a crime? How do homosexuals pose a problem, and how are they “shortcomings?” Are they not human beings who function properly in the society? Are they not daughters, sons, C.E.O’s, Vice Presidents, confused teenagers and diverse Nigerians trying to eke a living in Nigeria like everyone else is? Why should the government whose sole purpose is to promote the growth of its citizens choose to punish an already struggling section in the Nigeria society and at the same time discourage its citizens in diaspora?

I have always been a proponent of J.S Mill’s harm principle which loosely translates to you should leave people be so long as they don’t harm you. Like every principle if applied wrongly it can turn out wrong, but in this situation what is so terrible about being homosexual that individuals should go to jail for it, and they should be so ostracized from the community that whoever tries to support them or their cause should also be jailed?

I will question the motive of the law as well. Laws are usually a consequence of social reality or facts. Punitive laws in particular are in place to punish the offenders in the society. We have laws against theft because when people steal from others they are harming the other person, and so we have laws in place to stop these offenders and deter future ones. What social fact or reality is the ban on same sex marriage and support groups fulfilling? Has it been shown that it is a common trend amongst homosexuals to hold people at gunpoint and demand that they change their sexual orientation? Have studies shown that homosexual people are such a menace to the society that they must be punished? What is harmful about a woman falling in love and deciding to live with a man, or a man deciding to do the same with another man? Have they stolen resources from our Nation? Have they forced their partners? No. What then is the legal justification for this law?

I have not been convinced by the reasoning of the Nigerian government either. Statements such as “protecting the morality of the nation”, and the word “tradition” have cropped up a lot amongst government ministers seeking to make this bill an official Act. What does it mean to protect the morality of a nation? How does one do that? Is it by curbing the freedom of thoughts, expression and life of the minority to make the majority more comfortable?
I am writing this article because I want people to think. I am tired of reading ignorant statements such as “God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve”, and it is aggravating when the leaders in a country decide to mislead their citizens by not being educated about certain facts, thereby punishing other factions in the society unjustly. I want people to think past the mass mentality and the government’s argument of “tradition and morality”. It was our tradition to trade by barter but we outgrew that and have come to love money. Why should this draconian law be given the light of day, and why are people silent and complacent about it.

I want people to consider the effect of this law on other human beings. Homosexuals are people first and foremost and who they chose to love does not stop the fact that they may be decent people. The other day I read in the news about how two Nigerian men were beaten to death for being gay. The police (officers of peace and order) stood by and let this happen, and a Pastor was alleged to have joined in the beatings. Have we not learnt from ALUU 4? It pains me to say it, but this may be the future of gay people in Nigeria, and with a draconian law like this that effectively criminalizes gay people and societies, what is to stop more people from taking the law into their own hands, after all they have the backing of the law to some extent.

It is acceptable to be confused and not understand why a person may wish to love someone of the same sex, but I would rather people took the time to educate themselves honestly and ask questions rather than despise what they do not understand. So I will ask this. Have you taken the time to educate yourself about people you may persecute and disdain? Has the Government?

I will get off my soapbox now and leave you with all my “whys” and question marks. If this has made you think about the government and the effect of this law, please go to Avaaz and sign the petition I have started. If it hasn’t, please go to Avaaz and sign the petition all the same. Spread the word, talk to as many people about this issue as you can, and dare to be different.

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Temi A. is a 24 year old with an LLB law degree from the University College London. She also has an LLM with specialisation in Public International Law from the University of Manchester. She currently works as a librarian while hoping to qualify as a solicitor.


  1. my love

    December 20, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    Something is wrong with this girl.

    • Me

      December 20, 2013 at 2:17 pm

      No be small something oh! Please leave ur Londoner mentality in London, this is naija! Fool

    • Hian!

      December 20, 2013 at 3:54 pm

      The “Fool”was unnecessary sha,it’s her opinion.Share yours and keep quiet.
      BN,I still don’t understand your criteria for posting comments sha? You need to have a clear, transparent “comments”statement abeg, let’s all see it. I thought you don’tpost insulting,offensive and derogatory stuff

  2. Thelma

    December 20, 2013 at 2:14 pm

    I’m confused. Why should I still sign the petition if it hasn’t made me think?
    Anyways gay people should fight for their rights. And by fight I mean FIGHT. some things are not given, they’re taken.
    I’m not going to bother answering the Whys. All the arguments raised here have been raised before, didnt make much difference. So when the gay nigerian man/woman is ready to ignore the shame, walk out of the closet and fight for their own cause, damning the consequences, maybe they would make a difference.
    Till then I am in support of this bill to the extent that MEN ARE SCARCE! *Crying*. Ahn ahn. It’s already hard enough finding a good man to date/marry, what happens when they’re given free rein to love other men?

    • Ugo Chime

      December 20, 2013 at 2:59 pm

      Wait oh, men are scarce, so you would rather marry a closeted gay man? Lol. Eh yaya. Babe, u have known misery until u know it within marriage. Better to advocating for gay men to marry themselves openly and save u the migraine u seem so ready to invite on yourself.

    • Sophia

      December 20, 2013 at 3:08 pm

      You think preventing men from being with whom they choose (in this case other men) will make them more available to you? I see. That mentality is exactly what instigates men to be on the down low and that is exactly how most sexual diseases are spread. So yeah, regardless of whether you sign the petition or not, a man meant for something else will never be yours!

    • Iris

      December 20, 2013 at 3:56 pm

      I don’t know whether to laugh or cry after reading your comment. If marriage cannot stop a straight man from cheating with a woman, it will not stop a gay man from cheating with a man. In fact they will marry women to use as fronts for being straight which just makes your hunt for a husband harder. After checking into his background you now have to check to make sure he’s not on the down low. If he’s on the down low and you’re married to him you’re not using protection and he may not be either…remember where the HIV explosion came from. I can go on and on about this. I don’t understand how people can say it is “unAfrican” when AFRICANS ARE CLEARLY DOING IT. I don’t think I will ever understand the homosexuality thing myself, but it should be a moral decision. All these legal things na wash. If a man or woman want same-sex intercourse they will find a way to do it whether or not they are married so what problem has this solved? If you all believe it is anti-religious, leave it in the hands of God.

    • AA

      December 20, 2013 at 9:25 pm

      Men are scarce but you want to marry a man on the down low. Kai! Some women are too damn desperate sha. Marriage to the wrong man is hell on earth!! Women, please listen

  3. Banny

    December 20, 2013 at 2:17 pm

    Hmmm, I admire your courage o and I don’t want to discourage you. Even me, I think the senators are jobless and don’t have direction. However, I don’t support homosexuality at all. It is unnatural anyway you want to look at it. The natural way is man and woman. That is my opinion and I should not be condemned for that.

    What I think is that the senate should not have even come up with the bill at all. It is not yet a problem in Nigeria. The culture has already taken care of that and the number of homosexuals in Nigeria are really not that significant. Even if Nigeria had passed a bill supporting them, they will still not be accepted in the society so the bill does nothing but raise dust and unnecessary attention. Bill or no bill, cultural norms in Nigeria do not accept some certain things. When Nigeria is ready, people will support gays en masse. Even US wen dey make noise never pass their own bill into law, na come close minded, cultural and traditional Nigeria. Abeg Mr. Man, park well and channel your energy into something that will benefit the “average” Nigeria

  4. Thatgidigirl

    December 20, 2013 at 2:18 pm


  5. binta

    December 20, 2013 at 2:21 pm

    Too much western education has caused this girl to forget that such relationships are not natural, and isnt our way

    • Tolu A

      December 20, 2013 at 4:10 pm

      It isn’t your way so? Should we pass a law that sentences people to prison if they don’t say Good morning Ma or Sir or they call their parents by their first names? You don’t force your opinions on people because everyone including you is free to jave one.

    • Kay

      December 21, 2013 at 6:30 pm


    • Leye

      December 23, 2013 at 8:39 am

      It is evident in animals from birds, to insects to mammals and occurs in nature, even plants. It has been known since ancient man Greeks, romans, africans. Occurs all over the world. You’re going to need a stronger argument than that. Have you noticed not ONE person can make up a LOGICAL argument against the case . It’s just feelings, emotions and sentiments

    • lyn

      December 25, 2013 at 5:51 am

      GBAM! Nothing but feelings and emotion

  6. Joan85

    December 20, 2013 at 2:21 pm

    My only comment will be in pidgin:
    Wetin I wan talk now? This babe sha…she get mind! BN sef wey publish am, una too get mind! -__- #WaitingForTheComments

  7. Hewithoutsincastthefirststone

    December 20, 2013 at 2:25 pm

    The ‘girl’ makes some valid points. I think it’s you there something wrong with.
    I find it shocking that many find it ok to live in a country where men are allowed to ‘marry’ and violate little children but a crime when two consenting adults want to do the same

    • Exquisite

      December 20, 2013 at 2:33 pm

      Please be reasonable and stop being myopic. Just because men are allowed to marry younger girls, which is very WRONG (which hasn’t even been made a law) doesn’t mean gay marriages are right. I hate when people use terms like you’ve used to justify things.

    • ao

      December 21, 2013 at 7:19 am

      Last I checked, many were appalled at the notion of an
      adult male marrying a girl child. Just because there is a law that
      allows for it, cannot be used to justify homosexuality.

  8. lorenz

    December 20, 2013 at 2:30 pm

    I’ve sincerly tried to understand why some people are homosexual; and that’s one mystery humans will never be able to figure out. I understand your point of view that they do not affect society in any negative way, and that they should be left alone. However, for those who have a very keen imagination; Imagine two fully grown men having a steaming testosterone driven sex session, grunting in thier baritone voices. This act, for me, is just not normal. Believe me, I’ve struggled to understand. Or could homosexuality be a mix up in the human genetic makeup? If this was the case, it wouldn’t really be any homosexual’s fault. Would it?

    • Curves

      December 22, 2013 at 7:58 am

      My dear lorenz, i think you are me just with a different name. My crazy imagination is my blessing and my curse. I have thought, imagined, analysed the whole thing and i just cant wrap my mind around the whole thing. But then, live and let live applies to a lot of things that we do not accept personally or understand. I just fear, not for myself but for my children. Maybe the only defense i can ever give them is encourage them to build a strong will that can not be influenced to do what they dont think is right.

    • lorenz

      December 22, 2013 at 1:47 pm

      Lol!! Yeah, I guess you’re right, we just have to accept that some things are the way they are, even if we don’t understand them. I might just be you with a different name and a different face.

  9. Hannah

    December 20, 2013 at 2:44 pm

    Temi is very senseless, and has not prayed to God before writing this article. so i will pray her for, because i wont allow such person to be a future motivation speaker at my child’s school.

    • Ewa

      December 20, 2013 at 4:30 pm


    • Disappointed

      December 21, 2013 at 8:00 pm

      I will pray for your children, for having a mother like you. Hopefully they will grow up with a capacity for reasoned thought. What could this possibly have to do with motivational speaking? Is it your God that has allowed you to judge people?

  10. Laury

    December 20, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    Why una dey shout….why not wait till her son becomes gay and lets see her reaction? Mscheww

    • anuli

      December 20, 2013 at 11:52 pm

      Glam! Well said my fellow citizen.

    • Disappointed

      December 21, 2013 at 8:02 pm

      I’m sure if her son is gay, people do not become gay, then she will love him like all hear other children. Can you really find it in yourself to hate your own child? If so there is really no hope for you.

  11. jimbert

    December 20, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    I was brought up when homosexuality was considered abnormal or queer in society and I still consider it so as do I assume the silent majority of the population including those states where it was embraced by the political backdoor. I would never condone persecution of homosexuals and I am sure parents of homosexuals love their children and want to see them happy. Today it seems society is being bludgeoned to answer yes on the moral question of homosexuality. The answer will carry through our future generations so they be conditioned to believe the answer to the question: is homosexuality normal sexual behaviour and should it be encouraged to future generations?
    I for one would prefer our kids be bought up thinking it not normal sexual behaviour and society acceptance of same sex marriage does not say that be the case .

  12. Vivian

    December 20, 2013 at 3:14 pm

    Please madam author, park well ok?! And the statement “God created Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve” is not an ignorant statement my dear, it was well informed by the holy book!, just like u think you are well informed by what ur professors taught you in law school! And to the person talking about paedophiles, no senate has made it a law for men to marry younger girls alright?! There is no such law as that!! Homosexuality is all shades of morally wrong, same way prostitutes are arrested in some countries.

    • Cancel Reply

      December 20, 2013 at 4:24 pm

      Which holy book, the same book and religion that was forced on us , right?If we are so bent on protecting our culture and traditions, why the hell are some Nigerians christian?Is Christianity part of our culture ni?Was it not forced it upon us during colonialism!! Please free your mind!

    • Atoke

      December 20, 2013 at 4:49 pm

      Lol. We got Bibles and mirrors. Lol

    • Wooooo

      December 21, 2013 at 1:03 am

      Christianity is not the white man’s message but

    • ao

      December 21, 2013 at 7:17 am

      Homosexuality was considered an abomination well before any
      holy book.

    • guy

      December 22, 2013 at 2:57 pm

      christianity is not the white man’s message? #liesthewhitemantoldyou

  13. Endo

    December 20, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    I can only pray that no matter how long l stay in a foreign country , l will always stand for what is right and not be swayed by negative influences or fear of political correctness- God made Adam and Eve, not Steve!

  14. lilz

    December 20, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    No matter the epistle i will not support homosexuality. so a MASSIVE NO to signing your petition

  15. Lami

    December 20, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    You are a confuse lawyer,this is Africa and nt ilu oyibo

  16. comments police

    December 20, 2013 at 3:27 pm

    All of you talking about the writer being wrong for writing this, stop for a moment, imagine if that was your child, your baby that you nurtured and raised, your blood, that was being attacked for being gay. Is “gay” a choice, you who are straight, did you choose to be straight?

    I am Christian and recognise homosexuality as an abomination and I PRAY for the affected. Not curse, not stone, not judge…I do what the Bible(that we so happily and conveniently ignore when we spew hatred, believing “they” have brought it on themselves by choosing to be gay) tells me to do. I take it to God!
    When was the last time you did something for someone who couldn’t do it for themselves? Jesus did not kill sinners, HE enveloped them with HIS love and they were convicted by the Holy Spirit. Abi is it not God that forgives you all?

    • Omo Ghana

      December 20, 2013 at 3:57 pm


      I completely agree with you. I believe several people are completely missing the point. For me the key questions here are:
      (a) Does being gay mean you deserve to be thrown into prison?…considering the fact that they are not causing any harm to individuals! Are they really a menace to society?
      (b) Does the nation not have more pressing issues to attend to? …Issues that currently have a direct negative impact on the people??

      Like the writer said, I do not understand homosexuality however, I do not believe that this proposed ‘solution’ is warranted!

      …and for those of you who are blaming HER opinion on over education remember, ignorance is truly a blissful experience.

    • jcsgrl

      December 20, 2013 at 4:05 pm

      Here’s my take on this whole gay marriage issue:
      According to the bible which i believe in homosexuality is a SIN and an abomination. The bible also explains how the sin of homosexuality is birthed and my dear it is a CHOICE. However, people who commit such acts are still human beings. The same sin applies to me when I gossip or constantly tell lies or live in any other kind of sin without acknowledging that is is wrong.
      Its one thing to struggle with sin. Its another to acknowledge that sin is sin. And that is where I have problems with people. If you say, I’m struggling and I want to do right or I want to understand, then we have a place to start. But if you say, nothing is wrong with it and that’s how I’ve been and will continue, then you have refused God’s grace and power to help you. I am only God’s creation and I don’t get to refute God’s word. I mean WHO THE HECK am I to tell God nah on this one, you didn’t say so. I only say Yes lord it is your will that I live without sin. Help me understand how to do it! SIMPLES!
      On the issue of banning the marriage. my only fear is where do we draw the line? If you allow homosexuals to marry, next thing pedophile will start gunning for their right. Then who are we to say NO to them. People who want to marry their animals will start pushing for their own. Where is the boundary?
      I do not appreciate people living in homosexuality being persecuted for their choice because they are beautiful human beings but if they want to be together and tear their yanshes up, that one consign them. I say let them go to court or do traditional or anyone that allows them. But if a church or culture refuses to marry them, that church or pastor or culture should not be ostracized. So since everybody wants freedom to continue living in sin, I say give it to them. Tear that ass up well well! After all its not me that will judge you and its not my body. Na papa God you will answer to.
      Nigerian senate, you have bigger issues and fish to fry than to be passing ban against homosexual marriage. Please go and do the work that you were rigged to do. Homosexuality is not our PROBLEM. Foolish, jobless human beings!

    • tybay

      December 22, 2013 at 10:17 am

      You made a lot of valid points! While homosexuality is wrong on all levels, we should try not to be homophobic. People are not born with those urges/impulses. There are many factors that foster the growth of improper desires between 2 people of the opposite sex. After all 2 males or 2 females can never conceive a child naturally. It just isn’t right!!!

    • tybay

      December 22, 2013 at 10:24 am

      I meant 2 people of the same sex…

    • AA

      December 20, 2013 at 10:19 pm

      Correct person! God bless you!

  17. sols

    December 20, 2013 at 3:41 pm

    I don’t support or say gay marriage is correct or appropriate but they shouldn’t go to jail for it, it’s not a crime. The girl has a point to some extent. Good job for standing up for what you believe in. The govt should let God be the judge of these ppl and not crucify, it’s not like any of them are thevies and sinners them self. How about let’s all put them in our prayers.

  18. Vivian

    December 20, 2013 at 3:49 pm

    Comments police, praying for and showing love to the affected is a totally different thing from legalizing homosexual unions which is what madam author is asking us to sign a petition for. They will only be sent to prison where they will b given food and water. No one will torture em day n night! And I’m sure by the time their sentence is over they might come out straight after our prayers and visits while they were in there. And yes, if I become gay, my parents will disown me, of course after prayers n fasting n counseling have failed! Let’s not even talk about the health risks involved in being gay!

    • comments police

      December 21, 2013 at 5:21 pm

      Vivian, are they different from the health risks involved in being straight? If all else fails and prayers and fasting don’t work (and there have been many who have confessed that the prayers didn’t help) what should gay men and women do? Kill themselves? The pain caused by suicide FAR outweighs the shame of an openly gay loved one. And for all who say the law is not against gay people but against same sex marriage, the reason for this is there ALREADY is a law against homosexuality that carries a seven year sentence.

      You must believe me when I say, NOBODY wants to go to jail. Are you all aware that polygamy also carries a seven year sentence? If they come and weed out all the polygamists for their lifestyle choices, how many will survive the inquisition?

    • comments police

      December 21, 2013 at 5:26 pm

      * Nigeria. Nobody wants to go to jail in Nigeria

  19. tish

    December 20, 2013 at 3:56 pm

    Personally, I feel homosexuality is a sin, but I am trying not to judge because I don’t understand it. May God help us all to do the things that will bring glory to His name. Amen.

    • tish

      December 20, 2013 at 3:57 pm

      I have never aspired to be radically different and I’m sure I wont be spreading the news of something I consider to be a sin against God.

  20. Fabulicious

    December 20, 2013 at 3:58 pm

    I just saw all the London and Manchester school tins and I said “issorait”.Nne,you are still an African oooo.Wake up.

  21. Jane May

    December 20, 2013 at 4:00 pm

    Fornication is a sin (immoral)
    Stealing in a sin
    Lying is a sin
    Gossiping is a sin
    Homosexuality is a sin …etc
    All these are mentioned in the bible and people who indulge in these acts will go to hell . What gives us the moral right to judge another person or even kill them? For all u know u shall be meeting them in hell as roommates lol . Typical example of “if u know u have no sin then cast the stone” thank you.

    • Omo Ghana

      December 20, 2013 at 4:24 pm

      So..should all 10 commandment violations (for example) warrant a jail term?

      Think about that time you didn’t do exactly what your folks asked of you? Or that time you did some work on a Sunday in prep for a meeting on Monday? Prison…here @Jane May comes!!

    • Omo Ghana

      December 20, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      OK…so just re-read the statement and *covers face* must have misunderstood the first time. Apologies!!

      Just a bit irritated with all the hate! 🙁

    • Ola

      December 20, 2013 at 8:34 pm

      The point exactly, if you won’t punish each and every
      misconduct because majority of the people if not all would be
      affected, why single out a minority group to punish them?
      Homosexuality is wrong and from studies, it’s not a choice most of
      them make, just as majority of us didn’t choose to be straight
      (life happened to us natural..just has it did to them too) if you
      won’t send people to jail for committing fornication, adultery,
      etc… Why send gays to jail for thier own issues?

    • tanaya

      December 21, 2013 at 7:08 pm

      Though shalt not worship false idols i.e. people out there worshipping their pastors, lol also people please no faux scientific claims there is no causal relationship between homosexuality and AIDS, I have cases where a heterosexual man passed the HIV virus to his wife, a mother to a child and so on. The bible also says it is ok to enslave your fellow man (woman) yet as a society we’ve established that slavery is wrong. Also are we now equating our fellow human being to animals? People have been and will be gay for years to come, people have entered into heterosexual relationships only to cheat with men, leave their wives/husbands or become abusive.My point being that unless someone of the same sex starts forcing you to wife/husband them, who anyone want to marry is their business. I’m not signing any online petitions but I also wont be part of making another human being live in pain

  22. whocares

    December 20, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    reading and comprehension is key in life. In no part of the article did I see anything about morality. it is simply asking people to say no to a law that is unfair. If it is immoral, let God judge it, not the government. they only make things worse for people who already have it bad if they live in a society with most of you. I support the article. what good does it do to imprison people because they wish to get married, and even more importantly imprison people who wish to start support groups for gay people? For my part I have gay friends who I love dearly and they are some of the best people I know. I am a member of various support groups because it is simply not easy being one not with all the prejudices against them. to now have a law that not only criminalises people for who they are or wish to be, but also ban support in the same breathe and most of you are alright with it? The author has not said anything about the rightness or wrongness of homosexuality, she is only highlighting the problems that this law will cause for vulnerable people in the society. problems that I am sure will come to pass judging from the statements of most of you here.

    • Cancel Reply

      December 20, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      #Gbam..Commenters always fail to read because they are so eager to tear down anyone who says anything that is contrary to their belief. The writer in no way addressed the morality of homosexualism. She only asked us to be open and see that it is an unfair law!!

    • tybay

      December 22, 2013 at 10:35 pm

      I think it is you lot who are “proponents” of homosexuality who have failed the reading/comprehension test. In case you missed it, herein lies the moral issues the writer raised in her write up: ” I am writing this article because I want people to think. I am tired of reading ignorant statements such as “God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve”, and it is aggravating when the leaders in a country decide to mislead their citizens by not being educated about certain facts, thereby punishing other factions in the society unjustly. I want people to think past the mass mentality and the government’s argument of “tradition and morality”. It was our tradition to trade by barter but we outgrew that and have come to love money. Why should this draconian law be given the light of day, and why are people silent and complacent about it.” Oya, analyze this!!!

    • jcsgrl

      December 20, 2013 at 5:38 pm

      My dear the law has everything to do with morality. If not why is it a law? Isn’t the law there to keep us from doing wrong? The law is sort of a moral compass. How do we know that killing someone is wrong? How do we know that a grown man sleeping with a child is wrong to create a law against it? It is based on our knowledge of what is wrong and right garnered from our conscience or life experience or from religious principles. If gay marriage is legalized, no problem. Lets not stop there because there are other types of people who want to marry who or what they love. Let us allow all of them. We shouldn’t stop at one. The reason people are in uproar about this is because somewhere deep inside they know it is not RIGHT…naturally, morally, emotionally, talk less of spiritually.

  23. Ndubuisi

    December 20, 2013 at 4:22 pm

    I am not gay, but i fully support gay Marriage and thank you by having the same stand. many backward thinking nigerians will say God said marriage is for Man and Woman but the forget to mention that the same bible the quote what God said also promoted slavery and sodomy. We are all human and that this far greater than any other religious or cultural views you may have and know human should tell someone who the should marry to.

    • Grace

      December 21, 2013 at 5:02 pm

      Be very careful with what you blame God about. for there
      will be a day when all you have written here will all be played at
      your face when you are out of this body. was it God who promoted
      slavery or it is the people who made the wrong choices and opened
      the door to the devil inside their lives and wellbeing? you are gay
      or not. The bible said and God created man in his image and
      likeness. it was God’s decision to create us like himself and he
      gave us the manual about how to live. why did you not tell God what
      to do in the beginning if you were there? now you have the mouth to
      speak against God. we were all made by God and one day we will all
      stand and answer him. he created humans he is super intelligent and
      wiser than u that is why he gave us guidelines to live by. weather
      you like it or not, you want or not, you agree or not the word of
      God is right. the earlier you start agreeing with him the better
      for you.

  24. dami

    December 20, 2013 at 4:50 pm

    This is one topic I really don’t like. I feel homosexuality is a sin and also a choice. I also don’t intend on judging them because I’ve tried to understand it I still don’t. I have a friend who is lesbian and the other day she asked me if I think what she’s doing is right, my answer was I don’t understand it but my “religion doesn’t support it but I said it doesn’t mean I hate you and it doesn’t make me like you less. My advice. Hate the sin, not the person

  25. dami

    December 20, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    And I don’t think they should go to jail for it.

  26. Kia

    December 20, 2013 at 5:07 pm

    Here my take on this gay marriage issues. Firstly I am a Christian and as a Christian the word of God is my absolute standard. The bible is clear on homosexuality, it is a sin as are lying, adultery e.t.c. Now not everybody is a Christian or even belives in God and expecting them to understand and adhere to the standards set by Gods word without the empowerment of the Holy Spirit is impossible. The bible clearly states that if we walk in the spirit we will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. How can you walk in the spirit if you are not filled and led by the spirit of God. This is where the church keeps on missing it. That being said, I believe homosexuality is abnormal, after all every other specie on earth has a male and female, that come together to procreate. If homosexuality was normal why is it not; present in other species, why can’t they produce children after all that Gods primary purpose for sex. I am yet to see a gay dog or cat. It is surprising to learn that the entire gay population of the USA i.e LGBT is less than 5% of the population. Because they control the media and entertainment they are constantly barraging the rest of us with their message. Some people might be born gay, i don’t know. But others choose it as a lifestyle. For those that ask if we choose to be born straight, I say straight is the normal default setting of Gods creation. To legalize gay marriage presents it as normal which it is definitely not!

    • nomad

      December 20, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    • dolly

      December 20, 2013 at 5:59 pm

      Hey Kia ,
      just few takes on your comment, the bible is clear on so many things like having sex before marriage, like committing adultery, fornication, drinking etc I can go on but u deffo have a bible. Now honestly I was raised with African morals and I could never understand the word gay but I never judged it. Why coz first of all I have no basic knowledge as to why a man wants another man sexually neither does anyone in the world, not even gays themselves. Who would choose a love life of hush hush and harsh criticisms to a life of having several girls in the open and be called the Man amongst his peers.

      When I lost the most peaceful, loving soul (rip) to suicide I knew we are in a mean world. He killed himself coz he feared the shame and judgement y’all constantly give, but his death caused his parents more grief, his peers sorrow coz he was the most intelligent boy I ever knew.

      No one said approve n dwell in it, but if it doesn’t hurt you bother you……why not live and let live. Leave judgement for God coz you ain’t sure where you d end up on the judgement day either

    • Leggy

      December 20, 2013 at 5:59 pm

      Please educate yourself, homosexuality is found in thousands of other species. Please pick up a book

    • Ola

      December 20, 2013 at 8:47 pm

      You need to educate yourself, I mean, it’s just so easy
      with the help of google these days! You sounded so sure of yourself
      when you are actually wrong lol. Homosexuality has actually been
      found in animals of all kinds, I have seen it in rams before,
      during sallah, my neighbour had rams and one of the male rams was
      trying to get on another male ram, then I confirmed it, you don’t
      av to believe me pls, google! Get education! We are all sinners,
      let God be the judge.. but first, we need to stop making life a
      living hell for ourselves. Shame!

    • Kia

      December 21, 2013 at 1:01 am

      Thanks I definitely will study more on the

    • bimpe

      December 21, 2013 at 3:35 am

      ok! you are completely wrong and silly. thats false! like
      you mentioned it was salah, as we all know nigerians do crazy thing
      with their rams. how do you know the other was not female? did you
      turn it upside to look? listen! animals have the fear of God, and
      as it is scientifically proven animals are smarter than humans? if
      any rumours relating to this subject arises the you should it is
      just an instrument to cause controversy. until a lion turns gay,
      then thats when u should believe it is meant to be

    • nene

      December 20, 2013 at 9:01 pm

      r u an animal? i am not. homosexuality is perverted and abnormal behaviour. and for a tiny amount of people it is a mental condition that alters the way their brain thinks, but most people today are homosexuals because they r perverted and rotten, i know a few people and a few celebs and socialites whom i will not mention. i even think bisexuals are the worst of them all. rubbish.

  27. Cece

    December 20, 2013 at 5:34 pm

    My problem with gay people is this their need to force
    their way of life down everyone’s throat. I am not asking them to
    stay behind close doors but suddenly they are normal while the rest
    of the world isn’t and they will come out almost on the attack with
    words like close minded, backward, this that. I am not even going
    to go into whether it is a sin or not but this their “movement”
    that has now reached the fact that they can now adopt and have
    children just turns my stomach. If you want to love each other,
    fine but why stretch out for something that is created from a
    heterosexual union. If you are so “normal” why do you want to have
    children and then get married too. Both are products of
    heterosexual relationships. Why, why, why? If it is normal to be
    gay then it should also be normal to them not to want children
    because it is biologically impossible but nooooo, it is they right
    too. Everything in this world is rights, rights. You wait until
    science can explain Paedophilia, maybe 100 years time, or less who
    knows. California has found a way to re-define paedophillia as not
    a sexual deviant. Look it up. They are born this way, if so “born
    children now”. but nooooo they like crossing the line. That topic
    to them is a grey area not black and white and any arguments to
    their decision to want children is so weak you just know that it is
    not only their bodes but their minds that are upside down. Yes
    there are not enough homes or parents to take in children that need
    to be adopted and children from single parents turn out brilliantly
    but to deliberately raise a child in a same sex relationship is
    just wrong. Now I know I will have to be explaining to my children
    in the nearest future why Amy has 2 mums and Jide has two dads. Be
    gay if you want but don’t demand that it is also your right to want
    products of a heterosexual relationship. Another thing is in their
    “relationships” it is so obvious that there are still mirroring the
    masculine and the feminine. Sooooooooooo obvious. Look at a male
    gay couple and you can tell who is the “guy” in the relationship
    and who is the “woman”. The same for female gay relationships. It
    is tooooo obvious. Therein lies the hypocrisy and the confusion in
    their way of life plus the unnaturalness. Nature will always show
    itself, no matter how we humans interpret it. Anytime I bring up
    this fact, the gays and their supporters also present weak
    arguments to support it. It just shows that God who created Male
    and Female is not a confusionist. Anyone take the time out to
    Google and read Distorted Souls. Therein lies the answer to
    homosexuality. The explanation is so simple. Human beings can think
    they are smart and explain anything away but the Master plan is
    still the Master plan and there is no deviation from it

    • lorenz

      December 20, 2013 at 7:49 pm

      Choi! Then master plan is still the master plan!

    • Victoria

      December 20, 2013 at 11:30 pm

      GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!

    • bimpe

      December 21, 2013 at 3:30 am

      my thoughts exactly. great comment

    • faith

      December 21, 2013 at 1:57 pm

      Awesome comment!!!!! You portrayed everything I would have written. Thank you so much. I am relieved that people like you still exist. God bless you. I love uuuu ooooooo

    • guy

      December 22, 2013 at 3:26 pm

      Hi Cece, Why are children only allowed to members of a heterosexual couple? Please explain it logically, and don’t use the Bible or any other HolyBook as justification.
      #2, some men who are attracted to men act like women because that is how society tells us you attract a man’s interest. That’s why women wear weaves and learn how to dance and dress in heels etc; to be attractive. Our gender roles are picked up from the community we live in.

  28. BlackAlbino

    December 20, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    First things first… BN, you need to start filtering insulting or derogatory comments. If your readers don’t have the decency to give constructive criticism, they are not classy enough to be published on your site. For goodness’ sake, this is not Lindaikeji’s blog…

    Back to the article… I commend the writer’s effort and boldness. She is a PIL expert, so her views are justifiable. Personally, I am against homosexuality because of my religious views. However, being a lawyer makes me see things from several perspectives. it makes no sense for such laws to be passed in Nigeria, since our constitution clearly states that Nigeria is a secular state. If you don’t know what that means, google it.

    Criminalizing sodomy on morality or even religious grounds is stupid, if not hypocritical. Lying is a sin, anger is a sin, strife is a sin, not being your brother’s keeper is a sin, disrespecting your parents is a sin, etc. why are these not criminalized?

    Whose morality determines what should be moral or immoral? Nigeria is diverse and filled with people with opposite views. For example, Muslims don’t think it is immoral to marry a child so long as she is mature, but Christians do. Christians are against divorce, but Islam permits it. The test for morality in Nigeria seems to be religion. With regard to homosexuality, Muslims and Christians are united because it is against their religious views (surprise!!!!!).

    How about the atheist who does not believe in any deity? Can an atheist be allowed to be gay? If we are or truly uphold religious freedom in Nigeria and comply with our Constitution on the notion that Nigeria is a secular state, then it MUST be that atheists should be allowed to practice whatever they want. If they wanna be gay, congrats to them. If they belong to any religion, it is left for their religious heads to uphold the tenets of that religion and refuse them their desire to be joined in unholy or immoral matrimony. Afterall, pre – marital sex is a sin, yet some churches do not oppose wedding a pregnant bride, while some absolutely forbid it.

    If NASS wants to criminalize anything in this context, it should simply be the marriage and recognition of same sex couples. Simple. They should not be penalized by any means whatsoever.

    • Disappointed

      December 21, 2013 at 7:54 pm

      Thank you, quite simply for making sense.

    • Toks

      December 24, 2013 at 7:12 pm

      Pls don’t involve Muslims in here at all. This is for gay people. You either support their cause or not. In the Quran there’s nothing about marrying little girls. In the Quran it says marry mates amongst you not child ok. Pls don’t get my blood boiling this evening.nlol

  29. tbabe

    December 20, 2013 at 6:08 pm

    Guys, I do not support Gay marriage but I will not judge them as I will not judge liars, fornicators, thieves, corrupt leaders etc…all is sin! Their judge is God and not us.

    If we remember, albinos, twins, blacks, women were discriminated against in differnet parts of the world and they were once thought to be abnormal…They all like gay people, just want a right to be treated fairly. Everyone has the freedom of expression, so you don’t have to like their actions but we must respect and tolerate people (this is what the world lacks and the reason for the violence).

    Guys, what Temi said is pretty thought provoking if you read it open mindedly. Why kill gay people, why imprision them, why imprison those who know them, support them or sympatise with them, why make them deliberately suffer???

    The Marriage Act is clear, Marrriage is between a man and a woman and no court will marry the same sex…why then do we need a law specifically banning it and deliberately purnishing them and anyone who knows, associates with them etc…You all need to read the draft law and know that if in the hands of faniatics, NO ONE is safe even those that are straight. We all intentionally or not may know one who is such, may be a lawyer to one, may be a doctor to one etc ….will be purnished if it is found out that you know such a person and did not report to the police. Haba guys!!! Think! That is insane and inhuman!

    Let us stand for what is right…we already have the Marriage Act, we don’t need a punitive and discriminatory law which in the hands of the wrong person will start a witch hunt which as we know targets all (innocent or not).

    That is my 2 cents…God bless!

  30. obi

    December 20, 2013 at 6:23 pm

    @ Ndubuisi, please where in d Bible did God SUPPORT sodomy aka homosexuality

  31. ogeAdiro

    December 20, 2013 at 6:38 pm

    Are we going to have same sex male, and female public restrooms when homosexuality becomes even more mainstream? The architect in me wants to know. No to banning gays from socializing freely. Yes to banning gay marriage because gay marriage confuses the term marriage.

  32. Lulu

    December 20, 2013 at 6:57 pm

    I really feel these men shouldn’t be judged because they love anoda man.dey r still human and a lot of them r learned and have come a long way in their lives.dey should b given a chance and not castigated bcos of their sexuality.most of them found themselves that way.don’t feel u r beta or more supreme simply bcos u date d opposite sex

  33. LL

    December 20, 2013 at 7:35 pm

    Homosexuality has been spurred up in recent times and this
    is my own take First and foremost, Speaking for a Christian
    perspective, if you are a Christian, we all know that God is
    against it! There’s no argument about that (I don’t know about any
    other religions). Now my problem is this, even people who call
    themselves Christians, they do the wrongs the bible warn us against
    (such as fornication, blasphemy, adultery…read Proverbs 6 vs.
    16-19). Here is the thing, we have FREE WILL! If you call yourself
    a Christian you need to conform to the rules/commandments which God
    has asked us to keep/do (which includes thou shall not commit
    adultery etc). I hate when people who say they are Christians and
    they try to change/incorporate their own beliefs into the bible or
    doing something thus they say that’s what they bible says when the
    bible didn’t. Going back to the argument of free will. We are free
    to do whatever we want to do. However, when you are a Christian you
    are under a LAW! But does that mean we should reject or beat
    homosexuals up? NO! Even those who commit adultery should we also
    beat them up or cast stones on them? NO! (John 8 vs.7). We all
    stray away sometimes yet we ask God for forgiveness because He
    loves us . All we need is to show love to them and also let them
    know that as Christians we do NOT support what they are doing BUT
    we will always love them. P.S- Sorry for my long epistle and any
    typos 🙂 This is just my 1 kobo

  34. Orobo Lawyer

    December 20, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    Bella, how do u approve some of deez comments? Dey r rude
    and shouldn’t be approved. Temi, pls ignore nonsensical, stuid,
    unintelligent comments nd contributions

  35. Mama Mia!!!

    December 20, 2013 at 8:06 pm

    I have been shushed severally when I talk about how wrong
    gay marriage is by people who I know are secretly against it. But,
    wouldn’t dare say a word so as to be accepted by society. So many
    activists have out rightly compared gay rights/human rights to
    racial discrimination which to me is derogatory in all
    ramifications especially for the likes of Nelson Mandela and Martin
    Luther king jnr who fought and died for the cause of racial in
    discrimination.while, I would want nothing more than to direct
    Christians to the bible to challenge how absurd it is for two men
    or two women to come together as one, I would say what is written
    is clear. Morally, imagine the world with just men loving on each
    other how can they multiply? or a woman being together for the sake
    of being together without kids. That don’t make no sense man!
    Forget, the western world they will get to a stage where things
    will become unbearable and people will react it’s just a matter of
    time. Nigerians, have made a decision which is quite commendable,
    however, we do have bigger issues to be dealt with. I feel,
    parents, churches and mosques need to play a more primary role in
    educating their kids on the effects and impact of SIN in general!
    be it sex before marraige, homosexuality or adultery. And, I’m not
    in even shying away from the fact that I am part of the change that
    needs to happen or else, the world is about to go crazy!!!

  36. lovely

    December 20, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    Its interesting how the concept of homosexuality is mostly
    visualized in a man-man relationship. And how most people who are
    against homosexuality, especially the men will not mind watching
    two girls go at it. This is not a morality issue. It is a cultural
    one. The idea that one cant be born homosexual is laughable. Even
    from christian perspective, the bible says that we are all born in
    sin. Sin is innate in all of us, though some of us may have a
    proclivity for one sin more than another one. The human race as we
    know it is in it its fallen state. We are not all born perfect.
    Some are born blind, lame, and with all sorts of dysfunction
    because of the sin factor. No one thought you how to lie, or be
    mischevious but you see a baby display these acts. However the fact
    that you may be born into something does not make it allowable
    neither does it make it difficult for God to save you (from a
    christian perspective). The blood and significance of Christ is
    greater than sin’s power weather innate or learned. It may be
    nature, it may nurture and it can be a combination of both. The
    hefty indignation against homosexuals in Nigerian society is self
    righteousness and hypocrisy. The same men and women who do not
    respect the sanctity of marriage and will cheat on their wives any
    chances they get will go to the same hell fire with the
    homosexuals. I thank God for God that he is not man. sigh

  37. Abi (Warri babe)

    December 20, 2013 at 9:05 pm

    Did I read the article wrong? The new ‘law’ did not say you
    cannot be gay. People are gay or straight regardless of the law.
    The issue at hand is marrigae. Now to the best of my knowlege
    marriage has always been between members of the opposite sex. The
    law is in place to reinforce that the Nigerian government only
    recognizes marriage unions between opposite sex couples. In my
    opinion the 14year jail term is unnecessary. Why punish someone for
    doing something that can’t be done? If you’re gay in Nigeria you
    cannot get married because there is no provision for such a union
    and if such a union cannot be entered into the punishment is null
    and void. I believe that the issue of marriage between gay people
    should be put to a vote, after all we live in a democracy (to an
    extent). Everyone has a right to voice their opinion. If you are
    religious and marriage between gays is against your beliefs then
    let your vote speak for you. If you believe that gay and straight
    couples should have equal marital rights then let your vote speak
    for you. I think we should all learn to be reasonable, tolerant and
    open. We do not all have to see eye to eye on all issues but we are
    all humans. Gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, we are all deserving
    of respect and dignity. Only God decides who goes to heaven or hell
    (if you believe). Let us not be arrogant and assume the role of the
    Almighty. Love your God and love your neighbors, that is the whole
    duty of man.

  38. I CARE

    December 20, 2013 at 9:45 pm

    Hi friends! You know what? I just signed the

  39. SA

    December 20, 2013 at 11:00 pm

    It’s so sad to see what our generation has become. I am sure you must have heard the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, maybe not. When a nation starts allowing people of the same sex to get married and they say there is nothing wrong with it, then they are looking for the fury of God. Well for saying that rubbish, you call an article, may God forgive you and pray for his wrath and fury not to fall upon you. If you think just because the world is changing that means God’s standard too has changed, then you are a BIG FOOL. I am truly sorry for you, i hope and pray that God opens your eyes before it is too late for you. If you don’t have anything better to do with your time, i suggest you get off the internet and go and pray to God for forgiveness.

  40. sos

    December 20, 2013 at 11:50 pm

    you love the same -sex as yourself and that gives you the right to have sex with the same sex…….you love an animal and that gives you the right to…………………and you love an underage child and that gives you the right to…………………you love corpse and that gives you a right to……………..(by the way people who practice all this abominable acts like paedophilia etc havestarted fighting fo their “rights too)……………Man is an insatiable being always wanting more and more……Nigeria must stand its’s ground on this one!

  41. Sheikh

    December 21, 2013 at 12:44 am

    With the resurrection of this Bill it will be a tough time
    for us as gay people. Let us remember Nelson Mandela, and let us
    read his books. The apartheid regime has used every argument to
    justify White supremacy and tyranny. They have even used passages
    of the Bible to explain the inferior status of Black people. Some
    people wonder why Black people – a people who have suffered so much
    throughout history – continue to harbor such hatred for other
    humans. As gay people we are surrounded by people who ignore our
    realities. This should not a reason to loose faith. Let us stay
    safe in the midst of ignorance. For those who want to resist, let’s
    do so strategically and in full knowledge of our love for our
    people and our country. Keep believing in LOVE

    • ao

      December 21, 2013 at 8:14 am

      Being oppressed for being Black and being oppressed for
      being gay are not moral equivalents. One is by choice – being gay –
      the other is not. One is an abomination – being gay – and the other
      is not.

  42. genesis

    December 21, 2013 at 1:11 am

    Most people above have already stated my opinion as I am
    not in support of homosexuality but I will just want to share my
    view on a statement that kept occurring ‘Nigeria has more pressing
    issues on her hands’ the deal is this there is no better time to
    address moral decadence than now..have we not learned from d Boko
    haram situation, imagine if the less privileged northerns had been
    taken seriously will their situation had escalated to d point were
    it affects their value for human lives..sometimes the law might
    seem unnecessary but it is still a provision againt d future evils
    that man might think to concoct. A stitch in time saves

  43. bimpe

    December 21, 2013 at 3:18 am

    I am very big on the idea of equality for everyone but in
    this case i agree to disagree. gay people being looked down on is
    society are culture. i would like to correct the writer in some
    expect, like the where you explained short coming. it is absolutely
    nothing like shortcomings. firstly, everyone has a culture and as
    africans we look down on it. even majority of western people do as
    well thats why bill for civl partnership is only being passed next
    year in britai. as a law graduate, i know these things. there was a
    case that went to the european courts of human rights in 2000 of a
    gay couple wanting to get married and claimed that the UK was
    breaching their right to private. the courts held that their would
    not be accepted as the state is breaching for the culture or
    society still seems to look down on it and no bill regarding it has
    been passed by the legislators. in other words, until nigeria
    starts moving towards that aspect of life, whereby they recognised
    homosexuals then maybe it will be breaching these humans rights.
    90percent of nigerians do not still know what homosexuals are
    neither does my father believe such exist even though he spends his
    time back and forth in the western world. a lot of people in africa
    even have no idea such acts exist, until it is recognised by the
    society then maybe there will be a breach in it. finally, i have a
    lot of gay friends as i grew up in the western world, but yet
    rgardless of how western it may seem a lot of people in Endland
    still frown at the act. because the question is always this: would
    you want your child to be gay? i support people’s life choices but
    you also have to consider some negative factors in doing so.
    although i do believe the jail term for making a personal choice is
    senseless. completely nd utterly senseless to it but then i cant
    think of an alternative.

  44. D.U

    December 21, 2013 at 7:30 am

    A little perspective should be taken into consideration: Prime Minister of UK put pressure on all African countries it’s supporting to legalise gay marriage or else all support would be withdrawn – THIS is what led to the Senate deciding to make this bill forbidding gay marriage with a high prison sentence to send the message across – WE ARE CERTAINLY NOT BENDING DOWN FOR YOU OR ANYONE (no pun intended). Do you see the Police scurrying around looking for gay people in hotels or even restaurants? No. To that extent Nigerians don’t care. What we DO care about however is retaining our sovereignty. Last time we let foreigners tell us what to do, Things Fell Apart. (pun intended, go read the book.)

  45. maryana

    December 21, 2013 at 8:22 am

    On the issue of gay rights, I don’t understand the whole
    blaiming the “West”, when it’s the western religion that has taught
    us the the Adam and Eve not adam and steve story (which I might add
    is a fictional story and irrelevant to the argument). Preventing
    gay marriage will not prevent people from being gay, it just makes
    it harder to see. To me, let people love who they love, life is
    hard enough,and there are more troubling issues the country needs
    to address than who is boning who

    • maryana

      December 21, 2013 at 8:25 am

      also as I have stated in a previous post, much of our
      culture is borrowed, our language,our clothing, our system of
      government, much of it is borrowed or has evolved with the times,
      meaning that culture should’nt be a reason to shame people for who
      they are, it’s something they are born with and can’t help, as far
      as being gay doesn’t inhibit anyone from working or being
      contributing to the country, then It’s nobody’s business.

  46. laughing out loud

    December 21, 2013 at 8:29 am

    This is clearly the work of the devil. I agree that our
    lawmakers are jobless and annoying. But this is one good decision
    they have made in YEARS. How does passing the bill on homosexuality
    make things better biko? Forget what the media tells you,
    homosexulity is the reason for a lot of diseases in the world esp
    HIV////AIDS……like we r not drowning in that already? Also, if u
    don’t believe the bible or quran, at least beleiev our culture,
    homosexuality is against our culture. Bella naija, I’m very
    disappointed in your team for posting this nonsense article. I know
    you feel the need to outshine linda ikeji, but even she would never
    stoop down to the depths of immorality like u have done. Shame on
    you all

  47. Okoj

    December 21, 2013 at 10:16 am

    Don’t worry now, by the time some men will wake up and say
    they want it passed into the bill for men to marry animals, shey u
    will raise a petition all in the name of human right.. Nonsense
    Laws are meant to put people into order, imagine what the simple
    traffic light does by putting people driving into order, if people
    should choose not to obey them won’t that be disastrous… Every
    law will definitely not favour everyone but order must be put in
    check else everyone will just come out for one nonsense thought
    they have and fight for it to be legal … No be only petition na

  48. temi.a

    December 21, 2013 at 11:26 am

    So many comments, where do i start? Firstly i am perfectly alright and in full possession of my faculties, so i am not a fool like some people have professed. That said, i wrote this article not to ask about the morality of being homosexual, but to highlight the punitive facets of the proposed bill. Whatever your view on homosexuality, is it ok that people should be imprisoned, and not allow to form clubs or support groups? I am disappointed that majority of you have missed the bigger issue which is the arbitrary denial of freedom. If the Nigerian government had simply proposed to ban same sex marriage and regard as void marriages registered outside of Nigeria, that is a better alternative than what we have now. I am not im support of the unnecessary imprisonment, the effective ban on support groups. It is undemocratic and i stand by that. Thank you for taking the time to voice your opinions.

    • Cancel Reply

      December 22, 2013 at 6:48 am

      Thank you for reiterating your point again,Temi. I thought reading and comprehension was compulsory in high school, but once again, majority of my fellow Nigerians have shown that they are block heads who lack the ability to dissect arguments accordingly. I am reading through these comments and truly ashamed of my generation. Temi’s article did not call for legalization of gay marriages in Nigeria. What she attempted to do was to shed light on the punitive consequences. While we are at it, lets call for jail terms for liars, fornicators, adulterers etc…We are do damn sanctimonious, yet we have the highest rate of every evil in our society!!What a bunch of bigoted creatures!

  49. Nelly

    December 21, 2013 at 1:41 pm

    My take on the gay issue:

    as a Christian i believe it is a sin, and as such it is wrong and i do not support it. i do not support Gay marriage. apart from the fact that i wasn’t raised that way, my bible and nature tells me it’s wrong. However, that does not mean i would cast stones at them. let judgement be for God. for crying out loud, there are many other sins we are probably guilty of whose punishment may equate to that of homosexuality before God. so who exactly are we to judge them.
    But when i think of homosexuality, the reality of it beats me. i fail to understand how 2 grown up men or women for that matter, can choose to be mounting each other and feel right with it. i also think about our children, what the next generation would be learning from their ‘gay’ parents and schools, as it is fast creeping into the society. i think of certain work environments that accept gay workers. would i really be comfortable working with a known gay person, acting like a lady or man around me? no, i don’t think so. let’s not even talk of transgenders. but then i ask myself what if it were a loved one, family. would i hate them?. No again. but i would definitely seek help for them as it is unnatural and unhealthy both spiritually, morally and physically. it’s such a shame though, that what was once thought to be abnormal has all of a sudden become normal for a group of liberal minds. I pray i would continue to stand for what i believe is right, without the fear of being politically correct.
    As for the Nigerian government, i believe they have bigger life threatening issues to deal with rather, like insecurity, poverty, poor health n educational facilities amongst others, but if passing the bill is their way of curbing the gay syndrome and preventing it from creeping into our society then, well, i guess since they don’t have correctional facilities, jail is their last resort. Though i don’t think prison term would solve the problem. A correctional home where people can talk to them, like rehab or something, seems more like it.

    Anyway these are just my thoughts, not imposing it on anyone.

  50. son of a blessed woman

    December 21, 2013 at 3:21 pm

    Please don’t allow Hollywood make u take in their propaganda hook,line and sinker. I don’t feel homosexuals have to be criminalized but, it’s abnormal. it’s a disorder and it was only a few yrs ago that some people decided it shouldn’t be a disorder anymore. research has found them to have higher incidences of suicide,depression, bipolar and some other mental illnesses. I don’t have all the data but when I read d research, I ask myself if there’s a drink that will increase my risk of suicide, depression, bodily self harm, will anybody scream if it’s banned? if there’s a way I can be gotten out of that lifestyle, would it not be injustice to deny me that? would it be fair to allow me feel like I’m normal given that research clearly shows I’m dangerous.
    the most pressing question however is why should everyone in d world be forced to agree with these gay believing people? if u say anything they’ll say You’re homophobic.what is there to be afraid of? just the way I don’t smoke and I don’t support it, yet I don’t have any problem with d fellow who does unless the smoke is starting to disturb. if u work for me and ur lifestyle isn’t affecting ur productivity, I have no problem with u.but I take it personal when u feel my child has to be forced to agree Wit ur lifestyle which I find destructive or if d fact that I don’t approve of it makes me hate u. we have friends and yet we don’t totally agree with how they deal with issues. there’s something going on now in d US about d show “duck dynasty ” and I like d fact that even Americans are getting tired of being forced to swallow this gay agenda thing.

    • comments police

      December 21, 2013 at 5:24 pm

      really? You don’t think the higher incidences of depression, suicide etc might…just might be linked to your hatred and judgement and calling a person’s entire life a disorder? Everyone deserves equal love and respect. God gave us ALL free will. Preach and pray and help those who will accept your help but even God HIMSELF does not force us to do what we don’t want to do!

  51. Grace

    December 21, 2013 at 5:21 pm

    @ Ndubuisi Be very careful with what you blame God about. for there will be a day when all you have written here will all be played at your face when you are out of this body. was it God who promoted slavery or it is the people who made the wrong choices and opened the door to the devil inside their lives and wellbeing and was suffering the consequences of the wrong choices they made? people make the wrong choices in their lives and want to blame GOD for it.

    The bible said and God created man in his image and likeness. it was God’s decision to create us like himself and he gave us the manual about how to live. why did people not tell God what to do in the beginning if they were there? now you have the mouth to speak against God. we were all made by God and one day we will all stand and answer him. he created humans he is super intelligent and wiser than u that is why he gave us guidelines to live by. weather you like it or not, you want or not, you agree or not the word of God is right. the earlier we start agreeing with him the better for us.
    it was when God gave the law that is when human beings knew right from wrong.
    it beats my imagination that so called human beings who think they are so intelligent they don’t know right from wrong, they have never created one ant, don’t know how the internal human organs, blood, brain, gravity, and all sorts were created now want to contend with God about what he says????.



  52. Tess

    December 21, 2013 at 5:36 pm

    Onye ala gba oto na akpayali, sick human being.

  53. Oyinkan

    December 21, 2013 at 6:11 pm

    I love how these people cannot use their positions to build
    basic infrastructure in an undeveloped country, but they have the
    mind to pass laws against this.

  54. Kay

    December 21, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    Exactly. Leave unto God what belongs to God. Nigeria has a
    Constitution, not a Bible.

  55. Unreasonable

    December 21, 2013 at 6:36 pm

    Still don’t understand the word legalising gay or same sex
    marriage in the first instance. Lets take out believe or faith or
    tradition, is there any moral justification or right reasons or
    senses for individual of same sex to claim marriage to each other.
    Nobody is judging anyone but this same group that wants to force
    their selfish propaganda into our law should cover their face in
    shame, any good or right course does require a moral reasoning,
    science and divine creation has shown that life itself is based on
    Positive & Negative, Male & Female NOT male
    & male or female & female. In the first instance
    why are they shameful about it if it is normal. i’ve a lesbian girl
    friend that told me she feels awkward engaging in such act but she
    can’t tell how and why she’s involved in it. It is a problem that
    requires love in dealing with it but not in forcing the

  56. Disappointed

    December 21, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    I don’t think I have ever been more disappointed to be
    Nigerian than I am at this time. The comments on this article range
    between ignorant and just plain laughable. It amazes me that
    despite the advancements that have been made in Nigerian, there is
    still this much intellectual stagnation fueled by a misplaced
    belief that it is acceptable for any human being to decide
    objectively what constitutes morality. Can I just ask, for all you
    BN commenters who do not think before you write, have you all
    chosen to be heterosexual? So that tomorrow it would be perfectly
    plausible for you to decide that you wish to ‘covert’ to
    homosexuality. How pompous and bigoted are you that you think you
    can decide what is right and what is wrong? Explain to me what is
    the basis for your prejudice? What is your criterion for
    distinguishing between right and wrong? For if you are not able to
    say that you ‘chose’ to be heterosexual then conversely there is no
    logical basis for the argument that people ‘choose’ to be
    homosexual? Because obviously in your myopic and warped minds you
    have decided that although you did not choose to be straight, it
    must be the case that people choose to be gay, we are right, they
    are wrong, now lets punish them and protect our morality. What
    morality? Seriously take off the rose coloured glasses and
    critically assess the situation in Nigeria. If you think that
    homosexuality is the cause of the fall in your morality there is
    something wrong with you. So it is not the greed, corruption and
    religious wars that are the problem with your country. It is
    homosexuality. I feel so sorry for all of you. To address the
    multiple claims that homosexual is abnormal, I am taking abnormal
    to mean contrary to normality. This is as bad as Hitler’s argument
    that Jews were unnatural. That is how far away from progress we
    are? An estimated 10% of the world’s population is gay. That is one
    hell of a lot of abnormalities. Whether you are a creationist or an
    evolutionist, either the big guy upstairs is making auite a few
    mistakes, or mother nature is seriously not ‘with it’ If you want
    to talk about bodily organs how many of you men only have sex
    straight up missionary style with your wives and girlfriends?
    Aren’t a vast number of you partial to anal intercourse? Oral
    intercourse? Because if you want to talk about going contrary to
    ‘normal’ behaviour we could be here for days. Feel free as good
    christians to not believe that homosexuality is right. But that is
    as far as you are allowed to go. You don’t know that you are right,
    and that the christian God is the one true God and not the muslim
    God. You have not been to heaven and verified it is there, and you
    have not had a telephone conversation with God which you afterwards
    transcribed as the official word of God and called it the bible. I
    am not intending to be insulting or derogatory to your belief
    system, I am simply pointing out that you have no way of verifying
    that what you believe to be true is in fact true, please stop
    claiming that you know what is the truth. The reasons why
    homosexuals have higher incidences of disorders, depression and
    higher rates of suicide is because of all of you. That is just
    simple cause and effect. If people hated you this much for what
    they term your ‘lifestyle choices’ you’d probably be at the bottom
    if a lagoon right now. The problem with nearly all the commenters
    on here is that you think people choose to be gay, this is not a
    justified true belief. Once you accept that this proposition is
    nonsensical then you sould realise that your child could not choose
    to be gay, as much as you did not choose to be straight. So if you
    like be upset, that your child is gay, and exemplify the fact that
    you do not have the capacity to reason properly. Finally for the
    poor, sorry excuse for women who are complaining about the scarcity
    of men in Nigeria, you need help. You want to marry a man who is
    attracted to men becuse you think you will be able to ‘turn’ him.
    There is nothing more pitiful than this, i’ll shed a solitary tear
    for how sad your lives are, that is as much emotion as i’m willing
    to waste.

    • Cece

      December 21, 2013 at 7:43 pm

      Sermon on the mount. Explain why they mirror masculine and feminine traits in their “relationships”. Your argument about born this way or is it not choosing to be heterosexual is about as effective as saying we chose to be born male or born female. You guys like waxing lyrical as if the longer the explanation the more believable it will be. Actually, it just comes across as rambling. The media and society have now propagated this “born this way argument”, una don turn am to gospel. All the explanations I have heard does not make any sense. Pick any male gay couple and tell me why it is immediately obvious who is the “guy and who is the “woman”. DO the same for female gay couples. 10 out of 10 times it is obvious. In their gay parades, gay campaigns this and that, even a child can tell. The master plan is still the master plan even if you like explain it with big big english in 1 million words

    • Disappointed

      December 21, 2013 at 8:18 pm

      I hope your master plan helps you sleep at night. The length of my comment is proportional to the strength of my emotion about the subject. If you like read it, if you like ignore it, but it is what I have to say all the same. Its validity will be based on its content, please stop not making sense. I find it irritating that you are fixated on your one nonsensical comment. What does the roles in a relationship have to do with anything? Are there not relationships in which the woman earns more, takes the more dominant place in the house and in the bedroom, and the man cooks the meals and takes care of the kids? Ther are always roles in any relationship. It doesn’t matter who the participants are. What exactly is it you mean by the guy in the relationship and the girl in the relationship? I don’t know of any pre existing roles that have been laid down? This argument is not even worth the space it takes up on the page

    • whocares

      December 21, 2013 at 8:41 pm

      You do realise the issue of sexuality is not a game of pingpong, and people don’t just decide to become attracted to the same sex because they find the opposite sex tedious. Let us use you as an example, why would anyone chose the loathing people like you attach to homosexuality when they could avoid that and be “normal”? I especially loved your rants about rights
      you are right, rights are nonsense upon stilts and people shouldn’t have them
      no they should leave the miserable life the majority of the society pick out for them and not have any means to improve their quality of life
      infact, Nigeria is not known as a nation that supports the right of the vulnerable in the society so lets leave it as that. Smh. For my part i am trying to build a society i can live in, one that embraces people. Most of you have argued that allowing same sex marriage will be a floodgate for perverted requests such as sleeping with animals..
      how did you arrive at this conclusion? The last i checked homosexuals are in a relationship with other people of the same species so how does this come about? I am with disappointed on this. I am ashamed i share the same nation with some of do you cope with that much bile in you? And as for religion, let God judge, there is this day called judgement day. If it is a problem he will chuck them in the proverbial lake of fire. Till then are YOU willing to risk your salvation by not loving another human being?

    • bimpe

      December 22, 2013 at 12:27 am

      I absolutely agree with Cece… which also leads to the question that have ever seen an 80 years gay man that has been gay all his life.. of course not! I think we should all face the reality that everyone just wants to try new things and evolve in any possible way they can.
      I have a huge amount of gay friend whom i love very much, but we all have to agree that it is a lifestyle in which they choose not something of nature.
      I have nothing against them, i just never want them to do their marriage in the church or mosque nd i tell my homosexual friends that. and i do not take their relationship seriously in whatsoever way, 90percent of homosexuals are in an open relationship, they cheat, they are gold diggers and all. it just shows they all do for fun not because it is a culture or you were born with it. dont upset God by ever coming up with such theories again.

    • D.U

      December 22, 2013 at 2:01 am


    • Cece

      December 21, 2013 at 7:52 pm

      if not for this their rights, their rights nonsense. If they say they didn’t choose to be gay, then they know they can’t have children. Then why do they go through IVF to have children which are the products of people that didn’t “choose” to be heterosexual but just are. Therein lies the hypocrisy in their way of life and whatever has hypocrisy in it cannot be the truth or correct. If you are “that way” accept that nature says you can’t have children but noooo, they want to step out of the line, blur the lines just because they can and go have children. It is this just because they can, that they have created movements demanding their “rights”, well if other countries allow them and Nigeria doesn’t they should buzz off and go where they are accepted. it is not everything that The West has go ten right. They are more developed in lots of ways, but that doesn’t now make them God over the rest of the world. World wars were caused by countries trying to force their way on everyone else. Think about that. it is not in everything that we must follow their lead because they are more developed. Imagine David Cameron saying he will withdraw support from African countries who don’t support gay couples. He should go to hell. Maybe if the West withdraws their support, we will develop ourselves and stop depending on handouts. China did it, and look at where they are now.

    • Disappointed

      December 21, 2013 at 8:24 pm

      Hahahahaha David Cameron should go to hell? What do you know about world politics? You think it is

      Hahahahahaha David cameron should go to hell, cece what do you know about world politics? You want David Cameron to withdraw his support. Maybe your father and uncles will sort te country out when we are in trouble? Some people just enjoy not making sense

    • Tanwa

      December 21, 2013 at 8:54 pm

      I agree with you. The more I read stuff about Nigeria the more I see the extent of damage the colonial masters brought to the continent. With religion they stopped the black man thinking for himself. So you see we are not a scientific nation we are a continent of superstitious believes. Why would another’s sexual preference constitute a national problem. Why can people not realise that by setting this standard that infringing on the rights of another , who do you think will be next in line . Like lambs to the slaughter. At least lambs in the slaughter house show resistance but these are dancing to their own death throes. So who will be next to benefit from this morality s bill, maybe the adulteress , punishment ,burying up to the neck then stoning to death.

    • Cece

      December 21, 2013 at 9:16 pm

      My argument is not worthy of the space it is written on but yours is. And this is someone who is preaching about tolerance. Your argument must stand, but mine must not. Hypocrite much. You think you are making sense but I am not. You must think you are oh so intellectual and developed. You see the problem with you gay people and their supporters?
      Yes he should go to hell. Their “support” has crippled Africa and as long as we are still kneeling at their feet waiting for their crumbs we will not grow. Their so called support, you need to read about what happens to Foreign Aid. It is a farce. One of the biggest lies sold. Slavery has been abolished but we are still their slaves. For once we are growing a backbone and telling them not to pass their ways unto us. Good for us. The nerve on David Cameron. We have our problems but in this one we have told them to back off. As long as there are people like you who the government has told your ideologies don’t have a place in Nigeria I will sleep at night knowing that it upsets you but there is nothing you can do about it. You will just keep getting angrier about it, chasing people’s comments all over bella naija trying to sell your ideology but it won’t get anywhere because we don’t want it. There is imprisonment for their supporters, so unless you don’t live in Nigeria, comment with your real name and surname. Ha ha. You can’t. See, I will sleep at night veeeeery well for that teeny fact alone. As for your argument against by comment about why they mirror the masculine and feminine in their “relationships”. As expected. WEAK argument. There are always roles in relationships yes, but don’t skirt around the issue. Why do they mirror masculinity and femininity in their homosexual relationships. Why? Pick out a random gay couple and you see it. Even unknowingly, they are craving for the natural order of things, so they are always paired i.e. attracted to each other in that natural order which is evident in their relationships. Your weak argument can’t explain it away because you probably don’t believe the crap you are selling. It is trending now , so you are jumping on the gravy train.

    • Disappointed

      December 21, 2013 at 10:22 pm

      Trending, gay supporters? What do you think this is a game of popularity? I have no desire to try and convince you, you are ignorant, you have decided to stay that way, that is your problem. Please don’t be insensitive, bottom line this is about people, their lives and ultimately their freedom. It’s not a stupid game of who can get the most supporting comnents or followers? Listen to yourself. I don’t have any kind of intellectual superiority complex and I did not skirt around the issue. I did not answer your question because quite simply there was nothing to say. How many gay couples do you know cece on a personal level? I know several, I do not see the cry for what you claim is the natural order of things in any of my gay friends. You jump on stereotypes that are propagagted but there is no circumstantial evidence for your claims. You cannot increase your knowledge on the subject because you cannot open your mind. You cannot have any gay friends because you are bigoted. How can you talk about something you know nothing about? Where does your knowledge come from? Observartion? Are you trying to say that everything that there is to know about a relationship is surface evident?

      I am selling nothing, i am not campaigning for public office, I do not use twitter, I will neither gain voters nor followers from expressing my views. I do not believe you should imprison someone for doing nothing wrong. I do not think that it is right for you to impose your views on other people, I don’t think that it is fair that homosexuals should be made to feel continuously guilty and persecuted which ultimately affects their quality of life. And I believe that all forms of discrimination are wrong. Slavery was and is wrong, this is no different.

      Please understand that this is about real people, i’m not here to be your saturday evening entertainment.

    • D.U

      December 22, 2013 at 2:00 am

      Cece, you’ve presented very sound & thorough arguments in all your comments. You should save them and edit into an article on garriage – gay marriage. You’re undoubtedly one of the few commenters on nigerian blogs worth a penny!

    • Kina

      December 22, 2013 at 8:42 pm

      What a load of self righteous bullcrap. You Nigerians preach about moral but you guys are the most deceitful people I have ever met. Your partners cheat on you and infect you HIV. You neglect your kids, and keep slaves called maids in your houses. Speak idiotic English that you cannot even understand. You guys are so fake and far far away from normal humanity. Thank God not all of you think the same fucked up way. You don’t understand Christ , just listen to yourself .

    • bimpe

      December 22, 2013 at 12:43 am

      i think your argument are quite ignorant. absolutely ignorant. no matter how you think you are western does not mean you should not accept african culture. thats who we are, if we choose to recognise gays thats fine, if we dont then thats also fine. it is because the african culture hasnt recognised gays that why there is no legislation to it, my grand mother still doesnt know that such acts exist. i think you shouldnt see it as being backwards but holding on to our knowledge, our culture. if this is accepted then our culture, who we are disappears completely, is it to mention procreation or submission to ones husband. our culture regarded these things before the Bible existed. gay men are very feminine, if majority were to be then we would practically have no men left.
      i dont think the problem is being backwards, we dont have to copy. the issue is we havent recognised the act yet thats all, till we do then they would have a place in the society, theres only 5percent of gays in nigeria, so should we change our culture comppletely because of 5percent?
      if acknowledging homosexuals was that easy how come the gay marriage act in England is still waiting to be enacted… all these david cameron and house of Lords are absolutely against this but this only being accepted because they are tryna prove themselves to equal, and yet they wouldnt wish it on their children. i am very happy the act is accpeted but there is a limit to each and every single thing in this world.

  57. faruk

    December 21, 2013 at 7:23 pm

    let me start by saying , bella naija is doing an awesome job, but when i read this article , i had to write something, for as long as we (the nigerian people) keep quiet about this thing it’ll seem were cool with it.
    well we aint dear temi, nigeria is primarily divided between two major religions and both of them take a stand against homosexuality.
    through the bible, i came to understand that man, is a being of choice , so we dont have to criminalize them cause that hasnt really stopped cocaine or armed robbery.

    But to start thinking the way you are thinking, is to thread on deadly waters, the bible explicitly tells us that homosexuals are wrong and puts them in the same class as drunkards, murderers , etc

    why then would you want a nation whose firm beliefs in the bible and the quran accept the culture or laws of the west temi?

    we are a people who believe in an existing God,

    we believe in a life beyound this earth,

    we believe we shall stand before him and give aaccount for the life we have lived here on earth,


    We don’t want it and we don’t want our kids growing up in a society where they think its okay…

    thanks temi and bella naija for giving us a chance to voice our opinions….one love

    ………………from zaria Kaduna state.

  58. Onye

    December 21, 2013 at 8:04 pm

    @ Thelma, you would rather marry a gay man than not at all. What if he gives you AIDS. Kai! You have not thought this true very well.

  59. daiva

    December 21, 2013 at 11:19 pm

    I couldn’t read all comment before I rushed to write mine.I get d writer the punishment doesn’t fit the crime but it’s still a Is so wrong and it’s devillish so my dear I pray the evil doesn’t corrupt my kids,btw I am also against fornicaction so am not one sided.freedom to do wrong I won’t support it and d writer doesn’t too coz u she confused in her statement so it’s obvious u are not comfortable either.Nigerians have other pressing issues to attend to tho and we have a lawless nation so it’s not a serious talk.the end-point is dat it’s wrong

  60. Dr. N

    December 21, 2013 at 11:49 pm

    I just like this Cece! No I wont sign this petition. We insist on our right not to be assaulted by your rights! I for one have noticed most homosexuals went through some sort of abuse usually in childhood. No, there is no gay gene. I dont support imprisonment but they need rehabilitation and support. Notice how bitter they sound. I think the law makers are trying to prevent the proliferation of ‘gays’ esp considering how our children are innundated with friendship requests from them.

  61. Bev

    December 22, 2013 at 1:48 am

    Gay rights is human rights. Common sense in not common. Hypocrites always cry loudest. It will be a shame when you die and find out there is no God or God sends you to hell for “judging”.

    P.s. Your “Bible” condones Yerima marrying a little girl. It condones rape especially of virgins.It condones rape as a weapon of war/ sex slaves. It condones raping and marrying a girl. It condones raping your servant…

    It is all good and well until you or your family member gets falsely accused of being gay. Remember the child witches of Akwa ibom? Your Bible condones it too.

    Proudly Nigerian/Canadian. My Premier (Goren) is a woman, Gay and married.

    You know, the Gays are the cause of all the problems we have in Nigeria- corruption/buffooning Government /unemployment/shoddy health care/high crime rate/erratic power supply/crippling education/death trap roads et al.

  62. Bev

    December 22, 2013 at 1:50 am

    Premier *(Governor)

  63. African Man

    December 22, 2013 at 3:52 am

    “Those gay people” we all love to refer to, are they not our loved ones – family members, colleagues and friends? This gay matter is not so black and white, but a huge gray area. I read the comments here, and little wonder the state of human rights and respect for one another is where it is. I know you people pride yourselves (clearly erroneously) on being more sophisticated than Linda Ikeji readers, but comments like these show you’re no different, and just as ignorant. LOL. If the bible (which if you are willing to acknowledge was written by men just like you – more likely by men unlike you) is your justification for this hate, I’m sorry but you’ve probably just committed a bigger sin in the eyes of God. I believe all gay people ask for is to be accepted as human beings and not discriminated against. How difficult is that I ask. Learn to stand up against injustice when you see it, even if it doesn’t appear to be of any immediate concern to you because, guess what?, it will be sooner or later. Nigeria does not have to legalize gay unions for now, but to criminalise homosexuality is just plain wrong and counter productive.

  64. ty bay

    December 22, 2013 at 9:03 am

    All I have to say about this is that the Bible clearly condemns fornication, which includes homosexual relations (Leviticus 18:22 ; 20:13 ; 1Corinthians 6:9,10 ; Romans 1:6,7 ; 1Tim 1: 9,10). While the Bible is definite about God’s disapproval of that lifestyle, and we should not condone it, true Christians are not homophobic. We should show kindness to all sorts of people…

  65. Tosin

    December 22, 2013 at 9:15 am

    I didn’t read the whole thing because the paragraphs were like too long. But I clicked to sign the petition because I love gay people, I love diversity, and I love a world in which we don’t torment people for stupid reasons. I know Jesus would approve.

  66. tybay

    December 22, 2013 at 10:05 am

    Far from sounding preachy, I just want to quote from a Bible based publication I read, on this same issue: ” Is it any wonder that the practice of homosexuality is so often frustrating? The Creator made the two sexes to complement each other, both for the purpose of ‘filling the earth’ and to bring fulfillment and happiness to each other. That man and woman were intended for each other is indicated by the very structure of the sex organs. Marital intimacies, carried on with consideration for each other, strengthen the marriage tie as well as the personality of each. Yes, where both husband and wife play the proper role according to God’s standard, marriage is beautiful and up-building.—1 Cor. 7:3-6; Eph. 5:22-33.
    Does not the very soundness of the Bible’s heterosexual position at once underscore the unsoundness of the homosexual position? In the homosexual relationship one party often feigns or acts the part of the opposite sex, physically, mentally and emotionally, and so it is based on a lie. As the book Homosexuality, authored by the Society of Medical Psychoanalysts, Research Committee, said, “It is irrational to try to find feminine qualities in a male sexual partner.”
    The spread of homosexuality means that many persons are taking up a way of life that so often brings frustration and misery. It is something detestable and loathsome in the eyes of God and lovers of righteousness. Our knowing what to do to avoid such an unhappy outcome, one disapproved by God, is the wise course to take. The following article discusses homosexuality’s causes and prevention.”
    A word they say, is enough for the wise.

  67. Tanwa

    December 22, 2013 at 11:39 am

    I signed the petition because it’s true. Am a Christian that practices Christians based on standards set by Christ and not by Man. Knowledge and wisdom is a gift. You cannot force it. First of all you’ve got to have the right heart . And the heart of man is full of darkness and wickedness. I once saw the views of a well known racist he used the bible to support his believes and his supporters were mesmerised. Even hitler used the bible to support his crimes aghast man. Yerima has used the Koran to support his preying on children. I see you using the same bible to support hate against another. I don’t see Christ in any of you. I feel sad for your Ignorance.

    • Nadia

      December 23, 2013 at 2:03 am

      @Tanwa: Your Christian ethos certainly are doubtful. Ask for the revelation of tTruth by God’s Spirit for the letter killeth. God bless you!

    • Tanwa

      December 23, 2013 at 7:16 am

      Dear Nadia In the book of deut. God said to stone any woman found not to be a virgin on the wedding night. Now there was a young unwed lady some thousands of years ago who became pregnant under mysterious circumstances , dear Nadia based on your Christian ethos you would no doubt be lead by ‘the the spirit’ and have been at the forefront of the people willing to stone this girl to her death. Am sure based on your narrow minded views u would have frowned at a young preacher and his radical ways of dining with Jews, tax collectors and prostitues even drinking wine!! Dear Nadia when I read your comments and others like you I remember the scribes and Pharisee in the time of Christ , of their self righteousness and inability to see with their hearts and minds. I know the Christ I serve . Dear Nadia do you. Remember it is the standards that you judge by those same standards would be used on you. I do not pretend to understand the workings of the mind of a homosexual, I see they do not hurt anyone, it is not contagious, many relevant inventions have been made by these group of people . I cannot quote every passage from the bible, but one thing I do no and that is my Christ, I love his ways and that Is why I am a Christian . Before you gather your pelting stones think, that sort of attitude could have cost us all a Christ. Have a happy holiday.

    • Blessmyheart

      December 23, 2013 at 3:24 pm

      You do realise that anybody can use the Bible to support whatever decision they make, don’t you? That does not make the Bible wrong. Homosexuality is actually called sodomy after Sodom that was destroyed by God. Another misconception is that speaking against homosexuality is hate against homosexuals. Homosexuality is wrong, it is unnatural because our bodies were created to enable sexual relations between male and female. That is the fact and no one can prove otherwise. I do not understand what drives homosexuality though but I would rather my children do not grow up to see it accepted in the society – there are enough issues to deal with. This does not mean I hate homosexuals though I’ve not come in contact with any of them. I hate homosexuality not homosexuals. That’s my take on the issue.
      Please if you want to call yourself a Christian, then make sure you are acting like one. Please let’s not take the name of Christ in vain.

    • Tanwa

      December 23, 2013 at 4:25 pm

      I am very happy to be judged by my standards than be cursed by yours. I do hope that as you believe in your judgements you will also be happy to be judged by them. The God I serve is one of love, peace and understanding that is who is within me and I have peace. You are free to choose to serve your God same as I. Mary and Martha both served and loved Christ , although one took a harder burden and complained. I choose a God of love, peace and forgiveness. To each his own and be content with what ever portion you gather onto yourself. As for taking the name of the Christ in vain , sweet heart right back at ya.

    • Tanwa

      December 23, 2013 at 5:15 pm

      There is notting wrong with the bible or any religious text, it’s just the people who read and misinterpret it, and cannot apply basic principals to real life.

    • Tanwa

      December 23, 2013 at 11:19 pm

      I will answer your question but first answer this one and
      truthfully would you have picked up a stone and attacked that young
      pregnant un married woman who became the mother of Christ because
      the bible says you should? . The truth will set you and your kind
      free .

    • chinasa

      December 24, 2013 at 12:32 am

      you judge yourself to be a Christian because you can
      persecute the minority. that don’t sound very Christian to me. i
      can just see you happy clapping in church every sunday thinking
      yourself pious and self righteous. by their fruit you shall know
      them. its not about what’s on the outside its what’s inside that
      matters. pious, and self righteous scribes and Pharisee come to

    • Blessmyheart

      December 25, 2013 at 4:40 pm

      @Chinasa, I’m a Christian because I aspire daily to be like Christ not because I’m perfect. No, I do not believe myself self-righteous or pious. If we continue to permit sin because we are not perfect and we don’t want to judge then what hope do we have as Christians? Your bible is there, please study it yourself and interprete with the help of the Holy Spirit.

  68. chinasa

    December 22, 2013 at 2:28 pm

    i have read through some of the comments on this blog and unlike Disappointed i am not surprised to see that majority of Nigerians have yet again proven what majority of Nigerians ARE. Nigeria is the way it is becos of majority of Nigerians. Not to sound preachy but what did the bible say about virginity and marriage? if the tokens of virginity be not found in a damsel then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her fathers house and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die. what about dressing, the woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, i.e trousers: for all is abomination unto the Lord God. how many of you want to your husbands house virgins. what if the senate sit and decide to pass a law according to this script from Deuteronomy 22:20. or what about dressing they decide to imprison women for wearing trousers. its all in the Bible. At the end of the day its the principal that counts. and yes i am an intelligent wise Christian. Nigerians shock yourselves once in a while and use that God given Miracle you have inside your heads and create a miracle for yourselves, THINK.

  69. Ade

    December 22, 2013 at 5:38 pm

    Tanwa, Jesus Christ said marriage is between a man and a woman. It has been so since the beginning. God HIMSELF established marriage as between a man and a woman in Genesis and HE does NOT make mistakes. Christ condemns homosexuality and we do too. This does not mean we hate the people, BUT we do hate the sin. We pray that Christ’s love and message wil penetrate the hearts of homosexuals and that God’s Spirit helps them to abandon their sin as He helps us all to abandon our sins. God is Holy and HE hates sin.

    • Tanwa

      December 23, 2013 at 10:51 am

      Apply Christ standards THINK!

    • Blessmyheart

      December 23, 2013 at 8:29 pm

      Please could you state what exactly Christ’s standards are in relation with this issue? Just so that we can be clear. I believe Ade here has stated Christ’s standard. So if you have a differing view please let’s hear it

  70. nikky

    December 22, 2013 at 7:41 pm

    I came late to this gist and from the comments I’ve seen thus far Disappointed is one of the few people that came close to answering the question Temi A. Was asking. Leave aside the religious argument (which I’ve come to discovered is extremely hard for most Nigerian’s to do) why should the supposed moral standard of the majority essentially ruin the lives of consenting adults who want to be with each other? Is it such a problem that they deserve to be imprisoned for so long. Democracy is suppose to be majority rule and minority protection, with freedom of association as a key element. Not only are minorities prosecuted, they and their supporters are not free to form support groups. It’s not fair or right at all.

  71. Beaubelle

    December 22, 2013 at 9:50 pm

    I just can’t understand it, we have pressing issues like unemployment, hunger, lack of “basic” amenities and infrastructure, security, wealth not fairly distributed, serious underdevelopment but oh no – what is most important is passing laws on morality/immorality!

    Shocking! – let he who is without sin, cast the first stone.

    When are we going to stop been hypocrites and tell ourselves the truth? You want to criminalize homosexuality because it’s the “white man’s disease” and “immoral” – so is adultery, fornication, molesting under aged girls, stealing, looting, domestic violence, a dysfunctional justice system: jungle justice going unpunished (aluu4), unemployment, massive divide between rich Nigerians and poor Nigerians, corruption, lack of accountability, police killing/shooting indiscriminately, inability to provide basic things like water, good roads, electricity etc

    By the way, I am a christian – i do not think homosexuality is right, i do not understand it but I do not judge it – I know that’s way beyond my competencies as it is God’s area of expertise. It would be comforting if we had legislations or proposed legislations to improve the welfare of the people and standard of living – instead of this joke!

  72. Seun D

    December 22, 2013 at 10:46 pm

    All of you fornicators and adulterers are here speaking this is funny. Maybe the Government should punish adultery, after all it’s a sin in all the books. and yes traditionally too because you should marry any woman you sleep with. mschewwwwww

  73. Kenneth

    December 23, 2013 at 3:45 am

    The people who will appreciate this article would not waste their time bashing the author. The girl has spoken the truth. Lets give it a second thought without a stereotype or religious mindset but a human one and see. Thank you Temi A for being bold and true.

  74. Evans

    December 23, 2013 at 3:48 pm

    hmmm! i have been glued to my chair reading comments on this topic. My own contribution is this; i don’t believe anyone is born gay/lesbian, its 100% a thing of choice and preference. Growing up some of us had this little lesbian or gay tendencies or fantasies but because of our culture, personal beliefs or religious beliefs we decided to refrain from it. There is no need throwing a pity party for them or making excuses that they are born gay and don’t have control over who they have sex with, Yes, we can and should show them love and most importantly look for every possible means to tell them they have better options and that they can set themselves free from that bondage just as we do any other wrong behavior. I am sure we all know its very possible to disengage from the act even after many years of practicing it. To end, i will say i do not support sending them to jail.

  75. camo

    December 27, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    My dear Author you are doing an awesome on job on gay rights, me i have my own issue. I love my father and I didn’t choose to love him. I opened my eyes and noticed I love him and I wish to marry him. I am sure he is ready to divorce my mother and marry me then and only then can our love be complete. Can you open another petition for the those of us who love our sisters, brothers, relations to be able to marry. We need freedom, freedom to love all and one another. Please we need your support, oyibo ppl are already fighting for gays, can u pitch ur tent with us. Love from a troubled lover

  76. Rachel

    December 30, 2013 at 7:45 am

    Jesus predicted that just before His return as Judge, there will be a strange, dangerous fad – a spontaneous global steamroller notable for its speed, violence, and impudent in-your-face openness. In Luke 17 He called this worldwide craze the repeat of the “days of Lot” (see Genesis 19). By fulfilling this worldwide mania that’s secretly coordinated by unseen spirit beings, gays are really hurrying up Christ’s return and making the Bible even more believable!
    They’ve actually invented strange architecture: closets opening not on to bedrooms but on to Main Streets where kids can see naked men having sex in “Madam” Nancy Pelosi’s San Francisco Brothel District. We wonder how soon S.F.’s underground saint – San Andreas – will get a 10-point jolt out of what goes on over his head (see the dire prediction about cities in Revelation 16:19, and Google “Obama Supports Public Depravity”).
    What’s really scary is the “reprobate mind” phrase in Romans 1:28. A person can sear his conscience so much that God finally turns him over to S, the universal evil leader whose unseen agents can give a “possessed” person super-human strength that many cops with tasers have trouble subduing!
    Remember, gays don’t have to stay bound to their slavery. Their emancipation is found in a 5-letter name starting with J (no, not James or Julia). As soon as they can find out the all-powerful J name, gays will really start living! (Google “God to Same-Sexers: Hurry Up,” “USA – from Puritans to Impure-itans,” and “The Background Obama Can’t Cover Up.”)
    Was Jesus silent about gays? Google ” ‘Jesus Never Mentioned Homosexuality.’ When gays have birthdays….”

  77. Yule

    December 30, 2013 at 11:26 am

    This reminds me of some of the misinformation campaigns the Nazi used to support genocide. Racists have used the” Mark of Cain “to support their racism. What you guys have in common is Hate born out of ignorances, or maybe just downright evil.

  78. Miss Mosi

    December 30, 2013 at 9:10 pm

    What are we even arguing sef. All gay pple have ppsychological issues de shud be psycho analyse how a gal love to sleep with anoda gal and one of the stupid gal will act like a guy in d rship why need a gal to act like a guy when u can get a full fledged man with all his packages intact news flash dat stupid gal turning herself to a man in the name of lesbianism still needs to stick a pad in her pants else get stained. And the useless guy acting like a gal can never grow breast. NIg senators dem nor try de wud signed death penalty straight. Gaylord’s feel free to run ur mouth.

    • Karma

      December 31, 2013 at 9:56 am

      You better recognise that they exist and baby they were born that way. It is ignorant people like you who end up with closet homosexuals as your spouses. As a heterosexual I am able to spot a homosexual before they open their mouths. Believe me in Nigeria there exist a large homo community who have been bullied into the closet by people like yourself. And it is people like yourself and other gender jealous people who end up with them. I tell you there is no greater reward for a homophobe than to be rewarded with a cowardly homosexual as a spouse. There are so many ways to tell if your spouse is homosexual but I believe some people deserve to live in the hell they try to create for others. That’s justice, it’s called karma.

  79. John

    November 18, 2015 at 6:22 am

    This is clearly the work of the devil. I agree that our
    lawmakers are jobless and annoying. But this is one good
    they have made in YEARS. How does passing the bill on
    make things better biko? Forget what the media tells you,
    homosexulity is the reason for a lot of diseases in the world esp
    HIV////AIDS……like we r not drowning in that already? Also, if u
    don’t believe the bible or quran, at least beleiev our culture,
    homosexuality is against our culture. Bella naija, I’m very
    disappointed in your team for posting this nonsense article. I
    you feel the need to outshine linda ikeji, but even she would
    stoop down to the depths of immorality like u have done. Shame
    on them

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