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Toke Makinwa: “Ask How Much He Earns”! Media Personality speaks on “First Date Rules”



Toke Makinwa - First Date Rules - December 2013 - BellaNaija

Want tips on how to nail a first date? Toke Makinwa to the rescue.

On an all new episode of Toke Moments, the Nigerian media personality dishes on “First Date Rules”. With her split from Maje Ayida behind her now, she will probably be doing a lot of this.

So what are the questions to ask and how can you tone down on the cray-cray. Check it out


  1. eve

    December 19, 2013 at 1:34 pm

    I love ohh big sistaaaaa

    • sigh

      December 19, 2013 at 6:34 pm

      Soooo whoever did her eyebrows thought it would be a good idea for them to almost collide.
      That outfit is so forced and horrible.
      Off to watch now, I know it will be entertaining.

    • Kolapo

      December 20, 2013 at 3:40 pm

      Is Toke for real ……. Had to turn it off after 1 minutes, her voice was so irritating and just rambling normal stuff . Please what do people watch in this , it was really RUBBISH .

      Bella naija i am disappointed that you posted this, its insulting to your readers .

  2. Hurperyearmie

    December 19, 2013 at 1:35 pm


  3. Dammy

    December 19, 2013 at 1:48 pm

    but seriously Toke should not be giving relationship advice….Omotola, Joke Silva, Omoni Oboli et al are in d right place to cos they have a successful relationship not Toke pls

    • Shallie's Purple Beehive

      December 19, 2013 at 2:55 pm

      Pls pls pls go have a proper lie down who says its how long there are people who stay in marriages for 20 years and are never happy and are only staying cos of the kids
      These people you mentioned have you lived with them to know their marital challenges??
      For all we kno toke kept a relationship for 12 years that is a feat! Even a marriage of 5 years is “Hardwork” so lets cut her some slack no marriage is perfect and certainly no human being has a perfect life. Even single people can advice married people why you ask because they have probably experienced it in their parents marriages or even people around them there are no rules to who can give advice besides you either take it,use it for yourself or discard it simple.

    • mama mia!!!

      December 19, 2013 at 4:47 pm

      Mediocrity at work!!! Just, acknowledge we all make mistakes and should learn lessons from. Now, can we all move on?

    • Bukky

      December 19, 2013 at 5:19 pm

      I’m sorry but the length of a marriage actually shows how successful they are!!! You guys are now so messed up with your analysis its sickening! So all married people are now unhappy because your entire family are unhappy in their own marriage? I’m really sick and tired of people trying do hard to shoot down uccessful marriages just to make themselves feel better!
      GOOH ! My parents are still married and yes! It is a fantastic beautiful marriage. Do they have quarrels , like every ” Normal ” human being/s they do! As single as you miserably are dont you still have quarrels with your one night stand? Or even with boyfriends/girlfriends and even parents/children… Business partners etc so why make marriage misunderstanding seem strange or illegal? When people have been married for more than 10 years you better show some bloody respect! Some of us can’t maintain a relationship for a year!

    • i no send

      December 19, 2013 at 6:59 pm

      i agree @ shallie

    • Leah

      December 19, 2013 at 7:20 pm

      So in your estimation, Toke “kept a relationship” for 12 years and that makes her an expert but people who have been married for 20 years are not. The same Toke that was dumped how many times during the course of the 12 years? And the same woman who couldn’t get the man to marry her even after she publicly beged him to. The expert that was left stranded at the registry by the man she was in the 12 year relationship with. And the one that just got dumped after 12 years. Sad.

    • Jane abidi

      December 20, 2013 at 1:42 am

      Yes, I totally agree, she has no qualifications. She should hv listened to her own advice b4 being dropped like a pack on wrongly arranged cards.

  4. Bobe

    December 19, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    She really needs to stop with the relationship advice

    • Blossom

      December 19, 2013 at 2:32 pm

      But as that is all her shallow mind can allow her to comprehend nko? You people should free Aunty Toke.

    • MyView

      December 19, 2013 at 7:44 pm

      I agree with Blossom, I don’t think her brain is capable of articulating anything else. For those of you talking about she’s making her money, Toke has made less than $500 since she started the channel a year and half ago. You would know that if you know YouTube partner pay rate works. Just go to her channel, click on about and see her total views. That is a lot less than she spends to upload them. You’re welcome 🙂

    • BellaYankee

      December 20, 2013 at 3:32 am

      Absolutely dumb you are. She has made less than $500 but do you know the millions of naira that those videos have exposed her to? Her popularity alone is priceless. Before you open your armpit, shave and wear deodorant.

    • lorenz

      December 20, 2013 at 8:04 am

      What about the ripple effect? Atleast you know her; does she know you? I don’t know you. Its even people like you who make her all the more popular. But, wait oh! Una get time sha! Una even go dey research how much she don generate from her you-tube channel. Are you a publicity surveyor?

    • Victoria

      December 20, 2013 at 4:08 am

      leave her alone. she is laughing all her way to the bank. Toke keep up with the talent.

    • Victoria

      December 20, 2013 at 4:08 am

      leave her alone. she is laughing all her way to the bank. Toke keep up with the talent.

  5. linda

    December 19, 2013 at 2:32 pm

    seems she has gotten another bobo *lip sealed*

  6. Grace

    December 19, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    Please, can you people just not be taking her too seriously? Get off your high horses about who can and cannot give relationship advice and just laugh. Life is not that deep, take a chill pill once in a while and stop being about that hater life…

  7. madamNK

    December 19, 2013 at 2:38 pm

    This babe is so obsessed with having a relationship. I feel so sorry for her. Nne, it will be well

    • truthtalker

      December 19, 2013 at 10:36 pm

      My thots exactly. The girls is just an attention seeker. i even thot she had hope when she was dating the maje guy; now she just sounds pathetic. 40years old and single and bitter awaits you my dear

    • Ada Nnewi

      January 6, 2014 at 2:55 pm

      Back to sender!

  8. Annie

    December 19, 2013 at 2:45 pm

    U guys can criticize too much….I mean this is a Geh that is going thru an emotional trauma afta dating a guy 4 so long. Maybe her vlog is one of the things that helps her stay sane ….d fact dt her relationship did nt work out does nt mean she cant give advice, I even tink dts y she can bcus she knows wat d bad side feels like. #okbye

    • Iris

      December 19, 2013 at 4:09 pm

      But biko if you could spell out most of the words why not spell out ALL the words now? And for the love of God which one is “Geh” again? How is anyone supposed to take this comment seriously?

    • wow....there is hope then!

      December 19, 2013 at 10:39 pm

      and you took your time to point out “geh”..that must have changed your life!
      anyways,please Toke did not force any of you to watch her vlog can’t you see she enjoys what she does?if it makes her happy so be it.y’all should chill it’s not that serious.

  9. Joan85

    December 19, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    I used to have nothing pleasant to say abt this chic, but I have come to really love Toke, I can’t even lie. “don’t order for the nation…did something happen in your childhood?” lmbo! I love this chic, she cracks me up every time.

  10. Delilah

    December 19, 2013 at 2:47 pm

    Grace Did she come out and say her blogs are Satires? Did she say she was a comedian?

    • Ib

      December 19, 2013 at 6:07 pm

      Did she force you to watch?

    • Stephanie

      December 21, 2013 at 1:49 am

      Toke…amazing lady


    December 19, 2013 at 2:53 pm


  12. contessa

    December 19, 2013 at 2:58 pm

    Pls shut up and move on if u dont want to watch. Why did u open it knowing she was gonna be giving relationship advice? Abi u didnt read it before opening it? This girl is just having fun and some of us with healthy sense of humor like to watch her vlog and actually look forward to them weekly. Pls move on to something that interests you o jarey :p

  13. Peggyz Place

    December 19, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    hahahaha, nice one

  14. 5'5

    December 19, 2013 at 4:37 pm

    can a girl breath?

    carry on jare Toke.

  15. kim

    December 19, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    plsssssssssssssssssssss its very simple, if u dont like, DONT WATCH!

  16. mama mia!!!

    December 19, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    Not to digress, Kk, so I saw a teaser to tiwa and teebillz (is that his birth name though?) Wedding on hiptv. I just want to understand why we are so obsessed with mediocrity in this country. Tiwa, is not a reality star so I don’t get why the world needs to see her “wedding movie” abi, is that the in thing now? Lil Snippets and photos are enough we really do not need to see all that went down. Protect your privacy! Especially as you guys are no duke and duchess of Cambridge they have people doing the protecting for them…

  17. Tobe

    December 19, 2013 at 5:09 pm

    Sometimes, I pity for those who watch all these rubbish videos…if you are a girl and would like to get married…toke is a bad example of someone you should listen to…

    I never take advice from someone who has not walked the work…but just talked the talk…it is like a Revered Father giving me marriage counselling class…what does he know about marriage? he would probably be giving me an idealistic point of view…
    Toke has been a Bad example of a relationship counsellor…12 years!!! and you stuck with a bad guy for that long…I just pray less and less women watch this blog…cos this is bad influence…imagine this..“Ask How Much He Earns”!???.

  18. Bee

    December 19, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    In all of this…Pls Toke where did u blow dry ur hair? I love…

  19. Tee Mama

    December 19, 2013 at 5:49 pm

    How much he earns?? Bcos???
    And I believe Toke isn’t an authority in relationship matters. 12 frigging yrs? Biko demand for ur pension/ gratuity. Something must come out of it.
    Over to u tokevoltrons.

  20. diva

    December 19, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    @tobe; if u did nt watch it how come u knw d content of d video?if u wnt “less&less women” to stop watchin den strt wi urself (dats if ur a woman). Bur if ur a man den ur probably vexd cos she myt be burstin ur bubbles if nt I see no reason for d hate.. #imustcommentsyndrome#. Idiat saphead!

    • I'm Rick James Bitch!

      December 19, 2013 at 7:49 pm

      Hey Diva, I’m going to let finish, but you don’t need to watch the video to know “the content,” its right there in the caption.

  21. lorenz

    December 19, 2013 at 5:59 pm

    I was held spellbound, and now I’m officiallly in love with Toke, and her dramatics. Used to wonder what the hell it was with BN and Toke? Since this is the first time I’m clicking on her vlog, I’m must say, that I Find her quite interesting.
    Once went out with a girl who ordered for all her flat mates. I paid for all the 3 takaways, but didnt pay for her dinner, just to drive home my point. Call me what you like, but that move actually made me feel better.

    • Warri Babe

      December 19, 2013 at 6:37 pm

      loooool, sharp guy!! that babe must be an ‘Ebina’, kai, she no try at all.

      Toke, good work dear, you’ve shown how strong you really are despite the challenges. And to the ‘perfect advisers’ saying she’s not in the right position to do this, LIVE!!!!free the babe, if e no do u, no watch abi dem tie u for chair?! She’s having fun doing what makes her happy, you are busy hating*oshi tagging as nonsense,mschewww*

    • Purpleicious Babe

      December 23, 2013 at 2:40 am

      lol o…
      She didn’t tell you she was bringing entourage??

  22. deb

    December 19, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    This girl and funke akindele should be friends, they are really strong people. I pray Tiwatee bills doesn’t get hurt too.

  23. lola

    December 19, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    How can u ask a guy how much he earns on a first date,he
    may thinks you A̶̲̥̅̊я̲̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ after his money.

  24. buky

    December 19, 2013 at 6:56 pm

    The way people talk and judge at times is really crazy, why
    bother your life with her, you are here judging her while she is
    making her money jeje, keep it up oo, its because of people like
    you that her money is flowing. If you like d advice take it, if not
    leave it, what works for Mr A might not work for Mr B

  25. Hannah

    December 19, 2013 at 7:07 pm

    OK enough is enough, For all THOSE who come here to insult Toke ; YOU ARE BUNCH OF ASSHOLES. Did she force you to watch ? or come to Bella Naija every Thursday? Toke is having fun and making a beautiful living. if you don’t like it , pls hang yourself on a Christmas tree, or beta more just don’t open her page and let us who enjoy it, ENJOY IT.
    BY next week she will have another one , so you idiots can enjoy watching it. dumb people. Toke ride on joor! i loved this vlog. so interesting.

    • Babes pls

      December 19, 2013 at 7:43 pm

      U just have no chill working ur self up for nothing. If u write or do an opinion for the public, it is meant to be criticised or hailed. Shutting others up just to show ur support (psycophancy) is just bull.
      Meanwhile your support is noted, u shall be rewarded. Oya take cold water for ur pains ehn

  26. Miss Maverick

    December 19, 2013 at 7:56 pm

    Nice one Toke Hilarious as always! Made my evening…all these dry women/ladies coming here to talk nonsense when they can even differentiate between satire/comedy/sarcasm and seriousness- dry human beings. Go back to your dry lives joor.

  27. Ima

    December 19, 2013 at 8:50 pm

    She is actually growing on me. I like your spunk

  28. ispeakthetruth

    December 19, 2013 at 10:39 pm

    The girl is just an attention seeker. i even thot she had hope when she was dating the maje guy; now she just sounds pathetic. 40years old and single and bitter awaits you my dear

    • laureen

      December 20, 2013 at 5:27 pm

      Na wa for us ooo, please live and let live, I really
      thought by now we will let this her relationship issue rest, please
      let’s concentrate on the topic here which is ‘1st date rules’ and
      not her relationship status, fake accent, hair or skin tone, enough
      already, ha!! I’m not her fan o but all she has said are truths
      that men and women needs to be reminded of once in a

  29. Chigbo

    December 19, 2013 at 11:11 pm

    Toke you re so funny! But those eyebrows are too ‘spiky’ if that’s a word…….lol

  30. makessensesmall

    December 20, 2013 at 1:23 am

    what shes saying makes sense. although i would never aska guy how much eh earns. would ask about where he works and what he does and use my brain to calculate after i have decided that i am actually interested in him.
    to girls who go out without vex money. the lord is your sheperd. and to guys who spilt the bill. oooh lord.. i have no words. just thank God i have never met someone like that. cause i would surely insult u. met a guy who wanted me to come to his side for the first date. like really our first date i should carry my 2 left legs pay for a cab leave the island and come to the mainland. idunno how some people can be so stupid. i thank God i am very content with my fathers house so i always know when to sit my cute butt at home. then to the babes who think he should always pay for their cab. more grease to your elbow. im sure it must be cruising in cheapvilla.

  31. Silvia

    December 20, 2013 at 3:20 am

    Toke is funny..I enjoyed watching it.thank you dear.

  32. Couture By Makioba

    December 20, 2013 at 4:30 am

    Aunty Toke, I don’t need to ask my husband how much he earns…. He works with one of the big multi-national oil & gas companies so I have a clue…. And besides he give me almost everything I ask for that makes sense plus I have a small business that is growing, he doesn’t bug me to contribute to the house, so why should I bother myself with MUST KNOW how much he earns?.
    Men are very sensitive when it comes to money issue, we are happy this way… So thank you for the advice but I will not ask him….

    • Bea

      December 20, 2013 at 8:29 am

      Lol huh?! Did you watch the video at all madam? I’m sure you didn’t. Please watch the video before you start flying off the handle and talking about “…my husband this, my husband that…” The video is not about husbands, it’s about FIRST DATES., ergo before the stage of marriage. I’m sure your fingers were really itching you to type so that you can join the band wagon of the critics, but the joke’s on you 🙂 there’s nothing wrong with criticizing, I’m just saying get your facts right first before you do. Thank me later 🙂 xx

    • Blessmyheart

      December 20, 2013 at 9:17 pm

      LOL. You should have commented anonymously dear.

  33. adoley

    December 20, 2013 at 6:58 am

    how about.. i see his bank account b4 i ask him how much he earns! I don’t believe a man is broke or has money until I see the account!

  34. Encourage them to remain single okay?

    December 20, 2013 at 9:26 am

    Toke, encourage them to remain single okay? And the gullible ones will take some of the “so-not-good” advice.

    The girl should ask how much he earns, where he works, if he has a place to live in? Listen to yourself again, what does that suggest to you?

    Those who are after these things end up halfway while those who followed the man for who he is are still waxing stronger.

    By their fruit we shall know them

  35. okei charles

    December 20, 2013 at 9:49 am

    How can you ask him how much he earns on the first date? if you wr a guy wouldn’t the girl strike you as a gold digger?? its okay if you check out the car he drives or what he is wearing and stuff with style so you dnt end up with a broke niggah but going straight to the point and asking how much he earns on the 1st date that’s just a Gold digger move no offence but girls dnt be sounding thirsty on the first date, the niggah will run dnt mind Toke, she can afford to ask because she is making loads of money herself so she wants to ensure her bf is richer

  36. Lilly

    December 20, 2013 at 10:36 am

    ……And the Award goes to Toke for the vlog with the most controversial commenter
    Clap clap clap clap. She has an award and u have your mouth. Lol

  37. Ohgawd

    December 20, 2013 at 10:40 am

    Matter of fact those questions should only be asked if you guys plan to date seriously.
    it is not the grand inquisition, it is a chance to see if you connect mentally since agreeing to go on the date means you connect physically or at least want to explore more.
    A first date is about impressions and impressions are not true identities…

  38. lurlah

    December 20, 2013 at 11:01 am

    stop d critics nd pay attention to the message. she is not perfect wit relationships but she does make alot of sense. all does ladies who order for things they cant even afford when they go out on a date.

  39. Fumz

    December 20, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    So I had heard how the commentators on both sides of the divide verbally savage themselves over Toke after one of her vlogs. So I decided to check it out and hot diggity Damn! they did not lie !!!
    Personally I choose not to watch this no talent hack sell herself as a relationship expert….the irony of that !!! But whatever you think of Toke there is nothing of any great importance here that should encourage or justify any human being who has half a brain (ok…maybe a quarter) to reduce to engaging in a virtual free for all over quite literally NOTHING !!!
    I mean seriously….for Toke ?!!!
    Wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t seen it……………Toooo funny !!!
    Peace Out!

    • Que

      December 20, 2013 at 2:44 pm

      Don’t you just feel so intelligent?

    • Fums

      December 20, 2013 at 10:16 pm

      Clearly I was mistaken about the quarter brain…it’s clear
      budding trolls like you operate on less than a sixteenth hence your
      world class lame as hell unintelligent attempt to start something.
      Keep it moving sunshine……you are way out of your depth

    • Ada Nnewi

      January 6, 2014 at 3:10 pm

      Fumz! The Einstein of our time! We are honoured that you took time off solving the remaining atomic physics problems left in the world to comment on “no talent” toke’s article…I hope your horribly misguided comment has helped improve your “basketball-sized” brain…btw I think your big brain being squished by your tiny skull is the cause of your misguided comments about toke…Poor you! Your squished of brain must be causing you so much pain. *Big Hug*

  40. Anne

    December 20, 2013 at 1:47 pm

    I clicked on this to read the comments. Epic!

    • Purpleicious Babe

      December 23, 2013 at 2:49 am

      that so mean…lol. but do u know how many of us did that?
      Clicked the video and went straight to the comments. It was playing in the background whilst I was reading the comments. Lool. BN commentators.x

  41. Love

    December 20, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    @Couture By Makioba. Oh pls shut up. Next time ensure you watch the vedio before coming here to comment. See how uve made fool of urself. Toke was simply refering to single girls/guys on tips on a first date and not ppl like you “madam my husband is this ,my husband is that”…mtchew

  42. Browngyrl

    December 20, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    The only part of the vlog i don’t agree with is that the
    guy has to come pick you up for the date. So not a deal breaker
    especially if you have your own car. What if the guy is a psycho as
    she stated earlier, so even if you use your vex money to go home.
    Guess what? The psycho knows where you live. That part makes no
    sense to me at all. I’ll rather meet the guy at the restaurant.
    There are too many psychos disguising themselves as sane

    • Eve82

      January 9, 2014 at 8:52 am

      I’m with you on that, but I think it is a Nigerian environment thing. Remember when I used to go on dates, I made sure my sister, or bestie sees him, so they know who to hold just in case. Now that I live here, I never invite an man to my house on a 1st or even 2 nd date. I encourage him to pick a spot half way, thereby we meet up in the middle, and it is not a long drive for either of us. When I’m comfortable with you, I can then invite you over.

  43. Knight

    December 20, 2013 at 7:31 pm

    Why does BN keep subjecting us to this lady’s rants?????
    Just why?

  44. Jirla

    December 20, 2013 at 11:49 pm

    Free Heeeeer! …..Toke Makinwa!

  45. Koffie

    December 21, 2013 at 12:07 am

    Her brows were a lil distracting…just a lil, don’t attack
    the vlog does make sense except its not my expectation for you to
    come pick me n pehe didn’t exactly say to ask him bluntly how much
    he earns, guage if you can. Subtlety is. Key

  46. Like

    December 22, 2013 at 7:17 am

    When I broke up with my first boyfriend, I took to writing. I started a blog, it is not as popular as other blogs but I find joy in it. 2years after my first break up I still find joy in writing, people can relate with my post.
    I didnt like Toke after her linda ikeji issue last year but they are showbiz people. Any publicity is good for them.

    I hardly watch these vlogs but I am sure one person will find it useful as my friend did with the last one.

    Vlog might be her escape route from all the relationship issues
    Dear Bella Naija,

    Could you stop tagging Maje in Toke post….life has to move on

  47. Arin

    December 22, 2013 at 10:37 am

    @ couture you don’t know how much your HUSBAND earns? Hian
    . Didn’t they teach you guys at counseling class to dis close all
    this information? Your on a long thing o. His probably giving you
    peanuts now you think he is doing you a favor. Moving on
    ,Lmaooooooo as much as some of tokes advice aren’t the best she’s
    funny abeg . As much as she isn’t my fav person in the world we
    should let her breathe abeg.

  48. Donthavetimeforrubbish.

    December 23, 2013 at 2:46 am

    On seeing this vlog title(decided not to waste my precious megabytes on watching it) I immediately deduced that it would be something I would not benefit from.
    On the issue of asking how much he earns, ladies I beg you on behalf of all the sensible no nonsense ,gold-digger detesting,desperate woman detecting, single guys out there. The moment you ask him this question on the first date, believe you me, you can/may/will put him off. That question is reserved for a time when the two of you are COURTING, not going out on a first dates. Whatever happened to asking a guy “what he does for a living” or “where does he work?” must you jump to the issue of how much he earns on the first date?This is part of reason why a lot of girls are wondering “why doesn’t he call me again”, ” he doesn’t pick my calls” “he deleted me from bbm” etc. Some girls are even following this advice, cos just last week…a babe I just met some 3 weeks ago through a friend, asked me how much I dey earn? i tell am say by God’s grace I am not hungry and I have a job,the madam was irritatingly persistent at the end of the day I just removed the thought of anything happening between us.

  49. Abbie

    December 23, 2013 at 5:52 pm

    Toke pls shut the hell up and sort out the issue going on in your life.

  50. Olaoluwa Peters

    December 30, 2013 at 11:55 pm

    This is my first time of watching Toke’s video. So why the hate? Does it make you feel any better to beef mindlessly? I am talking to ya’ll dropping insane and moronic comments about this babe. She’s entertaining to start with, she makes a lotta sense, she’s definitely intelligent, she’s strong and more importantly she’s enlightened.

    Hating Toke will only fast track your BP’s to jet speed level. The guy who refused to marry her after 12years is apparently wicked, Insecured and a sour looser.

    She definitely is qualified to advise on relationships. If you don’t like her, stop watching her videos. QED

  51. Ade

    January 3, 2014 at 2:07 pm

    God talk Olaoluwa I concur

  52. tye

    January 9, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    BN! there should be a like and dislike button for comments as there are some very sensible comments and some immature and brainless comments. I just pity girls that follow tokes advice in totality…may you not end up having a 12yrs relationship that leads to no where. Babes wake up and smell the coffee, Marriage is not a mirage but REALITY… God help you

  53. Oyinlola

    January 10, 2014 at 9:04 pm

    she needs deliverance

  54. Princess E Mimi

    January 14, 2014 at 3:31 pm

    Oh my…. she is hilarious. What she is saying on this occasion is true!!!

  55. Had to comment

    January 16, 2014 at 2:53 am

    You can tell most silly comments were made by people who didn’t watch the video. The fact that people can comment on something based on a pretty misleading caption shows that they are frankly shallow and judgemental which has negative consequences in every aspect of life. It would be wise for such people to refrain from making rash comments or decisions till they get all the facts.

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