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Elevate U with Ifeanyi: Destiny or Mere Fate?



I attended a wedding some months ago where a local musician was invited to perform. He’d come with other members of his band – people who, although, weren’t known by many people, made good but cheap music.
When it was time to take centre stage, the virtuoso gently began a note that did little to gain the attention of the reluctant audience. Slowly, the music was beginning to gain momentum and people started to get off their seats. By the time the music went full blast, it had drowned the presence of every other activity, having gotten everyone absorbed in its maze and turning the audience into a sweaty gyrating bunch swaying joyfully to the rhythm of the its high life tune.

After all the noise of the celebration had died down, a hard reality struck me. Why can’t this guy be as rich and famous as Davido? That musician was good with his expertise. He was so good that he’d outperform many of the contemporary secular musicians we presently have. But then, why doesn’t anyone know him? Why does he earn nothing compared to these other guys?

It dawned on me that my musician friend had put in more work than the average musician would have done— he’d come with a live band and sung with his real voice in an awesome performance.
I have come to understand that there comes a time in the life of a man when he’d have to choose between destiny and mere fate. There comes a time in the life of a man when he has to choose consciously or unconsciously between going with the flow of life, and waddling through it as a nonentity or ride on its very crest to success and wealth.

That musician could keep singing in small parties and events all his life, hoping that his chance of being successful would one day come. Or he could sweat it out, write his songs, pay for studio sessions, make an album, find a good producer and marketer, and then keep going around town visiting radio stations to promote his songs. But then where would he be in twenty years’ time if he chose to do nothing?

A childhood friend of mine was meant to wade through life a pauper, or even end up a small-time robber who’d probably never have the luxury of seeing age fifty. He was born in a family of about seven, all of who spent much of their time together living in a crowed shabby one room apartment in a poverty-ridden neighborhood in downtown Onitsha. Poverty didn’t just attach itself to them, they were the kind of people that come to mind each time the word poverty is mentioned. They’d have to hawk drinks and all kind of stuff so they can feed.

Before they could really begin growing up, their father died. Before they could get over their loss, their mother passed on too. He hadn’t been much of the school type before now, so he took to the streets.
One day, he sat down and made his choice. He’d had enough of poverty and it was time he left it behind. He moved to the FCT and started out anew, doing all kinds of unimaginable menial jobs, but kept his hands clean.

Today that young man whose poverty was epic is way richer than I am.
Sometimes I wonder what would have happened to him if all he did was throw up his hands and say ‘Well my dad was poor and so am I’, and continued his life with no determination to break free and be a better man for himself.

I often wonder too if Davido would have been this rich and famous if with all his music talent he simply played in small parties only, and hadn’t taken to the studio to make something out of his voice.

If a man must excel, one thing is certain, there must be a time in the life of that man when he has to choose consciously or unconsciously between destiny and mere fate— between expertise and mediocrity and until that day comes, he may as well take his rest since the best of his best would not be any far away for unalloyed mediocrity.

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Ifeanyi J. Igbokwe is a peak performance expert, motivational speaker, consultant and an action coach with special interest with personal and corporate growth and effectiveness. He can be reached at [email protected]

Ifeanyi J. Igbokwe is a peak performance expert and motivational speaker; an action coach with special interest in personal and corporate growth and effectiveness. Mail: [email protected]


  1. Fabulicious

    May 21, 2014 at 3:31 pm

    Why do I see reference to Davido in this your article.I don’t think he is the perfect example.Maybe he wouldn’t have been famous but rich,yes he would.It was from Davido himself that the public knew he came from a rich home via all his twitter brags back then. I would have liked you to use someone who had nothing from the very start and worked hard as well.

    • Ifeanyi Igbokwe

      May 22, 2014 at 8:24 am

      Thank you Fabulicious. He really may not be, but I’m glad you got the central message. Thanks for dropping by.

  2. bobbydox

    May 21, 2014 at 3:40 pm

    so damn true, sometimes you have top choose and i guess the latter would be preferable choose

    • Ifeanyi Igbokwe

      May 22, 2014 at 8:22 am

      Thanks Bobbydox. We all have to chose sometime.

  3. Oyinade

    May 21, 2014 at 4:15 pm

    Nice, exactly what I needed.

  4. sum1special

    May 21, 2014 at 4:51 pm

    Wake up call.

  5. C*Witty

    May 21, 2014 at 4:51 pm

    Not sure i agree with what you thought of the musician singing at the wedding and comparing him with davido(rich man son) or even any other artist 2face(started from the bottom), that may be the musician’s humbly beginnings. having just a good voice might not be all he needs. he needs money to afford a good manager that knows the industry, pay for studio sessions and make an album or if he gets lucky a good music label can sign him up. so you see its not about having a talent, its also about having the right network to push it. LIFE IS A MYSTERY!!!

    • Ifeanyi Igbokwe

      May 22, 2014 at 8:32 am

      I quite agree with the ‘life is a mystery part’. If a man is poor and he decides not to go to school or work hard and do the things he is supposed to do, what are his chances of getting successful? If he tried and failed, that would be another matter, but not taking his chances at being successful is far worse. Thanks for reading.


    May 21, 2014 at 4:54 pm

    What a nice article. I believe something. You cant be lazy and lousy and expect grace to cover your disgrace. We cant allow our background to let our back to touch the ground. To become extraordinary you have to do extraordinary things that others cannot do which can be going an extra mile. Like your friend that left onitsha to abuja, Sometimes we need to leave our current location for our story to change. Sometimes we need to change friends for our story to change. The people mingle with and the books we read have a way of determining our destiny in life. Nice article ifeanyi. I learnt alot

    Chime C.S

    • John de Beloved

      May 22, 2014 at 8:02 am

      Looking for the Like button for this your comment. You said Bro, You said it…

    • Ifeanyi Igbokwe

      May 22, 2014 at 8:52 am

      Thank you Chimex. At a point along the line, we would have to decide. Thanks for dropping by.


    May 21, 2014 at 5:54 pm

    Basically get off the couch and DO SOMETHING! I’m in agreement with this post, but not with the Davido analogy. It takes money too to book studio sessions, pay a producer and marketer and even OAPs need to be bribed heavily! I’m not saying Davido wouldn’t have made it without daddy though.
    That said, i think your Onitsha friend is simply amazing. It’s so easy to let life happen to you and accept what ever it throws at you, it takes a strong person to refuse to take whatever life gives, to fight for his or her own.

    Thanks for this write up.

    • Ifeanyi Igbokwe

      May 22, 2014 at 8:36 am

      You are right. Getting off the couch is the idea. I agree, it is not everyone that gets off the couch that has something to show for it, but then who has anything to show for doing nothing. Thanks for taking the time to read this piece. Hope you are off the couch. LOL

  8. chinenye

    May 21, 2014 at 6:40 pm

    Thank you for this piece

  9. BA

    May 21, 2014 at 11:46 pm

    I think the writer of this piece had his thoughts everywhere. The point of the article I imagine is to avoid limiting ourselves to small dreams or realities- i.e Dream Big, Plan Big, Achieve Big e.t.c. but the Davido and party musician narrative completely missed the point.

  10. Ifeanyi Igbokwe

    May 22, 2014 at 8:41 am

    Thank you for reading this piece.

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