Judith Audu, Nigerian actress, got married to Morten Foght in 2011 after dating for about 3 years and in an interview with Punch Newspaper the Nollywood star talks about what it has been like for her with people saying she married a ‘foreigner’.
According to the actress, even though their families have been very supportive the world has not but she has learned to grow a thick skin against the unpleasant comments.
Read excerpts from her interview below.
On how they met: (Morten) I am Danish and needed some first-hand information about Nigeria. I connected with a lot of people on Facebook including my wife. She was very helpful in that regard. We chatted for a long time, before I came down to Nigeria and a physical meeting was made possible. For the first year or more, we had a long-distance relationship since I lived in Denmark. I visited Nigeria but not as often as she would have wished. Our relationship progressed slowly via mails, Facebook and telephone calls.
On her first attraction: (Judith) He has a very appealing personality and I love to interact with intelligent people. The more we chatted, the more I felt he was perfect for me; he understood how to communicate with me. He encouraged and motivated me to pursue my dreams. I saw through his heart even before I saw his physical attributes, which I also found attractive.
On dating & getting married: (Morten) We dated for about two or three years. I do have a different cultural background. In Denmark, it is not unusual that you date for a long time before marriage, but it was fun getting married here in Nigeria where the tradition is very different. (Judith) I didn’t plan to marry a foreigner. I went where the wind of destiny blew me and love happened when I didn’t see it coming. I just enjoyed his company and he proved to be a good friend.
On the proposal: (Judith) He did it in a simple and sweet manner. We were having a discussion when he said we should get married. At first, it sounded like a joke and even though we had been together for some time, I did not see it coming. It made me feel really good and very happy.
On their quiet wedding: (Judith) I do not like big weddings because it is sometimes filled with people you neither know nor have personal relationships with. I feel a wedding should be an intimate affair with family and close friends in attendance. I like a wedding where the couple can walk round the hall, play and laugh with the guests.
On people commenting on their marriage: (Judith) It used to make me feel bad but now, I am used to it. I no longer mind when people air their unpleasant thoughts.