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Joro “Doktor Mofin” Olumofin Has a Message on ‘How to know if your Boyfriend or Husband is Cheating on You’



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Adejoro Olumofin

Lagos socialite Joro Olumofin is out with a new write-up where he dishes out on how to know if your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you.

He shared the long message on his Instagram page.


How to know if your Man is Cheating? Social Psychologist and Sociologists alike credit infidelity and unfaithfulness by a partner in a relationship as one of the major reasons for breakups and slips between strong or & weak couples.

There are 2 major problems associated with cheating by a Partner or Lover

(1) Emotional Disconnect and

(2) Physical Disconnect.

Emotional Disconnect is the worst and sometimes if not attended to as soon as possible it can lead to permanent breakup and hatred. This is when your Man doesn’t feel emotionally attached to you anymore. You lose sight of the basic instincts in life and courtship, which are : if he doesn’t laugh at your jokes,  if he doesn’t ask why you’re sad, if he no longer tells you about his business plans or aspirations and you have to find out on the news or blogs, if he forgets the little rituals or secret handshakes you have, if he is always the first to drop the phone, if your food suddenly taste bitter, if he has a secret “Business line” you don’t know about, if he becomes so formal that your conversation is now about the Weather or Politics, if he no compliments your new hair or nice body features.

THEN you know there’s a problem.

Emotions are memories in our cognition that make us attached to a one person more than any other person in the World. So if your Man has an Emotional Disconnect then he may most likely cheat on you or not give you the time and affection you deserve.

I must also say that when there is an Emotional Disconnect “Making Love” turns to/becomes Exercise to him or just sex. All the “I love yous” or “I miss you” during sex is gone hence no more Passion.

Physical Disconnect is when your man is no longer attracted to you psychically but still loves you as a wife or girlfriend. He still laughs at your jokes, buys you nice things, there are occasional surprises but when it comes to the late night activities he’s missing in action.

Some men even lose their ability to get an Erection for their partners because of this problem.

Most times Physical Disconnect is associated with (1) meeting a new or younger woman (2) when wives or girlfriend becoming boring or refusing to be creative in the bedroom e.g. some women say I don’t like this style, I can’t do this, can’t watch porn with you (3) when the man isn’t living healthy and he can’t sexually function (4) when the man looks at his GF or wife and says I don’t recognize her i.e. she isn’t looking fit or sexy anymore (5) Some women who forget to be wives and resume the mother duties hence forth abandoning their husbands sexual needs, their children are the new husbands and love of their lives.

This being said here are common tips to identify some red flags if your man is stepping out on you:
(1) Any guy who is no longer jealous or protective over you – red flag
(2) Reduction in Sex or Public Display of Affection – red flag
(3) Formality! Treats you like he’s your dad or he’s your boss. No more cordial dealings – red flag
(4) Stays out late and goes straight to bed when he comes – red flag
(5) Doesn’t look at your face anymore during sex – red flag
(6) Doesn’t like your food or doesn’t even bother if you cook. Means someone else may be cooking for him – red flag
(7) Reduction of phone calls and delays in reply on messages- red flag
(8) Always happy when you’re not around or he has to leave you- red flag
(9) Compares you to his friends wife or some models on TV on a regular basis in a condescending way- red flag

Ladies, some scholars have argued that men are biologically made to cheat and some other scholars disagree to with this Hypothesis.

In order to keep your home or your relationship intact, follow trends, study your husband like a book, workout often, eat healthy, give him occasional surprise sex at work, cook for him as if you are on master chef “Dstv” and make love to him like you are in 50 shades of grey.

If after all this and he’s still not satisfied then you’ve done your part. And you may need to make a decision about if you want to be in or out of the relationship but don’t leave your man unsatisfied or thirsty



BellaNaija-rians, do you agree?


  1. i no send

    March 18, 2015 at 4:06 pm

    mtchwwwww…and what effort will a man make to keep me….im sick of hearing this..

    • I sorry for you

      March 18, 2015 at 4:14 pm

      Lol have fun playing with your cats while you grow old alone. Like it or not we live in a patriarchal society.

    • EllesarisEllendil

      March 18, 2015 at 7:31 pm

      Depends, how hot are you, how smart are you, how rich are you. If you’re atleast an 8 in the above categories then no worries, contrary to popular expectations we aren’t stupid.
      If you are not then I hear Ragdoll cats are the best if you’re aren’t going oriental.

  2. Chi

    March 18, 2015 at 4:09 pm

    Please psychological evaluator, write helps things for men too. Yall need to leave women alone. It is not women who hold the glue that keeps a relationship healthy. Stop making it seem so. You need to help men realize they have a serious part to play in serious relationships. They are not in it to eat and have sex okay. It is not about them men only and will never be. Play a good role in improving the starved mentality of Nigerian men. Please help reduce the self entitled mentality of most Nigerian men not increase it.

    • Nkechi

      March 18, 2015 at 5:52 pm

      What if the woman is the one who feels and acts all these ways towards the man? Just following the motions, if he delivers, nice; if he doesn’t deliver, nice to? And is just working on her own self-development and happiness? I seem to know too many women whose approach is this. Do you have some advice for the husbands, please?

  3. Sijibomi

    March 18, 2015 at 4:13 pm

    surprise sex at work???? i have heard it all. it is not all you see in movies that is applicable in real life o.

    • Anon

      March 18, 2015 at 7:38 pm

      Looooool! What would I not hear, Not only suprise sex hot bath .

    • Goldyn Gurl

      March 18, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      Thank you!!! So, I will leave MY job to show up at your job to give you sex? And then when I get fired for leaving work early one time too many, and the mortgage renewal is up, what then? AbegBiko.

  4. Joan85

    March 18, 2015 at 4:17 pm

    Everyone has something to say about women and what we should do to keep a man.
    Abeg dem men, what they should do to keep us?. I am a woman, I am the gift, I am the treasure, I am the one that brings him favor when he finds me, I am the jewel, what should he do to keep me biko? Even though he makes some valid points, please teach the men too…this what-women-should-do thing is getting too much for my eyes. 🙁

    P.S.: You can cook and clean and spread your legs on Eko hotel chandelier for all he cares. It is only the love, grace, fear, and knowledge of God that keeps a man from cheating.

    • mimi

      March 18, 2015 at 4:38 pm

      Joan85 you just spoke my mind! Anybody who wants to cheat would cheat, regardless of how banging your body is, or if you make the best seedless pounded yam and oha soup, or how neat and tidy the house is. Truth is, it’s the people who try the hardest that still gets cheated on the most. It’s the grace of God and self control that keeps people from doing what is wrong generally.

    • redbloom

      March 18, 2015 at 4:53 pm

      ‘spread your legs on eko hotel chandelier’

      LMAO! yet so true

    • Bruness

      March 18, 2015 at 6:03 pm

      I love Joan 85!!!!

    • Bimpe

      March 18, 2015 at 10:11 pm

      Today, Madame, you #wintheinternet

    • Nne007

      March 18, 2015 at 10:23 pm

      Infinity Likes for u dear….. I don’t need to add or subtract anything

    • Nahum

      March 19, 2015 at 9:01 am

      My dear, it is only the grace of Our Lord that keeps men from cheating. All the advice on how to keep your man will NEVER work as long as you have a man that always feels self-righteous and has no interest in making the relationship work. I have said it before and I will say it again. Know the kind of man you are dealing with before you marry him, if he cheats on you while you are dating, he will cheat on you when you marry.

  5. holuwarseun

    March 18, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    On point.

  6. nancy

    March 18, 2015 at 4:26 pm

    hmmm well its a whole lot of work. i dont do all those things but my guy is thw bestest. but damn do the fifty shades of grey? hmmm too extreme


    March 18, 2015 at 4:28 pm


  8. Ebony

    March 18, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    Lol, can’t even be bothered to read, don’t know why this guy comes across as shallow and juvenile to me. Tries a bit too hard

    • nosey

      March 19, 2015 at 12:28 am

      Tell me about it! As soon as I see his face I just switch off.

    • Ebony

      March 19, 2015 at 8:42 am

      Lol. I know right. My eyes roll backwards

  9. IRA

    March 18, 2015 at 4:38 pm

    am tired of hearing all what a woman has to do to keep a man, what about what he has to do to keep her?

    • nwa nna

      March 18, 2015 at 6:02 pm

      @IRA, I’m a dude and agree with you because it takes a conscious effort from both male & female in any relationship.

  10. amy

    March 18, 2015 at 4:38 pm

    just like my mother would always tell me, “there is no manual on how to keep a man”. just be yourself, be happy with yourself. if he’s not ok with that… then i think its high time bae hits the high way.

    • redbloom

      March 18, 2015 at 4:52 pm

      your mom sounds awesome!

    • O

      March 18, 2015 at 5:24 pm

      Your mom is a smart woman!
      Blehhh to the article

  11. dee

    March 18, 2015 at 5:03 pm

    Afi Lagos Socialite. More like party crasher.

    Say na surprise sex in the office.

  12. Ade

    March 18, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    Bella Hypocrites will come out now and say…”I am tired of hearing this and that”.

    Hey, better be silent..

    Read and pass if you think he is crazy…

    Just have your opinion too.

  13. Busola

    March 18, 2015 at 5:10 pm

    Patriarchy hurts us all. While growing up, I disliked being a girl and messages like this sends shivers up my spine. To make a relationship/marriage work takes two not one. You can be the best wife in the world and your efforts would still mean little to the other person. You cannot chain/manipulate/control ANYONE to co-operate with you. Choose wisely and pray to God for mercy. It will take a new generation of men raised differently to erase this ‘entitlement’ mentality.

  14. TruthbeTold

    March 18, 2015 at 5:24 pm

    Please when is someone going to educate Nigerian men on how to treat their women right? Say an article on the best way to make their women feel valued, cherished and most importantly like the Queens that they are? I think there should be a balance because all you see is how to treat your man this and that and this is starting to make these men feel like they do not have to do anything to keep their partners satisfied/happy in the relationship. Correct me if am wrong sha but some people need to start speaking to the men instead of the women eveytime.

  15. aj

    March 18, 2015 at 5:28 pm

    B.S!!!!! I aint over doing anything…if he like he should cheat. I’m not going out of my way to please any man.

  16. Thatgidigirl

    March 18, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    This guy again with his 419 beard. Lagos socialite my left arse! wetin e dey do? what does he do for a living… in the thing that puts food in his mouth and designer clothes on his back? If you ask him now, he would start the sentence with “I’m into…”. Thats how you know lagos boys that do not have a firm source of livelihood, always explaining their jobs with plenty sentences….i’m into property, i’m into finishing and interiors.
    Unrelated rant, i know but i just had to!!! The wash and fakeness in lagos is just too much. Sitting there talking about being a psychologist and advising women, chile pleeeeaaase! get a real job.

    • janeth

      March 19, 2015 at 6:16 am

      lolzz 419 beard..rolling on the ground

    • Idomagirl

      March 19, 2015 at 7:56 am

      419 beard. LMAO!

  17. nwa nna

    March 18, 2015 at 5:55 pm

    Bia, ogini di? All of a sudden every, Tom, Dick & Harry in naija has become Dr. Phil offering up unsolicited relationship advice. Abeg make we word jare

  18. Tosin

    March 18, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    how to know if he’s cheating? he’s cheating. whatever. who cares? ps it’s not cool to cheat sha, but to try to stay exclusively connected against all reason and nature is even crazier.

  19. Bella Noire

    March 18, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    If we stop marrying them, Nigerian men will stop cheating. Nigerian men have to be some of the most irresponsible men in the world when it comes to cheating.

    • Nahum

      March 19, 2015 at 9:05 am

      I AGREE!!!!

  20. sylvia

    March 18, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    Next pleaseeeee. …not every woman loose sleep over a man.
    Tired of this marriage /relationship online counsellors in nigeria.
    What other advise can you lot give women please……

  21. kama

    March 18, 2015 at 7:04 pm

    Lol……….. Men shuld impress women too now

  22. onetallgirl

    March 18, 2015 at 7:06 pm

    I dont mind doing all these things for my husband, but he needs to be putting in some effort too. If im at the gym getting my fitness on he needs to be at the gym too, looking sexy for me!!

  23. kama

    March 18, 2015 at 7:13 pm

    Lol……………. Men should impress women too now

  24. Saint tracy

    March 18, 2015 at 7:29 pm

    Abeg abeg abeg

  25. Yinka

    March 18, 2015 at 7:43 pm

    I don’t know why but I just cant take this guy serious as a psychologist.

  26. Animal Doctor

    March 18, 2015 at 7:44 pm

    Funny things is those look to me like the red flags women display when they are cheating (except the cooking one). A guy could be doing the opposite of those things and still be all the way out there lol.
    A person who is faithful (or cheats), does it for themself.

  27. nene

    March 18, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    as much as i hate to agree with “DR Phil” on this one, he’s saying the truth. Any woman that doesn’t do at least half of what he’s written should be ready to remain single forever. men are naturally jealous and over protective, but they also act like spoilt kids who always want to have their way, that’s why women have been blessed with maternal instincts, but it shouldn’t make you behave stupid, maternal instincts just makes you more tolerant/understanding and willing to make sacrifices to please another person. And like the writer has said, if you do all these things and your man doesn’t change, please dump him and move on with your life free of stress and man wahala.


    March 18, 2015 at 8:07 pm

    Jesu! I have died… I suppose the next thing he will release is a 1007 paged book on how to feed male ego. Biko relationships are like partnerships either side can lead to end of it, if you forget or loose sight of why both of u are together that’s it…how about the man join her in kitchen, do those workouts with her….sex in bed not everyone is daring sexually that aspect takes work and gradual persuasion. It’s no reason to log on to FREEBDSMSEX.COM all because u just saw 50 SHADES OF GREY. biko kwa people should stop being lazy and deal with the issues that bug their relationships. Peace out.
    IG: @iamdasidy

  29. Yvonne

    March 18, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    Socialite my ass!
    This kinda writeup makes men feel they don’t have a role to play in a marriage or relationship.
    Most of them believe the highest they can do is go to work and after work shower, eat, watch TV and sleep very typical of an African man, most especially Nigerian men and you hear words like “it’s not easy to be a man”.
    How about a woman who spends her time in the kitchen preparing your favourite meal, cleaning the house, taking care of the kids, staying up all night when she has a baby?
    The list is just endless.
    Men keep saying ‘to be a man it’s not a days job’
    OK….try been a woman!
    Get pregnant, carry a child for 9months, go through delivery pains, and taking care of a child which can be very exhausting then you’ll know how far.
    If you’re married to a man who’s helpful in the house that’s when you’ll have the time to hit the gym and shed ’em baby fat!
    Some of these men are not in any way helpful at home.
    They need to learn ways on how to be a good husband and father.

  30. mia

    March 18, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Pls ask this Dr Phil wannabe if he is in a relationship or if he has ever been in a long term relationship to give such advice..this guy has some maturing to do….foolish article with no originality

  31. clairvoyant

    March 18, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    How to know if your man is cheating
    1. Check his phone while he’s seeping
    2. Make note of any unusual frequent callers. When i say unusual i mean those phone calls that come in repeatedly after working hours
    3. Monitor his every move. Follow him discreetly if you have to
    4. Sniff his [email protected]$ when he comes back late on a weekend

    And when you finally turn into a mad woman he will leave you for the person he was cheating with.

    • olabisi

      March 19, 2015 at 11:55 am

      buhahahah!!! u pple will not kill me.

  32. miminty

    March 18, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    if only we women can just go on strike lol… arrant rubbish!!

    • Ph Boy

      March 19, 2015 at 9:19 am

      Lol!!!! Abeg make una go the strike sef! Una own don too much. Ghanians will be so happy to welcome the Nigerian menfolk and i hear say dem set die. The main problem for most naija relationships na una razor mouth. Em too sharp!!! No be only strike, make una throw knockout join am. ROTFL!

  33. sass

    March 18, 2015 at 9:39 pm

    The only thing i saw was “red flag”. Writer ni omo yi.

  34. cindy

    March 18, 2015 at 10:40 pm


  35. Anon

    March 18, 2015 at 10:58 pm

    I will like someone to educate 9ja men on how to satisfy their women. That is an article that needs to be written, because if you make her feel beautiful and you give it to her right on the regular, your sexual problems will be a thing of the past, so might your other issues.

  36. sisi

    March 18, 2015 at 11:01 pm

    Oga Mr socialite pls don’t quit your day job if u ave one that is BC ain’t nobody got time for this your trash.

  37. Socialite Psychologist

    March 18, 2015 at 11:52 pm

    How about my man is just a randy, indisciplined, weak and f-ed up and that has absolutely nothing to do with me, in the physical, emotional or spiritual.
    He needs all the checking to heal his lost soul. Lets hear word jare

  38. taurus

    March 18, 2015 at 11:52 pm

    #my two cents
    This dude doesn’t look like a man that can keep a true relationship, not cheat, and not run after them artificial girls with insta filter. This dude can’t date a real woman. My observations though… You don’t have to but it. Besides, what of bae works in a bank or multinational?. I should still do surprise sex at work. How come girls like bey, Kim, and all them hot chicks who I presume are excellent in bed still can’t stop their men from cheating.
    Teach the dudes to be real men too. That being said,I don’t believe in anything called relationship rules. It’s about what works for the two “matured” people involved. It’s the two of you that counts. And to all women, as long as you’re proverbs 31, have your flaws,do your best,if that man is yours he would stay. Give 100% effort and 500% prayer. It’s only God’s grace that keeps relationships.. Peace

  39. Faith

    March 19, 2015 at 12:20 am

    i AM SO OVER IT! Why is it that I have to work my ass off to keep him. Where is his part to play in all this? What about me? i am done. Relationships should not be a freaking chore…mcheww Why is it okay for the man to cheat? The reason is always that I am at fault,I didnt do him good enough,thats why he is cheating. When is the man going to take responsibility for his longatroat?! Cheat on me and I will be leaving your a** on the sidewalk. #SMH

  40. Emerald

    March 19, 2015 at 1:30 am

    Sooo…woemn are supposed to do all that, and the men don’t have to do a thing to keep their women? Moving on.

  41. always happy

    March 19, 2015 at 1:40 am

    Before you agree to marry a man , especially a traditional home grown naija man who spent his formative years in Nigeria (up to age 35yrs) settle in your mind the fact that he’s already a cheat, so that when he actually falls your hand and does what Nigerian society perceives is his natural inclination, you will not lose sleep, weight or your happiness over him. All I can say is once you lease cheaters to God. They’ll always get served! better than any drama, tears or pain you may feel.

  42. O~Intuition!

    March 19, 2015 at 2:04 am

    Doktor Mofin left United Kingdom for Nigeria just to engage us with his psychology ideals.
    No! No! No! If he cannot ‘practice’ his psychology ideals with/on the British/Scottish/Irish, it is not permissible in /to Nigeria(ns).

    What is happening these days!!!… All them recent “upcoming’ people who cant do what they do in their supposed “developed world’ place of residence, think they can dump all kinds of info in(on) Nigeria(ns).
    Please do we have any institution that monitors all these people and their ‘plans”.

  43. PD Young Billionaire

    March 19, 2015 at 2:34 am

    I ain’t gonna loose my sleep over any man…..

  44. *Real* Nice Anon

    March 19, 2015 at 4:39 am

    So, when is one of you lot marrying him off so that we can have some chill? Obviously he is bored and needs something to keep him busy plus you Lagos women will marry anything so off you go then.

  45. Vidavi

    March 19, 2015 at 4:57 am

    Why is everything always directed at the women? If a man cheats either his wife or the other woman gets blamed.. Here’s my advice for men. Before you get married decide what you want from a marriage. Do you want a best friend, a faithful lover, constant cheerleader, supporter of dreams, 24hr chef, super mom, wiper of tears, non judgemental sounding board, therapist, prayer partner, personal shopper, private dancer, sick nurse, bone of your bone, flesh of your flesh. Or would you rather have your choice of whores who will leave you cold once they find someone better? The choice is yours, but please before you get married decide what kind of man you want to be, and quit blaming us womem for your lack of self control.

  46. fay

    March 19, 2015 at 4:57 am

    Men have been raised with such fragile egos that it appears the slightest thing that doesn’t go their way sends them off the wall. Women have bent over backwards for way too long taking crap from men. Some women tolerate cheating like no other that’s why articles like this have legs. Sometimes it appears dealing with men is like a bottomless pit that can’t be filled. Let chimamanda catch you with this article and let the games begin

  47. bee

    March 19, 2015 at 5:15 am

    lols who is this one??? he did not know they will finish him on bella naija ni, enough already!!! women have had it “up to here”


    March 19, 2015 at 5:36 am

    are we for real here?! Why so much bloody pressure on us women yo! How about the men?! Abeg abeg, whatever u stress your poor soul for too much isn’t really worth it in the long run! How about what men need to do to keep us women?! Mscheew! If u like cook in Prada pot, do snake in the monkey shadow style on the bed, some A**holes still won’t be appreciative! They will be looking for Kim kardashian! Moving on….

  49. truth

    March 19, 2015 at 7:29 am

    One thing I know and that my father taught my sisters and i, is that a man who respects his wife and finds her worthy( as in loves her unconditionally) would never cheat on his wife, no matter the temptation. SO ladies, find a man that Respects and finds your worthy!!

  50. Fols

    March 19, 2015 at 7:53 am

    Watch porn with you ke? Lemme tell you, God created sex & the Holy Spirit gives great inspiration…ask me & my hubby. No need for porn! And as for u brother, u better be Dangote at work & Romeo in the house if you want Masterchef in d kitchen & 50 shades in the bedroom!

  51. Idomagirl

    March 19, 2015 at 8:15 am

    The last time this guy was here he was described as a fitness expert, now he’s a psychologist. Nwokem, if you’re truly a psychologist go and put your training to good use, any bumbling idiot can tell women what to do to ‘keep their men’, it doesn’t take much.
    Instead of being ashamed that at your age you are being introduced as ‘Lagos socialite’ and nothing else, you’re here telling us what to do.

    Maybe if so many women in Nigeria weren’t desperate to the point of allowing themselves become footmats, clowns like this would go away with their misogynist, one-sided advice. A man who is old enough to be married or shacked up is old enough to take responsibility for his actions. This nonsense of blaming a woman for a man’s weaknesses or foolishness needs to stop.

  52. Personal Signature

    March 19, 2015 at 8:27 am

    Forget the guy or the article, my comment is for you all

    The guy got you all that is why the comments are this much.
    If twas a normal article, you will just read and pass or ignore
    the guy got what he really wanted, your attention

    Na me one guy from no where go con dey tell nonsense?
    You better learn to overlook and ignore so many things in life
    If you don’t, you will just develop hypertension
    🙂 🙂 🙂

  53. Grown Woman

    March 19, 2015 at 9:01 am

    hahahah My God BN fam please calm down please ignore him.Nothing stops a grown man from cheating if he wants to.So lets focus on more important things like taking care of ourselves and our needs

  54. ty

    March 19, 2015 at 9:16 am

    LOOOOL…OMO Nigerian girls dey vex o! good i like it. extremely stupid article… talking about 50 shades of grey, oga go get yourself a pornstar, its their work they understand and learn the art. you want us to cook, contribute half of our money to upkeep, take care of children, turn to porn star in the night….u don see superman…. in fact, this article has upset me this it not this joro that was in unilag, so no work abi? its to be yarning dust on the internet..

  55. Ph Boy

    March 19, 2015 at 9:18 am

    @ miminty . Lol!!!! Abeg make una go the strike sef! Una own don too much. Ghanians will be so happy to welcome the Nigerian menfolk and i hear say dem set die. The main problem for most naija relationships na una razor mouth. Em too sharp!!! No be only strike, make una throw knockout join am. ROTFL!

  56. jefka

    March 19, 2015 at 9:24 am

    how to know if your woman is cheating
    – she asks for recharge card but never calls you or even when she does, it is timed
    – she stops wearing bum shorts and covers herself fully when ever you are around
    – her period always starts when ever you want to have sex with her, or she claims its painful or the heat is too much even when the ac is on 22 degree celcius
    -she begins to go for vigils thrice a week but she never invites you to come
    -she changes her display name on bbm and her updates are very hard to decipher, but that will only happen to you
    -she no longer checks your phone and starts being behaving very matured and composed.
    in order to keep your woman; buy her expensive gifts regularly, if you dont have beards pls grow one (It is now been considered as sexy), change your perfume and shave your armpits and PP constantly, start giving her head twice a day or more, visit a dentist and clean out all the plaque on your teeth, clean your car more often and create that unique smile for her……
    if after doing all this and she still leaves you, then kindly call your mother to find a wife for you.
    Thank you>>

    • mz_daniels

      March 19, 2015 at 12:13 pm

      Washere. I love the she starts acting composed part. A married man once told me his wife nags that’s why he likes young girls and I respond by telling him the babes just want his money while the wife is concerned about the family’s future. You don’t nag an ATM except it no longer pays. He went further to say s** with wify isn’t all that and I told him point blank that the only reason a woman would have sex with him was if she was paid. The old man had a huge pot belly and was fat and sweaty.

      Let’s just say the man stopped asking me out

    • Goldyn Gurl

      March 20, 2015 at 7:21 pm


    • olabisi

      March 19, 2015 at 12:18 pm

      lmao!! gurl u vexing.

  57. Twisted

    March 19, 2015 at 10:32 am

    It’s all copy n paste these days…I’m pretty sure he read these suggestions from another mag or watched it from a show
    Abeg just be yourself with ur significant other…If he/she cheats den dey re not right for u

  58. Doxa

    March 19, 2015 at 11:47 am

    Men will continue to feel entitled because women will continue to accept less than they should. How will a woman knowingly accept to be a 2nd wife, side chick, runz girl, etc.
    The higher the supply the lower the price (see what Nigeria is suffering because of oil price). Many ladies have cheapened themselves so many men have low regard for ladies.
    Now if you want respect, you gotta insist.
    Mothers, be careful to train up your sons well else your daughters may be treated like scum.

  59. Jhennique

    March 19, 2015 at 12:06 pm

    So i should kill myself because a man will choose to cheat on me. Brother, i will do the best that is within my power but i cannot be turn trips in bed and on the kitcken stove because i want to keep my man. Who will stay will stay. WHat about what it takes to keep me? oh! i forgot! im a woman. my needs come second.
    How dare i let my body go flabby after pregnancy.
    How dare i wear granny panties or nughtdress before my man?
    how dare i not wake up at 5am everymorning to cook his breakfast before he goes to work?
    How dare i not wash all his boxers and sew the holes in them?
    How dare i not be available to vent his sexual desires on like im some sex receiving machine?
    How dare i be tired?
    How dare i be anything but a baby making, house cleaning, kitchn ninja, Sexual gratifying, Beyonce figure sporting kind of wife???
    How dare i!

    Look im tired of you men! please cheat. i beg you just cheat and leave me alone.
    I know men whose wives slave for them in the kitchen and send them on their way to work with breakfast and lunch boxes. Wives who are hot and i mean smoking hot. Pretty, well mannered and all that shii. I still see them following small gilrs in my office. Who will cheat will cheat so please dont disturb my life with all this nonsense. Like im to blame for a man that cannot exercise self control and respect an oath he took before God to be there for better for worse. I have better things to do than to keep coming up with new ideas of how to make a man stay. OSHI!!!!!!

  60. Sheri

    March 19, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    Hello BellaNaija,

    Please, how can one send across an article to you for a feature?

    Thank you.

  61. yea

    March 19, 2015 at 2:25 pm

    All i know is that with the whole rot in the world and the high rate of broken marriages, some couples still got it all: Good jobs, stable family, well adjusted children, a healthy social life and good relationship with God. life is all about choices, what do you choose?

  62. NaijaPikin

    March 19, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    Is this guy a Medical doctor or does he have a PHD?

    Like joke like joke, in 5 years, dude will move from Doktor Mofin to Dr. Mofin and will now be moving around like say he collect Dr. degree.

    This is what happens when someone will go and read Steve Harvey’s book “think like a man”, watch 50 shades of grey and then think na so real life be.


    March 19, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    Out of joblessness and the need to stay relevant…One man wakes up overnight to become a pyschologist (God is watching you). Your opinions are so skewed and i’m sure if we dig deeper this is just another lift off smwr on the net.
    Mr. Mofin, there are some situations that need experience to solve/advise and no 1st class degree from Cambridge help at this.
    ADVISE: You can have a write up for teenagers on how to channel their time and energy.

    • O~Intuition!

      March 19, 2015 at 10:15 pm

      He shouldn’t try this with our teenagers.

      He will be laying a FALSE, HIGHLY SKEWED foundation.

  64. sum1special

    March 19, 2015 at 4:43 pm

    Men will continue to act this way because we women let them.i refuse to be bothered about what a full grown man has decided to do with his life.Men should understand that women are tired of their bullshit and we dont care anymore. I will only be bothered when I find a good well behaved man who deserves my efforts. Most men dont deserve it

  65. Taiwo

    March 19, 2015 at 8:13 pm

    The guy needs to leave the work to real doctors known as psychiatrists and probably even see one himself.As a lot of people have madness and are not even aware.

    • Silent Observer

      March 21, 2015 at 9:51 pm


  66. Sherri

    March 19, 2015 at 9:39 pm

    Reading all the comments made me so happy and proud of how far my sisters have come.
    I applaud each and everyone of you for knowing your worth and standing up for it!

  67. Akweke

    March 19, 2015 at 10:02 pm

    Someone once asked why most marriages are failing these days.The answer is simple. No one is talking to the men.Go for marriage counselling; woman must! go to get advice from older people: woman must! man waka: woman must! Ike gwuru biko.

  68. Louise

    March 20, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    lmao!!!! I don laugh tire!!! Don’t need no pot-bellied fella. Relationship is a two-way street

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