Joro ‘Doktor Mofin’ Olumofin is back with more relationship insight and this week he asks, ‘Are private relationships better than public relationships?’
Read his thoughts below:
Which is more prolific or Prosperous down the line? Does the type of relationship you’re in determine how prosperous the relationship will be?
This topic has been debatable for a while as many relationship experts and psychologists alike ponder on which type of relationships have the potential to last longer and be more prosperous. There are 2 major types of relationships
(1) Private Relationships or as our generation calls it today (Low-key)
(2) Public Relationships (Media, Red Carpet, Social Media oriented)
Private Relationship are relationships or courting in which a couple decide to keep their affairs, relationships issues, daily activities and information private or to a very limited and small circle. Often times the couples has come to some type of mutual agreement to keep their affairs to themselves and no involves third-parties. The are very much in love and do everything a “normal couple” would but the main difference is they just don’t share their private moments, disagreements, etc with the world allowing outsiders to interfere. Some couples in private relationships may even get engaged and married and not even their co-workers or friends know about it; or have minimum information regarding it. They may be anti-social media and red carpet.
Public Relationships are relationships or courting in which a couple has decided to share details and information about their relationships with the world. They post pictures of their bae/boyfriend/boo on social media often (He woke up like, She woke like this -flawless, my bae is better than yours) and everyone on their different social media avenues recognize their significant other in public even from a mile away. In addition these couples are active at most red carpet events or weddings as a couple, and with glam of red carpet posts come the ugly side of disagreements. As much as they are public with the good they can also be very public with the bad; the couple may openly insult their boyfriends or girlfriends on social media during a fight and some ladies may make posts such as: “If you don’t appreciate me someone else will you big Fool”, “I’m done with men this guy is unappreciative after all I’ve done” and vice versa some guys may post: ” You will definitely and always come back to me”, ” Some people love their shoes and bags more than they love me smh”.
This being said after both relationships have been depicted, which relationships are more suitable and will last longer? In my opinion no form of relationship is set for harmony and peace as the success of relationships are based on these variables: character/personality, occupation, family orientation, attitudinal disposition etc. extroverts may like Public Relationships because it goes in line with their personality but on the contrary an introvert may not want a public relationship as he or she doesn’t like the glam life or people in their business
Pros and Cons of Public and Private Relationships
Private: (Pros) In private relationships there’s no interference from extraneous variables or the public on how you should look, your weight, what you should wear, how you should address your partner and only you two are the masters of your relationship. (Cons) Private relationships can give more room for infidelity and unfaithfulness because only a handful of individuals know of the relationship and one partner can decide to live bachelors life while in relationship.
Public: (Pros) The relationship is full of life and social activities, it is hard for someone in a public relationship to cheat because a lot of people know his or her partner. (Cons) Too many people are your advisers and counselors and they believe they know how your relationship is and how it should go, TMI (Too much information) everyone both ur friends and enemies know a lot about significant other which can bring forth societal pressure; because of the red carpet and media life even if you’re not happy you may not be able to leave the relationship because you’re too much of a public item and often times some people may suffer in silence.
Any decision you make should appeal to and be in alignment with your persona, life orientation and views; there is only a situational approach as we all differ.
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