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Episode 1 of ‘Real Talk’ is here! Watch Obi Somto, Joro Olumofin & Mercy Ajisafe air their Views on Abstinence



It’s finally here!

The host is Cornelia O’Dwyer, the show is NdaniTV’s ‘Real Talk’ where real and down-to-earth discussions are aired.

For the first episode, the Big ‘A’ is discussed.

On Episode 1 of Season 1, Cornelia O’Dwyer talks abstinence with ace photographer Obi Somto, CoolFM On-Air Personality Mercy Ajisafe and the flamboyant psychologist Joro Olumofin.

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The captions are so funny!!!!

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Watch the interesting conversation below.

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  1. dee

    July 14, 2015 at 2:52 pm

    why must they use phonetics speaking presenter! its just annoying, so people that schooled or have lived in Nigeria all their life cant get this sorta job. kmt . these ones will be knacking any how smh

    • Sugar

      July 15, 2015 at 12:05 pm

      Joro Oumofin, I love how calm you are am absolutely in love with you. Bella Naiaja ladies should stop bashing this guy, he’s a perfect gentleman.

      Obi Somto are you straight ?? I really doubt it

    • PurpleiciousBabe

      July 18, 2015 at 12:51 pm

      She should have kept her ‘accent’ real….
      But on a serious note, S.E.X…. this is when you take it and it becomes larger than life.
      People with their ‘myopic’ mindset.

      Its funny how some people before getting married had loads of sex to nothing. Absolute nothing…
      The ones that abstained are having it like’crazy’.
      Vice versa.

      I just think lack of wisdom/knowledge is a baddddting.
      Badting… Badting…. Badting…..

      Each to their own…

  2. de

    July 14, 2015 at 2:53 pm

    obi somto is annoying

    • nene

      July 14, 2015 at 6:18 pm


    • PurpleiciousBabe

      July 18, 2015 at 12:30 pm

      I think he has some sort of Autism though..x
      The photographer I mean….

  3. bim

    July 14, 2015 at 2:59 pm

    lmaoooo….BUT I GET WIFE?! ON TV?!! LOLL.. love the show! well done Cornelia!

  4. LOL

    July 14, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    Oh Wow!! this is really interesting!! Love Love It!
    Please keep this up. A visual version of BN topics.
    I like this Mercy Cool FM babes sha. Very direct and to the point. No time!!

    The voice from the street is even more hilarious!! Did they give them alcohol to unleash their tongue? In Naija? and they are this bold. Indeed change is here.

    • ApataRock

      July 14, 2015 at 5:57 pm

      Mercy congrats!! the bible thumpers will call you an ashewo and bad girl….lol!! nice voice mercy
      Joro Olomofin you quiet for corner….hahahaha. I disliked you based on your articles but hearing you speak. I am impressed oh. no forming or fake phonetics going on. don’t judge a book by its cover they say.
      Cornelia please explain your accent. is it british, American or Nigerian?? you were just flipping back & forth, it gave headache.

      nice show, not looking forward to the next episode…..Falz the bad guy is annoying now. tired of the hello bae thingy. and NOble igwe is just…!

  5. flox

    July 14, 2015 at 3:35 pm


  6. Theisokogirl

    July 14, 2015 at 3:35 pm

    HAHAHHAHH that last guy is just a FOWL!!!!!!!


    July 14, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    So in other words you are all calling God (excuse to say) A LIAR and A FOOL abi?

    God bless you.

    No wonder many oyalls marriages and relationship are cursed and it never works out or all your relationships are miserable. Cos you have been cursed 10 generations.


    • EllesarisEllendil

      July 14, 2015 at 7:11 pm

      If you’ve managed to save yourself till marriage, congratulations!! However judging others goes against the Christian creed, though shall not judge, remove the plank from your eye,

    • truly

      July 15, 2015 at 9:14 am

      thou shalt not judge but thou shalt fornicate?

  8. Dora

    July 14, 2015 at 3:38 pm

    Obi Somto, ur so f!!king empty…. Jeez!!!!!

  9. Ona

    July 14, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    I have a new found respect for Mercy. I love love a woman(esp Nigerian) who has her own mind and doesnt subscribe to the sheepish mentality of the nigerian society, where women live to impress or live out of fear.

    Emmm…i follow obi somto on Ig cos i find his posts funny but omo i didnt expect that voice and mannerism lol.

    • Lawan

      July 14, 2015 at 6:01 pm

      I expected some him to be suave with an ultra sexy voice and undiluted swag in a cocky but this nah meyne

    • Lawan

      July 14, 2015 at 8:20 pm

      I expected him to be some suave guy with an ultra sexy voice and undiluted swag..cocky too but this nah

  10. omoyoruba

    July 14, 2015 at 3:55 pm

    Omdzzz I am dead, so the last guy said he has a wife but had sex with his girlfriend instead. Dis 9ja men are funny ooo, Aniwaiz I love Mercy Ajisafe, she just too real loooool

  11. Juliana

    July 14, 2015 at 3:55 pm

    I GET PISSED OFF when people say what if you are not compatible sexually
    Did you invent sex?
    If God wants you to be compatible – He will make you compatible
    You fools always forget God in the equation. So dumb.
    God invented sex so if he says wait until you married.Damn it, shut the fk up and wait and stop actiing like you know it all. If you break his law may you be cursed.
    I have been celibate for years and I will continue obeying his law. When i meet a guy i tell him straight up, as well expected the idiots run. I say Thank you Jesus for grace he has given me to abstain all these years in this devlish horny world. (ps i dont masturbate neither. I am UNIQUE) – prayer works

    • Abstain

      July 14, 2015 at 4:13 pm

      200 likes for this comment!
      Toooo apt.

    • Tundy

      July 14, 2015 at 4:25 pm

      oh wow. you seem very upset that you are celibate. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Why so mad tho love. Take a chill pil. LMAOOOOOOO

    • Mike

      July 14, 2015 at 5:01 pm

      quick advise, paul said its better to marry than to “burn”..God is not in the business of quenching fire, so leave Him out of it.. go get married & layed quickly & stop pretending like you aint human…#pretender

    • Engoz

      July 14, 2015 at 6:04 pm

      How is she a pretender? Is it because her values doesn’t agree with yours? She has chosen to abstain, you on the other hand have chosen to scatter nyansh everywhere because you don’t wanna ‘burn’. What’s the problem? Nowhere in her comment did she say she wasn’t going to get married, so take your advice and stick it in your butt hole.

    • Tangie

      July 15, 2015 at 5:03 am

      The key word…”Marry” not become a bae, boo, chick, side chick, side guy, live-in girlfriend, permanent boyfriend, playboy, play girl, partner, etc…and whatever names they go by these days

    • Alero

      July 14, 2015 at 6:13 pm

      Juliana, Juliana… If you love God and wouldn’t break His laws (as you imply), you won’t be “fixing” insults everywhere in your comments like decorations, you won’t.

    • icrossmyheart

      July 14, 2015 at 6:16 pm

      It is sad. You are celibate, you are keeping his word and yet you are cursing in just a few sentences, and you are judging. You can see how hypocritical your actions.

      Abstaining from sex is much more than not having sex. In my view, abstaining from sex involves a spiritual reawakening, do good, speak well of others, give generously, etc. So you cannot abstain from sex and plot to kill your neighbour and think you have done well. You will still burn in that hellfire.

      Sex is relative. Having it is relative. I have met very good people who have sex but have a heart of gold. And I have met people who have yet to have sex but are evil and conniving. You cannot pick and choose God’s word. But if you picking and choosing, LEARN NOT TO JUDGE in the process.

    • LotusFlower

      July 14, 2015 at 10:01 pm

      Why so much venom?

    • truly

      July 15, 2015 at 9:23 am

      juliana, do you know i love you! they say “overtly reilgious’ views. well, if you are a christian, the bible says DO NOT FORNICATE! so don’t! or don’t go to church if you dnt think ‘it is meant for you’ You cannot eat your cake and have it mehn. see all the things that are happening in our days, nobody wants to think it is all these anything goes attitude that is contributing to it?
      i really do not like it when people act like sex is the main issue. if you find love, you might have sexual issues but you’ll definitely get a way around it trust me and it will even be more beautiful.
      Fear God people if you claim to believe in him and follow him or don’t follow him simple! instead of causing confusion. We need grace instead of excuses for our actions. just imagine!
      not even one person with an opposite view; it does not really make it an intelligent conversation.

  12. Ona

    July 14, 2015 at 4:05 pm

    ‘Na my gheyfren wey i do am with…but i get wife…’ ?

  13. nonye

    July 14, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    Hmmm… Obi Somto, – he looks brooding, deep, dark and somewhat mysterious in some of his pictures. This clip was an interesting revelation.

    P.S. – If you are a practising Christian then surely you must know that sex outside of marriage is a sin.

  14. ednutey

    July 14, 2015 at 4:08 pm

    Serious real talk!!!! Obi Somto is just a fool,aswear. Finally put a face to Mercy’s voice and that Dr wantin2tins,welldone o,u can lie for the olympics.

    Lmao @ the man who said he’s a professional somtinsomtin,na wa! some pple have taken this 3mins somtin into serious work when its not food.#okbye

  15. Yemi

    July 14, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    I love the way this Mercy chic speaks. She definitely has a radio voice. I absolutely love it.

  16. Int

    July 14, 2015 at 4:20 pm

    So this is what MisiMolu was ranting about on instagram? Lol she was so angry because this Cornelia stole the ‘Real Talk’ idea, name and all from MisiMolu(pulsetv) .. interesting show though.

    • nene

      July 14, 2015 at 6:38 pm

      miss should blame ndani tv, not cornelia

    • Iyamilele

      July 14, 2015 at 7:32 pm

      Cornelia is the one to blame oh, not nDaniTv….lol!!! Cornelia was a guest on the “Real Talk” on Pulse TV. Misi Molu is the host of the show and she believes Cornelia stole her concept & the name of the show…..Drama!!!

      link to the instagram drama –

    • ForReal

      July 14, 2015 at 9:37 pm

      Don’t try to jump on someone else’s success abeg! If your show was so great, how come no one ever heard of it. Just google Real Talk, there are like 1mil shows named Real Talk, even MTV Base sef has a show called real talk. And having a panel talk about general gender and social issues is by no means an original idea. Everybody and their grandma recycles some show idea and then claims they were copied. Abeg go sidon and go and recreate something unique instead of trying to steal someone else’s joy! Me I like the show jare!

    • Meh

      July 15, 2015 at 10:03 am

      LOL.. Just visited the link to the drama.. Please, I have two questions. 1. Who is Misi Molu and what part of TV does she host a show on? 2. Has anyone copyrighted “Real Talk”? Please whoever she is, she should cool down for Jesus. Maybe she should start pushing her own version of Real Talk so hard that folks like me can watch it, instead of sounding like a crybaby. Do your thing and let others flourish mama… If your interpretation of what a show like Real Talk should be is whack, aint nobody you can blame but yourself mama..

  17. Largerthanlifealice

    July 14, 2015 at 4:21 pm

    i still loves me some obi somto

  18. Zeeebby

    July 14, 2015 at 4:46 pm

    Women need to start telling men the truth about sex…. 8 out of 10 times, guys have no idea what they are doing. By the time the guys is done she is just getting started but the show is over. Y’all need to step up your game

    • EllesarisEllendil

      July 14, 2015 at 7:14 pm

      But why should we care?????

      I’m genuinely curious.

  19. Joan85

    July 14, 2015 at 5:02 pm

    Obi Somto… -_- note to self: don’t assume you know a person’s real personality based what they post on social media.

    As per the topic. sex is first of all spiritual. When you understand the depth of how much it affects one’s life/destiny/future, you’ll know why abstinence is the best policy. #Kontinu 🙂

    • icrossmyheart

      July 14, 2015 at 6:12 pm

      HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA….Spirituality is relative. Sex is only spiritual if you make it so. Living is spiritual but I am sure you make decisions and do things that affects your life/destiny.

    • ShayShay

      July 14, 2015 at 7:27 pm

      My dia! Ori e pe! Your head is quite correct for this!

  20. flip23

    July 14, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    The Somto guy is a little hyperactive. Nice discussion though.

  21. XXX

    July 14, 2015 at 5:41 pm

    The Issue of abstinence is subjective and greatly varies ethically, morally and religiously.
    The social concept of abstaining from sex (specifically in Nigeria) has changed over the years. There has been a decline with conformity to abstinence because of the decline in traditional cultural-moral beliefs and religious beliefs. But, an increase in peer pressure and social media/westernized influences.
    Whatever you choose to do, whether it be have sex before marriage or not is up to you.
    But I think we as a society should be careful to not encourage this culture, so that we do not have a society where babies are having babies. Sex is great and abstinence is not easy. But lets think critically sometimes.
    With the way we are going, we would continue to see and increase in the “baby mama”/”baby daddy” syndrome. And this would do nothing but raise even more social/economic issues than we already have in Nigeria. The westernized societies are able to deal with it because the governments have put in place, ways to handle this, through social welfare and so on. We do not have that luxury in Nigeria.
    My argument is, do whatever pleases you, but please make smart choices and if you are unable to, then abstain until you are capable of. But also remember, that prevention is always better that cure.

    P.s. With all due respect, I am constantly highly disappointed with Joro olumofin, as the social psychologist that he claims to be, his critical thinking ability is very low. This, in relation to his articles as well. Mediocre.

  22. Debee!

    July 14, 2015 at 5:44 pm

    Lol!!! What does that guy mean by I’m a professional sexer!!

    • nene

      July 14, 2015 at 6:38 pm


  23. awo

    July 14, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    WOW! Obi Somto WOW.

  24. lll

    July 14, 2015 at 6:17 pm

    obi somto… so you were saying that the reason why our parents marriage isnt working is because they didnt have sex while dating. total B.S you do realise that marriage isnt about sex, there are so many things that make a marriage work and yes sex is included. i had to correct you on that. the other guy then said passion, passion does not mean sex… have you watched passion of the Christ.. i would assume you have. that movie solely was based on the unconditional love God had for us by going through all he did… meaning that passion can be found through many ways not only sex. the idea of abstaining from sex has more advantages than having sex. whether you agree or not is true. God was not blind when he stated that in the bible….. abstaining from sex while dating teaches a lot to name a few self control, integrity etc… anyone can have sex, in fact you dont have to be dating anyone to have sex, but when you abstain it opens more room to get to know that person on a deeper level and find a way to express your love without having sex or making out…… when self control etc is learnt through dating then the marriage becomes less challenging (not challenging) it becomes a part of you…. what about we women who become very gullible or vulnerable to make the right decision since our judgement might be clouded due to “not trying to break the bon” because your having sex… what about sexual diseases or even abortion (i know a friend of mine who has had 3 abortions in the relationship) all in the name of relationship, sex is so good and i love him. if she wasnt sexually active with that fool she calls her boyfreind by now she would have saved herself from all these mess… theres so much you would learn when you abstain but since we live in a society where dogs which we call men can sleep with any one all in the name of sex should be celebrated makes it even harder to know whos who…. i tell you abstainace should be
    something we especially women should try to do cause its a win win for us whether the relationship did not lead to marriage or it did its a win win…… my2cent!!

    • Aj

      July 14, 2015 at 9:23 pm

      I love what you said, abstinence should be practiced by women and men. And abstinence doesn’t stem from the physical restraint from having sex, but it’s something that starts in your heart, your heart has to be pure, and your mind renewed daily. If I’m lusting in my heart, watching sexually explicit movies and reading sexually explicit books (50 shades) and also masturbating, without being intimate with anyone, I’m as guilty as the one who is physically committing the act. Everything boils down to having an intimate relationship with God, as Jesus said, if you love Me you will keep my commandments. be wise people don’t let the enemy fool you. If you do, you are playing the part of the puppet and the devil, the puppeteer.

  25. nene

    July 14, 2015 at 6:18 pm

    i love this show

  26. LOL

    July 14, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    So looking forward to the next episode with Falz! *side eye to that person that insulted my bae*. Love the vox pop! Hahaha please what is “professional sex’??? Good job Ndani! Keep it coming!

    • Tosin

      July 15, 2015 at 5:40 am

      some people are good noni.

  27. Editrix

    July 14, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    Obi Somto is really juvenile. What with the facial expression? And the incoherence? And general lack of critical reasoning. Jeez!

  28. seducer

    July 14, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    I find Cornelia very attractive. Strangely

  29. Tunmi

    July 14, 2015 at 9:02 pm

    Thank goodness for Mercy. I luffff her. Not for only having a different belief system than the majority. But for being able to articulate herself well. And Mercy’s accent comes off as authentic.

    Obi Somto sounding like Imeh Bishop…sooo did not expect that at all, in a totally bad way. Like bros, I did not hexperrrerit. And stop with “baby girl”, it’s coming across as patronizing.

    Even Joro sef. I was expecting a deep voice. Caroline’s accent…hmmm. This makes me miss Two Angry Men. I love the frankness though.

  30. Aj

    July 14, 2015 at 9:10 pm

    My people perish bcos of lack of knowledge. The One who created sex says wait till you are married, He is not a fool. when you have a true relationship with God you will want to do everything to pls Him by His grace. He set up those rules just as any good parent would to protect us yet we are rebellious. And just as any good parent, there are consequences for our rebellion. There are countless implications our sin brings upon us that we don’t even know about not to mention the few that people experience everyday like STD’s, STI’s, unwanted pregnancies, children growing up without a father or mother in the same home, infidelity, all bcos we want to have sex before marriage. News flash, if you cannot exercise self control before you get married, marriage is not going to help, in fact it gets worse after you get married. Prepare now for the life you want later. Protect what God has given you,mour bodies are temples, God made us for His glory and not for sexual immorality. We have to renew our minds daily. I’ve been there, done that and I’m glad God set me free. After these same women will come and cry that their husband is cheating, well you guys opened the door to the devil when you started fornicating, marriage doesn’t shut that door, Jesus does. Have you ever stopped to think why men don’t stop at one? That’s bcos the spirit behind it is lust, and lust never gets satisfied. Repent, it is for your own good. And I know not everyone is Christian but the word applies to us all whether we want to accept it or not.

  31. racks_racks

    July 14, 2015 at 10:12 pm

    See this bunch of fornicators ….. God will forgive you .

  32. nnenne

    July 14, 2015 at 10:58 pm

    Some men loose the ability early in life due to illnesses like diabetes. Should their wives , who probably married them because they were good in bed, leave them?

  33. eva

    July 15, 2015 at 2:56 am

    hahaha the guy said “i do professional sex”. Too funny!

  34. Tosin

    July 15, 2015 at 5:37 am

    I loved it.
    1. Falz’s advert spot
    2. The voxpop, several people’s opinions
    3. the blurbs showing how confused people at the table were by other people’s views lol
    and a distant fourth, the actual real talk at table although it was also nice.
    Do you.

  35. truly

    July 15, 2015 at 9:33 am

    people talk sex before marriage as if it’s only one person that they will hav sex with. sigh! it doesn;t make you different from a hoe if you have had 5 boyfriends and slept with all of them over and over. MY OPINION

  36. Anita

    July 15, 2015 at 10:57 am

    Mofin is all i see#hotandclassydude

  37. Angiee

    July 15, 2015 at 2:40 pm

    I loved that guy that said that sex depends on the woman. We stand to gain more when we abstain before marriage. It’s all about determination, discipline and self control.

    • tunmi

      July 15, 2015 at 7:51 pm

      I understood it as more of a consent issue.

  38. Stacey

    July 15, 2015 at 2:53 pm

    Joro didn’t school or live abroad…

  39. May

    July 15, 2015 at 5:48 pm

    Cornelia is beautiful

  40. Nigerian Lady

    July 15, 2015 at 8:41 pm

    So mad I had the wrong impression of this Joro fellow from the articles he’s written to blogs. Son, you are so fine, so calm, well spoken and you seem like such a gentleman. Read one of your articles on some blog a while back, sounded like such a talkative…. but thats in the past now. Boy you are so attractive, tf?!
    I will find you ah!

  41. Dee-USA

    July 16, 2015 at 10:28 pm

    Sorry, question for Obi and some other commenters, is it abstinence or abstainance?

  42. Jho

    July 21, 2015 at 9:50 am

    In my head im a nymph. In real life im a virgin, and only because I want to God who i serve has commanded to abstain from fornication. I want to live my life to please him and most importantly i dont want to go to hell.
    I no go lie sometimes i want to have sex sooooo bad! Especially when im with a guy who i find very attractive. Im 25 and i intend to stay that way till i marry but i wont stay here and lie that its easy.
    Recently i met a guy. Really really got to like him. Hez the second guy in my whole life iv liked enought to date. The first being my ex. We wouldv dated or been dating but he told me the plain truth, he cannot not have sex with a woman he claims to love. So it didnt work out for us. I was torn between giving in and continuing to my finish line. I chose the latter. E pain me sha but its what Gods expects na shebi? he knows best so imma just chill and wait for his best. #PEACE

  43. Ogamazi

    July 23, 2015 at 5:16 pm

    Honestly I fear for our generation. SIN is now normal and people celebrate it and yet every Sunday the churches are filled to capacity. I wonder and begin to think when people say don’t judge when you point someone’s sin to them. #GodHelpMyGeneration.
    Signed: ogamazi

  44. Liz

    August 6, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    Which one is professional sex again biko?

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