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Is masturbation a sin or not? As a Christian, I’ve always wondered why the church believes it is a sin. Pastors always quote a part of the Bible to lend credence to the belief that it is a sin.

This passage talks about a certain woman, who had to marry her late husband’s brother in order to continue the family lineage. However, her brother-in-law did not want to impregnate her, so while having sex, just before orgasm, he would withdraw and spill semen on the floor instead of ejaculating inside the woman. God struck the man down because of his wickedness in not wanting to impregnate the woman.

Every time I read that passage, I do not understand how anyone would use it as an explanation for masturbation being a sin. The man wasn’t masturbating, he was having sex! God was punishing this man for something other than masturbation. Some also use this passage to discourage contraception (the contraception issue is a topic for another day).

The Bible also mentions in detail, all kinds of sexual acts, perversions and sins, both Old and New Testaments. Why was there no mention of masturbation?

Masturbation (also known as wanking, jerking off, jilling) is the sexual stimulation of parts of one’s own body, usually the genitals for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm.

The most common reasons adults give for masturbating are:

  • to relieve sexual tension
  • achieve sexual pleasure
  • to achieve sexual pleasure when partners are unavailable
  • to learn your pleasure spots, so you can tell your partner what works for you

Many people think masturbation only occurs when a person does not have a sex partner. In fact, people who have regular sex partners masturbate a lot, regardless of if their partner satisfies them sexually or not.

Some of the benefits of masturbation are:

  • physically and emotionally help you learn how you like to be touched and stimulated sexually
  • provide sexual pleasure for people without partners or absent partners, including the elderly
  • provide sexual pleasure for people who choose to abstain from sexual activities with another persons (could be to avoid fornication, adultery or just taking a break from having sex)
  • reduce stress and release sexual tension
  • relieve menstrual cramps

Most times, we associate masturbation with conscious efforts and actions. What happens when you are sleeping/dreaming and having an intense sexual experience; you start criss-crossing your legs in your sleep, then you get the big O! When I was pregnant, I had so many dream-induced orgasms (and no, I don’t have a spirit husband *side-eye*). So am I supposed to wake up and start asking for forgiveness?

I don’t know how wet dreams and sleep-induced sexual experiences happen with guys (please educate us in the comments box).

There are also couples who watch each other masturbate. Is masturbation allowed within confines of marriage, as long as your partner is present? What about phone-sex, skype sex and all other forms of virtual sex/masturbation.

All I know is if masturbation is interfering with your daily activities, job, social life and responsibilities, then you have a problem. This can also be said of many basic activities like eating, drinking, etc.

So what’s your take on masturbation? Have you ever masturbated (with fingers/hands or with an apparatus)? Do you feel ashamed after masturbating? Why?

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I’m Ari. A thirty-something wife, mother and civil engineer. I have a B.Sc & M.Sc degree in Civil & Environmental Engineering. I’m a know-it-all; ask me anything and I’ll have an answer for you. I would love to learn how to code, swim and improve on my writing.

250 Comments

  1. Mimi

    August 18, 2015 at 11:42 pm

    Wow….. you forgot to mention that masturbation is an addiction and has destroyed so many marriages, relationships and lives Masturbation is a sin no matter how we try to justify it. St Paul in his letter to the Corinthians (I Cor 6 MSG) identifies two kinds of sex :sex with intimacy and otherwise. Obviously, masturbation happens to fall under the type of sex without intimacy and this kind of sex leads to loneliness. A heroine addict is no better than someone addicted to masturbation.

    • Kaeto

      August 19, 2015 at 2:57 am

      Herion is not healthy for the body but masturbating just like food is healthy for the body ( facts). Please stop with all this religious dogmas, it will still not lead you to heaven (or will it) like how many so called Christians bow down to the cross in the name of Jesus, isn’t that bowing down to a craven image against the Ten Commandments/ idolizing God another abomination but guess what we are all part of it, like how people bow down to the cross in front of the altar. Masturbate when you feel the urge, is healthy for you. Stop following useless tradition. If eating healthy food makes you an addict so be it, at least that what keeps you healthy and strong like masturbating it reduces the urge to get std from other plus is a workout.

    • buzo

      August 19, 2015 at 10:58 am

      the problem we have in our society dis days is that we don’t fear God and good things are term to be bad while bad Good…my dear you are among the people that don’t read their bible well, u just read to look for how to tackle people with it and not even with better fact. this same bible told us that when the people of Israelite disobey God he sent snake to bet them and instructed Mose to mold one dat who ever look at it will be healed come to what you r saying about bowing for cross and so, nobody told u dey r worshiping the cross does crucifix are their to represent God image and not God himself. get your fact well b4v u talk .

    • Bola

      August 20, 2015 at 2:15 am

      Well thank you all for this awesome read. I am now going to masturbate myself to sleep 🙂

    • sue

      August 19, 2015 at 3:00 am

      Here come the holier than thou people!!!!!!! Masturbation is not an addiction o, it could be an addiction! and so is anything in life when abused…. like she mentioned, drinking, eating, sleeping exercising to mention a few…..I am so sure almost everyone bashing masturbates but then yeah….they r ready to act like holy and shame others. I am still waiting to see the word masturbation in the bible… the only thing we get is people interpreting different verses to mean do not masturbate. still not seen do not sexually pleasure your own self because it is a sin, not by even Peter or Paul, but adultery , fornication and even the meanings are stated cleary, even eating too much- gluttony……

    • Kaeto

      August 19, 2015 at 3:06 am

      Cheating partners don’t destroy marriages but masturbation? Abeg shut up there. Anything can destroy marriages. Like you don’t have your boss dry humping on you, is that a sin, no( no be sex )-the mind nko- a little story-I went to corona and we had a pole ( a stripper pole) we did all kinds of stunting on it but we didn’t see it as a stripper pole in our play ground. If someone dry humps on you or masturbate, the person might not be thinking dirty but just waiting to cum. Like me and rest on the poles nothing dirty, in my mind, except all I saw a pole to swing on and line up with the rest to use it.

    • me

      August 19, 2015 at 8:58 am

      Kato, you, shut up. She only stated the obvious, which is that the author did not include any defect. Masturbation when an addiction is a pure and complete sickness that can destroy ur sexual orientation. Do some research please. You all like researching advantages and not disadvantages

    • Boma

      August 19, 2015 at 9:25 am

      Kaeto, please tell them. Nigerians are just a bunch of religious yet ungodly people. And most of those who put up the religious front masturbate in their closets. For me, masturbation is healthy. You are not being defiled by others in the name of seeking sexual pleasure and to a large extent, it has saved my marriage. I have been married for 18 years. Sexual pleasure is no longer a priority for my husband. I mean, in the last 8 years, I dont think he has asked me if I reach orgasm neither has he helped me to. After several complaints, I have decided to “help myself”’. Lets leave religious dogmas and face reality. Masturbation works. Simple!

    • Anonie

      August 19, 2015 at 3:08 am

      @Mimi
      Oh puhleazzzzze!!!!!!!! *Side Eyes*. You know there are sex addicts right? Does that make sex a sin???? Kukuma tell married people to siddon dey look each other and not have sex because some people out there are addicted to sex.

      Truth is you can be addicted to many things including but not limited to: sex, porn, masturbation, drinking, stealing, reading, watching TV, preaching, evangelizing, heck, you can be addicted to your religion sotay the thing dey turn you kolo mental, and many more.

      Ladies, please explore your bodies, and know what works for you. Don’t let anyone brainwash you in their attempts to CONTROL your body. Lai lai, don’t let them.

    • hehehe

      August 19, 2015 at 7:51 am

      ……..i had to search that scripture (1corin 6: MSG), na wah for you ooo, Comprehension is one thing, Interpretation is another. Don’t state your opinion as the bible’s, please ehnnnn .

    • T

      August 19, 2015 at 12:40 pm

      bulls**t f**king s**! lol what do you know about the bible? Alot of us nowadays now believe we are second to Jesus when in our daily lives we dont even practice anything the bible say, we quote for other sins different from how we sin. We all sin and masturbation is not part of anything written in the bible as the writer has clearly stated, God only punished the man in the bible because he didn’t want to impregnate the woman. For me thats still bulls**t, NO MAN knows why God does anything, we do not understand the way of God simply because he is GOD, if you do, tell me why christians die in accidents even after praying to God, Christianity as a religion is make-believe, you might not understand what that is, i know alot of christian fanatics will have one or two things to say about this but at the end of the day its each to its own and if you believe you are all clean and you operate the bible with the almighty God then you can come at me simply because you know. and thats very okay. Masturbation has nothing to do with your faith, or how you serve God, you can say you know but you can only prove to me you know if you have been to heaven and witness God’s judgement and he’s condemned anyone in your presence while you were there in heaven, not adeboye nor oyedepo knows what the judgement day would b like, we have all read the book of revelations, which describes end time, we dont know if these things would actually happen , because yes random things from the bible has come to pass but alot of it hasnt when they re meant to have manifested in good times, like when unbelievers randomly kills people worshiping GOD in the house of God, but what do we do here? We start to give excuses and exemptions to all Gods declarations to his people in the bible that they shall not die but live, but when it comes to things like masturbation and other things we kill ourselves and judge each other calling people that indulge in certain different sin from your own sin a sinner and start quoting bible passages. In conclusion lol masturbation is not a sin my people lets enjoy this life be good people/christian/muslim/Buddhist and whatnot at the of the day being a good person all in all is the most important thing even as a christian. thank you lol i’m a christian (mountain of fire)

    • ak

      August 19, 2015 at 3:13 pm

      The funny thing is that 99% of women think it is a SIN and actually abstain from the act.

      While probably 99% of men agree it is a sin, but only 30% or less actually abstain.

      Why are women more willing to be masturbation-free/ virgins than men?

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 5:16 pm

      @Mimi.. How dirty you must have felt doing what you love. Did it destroy your marriage? It’s not the devil dear. It’s not your fault you just love touching yourself so much

    • funkey

      August 19, 2015 at 8:12 pm

      There’s Something called luSt and what ever is done out of luSt is sinful, masturbation is one of them. If you wonder if it’s sinful or not, just listen closely to your conscience.

  2. Seriously

    August 18, 2015 at 11:43 pm

    Bells naija ?????????????? Did u run out of posts to use or wat exactly… im confused behind d reasn fr ds post

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Yeah.. Confused and repressed you must be

  3. Seriously

    August 18, 2015 at 11:44 pm

    Bella*

  4. Yekparipa

    August 18, 2015 at 11:48 pm

    AH! BELLA!! What is happening!!

    *after a sip of cold warrer* I’m just here for comments. Religious pontificating starts in threee, two, one…

  5. Sass

    August 19, 2015 at 12:00 am

    How does someone masturbate to reduce Menstural cramps ni to ri olorun. Very durty behaviour I must say.

    • Hmm

      August 19, 2015 at 4:17 am

      Biko say what you know. The contractions during an orgasm work faster and better than any painkiller does on my very intense memorial cramps.

    • Eve

      August 19, 2015 at 7:29 am

      Exactly, I was just going to say the same thing. Studies have shown that the body releases a hormone called oxytocin during an orgasm and that hormone eases pains and makes you feel good. So therefore it is a very good way to ease pain anytime.

    • sass

      August 19, 2015 at 7:50 am

      So you are putting your hand abi a vibrator in somewhere that has blood? Hiss. Please go and use Felvin or Cocodamol. It’s still very durty whether your pain is relieved or not.

    • Hmm

      August 19, 2015 at 12:22 pm

      Sass olori awon body shaming crew. Is it your blood. Is it not my blood. From MY body. Not someone else’s o. What makes the blood untouchable and dirty. Thinking like an Indian villager. Better grow up. I have no sermon to waste on you. Ignorant sod.

      Some of us are allergic to certain classes of pain relievers and are restricted to a few which take hours to work. When you’re rolling on the floor in pain unable to get up before even a drop of blood can come through, share your sanctimony. Until then, jefo men.

    • sass

      August 19, 2015 at 10:21 pm

      My dear you didn’t have to insult me oh but that’s aite. Meanwhile you non “sod” when you are at work or in class and the cramps start do you go and wank?, be deceiving yourself there, allergic indeed.

    • Padre

      August 20, 2015 at 4:36 am

      After an orgasm, your body releases endomorphines, that’s why you shutdown to sleep, however, endomorphines also produce the same effect as painkillers, hence the reduction of pain you feel.

    • JustAGirl

      August 19, 2015 at 9:20 am

      Sass..you got the thought right out of my mind

    • Corolla

      August 19, 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Uhm…..you can masturbate without sticking your finger inside of you! Your clitoris is the highest pleasure point, and if you stimulate it well, you will orgasm. But then, you don’t know anything about your own body…

  6. Damilola

    August 19, 2015 at 12:04 am

    My dear, read the book of Roman by St. Paul. Read from chapter one to four. Then you will no longer be confused. Peace to Your soul dear.

    • WHATIKNOW

      August 19, 2015 at 4:07 pm

      I cant even remember what prompted me to start masturbating at a young age, Was it the sexual abuse, followed by curiosity i frankly cant remember. But what i do remember was no one ever told me it was wrong yet i felt horrible after every time i did it. No one needed to tell me that my neighbor touching me in private places when no one was looking was wrong. All i had to go by was the feeling of utter despair each time it happened.

      I was 25 when i suddenly stopped. I quit cold turkey. I had just given my life to Christ, I came home that sunday, wept profoundly and now im 29 and i have not masturbated till date. This is someone who was addicted to masturbation. What i have to go by is my personal experience, what i know only God did for me.

      I believe When in doubt, please pray. I dont know what God you all serve, but i want to believe you communicate with Him/Her. So if you want to know if masturbation is wrong, i urge you to pray.

  7. QWERTY

    August 19, 2015 at 12:11 am

    Na wah oo

  8. Les 'slut

    August 19, 2015 at 12:11 am

    My pastor told me (after I confessed on my sex addiction in my early 20s) to masturbation and avoid sex till I marry.
    And that has indeed helped me to keep to myself. And most importantly close my legs to married men who has continually made me their target

    • buzo

      August 19, 2015 at 11:03 am

      your pastor told…. my dear don’t do wat your pastor told u do wat is right…..to please God no get shot cut is eather u r in or out… u pastor told u wat u want to hear

  9. Sparks and Tingles

    August 19, 2015 at 12:16 am

    The world would be a better place if rapists, cheats and extremely poor people could just learn to masturbate. Masturbate for the greater good of all!

    • ElessarisEllendil

      August 19, 2015 at 3:10 am

      Hmm, this your thesis interesting sha. I mean its general knowledge that Rape is rarely about the sex itself but the high that comes out of domination, that cheats will be cheats and that being extremely poor may be due to extreme laziness, but please explain how masturbation solves poverty, I’m extremely interested

    • Sparks and Tingles

      August 19, 2015 at 5:50 am

      I wrote that with the assumption that the urge for sex rather than the need to dominate drive people to rape, same goes for cheating. Very poor people who have no business bringing any child into the world end up bearing more children than they can afford to raise instead of just wanking away the urge.

    • nikky

      August 19, 2015 at 7:25 am

      to answer your question, don’t think he/she meant that masturbation can cure poverty. its just reducing the chances of having children they cannot financially afford to raise. if poor people took care of themselves as it were until they are in a better financial situation then, they can do the do with somebody other than themselves.

  10. Kushman

    August 19, 2015 at 12:19 am

    LET THE COMMENTS BEGIN!!!

  11. Panel Beater

    August 19, 2015 at 12:20 am

    I’ve been wanking since I was sixteen and itd a very difficult habit to break. Even when I had 4 or 5 girlfriends at the same time, and now that I’m married with kids, I still wank. Sometimes I find it useful to wank a couple of hours before a hot sex date with my wife. This way I can last for a very long time with her having “cleared the road”.. Some porn actors use this technique too but it doesn’t work all the time and you have to get the timing right. Kids and work makes it difficult for her to have time or the right frame of mind to have regular sex, so whenever we do it has to count and she has to climax.

    I don’t feel masturbation is a seen as it has allowed me to stay faithful to my wife in the last few years. I’ve had my wife wank me off on 4 or 5 occasions but I don’t think she liked the experience. I’ve wanked and blown her off on countless occasions when she was finding it difficult to climax naturally or I was just too tired. She never has a problem with that, in fact I’ve bought her several vibrators and small buzzing appliances that we use together sometimes. I always make sure that the apparatus is no more than 8.5 inches because I don’t want her getting used to anything that is longer than mine. Occasionally we treat ourselves to some class B’s with the usual champagne, fine brandy or both. We also use hardcore porn occasionally. I pride myself in knowing that when it comes to bringing my wife to climax, my hit rate is 95% – BY ANY MEANS POSSIBLE.

    • me

      August 19, 2015 at 4:19 am

      and you are a good man.. wifey is lucky

    • Kaeto

      August 19, 2015 at 6:29 am

      Please you are chief, my fantasy. You just thrilled me this night the best soothing sex info without feeling disgusted ?.

    • me

      August 19, 2015 at 9:03 am

      I’m weak….. what the hell

    • MissThain

      August 19, 2015 at 10:01 am

      OMG!!! You are so on point!!! You almost got me to climax reading your comment. She is so lucky to have you. Most men don’t really care, they’ll rather go out and get the satisfaction since Wifey is busy. I Just got worried about the “it has allowed me to stay faithful to my wife in the last few years.” part. Does that mean in a couple of years you’ll be wondering about again???!!!!!! MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • buzo

      August 19, 2015 at 11:10 am

      God made sex for husband and wife period . what ever u do to get cert. wit ur wife or husband is legit. just for husband and wife outside dat is a sin so try and separate rice from beans well

    • Damilola

      August 19, 2015 at 12:04 pm

      @ panel beater

      Damn!!!! Am I still on bella naija or a different site? I got confused with all these details. Reasonable Men should comment more often,. It’s nice that you care about the pleasure of your wife bcos a lot of men just don’t care. I’m laughing hard at, “I don’t want her to get used to anything longer than mine”. Men, and their ego. It’s hard to accept, masturbation is what is keeping you faithful to your wife but I guess it’s better than doing it with different women outside of your marriage.

      I’m not being religious or anything but masturbation does nothing for me. Toys doesn’t work. I prefer the real thing.

  12. me

    August 19, 2015 at 12:28 am

    That chapter of the bible means something else. Let’s go to the chapter that speaks about lust. When you masturbate, you do so with impure thoughts of you and another right? Now that is the major issue here. If you can touch yourself as you like without those thoughts then fine.

    Now get this right, the fact that we do things or 70% or more of the world’s population participates or supports an act does not always make it right. Does your conscience say it’s wrong? That’s who you should listen to, not some educated atheist, looking for companion in hell.

    Lastly, don’t tell me to chill, that she just asked a question… o no she didn’t. She wrote this article from one side of the bench, which could make me and many others to agree with her…. writer ndi aguuu

    • treasure

      August 19, 2015 at 9:25 am

      bless you, I started masturbating when I was pretty young, teens to be exact and I always, always felt like I was violating myself. I’d feel dirty for days. Mind you, I didn’t even do the finger penetration part, all I did was stroke myself and wiggle my bum on a chair in a way that would elicit pleasure. I became addicted – anytime I felt like, I did it. I could sneak off or hide and all that. I had to pray to break that addiction, it took a long time cuz I still “fell” at least once in 3 months. I finally overcame, I’ve been “masturbation-free” for 3 years and I trust Him to help me stay that way till I get married. Like you said, it’s how it makes you feel. If you feel you can jerk/jill off and still feel the Holy Ghost moving through you, ride on sis/bro. For me, I always felt dirty and wrong and I knew I had to stop it. My opinion, not bashing anyone…

    • Buzo

      August 20, 2015 at 12:43 pm

      the truth is bitter but fills good when u say it and do it dear…i pray God gives u ur man.

    • TA

      August 19, 2015 at 11:35 am

      @ me, You have stated just what t I wanted to say on this topic. THANK YOU!

    • Another Mimi

      August 19, 2015 at 2:04 pm

      A lot of people enjoy sex in their marriage by imagining they are making love to someone else. By doing that they are able to stay faithfully to their partners. But I guess it is all safe until your fantasy becomes available to you. All complicated.

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 5:25 pm

      @me. Your ignorance screams from your words. You think saying all these will somehow erase your self pleasuring acts. I hate phonies like you. It’s not hard really.. Say it! “I touch myself, it feels so good” it has never been a new concept.

  13. Gigig

    August 19, 2015 at 12:33 am

    Lol you seriously used the word “apparatus” while trying to open minds about masturbation? Sounds more like a medical procedure ? good read though can’t wait to read the comments

  14. Anonie

    August 19, 2015 at 12:35 am

    Please, it is NOT a sin. It’s 2015. Who falls for that?

    If you are a woman and you don’t have Hitachi Magic Wand, you are missing out. This massager will drive you to the moon sotay you’ll be screaming, hissing, wailing, clenching, moaning and floating in pure ecstasy within minutes, literally…! Your lady bits will thank you to the core, trust me!

    #EqualRights to #SexualPleasure I say!

    • Nerd

      August 19, 2015 at 4:27 am

      Ah… The hitachi magic wand. My life has not been the same since I discovered it! I feel guilty when I have sex but I don’t feel guilty when I masturbate so I just follow my conscience.

    • Corolla

      August 19, 2015 at 3:52 pm

      Ehen…I have never used toys, but this one sounds quite magical o.

  15. Hmm

    August 19, 2015 at 12:37 am

    This early morning? Chei wahala dey.

  16. Ndubuisi

    August 19, 2015 at 12:46 am

    For all you small minded, backward thinking. Religious freaks there is nothing wrong with masturbation. As a matter of fact it’s healthy to masturbate As long you are doing it in private

    • ElessarisEllendil

      August 19, 2015 at 3:05 am

      Haba! did any of we “Religious Freaks” steal your girl??? Oya sorry ehn. “Backward Thinking” LMFAO some of the greatest minds past and present have been religious, there is such a thing as making your point without rudeness.

    • kanyin

      August 19, 2015 at 7:26 am

      ElessarisEllendil thank you ooo! I don’t understand people sometimes.
      You say “we” make you others look like sinners and we act holy.. “we” judge you.. but you turn around to call us freaks, backward thinkers… who is judging who. If you want to wank… by all means… go ahead. the fact that I think it wrong DOES NOT make me a backward thinker or a freak in anyway. You don’t have to be rude and uncouth because I don’t agree with your “truth” or “fact”.

    • Anon

      August 19, 2015 at 8:18 am

      @ElessarisEllendil, please is the Catholic church against masturbation?
      My boyfriend is Catholic, a commited one. We are both non-virgins, but in this relationship, we are being celibate (100%).
      I am against masturbation and I want to know if he does it, so when next I have the opportunity, I will ask him.
      I just want to know what the Catholic church says about it. I will also appreciate if you van refer me to related reading materials from the Catholic church.
      Thanks.

    • IJustSidonDeyLook

      August 19, 2015 at 10:44 am

      Yes the Catholic Church does. go to Chastity.com or chastityproject.com for all questions you might have on sex, porn, masturbation etc. You can also check for this video on youtube ‘Romance without Regrets’.
      To those Christians out there that want practical answers… for anyone to ever understand this sex related topics, you have to understand the THEOLOGY OF THE BODY (the site should have good audio or video excerpts from talks from Jason Evert. God bless you.
      When I see articles just as this, especially those that start with ‘I am a Christian… but…’ I just sigh, there’s always a bomb coming. True Christianity, across denominations, was never meant to be popular anyway.

    • red

      August 19, 2015 at 3:42 pm

      ojebi! public ni o ba ti se (u for do am for public na)

  17. Anonymous

    August 19, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Hahhahahaha what coincidence!! I just got a big O from masturbating ten mins ago!! Lol. yeah i know. TMI. We on the topic though ???.
    I personally see nothing wrong in masturbating. I’d rather satisfy myself sexually than cheat. You also run no risk of stds. My fiancé has been out of town for work for a week now. I’ve been very horny and holding on. So I decided to satisfy myself a few mins ago with my hands. I feel no guilt. I’m not scared to tell my fiancé either. In fact, that turns him on.
    I also learned my body via masturbation. Eventhough the boo is quite experienced, I made it even better by teaching him my body; how to make love to me, my sensitive spots etc. He also communicated he’s to me. That man can literally look at me and I’m all wet.

    • hothot

      August 22, 2015 at 10:02 pm

      Omg! Omg!Omg! That makes the two of us ooo. I could have sworn that you took the thought right out of my mind. I was just out of the bathroom where I took myself to a very intense big O and the next thing I see is this article. I was like wtf! I lafffed so hard like crazy. Twas just too much of a coincidence. Well, I really dunno what to say whether it’s right or wrong but as a single woman I used to feel a lot of guilt after masturbating and even prayed to God concerning it but as a married woman I don’t feel that pang of guilt. I guess the guilt comes from the same place that tells us that sex outside of marriage is wrong but most people do it anyway. So just do u jare. Sin is sin anyway and we’re all sinners .

  18. Ada Bekee

    August 19, 2015 at 1:11 am

    Honestly, I have masturbated once (that was a very very long time ago) and I was so ashamed of the act that I knelt down and asked God for forgiveness and that was because of my belief that masturbation is a sin. Actually, I did it because I felt like having sex but I wasn’t in any relationship as at that time. Please, we should understand that it’s not everything that we get to see in the holy book. How can one masturbate because he/she wants to avoid the sin of fornication/adultery? Strange. You discover your ‘hot zones’ with your partner and not by masturbation. What about trying out exercises to ease tension and stress? I can try to listen to some of the reasons why people masturbate but the one I don’t really get is why some do it before the very eyes of their partners. Ah ah?! E get as e be nah. In this life eh, you become whatever you ‘train’ yourself to be. If you start up with masturbation as solution to your sex life, it just sticks and becomes a part of your life. I’m married and my husband is always on the move. When I get ‘in the mood’ in his absence, all I do is just flash back on the ones we did and fantasy about it or we talk over the phone. We tell each other how we feel and what we’ll do when we get together again. Gbam! And that does it for me because I have not allowed masturbation into my life schedule. Anyways, this is just my opinion.

    • www.thelmathinks.com

      August 19, 2015 at 6:55 am

      Babes I’m sorry to say but you’re sexually repressed. I kinda feel sorry for you and I’m not saying that to hurt your feelings.

    • Tuu

      August 19, 2015 at 11:44 am

      And You think he doesnt masturbate? Hehehe! I laugh in Spanish!

    • Adain

      August 20, 2015 at 1:26 pm

      LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

  19. Becca

    August 19, 2015 at 1:14 am

    Yea it’s cool, most call on the name of God while we’re at it. All praise is good .

  20. Wale

    August 19, 2015 at 1:14 am

    All I want to know is what site you got the stock photo from?-pleeeeeeeze direct me.
    Boy oh boy!

    • ElessarisEllendil

      August 19, 2015 at 3:01 am

      Oh boy eh, on top picture lasan?

      Side-note BellaNaija topic pictures are always so apt. Kudos to them.

  21. Christian girl who wants to explore

    August 19, 2015 at 1:33 am

    hmm i still have this debate myself, the christian thing that verse doesn’t do it for me but the bit that gets me is that sometimes when masturbating its really hard not to think of someone and that’s when the sin comes in lusting after someone, if you’ve somehow gotten around this let a girl know, i’ve been struggling

  22. Kate

    August 19, 2015 at 1:41 am

    I’m a married woman, in my late 20s. I don’t see anything wrong with one masturbating. My boo and I make real love and we even masturbate each other. It is not a sin.

  23. I see no sin

    August 19, 2015 at 2:01 am

    Sin? I deny. As a divorcee… mastubation is my option. Healthier than humping here and there. At a”secret party” (vendors of sex enhancement devices demonstrate on how to use a variety of sex toys targeting couples, bachelors and spinsters). Nobody is hurt as one explores and discovers his/her body. However, very brave of this author to discuss this topic.

    • Sin it is

      August 19, 2015 at 10:20 am

      Leviticus 15:16-17
      ‘Now if a man has a seminal emission, he shall bathe all his body in water and be unclean until evening. ‘As for any garment or any leather on which there is seminal emission, it shall be washed with water and be unclean until evening.

    • Corolla

      August 19, 2015 at 4:16 pm

      Be quoting the bible there, sogbo! The same old testament does not frown on rape. Infact, it permits the father of a rape victim to marry off his daughter to the rapist, and even collect money in return. The bible also condones the stoning of a rape victim!! Can anyone in this modern day say they will apply that bull shit crap that is found in the “holy book” to their life this day???? 
                                          

  24. Stress relieve

    August 19, 2015 at 2:02 am

    i do masturbate. By myself. When with my man if I wanna go at it again and he is not ready and sometimes when I need to relieve some stress. I don’t feel bad one bit about it and I’m a Christian too. I’d rather masturbate than have a one night stand, especially when I was single.

    • ElessarisEllendil

      August 19, 2015 at 2:59 am

      When people congratulate you, do they wish you more lotion to your right hand instead of more grease to your elbow???

    • Yekparipa

      August 19, 2015 at 10:35 am

      Buhahahahahahahaha

  25. J1m

    August 19, 2015 at 2:12 am

    Maybe you need more points and backing from the bible like in this post
    http://bibleresources.org/masturbation/

  26. ElessarisEllendil

    August 19, 2015 at 2:55 am

    Hi, I’m “ElessarisEllendil” and I’m a “Fapchoholic”.

    You see, I am one of the people with a problem that you mentioned at the end of your article. Note everybody about to flame me that this is my opinion and as such I’ll try to go about in a logical ordered manner. Ohh and this will be very long, its helping me relieve my insomnia so bear with me.

    My problem with masturbation personally is rooted in my personality, It goes against the two things I hold most dear, my faith and self discipline.

    Let’s get the religious bits out of the way first, I mean no disrespect, but I disagree with your Protestant Pastors, Onan’s death was not about Masturbation, rather it was about honour and the sanctity of life. Onan had a duty to Tamar and his dead Brother, one that he knew full well, he was to Father a Son that could carry on his Brother’s line, he willfully and selfishly denied Tamar this. Note also the importance of a male child in Ancient/Biblical times, not just to carry on the family line, but also to help the Woman do the “heavy lifting”, defend the tribe in times of War, tend to the Woman in her old age e.t.c. Now you’re beginning to get a sense of the gravity of Onan’s selfishness, he would rather everybody suffer than do the simple act of “thrust, pause and finish.”. In my opinion, Onan was punished A. For selfishness and B. For dishonouring Tamar, it doesn’t take a particularly active imagination to imagine what a childless Widow who’s first Husband died mysteriously and remains barren with a second Husband would be going through. Even today, the woman always gets the blame.

    Secondly, them pesky Catholic rules forbid it for me, From the Catechism: “By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. “Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action.” “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of “the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved.”. Basically, we take our belief in the sanctity of infant life and the marriage thing way overboard, you ain’t getting none Son unless its with a vagina signed and approved by the Church and you’re pretty much stuck with it for life. I know, I know its seems an impossible standard, but I’m the sort of Gung Ho narcissist that enjoys the sort of things.
    Back in my struggle days, I always used to have this intense feeling of guilt anytime I rubbed one out. The sense of guilt is however not a Catholic thing, I like to think nobody feels comfortable masturbating infront of say their Mother, most Masturbation addicts have a phobia of getting caught, In my opinion, not worth the stress.

    Thirdly, it is a Sin, Women may be able to find loopholes because they’re obviously not expending their eggs during Masturbation but for Men, there are no loopholes especially if you believe in the sanctity of life and the virtue of chastity. No, not Chastity as in No Sex ever! that would be dreary unless you’re called to Priesthood. I meant chastity as in“no sex with anyone other than your spouse.”. The most obvious medium of masturbation is pornography, now you may want to argue, masturbating to pornstars isn’t fornication/adultery, let’s agree to disagree but obviously you’re lusting after Lisa Ann, Jayden James Carmen Hayes e.t.c. Last I checked Lust is a sin for all Christians. From the Catholic POV: the Church teaches that sex is a great gift, which serves unitive and procreative purposes. Masturbation ignores both of these purposes and is inherently a selfish act of pleasure; in essence it is a great disrespect to the ideal of sex as the physical expression of total love between two people, love so powerful that through it we are able to share God’s ability to create new life.
    That being said, it’s a really easy sin to rationalize. Our bodies can crave that physical stimulation with an intensity that rivals hunger or thirst; it can easily reach the point of physical addiction. It often seems to be a “victimless” sin. For better or worse, at a young age when Harlequin wasn’t “corrupting me”, the Church left me with a high ideal of married sex, this is just me holding out for my “I told you so” moment, if it proves less than true.
    Poor jokes aside, I don’t believe that any teaching of the church is meant simply as an “aspirational statement”. It may take a long time; it may be something you struggle with your entire life; you may never quite kick the habit. But the church does not say “try not to masturbate too much”, just like it would not say “try not to murder too much”, and I believe we are called to devote our best efforts into adhering to this teaching.

    Fourthly, I know a lot of Pornstars, their names atleast. Lisa Ann, Gianna Michaels, Alanah Rae, Jayden James, Hitomi Tanaka, believe me, I could go on and on, my knowledge is close to encyclopedic on this, I was “that guy” in secondary school that could give reviews and tell which stars were “boring” e.t.c. However I grew up eventually and I realized something, these women had lives outside pornography, they had friends e.t.c and I had managed to reduce them to just pixels of sex, solely existing for my sexual pleasure, a nadir for me was a particular scene that started with an interview and I didn’t give a shit what this Woman, a fellow human being was saying, I just wanted to skip to the “good part”. I was the sort to have folders(I’m organized like that?), different girls for different moods. I had managed to reduce fellow Human beings to sexual objects , eventually it began to affect my relationship with others, how charming, polite or attentive I was to you depending on how high you ranked on my scale of 1-10(honestly I still rank women, habits die hard but atleast now I make an effort to be generally polite). Generally, you might be the 1% that doesn’t masturbate to pornography or other Women other than your partner, congratulations, you’re special but does you partner mean solely sex to you??

    Time to step away from the murky emotion filled waters of religion into the cold waters of logic and the second thing that means the most to me,Self- discipline!
    Let me put the moral crusade aside, there’s nothing inherently wrong with masturbation. It’s natural. Everyone does it; hell, even monkeys do it. I just choose not to for my own reasons. If you keep masturbating, that’s totally cool — there’s nothing wrong or bad with it. You just have to ask yourself if being like “everybody” is the sort of person you want to be.
    The honest truth about masturbation is it comes down to you and what you want, for every point I make about how masturbation is addictive, let’s play a “I told you so game”, try going masturbation free for 2 months, especially guys. You’ll get my addictive point, from my POV, one of the things which frightens me the most is Lou Gehrig’s disease, the thought of not being in control of my own body, masturbation is the slightly less lethal version.
    I could go on a long lecture about dopamine levels and how our brains continually crave more and more and how you eventually spiral from masturbating solely to your partner, to pioneering new techniques and trying out new genres and new kinks, how odds are it will negatively affect your sex life, you know when you begin comparing and contrasting, making demands your partner may not be able or not want to meet. You’ll call me out for slippery slope logic and you’ll be 100% right, the God’s honest truth is Sure, I like to think that I have good reason to believe what I do about excessive masturbation and porn use. My beliefs are well-founded in reasonable hypotheses based on known information about the brain and addiction, and those hypotheses match many live experiences I know about(we “Fapchoholics” actually have a support system, don’t laugh, the internet is a weird& beautiful place, so I have real life examples of its pros and cons, to which I personally can testify). Some of those beliefs even seem to be gaining some acceptance in the world of mainstream psychology. But, if you’re looking for an empirical study documenting the physical and psychological effects of long-term fapstinence, that study simply doesn’t exist. Like many other diets and personal health and wellness plans, the scientific establishment has not yet had the opportunity to study us in detail hopefully one day — hopefully soon — it will. Then we’ll be able to see more clearly whether what we do here amounts to anything more than the placebo effect. Until then, you have a choice, you can be mainstream or you can be niche, however judging by how much better niche music is, BellaNaija Indie-Rock/Jazz/Classical/House fans you can testify, I say be niche all the way.
    Again, the above are my personal opinions, feel free to demolish the likes button on my behalf if you agree, if you don’t we’re unlikely to change each others minds. History will be the Judge.

    • Mohammad

      August 19, 2015 at 7:29 am

      I am too impressed with your analyses to be gobsmacked by the high standard by which you claim to lead your life. I can see that we will not agree on so many topics, but I love that you like a debate and are willing to punctuate your arguments with facts that support your reasoning. Thank you for the read.

    • Mohammad

      August 19, 2015 at 7:45 am

      By the way, because you were addicted to masturbation to the point of having organised folders for different moods doesn’t mean that the rest of us who aren’t addicted have the same problem. Your apparent OCD is charming, and I appreciate that you are only just explaining your stance, but an addict’s eschewal of the item of their addiction doesn’t make said item bad for everybody else. The same with ex-alcoholics’ and their avoidance of alcohol.

    • Anon

      August 19, 2015 at 8:33 am

      Thanks you have answered the question I asked above.

    • HornyWife

      August 19, 2015 at 9:38 am

      I understand your POV and would have agreed with you 7 – 8 years ago. But after being married for that long to a man who’s completely disinterested in sex (I would have argued before that they didn’t exist, and no he’s not gay and doesn’t have a side chick), if I do not want to begin having sex with strangers, mastubation is my ONLY option. If he was willing to work on it, I probably would have been hopeful. We were celibate before we were married for ‘religious’ reasons. We are still celibate after marriage. This year alone, the last time we had sex was 6 months ago and this isn’t the first time.

    • Idomagirl

      August 19, 2015 at 10:44 pm

      Horny wife, your husband is asexual. Can’t be easy, kpele.

    • Yekparipa

      August 19, 2015 at 10:38 am

      You are a GUY??

      Let’s run off and get married. We can live “fappilly’ ever after

    • Ruby

      August 19, 2015 at 11:31 am

      Really nice read. You expressed my POV better than I would have. You now have an online stalker.

    • Tonya

      August 19, 2015 at 12:19 pm

      Your analyses alone is a turn on…Yum Yum!!

    • bella-blues

      August 19, 2015 at 12:58 pm

      i beg oooh pls make u no vess but u want us to read all this?

    • yes?

      August 19, 2015 at 2:29 pm

      As in…ElessarisEllendil always writes an epistle. You can summarize without having to write so much. #whew..Me don’st have the patience for that

    • Oyindee

      August 19, 2015 at 1:19 pm

      Oh Lordy Lordy Lordy,1 million likes for your comment,Gbamest,did i mention that am flat in love with you!,now where do i send your kiss to…Lols…Oshey Oko mi,aa da fun e

    • Frosh

      August 19, 2015 at 2:57 pm

      Please what does fapchoholic mean?

      I was jus breezing by and amazed at the barrage of comments on this post. Nigerians are so uptight and hypocritical it’s almost comical, it’s our inability to be free and open minded that has kept us in the box we are, we are a people who deeply struggle with ourselves and the irony of it is overwhelming.

      Well imo, to each his own. Pls just help me under what fapcoholic means, thanks

    • Koffie

      August 19, 2015 at 3:42 pm

      I read the replies to your comment to see if someone had already addressed what I’m about to say but I noticed Kingsley took the piss with his revelations. Lol
      Anyways, ElessarisEllendil, from what you wrote (which is impressive), its safe to conclude the Cathecism (not sure I got that right) is only against UNMARRIED people masturbating. And that doesn’t make masturbation wrong in itself, it just makes it equivalent to all other forms of sex which are only acceptable in the confines of marriage and with your partner.
      I’m going to ignore the slightly condescending manner you spoke of protestants because I like your mind.

  27. kinsley

    August 19, 2015 at 4:12 am

    @ada bekee………[email protected] girl who wants to explore…………@kate……………@stress relieve

    In a family prayer deliverance meeting God revealed to our visiting deliverance pastor that i was masturbating………….It is true that everything is clear in the bible but there are some things that except your eyes are opened in the spiritual realm you will never understand……….. pls…..i beg all of you to stay away from masturbating……..including various sexual styles like doggy because it is not of God………….missionary sex position is the only acceptable position in the eyes of God………………. the pastors may not give many bible passages…but the spirit of God teaches us that this things are sins

    • freaky

      August 19, 2015 at 5:40 am

      huh?

      How boring!

    • ElessarisEllendil

      August 19, 2015 at 6:02 am

      Hian!, please let us stop trivializing what God does or does not allow. You’re allowed to go H.A.M in any position you please, as long as its with your wife. Haba!! of all the hair-brai……………………its too early abeg, whatever floats your boat, just make sure to sample your Significant Other’s opinion on the matter.

    • Ada Nnewi

      August 19, 2015 at 7:10 am

      Doggy style kwa!…And I love that one tt

    • Oma

      August 19, 2015 at 9:48 am

      loool Ada Nnewi,
      my sister, and here i was reminding my fiancee early this morning that i miss the doggy kpanshing, especially the one when he holds the “kuku” in front…brother now says its a sin…..

    • bokun

      August 19, 2015 at 8:32 am

      @kinsley So did the spirit also reveal to you that madams role is just to lay flat while u enjoy oga on top postion. Beware the Spirits you listen to oh!. And boss if I were you I won’t let wifey alone with that pastor oh!.

    • Tari

      August 19, 2015 at 9:42 am

      Doggy and (possibly reverse cowgirl) are not allowed by “God”?
      Na im be say my seat in “hell” is already reserved.
      Please come back and confirm you were not being sarcastic with your comment. There is no iota of Godliness in that poo you just typed up there and not one verse of the bible backs it up.
      Please you and your deliverance pastor should stop insulting Christianity.
      Jesus did not die for this o.

    • Yekparipa

      August 19, 2015 at 10:42 am

      Bruh abeg shift with your missionary! After saving myself till marriage I’ll be limited to only missionary? #Bishwhere #Devilisafuckingliar #Missmewithyourwarpedchristianity

    • adelegirl

      August 19, 2015 at 1:44 pm

      Nonsense talk! Lemme just say the one that is paining me the most in this balderdash you typed. So I should not have sexual relations with my husband in my pregnant state as missionary style is absolutely impossible now. Please go and sit down somewhere with this nonsense. God made sex to be pleasurable biko otherwise if it were just for procreating it would have just been like taking a dump – nowhere near as pleasurable as an orgasm and the feelings that come with coitus with a loved one. Pleasurable sex comes in so many different forms. Also, most women cannot achieve orgasm during penetrative sex with their partner via missionary style, I found this to be true personally at any rate. You are obviously a selfish lover to think this way.

      Come sef, I don’t even know why I bothered to respond to someone that can’t even spell his name correctly.

    • celibacy struggles

      August 19, 2015 at 2:22 pm

      lmaooooooo!! so i go celibate only to do missionary for the wedding night and honey moon and happily never after??!!!!mba let me just start d missionary already then!
      Okay, dry, but u know God gave us the sense to invent sha? from aeroplanes, telephones, to sex style..sex is not bad oo…it is outside marriage it is bad o. so if they invent new ways to commit one holy act who is ur pastor to tel me not to *sigh*
      oh yea i think wanking…i prefer to call it that, is bad..i feel guilty each time..getting delievered tho..but then i feel like my own is sprititual.. i promise im not a narcissist, but im so frigging attracted to my own body i can get turned on looking at my naked self wishing somebody somewhere will just ravish me(i think it has to do with being 8 months celibate)

    • Thatcher

      August 19, 2015 at 2:46 pm

      LMAOO better leave that boring missionary and experiment jare ???

    • Corolla

      August 19, 2015 at 4:26 pm

      @Kinsley Tehehe….lol.. I feel bad for your wife/future wife. Poor woman!

    • hothot

      August 22, 2015 at 10:57 pm

      Err. ..excuse me? U mean woman on top style is bad? Too bad cos that’s the only way I have ever climaxed asides from direct stimulation. So u mean that that is a sin? Lol. Please what makes other styles asides from the missionary a sin nne??? Ok I get it, you’re one of those kinds that take things only literally and can’t just understand the underlying message. I can’t believe that you actually believe that! seriously ? No girl you must be joking. Ehn? Ihieeeeeee!!! Gosh! Ignorance is bliss shaaa… what a bondage you are in.

  28. me

    August 19, 2015 at 4:35 am

    well I masturbate to ease sexual build up.. especially if I’m meeting up with a potential boo.. gats to wank off to avoid any explosive sexual urges.. (if that makes sense lol)..
    with masturbating.. I know where I want to be touched..still haven’t experienced the big O coz I let go when it gets too hot 😀

    • me

      August 19, 2015 at 9:18 am

      Joker. I see evil has come to stay. We all know humans love to embrace what they love and make it seem like gold. Same way some of you would argue that sex is not a sin.

  29. jane

    August 19, 2015 at 4:58 am

    its funny how people categorize masturbation as a ‘sin’,but say that sleeping with your boyfriend/girlfriend is okay…It is a bit hypocritical to me. If you want to talk bible now,technically both of them are sins, are’nt they? We should not talk out of two mouths. If you dont feel comfortable with it, then you dont. There is no need to blow hot and cold.

  30. Nahum

    August 19, 2015 at 5:00 am

    Now I know why Nigerians are always angry and agressive…too much pent up sexual energy. People please, a beg free yourselves. I would rather a man masturbates till the heavens fall, rather than raping a child. Coincidentally, we are witnessing a lot of child rape in this country….hmmmm

  31. leftbrained

    August 19, 2015 at 5:00 am

    Seriously i dont think its good or bad except what you believe about it. However y’all need to understand the facts is there is a spiritual dimension to it esp those who do it while watching porn. I was once an addict and good lord knows it wasnt easy at all,i had ask for forgiveness a millionth time and always feel guilty perhaps i was too spiritually minded and all that plus i have never dated before (yes i mean it, im 56/2) which must have been the result of continous masturbation that kill any interest in the opposite sex. I dnt know if its sin or not but i always feel bad after doing it ,still justify it because i have a high sexdrive and instead of me sleeping around and breaking heart along, i better stay my corner.
    Btw i still conssider myself a Virgin lolz.

  32. Dear Ari (Writer)

    August 19, 2015 at 5:09 am

    The Bible never explicitly mentions masturbation or states whether or not masturbation is a sin. The Scripture most frequently pointed to in regards to masturbation is the story of Onan in Genesis 38:9-10. Some interpret this passage as saying that “spilling your seed” on the ground is a sin. However, that is not precisely what the passage is saying. God condemned Onan not for “spilling his seed” but because Onan refused to fulfill his duty to provide an heir for his brother. The passage is not about masturbation, but rather about fulfilling a family duty. A second passage sometimes used as evidence for masturbation’s being a sin is Matthew 5:27-30. Jesus speaks against having lustful thoughts and then says, “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.” While there are parallels between this passage and masturbation, it is unlikely that masturbation was what Jesus was alluding to.

    While the Bible nowhere explicitly states that masturbation is a sin, there is no question as to whether the actions that lead to masturbation are sinful. Masturbation is nearly always the result of lustful thoughts, sexual stimulation, and/or pornographic images. It is these problems that need to be dealt with. If the sins of lust, immoral thoughts, and pornography are forsaken and overcome, masturbation will become a non-issue. Many people struggle with guilty feelings concerning masturbation, when in reality, the things that led to the act are far more worthy of repentance.

    There are some biblical principles that can be applied to the issue of masturbation. Ephesians 5:3 declares, “Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity.” It is hard to see how masturbating can pass that particular test. The Bible teaches us, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31). If you cannot give God glory for something, you should not do it. If a person is not fully convinced that an activity is pleasing to God, then it is a sin: “Everything that does not come from faith is sin” (Romans 14:23). Further, we need to remember that our bodies have been redeemed and belong to God. “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). This great truth should have a real bearing on what we do with our bodies. In light of these principles, the conclusion that masturbation is a sin is biblical. Clearly, masturbation is not glorifying to God; it does not avoid the appearance of immorality, nor does it pass the test of God’s having ownership over our bodies.

    • Mohammad

      August 19, 2015 at 7:36 am

      How my friend do you explain the fact that despite my extreme holy-holy behaviour (absolutely true) when I was 15, did I get my first orgasm while dreaming I was riding a horse?! I spilt my seed in my pyjamas! Does that mean God is going to punish me for spilling my seed too? The guilt of which we speak is because of religious dogma. Why so tense? Abeg free yaself and have a wank.

    • me

      August 19, 2015 at 9:21 am

      You had wet dream. That is not a sin.

    • treasure

      August 19, 2015 at 9:40 am

      his/her sole opinion, if you don’t agree, pls keep wanking away but don’t ask someone else to.

    • Bella

      August 19, 2015 at 12:32 pm

      I ran track at school and for the first time, I had an orgasm, I was 16. So does that make me HELL BOUND. I jog now twice a day for fitness and the love of running and I don’t touch myself but I feel the buzz and heat coming and I keep moving. What sin is that then????

    • ak

      August 19, 2015 at 3:09 pm

      Please shut up there.

      Which kind lustful thoughts? Abeg have a seat before you say nonsense.

      Isn’t lustful thoughts what causes a man to have sex with his wife?

      Or doesn’t he caress her with his right hand?

      Abeg. shift there.

      The same way it is ok for married couples because they are married.

      the same it is ok for singles because they are single.

      The problem is when you are unmarried/unfaithful— The sin is not to God, but unto yourself and others… You risk STD’s, bearing a child out of wedlock, abortion and falling out of love with your spouse.

      It really is that simple

  33. leftbrained

    August 19, 2015 at 5:15 am

    On a more serious note.
    Let us not encourage what some cannot bear, the bible talks about if what you are doing doesnt look bad to you but others are struggling to get out of it, dont reinforced it by being insensitive. I am not a bible scholar, i know the scriptures by heart not by verses and chapters.
    Testimony time lolz
    I was once an addict and porn addict too as it really affect everythg about me then: school, spiritual life, communication, objectifying women as just a means for sexual pleasure and all that. The shame and the guilt are REAL not because sombori told me but i jes feel bad after doing it
    If someone needs help as to my recovery process, you are welcome. Especially those addicted to porn. I am not an expert but we can walk the road together. I have been there, done that, got the TShirt and sold it off later

    Its not gonna be easy tho but iits possible
    Oh my mail just incase: [email protected]

  34. Godlovesme4me

    August 19, 2015 at 5:32 am

    Masturbation is a SIN!!! Like a few people have mentioned, it occurs when one lust after someone in their heart and wishes the person is the one doing whatever he or she is doing to him or her self. It is a very bad habit to break from but through willingness and complete grace and mercy from God one can be delivered from it if sincerely one truly wants to stop it. As children of God we were created in the likeness and image of God & He sure didn’t put masturbation on any one of us. How does one begin to masturbate? I believe sexual abuse from a tender age is a major cause of it. I know this because I’m still praying for complete deliverance from the spirit of masturbation. I hate myself after engaging in the act and although I ask God to forgive me, I feel ashamed to stand in His presence afterwards. I know this kind only comes out with extensive prayer and fasting. May God help us all and deliver us from every lustful character that does not glorify His name in our lives. Amen!

    • treasure

      August 19, 2015 at 9:49 am

      The first step is acknowledging that it is a sin, then do not only ask for forgiveness but also for deliverance from the hold masturbation has on you. Next, try to engage in other activities when you feel the urge (sing, pray, be with people, etc) till the urge passes. And most importantly, abstain from films and all that provoke the tendency. The more you overcome, the stronger you get and soon you will be alone at home for days and not feel the pressure at all. I’m living witness. God bless you dear.

    • celibacy struggles

      August 19, 2015 at 2:42 pm

      i have something to say about lust tho.they tell us sex is a sin, they say when u are dating, u guys can want each other but you shouldnt get to the point of sex..they say its fine to want to do wicked suff to someone, its even normal cos well, if u dont feel that way before marriage, then ur sex life as couples will be boring..so, if wanting someone and imagining them doing oh very wickedly nice things to u is a sin, arent we all going to hell? that hormone that goes into operation when u are with ur boo u want to marry or not sef, that is going to lead u to hell right, cos its lust right? is that feeling not lust? when u guys start kissing and he’s getting hard and vice versa and then u both pull back..that very moment was lust right?am i thinking straight?

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 5:12 pm

      @Godlovesme4me…. You poor thing. Did you see that you calling it a sin didn’t stop you from loving it. Who are you really fooling?

  35. smh

    August 19, 2015 at 6:38 am

    to summarize most of the comment here…..”I FEEL it is not a sin….. I’m a Christian”
    the first sin here is Idolatry, you have all made up a God in minds that’s ok with what you feel is ok.
    Lust – masturbation occurs with Images and sexual thoughts involving a non participating individual processed in the mind of the person masturbating.

    “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” The bodies of believers are the “temple of the Holy Spirit”…….(Bibeli Mimo)

  36. Way

    August 19, 2015 at 7:22 am

    Am happy that we still have sane people around in tis end times.The point is masturbation is a sin.Are we guilty of it?Yes!Should we glory in it?No.Ask forgiveness and desist from it cos no repentance after death more so every act of sin will be accounted for.

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 5:08 pm

      @way, you can ask for forgiveness all you want. You still love it, you still do it. We know

  37. paula

    August 19, 2015 at 7:35 am

    He is my first ever and he has never been able to make me orgasm because he is a very selfish lover. I am not very experienced, so i would love for him to teach me how to be a good lover to him, but no, it ain’t happening. I love sucking his dick, testicles very slowly, kissing his whole body, bum and ears, slowly tonguing him and pleasing him. When it comes to thrusting, i do my best, but he is not always patient and expect me to do like a porn girl. This misbehaviour of his encouraged me to watch porn in order to teach myself how to please him, but instead of helping it corrupted my mind ad whenever i was in bed, i was fastfucking, spiting and trying to be someone i was not. He too felt it was out of character and said he was enjoying the way i was giving it to him slowly, so i stopped watching other people having sex. Nobody is born a sex expert, the more you do it, the better you become at it. The more loving, patient,open-minded your lover, the sweeter the love making. My boyfriend is very selfish, so i am pleasing him and not being pleased. He does not like to go down on me and suck me to orgasm as he finds it dirty, all the contrary to me. When i do something wrong, the response is always cold. Once i had yeast infection and i had never experienced it or knew what it was. I actually developed it because i was over washing my private in order to be good for him. We had sex, but my libido was not there and i was extremely dry. He got upset with me because i could not cum and was as dry as the Sahara. He refused to be affectionate towards me, because according to him “what’s the point, you will not even feel anything”. This hurt me really bad, plus my bladder was irritating, i was painfully peeing every 5 min. I made an appointment with the gynaecologist and tests revealed i was suffering from yeast infection. I was given a treatment and since then, i am very careful how i clean my private, only with water and i make sure no longer to go deep into my vagina as it self cleans. I clean my private lips and all that should be gently cleaned without causing further damages as i used to. All vaginal soaps and perfume are banned for good as advised by the doctor. I also try my best to wear cotton underwear’s and no tight pants. I sleep naked whenever i can and i now drink so much water. My boyfriend has been away for sometimes now, so i could not try out with him to find out whether i was no longer dry down there. I initially looked down with a mirror and it was very scary how dry i was there and i cried a river. Since doing all the above, things have improved so much. I bought a vibrator and tried it on my lips and clito and i became wet, something i had never experienced with my boyfriend to the point i became addicted to the toy. Then i told myself that i should try masturbating to know my sensitive area, my body and what works for me. It took me ages to convince myself into seriously doing it cos it felt somehow awkward and wrong to do such without a partner. Then, a month ago i succeeded and again i cried a river. I can cum, i can shake with pleasure, it feels like i am being electrocuted, it is orgasmic and so enjoyable. I have done it over and over again on my own and same result, wet wet wet, no longer dry. Next time my boyfriend is around, i will force teach him how to press my button and please me. I love for him to be gentle all throughout and not rush. I feel like a woman at last!

    • Sugar

      August 19, 2015 at 1:19 pm

      So you did all this with boyfriend ure not yet married to? And you trying to please a man who is not yet your husband in indulging in all you stated above.
      I’m short of words!

    • Idomagirl

      August 19, 2015 at 10:49 pm

      Paula better break up with that selfish human. Hian!

    • oyindee

      August 19, 2015 at 11:13 pm

      You need help,,,,if there was a meter on that thing it would read zero or wait minus zero,abeg shift…

  38. chic

    August 19, 2015 at 7:48 am

    Maybe it’s sin, maybe it’s not. I can’t tell and can’t judge because I’m guilty too. I indulge in this (sinful) act because I love sex and can’t always have it when I want. Rather than cheat, I just fix myself up #wink# I also have very bad menstrual cramps and it really helps to ease the pain. Sometimes I feel guilty, sometimes I don’t. I am very normal, happily married with a daughter.

  39. tilda

    August 19, 2015 at 7:54 am

    In my opinion masturbation is natural. It can happen in sleep. Small children innocently do it and for them it is not synonymous with porn – just a natural curiosity. However if you feel it is a sin then yes you condemn yourself by doing it. Based on your dogma ,Your conscience will judge you leading you to chronic heslth ptoblems like anxiety attacks, depression self loathing. These are chronic health problems that destroy life. Catholic priest do not get married based on their proclaimed faith it doesn’t make them holier. Some people can never be allowed to masturbating becos their faith forbade it. I myself enjoy the benefits of masturbation in moderation. The long and short of the matter is to each his own .

  40. anonymous

    August 19, 2015 at 8:07 am

    I strongly believe as a Christian masturbation is a sin, it doesn’t portray us clean before GOD our creator. Please we should abstain from it.

  41. jane

    August 19, 2015 at 8:18 am

    Dear writer do you masturbate? Very often masturbation isn’t a lone ranger, it has a twin called pornography. Many young children today are getting Into pornography bcoz of masturbation. Sometimes it’s easy 2 say somethings are ok because we are the ones doing them. How wld you feel if u met ur spouse constantly masturbating. Or your 13 year old child masturbating, wld you clap 4 them? Masturbation doesn’t cm without effects, it’s not a mechanical act because we are not dogs, we are humans.. so it has effects whether or not we deny it. Let your innerman be the judge. Also to the dude that said you watch hardcore porn with your wife, pornography is a terrible trap, insyd or outsyd marriage. Be very careful or you could destroy your home. God created Sex, let him be your inspiration. It’s a mental problem that makes people wnt to see others naked, and having raw sex, to be satisfied. Pornography is DANGEROUS. My take on masturbation is simple, it’s not a lone ranger, it’s more often than not linked to porn, lustful thoughts nd other stuff. I judge no1. But one day we shall answer for every act. Let your conscience guide you

    • JustAGirl

      August 19, 2015 at 9:21 am

      Gbam! You said it! I love you Jane

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 5:06 pm

      Dear Jane. I have one question. How good did it feel when you did it.? So good right? Oh Jane give up the sermon. You are not a better person than everyone here

  42. wale

    August 19, 2015 at 8:22 am

    Anyway from so many comments masturbation regarded as a sin or as a self molestation, either it’s a sin or molestation the best option is to get married as soon as one is matured to do so.
    The God’s purpose for creating the urge in animals and human beings alike is to have it satisfied with our rightly married partner. (especially we political animals)
    It’s obvious God knows more than we do, the way he created us (in both Bible and Qur’an no where or passage the issue of masturbation is ever discussed either extensively or briefly.
    The scripture states that “let everyone get its soulmate as at when due…” And for Qur’an it states that get married once you’re capable and or engage yourself in fasting (voluntarily) once you realised you are not capable/ there is not yet provision such as place to put your wife (house) or no job to cater for the wife. Hold your urges, that fasting will reduce the urge in you till God provide for you from It’s bounties.
    ” And we know fasting itself is a prayer to God to answer such fulfillment”
    And you should enter into your wife/wives any way you like/any style but except you should never enter into your woman /women from the Anus (take note) and don’t enter into your woman during their menstrual periods or after childbirth until they’re clean and feel comfortable to do so. “bcos it’s for your own safety”.
    Now, people that are divorced or loose their partner should re-married in accordance with law as soon as possible to avoid illicit practice in a society.
    As for masturbation as concerned, it is not 100% solution but aforementioned above advices’ from both scripture.
    For men who doesn’t have sex after been experienced “prostate cancer ♋” is knocking the door and as for women real insomnia without that non of doctor’s prescription can heal is underway. Gbam!
    Have sex when urges come but with your rightly possessed woman AVOID RAPING it’s a crime both in sight of God almighty and governments.
    But if you’re in dilemma masturbation is saver compare to public molestation or Jail! And don’t get addicted.
    More wife or stay together no matter condition or 2 weeks interval maximum.
    It strengths love and no loopholes for intruders/snatchers.
    Mo so yi mo duro na….!

    • Mohammad

      August 19, 2015 at 10:11 am

      So the Bible says this and the Qur’an says that. What about the holy books of Ifa? Omadioha nko?

    • Asgrl

      August 19, 2015 at 1:54 pm

      ????????????

  43. anonymous

    August 19, 2015 at 8:28 am

    i am in my early twenties. graduated with a high 2:1 in chemical engineering. There are goals i have set for myself. One of which is no marriage until I have a job. I live with a woman who is living my dreams. She recently bought her first car at age 29 and works for a multinational. I am presently 22yrs old but some of the job aptitude tests i have written are not coming out positive. Just fresh out of nysc I am already furstrated and worried. My parents are happy for her and all i feel is this sense of failure. Being the first born I want to be able to take care of my parents and get of their backs as quickly as possible. Any words of encouragement?

    • :)

      August 19, 2015 at 10:52 am

      I am going through this at the moment, graduated with a 2:1 and 22 years as well. I am disappointed with myself, feel ashamed and embarrassed by my situation. Although, my parent try to put my mind to rest I just cant shake the feeling. I am tired, feel like a failure everyday, cant sleep properly and having anxiety issues makes it even worse. I’ve given up on trying to make anything work, but for you I hope you find happiness and all your dreams come true because you deserve it.

    • JustAGirl

      August 19, 2015 at 11:36 am

      At first I thought why are these two commenting off the topic, but the on a second thougt I decided to give my two cents to see how it could help.

      You two should just remain positive. you are still young jeez! Well how can I blame you in a world that has become so fast paced. I graduated at the age of 24. Even as I worried as I was back then, fast forward a few years after, and I have made impressive progress, live away from my parents, pay my bills, have a steady job and my own car to take me around. Its not about how fast you get there, true some get there really fast, but determination and perseverance together with a good disposition is key.

      Except you keep thinking positive, remain determined and happy with yourself regardless, this stepping forward will become difficult as the road will seem too far away.

      Do something to keep you busy, try new things while you are awaiting a steady job, and don’t always sit and wait for the “big bang” jobs. Just because so and so person got a job with a multinational does not mean you have to turn all others, waiting for the multinationals yourself. Start from somewhere..anywhere..just don’t stay irrelevant!

      22 is damn too young to be giving up already!

    • jane

      August 19, 2015 at 9:32 pm

      22. Don’t give up. You are what you say u are. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Please find ds book nd read it. ‘7habits of highly effective people by Steven covey’ it will change your life.

    • Tari

      August 19, 2015 at 12:53 pm

      I have so much words of encouragement for you. I wish I could send you an email.
      BN, please create an article out of this cry for help, so I can pour out my heart to this lady (I assume). The struggle for attainment is crushing many young people these days.
      Anonymous, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please don’t let anyone belittle your discouragement. It is real.
      However, you can come through and come through intact.

    • What?

      August 19, 2015 at 2:20 pm

      @21, 22years?
      wow!

      You comparing yourself to another 29yr old who got herself a car?
      You need to step out and see what is happening
      You are just 21/22 and you are bothered like this?
      many 30yr old single, jobless ladies who havent got anything going on for them
      nothing at all. where are the jobs?
      You are too young
      Go for a MSC/M.A and PhD degree

      Contentment with godliness is great gain

    • Another Mimi

      August 19, 2015 at 2:41 pm

      Your performance on attitude test will improve if you practice a lot as your brain gets used to answering questions in that way.

  44. pesh

    August 19, 2015 at 8:37 am

    Bellanaija i hope u r not agent of HELL? I am quitting after this msg, Dear writer kindly ask 4 MERCY he will 4give u, By HIS grace u will re-write this msg.AMEN.
    God made them Man n Woman, after the creation of Adam HE said it’s not good. Can you be wiser than the manufacturer? HE would hv allowed Adam to masturbate to free us from Eve’s mistake /sin .
    Since creation, men have been seeking for comfort outside their creator, thereby indulging in all sorts like homosexual, masturbation,transgender, democracy, bisexual, Cohabiting, contract marriages etc so sad, it has NEVER worked. But i have good news for you this morning, Seek the Manufacturer’s or CREATOR’S mind before you make your decisions and you joy will be full. . #YOU CANNOT BE WISER THAN YOUR CREATOR.

    • whocares

      August 19, 2015 at 11:24 am

      BN is an agent of hell? Gerrahere. What is wrong with you? LMAOO. Is BN buying bombs and distributing it to boko haram? telling you to throw your bible in the lagoon? “agent of hell”. I just cant deal with some people sometimes. If you do not agree, say why, and please be intelligible. Nothing you have said here strikes me as particularly intelligent.
      As for the writer seeking for mercy, (another ell oh hell) who created her body? who created the man and the woman. He created it and thought it was good. If you decide to touch yourself whilst thinking of your husband, the man you are wedded to in holy matrimony, please how is that a sin? Do you know anything about the author that you are here implicitly condemning her out of God’s mery? By God’s grace you will also see sense and re-write this drivel you have written here. Usually I do not have time for silly people like you. But I have your time today. I am on leave.
      Personally, I find lots of the comments on this topic odious, but I enjoy reading them nonetheless because it opens my mind. I do not approve of it, but I read it with an open mind, therefore in a conversation, I can contribute to both sides of the conversation whilst still holding firmly onto my beliefs or in this case my wand. (oooh have I shocked you? are you about to swoon?) Before you start bible thumping and choking us with the fumes from your “turari” open whatever is left of your mind just a bit. I am not asking you accept it, or masturbate or think it is right. I am asking you to be able to converse with people, hear what they have to say, say what you have to say, without condemning anyone. . Try that next time, See if you wont get that promotion you have been battling for, or that uncle that wont look at you twice

    • truth

      August 19, 2015 at 2:04 pm

      You hear am pesh. Ewu . You’ve just being served. What you wrote is complete utter mad, nonsense. the rantings of a monkey. Just thank this “who cares” for giving a damn to educate your monkey level brain. And go F Yourself cause nobody else would. Anofia.

    • Manjaro

      August 19, 2015 at 8:45 pm

      Who cares, All I can say is, AMEN, sister!

    • ferrari

      August 19, 2015 at 1:09 pm

      What does that Bible you read say about judging others????

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 5:00 pm

      @pesh. Almost feel sorry for you. Your views are retarded. You must love touching your self so bad for you to be this mad. Let go of that chain gal

    • Idomagirl

      August 19, 2015 at 10:52 pm

      Pesh, what is democracy doing on this your list? ???

  45. papaadex

    August 19, 2015 at 9:05 am

    Pastor chris of Christ Embassy church said masturbation is not a sin , after few years his wife divorced him. I guess is a lesson for us to know the negative effect of it in a marriage .

    • Bella

      August 19, 2015 at 12:46 pm

      I’m sorry but dis ur comment is very stupid! LOLLEST!

  46. Amh

    August 19, 2015 at 9:33 am

    Masturbation is sweet.

  47. thoughtfulhusband

    August 19, 2015 at 9:35 am

    I have been married for 8years, and my wife and sex are twins. I got offered a scholarship to do my masters abroad, and i couldnt afford taking her.
    She wouldnt survive without sex for a month talk less of 6months(before my next visit).
    And so i fired our driver, gardner, houseboy and replaced them with a house girl and a rabbit!
    We have managed so far, its almost 2years, she even named the rabbit, and as they say the rest is history.
    I’ll rather have a masturbating partner than a cheating one, i say a silent prayer for her and myself everything. My intentions were very honest.

    • Tari

      August 19, 2015 at 10:42 am

      you fired your driver, gardner and houseboy?
      Your wife no dey comot outside?
      Does she work in an all female office?
      Go to an all female church (mosque)?
      Why am I even asking, you do know that married women so lesbo runs by the sides now?
      Most importantly, may God give yo uand your wife grace and may both of you appropriate the grace.. That is all that is needed.

  48. obinna

    August 19, 2015 at 9:37 am

    Come to think of it , whether you engage in sexual intercourse with a spouse or just wank off you still are going to use your imagination . I mean no disrespect but I can’t imagine any one actually thinking holy tinz when getting in the mood. Orgasms are a Gift from God they are not dirty . The devil will have you believe that . How can anyone think that marriage is a cure for masturbation what a horrid, twisted dark notion.

  49. Personal Signature

    August 19, 2015 at 9:43 am

    Dear Ari,

    1. I am tempted to say that you are a devil incarnate. Why? Not just because of the write up, but firstly because of your profile (About me)
    “I’m a know-it-all; ask me anything and I’ll have an answer for you.” This was the same spirit in Lucifer that made God send him to hades/hell. With this spirit in you, i decipher you are an incarnate

    2. You do not need to come tell us if it is a sin or not. You can keep your conviction to yourself. The same way DEVIL/SERPENT, went to EVE to persuade them that eating the apple wasn’t a sin, that is the same way you have come to persuade BN girls (that you know are single, without a bf and may need some ease) to masturbate. You see the reason i said in number 1 that you might be an incarnate? See the similarities between you and the serpent!

    3. Whether is it 2015, or modernity or new age, God’s standards do not change. He is no respecter of persons, be it a pastor, church member, or a street person. Modernity or new age does not compromise His standards for us all

    4. Two wrongs can never make a right. You cant say because you
    a. Want to avoid having sex with a man
    b. want to avoid sexual lust/temptation with a married man
    c. want to avoid stds
    d. want to be faithful to your partner
    e. it will reduce rape
    f. it will reduce unfaithfulness
    e. all other reasons/excuses you might have

    then you go masturbate or please yourself.
    Can you eat poison because you want to avoid not having a husband, not getting a job, not having a child on time…..and kill yourself? Is that a good justification to avoid the other evil. You think rapists don’t masturbate?

    4. We all have our inner man who bears us witness when something is wrong or not. Some people’s conscience are already seared with iron (according to Paul) and cannot see anything bad in whatsoever they are doing. If you belong to that group, please keep it up, but to try and convince others that is is no sin? which authority do you have to say what is wright and what is wrong?

    5.Your body is not your body! Did you say your own body? No it is not yours? God owns it. He created it, formed it, gave you breadth and will take it when the time comes. If it was yours, why couldnt you create your body to suit what you want? change your height, complexion, looks, a little more boobs, bum, pointed nose,…) It is not yours.

    Why cant you resit death when it comes? It is not yours. He takes it when it is time. You are to leave to please Him not yourself. You work to please your employer not yourself. Your employer dictates your resumption and closing time, your pay….cos your employer owns the job.

    6. What is the motive behind it? What takes place in your mind before doing? What thoughts, desires, lusts…In the act, what goes on in your mind?

    7. I see many say they are Christians and yet they see nothing wrong about it. Christianity is not by name or title my BN friends. The word Christian came out from Antioch cos they saw the way and manner the disciples spoke, acted, behaved and comported themselves. These people are Christ-like (Christians) You could be your so called Christian and not Christ-like

    Christian means Christ-like. If you are not Christ like, you are just bearing a title. Being a christian does not take one to heaven, it is being Christ-like that takes one there-Following the dictates and ordinances of the Supreme Being.

    8. Everyone should keep their personal convictions. Keep yours i will keep mine. Do not be fooled around and easily swayed by false doctrines. In conclusion, Paul said O foolish Galatians, who hath bewitched you, that ye should not obey the truth, before whose eyes Jesus Christ hath been evidently set forth, crucified among you? Gal.3:1.

    Neither give heed to fables and endless genealogies, which minister questions, rather than godly edifying which is in faith: so do.Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry. (1timothy 1) Take heed unto thyself, and unto the doctrine; continue in them: for in doing this thou shalt both save thyself, and them that hear thee.

    I have said so much

    • Yekparipa

      August 19, 2015 at 12:17 pm

      Calm your titties sister. You can disagree with her if you want but to insult her and judge her… So much for your Christianity

    • truth

      August 19, 2015 at 1:55 pm

      Can you bible bashers just shut the hell up. All you guys ever do is wait in joyful hope for end times becos you are all so sexually frustrated. There is no room in heaven for frustrated people o. When the time comes all the happy people will be taken up and you guys will be asked to fuck off.

    • Personal Signature

      August 19, 2015 at 3:43 pm

      Truth and bae,

      There is no single insult in my comment up there.
      It is either that you didn’t comprehend my comment or do not know what an insult means.

      The only word i think you may call an insult here is “devil incarnate”, which is by no form an insult. It is a statement of fact for someone that is used by the devil

      For avoidance of doubt, incarnate means Represent in bodily form or Invested with a bodily form especially of a human body, which is in no way an insult.

    • bee

      August 19, 2015 at 3:10 pm

      Na wao, I am a xtain, i love God a lot, want to make heaven and all but sincerely i disagree with the spirit that dwells in you. You are argumentative, condemning and harsh very different from the nature of God.

      How can you descend on a fellow human being like that? Are you her God; even Jesus Christ himself received the thief into heaven. How come in all your bible compendium years you have never come across correction in love.

      Na wao you yourself need God

      * by the way i do not believe in masturbation and will not do it again

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:56 pm

      @personal signature

    • MEE

      August 20, 2015 at 10:13 am

      I totally agree with u, @ personal signature. This is a one sided article from the author. Just because she thinks it’s ok to masturbate doesn’t mean she should share her one sided opinion.

  50. Tari

    August 19, 2015 at 9:47 am

    I find this topic a bit boring.
    I never wanked and never will but respect those who do.
    I find the process of wanking (or having a good finger for females) to be too mechanical.
    I have always lived by the principle that I should be touched and not touch myself. The fantasizing needed for wanking is an issue for me. I rather stick to what I can have than daydream about curves that are not within touching distance.

  51. Papaadex

    August 19, 2015 at 10:01 am

    Popular Nigeria pastor said masturbation is not a sin , after few years his wife divorced him. I guess is a lesson for us to know the negative effect of it in a marriage .

    • Tari

      August 19, 2015 at 10:34 am

      I am no fan of that popular pastor but it is worrying when you draw conclusions from single points in an issue as complicated as a marital union.
      So in your mind now wanking causes marriage failures?
      I don’t even wank but I find your Deductive reasoning on this topic very worrying.

  52. anonymous

    August 19, 2015 at 10:21 am

    MASTURBATION IS A SIN OO. LET YOUR CONCISENCE JUDGE YOU. CHRIST IS COMING SOON.

  53. Icey

    August 19, 2015 at 10:27 am

    Let’s call a spade a spade, masturbation is a sin. If you choose to indulge, it’s between you and your God, shikena. 21st Century be making people loose their sense of right or wrong. Wheew!

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:52 pm

      @Icey. Funny how your statement doesn’t still stop you from doing it

  54. Italian Princess

    August 19, 2015 at 10:32 am

    In the spirit of identifying sin and sinners, please can some of you help us spot the fornicators and liars who left comments here: http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/06/16/isio-knows-better-faking-orgasms/

    and, here:
    http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/08/03/atokes-monday-morning-banter-holiday-with-the-boyfriend/

  55. demash

    August 19, 2015 at 10:42 am

    The passage referred to by many pentecostals was not referring to masturbation and the bible doesn’t clearly mention the act. However, coming from a ex-masturbator, the act is rarely done in isolation, you are either wanking off to an image of someone you fantasize about or its triggered by an external stimuli – in which case it is a sin. My case was real bad as I couldn’t sleep without jerking-off and the aftermath of the action was despondency and bitterness. I was only able to overcome this during a period of prayer on campus when i stumbled on Galatians 5:16, which triggered my habit of praying every night before I sleep and ensuring that the stereo had a xtian tape playing while on the bed. I had gone months before I realised that all such desires to jerk-off every night had disappeared.

    I’ve gone back to the habit a few times (after marriage) when my wife just leaves me on a high or fails to accede to my sexual demands. I however try not to dwell on this that much – these are one-offs and GOD is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness 1 John 1:9. Of course, couples need to discuss there sexual failings to prevent one party from wanting off on the other.

    One needs to separate the physical act of masturbation from the subconscious ones – having a wet dream is not a sin as its done unconciously. Masturbation is not an act that should be encouraged, it’s better to go marry than to burn with passion. It’s as good a sin as fornication – the only difference is the presence of another physical party.

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:51 pm

      @demash. You are trying so hard to stress your point. Or maybe you need to be more free minded. Life is sweeter that way

  56. IJustSidonDeyLook

    August 19, 2015 at 10:54 am

    go to Chastity.com or chastityproject.com for all questions you might have on sex, porn, masturbation etc. You can also check for this video on youtube ‘Romance without Regrets’.
    To those Christians out there that want practical answers… for anyone to ever understand this sex related topics, you have to understand the THEOLOGY OF THE BODY (the site should have good audio or video excerpts from talks from Jason Evert. God bless you.
    When I see articles just as this, especially those that start with ‘I am a Christian… but…’ I just sigh, there’s always a bomb coming. True Christianity, across denominations, was never meant to be popular anyway.

  57. whocares

    August 19, 2015 at 10:55 am

    I read something interesting about this topic the other day. It was said that the ACT of masturbating itself is not the sin, but its the process. For example, if I wanted to go down on Precious, on Olubunmi, on the love box or whatever synonyms for the vajayjay, I have a collection of smuts, or my ever trusty imagination. Those are the sins. The smuts and say the imagination its that nice young man at work- I have committed the sin of fornication(?) by having lustful thoughts about the dude, Channing Tatum and Idris Elba or whoever may be in my head at that time. The act of masturbating without these things is NOT a sin. However, how can you masturbate without continuous stimulation? Na Kongi carry you there, but Kongi must keep you there until you achieve fulfilment.
    Personally, I do not think masturbating is a sin, but that is the only religious argument against it that has come close to making sense to me. It doesnt’ denounce my sexuality in any way or the fact that I chose to take pleasure in my body. As it stands, that is the only religious argument against masturbation that I can accept. Everythingelse is not wellthought out enough for me.
    Does this deter me from maturbating? No. Do I endorse masturbating? HELLS yeah. As anonymous has written. You need to know yourself before some uncle or daddy can say he wants to be “taking you to paradise”. Also, it is a HUGE stress reliever. The amount of times I have gotten to work with a HUGE smile on my face, and the productivity that ensued.. pfft. Let me just stop here.

    • whocares

      August 19, 2015 at 10:57 am

      PS: I take my eyes off BN for one day and this is what ensues? LOOOL

    • whocares

      August 19, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Going on from my previous comment. How can you tell me that touching myself, the same body that God created is a sin? because I derive pleasure from it? That is nonsensical. That is what leads me to accept that if you can masturbate without the iranu thoughts, then that should not be a sin. But as its not possible. lool. OYO.

  58. Darlyn

    August 19, 2015 at 10:59 am

    @ElessarisEllendil: Nothing is sexier to me than intelligence in a man. You just turned me on…seriously. No joking.

    • Anon2

      August 19, 2015 at 11:38 am

      ElessarisEllandil is not a man! Sorry!

    • nwanyi na aga aga

      August 19, 2015 at 5:30 pm

      He is male then at least if you read his write ups/comments you would know.

  59. Passerby

    August 19, 2015 at 11:03 am

    Interesting I must say! Everyone has said well too but I worry about christianity and why people keep trying to alter it.
    Every man for himself sha o

  60. IJustSidonDeyLook

    August 19, 2015 at 11:17 am

    go to Chastity.com or chastityproject.com for all questions you might have on sex, porn, masturbation etc. You can also check for this video on youtube ‘Romance without Regrets’.
    To those Christians out there that want practical answers… for anyone to ever understand this sex related topics, you have to understand the THEOLOGY OF THE BODY (the site should have good audio or video excerpts from talks from Jason Evert. God bless you.
    When I see articles just as this, especially those that start with ‘I am a Christian… but…’ I just sigh, there’s always a bomb coming. True Christianity, across denominations, was never meant to be popular anyway.

  61. Tomi (Tommyray)

    August 19, 2015 at 11:56 am

    ah! dis blog is my fave blog, ive been coming to dis blog everyday to read posts. This post has the longest comment ive ever seen. This Topic is controversial sha.. (Waffi) Bible say make we no do am o…

  62. miss Shee

    August 19, 2015 at 12:23 pm

    The height of sexual perversion in our generation continues to be mystery. We continue to not call a spade a spade, especially when we indulge in those abominable things. How can I be free from a bad habit when I continue to claim it is right. Some of us make illogical argument just because we attest to the truth that masturbation is not right in the sight of God and man does not also mean we condone other forms of immorality and behaviour such as that highlighted about a boss at work “humping” at one. The bible says guard your heart with all diligence, some of you that practice masturbation, may God deliver you, however do not come here demonstrating the giant strides you continue to achieve in such detestable and abominable behaviour, hoping that this will appeal to some of that our minds are still sane. A man with 4 kids practicing such, oh what seed you are planting for your children to come and harvest.

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:48 pm

      @Miss Shee.. You suck! Get your frigid views away from us

    • miss Shee

      August 20, 2015 at 12:39 am

      Sorry, I dont. Don’t even care to know what it means, you must think you are cool to use such childish term.

  63. Lily

    August 19, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    Madam Ari, sorry to burst ur bubble, but u have a spirit husband thats why u had Sex in ur dream. Pls go for deliverance

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:46 pm

      @Lily… You are the one in a bubble. Please at least think. Common sense goes a long way.

  64. ok

    August 19, 2015 at 12:48 pm

    If you are a christian, MASTUBATION IS A SIN,because you have to fantasies to get off.

    Sometimes I mastubate to porn-lesbian,striaght,shemale,indie,femist
    or porn I made with me n my husband or written erotica.

    Sometimes I mastubate for my hubby,sometimes in front of the mirrow or the camera. I like to think of super hot sexual moment with hubby or ex-partners-sex in the bathroom,a particular hot sex I had with an ex partner on xmas eve more 7years ago,lol,really rough sex and fisting etc.

    It may sound weird but I love to mastubate to sexual/sexy music aswell.

    I think mastubation is a sin because of all the lustful things you fantasies about during it,BUT its not CHEATING.

    • ak

      August 19, 2015 at 3:15 pm

      my dear, seek help

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:43 pm

      @ OK. Your life must be a boring one.

  65. bella-blues

    August 19, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    kekeke who want some coke & popcorn……i dey enjoy oooh….pls more comment

  66. beejay

    August 19, 2015 at 1:02 pm

    2 guys are discouraged cos they dont have a job, they come here asking for some encouragement but no one z interested in them. Well, at 22 you guys are still young, dont get discouraged because you have a job at the moment- which is to find a job. in life everyone goes through a down phase, this is yours and it will be over one day very soon.
    As for the topic, reading through the comments made me think if i was normal. i have never thought of masturbating but it looks like everyone does it. Well i know I am very normal and aint experimenting it. I ll wait till that time when I can enjoy all sexual pkeasure to the maximum with that right person.

    • JustAGirl

      August 19, 2015 at 2:38 pm

      I responded 🙂

    • Oyda

      August 19, 2015 at 4:35 pm

      I enough you in your choice.
      Ride on

    • Oyda

      August 19, 2015 at 4:36 pm

      Encourage..
      Oversabi Spell check

  67. nene

    August 19, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    masturbation is a sin. but masturbation can be medicinal. i use masturbation to put myself to sleep due to insomnia. i can wank for 40 minutes, without porn or sexual thoughts, and come intensely, and because of the time and energy spent i fall asleep very quickly and have a good sleep. on the other hand, when i’m horny, i look at some short videos, sank for a few minutes and i feel good, but even till now i still feel a bit guilt when i masturbate but never feel guilty when i have sex.

    • Koffie

      August 19, 2015 at 4:36 pm

      The worrying part is that you feel guilty pleasuring yourself but don’t feel the same guilt having sex. You’ve conditioned yourself with society’s help to think the way you do. I think you should hold your sexuality to the same standard on all fronts.
      I read from marriagbed dot com to see the Christian view on masturbation as it’s widely avoided in my church (or maybe I’ve been absent on the days it was talked about) and the view there is that masturbation in itself isn’t the sin but the accompanying thoughts before and during. Comments here prove that because people have premarital sex without feeling guilty as they don’t need aided thoughts of erotica while they have sex. But the guilt comes from the ‘lustful’ thoughts that aid your arrival when you masturbate. By the way, those folks at marriagebed still think you could if you can do it without the thoughts.

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:40 pm

      Here comes the escapist! Just say you love masturbation cos it feels good. God won’t judge you dear.

  68. Juicy Escapades

    August 19, 2015 at 1:10 pm

    Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of being a sexually active man or woman….a large percentage of girls/guys have masturbated at one point of their lives or the other, so this argument of whether or not masturbation is right is not an issue. If it keeps you away from cheating on your partner please please and please go ahead.
    The Climax from Masturbation is usually deep, extreme and intense, i can say that from my experience, these orgasms are far deeper than while a guy is thrusting into me. With this Act, i can control my pleasure, i know when to throb deeper,harder or softer as the case may be. Often times, Guys believe that the harder they thrust into a lady, the more her chances of reaching the big “O”. This is a very very wrong assumption, as only about 15% of women come from Vaginal stimulation, the other 85% come from Clitoral stimulation. Did you know that some women prefer to even be “fingered” by their partner rather than to be penetrated? In the same vein, a woman can “cum” from a mere make-out session with her partner touching and fondling with her sensitive parts.
    This brings me to then say “Why wont i masturbate? if i ll get a mind-blowing explosive Orgasm?
    These are various ways by which a Lady can masturbate
    1) Fingers; The key is concentration, you need to focus on the Act. Close your eyes and imagine someone special. Touch the tip of your clit softly and vary the pressure for maximum effect . You can also try to clamp your thighs together, this would make you cum faster.
    2) Sex Toy
    3) Water/ Bath Tub: If you have a tap, hung up on the wall, about the same height as your thighs, simply sit under the tap with your legs wide spread,let the water gush on the tip of your clit while you move your body from left to right to locate your G-spot. Try to regulate the tap such that the water pressure is not too much,
    4) Pillow; You lie on top of a pillow and dry hump on it till you cum
    5) Vibrating Toothbrush
    For more questions send an email to juicyescapades @ gmail . com
    juicyescapades.wordpress.com

  69. Mimi

    August 19, 2015 at 1:14 pm

    I struggled with this althrough my teenage life. I was introduced to watching porn at an early age but I knew it was/is wrong.

    God created Eve for Adam, he didn’t tell him to “help himself” and more so, no one can masturbate without imagining someone else. No one can tell their congregation that they masturbate. Anything that requires secrecy is most likely a breeding ground for sin.

    Christians, please don’t try to be politically correct on this matter, as complex as it is.

    Let each one who fears God truly let the Holy Spirit teach him or her what is permissible within the confines of marriage and what is not.

    If you are born-again, the Holy Spirit WILL direct you and also purge you of unholy desires.

    • Asgrl

      August 19, 2015 at 2:44 pm

      So isn’t your issue more as a result of your sexual buss as a child? Yes introduction of pornagraphic material to a child is abuse!

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:38 pm

      Please you don’t fool us. You still love bluffing on that muffin.,dont ya. Take charge dear

  70. bella-blues

    August 19, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    Kekeke who want some coke &popcorn …pls more commet

  71. Person

    August 19, 2015 at 1:29 pm

    Lollest!!! Now, I understand why Nigeria is the way it is. We have a lot of religious nutjobs!!!! smh!

  72. Her Excellency

    August 19, 2015 at 1:44 pm

    For the Non-Christians, you can say masturbation is not a sin as your master is not Jesus Christ.. But for the Christians, let me refer you to Philippians 4:8 ” … whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report…think on these things”

    When you masturbate you fix your mind on dirty things, wild imaginations and all sorts just to aid in getting to climax. this practice is not in line with the above scripture.

    There are also a host of other relevant scriptures that talks about sexual purity.

    The truth is that as a christian, masturbation amounts to a sin and there is no justification to aid this practice. If singleness is your excuse for masturbation, you should continue to pray to God to send you the right spouse. If you are married and still masturbate, you need deliverance, cos you have a spouse to satisfy your sexual needs. Self control is one of the fruits of the spirit.

    • Yekparipa

      August 19, 2015 at 7:26 pm

      But orgasms are lovely, aren’t they? Your passage doesn’t support ypur argument

  73. thatzedchik

    August 19, 2015 at 1:51 pm

    May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul, and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it. 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24

    Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God. 2 Corinthians 7:1..#nuffsaid

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:33 pm

      Meh!

  74. Temitope

    August 19, 2015 at 2:06 pm

    masturbation is a SIN…no justification.

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:33 pm

      Then prepare yourself for hell bean flicker!

  75. Asgrl

    August 19, 2015 at 2:10 pm

    Nigerians know how to muddle up issues in a lazy attempt to make a point.

    Masturbation =/= porn addiction
    Porn addiction can cause you to masturbate frequently or have sex frequently.
    Porn addiction is no different from any other addiction. It’s a disorder of the brain. You are getting rewarded for a specific activity despite the consequences.

    And often times porn addiction has to do with your religious identity and perception of the act you are engaging in

    I will go with science and say it’s healthy for the human body. However im not so sure it’s healthy for the Nigerian mind due to the context in which sex is taught to most Nigerians. Most of you learn that sex is dirty unless within the context of marriage.

    Yet your natural physiological instinct especially as you grow into puberty is to have sex or masturbate.

  76. ka

    August 19, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    loool. If you have a relationship with God, You don’t need this to know the answer. A times I wonder why people who say they are christains get angry and try to prove a point when people oppose their convictions. we have been saved by grace. A carnal man cannot understand the things of the spirit. I did not read the post and I don’t want to know the details. All I know is Once I was blind, Now I see. Once I was bound and addicted and now I am set free. No one will take my testimony because of what they believe. If you do not know where you are going, any road will take you there. In as much as I like this blog, I have learnt to guard my heart. There are some things I don’t read and advice I don’t pay attention to. I just Love God. No other thing matters to me. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

    • Girlbeingreal

      August 19, 2015 at 4:31 pm

      Oh! How lame you sound. Get behind us Satan! , with your bondage of sexual repression, fear mongering and guilt. Say the truth, this talk of masturbation had your loins filled

    • Dr. N

      August 19, 2015 at 5:06 pm

      Can I buy u ice cream? I come here for entertainment not for moral guidance. Come on….. Christianity is not for d faint hearted.
      Wank if u feel like it, change your sex, rob a bank, do whatever. Just don’t tell me to pat your back and tell u it’s great. It ain’t but I respect your right to do it.

  77. ka

    August 19, 2015 at 2:34 pm

    Bellanaija why have refused to post my comment

  78. Masturbator in Chief

    August 19, 2015 at 3:02 pm

    I can masturbate for Africa. The only time I stopped masturbating instead of getting into a serious relationship, I made mistakes with unserious guys trying to fill a void in my life at that time. This period in my life I deeply regret. Now I do not waste time pulling out my vibrator and helping myself. I have a great sexual appetite and it has put me in trouble. I am not a sex addict but I love sex. I am not ashamed of that. Life is short. I have done almost everything when it comes to sex and masturbation. I will tell you that masturbation is very important if you are sexually active. I always introduce any man I am dating to my vibrator and they do not judge me. In fact they join me in using it and we have mind blowing sex. My current boyfriend stand like olumo rock when we use it. In fact I will be limping when I get off him. I can’t even have the sex well. That being said, Virgins please don’t corrupt yourself with my post. It is honorable to wait to have sex. If I waited, I would have been this sexually active anyway. We are all different, some people have raging hormones when it comes to sex, some don’t.

  79. red

    August 19, 2015 at 3:57 pm

    ha! it is well o.

  80. biz

    August 19, 2015 at 4:02 pm

    Honor God with your body.
    If while masturbating you can still honor God and still be chummy with the holyspirit of God inside of you,then by all means carry on.

    But there’s no argument or science greater than the truth.which is in each and everyone..

  81. Girlbeingreal

    August 19, 2015 at 4:26 pm

    Religion is so contradictory to ridiculous levels. For those feeling guilty about touching themselves, your guilt only came from what you were told. How sinful and dirty it is. I feel for you really. You are only on a journey of sexual repression. Well for the religious people, it’s a sin yo! Lol.. Don’t justify it cos you do it. As for others that are free minded, enjoy every moment of discovering your sexual self.

  82. nwanyi na aga aga

    August 19, 2015 at 6:08 pm

    So because of masturbation bellanaija has 177 comments abi is my system bad?looooool! okokobioko!. One thing that intrigues me is when people want to support their stand for masturbation they add “I am a Christian ” phrase. It intrigues me cos it seems like they re trying to say Christianity is for it, but then they don’t have a bible passages to support masturbation? Why this phrase? Cant you just lay out what masturbation does for you and leave it at that? Or is there an inner voice you re trying to silence by screaming you re a Christian first. Eg if someone wants to tell a story of who they visited orphanage i rarely see the phrase I am Christian, but when its something controversial people start emphasizing on their religion without providing the backing of the tenets of the religion. OK for all the Self acclaimed Christians who are proponents of masturbation, since you have mentioned your religion , give us a scriptural backing after all your opponents have given us several.

    I like you Ellesisen” I like the logical way you present your issues. My stand is, we all know ourselves, we all know what our conscience will or will not accept. Find yourself and be true to yourself,if the way you are towing is hurting you, do not be ashamed to denounce it and find a new path, dragging others along will not ease your own pain. If you feel the way you tow is the light do not be ashamed to expose people to the light. As for me if I were to advice my loved one, I would say flee from all sexual immorality/ perversion. Keep your mind clean from porn and other mind polluting issues. Focus more on helping others and other beneficial things,Be self disciplined, it will help a lot. Simple..I am against masturbation, key reason is Self discipline. My opinion.

  83. truth

    August 19, 2015 at 8:10 pm

    Listen to yourself ” there is NO SINGLE INSULT IN YOUR COMMENT and with the same mouth the ONLY INSULT there ,is your refrences to devil incarnate” you see you nu. Liars all of you . With the same mouth you quote bible passages. My dear you just a self proclaimed liar. Not in christ name I tell you. Just go and sit down nonsense. You reslly need to wank off.

    • Personal signature

      August 19, 2015 at 9:30 pm

      You must have had a hard time passing in school. Your level of comprehension is amazing!

  84. kinsley

    August 19, 2015 at 8:13 pm

    Many of you ask if my pastor told me about the sexual positions……….no……….but i have been on and of with God in the past years………..pls this is not about me reading the bible or pastor preaching…..or the religious attitude of many nigerians……..this is about learning God and having intimacy with me…………..it is true that all sin is sin….but there is something about the body and sin……i have always read the bible that our body is the temple of the holy spirit…..infact it is a chorus everyday i go to church………but not until i began having intimacy with God………fasting and praying for months and what not………..

    pls whether you are married or not………God had revealed to me that masturbation was a sin even before my pastor did…………i guess God wanted to expose me so that i would not say that i was not warned…………there are demons behind oral sex…..masturbation and other sexual positions….they are marine spirits…….they are also responsible for nudity…….even if you are married,,,,pls flee from this sin called masturbation…God can help you….

    i was happy when i came to america and discovered that it is a free sex society and open sex society where i do not have to spend a dime to lay a girl…….i also discovered that oral sex was a culture for them………….but it was also at that point that God began to teach me all this things…….i used to think that we have much freedom with our body after marriage because i believe that i love oral sex and would love to be enjoying it.

    i used to criticise nigerians for being religious and hypocrites…..but i can tell you that many nigerians know God……………….the presence of God has departed from the western countries…….they may have wealth and civilization…….but dont forget that egypt was rich in the bible……….
    Be prapared when you leave this earth to tell God that you enjoy doggy stlye…..that you give your wife orgasm through oral sex……

  85. funkey

    August 19, 2015 at 8:22 pm

    There’s something called lust. Anything done out of lust is sinful, masturbation is one of them. If you have doubts listen closely to your conscience

  86. jane

    August 19, 2015 at 9:18 pm

    @girlbeingreal. It’s ok if u think masturbation isn’t a sin. It’s a free world. However attacking everyone that doesn’t share your view is abit juvenile, don’t u think? No1z claiming to b perfect, for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. But it doesn’t stop Us from standing by our beliefs. So Don’t go attacking and mocking others. It’s immature

  87. jane

    August 19, 2015 at 9:23 pm

    @girlbeingreal. It’s ok if u think masturbation isn’t a sin. It’s a free world. However attacking everyone that doesn’t share your view is abit juvenile, don’t u think? No1z claiming to b perfect, for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. But it doesn’t stop Us from standing by our beliefs.

  88. tobi

    August 19, 2015 at 9:27 pm

    Nigeria has a very high rate of STDS. Now if people learnt to self pleasure wouldn’t the rate of infection drop. Also could it not be an effective birth control, cutting out the need for abortion altogether. is not written any were in the bible that masturbation is a sin. I think people should use the common sense that they were born with to judge this issue. I think there are greater Sins people should be worrying about like the wild fire spread of STDS ,population explosion and unecesssty killing of unborn caused by callous sexual acts. As far as I am concerned masturbation is a lesser evil compared to all the others . It is a Sin not to use your common sense to save yourself. It is not everything we should be running to religious text to find answer Haba and in the process create notting but confusion. The answer to somethings in life are as clear as a sunny day. Pple need to stop creating unecesssry drama and get their facts right. After all When hungry we know to put food into our mouth and not our anus.

  89. Idomagirl

    August 19, 2015 at 10:58 pm

    Come, are Christians the only ones that read and comment on BN?

  90. Tosin

    August 20, 2015 at 12:04 am

    I learned something here…spirit husband, lol.

    Do You.

  91. truth

    August 20, 2015 at 5:35 am

    @girlbeingreal keep bashing the people saying the truth to make u r self feel better you will never feel better my dear and maturation is a sin if you want paint it so nicely to make yourselves feel better it is a sin!!!!

  92. truth

    August 20, 2015 at 6:15 am

    Sorry I meant masturbation

  93. truth

    August 20, 2015 at 6:44 am

    Can anyone sincerely and truthfully say the thoughts they have while masturbating are innocent? Are you not imagining some other woman or man? Meanwhile you are married for those married ones who say they do it so as not to cheat on their wives how gullible can you guys be? Please don’t deceive yourselves, 2015 or the 20th century or whatever you all want to call it the truth still remains the bible is the same and will always be the same. So if you enjoy doing it that’s between you and God but don’t come and make the people who feel it’s a sin to question their faith about what their hearts or conscience tells them is wrong. After all if people can wake up one day and justify same sex relationship then it’s masturbation they won’t justify? Let those who know the truth continue to stand by it and be guided by the principles of the holy scripture and their conscience. No need trying to reason with people who have created their own doctrines to guide their ways of living and doing what pleases them.God is just and faithful to forgive them when they confess . So no need for Judging them let God be the judge of them all including those who are having sex before marriages. God loves you all but hates sin not you let’s not make people feel God hates them. All I can type is the devil is a liar and the God who sits on the throne will reveal the truth to His children. @girlbeingreal I am praying for you and haven’t you noticed people who really believe it’s wrong and have stated why you can see with the amounts of like they get meaning a lot of people also believe it’s a sin. I have read how you attack people who try to give reasons why it’s wrong and I know your comments are because you strongly are sooo unhappy and know in your mind it’s wrong but only make this childish comments to justify all the times you have done it but my darling God still loves you and will deliver you my sister from the lies and stronghold of the devil. God loves you veryyyy much do not believe whatever anyone tells you He loves you as His daughter but hates your sin not the person but the act of sin! To all those who believe it’s wrong continue to stand on your beliefs God bless you all. And to those who have concocted reasons in their minds to back up your actions of doing it God also bless you all and loves you all dearly and will definitely give you all wisdom on how to understand IT!!

    • wisdom

      August 20, 2015 at 11:38 am

      Dear truth. Yes it is possible to masturbate without having dirty thsughts. Children do it innocently. You might think you have a grasp of the bible my dear but u don’t. Please do your research. God has given you a brain so use it. Ignorant humility paves the way to hell on earth and after earth.
      Kind regards

  94. Agustín

    August 20, 2015 at 7:04 am

    My take as everyone else seems to have one is that masturbation is a natural stress relief. The addiction comes were you are TOLD not to do it. Then it becomes a guilty pleasure. Everyone knows that forbiden fruit is always sweetest. To my religious pentups Choi it must be hard resisting such a perfectly natural bodily function. I can understand why it is the addiction you fear. People are addicted to PORN get sexually aroused then find an outlet, either through consensual sex, forced one or masturbation. In my experience were masturbation is not dirty PORN is not needed for this perfectly normal body function. I am a christian, mother of 4 happily married. And before you self proclaimed REAL CHRISTIANS judge me ill just like to add that only God can see into the heart and mind and judge who is christ like or not.

  95. right or not

    August 20, 2015 at 11:17 am

    eiiiii confessions part 1,2,3 &4 haha carry on ….but wait wait i wanna know something y u guys especially de Christians here are making this masturbation issue so serious as if is the biggest sin in de world… look whether u masturbate or not that will not take you to heaven whether u are holy or not that will not take u to heaven..let me ask u this how many Christians here who don’t practice this? i always say this and i will keep on saying it if God come today na today 90% of Christians will not make to heaven…so pls let stop this bullish it wont help if u don’t masturbate na your choice if u masturbate too na your choice at end what you do shows who you are…simple

  96. daniel

    August 20, 2015 at 11:35 am

    I love sex a lot and sometimes the body gets naturally tired of making love to the same person. Masturbation has kept me faithful to my wife. It is bad, I know, but better than sleeping with another woman and I mean that both in the spiritual and physical sense.

  97. truth

    August 20, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    Dear wisdom I was referring to men and women and not babies and I don’t remember quoting the bible here or acting like I had a good grasp of the bible my dear wisdom and yes God gave me a brain my dear and I am using it and my brain tells me maturation is a sin plain and simple !!! Those who do it I won’t judge them I speak for myself and myself alone masturbation is a sin. It’s not about being ignorant that’s my own belief everyone has their different beliefs on the bible.

  98. mibi

    August 20, 2015 at 1:18 pm

    so i read thru all the comments , cos i’ve been an addict for years , i’m born again spirit filled, tongue talking.I basically feel terrible after each act,but the feeling is outta this world, last month i met a born again bro who is a freak like i am, and we have crazy phone sex,cos of distance,he turns me on by just talking calmly,and is my dream guy,cos i cant imagine spending the rest of my life with someone who doesn’t match my sexual fantasy,pls don’t judge me, i am still born again and hear from God daily ,yes i’m his child and he sure knows what i am going through, i have begged Him to settle me with my life partner, so i can have all the sex i want to have in the world without feeling guilty.FORGIVE ME LORD FOR I HAVE SINNED!

  99. truth

    August 20, 2015 at 1:30 pm

    @Agustine I am married too mother of 3 and I don’t need to explore myself to find out my hidden pleasures I have my husband there to touch every inch of my body and discover all that my dear and as I made myself clear not judging anyone but only stated that for those who don’t do it or believe it’s wrong don’t come here and make them feel like they are missing out by insulting and also judging or questioning their faith just because they made points why they believe it’s wrong. If you indulge in the act good for you my dear everyone has different sexual preferences, you aren’t better than those who have chosen not to indulge in the act! As you have stated why you think it’s necessary also allow those who feel it isn’t necessary to also air their own reasons why. No need for all the long sermon on why christians will end up in hell!Take care

  100. truth

    August 20, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    And my dear there are other plenty things to also do to relieve yourself from stress @Agustine luxury trips, spas, relax with your kids and find out things about them you would be amazed at how smart and funny the kids are, go watch a movie with your girlfriends or alone, listen to music , read, go on Bellanaija and read and laugh @some ridiculous comments, window shopping, list is endless my dear it shouldn’t be always sex on our minds .

    • Blessing

      August 20, 2015 at 4:40 pm

      Dear truth, stop wasting your time telling lies to yourself becos no one else is buying it. Seems like you are trying very hard to convince yourself. Are you sure u no wat an orgasm is or do u just have a little peepee in your knickers. Looking at how much time u spend ranting on bella blog it is clear that u are not getting any!!!. And you got to take a Trip to relax.?? You can’t relax in your natural habitat. Mchew. Joor!

    • kehinde

      August 21, 2015 at 1:01 am

      LMAO!!!!!!!. Woman you are mean for a ages. Everyone gets tired of thrush ing through the same old tunnel. I can assure you hubby’s robbing one off on the sly. It’s hard for men not to. peepèe!!! LOOOOOOOL. Bella you guys just made my night shift worth it. First belly laugh I’ve had all day. Wish I could share .

  101. truth

    August 20, 2015 at 8:00 pm

    Rant my dear on Bella blog not me at all I noticed there’s another truth and yes I know what an orgasm is sis it’s beautiful in fact when I have one its like someone having an epileptic fit it’s an amazing feeling my dear Blessing and I get that feeling from my Oga’s dick excuse my french going in and out of me my dear not trying to convince myself on anything and veryyy happy love cos it’s an awesome thing to be able to climax when it’s time I don’t need to touch myself to come hubby fiddles tits and vooommm I come and I thank God aways for that. And yes on this topic I decided to create all the time nne so sorry if that irritates you I love to argue and will not be bullied out of an argument so yes Blessing I have created plenty time ooo on this particular topic and seeing that you noticed means you are guilty too of always being on Bella blog??? and I said there are plenty ways to relax and don’t remember stating any particular place luxury trips could include going to Tinapa in calabar etc. So please dear read between the lines next time before you decide to have my head on a platter seeing that’s what really pissed you out the travelling to rest part. Tiddles dear ???

    • hothot

      August 23, 2015 at 12:43 am

      Dear Mz truth, you really don’t need to take on everyone that has a different opinion from you. You have aired your opinion and a counter will not erase that. In the end it is to each girl her own.

  102. obinna

    August 21, 2015 at 4:30 am

    Osondi owendi. Madam no need to condescend to the level were you need to share explicit details of what may or may not be happening in your matrimonial bed. Thats private please. Aanit nobody got time to hear how you get your freak on (cringeworthy). Please stop providing cheap porn for people to get off on. As for the matter at hand , it is a personnal, private choice. No one knows what goes through people’s minds when they are in the mood, dirty taughts,clean ones, allaluia and praise thoughts for those who want to take it to the church. Nobody cares as long as you arrive. Everyone is a freak in the sack so less judging.

  103. mr masturbate

    September 1, 2015 at 2:38 am

    I’m addicted to masturbation and enjoy every moment that I get to stroke my penis. I’m also an exhibitionist doing what I can to promote what I feel is a natural and normal activity.

  104. Annie

    October 7, 2015 at 1:05 pm

    Masturbation is NOT a sin, I do pleasure myself and my husband is aware of it, infact before we got married due to the distance we do have skype sex, weekends are our days! theres nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself. I love it, he loves me doing it.and we are happy.

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