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WATCH Toke Makinwa’s 1st ‘Sexology’ Vlog – ‘Pleasure or Pressure’



Toke Makinwa - AUgust 2015Toke Makinwa is back this week with a ‘Sexology’ episode!

She talks about so many things –

  • Nigerians are raised to be ashamed of sex and talking about sex: We’re raised to think that, ‘sex should only be with your rightful partner’ etc.
  • The fact is people will have sex regardless of marital status.
  • People are so ashamed of sex that they can’t call the ‘organs’ by the rightful names. So people say words and phrases like ‘his thing’, ‘her snail’, kpekus, prick etc.
  • Toke thinks it’s not every relationship you should have sex in.
  • She says women especially should be careful that they’re not having sex for the wrong reasons. “If he’s not taking you seriously before the sex, then he won’t after the sex.”
  • Toke answers an email from a fan whose guy likes to have sex for a long time (over an hour) without reaching orgasm.
  • She also shares her fair share of tips – “Pay homage down there”…


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  1. Lady K

    August 22, 2015 at 10:50 am

    This minute it’s a British accent, before you know one thick naija accent will he heard..tbh I think your British accent sounds HORRIBLE and you need to QUIT it…also I’m sure if you had a good sex technique your husband would have not impregnated another girl…Baby girl pick a better topic or better still find another career ..there are other ways to make money

    • madamsofo

      August 22, 2015 at 11:07 am

      spitting so much bile this early, haba madam! you should know a cheat will always cheat no matter how good of a woman/man you are. Take a chill pill lady K, she didn’t force you to watch the video or take her advise. she is free to use whatever accent she wants. it’s her cup of tea. she should quit because you want her to? you probably need to find a hobby, so you won’t feel the need to watch her video or videos of anyone you detest Have a blessed day

    • Anon

      August 22, 2015 at 11:21 am

      LOL! A dog will always be a dog. Be the best in bed/have good sexual techniques, be the best in the kitchen, be the best with your kids, be the most beautiful, in fact be the best in everything in your marriage – all those things amount to zilch to a dog. A man who wants to cheat will cheat, irrespective of all the best things you are, just because he can and he wants to. The third leg has a brain of its own.

    • kanyin

      August 22, 2015 at 11:23 am

      Na wah oooo! Lady K! What did toke ever do to offend you! I don’t understand the venom spitting this lovely Saturday morning. Ki lo de?!
      You even brought up her husband’s infidelity and made it her fault. Like we don’t know that even if you know and practice the best techniques, or you know the kama sutra back to back, it doesn’t stop a cheating man from cheating. But no! You had to bring it up.
      Go and bite yourself or hit your head on the wall if you want! Toke is on top! And she’ll keep rising. I don’t know her but this level of hate can only push her forward. And that’s exactly what it’ll do.

    • Tundy

      August 22, 2015 at 11:28 am

      So much venom in one body. U shud do sthng better with your time Lady K

    • Natu

      August 22, 2015 at 11:30 am

      You are right she does not have a British accent. Good sex will not prevent a man from cheating on you. Stop blaming the woman. Her husband is an arse.

    • A Real Nigerian

      August 22, 2015 at 11:38 am

      Good sex doesn’t guarantee fidelity. Don’t be an idiot.

    • Sue

      August 22, 2015 at 11:44 am

      @Lady K, you are one word……. a FOOL!

    • oyindee

      August 22, 2015 at 11:45 am

      Ha,your comment is wickedddd!!!,but am with you on the accent thingy,Toke please make it stop!!!,don’t judge her even if she can kpensh for Africa her Husband would have still done that….

    • Miss B

      August 22, 2015 at 11:49 am

      my dear if you like have a diamond encrusted vagina, a useless man will always cheat !

    • purplerain

      August 22, 2015 at 11:50 am

      @lady k. That was completed unnecessary. You are one of those women that thrash others during hard times. SHAME SHAME SHAME. You are probably single yet yapping about others. GIRL SIT DOWN

    • tony

      August 22, 2015 at 11:58 am

      Men still cheat on women with the best bed techniques. A pretty face or good bed techniques won’t stop your man from cheating, only the man himself can stop himself from cheating. Please just leave the lady alone. No be by force to watch her vlog.

    • Wow

      August 22, 2015 at 12:07 pm

      You are a pathetic and extremely vile human being. There is nothing more irritating in this world than people who think they can just spew trash because they have access to the internet.
      Her husband cheated on her because HE had no self control. How dare you mock her for it.
      BN I’m disappointed you could approve this comment. I’m not sure what Toke has done to people on this blog because the hate is unreal. Yes, HATE. disguised as “opinions”.
      Toke, you look gorgeous. There’s this glow I’ve started noticing when I see your pictures lately. Wishing you the best in all you do. You are a strong woman.

    • opus

      August 22, 2015 at 12:37 pm

      Rubbing people problems in their face will get you no where

    • jennietobbie

      August 22, 2015 at 1:19 pm

      Lady K. Your comment is very insensitive and hurtful. Why would you hit her so low and you think that’s constructive? You have NO right to drag her marriage into this. Have you ever been in bed with them? What makes you think that sex was one of the cracks in her marriage?. Your name is Lady K and I assume you’re a woman. Why do we say the darnest things to each other?. You were wrong for this and I thought you should know. Be kind next time.

    • The Bull

      August 22, 2015 at 3:32 pm

      SMH you are soo bitter, u need help..

    • Temi

      August 22, 2015 at 4:47 pm

      So you sat down and watched this whole video JUST to leave that comment? haba! Even if you didn’t enjoy the topic or felt some type of way towards her, you really didn’t need to take it that far na. You at some point have to realize that she’s an actual human being with emotions as well.

    • please stop bashing your fellow woman. it has never been cute.

      August 22, 2015 at 7:15 pm

      The minute you can look past her accent & your inordinate dislike for toke is the day you will realize that toke is a good person. And she has a career already. In showbiz! This is what she does. My apologies if she’s all up in your face. That her sexual ineptitude is what drove her husband to cheat & impregnate another woman is a lie so vile, pit of hell is too shallow for it to have originated from. I’m sad this comment came from a woman. We’re truly our own worst enemy. Tufiakwa. Patriarchy still dey worry you.

    • blueberry

      August 22, 2015 at 8:37 pm

      “Hatred is like drinking poison and hoping that the other person will die”…Nelson Mandela.
      Toke will keep climbing the ladder of her life and you will always remain where you are because you are too busy critisizing a hard working lady.

    • Tiki

      August 24, 2015 at 10:47 am

      Look at this yamhead. Do you think people get cheated on primarily because they do not have ‘a good sex technique’?

      English, you don’t know. Common sense, you don’t have. Common decency, epic fail.

    • iba

      September 5, 2015 at 10:49 pm

      Sorry for you madam. See her waving durex condom around. Do you think it is free. She is making money there while you are hating in one corner. Sorry for ya

  2. bruno

    August 22, 2015 at 11:21 am

    ” “If he’s not taking you seriously
    before the sex, then he won’t after the

    wow. I never in my life thought I would be taking advice from toke but this one right here is solid advice.

    if he or she is talking or behaving anyhow to u pls do not sleep with this person.

    pls if u are going to have sex, pls have sex with someone who is into u. even if its a one night stand, pls pls pls always make sure the person is into u first before sleeping with them. never sleep with someone who doesn’t respect you. there should be mutual respect always when having sex with someone.

    another advice, pls dont make it look like he or she did u a favour by sleeping with u. hell no.

    dont praise the man or woman after sex. no matter how good the sex was, NEVER EVER praise him or her. if the sex was so good pls keep that information to ur self do not tell the person “oh my god that was amazing, u are so good in bed blah blah blah” never do that.

    finally pls use a condom. I am begging u in God’s name.

    • Blackbeauty

      August 22, 2015 at 5:47 pm

      Please who are you and what did you do with the Bruno we’ve had to put up with? See how nice it is to air your views without insulting anyone?

  3. bn lover

    August 22, 2015 at 11:22 am

    Lol…at pay homage down dere. Okay ohhhh. Na here we dey. Going back 2 watch d video. Meanwhile,where’s that guy from Jupiter??

  4. fan

    August 22, 2015 at 11:36 am

    Person go carry pepper for eye dey find whom he go commot sand for eye.Toke I suggest you go into fashion blog than talking what you don’t practise.

  5. Olu

    August 22, 2015 at 11:40 am

    Some ladies also have sex to get pregnant and have the first child for a guy they think was stolen from them….

  6. tgirl

    August 22, 2015 at 12:06 pm

    Aunty lady K it’s not that deep! Calm down. Did her husband impregnate you or was it your sister that he impregnated, Let her live her life ibeg. Kadara oni ka luku ooto to ni. She did not wish that on her self, life happened. About the ascent in as much you understand what she is saying I don’t think you should have a problem with it. Everyone has an ascent . Nigerians just like looking for people’s down fall.

  7. FasholasLover

    August 22, 2015 at 12:07 pm

    U are evil. Everybody’s future is at the discretion of the Almighty. I assume you already know yours? Congratulations in advance.

  8. FasholasLover

    August 22, 2015 at 12:09 pm

    @Lady K, U are evil. Everybody’s future is at the discretion of the Almighty. I assume you already know yours? Congratulations in advance!

  9. Oludamz

    August 22, 2015 at 12:13 pm

    I know you might not like her. But that comment was very very low. There was no need for all that rudeness. It just goes to show what you what yo really are on the inside. If you don’t like her why come on her blog to watch? Why even click on her article. Or you just wanted to feed the hatred you had for her. I pray to never encounter people like you. All you do is feed on hate. EOP. Chai

  10. Ann

    August 22, 2015 at 12:18 pm

    So all the men who cheat in Nigeria cheat because their wives are bad in bed?
    Sigh. Let’s blame women for everything alright? Your husband cheats? It must be your fault. Let’s blame women for global warming while we’re at it, why don’t we?

    “Learn this, Mariam, like a compass facing north, a man’s accusing finger will always fine a woman. Always. ” – Khaled Hosseini

  11. Ann

    August 22, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    I don’t understand people who bash tome. Una no dey tire? Obviously, the girl no send una. She still the bubble dey go, her views keep increasing daily despite all your insults. Una no go give am up? I don’t understand nigerian women who spend their time bashing other women. Y’all are the reason patriarchy is waxing strong in Nigeria.

  12. Maromec

    August 22, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    This Lady k na serious ODE
    what has cheating got to do with good sex
    Small pikin

  13. Truth

    August 22, 2015 at 1:07 pm

    Why are you hating .its so wrong.i think whatever toke does is her business.even if you do acrobat in bed.a man who wants to cheat would always cheat. She’s is trying to be strong and this is really hard for her. Quit trying to bring her down.

  14. Yinka

    August 22, 2015 at 1:10 pm

    @Lady K, Pele shogbo, you need a chilled water atm. Taking panadol for some else’s headache.

  15. Truth

    August 22, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    People are just unnecessarily mean.smh

  16. Adakwa

    August 22, 2015 at 1:21 pm

    I am impressed she uses the condoms to encourage the prevention of unwanted outcomes. How I wish her partner was schooled on this aspect.
    To the guy who goes for long without releasing; use “blue boy” to facilitate the process.

    • Anonymous

      August 22, 2015 at 6:27 pm

      Impressed? What she did was advertising that particular brand of condom which they must have paid for. This shit is purely commercial.

    • opus

      August 22, 2015 at 10:48 pm

      So! At least she’s smart about it

    • ShineShineShine

      August 23, 2015 at 1:14 am

      I just respect this girl’s hustle. It is a commercial for durex no doubt. Toke got paid. Haters keep watching. Whether you like it or nah, Toke is going places.

    • bn lover

      August 22, 2015 at 8:25 pm

      Pls @adakwa wat is blue boy?

  17. Suwa

    August 22, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    Toke Toke! You’re not even comfortable talking about sex too.

    • jide

      August 22, 2015 at 2:35 pm

      Yes. I thot I was the only who noticed how uncomfortable she sounds. Mschewwww

    • RaveIn

      August 22, 2015 at 3:45 pm

      lol Jide you obviously dont like her, so why did you watch the video, na wa for haters

  18. Blessing Iyamadiken

    August 22, 2015 at 1:38 pm

    Truly, a man who doesnt respect you before the sex wont respect you after the sex.

    Meanwhile, if you are one of those who think that talks on entrepreneurship are leading youths astray these days, especially to think opening a business is all rosy….then you need to read this!!!

  19. Amh

    August 22, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    At the moron ladyk. Same fate await you times 100. Your disgrace will be greater.

    • jide

      August 22, 2015 at 3:56 pm

      Look stop doing blind voltron. Some of us know Toke personally and believe me when I say if you spend enough time around this chic, you will defintely see through her bullcrap aand find her videos intolerable. Toke you can fool some of the people all the time but you can’t fool all the people all the time. Get a life so gbo. See how she is looking all stressed and washed up in that ugly blue jumpsuit. Hehe. All of a sudden she is winning sympathy cos Maje knocked up the real love of his life. When alll the insiders know the truth.

    • elaojumewa

      August 22, 2015 at 7:43 pm

      Jide, abi what is your name, jo gbe enu buruku e da si corner kan and shut your big trap!!You sound so full of hate every time Toke is mentioned on this blog.
      Yes,you know her,you know the real 411 abi? So why are you here typing under some anonymous hating mission? A won oota araile(enemies in own’s own camp).Snake oshi…do you have the nerve and integrity to say all what you type here to her face? No? I didn’t think so!If you are in her life and she gets your craw this much you have to sneak on posts to cast aspersions,make innuendos and try to give some inferred insider info,you just may be the one with a problem.So you smile with her,observe her at close quarters then come and abuse her?

      If you had a life that is going relatively well or you were working on becoming a better person in all areas of your life, you wouldn’t be so bothered by her. Is it true?is it kind? Is it necessary?You better go work on your self, your relationships and your mortality instead of carrying gele (or fila as you could possibly be male) and forming one yeye class on Toke’s matter.We don’t know you if you don’t have the gumption to drop your real name when you come on here to yarn.

      I do not know Toke from Adam fyi but can spot your beef and green snake attributes a thousand miles away! Go live happy ‘Jide’, aiye o le to yen o

  20. jide

    August 22, 2015 at 1:46 pm

    Toke pls stop jare. Amazing how you make yourself easy yabbing target wiith your dumb arse vlogs yet when the likes of Lady K go HAM on you, people scream vile, venom, mean, bitter, bad belle. I wish you would just stop talking about issh you know nothing about.

    • Ola

      August 22, 2015 at 2:32 pm

      So why are you here to watch if you are so sure she knows nothing about the topic?

    • The Bull

      August 22, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      She obviously knows better than you, and the vlogs are being watched so people take her seriously. Wonder why she would take advice from you, like you have a clue. What did she say, that doesnt make sense? or you just scrolled to the bottom to hate, like lady k.

  21. Nahum

    August 22, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    People who don’t like Toke, please do us all a favour and stop watching her vlog. You people are wicked sha. See you throwing her marriage in her face. I pray that one day, someone will also use your sorrow to mock you in Jesus name.

  22. francisca oma

    August 22, 2015 at 2:49 pm

    Lady K, calm downnnnnnnnn! pls! Nothing in life is a do or die affair. It’s nt a do or die affair 2 listen to Toke especially as it is obvious dt u dnt lyk her ‘British accent’ and plsssssss dnt pour out such anger again( u can make ur point known without so much anger) and also remember, dt no one person is an expert on a particular issue.

  23. Noella

    August 22, 2015 at 3:13 pm


    • Tosin

      August 26, 2015 at 5:36 pm

      still laughing. Noella!
      just like one comment I read today about a dog, I almost choked laughing.

  24. Ebere

    August 22, 2015 at 3:32 pm

    Can you all just stop talking about she not keeping her marriage made her husband to cheat. A man would cheat whether you are miss would or you are are ugly as a demon. This is her job and she is doing amazing. She is strong enough to separate her private life from her public life. Toke can talk about any topic she choices to talk about and if you don’t to watch, put a plaster on your eyes and get ear plugs…….Good job Toke

  25. Jennyokris

    August 22, 2015 at 3:41 pm

    Mehn I’ve always liked Toke’s vlogs and this particular one was so on point and hit the nail on the head to the point that I wished I could re live my past and correct all my mistakes. I don’t care about the accent I just like her contagious smile and bubbly nature and her messages are so candid. That blue jumpsuit looks good on you and may God perfect everything in your life.

  26. adangwo

    August 22, 2015 at 5:23 pm

    @ lady K and Jide,who r u guys again plz?? Some chill pills for them pls.

  27. Tosin

    August 22, 2015 at 5:40 pm

    all I saw was “pay homage down there”
    yes o, bow down.

    • AsMyself

      September 8, 2015 at 2:35 am

      Yes… bend down and eat Sushi!

  28. Tosin

    August 22, 2015 at 5:54 pm

    so playful and educative too. i support this ministry. please do another one like this, and another one…the kids need it 🙂

  29. dupsy

    August 22, 2015 at 6:23 pm

    I get a feeling this sexology talk is sponsored by Durex. E be like say Durex don pay madam Toke to advertise their condoms so madam Toke came up with the sexology talk. Nigerians make a very big deal about sex because we like to hide many things and not talk about fundamentals and this has affected many homes and individuals. Please for the people talking about Toke’s marriage, please shut up! Stop being a bunch of ignoramuses! Was it Toke who asked Maje to stray? Why do our people like to rub hot pepper on the open wounds of others? Why do we feel happy in the sadness or undoing of others? This situation can happen to anybody, this is life so try and remember it might be you the next time and have a heart for others.

  30. I Bow

    August 22, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    I never ever watch the vlogs, only read the comments. And I’ve never been disappointed once!

  31. Nell

    August 22, 2015 at 9:29 pm

    Bruno nailed this. Do not praise a man after sex he will think he is all that and want to practice on someone else. Women i think need the praise it will make her more committed to you trust me on this one.

  32. Nell

    August 22, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    Toke is a hustler u guys are there whining and she is smiling all the way to the bank. This is obviously a durex commercial which will come with a fat paycheck. Don’t knock the lady’s hustle abeg.

    • Industryeye

      August 23, 2015 at 4:34 am

      Exactly! Only marketers will know. I am one, and immediately I saw the fancy intro and the Durex brand logo, I knew instantly it was a seeded content by the brand. Really nice plug and effort in making it appear natural to the untrained eyes. But, ermmm yes, Madam T just got banked! Hehehe

  33. bn lover

    August 22, 2015 at 9:44 pm

    And that is how dis comment section became about lady k…….

  34. Adakwa

    August 22, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    @bn lover “Blue boy” is viagra

  35. cj

    August 22, 2015 at 10:37 pm

    You take away the mystery about sex is no longer fun. Somethings are better left to the imagination toke.

  36. Mrs_ID

    August 22, 2015 at 10:38 pm

    It’s obvious that a lot of wives and girlfriends on Bella Naija have been cheated on, that can only explain why almost everyone went bat-shit-cray on Lady K lols e pele.

    • Finest

      August 23, 2015 at 12:58 am

      U sef pele o. Turn by turn Relationship/Marriage ltd.

  37. opus

    August 22, 2015 at 10:55 pm

    So! At least she’s smart about it

  38. opus

    August 22, 2015 at 10:56 pm

    I love u toke

  39. chifire

    August 23, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    Toke, ur simply d best.
    No competition.

  40. Teris

    August 24, 2015 at 7:48 am

    wow. some people really hate Toke just for existing.
    i typically skip along comments. this is the first time i’m actually streaming her vid – and really why does she generate so much angst amidst fierce fan loyalty? is it her topics? her joie-de-verve? her right-to-life-and-a-living?
    i vote for a “hide extremely snide (Toke) comments” button on BN.

  41. Jyde

    August 24, 2015 at 12:22 pm

    Na wa O.
    Why do some people hate toke so much???
    All she’s doing is earning a living whilst educating others with her knowledge and opinions.
    Is that a crime?????

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