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Pulse TV asked Boj and men on the street if they would let their future wife’s family shoulder ALL the wedding costs.

Some, like Boj, cited Yoruba tradition, saying it was expected, while some men refused vehemently, insisting it would cause friction in the marriage.

One man said he wouldn’t mind sponsoring his daughter’s wedding, that he would want his son-in-law to use the money for other things, and wouldn’t look down on him.

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17 Comments

  1. TruthBeTold

    August 10, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    Interesting question. I am just gonna wait for the comments

  2. kwo kwo

    August 10, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    ” cut my cloth according to the material available”.
    hhahhahahha.

  3. kwo kwo

    August 10, 2015 at 5:27 pm

    It depends.
    If you marrying former President Jonathan’s daughter, would he not pay for the wedding and make it a befitting ceremony according to his status?.

    Most of the weddings on this bellanaija are perfect example to this.

  4. ednutey

    August 10, 2015 at 5:54 pm

    In as much as guys are ‘marrying up’ these days, i’m sure they would allow such, but I think if the guy didn’t have the money to finance the wedding he shouldn’t have proposed or he should have gone for his mate, It would be more honorable to put money down if ur ‘marrying up'(in Cornelia’s voice), but if u have no shame, go ahead n toast Atiku’s daughter and watch the father do what u as a supposed ‘Man’ should do for your wedding day.

    If you know you cant afford a big wedding don’t go and form ‘im too in love’ and go and marry a rich girl, just stick with the one who doesn’t have a statement to make and do the honorable thing to fund (obviously not entirely – the babe should have some input too) your wedding.

    #myonecent

    • Big Eye

      August 10, 2015 at 6:08 pm

      Never seen a man or woman who f- below him. They either f- horizontally, or f- up the ladder. Lord send me Atiku’s daughter. Amen.

  5. S!

    August 10, 2015 at 6:18 pm

    If they can afford to and offer willingly, why not?

  6. Susan

    August 10, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    I thought it’s the bride’s family that funds the wedding? Traditionally that’s what I’m told. Home and abroad. For people who’re very traditional.

  7. tade

    August 10, 2015 at 10:33 pm

    Dats how last year one prince got to married to my friends cousin n my friends uncle funded d whole wedding up to d aso ebi was given free n d guys family dey form royalty what a BIG SHAME

    • Ona

      August 11, 2015 at 12:38 am

      Royalty no mean sey money dey.U gast remember that these monarchs have gazillion kids and arent exactly as rich as people think they are. All the wealth of the land aren’t being allocated to them like they were pre-colonialism.

    • tade

      August 11, 2015 at 9:02 am

      Ona dis king in particular of a certain tribe has only one wife n like 4 or 5 children yet dem no drop shishi.my friends uncle and their whole family members were soo shocked.traditional wedding plus abroad wedding d guys family didn’t drop shishi.i just shake my head and wonder anytime I see him or his siblings or people dat bear d name of d so called royalty

  8. princevinco

    August 11, 2015 at 6:21 am

    If you are a man and wish that your marriage to last, you should never allow you’re in law or bride family to sponsor your wedding 100%, As a marriage counsellor, I counsel you, you should never marry a woman for free, that is a woman that does not cost you anything. If you don’t pay a prize for the woman you marry, you may never place a value on her tomorrow.

    Your bride family can contribute to your wedding, but not sponsoring it 100%. Insist on paying a prize for you wedding if you wish to retain your honour. If your bride family sponsors your wedding, tomorrow at any slightest crises, your wife could be the first to remind you that you did not spend a dime in marrying her.

    Tomorrow you could as well be the first who will remind her that you did not want to marry her, that her family begged you to marry her by sponsoring the wedding. Moreover, you may lose your pride before your bride family in that you may not have the boldness to talk before them no matter what your wife does. In other words, your bride family could be the one dictating what should be happening in your marriage against your will that you may be frustrated and tempted to abandon your wife.

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    • Toyo

      August 11, 2015 at 11:48 am

      Dear Princevo,
      You have said that you should never marry a woman for free. As a 21st century marriage counsellor, are you essentially saying that a wife is a material possession that you can just put a price on? You have also said that ‘if you don’t pay a price for the woman you marry, you may never place a value on her tomorrow’. Is money the only incentive for a man to value the woman who he ideally wants to spend the rest of his life with? Is she real estate that you want to do property valuation for in the future? Whatever happened to the inherent being and character of the woman – is that one not enough for a man to value in the woman he wants to marry.
      You then go on to outline a tit-for-tat situation where ultimately you lord over the argument that he can always play the trump card that ‘her family begged you to marry her by sponsoring the wedding’ if she ever brings it up . Does this not ring as somewhat juvenile on both parties?
      Then you bring up the almighty Pride and Boldness that the man needs to stand up to her family. If truly, the husband is a respectable man of character, the bride’s family would be proud to call him their son. Therefore, he doesn’t lose pride, he gains it because they are entrusting their daughter into his hands. This does not mean that they would be ‘dictating what should be happening’ in the marriage.
      I personally think the wedding should be a shared responsibility. Genuinely speaking, it is easier on both parties. However I am not basing my opinion on the man’s pride as a reason for the bride’s family not to sponsor the entire wedding. I do not equate pride with how much money you can put down. I equate pride with respectability. If the bride’s family respects the groom, pride is a non-issue.

    • MC

      August 11, 2015 at 3:26 pm

      Thank you!
      As I read his comments all I could say was “omg omg…really!?! People say that!?! People do that!?!

  9. dapo

    August 11, 2015 at 6:43 am

    wetin that yellow boy say Yoruba people do. say Yoruba bride family dey sponsor wedding. Nigga, you should say its 50/50. Anyways, if Adenuga daughter fall in love with you, him go sponsor your wedding. PERIOD.

  10. DD

    August 11, 2015 at 12:28 pm

    HA!! OLORUN MAJE…. Rich kids these days,you think they pay their bride price from their own pockets?. ha!! there parents do that for them instead and they even smile , relax as if they know the value and that’s what’s is in vogue right now… Sometimes i wonder if bad values are what people call good these days. The bible says a man should work for it, he should have a job atleast to be able to cater for his wife.. The parents can chip in, but not have all the say monetary wise. Any man(sorry boy) that allows the bride’s parents to pay 100% will always remain an errand boy, lose his respect and will always be seen as a boy and not a MAN!. Now imagine they pay all that, eventually get married and he gets stuck, financially, they (now husband and wife) will be running to her folks to sort them out, lol her parents wont have respect for him,neither will his wife….May be thats why some young marriages have been crumbling after a year or two. cos no work,no hard earned sweat, they settle and think it’s all a holiday . Please guys DO NOT EVEN BE TEMPTED.

  11. OT

    August 11, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    to each their own
    kinks haven

  12. Ute

    August 13, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    I’ve been saying it for a while now. Guys these days re becoming shameless gold diggers. Ask an average guy now his ideal wife and hear him say “she has to have a stable source of income” “stable source of income” these days is not 100k salary o. They need high flying working class women or Dangote’s daughters.
    I really don’t know what happened to their pride these days. Pity!

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