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Is It Okay for a Man to Beat a Woman? | Watch What Nigerians Have To Say



Pulse TV took a crucial question to the streets as they set out to promote a movement against domestic violence called “Purple 50/50”.

Pulse TV’s popular Chuey Chu asked several Nigerians “Is it okay for a man to beat a woman?”

See the responses below.


  1. afis

    March 4, 2016 at 11:03 am

    Buh some ladies stubborn o. However, it not right

    • Bimpe

      March 4, 2016 at 12:26 pm

      So what? If a man was been stubborn would you go ahead and hit or even get in a fight with him. wouldn’t you just leave it and let go and find better motive. Relationship is not by force, it applies to women as much as men. If you are not happy with something then leave, no need to try to correct the situation with some cursed muscles. Next time, park well biko… God bless

    • Kaeto

      March 4, 2016 at 1:39 pm

      I don’t even know why it’s a case of debate, as much As I am against divorce with my life. The moment a man hits me, my dear that’s the end of the relationship. I am out, no Prada, Gucci, can bring me to that relationship. I refuse to accept that bully. In my mind a man’s the head of the home because I let him, don’t ever abuse the opportunity. Let say kids are involved, good, we work on joint custody. I am a very strong woman, domestic abuse really reduces a woman’s self-esteem. How can I raise my kids to be strong independent people, if their mum’s the lie? I lead by example.

    • Grace

      March 4, 2016 at 6:39 pm

      HIgh five!

      Like seriously, listen to that fool in the purple shirt in his Alaba shop……

      “if shes not leesening toe enstruuuusion”


    • Mrs A

      March 4, 2016 at 4:20 pm

      I’m trying so hard not to insult you, honestly. I pray you have “stubborn” daughters so their partners can beat the heck out of them. Since bad is good, let it befall you. Monkey banana. Any mpam.

    • naya

      March 4, 2016 at 6:01 pm

      Yh I get u, like me am very stubborn, I just av d feeling dat one day in d future dat my husband might slap me one day. Lool dere was a day I provoked my bf dat he had to tie me for abt 5mins, I felt bad tho and some ladies are actually very rude and stubborn sometimes a slap is what they need to reset their brains.
      Now y is d married woman in d video alone? dint she go with her friends? If a married woman go clubbing alone without her husband or friends, den something is up. But d man should av controlled his temper. Dis whole thing is a matter of understanding any single lady dat knows she doesn’t like taking to correction or is rude shld pls look for a cool guy, I mean a very very cool guy to date or get married to,to avoid stories dat touch d heart
      Ohh btw I broke up with dat bf, if he don dey tie me now wat stops him from using horse whip on me later, oniranu

    • Omg

      March 5, 2016 at 12:25 pm

      @Naya You sound like you actually think you deserve to be beaten… something with your self esteem or upbringing? You gotta work on it girl., NO woman deserves any form of violence and certainly not from a significant other.

    • Grace

      March 4, 2016 at 6:36 pm

      It is NEVER okay for a man to beat a women. period. That idiot in the 1st scene should be in jail. i hope she leaves the idiot guy.

  2. Jenny

    March 4, 2016 at 11:05 am

    The footage that showed a man beating his wife at 3.45am outside a club….
    What is she doing there at that time? Do married women go clubbing?
    Hmmmm I dare not! I’d rather be in bed with my husband at that time….ladies please leave the single life for good when u get married its that simple, focus on working your home!

    • Le coco

      March 4, 2016 at 11:24 am

      So she deserved to be beaten? Please cut that crap.. All the men that haven’t left single life nkoh? shld we go n beat them.. how many married men go to clubs? abeggi . stop displaying your savage ideologies on this blog . ABUSED IS NOT OK!

    • Le coco

      March 4, 2016 at 11:24 am


    • Mr. Egghead

      March 4, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      @ le coco: What is it with some women comparing them selves to men? If men piss standing up, does that give you to impetus to piss standing up

      Everytime I hear, “what of men nko?” That is the EOD

    • Nuna

      March 4, 2016 at 11:49 am

      So if it was a friday night and she went for a few drinks with friends for TGIF, she’s to be beaten abi? Seriously what kind of people do we raise in this country?? There are many men who come home by 2am leaving the wife mindless with worry. I dont see anyone beating them. SMH

    • Nuna

      March 4, 2016 at 11:50 am

      And yes! Married women go clubbing. Not everybody lives in the dark ages like you do.

    • Kaeto

      March 4, 2016 at 1:48 pm

      Lagos life is very hard. So chopping all those slaps for support from the man, seems to be bearable for the women, who have responsibilities. Listened I don’t care how hard life is, your dignity, integrity is what matters. I don’t care if I have to drink garri everyday to go hustle and make a living. But I will never make a man my God to then abuse. Instead I rather clean and cook for him to get my pay than he trying to make me feel he’s doing me a favour by dating me.

    • Beeeee

      March 4, 2016 at 11:54 am

      Excuse me? Married women should not be in clubs? I hate when people have an idea of what women should be when they get married. As if marriage is a death sentence. You don’t go to clubs, good for you. Other married women go to clubs and some with their husbands, good for them as well. So because she went to a club, she deserved to get beaten. Oya, come let me beat you up for choosing to suck out all the fun from your life because you got married….and sorry oh, what do you mean by, “i dare not”…what will happen to you if you go clubbing???

    • The real dee

      March 4, 2016 at 10:30 pm

      I have just one question. Is going to a club the only way to have fun? I have never been to a club, never went there when I was single so my understanding of whatever happens there is based on videos I’ve seen. I just saw a DJ Olu city to city tour and if what I saw there is what people do in clubs? Then, that doesn’t look like fun. A dark clustered room woth sweaty people. Girls slapping and rolling their bottoms, breasts jumping up and down, girls rolling their bottoms on the covered up penis of guys, which is dry sex. Alcohol flowing left, right and centre. What joy does a person gain from being in that kind of atmosphere?

    • Helen

      March 4, 2016 at 12:02 pm

      And men should do the same and leave the single life too. He should be clubbing and she should be at home slaving away abi

    • Bimpe

      March 4, 2016 at 12:31 pm

      Oh shut up! And get off this platform! Bloody hell mate… If she wants to go out, she can. she’s a liberated human being first before a wife or even a woman. He has NO right, I mean absolutely no right to hit her. In the way she was crying you could tell that she’s always experiencing domestic abuse from him. I don’t even believe they are married, even though they are so what. I pray she finds the strength to leave him.

    • MeBeforeMe

      March 4, 2016 at 1:18 pm

      Since when did clubbing become a crime? Half the clubs in Lagos, Port Harcourt, Abuja and other major cities around the world are choked with married men. So why shouldn’t married women club too? Women like you who aid and support patriarchy and misogyny are a big problem in Nigeria. You have a warped, narrow-minded idea of what it means to be a married woman. You are suffering from a clear case of internalised misogyny. It’s about time you unlearned all the false and dangerous ideas that have seeped into your head over the years. It is not right for a man to hit a woman and vice versa no matter what the circumstances are. Domestic violence is wrong. Keep up the good work, Purple. #IBelieveIn5050

    • Corolla

      March 4, 2016 at 1:27 pm

      @Jenny Your thought process is so shallow and disgusting.!

    • Zeeebby

      March 4, 2016 at 3:15 pm


    • Ijebujesha

      March 4, 2016 at 3:41 pm

      He didnt have to beat her. He made his choice and he should simply face the consequence of that choice instead of getting so low by beating her. He saw a clubbing girl and married her. If he was mature enough for marriage, he’d know it was always a 50-50 chance, she would leave that life or she would go on with it. The latter probabilty has now crystallized so he either keeps counselling, tolerating her or divorce her. If he keeps resorting to beating her, he’d kill her someday and the consequence of his original choice to marry her would have escalated. Deep people marry for depth and substance, not for glamour or vain-glory.

    • Daybreak

      March 4, 2016 at 4:21 pm

      Is this the same sanctimonious Jenny? I aibt surprised at aaallllll!!!!

    • abbey

      March 4, 2016 at 5:47 pm

      jenny..ur nothing but a block head..u do realize some women have died due to domestic violence..-

    • Fashionista

      March 4, 2016 at 6:27 pm

      Jenny dear, i really hope you don’t get your ass beaten for something else that you genuinely felt was okay to do as a ‘married woman” but your husband disagreed with. Only then will you understand the stupidity of your statement.

    • Grace

      March 4, 2016 at 6:43 pm

      Jenny stuck in in the 60’s…..
      I go clubbing with my husband and he trust me to go clubbing with my girls…
      and marriage isn’t for everybody.

      I bet you guy beats ya though…. just saying. you sound like he does.

    • Surely

      March 7, 2016 at 4:47 am

      Your husband is never in bed on time ho, so what are you Oon??? Because he thinks she’s cheating, he beats her????

      Women, also a lesson for you, stop beating your husband’s side chic, beat him.

  3. Marc Francis of Chelsea

    March 4, 2016 at 11:16 am

    All these animals. You beat to correct abi? So who beats you when you need correction? Tomorrow when they vex and stab you, you will call the police.

    • Bimpe

      March 4, 2016 at 12:31 pm

      See them oo

    • californiabawlar

      March 4, 2016 at 1:03 pm

      It’s not even funny…my cousin got stabbed in the upper arm by his wife!! After ‘just’ one slap o…he didn’t even have the guts to report her to anyone because he knew the inlaws were only waiting for him to slip up so they could collect their daughter back.
      Abeg if somebody offends you just leave or send them out….don’t let the devil use you! The world is crazy, people are frustrated…stay single if you can’t stand other peoples excesses.

  4. Nuna

    March 4, 2016 at 11:16 am

    That man beating his wife for going clubbing is a beast!

    • Jenny

      March 4, 2016 at 11:58 am

      He shouldnt beat her but I am sorry a married woman out at 3.45am and at a club is absolutely not moral!

    • Nuna

      March 4, 2016 at 12:13 pm

      WTF do you mean by moral. Who died and made you the morality police? How dare you judge another woman by your ancient standards? Please women you need to stop thinking marriage is a death sentence. This is why people go crazy because they do not take a breather from the stress of taking care of their children (both real children and the husband-baby). Just because you dont go clubbing does not mean it is wrong.

    • Iris

      March 4, 2016 at 2:49 pm

      Mtchew. Moral ko, Morales Club ni.

    • Beeeee

      March 4, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      ANCIENT STANDARDS #chopknuckle ….that is how women will stay and be looking like old haggard grandmas in their homes and their husbands will still be looking like secondary school boys….mschewwwwwww

  5. taiye

    March 4, 2016 at 11:17 am

    The last guy they interviewed is on Meth…..he has no clue where he is or what he is being asked LoooL..

  6. Lol

    March 4, 2016 at 11:43 am

    I cringed watching this. Put generation is a little better at this. Wives interview your husband mom about her marriage before you guys marry. If their household was extremely abusive watch out for your self.

  7. lemon

    March 4, 2016 at 11:44 am

    Mrs Jenny,gerrout.

  8. Tanya

    March 4, 2016 at 11:45 am

    In 2016 how is this even a question?’!?

    • jay

      March 4, 2016 at 12:20 pm

      I know right. What kind of jamb question is this, biko?

  9. Ada Nnewi

    March 4, 2016 at 11:48 am

    The young man in the white inner shirt that can barely speak English was raised very right…

    • Beeeee

      March 4, 2016 at 12:12 pm

      Agreed, he could barely speak English but he communicated clearly and he was understood.

  10. Kelechi

    March 4, 2016 at 11:53 am

    First things first, the question itself is highly disrespectful. A better way, will be to ask “what is your opinion about a gender violence against women”.The man that was beating his wife at the club vicinity is a lowlife, granted that what she might be doing is quite embarrassing for a married lady. But there are better way of going about it, I always tell men to use strong passionate words to solve conflict in their home rather than subjecting the lady to a boxing bag. The later only put fear in your lady, and makes her feel less confident and inferiority complex sets in, while the former will inspire her to improve and be the best version of herself. Do you go about fighting any man that disrespects you?

    The guy that spoke Igbo is the real mvp, If you are the type that can’t hold it in, when ladies start firing those missiles from their mouth, take a walk then. Taking yourself out of the situation not only helps you to cool off, but it also enables you to think things through. Let me you sth fellas, their are constructive, decisive, passionate, and healthful words you will tell a lady , that disrespected you, that she will feel it was better you hit her (Now I mean this in a positive way).

  11. lemon

    March 4, 2016 at 11:57 am

    Mrs Jenny,gerrout of here.

  12. chidi

    March 4, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    “Force your way on a decapitated woman” Naija I hail thee lol na wa oh, Most of us need psychiatric evaluation in that country. A lot of insane folks walking the streets. We need Jesus lol

    • Ola

      March 4, 2016 at 2:35 pm

      I want to believe he meant to say ‘incapacitate’. That’s what happens when you try to blow the grammar that you don’t know lol.

  13. Beeeee

    March 4, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    SMH..So when they misbehave and refuse to take correction from their wives, who will beat them?!? There is no reason good enough for any man to put his hands violently on any woman. He is not her father. So are these men saying they are perfect. Marriage is not a death sentence please. Someone up there just said a married woman at a club at 3;45 am is immoral. Really? So the married men at Quilox that are there till 6:00 AM sunday morning, what should we call them? Are they immoral too? Please don’t come and spread your prudish behaviour on this platform. Married women can still have girls nights out. It can happen in a club, it can happen in a bar, it can happen anywhere. As long as your spouse knows where you are, I don’t see anything wrong with it. And even if your spouse does not know where you are, does that mean you should be beaten like a dog?

  14. question

    March 4, 2016 at 12:21 pm

    the question should be

    is it okay for a woman to beat a man
    is it okay for a man to beat a woman?
    is it okay for a woman to be abusive
    is it okay for a man to be abusive?
    is any corrective measure justified?
    should wives take their husbands for granted because it is not right to beat a woman

    for example, we all know what goes down in the clubs. If a married woman wants to go clubbing? what are the clauses that should be attached? go with her husband?
    fi the husband doesn’t club, should she go without him…..bla bl abla

  15. Bimpe

    March 4, 2016 at 12:35 pm

    I mean ask them oo… Awon weeray oshi, a man should try that with me, he would never see daylight again. This has made me so annoyed… Even God doesn’t correct us like that when we do wrong. God gave men those extra strength and built up look to use to PROTECT and PROVIDE for us not the other way round. Men should respect that… It’s wrong, totally wrong. Y’all don get me started

    • eddy baba

      February 9, 2017 at 6:46 pm

      most of you in this site commenting are’s because some of you are kids that why you talking like this. some women deserve beating to correct Thier brain and after you have done that they would respect and love you Nigeria most women would want to control Thier husband why others pretend in a relationship after getting married they will change Thier character.. why some are good.. but I would say some women deserves beating..what will a woman be doing at the club at that time of the wish it’s church it would have been better not club..I pity men that chase runs girls in Nigeria they will just kill you… some women are like sit and they would sit went dating and after marriage is sit and they will fuckers can’t give ladies credit for everything sometimes they should be talked to like respecting Thier husband and playing the quality of a good wife.some women don’t even want to cook for Thier husbands just because of pride.. if i get married and my wife change her ways i will tell her I am a nija husband..she no go even try am self because I get enough Owo and am good to go

  16. Dinma Caruso

    March 4, 2016 at 12:59 pm

    With the grave consequences of domestic violence we are awash with daily, somebody is still asking this foolish question? Whatever happened to dialogue and communication? What if she died in the process? Just lost a cousin to domestic violence, today, and she was the calmest of people. Ka m nwete anumpapa choro I ti m…….nansense

  17. lotus flower

    March 4, 2016 at 1:00 pm

    This video and some of these BN comments just ruined my day. I feel so depressed. Sigh
    What have women done to deserve such treatment?

  18. beard gang

    March 4, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    fellow Decent men please channel your strength to good use like taking on physically demanding chores in the house or if you have so much strength you can go to sambisa were there is real fighting to be done.

  19. FinchleysFinest

    March 4, 2016 at 1:11 pm

    REGARDLESS of all the excuse….


    She’s not a kid…. She’s not an animal…
    It all started out As/With LOVE…..

    You beat my daughter and you think I will see you and be happy for you to prosper…My dear… Ko jo ra ra.


    • Olu

      March 4, 2016 at 1:54 pm

      So……is it OK to beat a man?

    • onetallgirl

      March 4, 2016 at 7:01 pm

      @olu NO its not okay to beat a man either, no man should beat a woman, and no woman should beat a man! beatings are disciplining children!!!

  20. [email protected]

    March 4, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    those first few minutes were crazy! that man should be DELT WITH!!!

  21. Miss Anoni Moss

    March 4, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    That video of the man beating his wife totally broke my heart, took me back to those days when my Dad would mercilessly beat my Mum just because he can. Domestic violence is a horrible thing and the men who do it are monsters, please if you are reading this and going through DV pack your bags and leave his dirty ass and if you have kids fight for them, NO man is worth the trouble.

  22. bruno

    March 4, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    it is not okay to beat a woman neither is it okay to beat a man.

    but if a woman hits u first, u better hit her back same thing with a man.

    • onetallgirl

      March 4, 2016 at 7:03 pm

      @bruno for once you saying something sensible and I 100% agree with you! Ladies don’t hit a man if you don’t want a man to hit you!

  23. CHIKA

    March 4, 2016 at 1:28 pm

    Beat, I leave. Clubbing, I dig! Learn to live with that or let me be biko, even God knows I love to dance and club! People should learn to see each other as individuals first before the gender factor and yes I’m a married woman.

  24. Pala

    March 4, 2016 at 1:32 pm

    Eeeh some Nigeria women are useless sha

    • pala the useless donkey

      March 4, 2016 at 2:39 pm

      pala u are the definition of uselessness as far as im concerned……. mgbeke

  25. tamunotonye

    March 4, 2016 at 1:44 pm

    What a stupid question

  26. Aribaba

    March 4, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    Why is this question even asked? Next someone will go and ask if it’s murder your wife. Nonsense

  27. Nigerian

    March 4, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    It’s 2016 why is this still a question?

  28. Mr. Egghead

    March 4, 2016 at 2:22 pm

    The only time Mr. Egghead will beat a woman is:
    -> if she beats you first.
    ->if she beats your momma

    There and then, you beat the broad into the ground.

    But, then again, canadian laws are strict against domestic abuse and I don’t wanna get deported

    • Confuzzled

      March 4, 2016 at 4:05 pm

      Blame only yourself (and beat up only yourself) if you find yourself in a relationship with a woman that beats up your mother.

    • liby

      March 5, 2016 at 8:02 am

      Blame only yourself too and blame the women going through DV if they find themselves in a relationship that the men beat them. You’re a a goat and a fool for that comeback. If any man in your life ever raises his hand on you or the men in your friends and sisters life ever raise their hands on them, you better tell them its their fault and they should blame themselves. Idiot like you. May the man in your life beat your mother silly and you best blame yourself and may your brothers gf or wife panel beat your mother, then you can blame your brother like the goat you’re. Besides he didn’t say the girl had to be in a relationship with him, You lack comprehension. He said beat a woman, not gf or wife. In your bid to be all or nothing on men beating women, you shot yourself in the foot, I actually blame this woman for finding herself in a relationship with this man. She should have come to you to show her how to pick good, non violent men. Let my brother’s gf or wife touch my mother first, if I will not buy the koboko and horsewipe that would use to give her more than Lupita’s own in 12 years a slave, then you can come and be her lawyer. Anuofia! mistcheeww! BN post my comment abeg

  29. lily

    March 4, 2016 at 2:27 pm

    @ d man that made mention of beating his wife….u just lost a customer

  30. Ine

    March 4, 2016 at 2:36 pm

    The guy is a coward for beating his wife.
    The wife must have been told not to go clubbing. The moment both parties involved begin to take responsibility , then we can move forward.
    Let’s be real, women are more vulnerable.
    Just wondering what happened though. Did she sneak out while hubby was sleeping or did he pretend he was out of town?

    Either way strive and respect each other.
    Abuse is real on both sides. I know a guy that has to buy secret camera so he can record the wife pushing and hitting him just to provoke him to hit her back so she can call 911

  31. Zee

    March 4, 2016 at 3:09 pm

    So I witnessed a conductor slapp his lady passenger yesterday at Balogun market right in front of her “territory” where she highlighted just cos she asked for her balance! Boy! He tried to tear her clothes. The rest of the women around her gathered round the man and gave him the beating of his life. One poured alcohol in his eyes. They beat shit out of him.. The men cheered them on..lool. That conductor won’t try that again..

    • Corolla

      March 5, 2016 at 1:32 pm


    • Tru

      March 6, 2016 at 5:49 pm

      Right On!!!

  32. jinkelele

    March 4, 2016 at 4:43 pm

    Please report the case of the Airforce resident doctor in OAU teaching hospital who beat up a senior reg doctor late February. Said victim is in critical condition in hospital( she’s sickle cell anemic) has a busted nose and cerebral fluid leaking out of her brain. Its in the Punch and the Airforce doctor has denied he touched her at all and insists she hit him instead. Please publish. Uniformed men need to be held accountable for their actions. That doctor needs to be dismissed.

    • anon

      March 4, 2016 at 6:53 pm

      i know about this case. the victim tessy was my classmate. was calm, peaceful and quiet. she is a sickler and goes about her business queitly. the airforce officer beat her to a pulp and now she has a fractured skull with leakage of csf. i hear the oau people in collabo with airforce want to bury the case. BN please publish this story let it get the publicity it deserves.

    • Kadara

      March 4, 2016 at 9:43 pm

      @Jinkelele, pls can you write about it to Bella naija and other blogs and send to their emails. In Nigeria one onl ygets justice when one shames perpetuators , please help the lady get justice . Anyone else who has details about it should please help o. Evil persists when Good people do nothing

  33. Sisi

    March 4, 2016 at 4:49 pm

    The question was asked to highlight the exact shameful thinking and opinions of some of the very special people asked. SMH, no actual words for the animal beating someone outside the club. We have a lot of work to do. Parents educate your sons and daughters – set examples in your home. Domestc violence is UNACCEPTABLE, don’t stand for it where ever you see it, whether happening to you directly or not.

  34. Natu

    March 4, 2016 at 5:37 pm

    Why are we even having a debate about this topic?? Are y’all for real??? Third world debate!!!

  35. Emerald

    March 4, 2016 at 6:15 pm

    I just wonder what goes on in Chuey’s head as he listens to the people he interviews and just keeps nodding his head, especially with the “decapitation” dude in the car.

  36. Grace

    March 4, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    that Oshodi woman with t he black head gear is hilarious….
    Jesus saves!
    Preach is sister!

  37. nene

    March 4, 2016 at 7:05 pm

    why? even if she’s at the club why should he beat her? when he goes out and comes back late does she beat him? if you marry a woman who flirts then u better be ready for her excesses, but never beat her up even if she a hoe! just walk away. men should never beat a woman, until the woman becomes very violent, then walk away or both of you fight yourselves.

  38. Md

    March 4, 2016 at 7:15 pm

    Nobody should hit anybody, keep your hands to is wrong,whether a man beats a woman or man to man or woman to is wrong..keep your hands to yourself. The one that pains me the most is when parents beat their children ..there should be a law against that..we black people ( men and women) always belive that violence is the answer whenever we do not get our way…as for me , I belive there are many ways to kill a rat, if I want to

    • NaijaPikin

      March 4, 2016 at 10:30 pm

      My dear, I’m totally with on the issue of men and women keeping their hands to themselves. But, I disagree on parents not beating their children. The bible says in Proverbs 13:22 “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline.” It didn’t he who loves his wife/husband should use the rod.

      Husbands and wives are commanded to love and respect each other.

    • Md

      March 5, 2016 at 5:17 pm

      Hypocrisy speaking, keep ur hands to yourself ,no wonder black children behave like goats and always result to violence, have low self esteem and try to bully anyone they think they can bully

  39. Sherri

    March 4, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    @mr. egghead,
    There is never a time, place or reason to beat a woman!
    the fact that Canadian laws are a deterrent implies you would be culpable.
    No human or even animal deserve to be beaten.

    • CovertNigerian

      March 4, 2016 at 11:17 pm

      I see these kinds of comments often and generally agree, but how about in self-defense? Years ago in Lagos I saw an angry female passenger get down from a bus, walk around to the driver’s seat and start to hit him very hard through the window. He did not strike back in that instance and I’m not sure how he angered her, but cases like this make me somewhat less comfortable with NEVER.
      Before I get attacked, please understand that I don’t think a man should hit a woman and I think the bus driver acted correctly. However, given this example, I can see a small and very rare set of circumstances in which it may be excusable.

  40. Kadara

    March 4, 2016 at 10:01 pm

    IN a sane Country you would know better than to dare admit to such on camera. It shows how proud they are of themselves, they don’t even seem to know its a crime. Anyway I can’t blame them when Nigeran police will tell the woman is family matter since they themselves are no matter. Only weak , cowardly men beat women

  41. NaijaPikin

    March 4, 2016 at 10:19 pm

    No matter what! there is no reason why a man should beat his wife. Who is he? If she was constantly beaten and slapped by her parents, would that man have seen a fine face to marry?
    As much as women do annoying things, men are equally as annoying. So should the woman flog or slap her husband? Odikwa egwu o!!!!!
    I don’t even want to think about it. If you can’t be in a relationship with anybody, leave them. Do no beat to correct!

  42. The real dee

    March 4, 2016 at 10:51 pm

    Didn’t even bother watching the video. It is a rhetoric question. Why should a man beat a woman? That should be the question.

    IF You have a wife whose tongue is like a blade, when you were courting, you didn’t know she has blade tongue, you went ahead to marry her, it is your cross, carry it. You have two legs for walking, when she starts provoking you, walk out your door and leave the house.

    If your wife is participating in activities you consider unbefitting of a married woman, go on your knees and pray that God will change her. When men cheat on women, that is the advise they give to women, when men stay out late, that is the advise they give women. It can also work for you. You have married her, it is your cross, carry it. If you beat her, you’ll only make her worse or even kill her, so that is not the solution. Go on your knees and pray for her.

    Your wife has refused to show you love and is uncaring towards you, ask yourself, what have I done to receive this treatment from her? Use your head first, not your hands. If her sight is provoking you, leave the house, go to your car and think. If you don’t have a car, take a walk. You’ll remember what you did to her to warrant that behaviour. A wife who is being treated well, pampered, well loved, not cheated on will not treat you badly.

    • temi

      March 5, 2016 at 1:19 am

      God bless you for this.

    • Md

      March 5, 2016 at 5:13 pm

      Story for the gods

  43. Melycherie

    March 4, 2016 at 11:27 pm

    Whenever I meet lazy, arrogant, abusive men I blame their mothers. Some women are really raising some pompous high and mighty men that makes them think that their position is reserved by virtue of their manhood. Biko come o it is by absolute biological chance that you are a man nothing I repeat nothing of your own doing so why feel so proud as if you’ve made one massive achievement? Now the strength of your character is something you choose and enough to be proud of. It is a societal issue that we make men think they are creators therefore if a women who is probably as educated and well achieved as them “doesn’t take instructions” as if she’s a dog you beat her. Even for a man to be bold enough to say on camera that he has hit his wife is evidence of our cruel society because there’s no consequences. Before I end my rant why is everyone in that video begging the husband when they should have been wrestling him to the ground. Let’s see how strong he is when he is confronted by his mates. A man that hits a woman is a coward!!!!

  44. nnenne

    March 5, 2016 at 12:22 am

    Under no circumstances should partners beat each other.
    No matter what!

    That’s why there’s something called divorce. If you can’t endure it anymore, keep moving.
    Otherwise you will find yourself murdering someone one day because there’s a thin line between life and death.

    BTW, who is that second interviewee? The trader.
    I was wondering if he was talking about his wife or worker/ slave. ” if she doesn’t take correction, if she doesn’t listen to me, if she comes home late” People use such words for their wives/ husbands?
    My gosh. ..the kind of men that some women marry.
    Lord have mercy.

    You don’t give your spouse instructions. You give them suggestions. Same thing but one is degrading and disrespectful while the other is endearing and subtle!

  45. Tobi

    March 5, 2016 at 1:33 am

    In my opinion, our society is what it is because too many children have watched their mothers accept emotional, psychological and physical abuse from the men around them, including their fathers either because of the children, what-people- will-say, or i-cannot-accept-my-marriage-failed or whatever other reason. In the young girl, the notion begins to take form that marriage is a place where you suffer but must accept the suffering, a be-all-end-all where a woman’s social standing rests…
    And the young boy, he begins to feel like the blessing to women, like “there is nothing a man cannot do to a woman,she must accept it”. And you can’t blame him. His mother or sister or aunt or friend DID.
    As women, we’ve got to learn to love ourselves. Events the world over are forcing us to realize this at long last. No society thrives where the women are demoralized, broken and defeated. Never has the adage, ‘happy wife, happy home’ been more crucial. And if ‘ Behind every successful man there is a (add ‘happy’) woman’, then we really need to regroup, to discover our society’s cankerworm at its source, and strike it in the heart.
    Unfortunately, the ‘nice’ women tend to be the victims of domestic violence since abusers appeal to their sense of pity and nurturing spirit more often than not.
    So women, watch out for the signs. They are always there. Listen to your intuition. And if you miss both and find yourself in an abusive relationship, by any means necessary, find a lifeline and escape. You will be better for it. You will be alive for it. You will be grateful for it. Everyday will have a new meaning. You will find yourself. Love yourself. You will find out that you rock. That a man does not validate you. You validate yourself. That you are beautiful inside out. Move on when you have to. Do not hate. Do not give in to bitterness. Or anger. Or anxiety over the world’s many opinions. Forgive. Move on. Don’t throw your pearls before swine. Let go. Let God. Let the women find their strength within, and watch the world turn….

  46. Omo

    March 5, 2016 at 6:32 am

    Obviously don’t hit anyone but I still don’t think a man should hit a woman even though she hits him… restrain her and leave. A bit sickening hearing men who can fathom hitting a weaker vessel.

    • Md

      March 5, 2016 at 5:10 pm

      Nonsense, if a woman beats a man first, he should beat the hell out of her. Seriously women are like the retarded children in a class who acts as if there is no consequences for their actions..keep ur damn hands to yourself and that includes to your children

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