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Charly Boy’s wife Diane Oputa talks about making their Marriage Work for 38 Years, Coping with his “Away Matches” & More

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Charles & Diane Oputa

Diane Oputa, the wife of veteran musician Charly Boy is opening up like never before in this new interview with Babalola Oshogbiye.

The interview spotlights the ups and the downs of the marriage life of the couple and how they have been able to pull through 38years without being a subject of media.

She talks about how she has been able to make things work with Charly Boy, who has been married three times before with his present marriage being his 4th.

See excerpts below:

On how they have managed to last longer than a lot of other celebrities: I have been able to manage very well because of the man I got married to. Charles is a strong family man, a decent gentleman who puts his family first before anything else. He has been a wonderful husband, a good father and a wonderful son to his parents. Charles is the husband every woman dreams about. He is sensitive, he listens, the first to apologize if he is wrong. I love his never say die spirit. I think we were ordained by God to marry each other because we both want the same thing, we are both committed to our marriage. Like they say, it takes two to tango. However our marriage has not been a bed of roses, we have our issues and challenges, but because we are best of friends, because we are loyal to our commitment we always resolve whatever issue that comes up, to move forward. We don’t have a perfect marriage, no such thing in this world, but we have a friendship that has endured through time.  It has been a long journey and we have had ups and downs within the 38 years that we have been together. But we are happy together. A lot of couples haven’t got that far-we are really privileged. I thank God.

On the challenges of their marriage: In the beginning it was the women, my gosh! Women everywhere. Charles is a charmer. He had 7kids from his away matches and the women he married that didn’t work out, before we got married. His stubbornness was sometimes obnoxious. During his hay days as a performer, his acts were sometimes so overboard that I will refuse doing his background vocals and we always argued/quarreled about that. But as the years rolled by I found ways of calming him down, and curing my high blood pressure. I later found out that the women were more for his hypes and pons, like the charly’s virgins. One thing I knew from the beginning was that my husband always wanted to be a family man, after all he grew up seeing both parents together for sixty something years before papa passed on. Much later the women thing totally fizzled out. In the beginning I wasn’t too sure how to deal with all his children from deferent women, but trust charles he knows how to put his family together. That’s how I overnight became a mother of 9 children plus my last three. The only thing that he still does that pisses me off till tomorrow is his silence, when he is angry about something. He will lock himself in his room and may not talk to me for days. I can’t deal with that because we talk all the time our communication is on point. He always says he doesn’t want to say the wrong things when he is angry. Otherwise, Charles is the best thing to happen to me and I thank God for that.

On why celebrity marriages don’t last: Celebs marriages are not different from any other marriage, however, the bottom-line is that both parties have to know what they want from the start. For most young people it’s about the packaging and never the content. Marriage is about two people who want to stay married no matter the weather, if one person wants it more than the other it won’t work. The ingredients for a fairly decent marriage, will be mutual respect, good communication between the couples and good friendship. Thank God that today what we have most, is old fashion friendship. My husband is not your typical Nigerian person, above all he listens and he is very sensitive to how I am feeling as my friend and it’s all mutual.

On if her trust for him was ever shaken: Yes, in the beginning the first maybe 8yrs, too many drama that I was dealing with. It wasn’t easy at all but I also matured along the way. I began to see things for what they really are not for what it looked like. Experience has thought me how to separate the boy Charly from my man Charles. Charly is an incorrigible botton pusher and that will never stop, but my man Charles is also an incorrigible introvert and that’s who I married. A few times he has reported himself to me and he is not good at lying. Being fulfilled in marriage is guaranteed when your spouse is supportive, understanding and sensitive to your feelings and most importantly, when he is always looking for creative ways to keep the fire burning.

On CharlyBoy being a marriage counselor now: Yea, that’s Charly boy for you, who else would give their personal number on air. Do you know how many calls he receives per minute? He however has been doing all of that for a very long time, it’s only recently he went ballistic with that. I guess for him, he wants to always feel useful, always wanting to teach, to share, to give hope to the hopeless, that’s charlyboys story, aside the fact that he likes to confuse people with his antics. Am I surprised? no. I won’t be surprised if tomorrow he opens a church. Charles has always been spiritual ever since I met him, very deep. That’s why for people who meet him one on one, they are so charmed because he is nothing like charlyboy puts out. And it takes intelligence and discipline to know the boundaries. He has counselled and inspired millions of nigerian youths, to be themselves, be focused and never to let anyone kill their dream. I love him for the many lives he has touched and still touching, for all who worked with him, they too can testify he added value to their lives. That’s who he is.

On what keeps their marriage alive: Hummm!!!! Charly can be an unrepentant romantic when he wants to be. Though he hasn’t pulled any stunt to sweep me off my feet recently, but he can be full of surprises. The last time, he asked me to escort him to the airport to receive a certain business partner from the carribean. Before I knew what was happening, I was on my way to the Bahamas, sweden and Dubai, with nothing but my purse. He knows I love romance and from time to time he figures ways to sweep me off my feet. That’s why we try to keep it as youthful and as fresh as we can. We really work at it. It’s not easy but we are determined. Charles woos me with his outlandish and elaborate stunts, and I like it. I always look forward to my birthdays. We are like two buddies.

On CharlyBoy’s new found religiousness: Charles has always been spiritual, has always given himself to service. He has always been an inspiration to millions of frustrated nigerian youths. His life style has made thousands chase their own dreams and never gave up on theirselves. Yes, people where not too sure what to make of him, because he kept confusing people who couldn’t see the humour or the sense in how he was putting out. He has always been about how he can add value to his environment and the people he meets. He may not have been a regular church goer but was a Christian by his actions. I guess the difference now is that the press seems to be reporting more of his works and the value he promotes than all the stunts he pulls to keep the people guessing. But yes he is more calmer now, more at peace now and more spiritual. Like they say, there is a time and season for everything. He is been there done that and seen that, what else can be new for him so I guess is Jesus time from here on and that’s all the better for him. He is doing what God wants him to do.

Interview Credit: Babalola Osogbiye

69 Comments

  1. Adaobi

    May 20, 2016 at 10:37 am

    Everyone with is own person,this is a relationship sustained by drugs,nothing more.

    • good girl

      May 20, 2016 at 11:51 am

      wao..adaobi thats a very deep statement..im guessing you know them personally and have seen them both take drugs ….live and let live ….

    • hian

      May 20, 2016 at 1:52 pm

      BN if you post comments like this what is the point of your censoring? This is ridiculous and could be defamatory!

    • Pretty girl

      May 20, 2016 at 11:53 pm

      Adaobi how do u knw that. And 60 sane people like ur comment. It’s wah for u oh

  2. luvnaija

    May 20, 2016 at 10:42 am

    Very honest interview! More of God’s blessings to you both!

    • Babalola Osogbiye

      May 31, 2016 at 12:54 am

      Thank you so much

  3. chai

    May 20, 2016 at 10:52 am

    Aww, the key to all ‘long-lasting’ Nigerian marriages
    1) Man: Be yourself. Do what you want.
    2)Woman: Endure

    25 years later:

    Man: This marriage has been so sweet, delicious and lovely.
    Woman: Endurance and tolerance are key in all marriages. You have to endure.

    At least Lady Di is with a romantic man lai se Bahamas and Sweden.

    • M

      May 20, 2016 at 12:05 pm

      ??????? perfect summary. Such a shame

    • Anonymous

      May 20, 2016 at 1:28 pm

      All you lonely single women that just drop nauseating comments. She has been married for over 38 years, not at gun point, while you probably cannot boast of successfully keeping a relationship for just 3 months.

      you are there trying to look for loopholes in a marriage that is probably older than you are. Weldone

    • beyyyyy

      May 20, 2016 at 1:54 pm

      olodo BN commenters are in relationships or married. Not everyone is single, which I’m sure YOU are. Oponu

    • belinda

      May 20, 2016 at 2:03 pm

      that you think women who fight for rights are lonely and single is sad. Do you know how many women here have partners and even children? Oby Ezekwesili, Chimamanda and co that have husbands that cook arent they Nigerian men? If what is paining you is a confident and assertive woman, go and look for an insecure woman to marry. If you’re a woman, stay being meek, nobody cares okay?

  4. Woman

    May 20, 2016 at 10:56 am

    This couple look “soo crazy” yet they make marriage work. I am doubly inspired to be myself and love my hubby for who he is. Love always conquers if we just allow it be.

  5. ladyb

    May 20, 2016 at 11:00 am

    Definately not the husband every woman at least not me dreams about “physically”lol

  6. Valentina

    May 20, 2016 at 11:11 am

    Errm, Ma’am your hubby is kinda weird!

    • Noname

      May 20, 2016 at 12:28 pm

      She sef dey weird and na so dem fit.

  7. Xyz

    May 20, 2016 at 11:14 am

    Read this on the other blog and couldn’t wait for it to get posted here so I can read the intelligent comments.
    To me sha, there’s only so much a woman can take.
    I’ll be back to comment again

    • Et

      May 20, 2016 at 11:25 am

      Where is your own “intelligent comment “for others to read?

    • Strit Kredibility

      May 20, 2016 at 5:59 pm

      Lol

  8. Ethio

    May 20, 2016 at 11:28 am

    lmaoooo the exact point

  9. Ethio

    May 20, 2016 at 11:30 am

    lmaoooo the exactly the point

  10. Las

    May 20, 2016 at 11:36 am

    Sun and Mercury in Gemini, just like Prince, Perfect marriage of brilliance and madness.

  11. good girl

    May 20, 2016 at 11:55 am

    to each his own ……allow people to love any way they deem fit they don’t have to conform to our “standards for love ..she is american by the way so save me the lecture to “the typical nigerian” woman please

  12. Call Me Gorgeous...

    May 20, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    Lips are sealed..
    Dont know what to think or make out of this interview…
    To each his own…
    Wishing them many more years in Happiness…

  13. Marian

    May 20, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    I think the important thing here is Charlie was himself so she knew what she was signing up for. It’s sad when you see guys fake it till after marriage. Just be yourself yall, even if you are a chronic cheater, i swear yo, you go find someone who will love you for who you are and will even allow you to bring your gf home.
    Shine your eyes ladies and gents and know the person you wanna marry. if your bf is slapping you during argument, you better know that’s who he is and he will do more when yall get married. if he can’t buy you recharge cards and flowers now as a bf, don’t be expecting fancy gifts after marriage. Know who you wan marry. If you are the one always going to his house to do dishes and cook, don’t expect him to be helping you out with dishes and cooking when yall marry.

  14. Chu

    May 20, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    Whether we accept it or not, there is a lot of endurance in marriage, if you love a person you would endure some things and over time with God, changes can begin to happen. i’m not talking about the beating o, Let’s not teach the single ones that you can walk out on a marriage once it gets tough when you are handling the toughness in your own marriage and smiling outside. When your child misbehaves do you chase him form the house? So let’s be more tolerant. As much as men have annoying ways, women also have annoying ways. Marriage is two people living through their differences and finding the happiness in it. She has endured a lot yes, but she saw it before entering, thank God they made it through some other marriages would have crumbled. We have the benefit of their stories to guide us before making a marriage decision, but you can never know all and no one is perfect so everyone should work out their own marriage with wisdom and understanding.

    • lola

      May 20, 2016 at 1:11 pm

      you LOVEEEEEE missing the point. People here are speaking of the general problem of Nigerian women having to be the ones who tolerate cheating and bad behaviour plus turning to Master Endurer while the man is jollifying all over with his young chics, neglecting child rearing, leaving the woman to do all the dishes, cook, clean the house, do homework etc. Would Charly Boy have stayed with her if she got pregnant from 7 men while doing Away Match? All this long epistle you wrote was for what? Don’t be like those men that would rather miss the point than take the correction of Nigerian women that are finally speaking out. We heard your complaints about sharing the bills(which we were doing anyway), hear ours and stop taking it personal.

    • Chu

      May 21, 2016 at 9:57 am

      It’s her story, you read it, you learn from it. Doesn’t mean you have to endure all those away matches but I’m saying some women can’t stand making their marraugea worked on. That’s what in against us preaching. Marriage is not all sweet, women need to know that so they dint run away at the very first sign of trouble.

    • Di

      May 21, 2016 at 5:10 am

      You said a damn lot but it seemed like your tongue was still heavy. Endure endure….endure what? Do you mean this generation’s wives should be tolerant of cheating like their mothers did? Speak up, don’t be scared, you said too much without saying anything. Why are we still comparing grown adult-men to kids, that shit needs to stop ASAP.

  15. Marlvina

    May 20, 2016 at 12:26 pm

    Weirdos…

  16. DatEnuguChic

    May 20, 2016 at 12:27 pm

    Whatever that kept 2 people together for 38 years is strong. I dont know what exactly keeps a marriage going for so long. But one thing is for sure every couple will figure out what works for them.

    • lola

      May 20, 2016 at 1:13 pm

      what keeps a marriage in Nigeria is THE WOMAN. She tolerates, endures, indulges, prays and manages, while raising his children and cooking and cleaning. In many cases she also helps him with some or all of the bills. In a normal situation, what should keep a marriage is God’s love ie faithful,patient,understanding….all the Corinthians 13:1 stuff.

    • Engoz

      May 20, 2016 at 3:16 pm

      Wow, I got chills reading that. lol

      In a normal situation, what should keep a marriage is God’s love ie faithful,patient,understanding….all the Corinthians 13:1 stuff.

      I like your use of the phrase -IN A NORMAL SITUATION! I will also narrow it down to a Christian marriage, cos I’m not interested in any other sort of establishment. For those who profess themselves as Christians, it is an ABNORMALITY…an abnormal marriage where one partner (in this case the woman) is doing the tolerating, enduring and praying.

      The problem actually stems from our mixture of tradition/culture with Christianity. In a traditional marriage setting, love as sacrifice is what females do, but in Christianity it is what both are required to do, but with more emphasis on the males. Christian religion requires a sacrificial position of the head exemplary of Jesus Christ who washed the feet of his disciples, who died on the cross. When Jesus was around, were his disciples slaving, enduring hardship. In John 13:15, after he washed the disciples feet, He said, I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. So if you are the type who require your wife to kneel for you, you have to do that first as the man. What you expect your wife to do for you, you have to do it first. Christ is the example of headship and John makes it clear that We love each other because He loved us first. The bible also said ‘husbands love your wives, so your prayers can be answered’.

      I really find it weird that certain elements (Nigerian Men, yup) who subscribe to Christian headship lack the wherewithal of tolerance, endurance and being prayerful. Instead you find women doing all these things, trying to seek the face of God more than those who call themselves the head. Who do you think God recognizes as the head? You think say na you…Nigerian man? You are sitting on a looongggg thing!

      Concerning Charly boy and wife…I don’t mind hanging out with them. There seems to be a bit of honesty which I like.

  17. Oj

    May 20, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    In Nigeria making a marriage work depends on the woman alone
    -she is the one fasting and praying
    -talking holy communion,feet washing in church,going for anointing service
    The hubby on the other hand is chopping life from one sweet chick to another
    From one club to another
    From one std to another
    It’s well

    • Manny

      May 23, 2016 at 1:40 am

      Until he turns 60 and starts to have health issues and turns to God. Then the wife goes like see why it is good to endure.

  18. meninnist

    May 20, 2016 at 1:06 pm

    It seems you people have a hard time reading she is not nigerian nor is this a typical nigerian marriage.

    Anyway you bella naija babe’s are Hypocrites, if Charlie was from the north Muslim had multiple wives and married the mothers of his out of wedlock children. You would fill this blog with anti nigerian men, anti Islam blah blah. But because he is from the south Christian and speaks on feminist rights there is a different “tone” in the comments section.

    Anyway from Bill Clinton to Charlie boy men can do what ever they like as long as they are romantic about it rubbish. These are the pro liberal men you people are talking of. They don’t believe in conformity in regards to gender roles, marriage or fatherly duties. To many of them it’s “2016 times have changed, no need to be present in all my children’s lives, no need for traditional homes or gender roles, I believe in equality rights let us be free”

    • Ginger

      May 20, 2016 at 1:48 pm

      African American women and Nigerian women are similar when it comes to relationships and men ie the stereotypical Afro American ‘ride or die chic’ who tolerates the man’s cheating and illegal jobs and stays even when he goes to prison. Plus women born up to the 60s and early 70s have the same mindset of tolerating rubbish all over the world. Jackie Onassis tolerated cheating from JFK, Hilary Clinton stayed with Bill… does an ‘American’ woman’s tolerance of cheating make it better? Patriarchy is not just an African problem, it’s WORLDWIDE. It’s in atheist relationships, Christian relationships, Muslim relationships, white, black and Asian relationships. As long as the relationship is heterosexual, therein lies the potential power imbalance: Gender. Rather than try to attack feminist ideologies, state yours and move on.

    • Chu

      May 21, 2016 at 10:07 am

      Some of these women tolerate cos of the big picture. This same Hilary is going for president with her husband supporting her, would she have gotten same support if divorced from him? She had planned her path from then, to be an ex president rather than the exwife of a former president. You find what works for you. Beyonce has decided it’s better for her brand to continue being g married to J zay rather than leave him,her choice her decision.

  19. Chinedu

    May 20, 2016 at 1:11 pm

    If this is what marriage is about then I have more respect for single women and divorces. Why would you take this crap from a men and think you have achieved something because you foolishly stayed for 38 years. This is why African women suffer so much. Instead of telling men to act right or a woman will leave we tell them to endure the stupidity of men. Would Charly have stayed if she were cheating and having children with men outside the marriage. How many men will stay with a woman who brings children from men other than the husband? Mrs Oputa your marriage is not a relationship goals for me or my dsughters. Marriage is difficult but it should not be at the expense of your dignity or self worth. It takes more stregnth to leave than stay. You are not a strong woman but s doormat. Don’t try to pass yourself off as a role model to young girls because you tolerated dysfunction for 30 years.

    • Nins

      May 20, 2016 at 1:46 pm

      Reading comprehension is important. He had those kids before the marriage. Please read to understand.

    • hian

      May 20, 2016 at 1:51 pm

      @Nins But she did imply that he was cheating and she stayed. Did you have to insult a commenter to make your point?

    • belinda

      May 20, 2016 at 1:58 pm

      AHHH but Charly used to play away match sotey he was openly going to marry another woman one time. Obsav cam down plz

  20. Fact

    May 20, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    “For most young people it’s about the packaging and never the content.”. Exactly, its more about BellaNaija weddings, cute pictures for the likes, the vacations and gifts to show off on social media. Leaving behind the true meaning of marriage, love, endurance, firendship, privacy. God help our generation

  21. Chinedu

    May 20, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    I also will tell people to say this is love. This is not love. A man who constantly cheats on you and impregnates women outside the marriage is not showing love. This is why women are chasing men and having babies with men who use them and dump them because we as a society teach them that it is normal for men to treat a woman like crap because he is just being an African man. This is why woman stay in abusive relationships because we teach them that he will change like she is advocating. What if she had contracted HIV because of his cheating because obviously he was not using protection if he was having children outside the marriage. Yet somehow I am supposed to see you as a strong woman because you put up with stupidity. I have respect for women like Beyonces mom who left her father after ,30 years because he cheated on her and is now remarried to a wonderful man. She knew her worth and did not stay for his stupidity.

    • Elizabeth

      May 20, 2016 at 2:47 pm

      But isn’t the reality that it was her choice to stay in that marriage? Personally I don’t know how I would react if hubby cheated. But it feels like were missing the bigger picture. This woman has shared from ‘her’ perspective how her marriage blossomed over the 38 years. Do we disregard her story because it doesn’t resonate with the choices we would make?. Ultimately this is the story we should push. That every Nigerian woman should have a choice? Is she less of a woman for staying with a man that committed adultery? We need to be cautious how we relate to topics

    • Chu

      May 21, 2016 at 10:03 am

      But her daughter (Beonce) is staying with a man who repeatedly cheats on her.

    • n

      May 21, 2016 at 1:30 pm

      @Chu please shut up. You’re obviously a young boy already building up his huge ego and refusing to take correction and be disagreed with. Women will not endure cheating, even if Beyonce and Hillary Clinton did. I hope YOU will endure a cheating wife and please tell your daughter to do the same. Your comments have nothing to do with either Diana’s articles or the comments that ensued. You think I’m joking? Read everything to a very neutral and intellingent person, see what they tell you. Good riddance

  22. Puzzles

    May 20, 2016 at 1:29 pm

    The hypocrisy in what she’s saying is too much. He’s a “deeply spiritual person”, he’s a “christian”, yet he has playaway matches?

    Abeg, ladies, be honest with yourselves. Do you want to be married for 50 years but spent 45 years of it having high blood pressure over sidechicks and illegitimate children? Or do you want a truly happy married life with a man who loves and respects you enough to reject the temptations around him? Be careful of the advice of such women.

    • Las

      May 20, 2016 at 2:31 pm

      King David in the bible could be described as one of the most spiritual persons to ever walk the earth, I mean he wrote almost all the psalms. He was also legendary for his ‘away’ matches. Solomon, whom we love to quote from Proverbs and Ecclesiastes had over 1000 concubines. We all have our weaknesses and just because mine are less visible than another’s does not mean I am more ‘spiritual’

    • Redeemed

      May 20, 2016 at 6:45 pm

      So of all the characters in the bible,it’s only David and Solomon that gave you inspiration. ?
      David was a man after God’s own heart because of his SINCERE REPENTANCE. He didn’t brag about or continue in the sin to be tagged ‘spiritual’.
      Moreover while you are quick to use that aspect of their life as inspiration…hope you are also willing to share in the consequences they suffered.
      I wonder when we will stop branding ‘evil deeds’ as ‘weaknesses’ ,and justifying them….but instead seeing them for what they are and stopping them

  23. Zedzed

    May 20, 2016 at 1:41 pm

    Am I the only one or does it seem as if nobody understood what she said? The kids are from his partners BEFORE they got together (his ex-wives and baby mamas). She said in the first 8 years, they had issues because she “thought” he was cheating on her, because he was surrounded by women but now she understands better.
    I beg somebody who has reading comprehension skills should read and comment so I don’t feel like I’m imagining things. Thank you in advance

    • belinda

      May 20, 2016 at 1:58 pm

      he used to cheat. People understand, you’re not the only one that can read abeg

  24. Awiase

    May 20, 2016 at 1:44 pm

    I just love how candid and frank she is.Most celebs grant interviews and only ‘lie’.Saying ‘oh my partner is perfect,we are best friends and we never fight’.Which I as a married woman know is a lie.You don’t have to wash your dirty linen outside but you can be honest and say the truth discreetly.Most single people especially see and listen and at the end of the day get married and expect that perfect marriage,don’t get one and tell themselves ‘oh I failed’ or I was expecting what so so and so said in his/her interview.Meanwhile the problem would be with the person and his or her high expectations from marriage because of what a celeb has uploaded on social media or said but not the marriage.My dear ladies at times marriage has not failed but rather the problem is with our expectations.am awed by this ladies interview and she is one of the few celebs who has been honest about married.I always advice people contemplating marriage to talk personally to their parents/older married ones and also observe them than just listening to what a celeb said about his or hers because they mostly paint non-existent perfect pictures of their lives because of social media likes,to get more fans and to protect their images.Kudos to Charley’s wife.

  25. Naijatalk

    May 20, 2016 at 1:57 pm

    A few things to note here menninist.
    The predominant religion in the region you speak of is repressive to women; does not protect young women from being child brides; just unspeakably repressive. Big glaring difference my man.

    • belinda

      May 20, 2016 at 2:00 pm

      he’s a meninist 🙂 ie allergic to anything female emancipation. He was mocking his ex for asking where the relationship was going in a post from yesterday

  26. Ola

    May 20, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    Whoever transcribed this interview though. I was trying to figure out what “pons” was…pon de replay? I guess it’s supposed to be “pawns”.

  27. Mabel

    May 20, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    @Awiase. I made a comment similar to yours on Stella’s blog. I even think Diane should write a book, she has a great story to share. Her honesty is so refreshing, too many ppl with long marriages paint this unnaturally rosy picture of their life. It take a lot to stick with someone for so long, just the general boredom would have done me in. At least for Lady Di, Charly is not a boring man.

  28. Obi

    May 20, 2016 at 4:16 pm

    Lol, The same narrative over and over and over again. The woman endures, she cooks, she cleans, she dies she wakes up she feeds blah blah blah. Are u guys always angry?? There are lots of women too that live terrible lifes in their marriages but u dont get to see men whine and cry all day online about it. Too many people here are fond of diverting from interesting articles to their usual hate speech about what and what doesn’t happen to the Nigerian woman. Almost sounding like a broken record. Pls allow people read, enjoy, and celebrate successful marriages. The other day a lady was looking for likes or something to get a particular start up fund for her start up company yet there wasn’t a single comment from any lady on that thread ( shd be in the inspired/career page of BN). Not one lady wrote on that thread asking how to help. the only place u converge is on threads like this to give ur usual rant about how the nigerian man is ur problem. Really u guys shd spare us the gist abeg..

  29. Apples

    May 20, 2016 at 4:32 pm

    So for us to have a successful marriage such as this we should let our husbands cheat??????

  30. Chinedu

    May 20, 2016 at 4:38 pm

    @Las ! This is the African mentality that keeps us back. Instead of admonishing wrong doing we want to excuse it .King David in the Bible suffered greatly for his sexual misdeeds. Do you not read the Bible? His children turned against him and his first child with Bathesheba died because of his adultery. King Solomon did not make it to heaven because his 1000 concubines turned him against God to serve idols. How many concubines did Paul, Peter or Jesus have. They were all spiritual people too!

  31. xxx

    May 20, 2016 at 6:46 pm

    I didn’t read this article. I don’t want to. I shall only read a charlie article where he dresses and looks sane.
    That being said bellanaija did u cull this picture from the net or he recently did a fotoshoot?
    If so, charlyboy stop this rubbish. The age have passed. Stop it so Denrele knows wen to end it too.
    Be a good example.

  32. No body force you marry Naija man

    May 20, 2016 at 7:24 pm

    Notice dis kind of topics are often the hottest on this blog. All these women always complaining, stay single Biko. Have peace.

  33. ToBeReal

    May 20, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    Check the profile of the called Western Culture. you pander and obsess about….nuff divorcees and coded mistresses….
    No perfect system…each to his own…make your own home!!

  34. Chinedu

    May 20, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    The reason why the single woman are in uproar is because they have sense. I now see it that divorces and single women now have more sense than some of these women. Is her relationship something to brag about? What man or husband will counsel other men that their wife is a good women because she cheated during their marriage, has been married three times and has children outside the marriage. People would call the man who praises such a woman a mad men but we are supposed to accept this stupidity because it is a man doing it? She should go and hide her head in shame that she would tolerate this nonsense in the first place.

  35. Mabel

    May 20, 2016 at 11:06 pm

    Relax ppl, she is sharing her story, her history. Nobody is saying your life has to mirror this, but if you plan to have a lasting, divorce -free marriage you are going to have to put up with some shit at some point along the way, It may not be cheating or outside children; but it may be gambling, pornography, lies, dishonesty, financial problems, heavy alcohol drinking, wasting money or running savings dry, malice, envy, sexual starvation and removal of affection, hatred for your family..etc. Who knows what form YOUR struggle will come in, the fact is every marriage has to weather some storms, it’s whether you can keep your vessel afloat during stormy weather or you give up and let it sink??

    • Chu

      May 21, 2016 at 9:58 am

      Gbammest, you just said what I was saying earlier.. Only better.

    • linda

      May 21, 2016 at 1:34 pm

      This Chu is my worst commenter here always writing off point articles to stylishly insist on repressed gender roles. You remind me of someone with the same name on my group chat, if youre the one then I’m not surprised. Dont continue like this and become a chauvinist with a Bible in hand. You are not a woman and you dont know what it feels like to be one so please keep quiet or go elsewhere. I’m actually getting quite fed up and disgusted with your comments on this blog.

    • LOLO

      May 21, 2016 at 10:38 am

      That is NOT true. No marriage is perfect but it doesn’t have to come with someone putting up with heavy things like gambling, pornography, heavy alcoholism, sexual starvation…. You know what, read your comment to your daughter if you have one, and tell her to stay with a man who does the things you mentioned. If you have a son, do the same and I bet it will sound even more ridiculous to you. You sound like you’ve resigned to a fate of accepting such even before your marriage may have started. Financial problems, yes, but why are Nigerians so eager to accept such awful things? Do you know that you deserve better as a human being? If you do find yourself in such a situation and decide to stay, that’s one thing, but your comment is beyond unsettling that you assume marriage must come with such horrendous incidents, when you could have brought up marital issues due to factors like personality differences, infertility, financial issues etc. Nigerians I hail una o

  36. Mow

    May 21, 2016 at 6:36 am

    Truth be told, there are lotd of useful points to hold on to from this. Am a christian and would never leave out the God-factor. But herr we have a couple that are not ashamed to spell out romance and intimacy as a major tool in their marriage. Young ‘christian’ couples have to understand that they can speak ‘tongue’ not only in churxh but alsp in there intimate lives

  37. Mabel

    May 21, 2016 at 5:28 pm

    What is unsettling is your lack of reasoning skills. The idea that you would think real life experiences are lies, and the limited belief that something has to be personally experienced for it to be real. Please use your critical thinking skills, you are reading my comment at a primary school level.

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