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Nollywood Actress Rita Edochie Shares how She Was Sexually Abused

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Rita EdochiePopular Nollywood actress, Rita Edochie said she was a victim of sexual abuse many years ago and called on parents to regularly communicate with their children.

Edochie revealed this in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Wednesday in Abuja.

Edochie, who was a guest at a seminar to end violence against children, told NAN that she was sexually violated at a young age by a family friend.

“I was a victim of sexual abuse; that was when I was in primary six; I was going to the hospital and somebody called me. The boy used some diabolic means and sexually violated me; when I could not see my period, I refused to tell my mother, because she was very strict.

I love sharing my experience because at the end of the day I succeeded; If I had not succeed, I would not have been able to share it,” Edochie said.

She explained that the pregnancy was about seven months before her mother noticed it.

Edochie added that her mother was shocked at the pregnancy because she thought her being strict would not allow such a thing to happen.

“My mother asked how it happened and I told her everything; my brother picked a knife and wanted to kill me, but my mother stopped him. It happened that the mother of the boy that violated me was my mother’s friend; the boy’s mother was surprised but the boy denied.

My mother took me to hospital to abort the pregnancy with a plan of taking me to my grandmother’s place at Ogede to stay for one week before returning home.

I told her I may lose my life in the process; and because she loved me, she then aborted the planned abortion; I feel it was God that spoke through me,” she said.

According to the actress, “my mother took care of the baby while I went to school; if not for my mother I would not be where I am today”.

The veteran actress called on parents to communicate regularly with their children and make them their best friends.

“Parents should always listen to their children’s complaints on happenings both in and outside the home.”

Photo Credit: Facebook- Rita Edochie

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) was established by the Federal Government of Nigeria in May 1976 to gather and distribute news on Nigeria and cover events of interest to Nigeria at the international level for the benefit of the Nigerian Media and the Public.

37 Comments

  1. Faith

    May 25, 2016 at 9:58 pm

    Parents must Create enough time for their children,spending a lot of time on the road,and at work,is rubbing the family of quality times that are needed to be spent together..Lots of sexual abuse are covered up,to the detriment of the family and the child.

  2. Anonymous

    May 25, 2016 at 10:21 pm

    ‘my brother picked a knife and wanted to kill me’ he wanted to kill you or the rapist?

    I’m proud of you for overcoming this regardless though. May God use you to save and elevate many more child victims.

  3. nene+

    May 25, 2016 at 11:14 pm

    Oh dear! I wonder how the child would feel today! Hmmm always always a family friend!

    Well I don’t even leave my daughter with family friends and somehow I let them know I don’t trust them. I know one can never be careful enough but i can’t shout! The surveillance has to double after now.

  4. ME

    May 26, 2016 at 12:59 am

    Her brother took a night and almost killed his sister instead of the boy who got a girl in primary six pregnant (whether consensual or not). Mtchwww. God of African women, please intervene.

    • ME

      May 26, 2016 at 12:59 am

      Her brother took a knife*

  5. letty

    May 26, 2016 at 3:49 am

    Primary 6 that is 10 or 11 years old wow

  6. Nacha

    May 26, 2016 at 5:46 am

    In those days pry6 was 13/14. I think her brother wanted to kill her because she was pregnant and thought the act was consensual. It happened to me too when I got pregnant at 16. Mine wasn’t rape though but it was for a much older guy(20years older). My big brother actually started strangling me. It was my dad that hit him, if not………… Rita I’m sorry for your suffering. Thank God you turned out great. You’re beautiful and blessed. But come o, how do children that know they resulted from rape feel? I am really curious. Do they hate the rapist parent, do they wish they were never born, how do they cope with the knowledge? Please anybody that’s in such position and willing to share, it would be nice to get their side. This issue of rape is something that just tires me. There’s no point scolding and correcting because rapists are evil and don’t have conscience. They know it’s wrong but still do it anyway because they are sick.Let’s shield our children from evil.

  7. Ebere

    May 26, 2016 at 6:00 am

    That’s how I noticed my daughter’s lesson teacher was always looking at her funny. I would catch him staring at her non existent bum when she gets up to go drink water or use the toilet during lessons. My daughter is slow at learning and her growth mentally is slow so even when I ask her she doesn’t understand unlike her older siblings who are sharper. I told my husband about it. He said I’m being paranoid and we can’t afford to lose this particular man because his fees were the lowest amongst other teachers we found and he even agreed to go extra mile with my daughter as per tutelage. Usually I’m around during their lessons because I listen in on both of them and ask her questions later about what she leant, then I give him feed back.

    On this particular day I forgot she had lesson scheduled and I went to attend to an appointment that was far from my home. As I was driving I just remembered about the lesson, so I told my husband to hurry home that I didn’t feel all was well. Lo and behold my husband got home to find the lesson teacher and our seven year old daughter in a very uncompromising, disgusting situation. My BIL who opened the door for the lesson teacher and was supposed to watch them had a lady he was having sex with in the house. I got home to find a bloodied man and police in my house. My husband and my BIL had beat him silly. This happened almost 4mnths ago and my husband has refused to tell me the full details and he hasn’t forgiven himself.

    My daughter is not as fast as her peers so I hope she doesn’t remember the incident. I’m just so angry at my husband. When I was voicing my concerns, he was making me seem deranged. Now he’s the one having sleepless nights and paranoid of everybody. Mothers always go with your instincts! I’m just consoled by the fact that that was his first and last time. I was always with them during lessons so he couldn’t have done it any other time. I just feel really bad. If she was growing normally I’m sure she would have shouted or alerted somebody. That’s what her elder sister would do. If you tell her anything and she tries her best to understand, 3 secs she has forgotten. It is well, Amen. I just wanted to share my experience.

    • mac

      May 26, 2016 at 7:05 am

      So sorry to hear your story Ebere. Please try to get your daughter to a therapist to deal with the incident. Such things have a way of altering the child’s mental and emotional growth.

    • Bint

      May 26, 2016 at 7:09 am

      So sorry to hear this. I pray your husband find peace soon. And please you should try to find out exactly what he saw.

    • i no send

      May 26, 2016 at 7:42 am

      so sorry about your terrible experience…

    • MIA

      May 26, 2016 at 8:45 am

      Hello, I am so so sorry about that. I want daughters but I am so afraid of what they will go through. Time heals all things. Your daughter and hubby should talk to a therapist. Might help.

    • anonymous

      May 26, 2016 at 8:46 am

      This is so incredibly sad, so sorry about your daughter, but make sure she speaks to a therapist, and hope that animal is in jail.

    • Somtoo

      May 26, 2016 at 8:59 am

      So sorry Ebere. Please dont me mad at your husband. Most times, people are blind to this sexual abuse stories and dont believe it can happen to them until it does. I hope your story helps a family whose child is been abused and they have chosen not to give into their instincts to investigate.

    • Somtoo

      May 26, 2016 at 9:01 am

      “be” and “‘these””. Typing with a lot of emotions running through me.

    • Celeste

      May 26, 2016 at 9:01 am

      Mrs Ebere, so sorry to about the terrible event. Please, take your daughter to see a therapist, she may not be as smart as her siblings, but most probably hasn’t forgotten.

      Please what’s BIL?

    • Cindy

      May 26, 2016 at 9:39 am

      Brother-in-law

    • Biker Chic

      May 26, 2016 at 12:53 pm

      So sorry Ebere. My sister’s daughter has issues too similar to your daughter’s. That was how lesson teacher – highly regarded one o, took her on a walk when it was break time. My sister is a hawk, immediately she found out, she para, the whole house plus husband scattered looking for teacher and daughter. They found both walking gingerly and gisting. She just snatched her daughter and warned teacher seriously never to go for walks with her daughter ever again. Walks are for her nanny not the teacher. A mother’s instincts never fail.

    • So sad

      May 26, 2016 at 8:07 pm

      This is why we need a sex offenders list in Nigeria. This useless so-called teacher is still on the prowl with potential victims unaware.

  8. Glory

    May 26, 2016 at 6:43 am

    How on earth will a mother not notice her child is pregnant until she’s about 7months gone? Just how? Mama Rita I’m not judging you but then this just indicates a super level of your unobservance. 3months? Yes but just not 7months.
    I mean in which coven is the monitoring spirits of our Nigerian mothers sleeping away in? Something happened to me last year in school and I came home behaving funny. My mum kept asking questions and I wasn’t willing to divulge but then she was persistent, at a point I was scared of seeing her or even picking her calls. The summary of the story is that she found out herself while my dad kept saying that I’m an adult and I was gonna tell them when the time is right but the truth is I was never gonna tell them. What my mum did taught me that someone knows me, is watching me and cares.
    As for that boy that carried a knife against his sister, i refuse the temptation to comment about you, I just refuse. They told you that someone got your Primary6 sister pregnant and all you could do is to carry knife. Brother it’s well with your soul!

    • zara

      May 29, 2016 at 1:46 am

      Glory some people are pregnant till delivery or is it strange to you, so do not open your mouth and blame her mum,

  9. Kay

    May 26, 2016 at 6:52 am

    Ma’am @Ebere, please don’t be angry with hubby as it is, he is still hurting from what happened and is not able to give u further details but please now is the time to give your daughter extra love, care and attention, hopefully she will pick up and also involve your other children as well to help their sister, that way her learning process may pick up fast. God will help you!

  10. Opeolu

    May 26, 2016 at 7:33 am

    Very disheartening,when the innocence of the young ones are violently taking from them

  11. Celeb

    May 26, 2016 at 8:08 am

    All this stories have robbed us of some innocent play. Back in those days, family stay with us and they would playfully shout ‘look at your kokoro’ after bath. So many sickos have ruined those type of banters.

    My sister was abused as a kid even tho she didn’t tell anyone but somehow I got to know. Now she is so paranoid about her daughter (and it’s not a bad thing). She once told me she can’t leave her daughter with me because she can’t say what will happen when she’s not home! I stopped going to house and she’s still wondering why!

    Aunty Yinka when your daughters grow up, if By God’s Grace we are all still alive, I’ll visit then. It’s not her fault, it’s not mine….it’s those sickos out there!

    • larz

      May 26, 2016 at 9:15 am

      You cant stop visiting your sister but you must do so with sense. Visit in the comapny of other family member or when she is home with her hubby. Given what you know about her, you should try to understand where she is coming from. Abused victims tends to be over-protective. some even go overboard.

    • Kadara

      May 26, 2016 at 1:10 pm

      @ Caleb, I’m glad you understand what your sister is going through and the reason for her paranoia. Pls don’t stop going to visit her, just limit it to when she’s around and never stay with the kids alone. Unfortunately this is what the sickos have turned the things to

  12. blueivy

    May 26, 2016 at 9:02 am

    SOME THINGS ARE BETTER LEFT UNSAID. HOW WILL I FEEL IF MY MOTHER REVEALS TO ME AND THE WHOLE WORD THAT I AM A PRODUCT OF RAPE ? JUST WONDERING SHA.

    • Natu

      May 26, 2016 at 9:49 am

      @bluivy Why should she be silent?? I am glad she shared her story. She has nothing to be ashamed of. She is the victim!!!

  13. Tosin

    May 26, 2016 at 9:31 am

    O wow. Real life.

  14. Toyin

    May 26, 2016 at 10:03 am

    It is well dear, the Lord is your strength and i understand what you are going through.
    I had a similar experience and told my hubby but he brushed it aside. I didn’t wait for anything to happen though as i bouted the guy out. In situations like this its better you are wrong at the end of the day than not take action.
    Your daughter might be taking her time now, but turn out ahead her peers later; no one knows tomorrow. Just continue to pray and work on it.

  15. Letty

    May 26, 2016 at 11:02 am

    Parents you have to be hawkish…i have 3 daughters…ive told my mom when i visit nija this summer…i don’t want to see any driver, houseboy or so called male relatives around the house…ill just go back to America.if i see them Times are hideous now. With easy access to porn and debauchery everywhere ppl have becone so sexualized and devious……even male children are abused…my kids do not do sleep overs its better to err on the side of caution and be almost paranoid than take chances…women’s instincts never fail them.

    • just watch your kids

      May 27, 2016 at 12:24 pm

      Who told you female relatives don’t molest kids. I was sexually molested as a kid by my cousin, nigehbours kid (who came over on play dates) and my mum’s sister no male realtive or freind laid a finger on me all of them were female! Watch your kids!? male or female , anyone can abuse them.

  16. Billy Jean

    May 26, 2016 at 12:00 pm

    She should be silent about the pregnancy part. She isn’t in this alone and we know how people are. When you get into argument with someone, the first thing they say is ‘how much do you even have that you are talking’
    Now imagine that people know a person is a product of rape. You think people won’t use this to take a swipe? I think she’s selfish for disclosing the pregnancy part but it’s her life sha! My opinion doesn’t count!

  17. ijedimma

    May 26, 2016 at 5:10 pm

    The summary of the long story is: Never leave your daughter in care of anyone, be it your brothers, cousin or good neighbor.Several stories reveal they are not safe with them cos i have experienced where a woman on same street with me, invited her brother to live with them and he slept with her 8 year old daughter severally, mine is also an eye opener. I wasnt slept with but my neigbors son kept fondling me and all. Mothers should wake up and become smarter and more careful biko nu

  18. mac

    May 26, 2016 at 5:39 pm

    It is not just your daughters but your sons as well. You never know who is capable of what.

  19. Blackky

    May 27, 2016 at 6:46 am

    it is not easy. We need to look after our daughters n son too. A friend(boy) of mine was disvirgines by their the. House help.
    Me: my mums brother inlaw was busy fingering me at every give. Time. I got to understand what he was doing when in became older. Now when k see him I look at him with so much hatred n I see his kids the same way.
    I won’t even talk about my other female friend, who becos of all these cant even date or keep a relationship for so long be it girl or boy. Hers was bad she was abused by both.
    So I. Summary whether Na woman or man all Na winch, keep ur kids safe n let them know where no one must touch. If touched they should hit the loudest alarm buttons.
    Stupid idiot bastard rapist I’m so angry! GOODNIGHT

  20. zara

    May 29, 2016 at 1:50 am

    Blueivy don’t worry u are not a public figure,celebrate so u don’t have platform to tell such story. Rite is well known,her story will affect olives in a positive was

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