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Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi shares how her & a Friend were denied Entry into a Lounge because they were “Unescorted Females” | Lounge Responds

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Media personality Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi shared her experience at a Nigerian lounge last night and the conversation has been trending on Twitter.

The OAP and her friend visited a lounge for some food last night but they were not allowed entry by the bouncer at the door because they were “unescorted”. In a series of tweets, Gbemi explained what happened.

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The lounge, seeing the tweets, also used Twitter as a way to reach out to her saying that it is not their policy to turn back unescorted women but that they do turn back women dressed inappropriately to which Gbemi responded that she and her friend were dressed appropriately.

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Their response has since caused quite the trending topic on Twitter with a lot of people calling them out for discrimination against women.

See the lounge’s explanation below.

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See tweets below.

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BNers, what do you think?

65 Comments

  1. Great Lady

    August 22, 2016 at 11:19 am

    Absolute rubbish.

    • sista

      August 22, 2016 at 12:49 pm

      …what happens to unescorted males????

    • Fisayo

      August 22, 2016 at 1:24 pm

      They are males. So nothing spoil.

      If Sailors won’t let me enter, then I will enter His gate with thanksgiving in my heart, I will enter His court with praise…..sing with me ladies…..

    • Iris

      August 22, 2016 at 2:02 pm

      Are you a learner? Lol. I’m sure your question was rhetorical but it is still funny.

    • Anne

      August 22, 2016 at 2:40 pm

      You should enter His gates first, no need to go to Sailors

    • Bimbo

      August 22, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      Why bother to go to sailors when you could enter his ‘gates’ instead? Holy holy.

    • Tired.com

      August 22, 2016 at 3:49 pm

      Naija is the official home of the 1st class hypocrite. This is the country where a man will turn you into a prostitute, just because he can. Control likes to manifest itself in different formats. Everywhere you go dirty bouncers and doormen who have no business talking to women will automatically stop you at the gate or stop you at the door to ask you what you want in the hotel/restaurant/bar etc. It is the ultimate humiliation and dehumanisation of Nigerian women. They don’t stop white women just black ones. I speak from experience. Southern Sun is the champion of this practice. Control likes to present itself in different forms. One of which is the illiterate guard in a uniform questioning educated women with way too much glee in his voice. These idiots have been given power by their so called bosses to stop women from entering their premises. First of all let me say categorically there is no supply without demand. The hooker chics you fear so much from tarnishing your establishment are solicited in the dozens by your best clientele, senators, politicians, bankers and the like. They absolutely adore those cheap chicks that aren’t asking for dinners, dates and flights abroad. But you dare not stop those men from inviting girls in after paying 80k per night for a hotel room. No its the normal girls who can afford to buy their own meals and drinks that rock up to hotel bars, restaurants and the like you want to humiliate. The guards have to pretend to be doing their jobs so they will always stop the likes of Gbemi and co. The hooker chics always manage to get in because they’ve settled the doormen with a tip, so yes, you will enter the bar and still see those girls there regardless of management’s policy. The Gbemi’s and co of this world who are innocently looking for a place to chill didn’t get the memo for the payoff, seeing that they’re not there on business in the first place. How you are dressed is irrelevant!!!

    • Somtoo

      August 23, 2016 at 11:49 am

      Naaahh. I dont agree. Southern Sun has never turned me away. Ahn ahn…never o. My friend and i have gone on numerous occasions and no one has ever questioned us. Very polite security guys and staff. Well i speak from my own experience.

    • Ada Nnewi

      August 22, 2016 at 7:33 pm

      Bottles did this same rubbish! I raised hell till the manager came down to apologise… That was the very last time i went there… Rubbish policies!! It’s only in Nigeria you will go out to eat as a woman and the waiter will not bring the menu till you ask them what is wrong with them because they are waiting for “the man” that invited you out to arrive, when you came to eat by yourself… They don’t even have the sense to ask are you here alone?, before displaying their chauvinistic mindsets…

  2. kilipot

    August 22, 2016 at 11:44 am

    Maybe it’s the bouncers’ overzealousness because I don’t understand.
    I have experienced the same thing at this particular Sailors Lounge. We planned a bridal shower for a friend in 2014. When we arrived the bouncer looked at us funny, went in, came back andd then told us to go in with that same attitude.
    Never been there again since then, anyway.

  3. Xplorenollywood.com

    August 22, 2016 at 11:47 am

    Gbese!!! They have entered one chance and i am glad peeps like Gbemi OO have put them on blast. If it was sum1 like me, i bet they wont be interested in whether i got turned down or not. What the heck do they mean by unescorted ladies though, would you let me in if i was escorted by a 17 yr old? #Sigh#

  4. Halle

    August 22, 2016 at 11:48 am

    Four Points Hotel did the same to me last year.
    I am ALWAYS properly dressed…. No Cleavage showing, no short dresses, no bodycon
    After all the money i have spent there, did my birthday there
    Encouraged my company and numerous friends to host parties there
    Anyway, they apologized…. But I was HIGHLY Embarrassed #Ineverexperridit

    But on a second thought, I sometimes dnt blame them coz the number of olosho/runs girls i was beginning to see was alarming….

    They should just come up with a strategy to identify and differentiate ladies
    *sigh*

    • Iris

      August 22, 2016 at 5:33 pm

      The thing is they have once again put the burden on the women. Does it mean prostitutes can come in as long as they are accompanied? I won’t be surprised if they have prostitutes in there anyway; they just came in with men.

  5. Gbemi

    August 22, 2016 at 11:53 am

    Gbemi sorry for that, but I ve been to Sailors alone as a lady without being escorted , I believe the bouncer are so perfect oo,Sailors is a first class lounge and they don’t allow single ladies they suspected to be slot .Anyway ,when next u are going to Sailors dress well and don’t look like prostitute .

    • Observer

      August 22, 2016 at 3:32 pm

      For this comment alone, you are an idiot.

    • Nina

      August 22, 2016 at 4:18 pm

      You need help asap.

    • Corolla

      August 22, 2016 at 4:46 pm

      Lmao @Gbemi. Your bad grammar is unbelievable. Where the hell are your punctuations?

    • Ms jazz

      August 22, 2016 at 6:06 pm

      “The bouncer are” Go and learn how to write proper English before coming online to display how uneducated you are.. Shior

    • Joy

      August 23, 2016 at 2:37 pm

      In other words you are concluding she looked like a prostitute? Or didn’t you see others complaning of d same attitude by the same lounge. Abeg be guided.

  6. nwanyi na aga aga

    August 22, 2016 at 11:55 am

    I know I will be bashed by the “bellanaija appropriate” but believe me if you want to run a sane hospitality business in any guise in this country that rule of “no escorted women ” will come into play sha sha… A friend of mine who just started a hotel business was propositioned by some ladies to allow them live in his hotel for one year. Their business idea was that they will attract men ie their clients, who will in turn patronize my friends bar. He couldn’t believe it. Then he immediately set up no escorted woman policy especially if you are dressed in a suggestive way. Well you guys can say all you want but if a business owner says he/she doesn’t cater to a certain set of people, then you all should understand that is the persons own human right. You all can boycott the arena but I guess they must have weighed their pros and cons before setting up the policy.

    • Xoxo

      August 22, 2016 at 12:16 pm

      Seriously? I’m really confused here. A woman cannot decide on her own to just go out and have lunch by herself or with a female friend. She needs to be accompanied by a man? For what, protection? I’m really confused

    • nwanyi na aga aga

      August 22, 2016 at 6:19 pm

      No a woman can actually go on her own to have lunch but the problem is that business owners have had ladies of certain profession ruin business for them, cause issues, attract the kind of crowd they don’t want to attend to, so they set up these policies to protect their business. It is the fact, you guys might not like it but especially if you are dressed in a way that can be interpreted in a certain manner. I have actually been to sailors and I didn’t even know they had the no escorted woman policy and I went alone. So I get it is annoying but the business owner is not in the business to promote women right, she/he is in the business to make money so if certain boundaries need to be set, they have to set it to survive. Go to that sailors and truly ask they will tell you the main reason they set up that policy. Tell me how many of you guys will go to sailors to chill out if you hear its only ladies of a certain profession that hang there? Una no go run? So if una run who go dey patronize the business na?

    • anonymous

      August 22, 2016 at 12:19 pm

      So the men that come to look for sugar mummies nah, why haven’t they bounced them?

    • Anonymous

      August 22, 2016 at 1:40 pm

      men don’t hunt for sugarmummies in the way the women hunt for sugardaddies.

  7. lotus flower

    August 22, 2016 at 11:57 am

    Glad she posted this. I’m happy BN also posted this story so women know not to visit that place!

  8. Mimi

    August 22, 2016 at 12:14 pm

    Some restaurants do this to check the kind of girls that comes in, most girls come in to look for men and some customers complain about the amount of scantily dressed girls at such places.You need to understand the plight of the management when they make such rules.

    • LEM

      August 22, 2016 at 1:45 pm

      Ok, but I hope you understand that there is a difference between being decently dressed and being scantily dressed. This has happened to me as well times and in company of at least one or two female friends always dressed in Jeans with a shirt/t-shirt when I was single. Pray tell is that indecent? The discrimination against single women is just too much abeg. It needs to stop.

  9. Mr. Egghead

    August 22, 2016 at 12:16 pm

    Sip used to be a quasi-brothel before they started doing the ‘no unescorted ladies’ things. Maybe they’ve changed now. Some customers kept complaining of girls overtly propositioning them.
    Lounges everywhere in lagos do this; they’ll deny it publicly for political correctness but they always tell the bouncers to screen out girls with ‘edges.’ Gbemi is just lucky because she has near-celebrity status. Tomorrow, they will still do it to another person. Best bet is to know somebody in management
    It’s sad stuff
    You can’t blame the club, they have to protect their business. It’s not being misogynistic or anything like that.
    You can’t blame the runz girls either; they are hungry and will naturally flock to places where wealthy patrons can be found.
    There’s no balance

    • Fisayo

      August 22, 2016 at 1:27 pm

      Chei! Epic shade!

      “near-celebrity”…. I’m rolling with laughter

    • mee

      August 22, 2016 at 3:10 pm

      “near celebrity status???? O God!!!!! lmaoooooo

  10. Tosin

    August 22, 2016 at 12:18 pm

    toh, next battle: visas. females under 50 are potential prostitutes…policy. abi i lie?

    • Lacey

      August 22, 2016 at 9:12 pm

      [email protected] you are so funny!there is nothing like western civilization sha! You can enter anywhere and if u like don’t buy anything ,no prob! It is well with unescorted females !Even Churches do it!I got to Church early one Sunday morning,a redeemed Church on the Island ,this was like 9 years back,the usher asked me to go to the back after they asked me for my husband!that single women seat at the back! I now asked them if single women will not enter heaven?my dear discrimination against single women is so rife in that country!

    • Lacey

      August 22, 2016 at 9:20 pm

      I meant sit! autocorrect nor dey let person write properly again!

  11. winnie

    August 22, 2016 at 12:19 pm

    @Nwanyi I guess you also have a strong point. The Lounge owner should explain to the bouncer what inappropriate dressing look like

    • nwanyi na aga aga

      August 22, 2016 at 6:22 pm

      See ehn that is where we might now have issues, depending on what the bouncer deems indecent.. See I am not supporting this rule but I kinda understand the business owners. Cos I have seen the other side of the prism.

  12. Ethio

    August 22, 2016 at 12:32 pm

    not just ladies, the first and last time i went to a club i was forced to buy a bottle of one cheap whatever for 10k before they could let me in with my two other friends (we’re guys) because “we no carry women”.. that’s with enough side eyes,below the breath cusses and pushes from the bouncers that was worth close to 30k… i left not upto 30mins later after fighting with another bouncer on the inside

    • FYI

      August 22, 2016 at 1:43 pm

      @ethio this is not an LGBT protest, gbemi went to eat you went to the club with a guy. tho this measure seems discrimnatory it has really positive objectives

  13. praizeblog.com

    August 22, 2016 at 12:33 pm

    this is another iiishhh

  14. beauty

    August 22, 2016 at 1:30 pm

    That’s so wrong!!! Sometimes girls just want to have fun together by hanging out and having a girls’ night out! Everything is not about man pleaseeeee.

  15. xxxx

    August 22, 2016 at 1:36 pm

    I and my friend ve gone to sailors unescorted. I wasn’t bounced ooo.
    And I kinda liked the bouncer he had a smile that got to his eyes. He was like a gentle jack. Or those japanese heavyweight fighters that are softies.
    Gbemi no vex. Please accept their humble apologies.
    Lol

    • Pompey

      August 22, 2016 at 2:04 pm

      What’s the “lol” for? Do you know how degrading this sort of experience can be?

      I see, so the bouncer gave you smile to the eyes that did you totori and all of a sudden you think you’re a better specie of female.

      Clap for yourself, vision express that you is na. If you don’t stop that your condescending tone, the thunder! the thunder that will fire you, is not wearing pant, just like sailors don’t.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 22, 2016 at 3:32 pm

      HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! Kai, totally read this in Sister Nkechi’s voice and laughed some more….

    • NationalSquirrel

      August 22, 2016 at 8:34 pm

      LOL read my comment below.m won oo fe ki gbemi wonu be

  16. B

    August 22, 2016 at 1:40 pm

    This was my experience in 2014.

    bisaro1.wordpress.com/2014/10/31/see-me-see-wahala-o/

  17. Beard gang

    August 22, 2016 at 1:50 pm

    lmfao! they thought gbemi was a hooker, with her large behind…lol… i can imagine the embarrassment. i remember being walked out of a shop in the mohammed airport in casablanca because i was in flip flop.. such is life gbemi, cut yourself some respect and never visit there again.

    • beauty

      August 22, 2016 at 2:24 pm

      Never seen her, does she have a large behind? Just curious, lol…

    • Anon

      August 22, 2016 at 2:30 pm

      It’s real though. Not the manufactured type.

    • Big Tee

      August 22, 2016 at 3:52 pm

      When I Analyzed her pictures online, her hips and waist looks broad ( like 70-80 cm), I would expect a big something to be at the back…those kind of hips from the front usually have big bum bum at the back. I think she is tall too, that will reduce the potential for having a big behind, but from the thickness of the hips, I will be shocked if the behind is not sizeable………….please use this expo to pass your exams……you are welcome!

  18. Guchimartinz

    August 22, 2016 at 2:13 pm

    Too bad

  19. Princess P

    August 22, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    That’s how they do in most lounges in Abuja now….they are even worse sef. A girl cant have fun without the company of a man! What Nonsense!!!

  20. Prince

    August 22, 2016 at 2:46 pm

    Iranu Abasha.

  21. chekwube

    August 22, 2016 at 3:12 pm

    Every one is claiming properly dressed now..with what I see during my night outs I doubt if y’all are telling the truth..

    • nene

      August 22, 2016 at 4:22 pm

      gbam

  22. tunmi

    August 22, 2016 at 3:37 pm

    Finally someone names and shames!!!!

  23. GhanaChic

    August 22, 2016 at 3:42 pm

    Gbemi I am so sorry for this experience.

    this is a catch 22

    Put yourself in the establishment shoes if you owned that business, I 100% do not condone what they did – but i cant seem to figure out a solution to this problem. I will be hurt if this happended to me too – and this definitely has to stop .

    In ghana where i am from all the 5 star international hotels have been spoiled by ASHAWOS – take saudi hotel MOVENPICK foreinstance – absolutely stunning gorgeous hotel in ACCRA that opened about 5 years ago, now the ashawos have bombarded there to service their oil/gas rich oyinbo clients so much you walk downstairs in the gorgeous reception area and all you see is half naked bitches walking around

    There is another new hotel Kempinski – now that is more like a 6 star hotel once again that has opened in accra and i think they have learnt lessons from their Neighbor MOvenpick Hotel so they have started off with a complete zero tolerance for hoes and prostitute to make their hotel a haven and thus they will not allow single young women to use any of the premises like bar etc.

    They have a sky restaurant or bar or lounge and famous actress Joselyn Dumas posted on her instagram she was turned away as she tried to go there to meet a “friend”. She got there earlier and proceed to go up and wait for the person. They dont give a shit if its joselyn or whomever – they turned her away. I think she should have waited for whomever downstairs till they arrive then they go in the elevator together to this lounge together

    I understand these businesses and what they are trying to protect but its not fair on just women.

    Now at kempinski the ashawos (mostly from francophone west africa who love to ashawo in ghana) they are beating them to it and these hoes are now saving money enough to lodge at the hotel for the weekend eg Friday Saturday Sunday – so if the person is a guest who has paid to lodge, how else do you kick them out . You can always tell when they are ashawo cos my friend went to ghana for the first time and lodged there, and she took pictures of a girl who is extremely dark skin yet was sunbathing at the pool side for more than 4 hrs since morning (as she viewed from her room) so she sent me this text with photos saying she didnt understand why this girl was sunbathing from 9 am and its 1pm and she is still laying by the pool side half naked. I told her she is not there for nothing, she is there seeking clients, before i could say jack robinson, my friend sent me another whatasapp video where an old white man had approached her and they were talking. I said GBAM!!! there you go..

    Its a catch 22 and i totally understand although i dont think its fair on just one gender. Right now there male prostitutes in africa too who service expat clients, does that mean they wont be turned away in such establishment. And most annoying this too is they will never do this to a foreigner or white person. Meanwhile is a known fact that in the past few years most foreign ashawos have made Nigeria a hub – Take those indian sluts Matharoo sisters for instance (they will never turn them away), or the likes of Bria Myles the america video ho and all these reality tv chicks . 9jagistlive have a register of all those prostitutes trolling into nigeria. Even in ghana we have middle eastern hoes coming there now – i doubnt they will be turned away at kempinski or any 5 star establishment by the way they look.

    • Bimbo

      August 22, 2016 at 5:41 pm

      The thing is women are always fair game. It’s much easier to bully or victimize women . Instead of finding a better way to solve the problem they realize it’s just easier to turn on females.

  24. WeAllShouldBeFeminist

    August 22, 2016 at 7:17 pm

    Gbemi, I just want to say a big thank you for calling this people out. Sometime ago, my self and my friend who was visiting from Abuja drove to RADISSON BLUE hotel to get ice cream at HANS & RENE and on driving to the gate, the security after checking our booths for security purpose, asked that, who are we going to see in the hotel and my friend was like, how’s that his business and he kept on insisting and was coming up with hotel policies and unaccompanied women policy, not until we said we were going to the ice cream spot. This one he hadn’t even seen what we were wearing as we were sitting inside the car and it was around 8pm. Gosh! It was really annoying and my friend was so shocked but I wasn’t as I had heard such stories earlier until it happened to me at that moment. It was so humiliating and I could actually feel what it felt like to experience discrimination. Chimamanda Adichie’s book “we all should be feminists” kept ringing in my brain that night. Discrimination against women is very real in this town. Until it happens to you, you won’t understand how it truly hurts. Thanks gbemi once again for speaking out. *ignore all mistakes pls*

    • John

      August 23, 2016 at 2:59 pm

      The bar was founded and opened by a man as most things, so why would a man ban his fellow men, this is why I dont like talking with low IQ , always the victim femtards , why dont women open their own bars and stuff and do what you like with them

  25. Dee-USA

    August 22, 2016 at 10:34 pm

    I don’t understand why establishments want to keep unaccompanied women out. If you are so morally righteous then shouldn’t you kick men out who patronize these women; room booked or not? So we want to leave it up to the bouncer to determine who’s inappropriate, but if any such inappropriate babe comes strolling in with a man, she’ll be free to get in. Does this even make sense?

    The only way to get rid of these “prostitutes” is to get rid of the head of the snake. You ban the men who are patronizing them, you solve your indecency problem. Simple!!!+

  26. Sote

    August 22, 2016 at 11:48 pm

    Oh well, the policy sucks but I can’t blame them. Nowadays it is almost impossible to differentiate a prostitute and a decent girl. Every bar and lounge in Lagos is cluttered with them and they give such bars a bad reputation and name. These P ladies generally give women a bad name and cause lounges to come up with all manner of policies to curb the atrocities. Even Hard Rock Cafe has all these P ladies; trust me it is not very comfortable when a place is known as a prostitute joint. When a decent lady goes to such places, you’d find men staring at you like you are fried chicken that came there for a mission.

    Gbemi should accept their apology and not take it personal or take it like an anti- female thing. Na condition make Crayfish leg bend.

  27. Tessa Dee Doghor

    August 23, 2016 at 9:50 am

    I think it serves them right
    They just lost several female potential customers because of their nasty policy.

    • John

      August 23, 2016 at 2:52 pm

      Lol, why would they lost several female customers when they do not accept them in the first place unless accompanied by a man,they wont lose sleep over this, the only reason they commented is because it was made public and also read @sote comment, that is how you make a reasonable comment

  28. Jazz

    August 23, 2016 at 10:15 am

    Same thing happened to me at Four points, Came directly from the office to see my brother who just got into town,the insult from the security guard deserved an Oscar.
    The female guard at the military hospital in porthacourt almost beat me up cos I was asking her if it was a crime for a young lady to come alone to see a sick friend. She said I should call out the person just imagine, a patient.
    It’s quite annoying when such things Happen to you just cos you’re unaccompanied, they are helping to turn the country into a Muslim nation unknowingly. (Pls no pun intended).
    Had a girls hangout a while back and we couldn’t get into some places (we were very well dressed), one of such places asked us who will be footing the bill. Pls we are decent working class ladies who can comfortably pay the bills and Al at o give you a decent tip if you deserve it.

    • Raimi

      August 23, 2016 at 10:52 pm

      Ugh! So annoying when people say “no pun intended” when they made absolutely no pun. I live for puns so y’all should quit making my life so hard.

      Did you mean “no offence intended”?

  29. Miss Elejo wewe

    August 23, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    Radisson Blu, From the gate they ll start asking you jamb questions

    Hard rock cafe: Me and my girlfirned wanted to go for a girl night out drink, they said ‘NO” TO UNACCOMPANIED FEMALES” that we should call our male friend that is inside to come in and get us

    On both occassions, we were both decently dressed and just wanted to enjoy a few drinks while laughing out loud in public

    I am sick of this country

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