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Love from Mwai: 7 Ways to Cut Down Your Wedding Guest List



dreamstime_s_44025941_photo by BenjaminjkUnless you’ve got unlimited funds, there’s no way you’re ever going to be able to invite every single person you know to your wedding. While it would be amazing to have everyone you know and love in attendance, even couples with the biggest of budgets have to draw the line somewhere.

Figuring out your guest list isn’t as fun as shopping for your wedding dress or the cake-tasting, but the paring-down process can be a whole lot easier than you think. The key is to make a set of cutting rules — and actually stick to them until you reach your magic number. Deciding on a set of rules for both to agree on is the hard part.

Rest assured that a guest list that is bulging at the seams is a common wedding planning occurrence, and believe it or not it can be remedied somewhat painlessly.

Here are a few common tips that may help you narrow down your guest list. Mull them over together and figure out the ones that will work best for you.

  1. Focus On The People Who Mean The Most to You

dreamstime_photo by Jbrown777

This is your day after all and you want people there that are going to genuinely appreciate sharing this once in a lifetime moment with you and truly add to the magic of the event. Just because you invite a cousin from one side of the family, it doesn’t mean that you have to invite a cousin from the other side. Despite what your parents might think, some friends will be more valued guests than certain family members, especially if those family members are long lost cousins or people that didn’t even know you were engaged! Focus on the people that are present in your life now.

  1. Consider Who’s Paying The Bill

When getting down to the nitty gritty you have to make tough decisions about who makes the cut and who doesn’t, in this case it’s always good etiquette to think about who is paying for the event. Traditionally the person whose parents foot the bill means that they have a little more say over who’s in and who’s out, but the same should be applied to whoever is funding the wedding. If you’re funding the wedding yourself you’ll have to be as diplomatic as possible about the weighting of the guest list to ensure that both you and your future spouse are happy.

  1. Cut Down The +1s

Don’t feel obliged to invite all unmarried guests with a +1. Instead invite them solo and seat them together so they will mix and mingle. Depending on the guest, it may or may not be a big deal. If in the instance you have a friend travelling all the way across the country or to another country and they won’t know anyone else at the wedding except you, then it may be an good idea to make allowances in this case.

  1. Would You Be Offended If You Weren’t Invited To Their Wedding?

Ask yourself how you would feel if you weren’t handed an invitation to their wedding. Your answer should indicate how important it is to invite them to yours. Wedding invites tend to be reciprocated so if you would feel upset about being missed off of their guest list, it might be a good idea to include them on yours. Obviously this method doesn’t work if you’re super sensitive and would be offended by not getting an invite to everyone’s wedding!

  1. Make Your Wedding Adults-Only

One of the quickest ways a wedding guest list can spiral out of control is when you start factoring in everybody’s children. While you may ideally like to invite everyone and their families, where do you draw the line? By hosting an adult-only wedding you’re making the decision easy and ensuring that there’s more seats available for other guests. One great way to deal with the issue is to arrange for a ‘babysitter room’ somewhere at the venue where guests can drop off their children for the duration of the wedding and reception dinner, before allowing the kids to come and join in on the evening entertainment.

  1. Consider a Smaller Wedding 

Cutting your guest list right down to just your family and closest friends is one of the most effective methods for keeping the list a manageable size and avoiding offending people at the same time. By organizing a more intimate event, it’s much simpler to decide on the list, and those who don’t get an invite will understand the situation. You can always organize a cocktail party to celebrate the big news with your wider circle of friends and colleagues once you get back from your honeymoon.

  1. Don’t Let Yourself Be Pressured

Lastly, don’t feel pressured to invite someone that you really aren’t excited about, or just because you were invited to their wedding. You may feel bad about cutting people, but the reality is that it is one of the best ways to save lots of money so you can still have the wedding of your dreams.

Remember, in the end, this day is about you and your love alone. It is more important for you two than it is for any of the wedding guests you are considering inviting.

Just be happy!

Photo Credit: © Benjaminjk | – First Dance Photo
© Jbrown777 | – African American Bride With Her Family Photo

Mwai Yeboah Is a wife, mama, and warm-hearted woman with a zest for life. What Mwai touches blossoms. She awakens inspiration and brings ideas to life. A visionary, masterful stylist, and renowned executionist, Mwai has over nine years of experience in the London wedding scene. Before fully immersing herself in her own planning and design boutique, she was appointed the wedding specialist for the Town Hall Hotel in London. She also served as the Events Manager for special events for the Chelsea Harbour Hotel. Her industry insight and experience is sought-after, which is why you’ll also find her as a contributor to the well-read Bella Naija and Hedsor House online blogs. You don’t have to worry about things not getting done, people letting you down, or failing to make your guests comfortable and awestruck. Become a relaxed bride-to-be and get fresh, guided help to bring all that you’re fantasizing about to life. At Love From Mwai, we help in-love couples plan and design their wedding day for an unforgettable experience that leaves eyes glossy and hearts brimming. We offer full-service luxury wedding planning and design and day-of coordination. We also offer destination wedding planning services for local couples who want us to travel with them or visitors who want a whimsical London wedding. follow her social media pages: Web: | Instagram: | Facebook: | Twitter:


  1. That African Chic

    September 6, 2016 at 7:29 am

    One sure way to cut your list is by holding the wedding on weekday.

    Destination weddings also help to reduce the quest list

  2. Miss Pee

    September 6, 2016 at 8:45 am

    Week day is it for me ooh whatever my mum and dad say OYO is there case.

  3. oluchi

    September 6, 2016 at 8:58 am

    Destination wedding is the best in my opinion. Lol

    • ANGRY ME

      September 6, 2016 at 9:15 am

      So explain to us how you cut cost by holding a destination wedding?

    • Marlvina

      September 6, 2016 at 10:01 am

      In this present Buhari economy? Trust me it’s still cheaper to me to have a destination wedding. Select jst family and few friends. Those who can afford, fine. Even if you add flight tickets (couple and maybe parents), hotel bills, catering service, venue. You won’t spend the amount you wld have in Nigeria. With a destination wedding, you can get discounted offers if planned earlier and book in groups. Especially wt the fact 1 bag of rice is now N22,000 and wt the increased price of everything. You know hw much wedding planners take now? Who go give you discount for naija when dollar rises per second? I don’t even want to go into the souvenirs. I know hw much we spent in total for my wedding (I’m still in shock) in Nigeria when things were very fine, not to talk about the present situation. Hmmm! It is well.

  4. Kaesy Nwosu

    September 6, 2016 at 9:04 am

    weekday it is for me too.

  5. D real one

    September 6, 2016 at 9:12 am

    pls how many Oluchi r here o, i googled My name OLUCHI LOVETH ORJI, only for me to b directed to bn whr someone dat was asking foe help had d exact same name, abeg o, see me see quanta, dat is exactly my name too, dnt spoil my rep abeg, am d real OLUCHI LOVETH ORJI abeg, nt d one dat was begging

    • temi

      September 6, 2016 at 9:47 am

      Okay this is strange because I think the begger one is also genuinely called Oluchi Loveth Orji. If you tried to transfer money to her using an online portal, the full name comes up against the account number she gave. I guess you have a twin.

    • D real one

      September 6, 2016 at 10:47 am

      i think its jst a coincidence, bt a nice one though, i shuld contact her, mayb we can hangout, nd come to an understanding; since we both share d exact same name we need to thread wit serious care abeg. no b me beg unna o, so dnt derep dat precious name joor o.

  6. Soso Special

    September 6, 2016 at 10:52 am

    I think it’s great how everyone that has planned their own wedding automatically becomes an “expert” wedding planner…..

  7. @lonitagram

    September 6, 2016 at 11:02 am

    Not bad at all!!! ? the sixth point is perfect for a destination wedding.i love it ?

  8. ATL's finest

    September 6, 2016 at 5:35 pm

    #5 ???wwdding goals esp that baby sitter plan. That has always been my great.

    • ATL's finest

      September 6, 2016 at 5:36 pm


  9. Kbear

    September 6, 2016 at 6:49 pm

    Hmmn. Thanks.. Destination wedding it is for me anyways!

  10. Tee

    September 6, 2016 at 8:17 pm

    Great post!

  11. BEE

    September 7, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    60 People it is for me. only family and relevant friends

  12. cynthia Olowu

    September 8, 2016 at 11:20 am

    i am getting married October 1st the number is getting out of hand everybody wants to attend!! we have over shot the budget! we would have been better off having the wedding on a week day or having a destination wedding

  13. Oge

    September 9, 2016 at 8:22 am

    To cut cost in this present got where everything is expensive is to do the wedding in your home town. Traditional and white Wedding same day.

    Nne o wu eh em ne me…. I can’t shout Abeg.

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