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BN TV: “There was no choice, I shouldn’t have gotten married” Claire Sulmers Interviews Toke Makinwa ‘On Becoming’ and Life After for DZRPT Special




Claire Sulmers of Fashion Bomb Daily interviews Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa on her hit book “On Becoming” and life after the most embarrassing moments of her life. She shares so many secrets we had to hold our clutches.

“There were times when I thought of committing suicide I thought just end it now … We don’t have a relationship it’s sad that there’s none”

Toke Makinwa fully opens up about EVERYTHING. She shares her fears, her worries and growth; and her new man! She talks about how God has been faithful. Watch below.

“I would love to a point of neglecting myself”

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  1. KB

    November 29, 2016 at 11:55 am


    • Sean

      November 29, 2016 at 1:18 pm

      When will all these gist end please?

      Shit happens, lick your wound and move on. I don’t think they owe anybody explanation for their personal lives. For how long are they gonna continue to drag this issue back and forth.

      I’m not taking sides, but seems Toke is just a freaking attention seeker, turning this matter to get sympathy, Fame and business venture. The same social media people showing sympathy and hailing her today, are still the same people who will shout “Crucify her” tomorrow if they found fault in her.

      Live moves on….

    • Iono

      November 29, 2016 at 2:50 pm

      @ Sean, why all the hate, Toke is just making money, nothing wrong with using her life story to make money, as long as she is not using your life story………

    • Seriously

      November 29, 2016 at 3:58 pm

      No need to hate on Toke. People get publicity and money various ways nowadays. Everybody is admiring the kardashians how they have remained relevant and financially successful from a sex tape. Toke has every right to tell her story, and if she makes money out of it. Kudos to her. The truth of the matter is, you can’t force a man to love you and women stop covering your stupidity with “you love hard”. Maje didn’t want to marry her but Toke didn’t want to let go because she was trying to prove. She knew about everything and still went ahead. I don’t feel sorry for her, she brought such humiliation on herself. She should take responsibility and keep making that money.

    • Fan..or No Fan

      November 29, 2016 at 4:57 pm

      Milk it Toke! Get your $$$$$$$$!!! Yasssssss!!!!!

    • Moyo

      November 29, 2016 at 7:15 pm

      What of Maje and Anita? Toke was not the only person involved in all this. She just called everyone’s name like that. I’m not sure that’s fair or right.

    • bimbin

      November 29, 2016 at 1:49 pm

      Toke has failed to remind us that Maje NEVER WANTED TO MARRY TOKE…..its was from public and Toke intense pressure that the registry happened … intro ,no trad , none of his family were at the wedding.

      . 3 times she made all the plans to marry him (not him which is the other way and he kept not showing up that No you are not the one ). …… Toke manipulation thankfully he has broken free. i am very pleased for Maje and my prayer is that may we all be free from the likes of Toke

    • Ada Nnewi

      November 29, 2016 at 3:23 pm

      Maje married Toke, nobody put a gun to his head.. you cannot FORCE a GROWN MAN to do what he does not want to do… NOBODY CAN FORCE A GROWN MAN TO THE ALTER!!!

    • Truth

      November 29, 2016 at 3:41 pm

      Hi Bimbin, just to let you know you are a weakling. Have a good day.

    • nnenne

      November 30, 2016 at 12:30 am

      @ Bimbin…..Even if you are right, isn’t it wonderful that she is sharing her experience, so that other people will not make same mistakes she made? ???

    • seriously

      November 30, 2016 at 2:41 am

      Maje married her out of pressure. Toke acted like her relationship was decent and was so desperate for marriage. Obviously, Maje has shown himself to be a very manipulative crooked, abusive, desperate, gold digger man. I just get upset at women who clearly know this man is habitual cheater but still deny it and expect him to do right. Why? you think you have a different p#@sy or what. Women allow, tolerate such from men then turn around to say different things. I bet Toke would have cursed you out before if you told her the truth.
      Anita, you are a loser because he will treat you worse than Toke. And you have a child with him. At least, Toke is a hustler and working her way through.
      Maje is example of typical nigerian men who lack self control and respect. Lies, dishonesty is second nature to them

    • Ada Nnewi

      November 29, 2016 at 3:22 pm

      I am reading “on becoming” and ehnn it’s only God that can pay back Maje and Anita for their evil.. Any woman that defends Anita will have an “Anita” get pregnant for their husband.. Amen

    • See

      November 29, 2016 at 4:46 pm

      Babes, you’re reading a one-sided story. Just remember that. If Anita wrote a book, Toke will be demonized too.
      I’m not saying Anita should have been sleeping with Toke’s husband. That was just wrong and can never be right. The way it is, 3 people are involved and only Toke gets the mic (no, I don’t need for other parties to tell their side, completely unnecessary).

      That said, no winners here but Toke is liberated, at least she doesn’t have to cling to suffering in the name of love anymore. My take is that, the one who ended up with Maje is the least fortunate because, hmm… So, if that’s Anita, she can keep him as her cross in life. I think that is justice enough.

    • Delta geh

      November 29, 2016 at 6:43 pm

      @Ada your comment proves why a child of God will not even support that book. Look at you insulting and praying bad prayers for people on top of a book. I can see that the book hasn’t had any positive influence on you.

    • tina

      November 30, 2016 at 11:36 pm

      @Ada Nnewi please keep quiet. stop embarrassing us nnewi women. I believe nnewi women have more sense to allow a man treat us like this biko. A man that left you at the altar 3 times, cheats on you to the extent of having a child and almost giving you sti. you still remain. biko biko sis’m mechonu oh besides we have only one part to this story so no cursing or else the curse will go back to you, thank you.

    • Thunder Fire you

      November 29, 2016 at 3:45 pm

      Toke, make thunder fire you there. Make MFM fall down and die thunder strike you there

      You shouldn’t have gotten married? Something that your life depended on that you saw signs for 12years and couldn’t leave?

      I just pity your life—–everyone is feeding on this for amebo tins and gisting tins….no one cares about you….keep making yourself a ridicule to the world

      Anyway no be your fault, na BN fault wey dey bring these to our screen

    • Le coco

      November 30, 2016 at 6:39 am

      She said she shldnt have gotten married.. that was her admitting that she was wrong.. THE same way tiwa said she made a mistake.. pls drink sm water nd chill

  2. gbemi

    November 29, 2016 at 11:58 am

    Hmmm, the case between Maje, Anita and Toke.

    Seems the winner is actually Maje because he manipulated both women to suit his weird purpose. Unfortunately there are men like this all over the world and regrettably, there are women like Anita and Toke who don’t even know.

    I don’t blame Toke for making money generating lemonade from this mess.

  3. Sai sai

    November 29, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    like i alwayz say its good to hear from both sides before casting blames and aspersions..for all we know Maje might be a victim too

  4. FasholasLover

    November 29, 2016 at 12:06 pm

    After any storm comes calm. Nobody is a saint. Toke, this too shall pass. The book has to be plugged. So, l guess we shall be seeing more interviews. Goodluck with the sales. l will buy.

    On another note, bloggers dish dirt but cannot take it. SDK is heamoraging and having a nervous breakdown just becos Toke mentioned her name in the book. Also outing ur source is a no no in journalism. Very unprofessional reaction. SDK is too involved in her blog. Joining the fray to fight her commenters or BVs as they are known. To think she says she is a journalist. LIB is PLC, BN Ltd, while SDK is Enterprise and self. l wish she can run her blog like a biz cos she does hv traffic. But, it is too jagajaga. I bless Linda for expanding her biz. That is some biz acumen.

    • Anon

      November 29, 2016 at 12:29 pm

      Everything SDK does/says is strategic.

      There will always be retribution.

    • Sdklover

      November 29, 2016 at 2:06 pm

      Biko!! What has SDK got to do with this her blog is jagajaga,but you have gone there to realise she is haemorrhaging.Yes and her BVs love her just the way she is. Since you feel differently why not stick to bella naija or wherever suits you. Ish

    • bia

      November 29, 2016 at 5:00 pm

      Are you a jagajaga? You are just a faceless BV. I beg shift. Even BV’s are calling her out for her reaction. Keep licking ass. Everybody goes to all blogs. By the way, what are you doing here. We don’t do jagajaga here.

    • Chekwube

      November 29, 2016 at 3:01 pm

      Oh please shut the fuck up!… at least SDK is an enterprise…but pray what are you…? Go find something do, its her blog and her prerogative how she wants to run it. Frenemy.Mtchewww..

    • slice

      November 29, 2016 at 3:21 pm

      But you can deny the fact that she’s mad at someone for doing the same thg she does

    • bia

      November 29, 2016 at 5:15 pm

      And you are SDK’s best friend? beggy beggy people. I see you are very busy doing something here. SDK Likes to break news but when her bv’s call her out she will be doing agbero. very classless blogger.
      I beg Anita should do quick and marry maje. both of them fit each other. Cheats Nigeria united. Those of you clapping for Anita continue. You will marry and your husbands side chick or ex will born for him. Thunder fire you if you complain.

  5. Lolu

    November 29, 2016 at 12:07 pm

    Oniranu ni girl yii sha…Hian!

  6. lani

    November 29, 2016 at 12:14 pm

    I really do hope Anita rises above these series of pettiness, and just in case Maje comes to tell his own side of the story i really hope this doesn’t get messy and i really hope that Toke realizes that these series of attention seeking ventures which is raking in cash in the short term may turn out to be a nightmare in the LONG TERM (she’s going to get married and have kids some day, these kids will go to school and mix with other MEAN kids who may not fully understand the context of these events, Again, I recall my team in the bank had to drop a potential brand ambassador for a kids savings product because of similar controversy.. I mean the scenario can just play out otherwise)…..sigh

    • slice

      November 29, 2016 at 3:22 pm

      Lol at Anita. She slept with a married man. She’s already in the gutter so yes rising is all she can do

    • Xo

      November 30, 2016 at 1:25 pm

      Toke was a runs babe in Unilag… those that know know n one day, her gist will be out. When you have a nasty past, you should be careful for calling others out like that in a book.

    • Ada Nnewi

      November 29, 2016 at 3:25 pm

      An Anita or a series of them will carry belle for her husband and may God give them all the grace to rise above your “pettiness” if you dare vex…

    • Thunder Fire you

      November 29, 2016 at 3:48 pm

      Lani, get married ke?
      Except if she hypnotizes any man to marry her.
      No man will marry this wicked, daughter of jezebel, devil incarnate, slutty girl

  7. Curious

    November 29, 2016 at 12:17 pm

    Good chat! Good going Toke! Wish you all the best.

  8. bruno

    November 29, 2016 at 12:20 pm

    toke u are a bloody liar. I read an extract from ur book and u claimed maje gave u an STI.

    ” “He had given me an STI in the
    past. He’d returned from a trip once and we had
    sex, and a few days later I was itching.
    ‘I went to the doctors and they prescribed
    medication, but when I asked Maje about the
    infection he denied knowing anything about it”

    toke u are a liar. are u telling us u will go to a hospital in nigeria and tell the doctor u are itching after u had sex some few day ago and the doctor will prescribe drugs for u just like that. nigerian doctors will tell u to go and run tests first. doctors in the house biko help us out. a patient comes to u complaining about itching after sex? wouldn’t u tell them to run some tests first.

    Secondly how do u know its an STI when u didn’t run any tests? whats the name of the STI. abi this is a tell all book, why didnt u tell us the name of the STI abi the STI no get name.

    this girl is a liar. toke ur story doesn’t add up. after maje gave u the so called STI (that doesn’t have a name,)did u continue having sex with him?

    toke stop ur lies, u will get caught. playing the victim wouldnt get u any where.

    so maje gave u an STI, so toke u are now an STI carrier. nigerian men be careful of her.

    this is the thing about holding a grudge against someone. when u try to hurt the person u end up hurting urself.

    • swerve

      November 29, 2016 at 12:31 pm

      Bla bla bla. Don’t y’all get tired of hating on someone who still stays winning no matter what?

    • lizzy

      November 29, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      Or may be she got STI from one night stand

    • Darius

      November 29, 2016 at 1:05 pm

      @Bruno, I am not a doctor, but I do know that most doctors only advise patients to go for test when they have taken medication but their conditions persist. Itching in the privates can be a symptom of toilet infection. There are drugs that can treat different kinds of STI. So in most cases, a doctor mustn’t necessarily know the type of STI a patient has before he/she prescribes drugs. If she complained of itching and a doctor prescribed drugs for her without asking her to run a test, I’m not a medical personnel, but I don’t think the doctor deviated from standard practice. Maybe he told her to come back if the itching persists. If the itching had persisted, I’m sure the doctor would have recommended a test. Toke criticizes herself. She tells herself the truth. I don’t think she is lying.

    • Anon

      November 29, 2016 at 2:36 pm

      Darius; re- Itching in the privates can be a symptom of toilet infection.

      There is no such thing as a toilet infection. It’s a misused layman’s term for a vaginal infection.

      “Toilet Infection does not actually exists as a disease in Medicine.” Any non-medical person will refer to an infection around the Vagina as toilet infection.”
      “Toilet Infection: This term does not exist in the medical field. If someone says “I have toilet infection” they could be referring to infection affecting the Vagina or Sexually Transmitted Infections.”

    • No Chaser...

      November 29, 2016 at 2:52 pm

      How can you say a doctor will prescribe drugs without running tests? Oga o

    • Ms S.

      November 29, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      Look at this one, obviously tests would’ve been carried out! I doubt Toke would be foolish enough to write anything in that book that wasn’t PROVEN FACT. My two cents anyway…

    • bola

      November 29, 2016 at 1:51 pm

      Ms S… Toke is full of lies so save your two cents

    • Lagosismyhome

      November 29, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      one day Toke will receive sense that she is seriously lacking….. all she cares about is attention seeking regardless of what it comes with…. Continue selling your book at the expense of any dignity

      one day the ovation and the noise will be quiet and Toke Makinwa will finally receive sense and say OMG what have I done to my self respect ..

      Maje mum was very religious quiet and a wise woman …… and i am sure she immediately saw through this mess

    • Iono

      November 29, 2016 at 3:05 pm

      @Lagosismyhome, maybe Toke does not need your type of sense that teaches women to keep silent in the face of danger and abusive relationships. Please keep your sense to yourself and let people that are not afraid to tell their story do so, Maje’s mom should have trained her son to have respect for all people men and women and not toy with people’s emotions or life like he ruled the world. Am sure he never say this coming……..

    • funmi

      November 29, 2016 at 4:20 pm

      Abusive but she stayed there for a whopping 12 years and only left because Maje said he had enough and left her ass …..alright now . Yeah she been abused now that is time to sell a book and get back for been dumped .
      Remember Toke told you for years how she was very happy

    • The Real Oma

      November 29, 2016 at 2:26 pm

      @Bruno, while i am neither for or against Toke, i have to point out this your reasoning is somehow, so someone said she went to a hospital and then got a prescription means she did not also have tests? Could she not have been reporting that episode summarily? Abi you don’t know most hospitals have their own labs on the premises and so can run tests and send report to doctor and everything runs seamlessly?

    • Truth

      November 29, 2016 at 3:24 pm

      Hi Bruno, I am sorry to say but your post today has revealed you have been misunderstood in the past to be mean spirited when actually it is that you are mentally unstable., Knowingly or not, you are dealing with mental problems which should by mo means be taken lightly. I hope in your life behind the keyboard those around you have observed this- Nigerians, especially illeterates, may miss these obvious signs of your erratic, incoherent and malevolent behaviour. You are dealing with a mental health condition and I know it may be hard to accept (you are likely to be in denial). I just hope you dont end up hurting yourself or someone else around u. You need help and i’m rooting for you to find it quickly!

    • Puzzles

      November 29, 2016 at 3:36 pm

      hahaha. Bruno, joke’s on YOU!!! As you hate Toke reach, you still go read the book????

      All of you that are cursing her will buy the book or look for who has bought the book because you cannot resist not knowing the gist so you can use it to curse her more.

      Many women go thru her pain and gain nothing. Toke is making money while you curse her. Continue to curse her naw as if your lives would be brighter as a result.

      I’m not a fan of Toke but the way you all write nasty things against her since as far back as I started reading comments on BN makes me open my mouth in wonder.

      The sad part is that most of you are women.
      Some of you have done more stupid things than she has
      Many of you have gone through similar heartbreaks like her
      Some of you are going through what she has gone through in the hands of your boyfriends and husbands,
      Yet you write such wicked things against someone who most likely has never even met you. Some of you claim to be Christians and would be quoting scriptures while penning down evil words meant to break down another person’s spirit. One of you claimed to be happily married with children as if that would make your words less bitter. You really think having a happy married life with children is totally by your making?

      On the day of Judgment, you all will be very surprised that the words you pen down on the internet against another will be used against you.

    • Sultana

      November 29, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      My dear, help me ask them. I knew of Toke from the beef comments on BN. It’s painful when women slam women. More painful that these beefers cannot stand near the girl in public. They are so unhappy in their own lives that they must cower behind their China phone to insult people.
      I’ve not achieved half of my plans but I’ll rather celebrate with people achieving their aims than cowardly beef them online.

      Life is too short. Choose to be happy people

    • brunoreceivesense

      November 30, 2016 at 12:45 am

      If u don’t have smelly discharge, you can actually be treated without running test. Bruno receive sense

    • NoOneisPerfect

      November 30, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      dumb dumb doctors will run tests to prove their assumption.
      most times they can diagnose the sti straight away(especially if symptoms are bumps or any type of discharge) so you do not suffer from the infection until the results are received.

  9. Anon

    November 29, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    Poor girl. Deep-seated issues due to the tragic loss of her parents at such a young age. It all boils down to that. My parents are the bedrock on which my life is based. I won’t wish the loss of parents on anyone.

    May her healing be complete.

    • Temi

      November 29, 2016 at 6:06 pm

      We keep forgetting that had this baby been hidden from the media, Toke will still be with this dude, singing him praises on social media like she always did. Did Toke talk about her abortions?

  10. Cynical

    November 29, 2016 at 12:26 pm

    BN, this is “death by Toke”week…… Biko, e don do.
    In other news,Thursday, December 1st is World AIDS Day,help to unite in the fight against HIV/AIDS.

  11. Strit Kredibility

    November 29, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Classic case of crisis breeding opportunism. I remember a joke about a roadside begger who was suddenly healed of his crippled form by a passerby pastor who took pity on him and prayed him to wellness. To the surprise of everyone the healed begger charged at the pastor threatening and demanded to be unhealed quickly as his source of livelihood depended on his deformity. The begger needed his mangled form to extract pity and profit from passers by. A complete form will be bad market and contra productive.

    Toke’s case brings home the analogy of someone who would rather prefer victimhood and play on soft spots to remain useful. There is a ready massive pool of unhappy and hurt people she can leverage on to expand her business. For her attention is key and even if her 12 year of slave was without any drama she was sure to orchestrate one to buy public pity and remain valid. Its a classic case and formula used and reused by extreme attention seekers and low self worthers. Maje and Anita happens to be accidental pawns and participant in the whole game.

    I believe there is a reason we go through certain things in life and if we are not careful, we can through shadow chasing unlearn the lessons inherent.

    • ik

      November 29, 2016 at 3:11 pm

      [email protected] a slave..Brilliant analysis,you couldn’t have said it any better.Majes Mum only warned you about his son..She couldn’t have prevented a grown man to marry you even if she tried.Maje was a player you needed 12years to learn that bit…now Move on..It’s no longer about Maje your new man needs attention .Good luck.

  12. Las

    November 29, 2016 at 12:58 pm

    “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

    Enough with this already!

    • Aphrodite

      November 30, 2016 at 9:22 am

      Well you would not come here if you were not that interested in the topic. As much as i agree with Eleanor Roosevelt, the voyeurism within me attracted me to a topic that speak to me. Dilemma in marriage is an issue worth discussing for the alignement it can bring. Don’t just rubbish “on becoming” for the sake of it, think beyond the surface and understand the complexity of human beings, how a broken home can build the foundation to a broken marriage. You do not deal with the issues you had in your past, you remain that person that had a hard knock on life, your self esteem is forever bruised and you find it difficult to overcome certain situation, live in constant fear of change and begin to outlive the life of somebody who is not yours. How can any man tolerate so much burden on his shoulder? Toke is a sleeping volcano and needs to deal with her demons.

  13. oo

    November 29, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    Go on girl, keep up the book tour, interviews, and promotions. She did her homework and it is yielding results. All the commenters will read the book (I didn’t say buy as we know some will buy while the rest will stay in line to read after), so tell u what, Toke I commend you. You are really milking the situation to your advantage. Kudos

    PS Come to Texas, we are waiting for our auto-graphed copies

  14. Cookie

    November 29, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    I admire Toke as a person and her business and entrepreneurial skills,and how she has used social media to make money and make herself relevant.. She has become someone many people wish/would love to be,in terms of her ability to turn everything into a money making venture.
    That being said,what i don’t get is the skin lightening/bleaching part. Ebony life TV and it’s presenters often talk on bleaching,almost like they don’t have any other topics. Yet it’s acceptable and ok to bleach as long as it’s Toke,who’s excuse is she bleached because an Ex prefers light skinned ladies.. Don’t get the double standards.

    On a side note,i am sure Tiwa is like damn it i should have written a book instead of doing that interview.

    • Corolla

      November 29, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      Your logic though? SMH

  15. Moi

    November 29, 2016 at 1:35 pm

    You people complaining that it’s too much lol! Brace yourselves o….una just dey start! There will be more interviews and book signings and eventually a movie directed by Kemi adetiba . A beg who do you think should be casted as toke, maje and Anita ?

    • Nene

      November 29, 2016 at 1:44 pm


    • Bleed Blue

      November 29, 2016 at 2:39 pm

      Goodness me!

      I said the exact thing to a colleague yesterday, regarding Kemi Adetiba making a movie out of this. I suggest fresh faces be used, none of the usual Nollywooders…lol…but what do I know?

      Toke is just such a study in human psychology, and I think the study variances that can be drawn from her life choices are vast.

    • Ekene

      November 29, 2016 at 3:28 pm

      Emeka Ike : Make,
      Tonto Dike: Toke
      Benita Nzeribe: Anita.

    • Princess

      November 30, 2016 at 2:47 am

      Lmao you ain’t never lied!! Correct cast

    • Dr. N

      November 29, 2016 at 3:57 pm

      Rumor has it

  16. Damseldami

    November 29, 2016 at 1:58 pm

    Why do I feel like tone is taking a leaf from Tiwa as in when Tiwa marriage issue came out Tiwa was upfront and honest about it even spoke so many things out. Now Tone decided to use this technique to make more money. What do you thing guys?

  17. Nothingbutthetruth

    November 29, 2016 at 2:00 pm

    Ask yourself – if I said these words to myself will they hurt or will they heal?
    It costs nothing to be kind
    In everything, toke stays winning.

  18. Fast cars

    November 29, 2016 at 2:13 pm

    Currently reading the book. Where are all the ministers of information on this blog calling toke a liar, that she was a party girl in unilag, that maje was dating an hausa girl before her.
    Toke admits everything thing in her book.
    She said she was a notorious party girl in unilag and that she belonged to a girl cliq called envee and all they did was club all the time and she almost failed out.
    She also said maje had 2 girlfriends aisha and hauwa and he would always lie saying aisha was someone he was trying to help out
    Pls before you come and give any commentary, go and read the book first. Don’t be speculating
    I think why Maje has not come out to say anything is because Toke is telling the truth

    • Mary

      November 29, 2016 at 2:19 pm

      So Toke dragging Maje ex girlfriends now into her mess…………while she was naming his two ex girlfriend DID SHE LIST ALL THE ONE NIGHT AND RUNS SHE DID …… You see how there is two sides of every story

    • shalz

      November 29, 2016 at 2:26 pm

      I hope she also confessed that asides from partying, she and her friends dated married men too. She had her fair share of married men while we were in school. she was in my hostel and she and her friends were notorious for clubbing every single week, dating married men and bleaching.

    • Sally

      November 29, 2016 at 5:40 pm

      Anita slept with a married man – she’s evil and immoral
      Toke slept with married men – well, well, well she lost her parents at 8
      It’s as if you don’t know Nigerians. Give them a good enough sob story and they are on your side.
      I’ve read the book and it’s funny how people think that because she admitted to her faults, she bared it all. So she admitted that she and her friends were party freaks. I wonder what the reaction of people would be if she told them all the things she did as a party girl.
      I have to give it to her though. She knew what to write to pull on people’s strings and she succeeded.
      My conclusions after reading the book:
      -Maje is a capital A-hole, no doubt. He is the scapegoat for all Nigerian players who think they can mess with people and get away with it.
      -Toke was not a fool of love, she was as much an active party to this all. She schemed, she manipulated. She was fixated on Maje’s “pedigree”, certainly not love.
      -Anita is just a plain idiot. To be in this triangle, she also had to be manipulative and scheming. I’m inclined to think she was more motivated by love then “pedigree”.
      I wish all of them well. Hopefully, Nigerian men will learn from this. Nigerian women will also learn that not all that glitters is gold. And that whatever you fight to get, you will fight to keep.

  19. Tessy

    November 29, 2016 at 2:17 pm

    Has she stopped to think that maybe this whole mess with her marriage is just plain old karma? Everyone is in love with the celebrity media Toke, but we who know her from her unilag days know that she dated married men and even openly harassed people for “attempting to snatch” her married boyfriend. Can Toke come out and swear she never dated or had sex with a married man in her life? she cannot because she knows she has dirt on her too. Maybe one of the wives she tormented during her younger days swore for her also. Even the Maje set was in a serious relationship with some girl in Abuja (not Anita) when she met him and snatched him from her and the story then was that he had dated that girl from london uni days for years. I think she’s just getting back what she sowed. Toke dated married men well and she should’ve written about how dating them and ruining their homes helped in her ‘becoming”. That been said, never underestimate a scorned woman, if Maje sees her in his next life he will run. He was feeling like a player.

    • karma is beeeenshh

      November 29, 2016 at 4:38 pm

      I love how all the Toke voltrons will ignore your comment and go on to attack other commenters that didn’t dish the real tea like you. Toke’s story should be a lesson to all side chics chasing after married men and married men too chasing after side chics. You think you are young and having fun, forgetting you will meet a man who love and want to marry one day.

      Toke, what happened to you with Maje is called KARMA. Let me spell it for you K-A-R-M-A. it knows no washing, it knows no celebrity, it knows no public image. Yours is even worse, your Karma played out in public. All the wives that you didn’t give peace, you also knew no peace in marriage. The wives that didn’t come out and tell their story about you, it’s because they have dignity and self respect, which can’t be bought with money, but those that know your unilag runs days are snickering and laughing their heads off. Including the wives your tormented.

      Married men, your wives/ex wives will disgrace you too plenty, the whole world will have front row seats with popcorn to your shame and STI’s. Toke voltrons, be careful who you defend ooooo, so you don’t share in her curses.

    • Usnu

      November 29, 2016 at 8:55 pm

      O boy, I no know again o with these runs accusations. Confuse ga dima. Lool

  20. Haven't Read Yet

    November 29, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    I haven’t read the book yet but judging from Toke’s vlogs from before this scandal and after this scandal and also watching this interview and the situation she went through, I think she has a lot of really deep insecurity issues that she needs to work on. It’s obvious she’s still grieving and still getting through the situation because she kept going on and on about the struggles and the sad things she went through even when Claire asked her about her legacy she was talking about being 8 and losing her parents. It’s like thing whole charade is a form of therapy for her.

    So yea, I think she has some deep issues she needs to work through which is why all that glitters isn’t gold. She stayed in that relationship bc of issues she has and even the way she carries herself (overdone makeup, extremely vain, etc), these all point to some of her issues imo. But you know, at the end of the day she’s doing a good job as a media person and building her brand, etc.

  21. No Chaser...

    November 29, 2016 at 2:44 pm

    “There was no choice, I shouldn’t have gotten married”…. What an epic contradiction. Did they tie your hands, drag you to the alter? did he black mail you into marrying him? No!! No!! No!! Enough with the victim card already. Your friend Arese wrote a book, and of course with nothing better to offer you decide to spew this biased-unbelievable- nonsense. It’s a pity Toke has cajoled almost the entire public into thinking she’s really the victim. Girl bye!!!

    • Temi

      November 29, 2016 at 6:12 pm

      You dey mind her…the guy didn’t show to registry twice but she thought a 3rd time will be a charm? The same toke people were praising for being coded to pull of a surprise wedding? Haha. Eleya Toke is coming. Notice how the Seyi guy was barely seen in the book launching photos. Bobo is small small looking for exit…

  22. Stella

    November 29, 2016 at 2:44 pm

    I keep hearing its her way of healing and i understand everyone needs to heal when they’ve been hurt. But i think her healing process is hurting or killing others. She’s bringing joy and money to herself from damaging Anita and Maje. Makes you wonder how holistic this her healing is really. Leave all to God, he is the one to fight your battles and judge all parties, don’t destroy others to make yourself feel better. What goes around comes back around. And after all the bashing Maje and Anita will receive, and all the money from the sales of the book, will she really have found true peace and healing? Will she sleep better at night? Maybe. If so, makes you wonder what kind of a person finds peace is the destruction of others, whether the hurt you or not. Vengeance is of the Lord.

    • slice

      November 29, 2016 at 3:32 pm

      Why shWould she consider them

    • Iono

      November 29, 2016 at 3:55 pm

      @ Stella, if telling your life story or some decisions you made in life brings you shame, please change your ways

  23. Ginger

    November 29, 2016 at 3:23 pm

    People have so much to say about a book I’m guessing most haven’t read. I read it and Toke doesn’t actually portray herself as the victim and even admits her faults on very many occasions. She even blames herself for the marriage breakdown and apologised to Maje (Iwasn’t sure if I agreed with that but it’s her life). Something tells me that if a lot of you read this book, you may eat your words (or backtrack just a little bit). How people find it in their hearts to defend a man that got another woman pregnant while married… and the girlfriend too…. Oh well

    • Engoz

      November 29, 2016 at 4:36 pm

      Ginger don’t mind them. My husband and I have the most interesting and humorous conversations when it comes to gender wars. Me I support my women of course and he the men. My husband wanted me to buy the book o, saying that we will analyze it together. I said I will not buy it because I already know how Nigerian men can be when they wanna act out. So what is new? His argument was that he dislikes when women present themselves as victims, bla bla. I asked him how does Toke narrating her truth mean she’s ‘presenting herself as victim’. Why do you men get angry when a woman talks about what happened to her? Are you guys afraid of your evil shadow or reflection when it stares back at you? He says women can twist the truth and don’t take responsibility, bla bla bla. I say we haven’t read the book so we can’t make any reasonable judgement yet. He agreed. Anyway I thought the conversation has ended. Yesterday, this man went to buy the book o, hehehe. I swear na haters go buy the book pass. He finished reading it last night, he’s now eating his own words saying haaa Toke took responsibility for her actions and doesn’t present herself as a victim,and that he spoke too soon bla bla. He’s now encouraging me to read the book, used his own hand to download it on my phone, lol. And is waiting to hear my verdict. I say see your life, he likes when we debate ehn. We both agree we don chop belleful that is why we have time to be debating useless things like this, lol. I’m currently on chapter 5.

    • Aphrodite

      November 30, 2016 at 8:52 am

      I so love your relationship, complicity with your husband. Husband/friend/ brother relationship goals. I laughed so much at reading you. Cute couple! May God preserve your bond and increase your blessings. Much love to you guysxxx

    • Mz Socially Awkward....

      December 1, 2016 at 5:52 pm

      El Oh El. @ your hubster’s about-face.

      Two people so far have already offered to send me an e-copy of this book. One of them did but it’s still sitting on my iPad. Perraps, when I have a spare evening or some such this weekend, I’ll read it as I hear it’s only about 125 pages (but sister T, how you wan sell me book of 125 pages for a tenner? Das not righteous, na).

    • Fast cars

      November 29, 2016 at 5:01 pm

      Exactly my point! Go and read the. Book before u talk. It just irritates me the way people are assuming up and down. Toke was honest in that book. She even said everything thing that Maje did to her was bcos she gave him the power to. She even broke bottle on someone’s head. She said her truancy did not even start in university, it started in secondary school. Toke did not play victim at all instead she played the fool. She owns all her mistakes.
      People just forming monopoly of information and the ones saying that maje had a girlfriend before he met Toke. I hope ur husbands were virgins. They were in no serious relationship before they met u judginas.

  24. Sherlie Holmes

    November 29, 2016 at 3:38 pm

    This should become a movie…seriously.

  25. heeba

    November 29, 2016 at 3:40 pm

    let toke make money ooooo let her make money from you guys ok…….while you remain broke and she gets manipulates you out of your money and time because of her personal life amebo gist…mshewww jobless lots

    • Darius

      November 29, 2016 at 7:44 pm

      Only your type would think buying a book is a waste of time and money.

  26. busola

    November 29, 2016 at 3:41 pm

    Can you all just read the book before commenting? I am currently reading it and to be honest, I think she deserved to tell her story. Y’all keep judging things you don’t understand. smh!

    • Vee

      November 29, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      Thank you Busola.
      Nigerians just read excerpts and that gives them the right to judge the book and the writer.

      Unbelievable I really enjoyed the read

  27. SilenceIsBest

    November 29, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    Dear Maje/Anita (and the whole Ayida and Solomon Family)

    please don’t say anything to anybody. Leave all to God. Just keep quiet and watch. It might take a month or maybe a year but in die time you will be exonerated.

    Do not say anything, let her continue going on world tour bashing you (and indirectly your son and whole Ayida Family and Solomon Family)

    Let people assume anything they want to and judge u if they want to based on what Holy Mary Toke is saying. Don’t fight any battle with this mentally unstable girl let God do the fighting for you.

    Silence is the best way of revenge. I promise you you will be exonerated in due time. Don’t grant any interviews, ignore everyone. Let her continue her nonsense. Last but not least utilize your block button on social media whoever comes on there to disrespect you when they only heard one side of the story. Protect your precious son from media too.

    • Bee

      November 29, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      Please what is Anita leaving to God? The only other person who MIGHT have a side to the story is Maje. Even if Maje loved Anita more( as everyone is insinuating) the moment he walked down the aisle with another woman without a gun to his head, he became off limits. He already made his choice and her continuing to frolick the with him was a bad and wrong decision. Both ladies are victims but Anita doesn’t have a story.

  28. ab

    November 29, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    This is what happens when you sell your soul for money and is desperate to be accepted and popular! Go ask the Kardashians, its already crumbling down and it will. No man or woman (and No this aint a curse) using evil works, activities that does not glorify God for their own gain will fully reap the benefit of it. If you like use ‘its all God’ ‘God is good line’ all the time thats your own problem. God cannot be mocked, Never! Time will definitely tell. For the Toke supporters its all good, for those who are not supporting her its also okay, people should not use this medium to show their ugly sides by reigning curses and abuses on each other! Sodom & Gomorrah were dealt with, so will every man and woman who takes part in activities that depicted them..there is no escaping. And No, dont come at me with which God are you talking about rhetoric (Bruno and the likes)…God will heal & take care of your types so no bother! Time will truly tell ..

  29. Shola

    November 29, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    Toke I want you to swear on a stack of brand new bibles that

    YOU NEVER EVER IN YOUR LIFE DATED AND – MARRIED MEN during your UNILAG days and even harassed with your envee group any babe that tried to snatch your MARRIED MAN. TOke i said swear ooooooooo Swear.

    Swear now.

    The married women whose men you snatched and screwed have put a permanent curse on you that can never be erased, 10 generations.

    Karma is a bitch aint it. one of those married women is my relative. I remember it like yesterday

  30. Keyyna

    November 29, 2016 at 4:25 pm

    Very Unintelligent move, very Unscriptural, very Self-regarding and factual exhibition of Lack of Self control. WRONG MOVE!

    Worldly gratification while ‘smiling to the bank’ so to say, to sooth pain caused by man is WRONG MOVE. Period.

    We all make mistakes. In fact Mistakes are continual. Marrying the wrong person, saying the wrong things, losing control, loving and losing etc. There is a season for it all. Eg, Season to love and hate. In whatever season, practice and maintain self control and bridling of the tongue. No matter how hard you want to try and prove you are the victim. PRACTICE. MAINTAIN PEACE. REMAIN CALM. Its VERY VERY hard, but POSSIBLE.

    Galatians 1:10
    For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.

    John 12:43
    For they loved the glory that comes from man more than the glory that comes from God.

    Jeremiah 17:5
    Thus says the Lord: “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord.

    Proverbs 29:26
    Many seek the face of a ruler (BOOK, PEOPLE), but it is from the Lord that a man gets justice.

    Proverbs 16:2
    All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the spirit.


  31. marlee

    November 29, 2016 at 4:42 pm


    • Hahaha

      November 29, 2016 at 4:50 pm

      million dollar car keH??????? 🙂 my goodness People can lie for africa
      i didnt know there was a million dollar car, let alone namibia 🙂
      Ofcourse she will inspire you – You are both LIARS
      see you 🙂


    • Manny

      November 29, 2016 at 5:13 pm

      Hahaha …the Namibian currency is dollar. And it is more valuable than our useless Naira. Although a car worth 1M Namibian dollars is still a stretch. That’s like 72K US dollars.
      Maybe marlee is Angelina Jolie 🙂 🙂

    • bia

      November 29, 2016 at 5:26 pm

      Why call her a liar? Namibian dollar now.

    • Pion

      November 30, 2016 at 5:58 pm

      Namibia’s currency is Namibian Dollars, and SUVs like Range Rovers cost around 1 million Namibian dollars, so it’s plausible that she may be telling the truth.

    • Mz Socially Awkward....

      December 1, 2016 at 6:07 pm

      Wow, you just proved the truth in the accusation which many other Africans make about Nigerians – i.e. that we’re surprisingly obtuse about anything else happening within the continent (but if the subject is American pop culture, we sabi that one wella).

      See how you dived straight right in to refute her statement… whilst being ignorant about Namibian currency. I mean, who wan laugh who now?


  32. Temi

    November 29, 2016 at 6:07 pm

    Maje that slapped Toke at silver bird galleria and said its over yet Toke went back to BRG him all cos she wanted to win him from Anita.

    • Temi

      November 29, 2016 at 6:08 pm

      To bed him*

  33. Temi

    November 29, 2016 at 6:07 pm

    To beg him *

    • Darius

      November 29, 2016 at 7:47 pm

      You don’t even know what you want to type.

    • Anonymous

      November 30, 2016 at 10:01 am

      Oh dear 3rd time lucky ? Bless

  34. nene

    November 29, 2016 at 6:27 pm

    the funniest thing is Toke calls herself a celebrity? Nobody knows her except her friends and fake instagram followers. Social media has a way of deluding people today.

    • madam nene

      November 29, 2016 at 7:33 pm

      you know her. You comment when she’s the topic. She’s a celeb. Hater!

    • Ni

      November 29, 2016 at 8:56 pm

      I’m not her friend or instagram follower but I know her ?

  35. Viva

    November 29, 2016 at 6:36 pm

    Hmmmm… I have my reservations about the book but I’d save it for another day. Toke my dear, please find or master your purpose in life so you’d know how to answer such questions when you are asked.

    As an author, I’d expect you to know what you want your legacy to be (at least explain in one or two sentences or even a short paragraph) but your response was all over the place- I didn’t quite get what it. I’m sure you’d do fine in the next interview.

    I don’t know if I’d do anything differently or not do anything at all if I were in your shoes- so I can’t judge you. If anything, I’d have preferred you use a different name for your characters. Intentionally tarnishing their image is a bad as what they did to you- so I guess that makes you even?

    Being spiritual and close to God equals healing – almost true. But I don’t and I repeat I don’t think God will tell you to write a book to pay evil for evil. You can write a story and talk about your experience but let us make the assumption of who we think you are referring to because not go all out in God’s name. Again I may be wrong. Just my opinion.
    But all in all. It’s a brace thing you did..Good luck

  36. Viva

    November 29, 2016 at 6:39 pm

    Hmmmm… I have my reservations about the book but I’d save it for another day. Toke my dear, please find or master your purpose in life so you’d know how to answer such questions when you are asked.

    As an author, I’d expect you to know what you want your legacy to be (at least explain in one or two sentences or even a short paragraph) but your response was all over the place- I didn’t quite get what it. I’m sure you’d do fine in the next interview.

    I don’t know if I’d do anything differently or not do anything at all if I were in your shoes- so I can’t judge you. If anything, I’d have preferred you use a different name for your characters. Intentionally tarnishing their image is a bad as what they did to you- so I guess that makes you even?

    Being spiritual and close to God equals healing – almost true. But I don’t and I repeat I don’t think God will tell you to write a book to pay evil for evil. You can write a story and talk about your experiences and let us make the assumption of who we think you may be referring to… but not go all out in God’s name. Again I may be wrong. Just my opinion.
    But all in all. It’s a brave thing you did..Good luck

  37. Manny

    November 29, 2016 at 7:41 pm

    I’m reading the book and damn, Arese or what’s her name is something else. The part where Maje confessed to the pregnancy and Arese was like okay what can we do now. Where can we get the best doctors … meaning an abortion???. O_o just like that.

    • Zella

      November 29, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      I saw that and was like!!!!! Ehat frigging right do you have over another woman’s baby to discuss and abortion about her baby! I was a fan but thanks to Toke I know better. What a friend! You couldnt advice your girl to leave the pressident of Asso. of Yoruba demons. It is now another person’s child you want to abort. Well done Arese.

    • Fact Check.

      November 30, 2016 at 2:09 am

      @zella, Maje Ayida is NOT Yoruba. The Ayidas are Itsekiri.

  38. Ewa

    November 29, 2016 at 8:14 pm

    Seems I came late for the party!
    Can you notice the semblance with Laura Ikeji #teambleachinggang???

  39. Ni

    November 29, 2016 at 8:54 pm

    I’m not her friend or instagram follower but I know her ?

  40. serendipity

    November 29, 2016 at 9:25 pm

    @ Manny that’s the part that got me, so abortion was an option interesting….
    p.s how much does the book cost anyone?

  41. Vee

    November 29, 2016 at 11:39 pm

    I thought of you when I read this quote from “On Becoming” by Toke Makinwa –

    “I had been put down so much. Maje and I should not have gotten married. I had daddy issues from losing my dad at such an early age. I had no experience with guys and so I winged it most of the time. I should have played my part and left the rest to God. A part of me felt like Maje didn’t deserve me taking care of him. I wanted him to pay for every hurt he had inflicted on me , but two wrongs have never made a right. I failed to realise that he was growing as he lived his life, while I was stuck, living through him, fixating on the way he chose to live his life . Seasons changed but I was the girl stuck on that jet ski all those years ago and I didn’t want us to ever leave that beach. I wanted that devoted man back. I craved those peaceful months and kept trying to recreate them over and over again. I had forced idol status on a mere man who was far from perfect. I’d refused to open my eyes to harsh realities.”

  42. Me

    November 30, 2016 at 5:05 am

    Biko just checking, anyone in NYC here?

    • HelloThere

      December 1, 2016 at 4:18 am

      Coming to nyc tomorrow…how far? Naija dude

  43. Racks

    November 30, 2016 at 7:41 am

    Sigh, this matter has poluted in my mouth and added salt. All of you are commenting and giving opinions, may you not experience the same. Toke is single with no children, I’m not saying that’s the high point of a woman’s life , but we fail to see that maje is the winner here. He has Anita and kids. Toke is only answering your question, can’t you see that she has attachment issues , mum and dad went so early , runs and party girl , looking for old money and big name to marry . All these things are not normal. The best we can do is pity her because she is so hurt beyond words. As for maje and Anita , I hope you’ll raise your son to be respectful and kind . Wish all parties involved Gods blessings.

  44. Madman

    November 30, 2016 at 8:25 am

    I don’t know why no one wants to believe that men can be broken. Toke and Maje are two broken people. Maje needs as much mental help as Toke. Two broken and mentally Ill people cannot be together.

  45. NoOneisPerfect

    November 30, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    I do wish Toke spoke about the dynamics in her family in more detail. Most times there’s a defect in your childhood that becomes a weakness in your adulthood. I don’t believe the loss of her parents made her fight for her relationship but it may have contributed. I think Toke could have witnessed enduring cheating or something with her biological parents or adoptive parents.

    Generally, your parents bond may reflect on your bond in future relationships.

  46. NoOneisPerfect

    November 30, 2016 at 1:27 pm

    Toke has unintentionally redeemed Anita. and as for Maje he is as dark as his heart.

    • onyee

      December 1, 2016 at 9:48 am

      i do agree with you , partly though. i feel like not alot of people watched this interview or read the book. only then maybe can we understand what really happened, and what she’s trying to say . she admitted she was wrong and thats one thing i do respect about her, she accepted her blame , she didnt blame the other parties alone and i also feel like her sharing her story is also a way to help other ladies who maybe going through same, your fault or not your fault, they can learn not to make same mistakes.

  47. Favourine

    November 30, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    Hmmm we all have different opinions, When your relationship is a public topic, it can be the hardest thing. She talking about it is not about money, its a way of showing she is trying to get over it, She took time out to cry alone then weight the experiences and the lessons before starting to voice out. It must have been the hardest thing she has had to do. People go through these things around the world but are not public personalities. The marriage was between two adults not babies who made vows to themselves. Toke even after all the talks, still goes through difficult times remembering all the hurt and pains that she can never talk out of her memory. Maje cheated with Anita but there is no word about Toke ever cheating. Yes she wrote a book, Yes she used real names. She wants the world to share her lessons and thoughts since her life and story is a public issue. People who think she is wrong in whatever way i hope you can walk a mile in her shoes and i am sure must of you would not survive footsteps.

  48. Aj

    November 30, 2016 at 6:05 pm

    As my pastor told me, when I went to go talk to her about a similar situation that happened to me, in my case it was a friend., she said so you were living in sin, you just ate the fruit of the lifestyle you were living. Come on guys, as people who claim to be Christian’s, God said don’t have sex before marriage, not because He is stupid, not because He is trying to deprive us of something, it’s for us to live a life of honor and all this mess will be avoided. If everyone honored God, we wouldn’t have situations like this. The storms most of us face in life is as a result of our disobedience to the word of God. As christians, I’m not even talking about the world now. All of this is as a result of SIN. So everyone had a part to play in this story, no one person is just to blame. This is a snake, Eve and Adam moment, God gave an instruction and everyone disobeyed. That is why we are here today, because of disobedience. Everyone should just repent and give up their lives of sin. If not we will keep hearing these types of stories over and over again.

    • Among

      December 1, 2016 at 3:09 am

      If you knew any virgins you wouldn’t say this shit. You guys think that Because of virginity all the good things in life will be handed to you. Do you know the high percentage of Nigerian men cheating on their wives that married virgins? And have you forgotten that God loves ALL and redeems ALL? Anyway, with a myopic and judgemental pastor like yours, I don’t expect to have a broader outlook on life. You really think that Because of a woman’s Hymen and a man’s inexperience then a marriage will be great. You don’t know ANYTHING. Nothing at all. Please go to a different pastor for pre and post marriage counselling or you’re in for it

    • Why na?

      December 1, 2016 at 1:57 pm

      Wetin Virgins do you na? . Please leave virgins out of this discussion, AJ was talking about not having sex before marriage, please deal with that.

      “Because of a woman’s Hymen and a man’s inexperience then a marriage will be great. You don’t know ANYTHING. Nothing at all.” Please stop using these words already, by God’s word people that obey His words go on to reap great rewards if not in this world, then in Eternity.

      My point is there is nothing wrong with with being a virgin and an “inexperienced man”. Very soon the baby will become a man.

  49. laila

    December 7, 2016 at 7:46 am

    Poor Toke, trying too hard to inspire others. Claire kept asking questions about you, how you felt, the signs etc but you kept talking about people, people, people. Girl, please face your baggage, deal with it, get your healing and then inspire others. I feel so sorry for you and the level of denial.

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