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“Stop acting the wife role when u have no insurance/assurance” – Nollywood actor IK Ogbonna on knowing where you stand in a Relationship



Nollywood actor IK Ogbonna took to his Instagram to share his opinion and thoughts on ladies who do not know where they stand in their relationship. He advised them to speak up and ask their significant others where they think the relationship is heading to as “Time waits for no one”.

He said:

His above 30
He has a healthy line of income
you have dated for more than a year
You are still answering GIRLFRIEND.
Take away the bedroom benefits
And stop acting the wife role when u have no insurance/ assurance. Time waits for no one
Don’t walk past the right guy while holding hands with the wrong guy????
At this junction, it’s very ok to ask that bro whats his plan for the relationship. Oya go and marry”


  1. Ifeyinwa Atuanya

    February 16, 2017 at 11:19 am

    Go and marry who?

    The guy must marry the chick.

    After she must have invested in the relationship.

    “Imana guys ana ayo ka ego.” They look for “ndi nna fa nwelu ego to nnuo.”

    Maybe if one looks at it from that angle.

  2. Beard gang

    February 16, 2017 at 11:34 am

    Why don’t women call the shots in relationships? Like ‘toasting’, popping the question etc lol…my life will have been so much easier… Lol….
    Looking for a woman who will use and dump me as long as she does the toasting ( inclusive of dinner dates and wooing gifts lol) and maybe bedroom benefits lol **runs out**

    • Haha

      February 16, 2017 at 12:25 pm

      I tire oh,some women need to start taking responsibility for their lives and action.

    • Lilys

      February 16, 2017 at 11:08 pm

      You go wait tire oo

  3. Omalicha

    February 16, 2017 at 11:45 am

    IK is spot on correct

    • iyke

      February 16, 2017 at 12:49 pm

      Not every woman wants to marry you know – What if they are JUST fine with the arrangement?
      Honestly, sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through expectations. If you are in a relationship with an emotionally intelligent man/woman who is driven in his/her purpose (has a career/business, doesn’t live with his parents, compassionate, romantic and kind. In his/her mid 20s to mid 40s, just be yourself and let things work out NATURALLY. Believe me, if he/she never lets you fall asleep thinking you’re unwanted, soul-deep, electrifying kinda love, then you don’t need to ask the direction of the relationship…it takes its natural course.
      If you have to ask him/her where the relationship is going, then you have no reason being in that relationship in the first place.
      @ Beard gang , Yes women, especially Nigerian women should try and reach out – ladies if you meet a guy you fancy, a simple hello could lead to a million things, you know. It doesn’t make you cheap if you are confident in yourself and emotionally sound.And if the feeling is real and mutual, you will know.Energy doesn’t lie.

    • xo

      February 16, 2017 at 2:26 pm

      you try to be liberal but most times you come off as unrealistic.

      I don’t know any girl who doesn’t want more than being a gf to a guy who by all standards is ready to settle down. really!

    • Iyke

      February 16, 2017 at 2:47 pm

      Exactly my point!
      A guy who is ready to settle down or marry you would never wait for you to ask him for the definition of your relationship.

  4. 3ples

    February 16, 2017 at 12:30 pm

    #sigh… just out of curiosity… will marriage certificate guarantee me a seat at the Lord’s Right Hand on the Last day?

    • Oyinade

      February 16, 2017 at 1:57 pm


  5. john

    February 16, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    not every woman deserves to marry..honestly, some are better off single ..who in thr right mind will marry someone like hadiza or sugabelly or even befriend them unless it is only to hit and run


    February 16, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

    …..Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men….

    Monday, 12 December 2016,
    Excerpts from Sonia Ogbonna blogspot

    Getting Married Does Not Mean You Won A Jackpot!Why So Desperate For Marriage?
    That is why most of the women I come across act like getting married is the highest level of acknowledgement a female can get. Like it’s a lifetime recognition or something. Like a damn piece of paper (marriage certificate) is a proof that you are better and more superior then other ladies without a husband (?!).
    …….Once you receive sense you will understand that marriage is not a FINAL GOAL,it’s just a BEGINNING of a whole new chapter with challenges on its own where you would need a constant support,understanding and compromise for sake of having a peace of mind… But hey,you are married,point proven right? Your church members and your village is happy with you,what more could be more important than that?

    He he he he,

    • xo

      February 16, 2017 at 2:30 pm

      different themes here. IK message is directed to the girls who desire to be married but who are with guys that are not ready.

      I love Chimamanda but, pls people she is not the standard. her opinion is not the standard. her opinion is her opinion!

    • xo

      February 16, 2017 at 2:31 pm

      or that are ready but only stringing the said girls along.

    • Sherlie Holmes

      February 20, 2017 at 3:20 pm

      Right! And please bear in mind that Chimamanda is married!

  7. Ade

    February 16, 2017 at 4:22 pm

    Yet if a man does not assume some husband like responsibilities in a relationship, he is termed as irresponsible and stingy.

    • ogeAdiro

      February 16, 2017 at 5:40 pm

      You’re going too far sef. You’ll find a lot of women who are very comfortable chopping money and accepting other favors from a guy who happens to be their friend’s friend’s friend. But I honestly believe that some men have mental problem sha; because the willingness with which some guys do things for women ehn. One two three, guys are ready to pay restaurant bills and dash gifts up-n-down. Next thing the women will be like “he’s a very nice guy.” Any girl/woman who terms me “nice,” I begin to wonder where I have been falling mumu.

  8. ifeanyi

    February 22, 2017 at 2:50 am

    ladies and gentle men,well,I see some saying not all girls want to marry,wow,I notice some people don’t know the purpose of their existence,did you come to this world to eat and drink or you are just living for no purpose,look its high time this over due singles should face their challenges ,take up responsibilities be you lady or guy,if your parents have this mind of singleness you would not have existed,what a non sense,even as a rich lady you just want to have a child as a baby mama,you make men lazy,will you want your son or your daughter to live that way,men think think,fit yourself in the original foundation,follow the way and order of your maker,money is not the main thing,be of good character and look nice the right guy or lady will come and money too will come,all the good things of life are here already,pray to your maker,He will set you for attraction of good things not for destruction,thanks

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