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“Good Ol’ Spanking” Toke Makinwa talks Parenting on a New Episode of ‘Toke Moments’

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Watch this week’s episode of Toke Makinwa‘s Toke Moments and catch the author and media personality talk about parenting. Toke shares some childhood stories, experiences with children and her thoughts on spanking.

What are your thoughts on the topic?

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16 Comments

  1. Honey31

    March 16, 2017 at 2:28 am

    Toke o. I laughed hard. U are very right

  2. linda

    March 16, 2017 at 3:16 am

    Toke cmon nahh 🙂 pay people to comment for you cos this 1 comment (mine adds to 2) is sad

    • Darius

      March 16, 2017 at 4:43 am

      Sometimes people choose not to comment, but trust me, a lot of people watch Toke’s vlog.

    • Dee

      March 16, 2017 at 7:51 am

      at what time na? 3:16 am? fear God o. lol

    • Ec

      March 16, 2017 at 8:24 pm

      DEE You forget that people watch from different countries/time zones

  3. ANONYMOUS

    March 16, 2017 at 6:17 am

    I’m glad someone is finally saying this. Kids need spanking. Spank them to the highest of heavens. Trust me, they will hear. They will rearrange and conform with immediacy. Forget about all of this psychological analysis in town.
    Cane is important.
    Pickin wey me i born, i dey talk to am,e dey frown face?! ehen?! Wonders shall never end. You nor frown face wen you dey my belle, you nor know wetin i need endure before i finally born you. Then i dey try correct you ,you dey ask me “mummy is something in your eye?” Don’t worry, after that first time, you shall NEVER repeat it.

    Kids this days have too much guts for their age and they need to to be put in shape. Speaking firmly doesn’t always do the job and that’s a fact. Even if you say “i’ll never spank my children, all i have to do is speak firmly” , by the time the kids come, your strategy will change.

    Toke love, your head is in the right place abeg. You do well. Spank that child o jare! He/She won’t die nor worry.

    • Labake

      March 17, 2017 at 12:46 am

      I have two boys (5 and 3) and neither I or their very traditional father spank them. Is it hard yes? But raising children is challenging and parents should rise to the occasion instead of lazily resorting to beating/spanking/whatever you want to call it. Children aren’t goats. They have ears to listen and sense. Treat them sensibly and they will learn.

      If your toddler gets into it with another toddler, do you advise to him beat the other kid or do you advise him to use his words/share/walk away? If you DO NOT recommend your toddler use violence but you in turn use it, then you are a hypocrite.

  4. Ruqq

    March 16, 2017 at 7:57 am

    Aww Toke.. very interesting video. Lol

  5. I love my husband

    March 16, 2017 at 9:52 am

    I don’t watch her vlogs, i watched this cos i have kids and i just can relate…interesting video…kids nowadays are enjoying o, my mum then will just look at you when you go and sit with a visitor that was served a bottle of coke, when my mum looks at you alone, you will quickly walk away from that visitor..LOL

  6. Nyc

    March 16, 2017 at 5:09 pm

    When my 8yr old is telling me “that didn’t even hurt” I’m like haaa God help me not to kill this child. May God deliver my child from defiance and disobedience in Jesus name.
    It’s not easy, spanking doesn’t always work and doesn’t work for all.
    They may grow to detest you especially if u live in the western part. Be careful.

    • dupsy

      March 16, 2017 at 6:07 pm

      Thank you o! This is how Nigerians destroy a child’s self confidence and put unnecessary aggression into a child from an early age o! Have you noticed oyinbo children talking and expressing themselves to adults compared to our own Naija brought up pikins? Our children are so shy and withdrawn, they won’t even want to look an adult in the eyes unlike an oyinbo child who looks at you confidently and talks with you as though you were pals. I am not for rude or overbearing kids – I believe a lot in discipline BUT I don’t subscribe to violently shouting or beating a child all in the name of discipline even if you want to spank your child it should not be everytime and the intensity should be mild like a kind of precaution for them to know they have crossed the line. But the way Nigerian parents talk about spanking, it looks so aggressive and poses a risk to a child’s personality. Just saying!

  7. Grace

    March 16, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    There is more to the average oyinbo child feeling more confident o. Some oyinbos spank seriously. Especially the older ones. It takes more plus spiritual to instill confidence in black children. A 4year old boy once told his mum he was black skinned. Since his mum schooled in Niger, that made her think. She never had to deal with skin issues in Ibadan. If all you do to instill confidence is not to spank, that is not enough. They need to be strong and know they are loved by God or else one oyinbo pikin can destroy the confidence.

  8. OA

    March 16, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    Toke’s Mom and my Mom must be related. We would already know we had birthday party to attend that day, because she would have even selected our baffs, but my Mom will go to work, Ikorodu, Ijebu, Sokoto, come back home at one ridiculous hour and ask the house help to dress us that we were going to birthday party. Me, who liked smokey jollof rice die, would be pandering in my small head if it was reasonable to attend since the jollof rice would likely have finished by the time we got there, not to talk of cake. Hmmm, is that not torture? Sometimes we will just waste our baffs, other times we would be lucky because food will remain and I could enjoy my smokey jollof rice and cake. One time, my Mom swears I was using my eyes to follow the person carrying jollof on the tray and wanted to cry because the person passed me by. All I felt was a knock that sent me into a different stratosphere. I wasn’t sure if I was coming or going. My Mom was a no-nonsense mother oh! Mehn, that woman showed us when we were growing up. If not that me and her now look so much alike, I for wonder if she be my real mama.

    I can’t remember what I did when I was only around 3 years old, but can you imagine that I remember the beating my Mom gave me? At three? Can you imagine, how can you remember what happened to you at three if it was not traumatic? I think I must have seen an ajeku (leftover) plate at a party and I went and picked the fish on the plate (as you can see, I have liked food since). The house help reported me I think, because my Mom was not there when I did so as kpe who born me if my Mom was there? All I know was that my Mom complained throughout the ride home (my ode self didn’t even know she was complaining about me, again I was young). When we reached home, my Mom dragged me out of the car, and pounced on me as in she beat me like a drum. I also remember vividly that I rolled all the way from the car to the front door like a football because she kicked me till I reached the door. After all that, she was the one that bathed me and changed me that night and she did it lovingly cos I think I fell asleep in her arms after crying for hours. After that who born me? Aje-wetin?

    I have developed zero tolerance for that type of behavior too. One time I took my nephew out when he was around five-ish. The abebelube boy just walked up to the place where they kept the cake and cut a piece and took it. Na so I see am eating cake. “Where did you get the cake?” Nonchalantly, he responded “I took it!” Come and see “ra-baba-ing and I can see everything turning around” at the same time! I snatched him and took him to a corner and grabbed the collar of his shirt and squeezed it very hard and said, “if you don’t want me to take you into the bushes and leave you there, if you ever embarrass me at a party again, you will find your way home with your small rat self…alaseju/alakoba!”

  9. Nunulicious

    March 16, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    Toke has come again.
    Giving opinion and advice on things she has no experience in. Hian, na so you dey advice folks about relationship and dating when all hell was breaking loose in the background.
    Toke, Toke, Toke. Eti e melo? How many times did I call you?

    • Tt

      March 17, 2017 at 11:39 am

      Did you watch it at all?

    • KitKat

      March 17, 2017 at 1:30 pm

      You are such a bitter person. Please watch the video. Thank you.

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