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Debbie Larry-Izamoje: Letter To My 22 Year Old Self



IMG_6260 You’ve entered this new age with so much strength and determination. For the past 2 years you’ve been able to change your outlook on life, but this time you’re more determined to implement those changes.

You still have a lot to learn and room to grow so slow down! You put yourself under so much pressure to attain your goals. You’re very ambitious this will never change. The sun will seem brighter every-time you get positive feedback from your clients.

Remove some things from your to do list. Live more! Go out more, laugh more, fall in love or out of it.

You have days where you feel like you don’t have it all figured out. You’re not supposed to. What would life be if it didn’t come with surprises?

Half of the women you look up to have decades on you. So, don’t put pressure on yourself to be like them. Get close to them and learn from them. Don’t be afraid to ask them questions.

You started the year with a few doubts, I need you to worry less. You’re going to end your year with so much joy.

Don’t compare your journey to that of your siblings or parents or mentors. Understand that we all have very different assignments in life. You are very structured and very organized. You love to be in control and know how things will turn out. Unfortunately, you cannot control everything, so be more flexible.

Spend time grooming your friendships. Save more and try to travel more often too. Understand that there is more to life than Lagos traffic. You may want to experience the traffic in Sao Paulo, Brazil.

Remember that disrespect should never be condoned and that you are enough. Pretty enough, wise enough, skinny enough (yes start accepting this fact, those fad diets wouldn’t work). You are enough. Anyone who gets you, gets value.

You’ll be tempted to settle for certain guys… don’t!

There will be so many men. Wrong for you and right for the moment kind of guys.

Stay focused on your priorities. Don’t settle! One will hurt your heart but that experience will take you a few steps closer to your purpose

Remember that a diamond doesn’t stop being a diamond just because some people don’t know its value.

Girl, stop being so dramatic! A bad day or week or month is never equals to a bad life. No one gives you happiness and life should never happen to you. You should happen to life. Every day that you wakeup, the universe should be aware of the storm that you are.

Don’t hide your age or downplay your little achievements. Know that no one can do life like you and that makes you powerful.

You are very ambitious and hardworking. You’d be shocked to know how many people notice your efforts. Don’t get carried away by what people say; continue tilling your own ground.

You will meet people that will genuinely like you. Do not be afraid to let them in; it’s never too late to have new friends.

Your family members will still be your biggest support system. This will be revealed to you more this year than previous years.

Most of all, I want you to continue to talk to God. You will have days you feel tired but he will give you strength and when you’re confused, he will give you the spirit of discernment. When you are afraid he will be your guide. He will be your source of joy. Get closer to him. Learn to talk to him first, before you talk to any friend or family.

Enjoy your year!

Debbie Larry-Izamoje, with Certificates in Innovation and strategy from Harvard University and user innovation from Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) is the Founder of a fast growing digital agency in Nigeria and the group operations coordinator of Nigeria's only sports radio station, Brila Fm Twitter and Instagram: @dee_larry @imageboosters_ Email: [email protected]


  1. caramel chic

    April 25, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    Letter to my 22 year old self!

    It done do!! Don;t rush it!
    You failed your degree. It isn’t the end of the world. No literally. You just have to plan again. Do another course. Put your head down and work hard. Did you hear me? Work hard!! Harder than your neighbour. I didn’t say you have to be the most academic or have all the contacts. I just want you to go hard. Be at school before the class starts. Read your notes. Go to every free seminar or session you know. Be at that office 30 minutes before you are supposed to be there.Work hard. Instagram success is not real. Or less the person has showed you their bank account statement.

    I am so broke!! Being broke is really not the worst thing to happen to you. Being lazy and thinking some fairy Godmother is going to come and save you is. She don’t exist. The only thing I need you to do is be diligent with what you have,. Whether you’re making 10 dollars or N3,000 Naira a day. Do it to all of your might. Do it well. Do it like your father owns the business. Ten years from now that experience will be Gold. Don’t think you have to be successful instantly. Na lie.

    There are amazing men in the world. Amazing African men. Amazing Nigerian men. Just because you were raised in a broken home doesn’t mean you walk around like you are iron woman. Don;t guard your heart like you are in prison. A HARDENED young girl is overrated, you wont receive an award for it in the future. I want you to have an open heart. But be wise. Ask your older aunties and cousins about love.. Don’t make a decision on love on your own. Don’t take the journey into love on your own. Better is a man with wise counsel that a lost animal walking in a forest.

    Being a strong Nigerian woman is overrated.
    When last have you heard a man refer to himself as a strong Nigerian man ? exactly!!
    Its a modern day term used to put women in emotional prison. Focus on being a human being. That’s all you need to be. You don’t need to not feel You need to be you. Flaws, weaknesses , sensitive, fragile. Mistakes. You don’t need to have everything together. That is called a lie. Just be a young girl who is hard working yet can let others help you. Let people in. .Some will hurt you ( its human/its normal) but there will be great nuggets who stay and love you.

    lastly pray about every single detail of your life. No dream is too small. Nor ideas. No problem. Pray my darling. Pray. You rock boo. Just the way you are.

  2. chikamso

    April 25, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    Nice one Debbie!!!!

  3. Nengi

    April 25, 2017 at 2:44 pm

    Very interesting piece. Loved every bit of it.

  4. Odididi

    April 25, 2017 at 2:52 pm

    I’m turning 22 by June and this is exactly the page of my life I”m in at the moment.You said it all.. all I needed to hear.Thank you do much.

  5. llastoa

    April 25, 2017 at 7:33 pm

    Thanks Debbie,will be 22 by August, and also agraduate by then sometimes I’m scared,most times optimistic,this is truly for me.good work.

  6. vyce

    July 26, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    i get you!!

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