Scoop
Nollywood Actress Lota Chukwu Shares A Few Words Of Advice For People Who Live Reclusively
Nollywood Actress, Lota Chukwu took to her Twitter page on Tuesday to share a few words of advice for people who keep to themselves and love living their lives in reclusion, thereby shutting out the rest of the world. Being a person like that herself, she explains that she understands the need to keep to oneself more than most, but certain recent circumstances which she explains has caused her to rethink her stance.
Read her tweets below:
How was your day?
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
So, I want to talk about talking about stuff you go through.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
So today, I got put on blast by my entire family because “your mind is too deep.” What that means is I don’t talk about stuff.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
This is a character trait I have had for the longest time. I find it so difficult talking about stuff I am going through.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
I can literally be depressed and lock myself up in my house for weeks and talk to nobody and just be on my own and say “I am fine” if asked.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
People who know me can tell now when I’m sinking into a hole and when they forcefully try to pry, I lash out.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
Recently, I had a dear friend who lost his mother to cancer and I’d been there for him for most of the journey of her health troubles…
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
..so I was one of the first people he called to tell she had died. I called him immediately and we talked but subsequently he stopped…
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
…taking calls. I tried to reach him through several means (messages, calls, DMs) but he never responded to any of it.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
One day, I got really mad at him and I sat down telling myself how he was being super selfish & I’d done my part. I was ready to let him be
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
And then something occurred to me… THIS IS HOW I MAKE EVERYONE ELSE FEEL!! Every time!! I make everyone around me feel handicapped.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
They see me going through the worst shit and I still smile and say “I’m fine”. I instead try to use reverse psychology & flip the questions
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
It’s not on purpose. I don’t know how to let my guard down. I’ve been through so much so early to know that I’ll always be good.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
I might get lost in the moment and forget that, but years of being alone teaches you defense mechanisms that seem like superpowers.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
If you have someone who doesn’t like talking about stuff let them be, give them time. Be there around the periphery of their vision.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
At their time, they will open up (or maybe not) but just show them they aren’t alone. In actions¬ words. Maybe one day they’ll let you in
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
I hope this thread helps you help a recluse going through shit.
To God be the glory.
The end.
— The Lota Chukwu (@TheLotaChukwu) April 4, 2017
Photo Credit: Instagram – @thelotachukwu
