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Warri billionaire Ayiri Emami’s brother apologizes for assaulting Wife

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A video showing Billionaire Ayiri Emami’s younger brother Bawo Daniel Emami physically assaulting his wife, Oritsegbugbemi surfaced online yesterday.

In the video clip, there appeared to be a scuffle, as a woman who was reported to be his wife’s mom was heard shouting at Bawo, asking him to let go of his wife’s hand.

Just before the video ended he was seen dragging his wife out of the car.

Today, Bawo posted the video on his instagram page, asking people to help him apologize to his wife.

He wrote:

I have troubled this woman and her husband so much,everyone please help me ask for her forgiveness on this…To my lovely wife…I love you…

See his post below:

44 Comments

  1. tony

    August 18, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    Shame!!! He should be arrested!!

  2. Nancy Drew

    August 18, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    Pls BN lemme post my comment

    Hello everyone,

    Please I need solid advice on this matter. My husband and I are about to relocate to Canada infact our ticket has been booked for September 1. There are a few things I want to highlight that are bothering me. I am heavy and will soon deliver, my due date is late November; and my husband wants us to stay with his cousin. This cousin is a young student with 4 friends squatting in his apartment.
    I have tried to convince my husband to rent an apartment yet he wont agree. I even told him its unsanitary to live in a house with 5 men and bring a baby into the house yet he insists we need to save money. In total we have almost 5000 dollars as ours to take along. I told him jobs are not impossible to get so we can add to that savings.
    That brought about another argument, he thinks I will get a job as we get there and continue working immediately after delivery of the baby. I explained nursing the baby for at least 4 months before putting baby in daycare, he said he will take care of new born baby when I go to work.
    I even offered the child benefits money we might receive from the government he said I should be sending the money to Nigeria.
    I am so confused. I am tempted to book an Airbnb right now. All I want from you guys is how to convince him to rent our own apartment asap however cheap or shabby. I also need help convincing him that I and the baby will not be burdens to him, especially during the months I will be nursing and will not be working. Any suggestions please comment.

    THANKS.

    • [email protected]

      August 18, 2017 at 7:45 pm

      He is your husband and you know him better than anyone else here on bella Naija. Why would he even think you and the baby would be a burden to him? He is the husband and its his responsibility to look after his family, that is what God commands.
      My two cents is this, if you do not have where to stay , you should not be travelling to Canada now especially if you are bringing a baby into the mix. Let your husband go first, when he is settled he can always send for you (my only fear is that if he thinks you and his child are burdens to him he might abandon you both).
      Trying speaking to someone he has a lot of respect for and listens to.

    • BOSS

      August 18, 2017 at 7:57 pm

      Child benefit? How ? una be citizen??? ur husband is a potential slave dealer and you, my dear is the potential slave. You see suffer for korokoro eye and you still want to relocate? Go to work immediately after delivering a baby in a foreign land? Bab, you don drink only water sleep before becos food nor dey? That is your future is you make a stupid decision. . You had better stay back and birth your baby,

    • Ec

      August 18, 2017 at 8:11 pm

      Please please and please for the sake of the unborn child’s health don’t squat with several men.
      Your husband should know that it’s not safe nor unsanitary.
      My advice is to keep insisting that you will offer to use the benefit from the government which can cover rent

    • Tika

      August 18, 2017 at 9:07 pm

      Hi there,

      Your post caught my attention because I live in Canada. Ist, living with students especially 4 men is unhealthy and unwise. 2nd, You will get the subsidy from the government which isn’t a lot for a family of 3(I assume). 3rd, we have a 1 year mat leave for nursing mothers ( I believe Trudeau’s government is increasing it to 18 months) so the 4 months getting back to work is unrealistic unless you live in the USA.

      In addition to the above, you will be giving birth in the winter which can be brutal depending on Mother Nature. I personally would suggest you rent a place even if it’s a 1 bedroom apartment. However you need to be aware that Canada is a very expensive country and depending on where about you are moving to the cost of an apartment can range in 1000-1200/ per month and may not include hydro ( water, electricity, etc). Best of luck on your move and the delivery.

    • Baby gurl

      August 18, 2017 at 9:16 pm

      The Canadians would either arrest you guys or deport you if you are caught in such a despicable environment while pregnant or nursing. Your husband is being silly I’m sorry. Could he be hiding something? For him to be so bent on squatting. Jeez. I’m sorry about this hopeless situation you are in. Please rent an Airbnb. Leave him and his crew alone. Your health and sanity and the health of your innocent child are more important. Trust me. Just flee from them.

    • Missthain

      August 18, 2017 at 9:33 pm

      Hi nancy, came accross your post and though i’d help. I personally relocated to Canada a year go with my husband and our son (3 years old at that time) from south africa, but we are Nigerians. You see Canada is not as easy as they make it seem, especially finding a good paying job. But you two need to come in with a strong dedication, if you guys work together, then you can make it, but leaving in a house with 4men is not the smartest choice. No offense, but I have a feeling your husband is in his late 20s or early 30s. You need to make your voice hard now, because trials will come and you two need to have each others back

      You can email me at [email protected] to chat more and pls read this reply. Let’s chat, my husband and I would like to help in any way we can. Don’t be discouraged about the move, it’s for the best. I look forward to hearing from you

      My husband was fortunate to have bagged a job before we moved so things were abit ok, but it was still a struggle to pay the bills(Yes the bills here are high). It took me 7 months to get a good paying job, i didn’t give up.

      Now to the response to your questions:

      1) What visa are you coming into Canada with? Are you coming in as a permanent residence, work, student or visitor?

      2) Has your husband gotten a job? If not, then it’s risky for the two of you to leave at the same time, especially knowing you have a baby on the way.

      2b) Never, I repeat, Never leave in a hose with 4 male students. Their is a high chance of him losing his focus and getting carried away with those men around. You’ll find yourself competing with the guys on who gets your husbands attention. You’ll be the chef and house maid, and don’t expect him to choose your side.

      3) what are your plans when you get here? Study first then get a job? You need to make sure you have a solid plan and surround yourselves with the right pple. You don’t want to join the statistics.

      4) The government will give you grant, but it’s better to save it for your child in Canada not Nigeria. Do not rely on government grants please. Most family i’ve seen come to america rely on that too much, it’s nothing because you can make way more than that if you work

      5) Do not send money home if you are not sending it to your own account. People you know will surprise you when it comes to sending money to Nigeria

      6) 5000 is not a lot of money(yep money here goes with the wind), especially when you want to rent.

    • Missthain

      August 18, 2017 at 9:40 pm

      I forgot to ask, where in Canada are you planning on settling?

    • Hawt Talk With Tosan

      August 18, 2017 at 10:01 pm

      Hi Nancy,

      I live in Canada and had my 3 kids here. Let me first start by saying I do understand the need to save money especially because you only have 5k. Depends on where you are coming to in Canada, housing could be expensive and if your hubby does find a job ASAP, that money will run out faster than Usain Bolt. Having said that, I will not advice you guys to stay where your hubby has suggested for longer than a few weeks. It seems he does not understand how that dynamic could be detrimental to both your physical and psychological well being.

      After a baby is born in Canada, a nurse pays you home visits and part of these visits is to ensure the child is in a safe and sanitary environment.. Please tell him that if the nurse is not satisfied the child is not in any danger it will be reported to family services and YOU DO NOT WANT THAT. Also as per you getting a job as soon as you have the baby…gurl hell no. Trust me you cannot and should not do that. You will have your baby in the winter and hunnay it will be a tough one. Not to mention recovery and nurturing the child. Your hubby SHOULD be the one going to work!

      The Canadian economic climate is really grim at the moment. People have had to take on odd jobs to make ends meet. If your husband is willing to work hard he can quickly get a job that is readily available. I would suggest you take it upon yourself to start looking for affordable accommodation as well as job opportunities for him before ASAP.

      I live in Calgary Alberta and if you guys are landing in my city I can assist you. Post your email and I will reach out. In the meantime, go on https://www.kijiji.ca/h-calgary/1700199 to start searching for accommodation. Look for basement suites in the city you are landing. They are less expensive.

      Good luck

    • HawtieLivinginCanada

      August 19, 2017 at 2:48 am

      Hey dear first of ehn better tell your husband that if he should not even give social services a reason to “attempt” to take that baby from you after your give birth because sometimes especially when it is your first baby they will send a Nurse to come check on you at home to teach you breastfeeding et al; which nurse will come and see that condition and. not report it? Secondly, really how can he expect you guys to stay in that apartment with a baby and. not be a burden to his cousin? Baby de cry well o dem go tire for una o, ever heard of “overstaying your welcome?” let that not be your portion o. To rent here is not difficult you don’t have to get a big house you can rent a basement or 1 bedroom small apartment and start but make sure you guys don’t move into that house with FOUR guys; that thing won’t work o no version of that thing will have a good ending. Stay a bit to get yourself a place and all but move out immediately. If you stayed with them where will you even put baby things? I. He tell your hubby to man up tricks are for kids! As for you working and putting baby in daycare your hubby thinks Canada is Nigeria? Daycare here is expensive o and for 4 month old baby as in baby baby ehn if I hear? Trust me even if both of you were working ehn you would still feel the cost of daycare in y’alls pocket and it wont be cute. When he gets here he wise up FAST but you need to put your foot down on staying at his cousin’s permanently; everything else can be negotiated but that one, NO negotiating. Good luck dear and God bless your family.

    • BJ

      August 19, 2017 at 8:07 am

      I don’t stay he Canada but I stay in a country near to it and I believe you are entitled to healthcare only if you pay your taxes, has your husband considered hospital bills? I know someone who manages to get by on $4000 Canadian every month with a family of 4. I have a little child and diaper and all is not a joking matter. Wish you all the best but please back up your faith with some substance.

    • Wood

      August 19, 2017 at 12:55 pm

      Just because something seems like a NO right now, doesn’t mean it’s going to be a NO forever. With all the added complications to your plan right now, I think it’s best to go back to the drawing table and reassess your current plans and adapt to a better plan. Your husband will be setting your child who is going to be the most important thing in your lives for failure, and he’ll also be setting you and your marriage up for failure. If he really doesn’t want to change his mind, then maybe you should take a stand and choose not to go because it seems YOU are his planned meal ticket. Do what is best for your child and what will not bring shame and see finish into your life. It’s not every suffering in Nigeria life that is necessary please

    • fleur

      August 19, 2017 at 2:28 pm

      DO NOT TRAVEL. THESE ARE OMiNiOUS SIGNS. Is he crippled, elderly, or mentally handicapped? Why is everything about you and what you’ll do to push the family ahead? if you have been the breadwinner in naija, you better follow what your brain is telling you. you are right on all your points. i also support the idea of an airbnb rental. sorry to add this insult but he deserves it – your husband is useless.

    • fleur

      August 19, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      I forgot to mention, you are a burden to those kids you are planning to squat with. There has to be shame at some point in your husband’s head. First off four people in a room sounds too much. Then you add your baby who will cry at night for the first few weeks. If it is one of the crying type babies, it could be for six months. Who do you think can bear those cries besides birth parents? Even birth parents feel like running away from their kids when they cry. You will overburden the people your husband is planning to squat with. Canada is not Ajegunle. Even family members will be intolerant because the demands on the human being are too much in tehse countries to cope with someone who is creating all this upheaval and not paying rent. Also, you will be sharing toilet with guys? Just stay home, have the baby and then plan your move when you have a handle on your baby. The suffering abroad is such that your hair will fall out with the suffering that will be brought on by this lack of planning.

    • Nuna

      August 21, 2017 at 7:54 am

      What kind of end time husband is this??

  3. busta

    August 18, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    The ‘poor’ woman will eventually forgive and forget until she finds herself in a gold plated casket worth $5m.

  4. Ono

    August 18, 2017 at 8:02 pm

    Am a Nigerian woman living in Canada with my two kids, first having a baby is not bean, if you are not careful you will develop high blood pressure that you have to manage for life, and you husband will be healthy. I will not ask you to stay back and have your baby in Nigeria cause your new baby was not included in your Canadian application so will not have papers, that will be extra time ad process to get his/her permanent resident visa.

    My advise, come to Canada and manage in the house, when you have your baby and your husband is still not being reasonable, stay in the hospital and refuse to go home, tell the hospital you are worried for yourself and baby and you can’t live in a house with 5 men with your new baby. Then you will become government headach, they will get a social worker to work with you and your family too come to a suitable living arrangement, the social worker will also advise your husband about process of getting a job fast. Remember your health and your baby safety is most important.

    But if you are afraid of your husband and can’t carry out my advice, please just manage your husband the best way you know how to.

    • Advisor

      August 22, 2017 at 2:01 pm

      What type of stupid advice is this? Become government headache? Is that all you can do? Leave your country to go be an organized country’s problem?

  5. Busola

    August 18, 2017 at 8:55 pm

    All I can give you are practical answers. Show him facts and he might bend. While $5,000 is not a lot to survive on, you can stretch it for 3 months max, assuming you are moving to Toronto. The cheapest accommodation you can find are within school campuses. If it’s Toronto, look up accommodation in York University Village, you can get an ensuite room in a house for $600 inclusive of internet, cable, water and electricity. You can even go cheaper, if you are willing to share a washroom. Again, you will have to hit the ground running when you get here, especially because you have a child on the way. All the best.

    • Elle

      August 18, 2017 at 11:22 pm

      Pleaseto places like PEI in Canada first for a start, they need people. Thank me later

  6. Inky

    August 18, 2017 at 9:27 pm

    In regards to child tax benefit , that goes according to your income. At this very moment in Toronto the cheapest you will get a 1 bedroom apartment in most building is around is $1100 plus hydro and in some areas it maybe even be more. [email protected] stated that your hubby should of come first to put thing into place to make you and new baby comfortable while adjusting to the new country. Busola made a great suggestion as well in regards to accommodation at York University. The cost of living is very high in Toronto right now $5000 dollar for a family of two plus one one the way may go quickly. All the very best and welcome to TDOT!

  7. Randommer

    August 18, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    I’m confused, why are you both moving to Canada without jobs? I thought maybe your husband is a student but if he wants to take care of the baby while you are at work, then what is he doing? Why are you the one working and he is doing what? Why are you sending your money to Nigeria? to whom? This is a very bad idea – don’t go there and be illegal immigrants and $5k for three people is nothing.

  8. Babym

    August 18, 2017 at 10:36 pm

    Ahhhh this arrangement isn’t a good idea atallll. First of all, those early stages of giving birth are very tough and challenging. U r going to need a lot of support. U will also need ur sanity and space. I don’t see how all those men u will be squatting with will be of any help to you. Then there is a very strong possibility that they will assume a “woman” is in the house so you can now be cooking for all of them and possibly cleaning up too. U don’t need all that drama atallll. Then why does your husband want you to work so soon after giving birth? Have u guys factored in the cost of childcare? I think a lot I men are very ignorant as to what it actually takes to have a baby. Please try and find an alternative arrangement before you break down. Infact as you are heavily pregnant. This is not the kind of stress you need now atall. I wish you the very best and safe delivery.

  9. Omojesu

    August 18, 2017 at 10:47 pm

    Dear Nancy Drew. I’m really sorry about your situation and your husband’s naive behavior. First of all, it is not a good idea to squat with anyone, because you will be having visits from a social worker not just to check on you but to find out if the environment is conducive for your baby. Once you enter Canada, your baby is the government’s responsibility, and trust me they won’t hesitate to take your child away. Another thing is you can check kijiji.ca and rent faster.ca for basement suites to rent. They are usually between 600 to 800 dollars (at least in Alberta where I live) . Also go to the nearest Centre for Newcomers, they will let you know how to get jobs , moving around the city, hospitals and charity groups that cater for new moms, etc. You need maximum 6months to recover after your baby so forget about working for now , and daycare is not cheap. For a baby up to 2years you may pay maximum of 1000 dollars . Unless you and your husband can work different shifts so at least one parent is at home with your baby.Forget about sending money home for now cos you will need it more than your naija peeps. Hope this helps and I wish you all the best.

  10. Meee

    August 18, 2017 at 10:51 pm

    Questions: Are you migrating on a PR, work/student/visitor visa?
    Two: What exactly is your hubby doing? Why does he insist you must get a job? Even if you are more qualified than he is, he can still be doing some part time jobs till you are strong enough to start working. There are so many options for that. As for daycare, hmm forget it o, except you land one very high paying job you will find that you are spending all your earnings on daycare especially if its in toronto.
    Three: Regarding accommodation, you need to make him understand that you are going to Canada o, its not Naija where anything goes. Even the cousin can get in trouble for the number of people he is hosting depending on his landlord. Laws are strict here o. Airbnb is your best bet for now in terms of short term accommodation.
    Another consideration, do you have any hands on skill (tailoring, hair making, bead making) or are you an IT specialist? Basically something you can do from the comfort of your home? Trust me you will need all that. Canada is lovely but you are on your own. No one is going to be giving you envelopes here even for child birth.
    I would have said let your hubby come first and settle but I guess you are already set on coming and then your child becomes an automatic citizen thereby entitling the child to benefits (about $160 per month depending on income).
    PS: BN it would be nice if you can make this into an article, she would receive more advice on this.

  11. finebobo

    August 18, 2017 at 11:54 pm

    after given birth in Canada it is customary for a nurse to visit you couple of times to investigate your living condition. I wonder what they would they would report if they find you to be squatting with 4 people

  12. Ako

    August 19, 2017 at 1:25 am

    My dear ,people in the diaspora are not that friendly,you cannot squat for too long,your husband may be the type that doesnt want to spend but make him understand that he has to,you cannot live with 4 men and a baby and have your sanity,you better remain in Nigeria and go when you sre ready,i know citizenship of ur baby is important but i keep asking myself if Goodluck Jonathan was born in america or Britain,lets work hard and give our kids the best

  13. TEMI TOPE

    August 19, 2017 at 2:27 am

    WOMEN SHOULD BE CHERISHED AND RESPECTED, NOT MISTREATED. WOMEN ARE YOUR SISTERS, YOUR DAUGHTERS, YOUR GRANNIES, YOUR WIVES AND FRIENDS.. I HAVE RAISED MY BOYS TO RESPECT ANY WOMAN LIKE THEY RESPECT ME AND THEIR YOUNGER AND ONLY SISTER

  14. Ej

    August 19, 2017 at 4:13 am

    Sorry to digress, but I need an advice as well because I’m also planning to relocate to Canada with my daughter and sister. I need to know where to go before starting the process, cost of education for my daughter, how soon can one get a job in Canada, what are the dos and don’t. Please every information, suggestions and assistance not included is highly appreciated. Thank you.

    • Corolla

      August 19, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      Sorry, but do you expect BN readers to find out cost of education for your daughter? Can’t you do your research? Please open Google abeg.

  15. a

    August 19, 2017 at 7:55 am

    Hi please i would advise you not to play yourself like that. Finding a job in another country isn’t as easy as it seems and in the event that you do find one, the money goes fast like it figuratively runs away. Plus bringing in a baby in an unstable environment is hard. So please try and convince him to move travel plans till you get some more money for the sake of your well being and the baby

  16. Dr chichi

    August 19, 2017 at 1:51 pm

    I want to to understand why a husband wants wants a woman who just had a baby to go and work immediately after delivery instead of nursing the baby even if it’s for a month or two , while he INSISTS HE SHOULD BE THE ONE TO STAY HOME. I am a bit confused.

  17. Anonymous

    August 20, 2017 at 9:46 am

    Hi Nancy,
    Can you respond to the issues raised by the numerous commenters? Why does your husband want you to work shortly after giving birth? Is he disabled? Does he have a criminal record? Why would a man even suggest that? Plus the suggestion to live with several other bachelors? The Diaspora is not as easy as some think and don’t be surprised if the government takes your baby away.

    One last point, the diaspora is not a place to turn a woman into a slave, I’m not suggesting anywhere is but at least you have a support system in Nigeria of relatives and maids with children. It’s not a place for lazy egocentry dictatorial man. Google stories of some hardworking nurses murdered by their husbands a lot of whom were acting as their staffing agents and over scheduling the,nurses in some cases. The results were sometimes tragic. The diaspora is not for a lazy man not that I think he is?

  18. Tatafo

    August 20, 2017 at 4:21 pm

    Why did you people derail this thread?

  19. Ej

    August 20, 2017 at 5:48 pm

    @ corolla it’s not that deep for you to get yourself worked up like this. Yes Google is available, but learning from people who actually live there is more realistic and helpful than Google. So if you have any advice give, if not abeg pack well.

  20. Poesy

    August 20, 2017 at 6:38 pm

    Dear Nancy Drew, I hate to be presumptious but I believe the writing is on the wall. You and your ‘husband’ have reached a point of no return. Quit arguing with him and quietly make your own accommodation plans on the side. Get a very big handbag and put all your essentials inside. When you get to your destination, find your square root and lawyer up.

    • ardnas

      August 21, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      Honestly this got me LOL! Cheeii

  21. Nancy Drew

    August 22, 2017 at 2:47 am

    Big thanks to everyone. . Sorry for derailing the post. Well it’s PR visa and I’m the principal applicant ie m husband is a dependent and can’t travel ahead of me to go and hustle. He’s the type that doesn’t like to spend money, I am trying my best to educate him on baby matters esp my health and generally abroad laWs. This cousin stays in Toronto. He is just wondering how we would get by with only his income while I’m staying back home nursing a baby. I know how cranky and prickly nig men get when it comes to money matters.

    • Delta geh

      August 26, 2017 at 9:56 am

      Please make your plans on the side oo. Your husband’ plans of staying with that person will not last. First you’ll have to sleep in the same room with that cousin then his housemates will most likely start to complain especially if there are many people in that house and if they complain landlord will take it up. Secondly if landlord finds out that there are other ‘tenants’ it’ll be bye bye. Please and please make plans on the side. Even if you find something in a cheap neighbourhood. North York, Dundas and huronontario in Mississauga, basement houses too are good. You can find one in a good area but very cheap. your husband’s plan is definitely not going to work. I can guarantee you of that.
      You can even find a church that’ll be willing to help or that has a shelter that can house you guys but that plan with his cousin, forget about it. Ko le werk. There’s nothin like being too money clingy when it comes to accommodation in Canada. You just have to do what you have to do. He can even find a warehouse job right off the bat. Lol that’s like something most people have to do before they move on to bigger things. And that 5k is quite little.

  22. i must talk

    August 22, 2017 at 9:54 am

    While i wish a safe delivery and breakthrough, my advice to you is to have a plan B. when you are married to a man that doesn’t like to spend money aka Akagum, it is essential to be proactive. Good luck.

  23. john

    August 22, 2017 at 10:55 am

    Typical frustrated, Man hating BN women already cunningly advicing the woman to divorce her husband and lawyer up as soon as she arrives in canada ..naija women kai and you wonder why deep deep down naija men don’t truly love and take una seriously..fish brains

  24. Rhecks

    August 22, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    John, you’re not okay. Walahi!!!!!

  25. MUA

    August 25, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    Sis advices above are for your guide. Today as you read all comments, decide quick and have you babei here before you step. goodluck

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