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“Beyond the stage of infatuation lies the place of sacrifice, serving, sharing life” – Tony Rapu shares Marriage Advice



Filmmaker, life coach and the Senior Pastor of the House of Freedom, Tony Rapu is dishing out some marriage advice.

The Pastor, who has been married to his wife Nkoyo for over 30 years, wrote on Instagram:

Falling in love is a great thing. But the truth is that the feelings from the “falling in love” experience can only best be described as “puppy love” rather than true love. As much as one might wish to think that his or her infatuation is the real thing and will last forever, it never does. Infatuation is only just the beginning. The pleasurable feeling it creates is God’s way of encouraging a man and woman to grow interested in one another and begin the journey towards marriage. .
When infatuation ends, the honeymoon over and the feelings begin to wane, is when true love kicks in. It is here that couples will often face a dilemma. The journey to true love can either pick up at this point or the marriage nosedives. Couples who key in to true love will begin to appreciate their marriage moving into another dimension. Those who don’t will find they have little motivation to maintain their relationship once the infatuation wears off. Beyond the stage of infatuation lies the place of sacrifice, serving, sharing life and a spiritual bond together. Ultimately, true love leads to developing a lifelong friendship with the one we married. .
Realistically, there will be disagreements; needs will not always be met; there will be times of loneliness and not all problems will be resolved. That’s marriage. That’s reality. Working through these differences is part of what makes up true, lasting love.
Remember that God is the author of true, unselfish love. If you want true love, go to God for it, for He alone can give you the power and desire to put into practice the little things in marriage that constitute true love. .
May your marriage reap the lasting benefits of true love!


  1. Made

    October 5, 2018 at 8:18 pm

    So deep and profound..i wish everyone getting married, married already or contemplating a divorce could read/re-read this and be hopefully guided in making the right choices

  2. Dr.N

    October 5, 2018 at 11:34 pm


  3. Lilo

    October 6, 2018 at 3:00 pm

    Amen pastor. Falling in love is easy. Try staying in love. That, in my opinion takes consciousness and determination. You almost have to wake up everyday and be intentional about loving this person after you have seen them finish. Haha

  4. John

    October 6, 2018 at 5:57 pm

    Chai!!! it is not about divorce… Feminist s won’t like this at all

    • Anon

      October 7, 2018 at 4:27 am

      You have a bigger problem than you realise. What has this got to do with feminism and feminists?

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