Aunty Bella: Miss. Maybe Second Wife?

Aunty Bella is our  agony aunt column on BellaNaija. We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers. 

Dear Aunty Bella,
As I write this, I’m almost in tears, but still holding on strong that God hasn’t forgotten me. Maybe this is a test, I don’t know. I am trying to fight this intense emotions so hard.

It all happened 3 years ago where my ex and I were really in love for a year. I mean, everybody knew we were gonna get married when suddenly his parents forced him to marry a girl his heart didn’t belong with.

I cried my eyes out and tried to forget him n move on with life. It was so bad that it took God’s grace to get healed. Now, a week ago he reached out to me about how he has been hurting for 3 years and he wants me in his life. He is ready to damn all consequences and marry me as a second wife. I bluntly refused, but the feelings came back. We were both in tears after talking for a while.

He isn’t after sex because I couldn’t cook when we met, but he loved me that way.

I deserve the best. He is the best but I’m not gonna destroy another.
Please I need some advice.

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