I Know What Boys Like
Posted on Monday, June 13th, 2011 at 9:32 AMBy Glory Edozien
I hate pain. Any kind of pain, physical and/or emotional. I hate pain so much that I can’t stand to see anyone else in pain. This is why I avoided tweezing my eyebrows for so long. The thought of someone plucking hair from my eyebrows literally caused my forehead to tense up and form unpleasant wrinkles at the corner of my eyes. But as the years progressed, the inevitable happened, I started to wax. The first time I waxed my legs, at the Salon, I thought I was going to die. I literally thought the world had ended and I was in some sort of hair removing purgatory, awaiting judgment. So you can understand why I left the salon, with one leg waxed and the other complete with the hairs I had come with. However after more than a few witty retorts from friends, I went back only to put myself under the same ordeal all over again.
It was during one of my, now still painful, regular wax sessions that I had another epiphany. It must have been sometime in-between when the hot honey-like substance was delicately layered onto my skin and the white sheet made Velcro noises as an ample amount of hair was pulled out of my calf and I winced in agony that I asked myself a very salient question. Who am I doing this for? I mean, really, to whose benefit is all this pain in aid of, Whose? Throughout, history, women have been made to believe that men like women who look a certain way. Slim, well-dressed with only a hint of cleavage to keep him wanting more, smothered in some intoxicating over-priced scent, long hair cascading down the neck with absolutely no hair in other places, legs that touch the sky, beautiful skin, and, of course, a killer body. It is this same notion of beauty that has, perhaps, forced women in different corners of the world to alter their looks every 3-4 weeks.
Every time I go to the gym, it is filled with women who, like me, are desperately trying to lose weight. You see us huffing and puffing over the crosstrainer and treadmill looking like we are regretting that last tub of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream we wolfed down as we watched Tinsel. In the salon, the scene is similar. While men spend less than 30 minutes getting a cut, most women spend an average of 3-4 hours applying all sorts of chemicals to their hair or allowing another human being sew someone else’s hair on-top of theirs. As if that’s not enough, we now have the miracle body shapers that swear to shave off inches from our midriff and thighs so we can look even slimmer and sexier in that little black dress. What the manufacturers of these miracle suits forgot to mention on their packaging is that these suits cut off (much of blood) circulation from the part of the body they are adorned on to the rest of the body. So most women who wear them have to sit in an upright position all through the day, eat very little and breathe slowly.
Normally, I wouldn’t even complain. I am used to the ordeal I have to go through in order to look attractive to the opposite sex. It is something that has been handed down from one generation of women to another. But the truth is, the more closely I inspect these general rules of beauty, I can’t help but think it is we women that have dreamt them up ourselves. It is other women who make comments on the smoothness or otherwise of another woman’s skin. It is women who know whether the hair you paid good money to purchase is real or fake. Again, it is women who are the first to notice that you are looking a little pudgier than usual and, of course, it is women who comment on who wore what to whatever event. The other day, I sat in stunned silence as I eavesdropped on a conversation between some women as they tore, what I believed was a mutual friend of theirs, into shreds. Apparently, the girl was dating a guy that one of them liked and so the other girls saw that as license to tear her apart. According to them, she was a fat, pimple-ridden, non-human-hair or designer-wearing boyfriend taker. She didn’t have any style and was too ‘simple’ to date a sophisticated man like that. Clearly, it had not occurred to these ladies that the guy had ignored all these qualities they saw as important and decided to go for something much more skin deep.
Maybe that’s the problem with us women. We focus so much on the physical and spend very little time in developing our inner woman. We spend so much time focusing on getting the man with our physical charms we completely forget that it is the woman we are within that will help us keep him. Truth is: a good man will undoubtedly be interested in an attractive woman, but attractiveness doesn’t stop at the length of your weave. It has so much more to do with your character, confidence and other innate qualities. Of, course I realize, that not all women dress up for men and that a lot of women just enjoy looking and feeling great. That’s fantastic! But my point is, as much as you enjoy dressing up for yourself, you should enjoy developing other worthwhile characteristics aside from the physical. Devote more time to your career, learn a new skill, read more, invest considerable time in non-physically-related beauty activities and develop your mind. Beauty if a full package and this is the message that we must hand over to the next generation of women.
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Tags: Beauty, Glory Edozien
gwa ha (tell them) beuty is more than just epidermal
I always believe women dress for other women and this just confirmed it. A man only cares that you look good..he cant tell peruvian from brazilian or a birkin from a speedy. As long as you look good and clean. But women? They will size u up b4 u even hv the chance to say hi. Sad times..
oh! how i love you glory edozien!!! tell them!!!
Glory this is a job welldone.thumbs up.Hope we ladies learn a thing or two from this.
I hope we do. I also know that sometimes, aside of men, ladies go the extra length to impress/intimidate FELLOW ladies, lol. I believe so…
80% of the time, ladies get all dressed up to church, weddings, office, etc..because of other women and not necessarily for the men. trust me, not all men pay attention to all that detail.
Women need to know this stuff
WORD
Was laughing really hard while i started reading this article cos i knew where it was heading to.. The truth is bitter;we buy Brazilian hair not for men (most of them don’t even know it) but for our fellow females (i belong). My boyfriend still told me yesterday morning that he prefers my natural hair to my ‘yeye Brazilian’ (in his words). I felt like giving him a knock!! I think the idea of a lot of us keeping up with the Joneses has to stop.. Notwithstanding,there are still some of us that actually dress well,take care of ourselves,go on a vacation e.t.c. strictly because we want to have fun/enjoy ourselves. But mostly,we do it for the men!!
Thanks Glory for helping me start my week on a good note! I enjoyed every bit of the article…
Oh! I love it….. true talk!
ha!!! never thoughti would join this trend but hey am FIRST …lollll well written, dearies alot of women just need to understand exactly what the scripture says. Beauty is vain, but a woman that fears the lord will be praised. We should strive to attain a beauty that comes from beyond our skins and even when our tummies become fat and breast drops. Its the ebauty from within that keeps us influential in our generation and in the lives of our men and children. Selah!
First ke?!! Not quite o!!
Great piece and a food for thot for our female folks.Beauty is more than the externals, its skindeep.
Funny enuff, I like to look good for me, not for anyone…..
If that is true,then you are a rare breed,love!!!
I recently got a BB broadcast and the gist of it was “Darling Yaki of N500 or Brazilian weave of N50,000…we both dey fine and our men dont know the difference”. I remember days when I’d spend almost my entire Saturday getting hair and nails done .Then I walk in,no,strut in to the house expecting my man to go “Hubba hubba”. For where? He cant tell until I point out rather huffily (5 days later) that he should at least tell me I look nice. He points out honestly that he prefers my natural hair,nails and make-up less face. Turns out , he’s not the only one.
Lesson? Liberate yourselves,ladies and learn to love your bodies the way God does.
…because at the end of the day, when the weaves, bags and shoes are off, there has to be so much deeper to hold our relationships with God, ourselves and with others. Really nice piece, Gloria. Thanks for sharing.
I love the angle of this story…it’s not about teh pressure men put on us, but the pressure we and other women put on ourselves. Indeed, looking good is important, but a good character is paramount. Let your physical appearance be the icing and not the cake. Two thumbs up, Glory!
So so true, thanks for sharing with us women.Kudos.
thank you so much for this piece Glory may God continue to bless you as u write more inspiring stuff for ladies who are on the brink of letting womanhood go on extinction. The men are not helping matters by going after the fake lashes n lenghty brazillian hair babes ,bt ittakes a lot to look past all that and still be the woman u want to be; man or no man. Im really inspired by this.
GOOD.food of thot nd i am taking dis wit me.tnks u.
True talk my sister, I for one will spend my hard earn money on Brazilian hairs/makeup, but @ d end my hubby will say ” I prefer your natural look”
word…another beautiful piece Gloria, something i discovered several years ago at the end of the day A good man is more interested in substance than the physical, but if the physical isn’t attractive in the first place he might not get to see what lies beneath, it’s all about balance and self confidence.
women know all this, they are just trying to meet the needs of these good for nothing men who dont even know what they want in the first place.of course the competitive nature of women doesnt help at all.
i mean ur average guy wants a set chick, excellent career , Godfearing and all but is not offering any of these things himself ,so why should i put myself through hell and back just to look good for him .
The only person i know good enough for me to put in all this effort for is moi
Anyone who doesnt like me the way i am should take a running jump into the deepest ocean.
by this article,i have become your fan for life! I have been telling my friends who r female that me as a guy prefers u without all d physical adornments. Those can never make u. U myt luk attractive with all d shine shine,bt wen i converse wt ur brain,i am thoroughly let down. Even 4 d guys dt make sex their priority,all d make wd go after a few minutes of huffin and puffin,if u know wt i mean. Hence when a guy sees a female,his decodes if she is a fling,one nightstand or…and then he’d tell u what ur brain needs to hear. Even down there sef no need make up,so wat r u telling me.
Glory, it seems like you are going through a period of self awareness. I recently dumped my Indian hair to get braids. The saddest part of my own story is that my hair is maybe 3 inches shorter than the weave, and i am still trying to figure out how i went from never wearing weaves to being addicted from October 2010 till date. It is well, we all grow in time. I have shelved my “weave” for the next 3 to 4 weeks, and i am tempted to dash it out and not get back on the band wagon.
Its truly a complete package my dear.
If only a lot of us can live in the heads of men for one day,we will be wiser and “richer”(save your human hair money) .
Its truly a complete package my dear.
If only a lot of us can live in the heads of men for one day,we will be wiser and “richer”(save your human hair money) .
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lovely write up
women dress up competing with themselves because they are competing for the attention of men= women dress up for men.
you get his attention doesn’t mean you are for keep, think about it listen to Glory
Whoa well said Glory…we ladies need to know that the way we look inside matter more than outer appearance
NICE ONE! BUT I AM GROOMING MY NATURAL HAIR TO SELL SO DONT DISSUADE THEM PLSS!
i support u ufedo…..the world wuld b so dry if dia is no competition….
Great read!!!
Lola x, London
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i am very archaic despite my 26 yrs on earth. Some of my peers call me ‘grandmother’, ‘headmistress’ etc because i dont own a single strand of ‘brazilian, or indian or japanese , arabian or even horse’ hair. i dont own a blackberry, i sold the one that was given to me last year,(BB torch or something like that), within a week after i got it. Yes i am young, slim, pretty and get ‘toasters’ like crazy even though i am getting married soon. I dont have those things not because i cant afford them, but because i hate bandwagons with a passion. I hate any vain thing that becomes a ‘status symbol’. I have found most girls of my generation an irritating bunch of giggling, shallow simpletons. Men, i mean real men dont give a s**t about all those stuff. Take a cue from the men themselves. For every blackberry owning man, there are at least forty blackberry owning girls. Check again, when that hot guy wants to settle down, you fake 40 inch-weave wearing, fake-lash-batting lady on 12 inch stilettos are the one he drops like a hot piece of BS to take Plain Jane to his mama. And if you are in the competition for your fellow girls, i think you are even ‘stupider’. LIFE IS NOT A COMPETITION. You dont know the destiny, or for this matter, destination of the people you are copying and trying to outdo. If only some of us could see the future to know where most of the people we are striving to be like, or outsmart are headed, we would not need a second prompting to stick closer to ourselves the way God intended.
Hi, I’ve been reading through comments on this article and found them to be very balanced, informed and well rounded. But you’re invasively bitter comment definitely blew me off. Just because you see things through a certain lens does not justify you grouping and condemning people who see things through another. Yes, I love wearing “40-inch human hair and 12-inch stilettos (fyi – I’m not sure those exist but since we feel like exaggerating things to prove our points, I might as well stay within your frame of reasoning)”. I do not do them for any man or because I feel I am in a competition with anyone else. I wear them because I like the way they look and love the way I feel, period. Last time I checked, it was my choice and prerogative, and I have suffered no loss in character since I decided to adopt this style. Your stance of “superiority” over people who do these things suggests you are dealing with some kind of complex yourself. So next time, when you want to sit in front of your computer screen and bash girls of “my type” while vindicating your beliefs with your snotty head raised high, understand that you do not know the full truth behind how other people dress or look.
no, you didnt get my drift, or maybe, i did not put that correctly. I am not against you or anyone else wearing those things. I particularly referred to two categories of girls in my previous comment. First are the girls who do those things because they they seek attention from ‘hot boys’ around (whatever that means), and the second category is girls who will kill to have those things they obviously not afford because it seems to be the IT thing hence (the competition) i talked about. If buy stuff for yourself because they make you feel good, not because you think they validate you in the eyes of men or your fellow girls, by all means enjoy your life. Dont just do broke trying to please other people who dont give a hoot about you. And if you will be really honest a lot of girls out there are giving the honest, hardworking,and principled ones among us a bad name because of the excessive fakeness. Sorry, if that offended your psyche. Like i said, if you love it fine.
i thot i was the only 1 who found that comment decidedly bitter! i guess it wasn’t just in my head then, pheeew.
@Bellanaija, i suspect this “ibreathefreedom” person is one of your staff.Why? because i have sent comments that weren’t half as bitter and nasty as this one right here and you would not post any of them. Why you would choose to post this vent of an angry, bitter woman is what i dont understand.and i have seen several comments such as this one or even worse in the past that u deemed fit for publication or watever is the term. What criteria do u use to pick comments that would be posted, or is there something personal u have against some of us? pls check ur moderation parameters.I know u wouldnt post this one but i dont care at least u would have read it. @ my day, i totally get ur point dear. u shldnt have bothered trying to explain to this person!mttcsssheeeww
AMEN Sista! Preach on!
Well said my day,it’s great to hear ladies tell each other the truth,there is yet hope for our generation of women and future mothers and daughters.Seek to be the best you,you are already one of a kind.Cheers
So true, and very well written as usual.
but some men know these things these days. i have herd guys talk about badly fixed weave on, or the criminal lace wigs, badly done make up and such. because of the noise we make about these things, they are more aware of them now.
…thats very very true…..umm but i think it goes both ways..women dress up for men and men dress up for women…..
masterpiece. I really like the way you write things , very simple but true. I am addicted!
ose my dear.
Precise!!! Not to say that there is something wrong with dressing up though.Sometimes women dress up because it makes them feel good. It makes them feel like they are rewarding themselves after working hard. Nobody goes to the grave with all their savings.
It becomes an issue to me, when people go through hell to dress up;whether they can afford it or not, whether it is discomforting or not…
Fantastic
I actually beg to differ on your view Glory.
You are right about most men not knowing the difference between brazillian hair and darlyn yaki, but wrong on the notion that men don’t care about a woman’s appearance.
Men are physical beings, they are therefore moved by what they see. Haven’t you noticed how the attractive bimbos are alway the first to leave the shelves while the deep and intelligent women garner dust.
Wake up and smell the coffee ladies.Men love their women looking on point
Look on point and have a terrible attitude,and watch urself get dumped! #moralofthestory
yeah right….hw many men hv eva noticed d day u used 3 layers of powder & d day u used one??? hw many notice d thin black line @ place where ur eyelashes connect to ur eyelids??? hw many know d different color shades??? u can look good witout excesses, that d point!
Some food for thought, great piece
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Balance.
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That’s what we need.
On one hand, there are women who define themselves solely by their weaves,heels and gadgets & then there are those who think it’s only about the beauty within and so they don’t bother.
Neither extreme is okay. Yes, we should look good, dress up and all that first for ourselves and then for the men (or man if you’re spoken for) but you don’t need to bend over backwards or get heavily indebted to make it happen.
Whatever you do, don’t fall into the “he likes me cos of who am I inside” trap and then come crying that one Brazillian/Peruvian/Jerusalem weave wearing chick is competing with you for his attention.
A good idea might be to find out what your own man likes. They don’t all like the same things. Once, I casually asked the hubby on my way to get my hair done what hairstyle he’d like and he said “You know those long curly ones I’ve been seeing these days, I’ve never seen you in anything like that. I think you’ll look sexy in it”
Ehn!! Brother D of God?! I was surprised. I didn’t ever think he fancied stuff like that.
Personally, I’m too much of a scrimper to buy hair for $700. My own hair is just fine!
So I said “Ha! those things are not cheap oh!!”
He laughed at me, offered to buy the hair and I went and got the “long- curly-hair-that-hubby-likes” While I still prefer my own hair cos it’s low maintenance and I hate hairnets, I would gladly rock the weave cos he thinks it’s sexy.
Life is a balancing act
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love itttt, aunty Gbemi! speak truth!
Well spoken Gbemi. Just know what ur man likes and please him.
Well said my day,it’s great to hear ladies tell each other the truth,there is yet hope for our generation of women and future mothers and daughters.Seek to be the best you,you are already one of a kind.Cheers
@ Gbemi, nice perspective.Certainly will help clear the air around these things if the men are also involved,assumption is bad,just ask the guy what he likes.The same guy might like weaves at one point and absolutely hate at other times,that and many other things.Still good character in a woman is a quality that I am yet to see go out of fashion or out of being desired by men in a woman.It pays to have that as well as the looks…just saying
I kept reading the comments and wondered if anyone was going to spill the truth until I saw the comment from ‘psychology of men’…shallow or not a guy is attracted by what he sees afterwards he may consider whether she has brains or not….
Well, I guess some of us women need to spend more time on character and personality building. Is not just our looks that gets us the respect we deserve. FYI— Some men love the fake looks and marry women with the fake looks.
Ever since i was 5 years old, i admired Diana Ross. I didnt give a toss about her music. I loved her style. Her hair, makeup, sparkly evening dresses and jewelry. I am an advocate of big hair….i love hair thats why i wear a weave. I have long hair but i want it longer thats why i wear a weave. I adore my long lashes but i want longer fuller lashes, and so i have lash extensions (devoid of the horrid glue) I love heels, i feel powerful and sexy in heels….i own loads of heels…..I dont dress up for anyone. I dress up so that i look in the mirror and approve what i see. Its not for anyones approval.
I remember the first and only time I got a Brazillian weave. I wasnt “feeling” it but decided to still rock it.So i went to see my fiance, hoping to steal his breath away. D bobo looked @ me and said “Sweeteart, I’ve seen u in better weaves, whats so fantastic abt this brazillian hair”?”. I was shocked. 2days later I took it out and wore a cheaper weave (Milky Wave) that cost me 2.5k per piece and d moment he saw me the first thing he said was “I love your hair”….
So for me it doesnt matter whether its brazillian or as someone said, Darlyn Yaki. What is important is looking good bcos truth be told, there will always be a finer babe, a classier babe, a richer babe and a chick-ier babe. If u wanna compete with d babes, u go tire. So live ur life and enjoy it cos each one of us are unique in our own way. Life is too short.
I couldn’t agree more….there’ll mos def always be a prettier, classier, finer, even younger babe…so why kill yourself competing?
people always say you need to look good for yourself, but let’s be real, we do all this primping and cleaning because it’s all about the compliments. Even if it’s for the acceptance of a fellow woman – we’ll still endure the agony of waxing and tweezing…
http://msluffa.wordpress.com/2011/05/30/its-all-about-the-compliments-baby-2/
ke kwanu( i dont even know what it means i just like the sound)! Ok so im not a weave wearing beauty who fixes her nails and rocks that red lipstick while balancing on 4inch heels. I’m a converse wearing, straight cut jeans with a polo tee and proudly rocking her dreadlocks type sister who has a boyfriend and still gets asked out quite often. What does this say to me? Men just like women have their preferences. My man loves me like that (come to think of it, is it because when we travel we carry few shoes cause we can swap? )
LWKMD!!!!! we carry few shoes so we can swap.
Females have a secret “Bluetooth” connection to each other that flies like an invisible wave over men’s heads. Well, maybe it should be called infra-red because it is like a silent Amazonian war-cry, rather than a language or code, and it is spoken with a female aiming at another with cross-hairs.
You’re a chap who has just introduced your date to your female cousin. They scream and laugh like old friends when they are introduced:
I have heard so much about you.
I love your hair! Where did you get it done?
Oh, I use Robby’s too. He makes the best hair in Lagos.
Wow, you are so pretty, nice shoes.
And you are standing there, looking at them proudly. Your best cousin in the world and your date-but-soon-to-be- girlfriend all in the same room together. Your two best females in the world are getting along. Bliss!
As soon as either of them is alone with you, the truth prevails.
Your cousin: “She is alright, but I think she is rather plastic. Her accent was a front and she over painted her face with make-up.”
And you, like any other bloke would think after you witnessed their rapport say “I thought you told her that you liked her hair and that she was pretty.”
And your date complains too “Your cousin was a bit cocky. I don’t think I really like her; she was sort of waiting for me to say hi to her first. Oh, and I hated her shoes as well – who still wears Cortina?”
Cortina? Those were Mary Janes. Ok you may think that they are like so ten seasons ago, but that is beside the point.
And your face is like confused.com! You are thinking, what just happened? They seemed to get along quite well when they were introduced. When within the short period of interaction did your cousin have time to be cocky?
Dude, you are not alone. Join the queue of bewildered men who have tried to crack women-speak for years. Do not strain your brain cells trying to understand the Morse code that was exchanged between those two fatal females. Once you grow facial hair, have a broken voice and hang between your legs, that language is lost on you. It is like trying to teach a billy goat Ibibio.
It is said that maybe when God dispersed the builders of the Tower of Babylon by making them speak different languages, thereby confusing them; women came away with a distinct language that blokes could never decipher.
Look at the Nigerian entertainment industry, I daresay females have it much harder and that’s why there are way fewer stars especially among the new acts. I was reading something online recently about a fashion event had just occurred some days before. It had pictures of svelte Nigerian models in various poses modeling the new fashion line of various Nigerian designers. What got me splitting my sides, but scratching my head was a reader comment below the pictures. One girl said “This Annette Begg girl poses too much sha! What is always wrong with her, sef?”
And I am thinking, hello Ms. Begg is a model, and posing is what they do. I doubt if fashion designers hired her to postulate theories on physics.
It is crazy – my friend took a girl called Tolu to a really upscale restaurant in VI. They had hardly taken their seats and made their order, when his date scanned the area and started analyzing every girl’s outfit. She didn’t care if the men came dressed like Borat with a Ghana-Must-Go man mankini and kito bathroom slippers.
Her concern was only with the women:
Oh what does she think she is wearing? She is a hot mess!
That is a fake Louis Vuitton bag. That is VL not LV.
Everyone is wearing Louboutins this days, na wa o. Leave it alone, already.
Oh that is a fake Ralph Lauren Polo shirt; the horse seems to be riding the man.
Look at that tacky lace front. She looks like Zelda from Terrahawks.
My friend was bored after a few minutes. All he could think of was picking the tab, and seeing if he can get some after-coffee loving to make up for his time and resource.
Tolu kept on bad-mouthing other girls in the place, until one girl on a date herself, who was sitting at a table a short distance away noticed that Tolu was talking about her. She gave Tolu the finger quickly. Her date didn’t even notice, he was busy looking at the expensive menu nervously.
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hahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahahahah u don bring ur stories here abi…? lol..
nice one, some girls behave exactly how you described it.
woah nice write up brother!! am just cracking here lol that Tolu girl needs to apply for fashion police job lol oga oo
You make a valid point! I am female and I still dont get women. Case-in-point: I’m walking into Shoprite Surulere and see this girl in red heels. I have a thing for red heels so as we pass each other ,I point at her feet,smile,nod and give her a thumbs-up! Imagine my surprise when she give me the evil eye and hisses real venomously.Next thing I hear her talking loudly to her companion that that “ash*** in her jelly-slippers” has some nerve to comment on her “LOUVUTTONS”. BIG SIGH!!! We females just looooove to hate on each other. The drama ! The back-stabbing! The battling over bragging rights ! Why cant we all just get along???
its so funny dat i’m reading dis on bellanaija! a place i come 2 see vain beauties…..lol!!!!!!!! funny enuf wat u r preachin against is wat dis site propagates a lot. i know a lot of pple dat take extreme measures jst to look like wat dey saw in bellanaija.
A valid point you have there. Hypocrisy is very cancerous; if you don’t live it, don’t preach it.
Peace.
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well said girl!
Glory, ur write-ups r beautiful nd real…Points made nicely
yet another excellent write-up from Glory. I dont understand how a girl will buy another girl’s hair for 60k so that she can attach it to her head….kinda ridiculous if you ask me.
I must say…this is AWESOME! Do keep it up dear!
I am really glad you wrote this and I hope that after reading this, some women will realize that being attractive goes beyond the gucci and prada and is more of the smile people want to see cuz of the joy it brings them
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On point again, Glory…
LOL glory u need an award for these articles joor, d writting style and the topic all perfect… emm as per the issue @ hand, i feel u need to look good and trendy to stay in the game but dont over do it like some chick (a friend) actually begged me if i could lend her my brazillian weave cos she has a wedding to attend and the wedding was goind to be d talk of d town… if u can afford it without breaking a sweat, then do it cos u’ll attract ur kind of person at the end of the day, but if u cant, stay in ur lane n do ur thing, love comes in the most unlikely way, just do ur best n leave d rest for God…
as for the tolu chick am 100% sure she is a kpako trying to feel among cos no naturally cream chick will do dat, especially in public
Truth’s dat no responsible ‘ll marry (isn’t dat wat real women want?)a lady solely4her beauty coz dats tantamount to eating a bird coz it sang sweetly!!!
couldnt have said it better, enough is enough, well said
Whilst this is so true, the fact is many women in my opinion, dress for other women. It is like trying to show the other women that they are better or make more effort than they do. The reality as you rightly pointed out is that men tend to know what they want and regardless of all the facade.
Glory, this is a very beautiful and truthful piece…thanks for the message!!!
Guys don’t honestly give a damn where your hair comes from..be it Brazil, china, lace front, india, Onitsha or Nnewi. If u are not attractive…you are not. Save 8ok or be generous to charity…
Has anyone noticed how most brazilian hair wearing babes are shallow, and can’t hv a decent conversation? On top of it, most of them look razz. Most of d big gals I know, don’t even do brazilian!
U are sooo on point
I have been previlaged to travel few places around the world, I can bet you that in Naija, its not the men, its the effizy thingy. Babes want to be forces to reckon wiv. No babe wan carry last.
Funny I was just having this conversation with my sister tonite. No offense to Brazilian-hair wearers, but I am sick of seeing and hearing about Brazilian hair. I was at a salon in London over the weekend and EVERY single person in that salon was getting a weave done with Brazilian hair. It’s not so much the hair, but the way people go on about it, as if, if you don’t do Brazilian hair, you don’t quite “cut it”. Wharraheck? And this is not beef, ‘cos it’s not like I can’t afford it, if I want it. I’ve just been really deterred by the fact that every one and their dog gotsta have Brazilian hair, these days. And some people look absolutely ridiculous with it. Like every man to his own and all but why must your hair reach your bum before you think you look good? It just looks tooo damn fake! It’s all about self esteem and self worth too. And it’s ridiculous and funny but sad how some Brazilian-hair-wearers sort of look down on others who haven’t been beaten by the bug. If your worth ends where your fake hair ends, so be it for you but I refuse to be measured or esteemed by the type of fake hair I use. I was asking my sis if she thinks guys are actually attracted to all this “fakeness”? We, african ladies need to step back and go back to the roots! We claim we are equal to our European counterparts, yet we do everything we can to look like them. Fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake hair, I heard there’s even bum pads these days so add fake bum to the list..as in oga gan ni o, na real wa. I’m not claiming I don’t use hair extensions or that I don’t wear make up but I just think less is more. Ladies, let’s slow our rolls a bit… like the writer said, focus more on building your inner person than.
Funny thing is, no matter how much Indian hair or what not you use, if u no fine before, u still no go fine…shikenah!
Love the article. Love the comments even more :p
Men don’t honestly give a damnwhere your hair comes from. Brazil, Peru, Italy or Nnewi. If you are not attractive, you are just not.
Save the 80k or be generous to the charity.
We should all remember that Beauty fades with age at the end of the day. Work on your inner self!!
Glory, i must say u ve said it all and i admire ur writeup like seriously.girls should focus on their inner characters rather than their physical appearances becos men are more interested in dat.notwithstandx strive to look gud dnt just be tacky
This is so true, most women dress for women. This article really helped to open my eyes. Thanks a lot