The Trauma of Domestic Violence Lingers | Watch Ronke Ogunmakin’s Short Film – “The Enigmatic Truth”

Posted on Friday, February 22nd, 2013 at 11:21 AM

By BellaNaija.com

Domestic violence is one issue we’re very passionate about and we hope that we’d educate enough people about it so that by some ripple effect, we’d bring about a change.

We received this video and it showcases domestic abuse from the perspective of the child who has witnessed the violence in the home.  It is titled “The Enigmatic Truth” and it is produced by Ronke Ogunmakin.

Watch the video here and share your thoughts.

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  • 31 Comments on “The Trauma of Domestic Violence Lingers | Watch Ronke Ogunmakin’s Short Film – “The Enigmatic Truth””

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    • NSG February 22, 2013 at 12:34 PM

      We join to say NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!
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    • candyjay February 22, 2013 at 12:45 PM

      wow this is really true and it’s still happening in many homes today, something has to be done to stop this domestic violence, cos the person it really affects are the children especially the boys they end up being violent and women beaters take for example chris brown..

    • nnenne February 22, 2013 at 1:33 PM

      the interviewer tho! *sighs*.

      • auntie February 22, 2013 at 6:59 PM

        i think he stutters…. give him a chance

    • MissShayee February 22, 2013 at 1:37 PM

      Two interrelated yet separate issues. Girl-child discrimination and domestic violence in marriage.

    • nene February 22, 2013 at 1:38 PM

      what type of accent does the husband have? it’s distracting. domestic violence is bad, but i don’t like watching movies with it, it just depresses me, and i really only watch movies to entertain myself. if i want to educate myself, i watch a documentary.

      • MKM February 22, 2013 at 5:09 PM

        Nigerian accent obviously.

        • john February 27, 2013 at 8:19 PM

          what accent do you want ? Canadian? or British? .you should watch them then.shame on you if you are a Nigerian

      • sista February 23, 2013 at 5:01 AM

        loool. please get some information about this issue. Lets not entertain ourselves all day and live in denial about the things that are happening around us.

    • Gorgeous February 22, 2013 at 3:57 PM

      A lot of these guys have mental problems. A guy that will just come home and attack his family is not normal. Ladies should try to stop staying in stop situations by all means. Let the man get psychiatric help. You will only be helping him. Mental problems are real. Research family history well. As Nigerian’s like to hide mental histories. This is for men and women that are abusive

    • felicia February 22, 2013 at 4:57 PM

      okay am going to play the devils advocate here, yes woman are mostly the victim, but there are women out there that abuse their husbands too and also provoke them into anger without a care and then cry wolf when the man can no longer hold his anger in. Am not an advocate for domestic violence but i hate how the women are always portrayed as weak,kin goody tissues, when i have seen differently. I have my mother push and even abuse my father because she knows mostly domestic violence cases protects women mostly in usa. Now am not making excuses for domestic violence, but lets tell the story in full and not always from the eyes of the woman, but from both sides.

      • ccc February 23, 2013 at 12:48 AM

        There is never, never an excuse for anyone in a relationship to raise a hand against another.

      • Vexed February 25, 2013 at 6:07 AM

        Ur mum is one of the bad 1 percent of women who do that……..99.9 percent of abuse victims are women so we don’t need her side of the story here…

    • Myne Whitman February 22, 2013 at 5:12 PM

      Touching video, very necessary message.

    • Damie February 22, 2013 at 5:17 PM

      Acting was terrible. Setting was terrible. I mean a Macbook? What year was the story set in? The interviewer was just the worst. Actually everybody’s acting was terrible. I know it’s meant to teach but please do better.

      • someone February 22, 2013 at 8:07 PM

        It was a film made by students not professional actors or directors, give it a chance. The message is what is truly important and I think they were able to effectively convey that.

      • A.Y.O February 22, 2013 at 8:15 PM

        You dont see many Nigerian movies with better acting/setting, so you need to calm TF down and appreciate the message.
        What really is your issue with the Macbook? :S

    • anonymous February 22, 2013 at 7:34 PM

      Forget about the accents and focus on the message for Pete’s sake. Its not fair that people (Nigerians especially) always feel the need to criticise people on the silliest of things, at the end of the day, who are you to judge? you are not God and all they are trying to do is spread awareness to people. so please rather than just hate Damie (please don’t even try to argue that your comment was constructive criticism) and anyone else who wants to leave a negative comment about their accents, setting, using a MAC (the fact that you even commented on that is just silly as far as I’m concerned), why don’t you encourage youths to continue what they are doing to change their country and share this video to commend their efforts.
      Have a blessed day

    • simi February 22, 2013 at 8:13 PM

      omg whoever the anonymous person that posted that comment to damie, SPOT ON! thanks for saying exactly what i was thinking. Well done to the young actors in this video for going out of their way to do this video and hopefully they continue with even more videos touching on other aspects of problems that are faced.

    • Ali Yakubu February 22, 2013 at 9:31 PM

      i love it

    • Tobex February 22, 2013 at 11:05 PM

      Also, how you can notice the Macbook and not notice the message the video was conveying is absolutely astonishing. Shows exactly where your priorities lie. I assume you wanted a Macbook Pro instead? It’s okay. Next time when they are producing a film to showcase domestic violence, they will make sure they use a high-end laptop just for Damie.

    • FIM February 23, 2013 at 7:33 AM

      I enjoyed watching the video. And the fact that it was put together by our youth should send a strong message home. Most of the societal problems today actually start from the private sphere – the home. Critics should realise that it is a low budget short film by students. There’s no way they could have addressed domestic violence from all aspects considering the limited time. The issue of using a MAC is highly irrelevant. We must get real! The most important thing is that the message is communicated and understood.

    • Israel Gold February 23, 2013 at 7:50 AM

      Every man in his right frame of mind surely does know that domestic violence is wrong, I personally wish that the evil can be taken from the people so they act right but God has said that from the beginning that the inclination of human kind is always going to lean towards the perpetuation of evil even though seed time and harvest time will never cease. I am really sorry but until research is done into the causes and remedies of domestic violence against both men,women and children there will be no changes,one can try to get people to change their behaviors but until their minds are changed they may never change.How much recognition is given to men,women and children who do well in their family interrelations?, How much is done to address financial frustration in people and families?, How much is done to address sexual frustration in men and women effectively in a constructive manner ?, How much is done to address emotional frustration in men and women?, How much is done to help Special Children (Problem Children)?, Is there a place Frustrated people(men and Women and Children) can go for real support and succor?,Why are women treated as vulnerable and weak when it comes to domestic violence but when it come to equality they then have to be seen as equals with mankind?, How can society address the objectification of human-kind and sexual exploitation?, How can the sexual exploitation be reduced or controlled?, How can people who are into prostitution (Men and women) be given an exit passage to doing something dignifying?, How can those in the pornographic industry who want to leave be given a chance to do something dignifying with their lives?, How can cultures that promote subservience among women and children be check-mated?,How can cultural practices that support physical beating of women and children be checked ? Until all these questions are answered every attempt to end this ugly scenario would be a day dream.

    • Israel Gold February 23, 2013 at 8:44 AM

      We live in a society where equal rights and justice are important, everyone in his or her right senses believes everyone should be treated the same but in the midst of all this, there is surely a sense of sexism that abounds in the mind of human kind, on one side it said that we live in a mans world , while on the other side it appears that there are alot more concerns about female empowerment and them being underrepresented in the places of power and influence ,Despite this reality ,I am personally tempted to suspect an imbalance in the society we live in , I am tempted to think that are more support groups for women than men with reference to mentoring and helping people reach their goals,the rate at which people succeed may only improve long term when women and men, boys and girls decide to work together interdependently to help other prosper. The level of influence we hope to command may only come to being when we put race,tribe and creed and gender aside and use our differences interdependently as weapon and force for positive change rather than a phobia for change .Our differences must never be a basis for separation.

    • Truth Hurts February 23, 2013 at 1:29 PM

      The man in this clip clearly shows a man troubled and needing help. Imagine how a man that goes on like this can be at peace even with himself? I say this because I have been there, I have hit again and again a woman that I sincerely did and still love. I have even hit her before in tears for the hurt she was causing me after which we both ended up in tears however, I must confess that my lowest moments come when I see her sad especially when I have been the cause of her sadness.
      Ironically, I love her in ways that most men whom have never even raised a hand against a woman before can only imagine and she knows and says that. I would have given her anything and material things mean little or nothing to us.

      One may ask..why then did I hit her? The simple answer is that I do not know! I would not try to defend this weakness but we did identify what I’m comfortable to call “the spirit of Anger” which was out of character with me for those who are in the know. so we would fast and pray but things seemed to get worse!

      I used to hit her with my belt or slap her hand however the last straw was the evening I hit her in the hand(I am always careful where I inflict pain on her cos I never mean to hurt her physically). It got swollen and I realised she was in pain. I was gripped with fear and full of regrets that I started throwing up. It was one of the longest night of my life and I could hardly sleep but when I finally did I had nightmares.

      The Lord finally did a new thing! He heard our prayers or do I say my prayer. She has since moved on…I say this because she does not care like she used to. I guess like she would always say then…”all these fights and argument are affecting my love for you”. I must have taken this ‘kind warning’ for granted.

      We are still friends and we even get romantic sometimes, but I’m no fool nor ignorant. Something has given, the zeal is all gone, all the “I love you(s)”,she is no longer adventurous( doing crazy things because of her love for me).

      I do not blame her.

      She is not my wife or my woman. We were friends that allowed emotions to get into a wonderful relationship that God had planned. If not I would have asked for her hand in marriage and then I would have had a lifetime to make up for all my wrongs. I know she would have said yes cos she always tells me this(it is complicated).

      My point is this..in some cases(not all) there are reasons why people behave they way they do, why some women don’t enjoy sleeping with their spouses or vice versa, why some men or women sleep around and cannot stick to one partner. one lady once said that she enjoys to be rough handled during sex because she was sexually abused by people close to her forcefully! (Will you call her ‘a slut’)? Why do kids tell their first lie even before they could understand the meaning of the word ‘lie’? Can you explain why some rich folks are kleptomaniacs?.
      There is a reason why some men hit their women but that does not make it right and there will always be consequences, as in my case, it cost me her true, pure and undiluted love. The worst part is that the ugly pictures every now and then hunts me.
      But please lets be rational and not sentimental or gender bias when we discuss ‘domestic violence’ cos in some cases there may be a root cause and that should be addressed.

    • im still confused February 23, 2013 at 3:14 PM

      mothers beat and slap your son and then become baffled when he does that to his wife ….

    • ronke February 23, 2013 at 8:48 PM

      emm, just saying; why does interviewer guy have nail polish on his fingers or am I seeing double?

    • Akin February 24, 2013 at 12:56 AM

      my mother scares me so badly dt i do not want to get married , my father put up sp ,uch with excessive verbal abuse from her

    • Titi Loyolade February 24, 2013 at 3:53 AM

      All I can say to women is that people will do what you let them do to you. A man will kill you and enjoy his life with a new woman if you let him. I am a female so my male relatives school me well. They do all these things to their women but they tell me never to let a man get away with that because men are logical thinkers who don’t learn from words, crying etc. If a man beats you and he ends up in jail. His schedule is messed up, he can’t go to work and is fired and in jail other inmates know about it and show him who’s the boss he won’t do it again because he knows the consequences which is the only thing that deter them. Crying, calling family member and cursing him etc are not consequences. The sooner women who are mostly emotional thinkers realize that the better for them…

    • x factor February 24, 2013 at 1:12 PM

      Relevant Message, Good Timing, Great Effort….Weldone…..
      I rep naija progressive youth and i say NO to domestic Violence…..