I always say choosing a man is like shopping for a dress.
You walk into a store that has rows and rows of clothes in every size, style, fabric and colour; each one sporting its own price tag, each one creating a unique interaction with your feelings.
There are those dresses that come in your favourite colour and have the right embellishments but don’t quite sit right so you take them to the tailor’s for adjustment. A tuck here, a reduction to the hemline there and viola- it’s perfect. Or you may decide that it is you who has to make the adjustment and loose a few pounds so you can fit into them. There are those you select, and then you see something else that you like better so you change your mind. There are those ones you really like, but they come at such a high price you can’t afford them. And there are the ones that look good on the rack but horrible when you take them home.
But if you take your time and look well, there’s always that dress in the store that is meant for you. That one that you think to yourself after you’ve snagged it: “what a find!”, because it looks right, fits right and FEELS right! You know it is made for you because, after years of shopping you’ve discovered what works for you and what doesn’t. You know what makes people turn and stare with envy when you wear it and what leaves you unnoticed when you’re in it. And with the wisdom gleaned from previous wardrobe accidents, your practiced instincts easily recognise what fits your shape, matches your emotional disposition and accentuates your gifts. At this point you’re a buyer who knows what you want. You know what fits you.
So what if you know an item in a store is your size but he (sorry it) doesn’t notice you, would you go for it? Why not? If it gives a perfect fit, and is hanging idly and unclaimed in that store paying you none to minimal attention, then get into its face…sorry I mean space!
“If it’s yours it will come to you.”
That’s true but ain’t nothing wrong with helping it along! If you like it then you might want to show some interest and shine some teeth! A word of caution though. Slow and subtle wins the race here because you don’t want the dress to know your intentions prematurely (might ruin the negotiation!).The first commandment is don’t get caught trying. The second commandment is don’t take another sistas dress.
I should warn you too that there’s the kind of dress to pass up on. Those stiff- necked and stuffy ones, all starched up and aloof. So emotionally wound up tight that the coyest smile would freeze up and fall flat in thin air before it got through! There’s also the slacked dress. If you have a taste for them you probably always find yourself stuck between the friend zone and the promised land of romantic bliss. It’s a yo-yo relationship.
One more thing, an experienced shopper goes for the best guy; oops I mean the best buy at the right price. Neither overrated and pricey nor undervalued and cheap! But while an experienced shopper has a knack for picking the dress that makes her look like a million dollars in it, it is an expert shopper who makes everyone think she never had an eye on it in the first place!
So you see, it’s the same science really, whether you’re shopping for a man or a dress!
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Omonike Odi is a freelance writer and a media content provider on all media platforms. Read more from her on her blog at http://omonaikee.blogspot.com or follow her on twitter for daily inspirational quotes at https://twitter.com/omonaikee or contact her –[email protected]