An ideal title to this title would be
Not Understanding Women 2.0 and you’ll see what I mean.
You see, I have read so many articles recently stating that there aren’t “real men” anymore and that modern day men are too ‘sissy’ and ‘metrosexual’. Quite frankly, this is confusing as there are a number of things that have changed since the last time “men were men”. Women have equal opportunities for jobs these days and a good number of them make a decent bundle. The stereotype of the “man’s man” of the times past would have been hit with several sexual discrimination lawsuits in recent times so, that makes it rather confusing.
Bear with me as I rant many things I find mind-boggling about women.
I know a lot of women that complain about the scarcity of “good guys” and the funny thing about this assertion is that these same women complain that “good guys” are boring and they are more excited by ‘bad guys‘. A friend told me a little while ago that her “boyfriend” was too good to her! “Too good to her”? What does that even mean? It doesn’t come as a big surprise that the said girl was cheating on her “too good” boyfriend at the time. She felt she needed the excitement of being with a more exciting and dangerous guy. What I find funny about all of this is that after dating a couple of bad guys, she will run back into the arms of a good guy (well, up until she needs excitement again).
Another thing that irks me is the fact that women proceed to change everything about their man soon after they start dating. One minute, you want a “spontaneous, outgoing, funny guy” but as soon as you start dating him, you start nagging about all the things that attracted you to him in the first place. So the spontaneous, outgoing, funny guy eventually becomes a predictable, introverted (let’s not forget a word many women like using) boring chap. Of course, she resumes the nagging about how much he has changed during the relationship.
Women complain all day about how all men are dogs and can’t be trusted. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself the question, who are the females these “dogs” sleep with? I don’t have statistics to back this up but I strongly believe women cheat as much as men. Friends with benefits and side chick relationships are common place. Its not like we menfolk are complaining but it’s a bit unfair for us to take all the stick, right?
Some other women want the strong, domineering type of man that will control them. You know those type of men are one step away from being abusive partners right? You can’t expect someone to be in control of your whole life and not expect that person to abuse the privilege.
I believe that until the day women can really take the initiative, we can’t be discussing equality. How many women can really walk up to a guy to ask him out? How many women can really have a casual sexual relationship with a guy and not get emotionally tangled?
Yes I said it… How many women? Most women want to be wooed, wined and dined while they consider whether or not the guy has a fighting chance to get with her. That same guy will persevere for a couple of months till the woman eventually gives in, only to find out she isn’t all that. By this time, the tables have turned and the female is more desperate to hold on to “her man” and the guy is thinking about moving on. Truth is, no matter how you want to see it, the man possesses all the initiative, thus, he is in an advantageous position at all times. If women don’t want to be victims, they need to seize the initiative in the war of the sexes.
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