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BN Saturday Celebrity Interview: In Her 40s and Proud, Tinsel Star Actress Ireti Doyle Steps into Her Own! An Intimate Interview on Teenage Pregnancy, Motherhood & Family

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An actress, television producer, presenter, writer, wife and mother, Ireti Doyle is versatile and good at what she does.  The Tinsel star actress began acting in 1995 with her first role in the popular TV Series, ‘Riddles & Hopes’. She has gone on to star in other TV series such as ‘Circle of Three’ and currently plays the role of Sheila on the MNet hit series ‘Tinsel’.
Ireti is also an award winning TV Presenter and Producer who has hosted the fashion TV show ‘Oge’ for ten years among other presenting jobs such as ‘Today on STV’.
 She is married to Patrick Doyle, also an actor and producer and is the proud mother of five children. Now in her mid-40s, Ireti is glowing and says she is comfortable with where she is. She shares intimate details of her career, family, children and experience as a mother in this exclusive interview with BellaNaija’s Adeola Adeyemo.

 
Return to the Big Screen
We’d be seeing you on the big screen soon in “Lotanna” after a long break from movies. What endeared you to this project and why did you decide to be a part of it?
Simply put, the Producer of the movie, Ifan, refused to take no for an answer. A less resolute individual would probably not have me on his cast but he just refused to take no for an answer.

Tell me about the movie and your role in it?
Lotanna is in a nutshell, a young boy’s coming of age story; how he travels through life, the decisions he makes, and how his parents try to mould and shape his destiny using the best methods they know. My character is the young boy’s mother. It might be the first time I’m being consciously, in looks and carriage, cast as a middle aged woman. I actually look like my mother in the film.

TV & Nollywood
As a talented actress, you haven’t featured in as much movies as most of your fans would love to see you in. Why do you tend to tilt more towards TV series?
My career has been shaped differently from others. It wasn’t something I said I would do in the beginning. I’ve come to a place of understanding that the one who shapes everyone’s destiny shaped my career like that so most of my credits are on TV and stage. But prior to shooting Lotanna, I shot two films last year. I suspect that they might be released simultaneously before the end of the second quarter of the year. Torn is one that I would really like people to look out for because it was produced and directed by another very creative mind. People would get to see me in a different light.

Does it get very demanding, being on the cast of a  frequently aired Soap like Tinsel? 
Oh yes it does get stifling because it takes up a large chunk of my time. For every lead character on Tinsel, we know that our first commitment is to the show. On the flip side of the coin, Tinsel is the biggest Soap in Africa at the moment. You are seen by millions of viewers across the globe five nights a week. Money cannot buy you that kind of platform, so I think the pluses are much more than the minuses.

You’re also a well known TV Presenter. Tell me about some of the shows you’ve presented and how you got into broadcasting?
Broadcasting happened by mistake. I was fortunate to be placed in a position where I could act and learn the rudiments of broadcasting at the same time. I had a job with a small production company and the task fell on me to design a simple television show, which I did, which turned out to be Oge and it lasted for 10 years. I produced as well as presented the show and that was where I honed my skills. From there I got head hunted to present a number of shows beginning with Morning Ride on NTA created by Danladi Bako and then there was Today on STV which I did for two years. That one too happened by mistake. I was to stand in for someone for two weeks and it turned out to be two years.

Are you currently working on any TV shows at the moment?
I present NIMASA This Week, it’s the official public enlightenment programme produced for the Nigerian Maritime Authority and Safety Agency. I am also currently working on a Magazine show produced by MNet in Hausa. It will air on the Hausa channel.

Do you speak Hausa?
Yes I do.

That’s interesting. What do you think about the developments seen in Nollywood at the moment?
There is a new Nollywood, fresh blood, a convergence of new ideas and that is a great thing. There is more competition and if you’re serious about your craft, you can no longer deliver slipshod material. We’ve garnered international acclaim, we’re several chapters in and the journey can only get better. I have nothing but high hopes for the industry.

What else do you do professionally apart from broadcasting and acting?
I am also a public speaker; a large chunk of my income comes from hosting high profile events. And then there is the mother of all tasks, I’m a mother and wife.

Teenage Pregnancy, Marriage & Motherhood
That’s exactly where I was coming to. How do you combine your duties as a mother with the demands of your job effectively?
It’s not easy, every working woman knows that. Sometimes you have to sacrifice and sacrifice comes both ways. Sometimes you have to pass things up, sometimes your family has to come to terms with the fact that they won’t see you for a bit. But the first ingredient for a balanced life is grace. And secondly, I am fortunate to have a fantastic team where each member knows what they are supposed to do and thankfully, they do it well.

Tell me about this team
They are not too many. I have my housekeeper who also doubles as a baby sitter when I need one. I have my Personal Assistant, she’s been with me for years. And I have one or two other people that I can call on short notice. Motherhood is basically being on hand to attend to your child’s needs and I can’t be in two places at the same time but I try and build my career around my family. Fortunately acting is not as rigid as an office job could be. Once in a while you might miss important moments but you just have to balance it out and fortunately I’ve been able to do that well.

What’s it like being the wife of Patrick Doyle? How would you describe your husband?
Actually no big deal really. He is a pretty laid back person. He is not a very demanding person, he is very busy too with his own projects but as an individual, he is very supportive of the things that I do and he contributes towards raising the kids and running the home and all that.Tell me about your children. How many do you have?
We had six but we lost one. One has graduated but the rest are still in school at different levels. Two are in the higher institution, one is in Secondary and the last one is in Primary school.

Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. I read somewhere that you had your first child as a teenager. How old is she now?
I had her when I was 19 and she’s is 26 now. If you see us together you’d think she is my sister.

Looking back at the time you had your first child, what were the challenges you faced as a teenage mother?
Being a teenage mother is no picnic, back then or even now. As a teenager, you have no business being a mother. You should be discovering yourself, finding out who you are and what your dreams are. It’s one that can and should be avoided. Very few other instances can give a young girl a complex than being a teenage mother and it kind of clouds all your decisions from that point on if you’re not fortunate.

For a lot of girls, teenage pregnancies often affect the mother’s future negatively. How were you able to pull through that period in your life and make the best out of it?
I’m fortunate. I’m the living proof of God’s word that everything would work out for your good. Such an incident will give you baggage but the question is “Can you move away from the baggage? Yes you can”. Avail yourself of God’s grace, forgive yourself, surround yourself with positive minded people who love you and remind you that you’re not damaged, people who won’t judge you or think less of you.

Did the pregnancy cause any setback for you and your dreams at the time?
When all of it was happening, I did not forget my goals. I always knew I wanted to go to school, have a career. So it can’t even be called a setback any more because the fruit of that situation is a very beautiful and unique human being, one I’m very proud of.

Teenagers are more exposed these days and so the rate of teenage pregnancy is even higher. What would you say to teenage girls who have an active sexual life?
It is such an unnecessary journey to make. I try to school young girls that if you must have sex, please have protective sex. Things are even worse now. A teenage pregnancy is the least of your problems. What if you contract HIV/AIDS and you die before you’re 25? What if you contact Chlamydia and you become barren. There are so many practical reasons for you to be careful with your sex life.

Sometimes, it’s very hard to listen to older people’s advice as a teenager because you feel they are just being unnecessarily strict.
There are some things that are completely unnecessary and you would not realize it till you’re much older. So when an older person or your mother is saying curb your excesses, take it in good faith. They know what they are talking about. You can go to the person for advice. Never take that relationship for granted.

In some instances, mothers find it difficult connecting with their teenage daughters and giving them good advice on sex becomes a problem. As someone who has raised five children, what is the best way for mothers to connect with their daughters?
A large part of the reason why the situation went the way it did back then is because of the way my mother handled it. But I’m old enough to realize now that at the time, she was operating from a position of love and she was handling it the best way she knew how to. That I received it negatively is beside the point. We come from different generations, she grew up under completely different circumstances, my outlook on life is different from hers , my education is different. How I have been able to raise my girls so far successfully is by grace. You can’t do anything without it. I talk to my God about the things I hold dear and my children are a big part of that.
I remember vividly my communication with my Mum and how and when it went awry. I know the things my mother said to me that got to me the wrong way so I don’t say them to my daughters. If I’m trying to get a message across to them, it’s completely up to me to deliver that message in such a way that they can receive it. If she is upset and on the defensive, she will not listen to me, she will not take the message and she’s bound to get into trouble. As a parent, I need to get my message across so I have to package my message in such a way that he or she will understand. Don’t be deceived, for the younger generation, that packaging might come wrapped in a cane.

A cane? Now that is another issue causing a debate in the society with more and more people opposing its use. Don’t you see anything wrong in spanking a child?
What rubbish debate? What are they talking about? Even the Bible says it, Spare the rod and spoil the child. I have a policy with my children and they know it: “If you’re shameless enough to misbehave in public, I am shameless enough to discipline you in the same arena”. So if you know that you have a Mum that can embarrass you, you will arrange yourself. When your child sticks her finger in your eye and tells you to sit down and shut up, then you will know. The truth of the matter is that you are responsible for the way they turn out.

Is it really the parents’ fault if a child turns out bad?
Although parenting really never ends especially if you have a wonderful relationship with your child, but you should know that for the first 18 years of life, you’re going to be giving constant instruction. God forbid, if your child turns out to be an armed robber or a bad person, let it not be for lack of trying. Let society be able to say you tried as a parent but the child just didn’t listen. I don’t subscribe to the school of thought that says a child will turn out to be what he will be, that is arrant nonsense! Get into the child’s life and find out what is going on with him or her.

People say being in your 40s is a special time for women. For you, what is special about being in your 40s?
I think the 40s are a really beautiful period in any person’s life, especially women. You’ve evolved, you know what works for you and you’re not afraid to speak your mind. You’ve come to a place of independence. You find that a lot of women really come to their sensuality and sexuality in their 40s. If they never used to wear short dresses, they start to and people think that they might be trying to hold on to their youth. No, that is not it. She probably just finally accepted that she has really hot legs, she probably just came to terms that she has a great body and she should flaunt it. She’s found herself. I’m comfortable because I’ve been blessed. I have a great career, fantastic kids, a supportive husband, a few great friends and for the most part I am content. I’m in a good place.

On a parting note, what do you strive for at this point in your life?
Do I have everything I want? No. Every new day is an opportunity to learn something new. I strive to be the best I can be in any situation I find myself be it a professional, a mother or a wife. To be the best I can be at whatever it is I’m doing at any point in time.


It was great chatting with Ireti and from BellaNaija.com, we wish her the very best!

Ireti Doyle in Torn (Preview)

Ireti Doyle in Tinsel

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Adeola Adeyemo is a graduate of Industrial Relations and Personnel Management from University of Lagos. However, her passion is writing and she worked as a reporter with NEXT Newspaper. She believes that anything can be written about; anything can be a story depending on the angle it is seen from and the writer's imagination. When she is not writing news or feature articles, she slips into her fantasies and creates interesting fiction pieces. She blogs at www.deolascope.blogspot.com

55 Comments

  1. Stella Kashmoney

    March 2, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    Well said, spare the rod and spoil the child.

  2. immaculate

    March 2, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    I agree, spare the rod and spoil the child. Some naughty kids need some strictness, before u turn to your child’s slave

  3. nene

    March 2, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    THIS IS VERY TRUE: “I don’t subscribe to the school of thought that says a child will turn out to be what he will be, that is arrant nonsense! Get into the child’s life and find out what is going on with him or her.”.

    Parents have to use their cane sometimes, i know my mother used it for the smallest things, but she would always come and cuddle me after flogging me and take me shopping, and of course i would rain all the curses on her secretly, but she is and will always be the best mother. with every flogging, it is important to also supplement it with love, don’t just flog ur child without giving a reason or showing them love afterwards, it would push them away.

    • Sara Adebayo

      March 2, 2013 at 11:37 pm

      Your comment is very sweet! it reminds me my own mother.. and that is how all mothers should be. stay blessed

  4. Aglow

    March 2, 2013 at 1:25 pm

    I love Ireti Doyle!!

  5. Say What?

    March 2, 2013 at 1:30 pm

    Love me some Ireti Doyle

  6. Deedee

    March 2, 2013 at 1:40 pm

    What a wonderful piece, Ireti is such a beautiful woman

  7. nnenne

    March 2, 2013 at 2:01 pm

    beautiful woman

  8. nky

    March 2, 2013 at 2:29 pm

    I love Ireti Doyle…….simple, sophisticated and very professional.

  9. iba

    March 2, 2013 at 2:30 pm

    Another excellent interview from Bella Naija

  10. BlackMagic Babe

    March 2, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    Tinsel has great cast,not the usual kind of gra gra nollywOod stars,but I lost interest in watching it,because I find it hard to know the direction to which it been played…never knew the story line….

  11. Chyke

    March 2, 2013 at 3:40 pm

    Ireti is everly beautiful o. Talented lady. She is someone I can never disrespect. When it comes to teenage pregnancy, I love her and my dearest Genevieve Nnaji for not allowing their pasts to dictate their futures. Strong women. God be with you Anty Ireti.

  12. loo

    March 2, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    I love Ireti too much some other actress should please make her their mentor, she is a typical example of been famous is not about negatives only
    Mama God will continue to give you more grace for your career family and husband
    And you look good at 45 cheers!!!! all the best

  13. lennon

    March 2, 2013 at 5:52 pm

    just ok.iretiola is soo full of grace!

  14. Osezy

    March 2, 2013 at 5:56 pm

    Beautiful and intelligent woman…
    osezy.blogspot.com

  15. morenike

    March 2, 2013 at 6:00 pm

    Smart and gorgeous … Now that’s my kinda woman!

  16. sarafina

    March 2, 2013 at 6:19 pm

    I’ve never liked her. She’s so strict. Smile for once..loosen up.be free. Ugh!

  17. R

    March 2, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    Nice interview

  18. Mummy T

    March 2, 2013 at 8:15 pm

    I don’t agree with hitting a child. It’s bullying sheer and simple, and it says more about you as an adult and a parent, if you cannot get through to your child, that you feel you need to hit them to pass your message across. I’ve seen parents hit children as young as 3. Its disgusting, and inhuman. You won’t hit an adult if they do something you don’t like, or if they don’t listen to instruction, so why hit a child that can’t defend itself. It just breeds anger, resentment and a vicious cycle of you also hitting your own children, because you never experienced different. You teach your child that violence is okay to correct someone you have authority over. Most people will not agree, and boy oh boy, when they bring the Bible as their defense, you the dissenting voice, sound like you are from the devil. I was hit as a child, no I didn’t grow up with mean parents or anything, but over the years I saw that it didn’t make me fall in line really. It just created tension and resentment in my house, and I have sworn to NEVER hit my children. They are close to their teenage years now, and they are well behaved, well balanced, morally upright kids. My husband and I agreed never to hit them, but to find other ways of communicating and so far it is working. Our friends don’t believe we have never hit them before. They’ve watched me being provoked by my kids, and they have said, one slap will stop all this rubbish. Kids, will be kids, they are born to annoy the crap out of you. I’m not lucky, I don’t have angelic kids, they slip up and mess up like regular kids, but we have never hit them before, and they are proof that you don’t need a cane to bring up great kids. For all the caning Ireti must have received, she still had a teenage pregnancy. That archaic method of parenting is just laziness. It takes more effort, hard work and sheer willpower not to hit your children. If you can succeed at that, and not take the easy way out and hit them to conform, you will be surprised at the results. In case you are wondering, I don’t live abroad, so it is not a case of I don’t have a choice because of child protection laws. I’m a Lagosian to the core.

    • Changing Faces

      March 2, 2013 at 8:36 pm

      Live and let live? Why the venom. All these people that think they have the manual on parenting. She’s said her way, do yours your way, without belittling anyone’s methods.

    • Lafunky

      March 2, 2013 at 8:39 pm

      I concur!

    • Mama

      March 2, 2013 at 10:22 pm

      Lol…..how ever u coat it its obvious your parents hit you in a way that was not normal….you sound so angry and bitter….the bible can never be wrong and we pray Ur children turn out well cos there is absolutely nothing wrong in beating a child…….the issues are how do u beat them? With what do you beat them and when? In life there has to be a balance and anything done in excess is wrong…..since we don’t know Ur children we can’t really say how they turn out abi? Or if Ur doing ok is normal standards by any chance…..sadly a lot of parents these days have no good morals so today,s standards might jolly well be good…..

    • Mam

      March 3, 2013 at 1:20 am

      Hmmmmm, on that long note, congrats! But, as for me and my entire household, we shall not spare that rod. A little spanking with so much love never killed me or either of my siblings. I, will surely do same with my kids…

    • Blogger

      March 3, 2013 at 2:51 am

      I totally agree with everything you have said. No human being should have the right to hit another human being. If it is wrong to hit your wife or husband, what makes it right to hit a child?Because you are older?because you are trying to control them or exert authority over them?It is just barbaric as far as i am concerned. Yes, I know the typically Nigerian culture believes in this but how has that helped us as a people? I am sure armed robbers, kidnappers and corrupt politician were all beaten as children, did it help shape them into better human beings?

    • UO

      March 3, 2013 at 3:00 am

      I agree! My dad only smacked me once as a child, and never again. I turned out well behaved. My little sister, the same thing. I have friends that were beaten blue who turned out to be really bad.
      My hubby and I dont plan on smacking kids, I wont even use the word cane, cause they arent animals. The best way to discipline is to really explain why and make the child feel bad. My granddad used to use that method on us all, and it’d leave us in tears.

    • bee

      March 5, 2013 at 9:50 am

      Thank you for saying what you said, it takes a lot of courage to swim against the current. . I too have no plans to hit any future offspring of mine, I detest that approach of I am older, bigger, stronger therefore I can subdue you. How that gets the message of tolerance, respect and love across is beyond me. We are human beings and with the grace of God we should be able to reason with one another not every situation has to yield to wrath. The same Proverbs says a gentle answer turns away wrath.

  19. nena

    March 2, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    Breath of fresh air. well-spoken. lol @ her cane philosophy – not that I don’t agree. didnt know girls were trouble to raise too. “what rubbish debate?” fierce! Must have been tough getting her to interview. Good One.

  20. banke

    March 2, 2013 at 9:25 pm

    oh well, it depends on the country u live in, i seriously believed in canning until i got social services on my back for smacking my kids, they made me sign letters never to smack them again or else….. anyway now i just shout at them, and talk, advise etc, ages are 10 and 7 (life of a nigerian living in the UK),

  21. As u see me so

    March 2, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    @changing faces…thumbs up jare.Sometimes you just have to look for a method that works for your kids,some might need the rod and some just need words.At least try both and see which works.

  22. northernbelle

    March 2, 2013 at 9:44 pm

    @ Changing faces, well said! @ Mummy T, keep thanking God your kids turned out right- I hope and pray they continue in that way. As for me, I WILL use the cane, when necessary and not in anger, cos the resentment builds up when you hit a child in anger. You should also take time to explain to the child why the cane is to be used. Flogging should also be balanced with other forms of punishment such as denial of priviledges etc.

  23. na me

    March 2, 2013 at 11:11 pm

    lovely lady

  24. Wonderfully made

    March 2, 2013 at 11:29 pm

    @Mummy T,how u bring up ur kids is ur cup of tea,don’t come here to write an epistle just to tell us ur methods are perfect.
    Ireti,u r loved joor.God bless u.
    Its my first time dropping a comment on bellanaija

    • Wee

      March 3, 2013 at 2:08 am

      Your first time?! Take bell of blessing…gbagauuun!

  25. Bridget

    March 3, 2013 at 12:15 am

    I agree, hitting a child is child abuse and bullying, but Nigerians will never agree. You just need to read their comments about celebs and the hate they generate from their comments. Bullies, bullies, bullies. Pick and choose the part of the Bible that suits your agenda. Spare the rod and spoil the child, sure, but you can gossip and hate about people that don’t know you, all because they live a public life. I’m sure the Bible preaches against that too, same with fornicating outside of marriage and with married men, plus indecent dressing and general fakery. Oh well, it only takes a post about Toke for y’all to show yourselves. @Banke, thank goodness social services has made you see the light. Yay for your kids.

  26. D Fairy GodSister

    March 3, 2013 at 1:44 am

    My respect for Ireti Doyle just shot through the roof! #EndOf

  27. David

    March 3, 2013 at 2:14 am

    Trust me the white men do spank their children too.. i live in Europe and I can attest to that, the problem is that we tend to buy all these stories that whites don’t spank their children when they misbehave … its bulls crap.

  28. lola

    March 3, 2013 at 11:33 am

    i no a child who kept spitting at d mum.d mum kept telling the child to stop.he refused.he was about 4 years old then.so the mother told him to kneel down and raise up his hand.so my question to mummy t is this:what wuld u av done since u only talk to ur children.what i want u to no is this;ders an age for u to talk and advise.between the ages of 3 and say like 7 children dont understand many tins..so ur advice will fall on deaf eyes.so my take on this,not all children need to be smack.depends on how they are.

  29. sleek-lady

    March 3, 2013 at 12:28 pm

    Nice interview. Really love her act on Tinsel.
    sleek-lady.blogspot.com

  30. POSHILLA!!

    March 3, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    IRETI IS AGEING GRACEFULLY! LOVE HER ! LOVE HER! AUNTY KATE HENSHAW TAKE NOTE OF HER DRESSING SO DAT U LEARN HW TO DRESS AGE APPROPRIATE!!

  31. Neni Stone

    March 3, 2013 at 3:42 pm

    I love, love this woman. She is so graceful and elegant. Love her!!

    nenisnaija.blogspot.com/

  32. Samuel

    March 3, 2013 at 11:39 pm

    Nice interview. The debate about spanking will continue to rage. But as someone has rightly pointed out, it is all a matter of moderation and a recourse to spanking as a last option, when all else has failed. The power of words and subtle actions are much more powerful than the cane.

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  33. obianuju

    March 4, 2013 at 1:34 am

    @ mummy t u shld understand that cos commuincation is working for you doesnt mean it would work for all parents!as aunt ireti asked what debate?theres no need for a debate regarding this issue cos the bible has made it clear….spare the rod and spoil the child.parents shld understand that God has given them those children and its there responsibility to discipline them if need be.the jet age isnt making parenting easy at all i personally think the cane shld be around the corner and used when communication has failed!

  34. iya

    March 4, 2013 at 11:40 am

    yes o Ireti. i have 4 canes at different places in my house i call them ‘i need thee every hour’. when i say a thing thrice and my kids are adamant, i go for one. i’ll rather use the cane subtly than being embarrassed outside. simples!

  35. Doks

    March 4, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    Now THIS is my kinda woman – strong, confident, focused, committed wife & moter, disciplinarian!

    Hope we all read the part where she said – “the truth is we(parents) are responsible for how our children turn out”.

    Hear Hear oh ye contemporary generation of parents (myself inclusive)!!!

    I’ve learnt so much from this interview. Thanks Ireti & Thanks BN

  36. Amale

    March 4, 2013 at 12:37 pm

    I am really impressed. God bless u. the grace that you need to train your children God will give unto you. I almost miss it it life thank God for my mother who was there for me and correct my mistake through love.

  37. x factor

    March 4, 2013 at 3:58 pm

    Nice interview

  38. TAIWO

    March 4, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    I just love this woman,IRETI DOYLE.

  39. ekemini toyin -emmanuel

    March 4, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    U are a great & strong lady sister Ireti…each time I watch u I see God’s grace surrounding u, how many celebrities home are in order like ur home. Pls don’t give up u are doing a fantastic work. And thanks for this interview my dear. More grace in all ur endeavor. Ur fan Ekemini

  40. Dimz

    March 4, 2013 at 5:12 pm

    “If you’re shameless enough to misbehave in public, I am shameless enough to discipline you in the same arena”. So if you know that you have a Mum that can embarrass you, you will arrange yourself. When your child sticks her finger in your eye and tells you to sit down and shut up, then you will know.”……Very inspiring words & TRUE talk!!!

  41. Kamal

    March 4, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    My mum gives emergency slaps. I still love her and love everyone of those slaps. Sets the tone right

    • Babe

      March 5, 2013 at 9:50 am

      OMG, LMAO @ emergency slaps, makes a lotta sense.

  42. aa

    March 4, 2013 at 11:59 pm

    Sapare the rod and spoil the child means Do not spare the rod when needed. As in when it is time for the rod, do not leave it alone.

    But it is not everytime the rod is needed.

  43. Magz

    March 5, 2013 at 10:32 am

    i’ve always loved ireti, kudos to her! concerning beating kids, i support it. anytime i go visiting my uncle, my young male cousins are always complaining “you are too strict” blah blah blah. i play with them when necessary & chastise them when necessary and this has really helped them. sometimes, they will give me ‘evil eye’ but minutes later, we might end up playing ‘after round one’. no matter how much they complain about me being strict, when it’s time for me to leave, they end up asking “when are you coming back again?” believe it or not, i’m their favorite cousin.
    my mother didn’t beat us all the time when we were young though she can flog very well (she’s a teacher) but she has a way with words that when she’s through, u wud wish she had caned u. but when d offence called for caning, she would cane us. despite everything, i love her so much.
    i can run up & down with kids o but when it’s time for discipline, i won’t even crack a smile. using the rod is not for every time tho, so u have to know when to use the rod

  44. Omamofe Ugboma

    March 5, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    Nice interview. Tells alot about the person of Ireti Doyle.

  45. Debbie

    March 6, 2013 at 2:35 am

    I, for one will def spank my kids. Same way my parents trained myself and my siblings. I love my parents and I thank them for where I am today. I live in Ireland and I see white parents spanking their kids esp in the shops when the kids are acting up, I saw a white mother spank her child in the bum and she was well behaved till the end. Some parents overseas fear to spank their child, Steve Harvey said, that his son once called social welfare on him when they came into the house, Steve told them that I spank my kids and I am going to spank him once you leave for calling you to my house. I ain’t letting you destroy my kids life for me. He said that parents should not let social welfare stop them from training their kids. I know this boy who called social welfare on his mother, they took him from her, now he’s begging her to let him come back home. If you don’t learn to take care of your child, if you can’t say no to them when they are grown they will blame you for the way their life turned out. Don’t be their friend, Be their Parent. Even Beyonce mom slapped her in a store when she refused to listen to her and this was after Beyonce was popular.

    If your parents idea of spanking you was torturing then am sorry that you had to go through that. But that was not what the bible meant when it said spare the rod and spoil the child. It meant that if we spank our child we should also bring them closer to us. Spank them with love not with hatred

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