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Chika Oduah: Where The “V” Counts

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Mothers lay their daughters on mattresses, spread their legs as wide as “Vs,” push their fingers inside their daughters’ vaginas and measure the depth of entry into the soft mounds of flesh.

If the fingers go in too deeply, the girl is not a virgin.

The daughter did not keep her vagina clean and fresh so she will no longer be perceived as clean and fresh. She will be described with adjectives like spoiled and used. Her vagina has been used. Throw it away. Throw her away.

In a society where a woman is worth the condition of her vagina, women and girls start to believe it—that their vagina counts. Boys and men believe it. Public officials and religious leaders believe it. The society begins to promote a sort of consecration of the vagina.

If a father finds out that his daughter’s vagina has been spoiled he could remove her from the homestead. Or perhaps, the father is “progressive” and will pretend he does not know that his daughter is spoiled until her belly begins to grow and her movements become lethargic. Then, he cannot ignore it. Then, his desire to kick her out, damn her, maim her, kill her or marry her to the town drunkard is justified.

In such societies, men write books with titles like “The Good Woman,” “The Holy Wife,” “A Woman of Destiny,” “A Woman Under The Covering of Her Husband,” “How To Be A Virtuous Woman,” “The Fulfillment of Womanhood.”

Girls and women read these books and they want others to know that they are reading those books.

An adolescent girl was raped by her two older brothers one day. When her parents found out, they agreed to kill their little daughter to cleanse the family of shame. They planned the assassination. The scheme was for the sons and father to leave the house. The mother would take care of everything.

Mother took her daughter to a bed in the house – perhaps rubbing the girl’s soft black hair along the way – and she laid her olive-skinned daughter down. She lifted two pillows into the air and then pressed them down over her daughter’s face. The girl kicked and jerked all over the place. Mother used her hands and the pillows to shove the life of her daughter out of her neck. The girl died by asphyxiation.

This true incident happened in Iran. A Persian university professor of mine chronicled the details to the class. The dead girl had been her neighbor in a country where “honor killings” are a part of life. A Google search of the phrase honor killings will yield more than 35 million results and the practice does exist in Nigeria.

Nigeria is a society where men jail vaginas. They control them with glee and tickle them until they become moist. Too moist means she is not a virgin because the excessive moisture is evidence of her enjoyment of the tickle. Moist enough means she is a good girl. You treat her carefully so you will not “mess her up.”

In fact, an entire community, or at least the designated decision makers, can have a stake in girls’ vaginas. That’s why elders can charge a higher bride price if the girl is “unspoiled.” The unspoken message conveyed is that the woman does not control her own body. It is for society to monitor and suppress, praise and scorn.

Pastors can refuse to wed a female church member who is having sex with a man she loves. Even the suspicion of sexual involvement can prevent a Christian woman from getting married in the church she attends. Let her stay outside and commit sin because that is what Jesus would have done, they suppose.

A prevailing rule mandating that only virgins can be married in the church really means that the lady must be a virgin. The man, who really cares? It’s the vagina that counts.

Some seldom call upon The Virgin Mary without including the word, “virgin” before “Mary.” Would she even be in the Bible if she were not believed to have been a virgin? The mother of God’s son should be “clean” so we have made her so by depicting her as an unspoiled woman, who had a baby. She would not have been worth anything as a childless wife. We do not talk much about Mary’s life after Jesus because it does not matter much. It was her virginity that captures approval. It’s the vagina that counts and the Virgin Mary once had a holy one.

There are Nigerian women who cringe at the suggestion of wearing a light gold wedding gown, or a champagne-tinted wedding gown because she wants to show the world that her vagina is “pure white,” wrapped in swaths of lace and satin, chained to God and to her future husband. She walks down the aisle in a pure white gown. At the reception, she dances the night away in pure white. Not ivory, pure white. The world must know that she is a fresh one to marvel at. The man beside her at the wedding altar whom she will call husband from then on, he is wearing the blackest of black suits. His bowtie is gray. His shoes are black. His socks are black, too.

In the Nigeria that I live in, men want fresh girls, just as they like fresh fish, but the girl must be fresher than what is in the soup. She has to be fresh as a baby. So children become brides, plucked from age 13, expected to spawn children at age 14, scorned if she dies in labor. Men want virgins on earth and virgins in heaven – or paradise – so they line up to bomb, kill and commit themselves to a god reckoned to enjoy the scent of spilled blood and the sound of an unfolding massacre as long as the dead are infidels. Some men want virgins in hell, but they will never find any there. All virgins go to heaven.

Nigerian men sit in stuffy airplanes for hours, coming from Belgium, London, Australia and New York, coming home to Nigeria. And in those planes, one imagines the freshness of the unspoiled village lady who will become his wife. He has never met her face-to-face, only in photographs did he see her and in fleeting phone conversations, he heard her homely voice. The Nigerian ladies abroad have all gone wild, so Nigerian men go to their home towns for a dewy-faced, high school graduate who cooks the best vegetable soup in town. Best of all, she is unspoiled. The joy of wedding an unspoiled woman can only be experienced. So the guy’s friends request vacation time from their jobs and venture to Nigeria to experience it, too.

The 2002 protest of Muslim youth who opposed the holding of the Miss World pageant in Nigeria did exactly what those youth likely wanted it to do: take those worldly girls out of Nigeria. Perhaps the presence of so many perceived spoiled women would have brought a curse on the land and everyone’s cows would have fallen over and died of an incurable plague. (In some instances, cows are more valuable than females.) That incident, which left more than 100 people dead according to the BBC, revealed a sick truth about Nigeria and the males who were offended over a ThisDay newspaper editorial that made reference to the Prophet Mohammed in regards to the Miss World contestants.

Violence against women has increased worldwide. The stories of 14-year-old Malala Yousufzai of Pakistan, Anene Booysen of South Africa, the 23-year-old woman who was raped on a bus in India are just a handful of the millions of women around the world with a similar experience. Women equality is a cause that Malawi President Joyce Banda and former U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton stand for.

“…Where violence and abuse keep women out of the workforce and drag down communities for generations, fostering women’s economic participation grows national GDPs and personal incomes,” Clinton commented.

Female circumcision, domestic violence, honor killings, acid burnings, dowry deaths…all the violence comes down to the vagina, and the control of it. Who knew that two plump lips of skin could wreck so much havoc and hysteria? No wonder historically, it was kept under a lock and key in the form of chastity belts in some societies.

The vagina has traits. It looks like flower petals, yet smells like a servant. In societies where the vagina counts, a female is a servant to the males around her. In the home, at the workplace, at events, the female is expected to serve people and to be aware of that expectation. At anytime, a guy can turn to a woman in a particular setting and ask for a drink. She is supposed to go fetch him a drink.

In societies where the vagina counts, no matter how well a female is packaged with luxurious clothing and jewelry, a sound education or a philanthropic spirit, the condition of the vagina is still considered.  So let’s consult the Vagina Oracle to see what it will tell us. Which lady deserves to be wedded and which one may as well be left to fornicate in a den of sin? Which one can be killed? Beaten? Raped?

In societies where the vagina counts, the rise of a Condoleeza Rice, a Michelle Obama or a Margaret Thatcher seldom happens. In such societies, a wife is as good as her husband. That is why the relevance of the life of Benazir Bhutto, the first female prime minister of Pakistan, cannot be underestimated.

In societies where little boys eat before their little sisters, get a larger portion of meat and go to school when their little sisters go to the market, those little boys imagine vaginas and what they want to do with them. Control is in his hands. That little boy will cultivate an uncanny fascination with the thing between girls’ legs and then assert his position over it, knowing that the society has given him the right to do so. That little boy may become a pastor where he can stand on the pulpit and say, “I will not wed a spoiled woman.”

Or he may become a husband who forces his wife to do what he wants her to do at a time when she does not want to do it because he paid her bride price.

Vaginas count. That’s why some readers will count the number of times the word ‘vagina’ in used in this piece. And others will fortify their position that the condition of a woman’s vagina is a reliable assessment of her worth.

In elementary schools in the United States, many children are taught a song with lyrics that go like this:
My body’s nobody’s body but mine
You rule your own body,
let me rule mine

But in societies where the vagina counts, that song is a lie. Girls and women do not rule their bodies, especially not their vaginas.

And being called “spoiled” means she is as good as dead.

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134 Comments

  1. iyaz

    March 6, 2013 at 10:08 am

    best article ever.
    lemme see anyone blindly challenge the banal ideas Ms. Oduah has brilliantly highlighted for us all to see. long live d vagina!

    • Ms. Jayee

      March 6, 2013 at 11:46 pm

      “Who knew that two plump lips of skin could wreck so much havoc and hysteria?” —> wow! What a line.

    • o

      March 7, 2013 at 3:51 pm

      I read the same line and thought: wait. aren’t those ‘two plump lips of skin’ the labia though? *scratches head* Yes they’re part of the genitalia and sometimes they’re removed in female genital mutilation, but I thought it was the parts underneath them that garnered the most ‘concern’ and attention. Other than for protection, I didn’t think the labia were regarded as important or essential in the determination of ‘pureness’ and the diagnosing/declaration of the spoiled. hmmm… Maybe I have some reading to do or perhaps I’m just over-thinking this…
      Nevertheless, good article. Little girls should not have to feel that their vaginas and what they do with them are anybody’s business, save the few times the things pick up new habits and the girls choose, if they want, to seek out the help of more experienced vagina owners to help understand their’s. Sigh, they shouldn’t have to grow up thinking that the status of one hole in their bodies is essentially who they are..

    • One-sided Journalistic Bias

      April 9, 2013 at 6:07 am

      You paint the picture as if it is the Vagina causing things like domestic violence when men experience domestic violence too (is that for control of the dicks?)

      You take things that affect the both sexes and use it to make your vajina point, like churches refusing to marry @[email protected] that are already sexually active with each other and then somehow paint that as though its the woman that suffers that?

      You speak of things that happen only in small certain parts of nigeria (13 year olds getting married) asif its somehow the norm, rather than a tragedy that should be addressed.

      You some how painted that we highlight that Jesus was conceived without the presence of a man, as something BAD to women?

      And where did you grow up that the boys get bigger pieces of meat than the girls? My sisters always got more clothes and money than i did and food was all according to your size.. i was the youngest and i got the smallest piece. IM A GUY.

      This is Journalistic bias, painting a once-sided story to make your point and with your experience and prestige as a writer, I expected more.

      PS: Its not somehow @[email protected] for men to fuck around with many women and start looking for a virgin (a point you did not make – granted – but you eluded to). But is the solution for women to start to do the same? Or to be more stern as a society to the men who do?

      This men do this, so women should movement is getting old. As a society we should wisen up and start a smarter movement… Men stop this.

    • Davon

      April 28, 2013 at 5:26 pm

      I’m a guy also, stop being a “one sided” misogynist prick. The article hits the point very well. I don’t know why some guys seldom think and feel anything challenging men should be attacked immediately as if it proves any more masculinity or pseudo machismo.

  2. ij

    March 6, 2013 at 10:17 am

    wow Chika that was possibly the best article I’ve read on Bellanaija

    • eya

      March 7, 2013 at 8:35 pm

      Me too!!!

  3. Bleed blue

    March 6, 2013 at 10:19 am

    This article bothers me…the writer has some valid points and while I appreciate that the intention of this article is not to berate women, to read in black and white that the order of the day is commoditising such an important part of the female body…my female body…to this degree has left me unsettled. 🙁

    • Annie

      March 6, 2013 at 10:59 am

      I believe that’s what it’s meant to do. It’s meant to unsettle you to the point where you begin to demand a different/higher standard for yourself & your vagina.

    • Bleed blue

      March 6, 2013 at 4:02 pm

      Errr…Madam Annie…I have insight and can understand what the writer’s intentions are. I was speaking my thoughts, not asking for an interpretation of the article. Thank you! 🙂

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      March 6, 2013 at 3:02 pm

      I actually read it the opposite way. I see the writer encouraging all of her sex (particularly the young, largely uninformed and very impressionable ones amongsts us) to seperate themselves from their vaginas. I’m very open to the message because if hear one more undeserving man open his wide mouth and proclaim his intention of marrying a “good girl” to the world, again …. Words fail me to describe how amazingly backwards the men in my generation seem to be in comparison with their own grandfathers. At least their grandfathers had the excuse of not seeing the light of day…

      So, yeah, I quite welcome this message. I need to be free from my own vagina the same way my contemporary male is free from his own penis. There is one thought that always occurs to me when I consider the inequality of the sexes – how come Bill Gates fornicated and LIED ABOUT IT while he was a serving president of a country and yet that horny billy goat (yes, pun intended) is still being globally celebrated as an ex-US presido, peace ambassador, blah blah blah… while nobody can mention Monica Lewinsky’s name without sneering? Biko, the hypocrisy needs to stop in every sphere of civilization, both 1st world and 3rd world.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      March 6, 2013 at 3:41 pm

      Lawd have mercy, I’ve gone and indicted another Bill in that comment above. I meant “Bill Clinton” biko.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      March 19, 2013 at 1:41 am

      Yh… d joy of being a woman or the curse….

      Will it ever change??? or can it ever change? Time will tell.

      lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

    • Annie

      March 6, 2013 at 4:45 pm

      You’re very welcome. 🙂 Anytime!

    • aunty

      March 6, 2013 at 5:21 pm

      i dont think annie was undermining your insight… chillll

    • Bleed blue

      March 6, 2013 at 5:35 pm

      No dear aunty…YOU chiiiilll, as you can see Annie and I exchanged smiles and don’t need you to mediate on our matter. #CreatingDramaWhereThereIsNone

      Annie how you dey jare 🙂

    • Annie

      March 7, 2013 at 11:23 am

      Loooool. Thanks Aunty, you’re like my guardian angel. Hehehe. Bleed blue, what’s popping? 😀

    • Mr_X

      March 10, 2013 at 12:44 am

      I’ve never read anything more “straight to the point” about gender inequality. Not that I’m trying to be sentimental but I think this article has a somewhat “extreme-feminist” side to it. Still very insightful.

  4. naijapose.com

    March 6, 2013 at 10:20 am

    lovely article

  5. Yets

    March 6, 2013 at 10:25 am

    Thanks so much for this article, Chika. It’s very honest and engaging. It’s now up to us to raise our sons right and teach them to respect women and their bodies. Well done.

  6. Yolanda

    March 6, 2013 at 10:26 am

    OMG so true! unfortunately thats the society in which we live. Women mean next to nothing. That is why education is the greatest gift you can give the girl child, and encourage her to be independent in her thinking.
    God help us in this world.
    zannyzane.blogspot.com

  7. best

    March 6, 2013 at 10:31 am

    wonderful article. @Bleech blu: for the sake of understanding and clarity it has to be commoditised as you put it so it can be understood.

  8. JADE

    March 6, 2013 at 10:36 am

    lol @ long live the vagina. this article is quite indepth,i wish i could write like this! oh well, im unsettled too and begining to worry for my daughters yet unborn!

  9. Funmi

    March 6, 2013 at 10:42 am

    My Goodness! You are an eloquent and articulate writer. I loved this piece. It made me cringe in shame because it is the truth.

  10. Nero

    March 6, 2013 at 10:48 am

    Well said!!!

  11. Stella Kashmoney

    March 6, 2013 at 10:57 am

    Lovely article. This is definitely the best article on Bella Naija so far.

  12. Bex

    March 6, 2013 at 10:58 am

    This is the best article I’ve read in a long time. Well written. Our society operates a double standard where men are allowed to do as they please and we women are taught from an early age to obey, please and live for them. While some women see nothing wrong in this and have this twisted view that they were created for the menfolk there are some of us who refuse to believe it’s a man’s world. As far as I know, it’s God’s world.

    http://www.bexluvs2dress.blogspot.com

    • Nollywood REinvented

      March 9, 2013 at 12:36 am

      I don’t know maybe there are more sensible comments under yours but yours just summarized my thoughts exactly. Just because the woman was created after the man does not in any way mean that the man is superior to the woman and our society needs to grasp that.

      It seems as though no matter how much we progress with our thoughts in society, no matter how much we claim 21st century mentality, #TheOtherWoman in society is still put down.

      She is still living as though this were the stone ages, under the wiles and guiles of the men placed above her

  13. Davis Kolawole

    March 6, 2013 at 11:07 am

    a very thoughtful and truthful write that depicts how we African men see, believe and treat a woman. kudos to the writer and big ups to the publisher. i hope fellow men, society and world at large, through this piece that women are worth more than we value them

  14. onyi

    March 6, 2013 at 11:10 am

    I totally agree with the writer. But now I think our society is becoming one where the vagina doesn’t count. But still men like to marry “fresh girls”.

  15. Sweeney

    March 6, 2013 at 11:13 am

    A very nice article,ful of information.Feminism is on d increase as each day passes by.my fellow women,let stand and finish dis deadly phenomenon called “feminism”which has eaten deep into d nooks and crannies of our soceity.i believe we can do it,o!yes we can

    • Annie

      March 6, 2013 at 12:18 pm

      “fem·i·nism

      /ˈfeməˌnizəm/

      Noun

      The advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.” You’re welcome. 🙂

    • leggy

      March 6, 2013 at 3:05 pm

      do you even know what feminism means? stop being ignorant and pick up a book.

    • Omega Female

      March 6, 2013 at 3:18 pm

      LMAO! Google is your friend my love; Use it!

    • iyaz

      March 7, 2013 at 1:22 am

      THIS TAKES THE CAKE AS THE DUMBEST COMMENT ON BELLANAIJA EVER!!!

      wozaaaaa!!!! lolll

    • zsa zsa

      March 7, 2013 at 6:53 am

      @sweeney is either being funny or is very confused.

  16. samson

    March 6, 2013 at 11:20 am

    Wow………I wish everybody understand the part of this very article in humans life!! Infact you get the realy fact…….

  17. Aibee

    March 6, 2013 at 11:47 am

    This Article left me unsettled. In so many ways, it only says what I already knew. But reading it in black and white put a measue of fear in my heart. And the mother who killed her daughter who was raped by her brothers … Scary world we live in.

  18. Roosevelt P. Moore

    March 6, 2013 at 11:48 am

    Very well and rightly written on this sensitive issue. Thanks for Sharing thoughtful and sensible issue.
    Thanks!

  19. Priscy

    March 6, 2013 at 11:52 am

    This article is deep…the way men judge women based on if one is a virgin or not is alarming, meanwhile no one ever questions if a man is a virgin. In Nigeria, if you are a virgin=good, decent, righteous girl… non-virgin= bad, spoiled, and corrupt girl. Thumbs up to u Chika for this great article

  20. Olori

    March 6, 2013 at 12:09 pm

    OMG!

  21. u.S.o

    March 6, 2013 at 12:18 pm

    Somehow Vagina counts…..lolz

    usaveone.blogspot.com

  22. Anu

    March 6, 2013 at 12:20 pm

    Very engaging and thought provoking. I particularly like how you started, with what the mothers do. I believe it shows how our mentalities, as women,are affected by our environment. It is therefore out duty as enlightened women to make sure we pass across to the girls and women around us a sense of worth and belief in change. it starts with us. Definitely the best article I’ve ever read here!!

  23. Adaeze

    March 6, 2013 at 12:23 pm

    The writer obviously did her research. I love this write up! On my first day of work, i noticed that my ‘supposed’ supervisor, stared intently at my crotch **Vagina syndrome** several times I have asked these questions. Why do men, even the poorest of the lot, feel they can abuse women, no matter their position, status or social strata? My good guess is; the fact that he feels he has control over the Vagina. Why is it that no matter whatever class or position a woman has, any man on the street feels, she’ll be thrilled to have him as a lover. Why do men constantly abuse their wives over and over again, calling them Prostitutes, whether he met her a virgin or not? Because, he feels the vagina belongs to him. Why are women raped? To put them in their place… i guess. This write-up is one of the best I’ve ever read in years, it comes straight from the heart.

  24. omolola

    March 6, 2013 at 12:28 pm

    Standing ovation for Chika. Well said. Gives me food for thought

  25. tutytootz

    March 6, 2013 at 12:37 pm

    wow. very interesting read

  26. Benson

    March 6, 2013 at 12:46 pm

    Good one.Please learn to respect women.Respect their body and decision,very important.

  27. Sexxie

    March 6, 2013 at 12:52 pm

    Profound! Thanks for touching this very sensitive issue. Brings back bad memories for me. I went to an all girls catholic secondary school where we were tested for virginity at the beginning of each term. I still cringe at the thought of it, we all fill into the school’s sick bay, wait for ur turn, go in, lie on the table,push ur knees up & voila! The Rev sis gloved fingers start working our Vs. Our privacies totally invaded. The worst part is, some mothers scarred their daughters all in the name of killing off the ‘urge’ by mutilating their Vs to preserve virginity.

    • Sonia

      March 7, 2013 at 1:25 am

      Please, what school is this?

    • Sexxie

      March 7, 2013 at 12:32 pm

      St. Maria Assumpta.

  28. Doks

    March 6, 2013 at 1:00 pm

    Good points but the writing style is jst wrong. Doesnt really come out well. Someone shld have proof-read this article b4 publishing.

    I get an unsettling feeling after reading this but not bcos its about the vagina. Its about the delivery

    • #SisiOge

      March 6, 2013 at 1:20 pm

      Really don’t get your point about “writing or delivery” she was eloquent and articulate!! Your style of commenting is WRONG and your delivery is POOR. Take a seat!!

    • Partyrider

      March 6, 2013 at 9:03 pm

      Lmao..nice one #SisiOge 🙂 (y)

    • Sonia

      March 7, 2013 at 1:27 am

      I think @Doks has been seeing people use the term ‘writing style’ n has been dyin 2 do the same.

    • Yolanda

      March 6, 2013 at 2:50 pm

      Its supposed to be unsettling and thought provoking. The writing style, delivery and content are top notch.
      Different strokes for different folks, I guess

    • garri

      March 8, 2013 at 6:12 am

      This is a biased article. I don’t see figures/statistics, I don’t see names of societies, no references. The writer made some points which made sense but Google has a lot of junk and old information (sadly, this article will also join Google’s search engine with its blind viewpoint).
      I am not saying some of what she said don’t happen Nigeria but please tell me, where in Nigeria does marrying off an underage girl happens? Mostly in the north. Nigerians flying in from abroad to marry village girls, give illustrations. Nigerians wearing white for weddings to signifying purity, (so yr 2003)? White is the ‘norm’ in the world (Bella the wedding dresses you post on your wedding section, they are mostlywhite? Na black person make the dress?). she could have made reference to how the baby-boomers think and the younger generation’s point of view Some Nigerians go outside Nigeria and spread information, without making an effort to emphasize the rate at which such things happen in Nigeria, what society, occurrence between illiterates or literates, if there has been some improvement etc . I could also stand here and say most of my friends here marry well educated girls, enlighten city girls and most importantly not a VIRGIN (which is true). Hey let me report an article: Virgins are not Favored by Nigerians Living Abroad, or better still Nigerians are Fraudsters!

    • Ready

      March 8, 2013 at 1:36 pm

      Dude. Take a chill pill…this article was not geared towards explaining the Nigerian experience only…it applies to pretty much every country. She mentioned Malala in Pakistan who by the way was shot at by al Qaeda for speaking out against lack of access to education for the girl child; she also talked about the woman who was raped in India, the honor killing in Iran, etc. Today is Int’l Women’s Day…no one is attacking your country unfairly, expand your horizon. The world is much larger than your little corner.

  29. fisayo

    March 6, 2013 at 1:21 pm

    i dont agree with you @doks. beautiful well written as it hits the nail on the head especially on the pakistani women and honor killings as awell as virgin mary. oue society expects women to get married as virgins bt dont expect a man to. so who are men sleeping with, dogs????? what is good for the goose is good for the gander. a woman shouldnt be judged by d state of her vagina which bye d way is hers to control. iv experienced sexual abuse and made to feel like it was my fault. i have forgiven but not forgotten. it is time women stand up and take charge of their bodies and their futures.

  30. Monique

    March 6, 2013 at 1:31 pm

    Chika I loved it! You told it beautifully and how that could be manged with something so sordid is a wonder in itself.

  31. sunshine

    March 6, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    This amazing article will then be followed by hundreds of self-opinionated comments on the vagina, men, women, marraige, grammatical errors, sex, God, heaven, hell, my mother said this, my inlaw said that, the Bible says, the Quran preaches, blah blah…Talk is cheap people, our society remains backward and until we actually have more than an opinion, it will remain so!

  32. Magz

    March 6, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    i put this on my bbm pm one evening, “i’m a beautiful,smart & intelligent lady who has a drive & ambition, if as a man, u feel threatened by that, i have no business with u” just as u would guess, a lot of guys ‘pinged’ me; “you are a feminist” blah blah blah. and i responded yes, thank u.
    i’ve always hated the fact that women are considered to be ‘nothing’ in our society. if a woman cheats, she has to go but if a man cheats, hey! it’s normal. and a lot of women have accepted the whole “i’m a woman, i’m not supposed to complain” notion. this is a very nice article, i hope our women will learn how to stand up for themselves because truthfully, a man will treat you exactly the way you allow him to treat you!

  33. Ajoke

    March 6, 2013 at 3:49 pm

    Thank you for writing this, thank you BN for posting it.

  34. dont mention

    March 6, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    beautifully written chika and thought-provoking………you have just written down the things that bother me about our society…….
    for the longest time ever, women have protested against being left behind or relegated to the kitchen and you would think that at a time like this, we would have come so far and be a better people but that is not the case….things are getting worse and i don’t even know who to apportion the blame to, just commented on the Toni tones article and i was appalled how every picture was aimed at selling her sexuality to the world which would boil down to the vagina. parents and mothers especially need to sit up and give a proper education to their children, not any education but a moral education to their kids…..teach the boys to respect the woman as they respect themselves and to look past a woman’s sexuality and put some dignity in their girls…..because while i hate and it is totally wrong to blame a victim of rape or any sexual violence, i think to some extend we have to accept the truth in that we are in some ways the cause of it……these days, most celebrities in the news are either going naked or half naked and that has somehow become the standard for the average girl……what the hell is up with all the so called cleavage, short dresses and more? we need to seriously examine our consciences and our society and enact some changes …..and that change starts with each and every individual separately……….you have to have enough respect for yourself and exude that much confidence in yourself as a whole……bc when a girl feels the need to assert that she is better than her counterparts bc she is still a virgin, then that is an issue even if she doesn’t expose herself…….we cannot make our society to live with double standards bc if the Bible says we were created equally, then men should not get a pass on what women would not…..and if we do not judge men by their penises , then the same standard should apply to women…….we are gradually becoming a society of sick people and we all need to change our mindsets if we want to see a change…….bc all the women(M.O, H.C,B.B, etc) mentioned in this article are in one way or the other my role models and i certainly would not want to be deterred bc someone places value on my vagina…….yes the vagina is powerful, it is what makes me a woman, it is the core of my feminity but it is not all that there is to me…..i am so much more than my vagina, i am brains, intellect, inner beauty from my heart and kindness, and it is these that actually make me who i am as a person, not my vagina. my vagina only makes me a woman but before being a woman, i am a person……..and its about time every one started seeing women as persons beyond the vagina……..thank you chika
    vikkyscreed.blogspot.com

    • Damie

      March 6, 2013 at 4:25 pm

      Someone just had to spoil this with a horrid comment. The Bible is chock-full of patriarchy please stop bringing into every conversation. Holier than thou people. What does her dignity have to do with sex? Being a virgin makes you no less dignified than sleeping with 20 men. You are doing exactly what the article mocks. And stop with the assumption that rape is about lust. It is about power and control. Please stop with this horrid assumption and notion Judge Judy. Nobody asks to be raped. Please stop this and go and learn.

    • aunty

      March 6, 2013 at 5:20 pm

      but did you really read the comment? why so angry?

    • dontmention

      March 6, 2013 at 8:46 pm

      Wow………u must be really angry dis afternoon Bc u totally misunderstood me……..what part of de Bible did I quote except for de part that it says we were all made in de image n likeness of God n therefore we r all equalls, I den used it to say if we r equals, den no one person shud b overlooked n de other underlooked…..chika wasn’t trying to alienate de Bible here my dear, she was asking us to look beyond Mother Mary’s virginity Bc certainly she was so much more Dan dat, didn’t u think of dat angle? N yes, If u think I am speaking from ignorance, my dear, I hv been a victim of rape actually if u wanted to know n u r right, it was simply Bc at de time, my boyfriend felt de need to excerpt his power over me n abuse me n I know first hand dat it is never a grape victims fault what happened to her, what I was implying is dat some girls n mind u amnnot judging anyone

    • dontmention

      March 6, 2013 at 9:00 pm

      Mind u am not judging anyone but if u can b honest with urself for once, what do u think girls who walk around half named r doing? Are dey not indirectly placing Deir value on de vagina whether consciously or unconsciously? N isn’t dat what in some cases provoke men who rape random women to feel denneed to abuse women or to excerpt useless power over them? Remember I have said, no victim should be blamed for rape and sometimes solving a problem means admitting dat de problem exist in the first place. So u sat n called me judge wen u were the one who was actually judging me n isn’t everyone entitled to their tot or opinions anymore? Have u read de varied comments here my dear?Bc while it was one article we have all read, we r all diff n interpreted it to hav various meaning to de many different us dat exist, so bf u ask me to go learn, I am someone very passionate about dis particular issue n its a cause I started championing few yrs ago abt de importance n value of de girl child esp in Africa, sonmy dear, am pretty verse with de topic at hand and I suggest u address whatever is hugging u so much n thank you,Bc I feel stronger after talking or responding to u…….people like u r those who go behind de Internet bringing others down…..In ur words n in my hollier Dan thou attitude as u put it, I will say a prayer for you @ Damie. God bless you
      Vikkyscreed.blogspot.com

    • Sonia

      March 7, 2013 at 1:40 am

      @dontmention

      So women cause rape by dressing sexy?
      If armed robbers steal from X n kill their children because they have ferraris n porsches then say the kids are too fine n win awards for being smart, is it justified?
      If u don’t know, a rapist is sick. Go n teach ur son to not forcefully sleep with a woman EXCEPT she’s dressed sexy n he can’t help himself. See how retarded that sounds? thts how u sound.

    • Mr_X

      March 10, 2013 at 12:52 am

      I’ve never read anything more “straight to the point” about gender inequality. Not that I’m trying to be sentimental but I think this article has a somewhat “extreme-feminist” side to it. Still very insightful.

  35. Traditionalbay

    March 6, 2013 at 4:49 pm

    please how can i separate my vagina from my body now!!! i feel so so unsettled!…and thanks Chika

  36. Nubianwaters

    March 6, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    A well articulated piece, thought provoking and unsettling indeed.

    Highlighting the ‘vjj’ domination in the context of the Nigerian man leaves one worried some more. Unfortunately,a lot of Nigerian women especially the younger women don’t help the situation; a good percentage of the Nigerian female populace have their self-esteem and validation directly tied to the male & societal acceptance of that which lies beneath their torso hence its overrating! There is more to a woman than two plump lips sandwiched between curvaceous hips! We really do need a drastic paradigm shift as concerning the vagina & all it encompasses.

  37. laolu adekanmbi

    March 6, 2013 at 5:33 pm

    Nice article, some parts were generalised….for instance it could have been better to say In the part of Nigeria that i live in, some men prefer fresh….so fresh they’ll wed a 13 year old. It was wrong to suggest all men prefer 13 year old girls.

  38. nene

    March 6, 2013 at 5:40 pm

    ok, this writer had me at the beginning, then you lost me. you’re talking about separation from the vagina. beauty pageants are one of the things that reduces women to this same vagina, as i don’t get the point of the bikini/underwear part of the show, yet you condemn the hausas/muslims for not wanting the pageant in 2001. isn’t promiscuity and body flaunting a way to attach yourself to your vagina? and thereby make men and people in general only see you for what you have between your legs?

    • Ade

      March 6, 2013 at 6:12 pm

      Well said Nene!

    • Ready

      March 8, 2013 at 1:45 pm

      I disagree with you. Are there pointless beauty pageants? Yes…but I think beauty pageants go beyond body flaunting. When Miss America took out the bikini section, ratings took a dip and people said it was boring…in a way, they’re pandering to the public’s wants. The prizes for these things include academic scholarships and trips around the world to further a cause. Also, most of these contestants are women who are either getting degrees or already are educated; and for most pageants, you must have a cause you were already furthering like an anti-malarial or violence campaign. So to me, getting a platform to advance your life and improve others is tantamount to being tied to your vagina.
      What Muslims did back then was to riot because of a statement made about how even the prophet would appreciate the women, it was sensationalization by the Nigerian media, and as annoying as it can be, it did not warrant all the hullabaloo created.

    • nwanyi na aga aga

      April 9, 2013 at 10:30 am

      The point Nene is making is that their removing their clothes and wearing bikini has nothing to do with intellectual but everything to do with VAGINA! so its a double sword here, you advocate for seperation from vagina yet all you do is flaunt vagina. How confusing?

  39. ahaneku, Joy.

    March 6, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    @sunshine, true talk…. Talk is cheap but who would act first and how will all dese ideologies b erased???it’s one tin to speak and give an opinion and it’s anoda for d ideas dat have been and still remains to b instilled in men to b changed radically!! **sighs long and hard***.. Anyways,, @chika, u make me have dis huuuuuge longing to open a twitter account!! In other words,, niiiiiice delivery!

  40. kemi

    March 6, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    @Nene, I agree with you. this doesn’t have anything to do people’s religions though it is obvious some people have the wrongest ideologies but you are in a way advocating for young girls to do as they wish with their bodies because it is theirs and they rule it. so….they can go on and defile themselves because men are not asked if they are virgins before they get married hence they don’t need to remain virgins for their future husbands. What happened to values our parents instilled in us and now we will raise a generation that believes in promiscuity because Chika said so. am sure the 2 religions don’t support fornication nor adultery. you should have streamlined your writing to the rape/ sexaul abuse issue.

  41. Paris

    March 6, 2013 at 7:33 pm

    i like this article … women around the world need to read this ..Following bella naija has been the best decision i have made on social media. This piece is wonderful .Good job @chika

  42. damilola

    March 6, 2013 at 8:26 pm

    This is great and thoughtfully written. …..

  43. Val E.

    March 6, 2013 at 8:32 pm

    Lovely article! We must understand that the Nigerian society is still dominated by the status of the vagina…from the “Are you a virgin?”-men To “how many men have you slept with?”-men…The only way a difference can be made is for women to train their sons to focus on a woman’s head first and Vagina last. *sigh* Embrace the challenge ladies!

  44. Abdulaziz

    March 6, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    A very incisive and thought-provoking piece, Chika. Weldone! I just hope that my fellow men would heed to this and understand that Ms V is a ‘partner in progress’ (as our politicians would say) for Mr P, and not a lowly tool to be used and dumped, like condom. Personally, I feel Chika has pricked us where it matters most, though deploying her power of sophistry to paint rather hyperbolic grotesque pictures here and there.

  45. Partyrider

    March 6, 2013 at 9:03 pm

    Deep,Wonderful and brilliant article. Best I’ve read in as long as I can remember..

  46. Creamy_Amie

    March 6, 2013 at 11:02 pm

    @ Adaeze and dont mention, I agree with you guys.
    Thank you so much chika for shedding more light on this issue. GOD BLESS U….

  47. Sherri

    March 6, 2013 at 11:53 pm

    Chika,
    very well written!
    fist bump jor!!
    while it’s very easy to blame the males, i submit to you that the issues are deeply rooted in the females.
    who is the primary caregiver? who has the power to mold society?
    females need to stand up and take their responsibilities seriously, and not just go with the flow by accepting the status quo.
    the role of a female is not just to pop babies and look good.

  48. chi-ez

    March 7, 2013 at 2:03 am

    No body ever spoke my mind so eloquetly

  49. Temitope Akinloye

    March 7, 2013 at 3:16 am

    Has anyone thought that it could also be the interpretations we have to religious beliefs in naija and its supposed perception to viewing women as having to be submissive and inferior to men is the fundamental cause of this horrible, horrible culture and approach?

  50. Myvaginarocks

    March 7, 2013 at 5:24 am

    My vagina rocks and I don’t let any one from the male specie take advantage or disrespect that….have been married 8 yrs now and ma hubby knows I expect the same level of commitment to the union like I give…..women the whole change needs to start with us, respect yourself, value yoursel and love yourselves then it defines how the other person treats you…this should reflect in the way you dress, talk to others and what u allow other do to you….that,s y am so annoyed at the way women just tolerate abuse from their spouses and how they have allowed men to use them as only sex objects in the entertainment industry…..it beats me how a guy is singing a song debasing women and u find women in that same video shaking their breast, buttocks simply clad while the guy is fully dressed? I really don’t care how poor u are or how u just wanna make ends meet, they will continue to see us as just vaginas while making nonsense of our intellect…..lastly for those who might be thinking am feminist or I no dey respect my hubby for house Ur wrong…..I submit to him and funny enough I in a very subtle way get all my wishes carried out…..lol…bottom line women please respect and value yourselfs only then will they begin to see u are just more than a vagina…

  51. Ibekwe

    March 7, 2013 at 7:23 am

    Very good article.,,,,,,but looking at it vagina counts and it doesn’t.,,,,as long as you weren’t sexuall abused i think your ability to make choices matter.the writer seemed to antagonise the men folk here but lookin at it i think it all boils down to a matter of choice. I dont think a mother will bring up her daughter to be wayward. I think its the influence of the environment. A girl might grow up with the intention of staying a virgin till marriage but so many tins can make her get disvirgined and it would be her choice. For me personally, i think the vagina shouldn’t be given much reverence. If i man have sex with so many girls and ends up marring a virgin and the girl whom she married knows fully well that he wasn’t a virgin before marriage.,,,,WHY MARRY HIM? Why marry some one who has spoiled himself and now wants to spoil you,,,it doesn’t make common sense.,,,,,being a virgin is a matter of choice.,,whether a virgin or not wat matters is being of good behaviour. A girl who is not a virgin might not necessarily be a bad girl,,,,one who is a virgin can be worse.,,,,The simple truth lies in religion.,,coz religion would let us say it counts but as individual i don’t think it does.,,,,but still one should not be sexually abused ooooo.if i catch you na to castrate you o,,,,,,once again nice article

  52. Yvonne

    March 7, 2013 at 7:29 am

    This article basically summarizes everything I stand for! #Preach Chika Oduah preach! Women love yourselves, love your bodies, protect that body because it is YOURS and nobody should ever ever ever tell you otherwise! #LongLiveTheVagina

  53. Sleex

    March 7, 2013 at 8:56 am

    This article essentially encourages a girl or woman to be a slut or prostitute. What a society Chika Oduah wants to see > high pregnancy & STD rates. Girls & women can now go on using their Vagina to entice men for money or material things. Good good writer. Thanks

    • Mama

      March 7, 2013 at 9:16 pm

      Sleek u really have no sense Walahi? U go school maybe but u be olodo……is Ur brain missing some nuts and screws? Lol…..how did the article encourage women to be sluts or prostitute when all she was doing was looking at societies perspective on the vagina? Sleex u no make the list at all…

  54. Funmie

    March 7, 2013 at 9:35 am

    You sound male Doks. Probably why you feel unsettled…

  55. A.D

    March 7, 2013 at 9:40 am

    I have so much to say about this that I actually have a post on this in my blog
    memoirsofagoodnaijagurl.blogspot.com
    The part that pricks me most is the cheating part, the same men who want ‘fresh’ fish are the same ones using every trick in the book to get their girlfriends who they feel is only a girlfriend material and not a wife material to defile her vagina, and then still look for an unspoiled vagina to marry, wat if all vaginas are defiled.
    Very brilliantly written, wonderful piece.

  56. giggy

    March 7, 2013 at 11:00 am

    🙁

  57. Jay

    March 7, 2013 at 11:23 am

    Hear this :Laolu adekanmbi March 6, 2013 at 5:33 PM

    Nice article, some parts were generalised….for instance it could have been better to say In the part of Nigeria that i live in, some men prefer fresh….so fresh they’ll wed a 13 year old. It was wrong to suggest all men prefer 13 year old girls.

    The generalizations killed the article. Im sorry, but I wont apologize for that.

  58. adeola

    March 7, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    is d writer living in the 1900s or what? In the Nigeria of today, all of those do not exist. Writing becomes BS when fiction is preaented as fact.

    Boys go to school and girls to the market?

    Boys eat meat and girls don’t

    • Mama

      March 7, 2013 at 9:37 pm

      Adeola next time b4 u open Ur mouth ask questions……u thnk cos u have lived all Ur life in Lagos then all is well…..so while u live in that ignorant bubble of urs be aware that a lot of poverty still exist in the rural areas areas and some parents still give preferences to the male child..do u not read? Do u not talk to people? It’s people like u who have lived in the city allur lives and have no idea what goes on around them yet talk rubbish with Ur ignorant selves…..are u aware. Are u aware some men have divorced their wives cos they have only female children? Pls next time before u talk do a brain check….

  59. Queen of Vagina

    March 7, 2013 at 1:19 pm

    I am Queen of Vagina and I have massive cameltoe. Nobody can deny Majela pussy is the best. – the haters

    • Anonymous

      March 8, 2013 at 11:47 am

      See this one. Are you well at all? 🙁

    • Iphie

      March 21, 2013 at 12:43 pm

      lol! walahi she is not well!

  60. Adewale

    March 7, 2013 at 2:57 pm

    Never actually thought of the vjj issue like that but its so true. How did the world start thinking this way? Knockout article.

  61. Asaa

    March 7, 2013 at 3:34 pm

    Chika, you deserve an award for this article! Totally well put together! may God help all the vaginas! Quite a deep one! We need liberation…it’s start with you…us all!

  62. kayode

    March 7, 2013 at 6:13 pm

    Articles like this are only to instill positive thoughts in the majority who are concerned, but it doesn’t always mean the truth. So, to those who are talking about generalisation, well I do not see all these as affecting me, so I wouldn’t say a thing to that, other that what business do I have with a thirteen or fifteen year old girl. Talking about vagina, well I do not see any dignity in your stupid vagina, but I see dignity in you. Like someone earlier commented that it is not only the vagina that makes you, but you make yourself. For example, my own girlfriend is a virgin, and her assistant too is a virgin, but I do not see any dignity in them if they are not intelligent. I have complained many atimes that the way girls dress nowadays quite exasperate me, because I do not see half nakedness as attractive, I see them as devil sent, and that’s what they are. I just know I am different, because a vagina is just a vagina and nothing more, so I don’t see the conventional way. So, it should be reitereated that being a virgin doesn’t make u anything, how about those who are raped? Or those who are not virgins and are godly? And what is it with all virgins will go to heaven? Is that for real?lol heaven ke…I know a virgin who still listens to tuface,dagrin, nicki minaj and so on, is that the justification for heaven?

  63. jade

    March 7, 2013 at 8:08 pm

    @bleed blue, then why pray tell are you still unsettled? Could it be the upfront blatant unabiding attack on the validity of woman as it concerns what is directly between her thighs? Mmmmm?

    • Bleed blue

      March 8, 2013 at 10:32 am

      Sorry, why are you using me to make your point?

      If your personal summary of the article is “the upfront blatant unabiding attack on the validity of woman as it concerns what is directly between her thighs”, then just say so na…abi?

  64. smiley

    March 7, 2013 at 9:30 pm

    Wauw! Very strong article! Loved reading it. It is so to the point. As a girl in a free society (belgium) I am very lucky. I know that and try to help the world as much as I can…
    I live here in Belgium with a Nigerian man… I have to believe that not all Nigerian men are like that, but when I was there, I did see the differences between men and women that no longer exist here. This article is important! Good of you to talk so directly!

  65. jennietobbie

    March 8, 2013 at 2:31 am

    wow. I’m totally in love with this article. 🙂

  66. hansel praise

    March 8, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    insightful.well done

  67. Typical male

    March 8, 2013 at 6:28 pm

    After seriously reading through the article and almost half-laughing and half-gawking at some of the responses, here is my take on it:
    @Chika Oduah: Thank you so much, deep perspective, sound reasoning , not a 100% on stereotyping but massively intelligent write up and u make a point with this contribution, (Judging by the feedback)… u said a lot and mostly provokingly true. Articulate and insanely well-put together…… and we thought Chimamanda Adichie had all the talent…..Well-done and thank you. Looking forward to your book, am already on queue….(wont be complete if i don’t do this:)
    @sweeney: U make dumb look good, please stay away from smart people, you’ll cause massive allergy!
    @Doks: Get a life , probably sprinkling cleaners and flushing toilets !
    @garri: i’ll have to agree you do make quite some valid points, so yeah im aligned.
    @dontmention: “before my vagina, i’m a person ” Spot on !
    @nene: very articulate but here it is.. beauty is beauty and it is to be admired plus it does not automatically translate to a need to “knack it” , its just looseness and indiscipline on our part (men)
    @myvaginarocks: Love the part about the Video divas being half-clad ,looking “ready” sex ‘objectyfying’ themselves, all the while expecting some form of respect… who are we kidding…abi…who be wood?, Regarding ur being submissive..Plz listen..I’m a man, do not stop ….it works !
    @Queen of Vagina : really ? I’m a loss as how to term your comments.. too lacking….
    @sleek: mehn you are slow !!!
    From Me:
    Dear Vagina,
    we love you, we really honestly do, we always have and we almost always will ( i can guarantee), but we ain’t ready to trade our ways to make you king, why should we? when we can have our way with you, as we have always done. You don’t help make it any easier on urself either, nowadays you throw yourself at us with so so much abandon that we don’t anymore have to try, we just sit watch and wait. Someone asked recently “How do you respect someone who do not care for respect” ur answer is as good as my guess. we would like a little more basis to compete, but we aint complaining about the present status, it works for us just fine. But when u are ready dear Vjj , send us a memo, we’ll rewrite the “constitution”, hopefully it will be made intolaw before a couple of centuries is out.
    Yours Sincerely,
    ‘Society’ (mostly Men)

  68. Femi Adebajo

    March 9, 2013 at 11:05 am

    I view the article as a parody of the self-serving misogyny that is rooted in the less rational aspects of our culture and the hypocrisy of the present. The prurient preoccupation with the presence of a hymen, as evidence of ‘purity’, ignores other types of sexual activity that do not involve vaginal penetration as well as hymen reconstruction, not to mention hymenal rupture by physical activity other than sex.

    Male paternalism and chutzpah also conceals the worst kind of hypocrisy that ignores the other side of the equation- male sexual activity. If Church authorities require certification of female virginity before marriage, why does the same stipulation not apply to men? In the absence of physical proof of male chastity, why not require men to swear on the Bible that they are ‘virgins’ and invite the malediction of God for false witness?

    It’s high time we stopped this nonsense and treat all human beings as equal. If female sexual activity is harmful to social mores, then so is male sexual activity, and the same strictures should apply to both sexes. And it is supremely arrogant to suppose that anyone, however long his beard or white his cassock, has the right to tell other rational adults how to live their lives. Both women and men ought to reject this ridiculous imposition by misguided prudes and self-appointed moral guardians.

  69. odogwudozilla

    March 9, 2013 at 12:52 pm

    The author made valid points. The Vagina is probably getting more attention than it deserves. But all these instances the author made are just perversion of the real objectives of vagina reverence. They are exceptions. Bandying them as the rule is mischievous and ultimately counter-productive for the very women the author claims to protect.

    I ask this though: are women really ready to stomach the alternative of “less vagina reverence and attention from men”? Is this another case of the ‘women-are-impossible-to-please theorem’?

    A popular cliche has it that ‘women don’t know what they want, but they want it NOW!

  70. Uche

    March 10, 2013 at 4:00 am

    Please go and do further research on the life of The Blessed Virgin Mary and her married life…

  71. Oyin

    March 10, 2013 at 7:52 am

    The article is well written and provocative, however I believe the key issue is to the mothers that raise both daughters and sons. Something is off mentally when a mother values her sons above her daughters and orients her girls to building their self image on their vagina or virginity or perception of purity. Ultimately women are responsible as mothers, wives, sisters and aunties to raise BOTH young men and women to respect their bodies. A young man who values himself by the size of his penis is just as dysfunctional as the young woman who values herself by her vagina, breast, skintone, etc. It all starts in the mind and mothers (and fathers too) should help shape the next generation to respect their bodies and the God given purity spiritually that naturally translates to the physical and other areas of life. Anyway thank you for beaming a bright light on such a controversial and relevant topic.

  72. chinedu agbo

    March 18, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    Mmmh… the truth revealed. Hope the audience would listen and act. Chika welldone. Daalu

  73. olajide Emmanuel

    March 19, 2013 at 8:52 am

    Thanks Chika,, it’s a wonderful one.

  74. arinze

    March 19, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    blablabla… blunt dou# huge amount of veracity cntained here… bt chika< ur nt promoting modesty… a gurl wuz protectin her vagina coz her mum told her u'll b valued wud likely wanna xploit n a gurl wuz sleepin arnd wiv wu she wnts n yet claims she deserves a gud man has got a -ve corroboration to get on wiv her promiscious spree.. my dear, weda u b man or woman, na u geht ur penis, as well as ur vagina.. a spoilt man wud definetely geht entangled wiv a spoilt woman n odawise… u own ur v which is a living sacrifice to God as encompassed as a member of ur body. women submit ur body to ur man n vivceversa…. u give ur v to anybody n u fink itz o yea itz my v.. sori my dear na ur type guys go stake money 4ur head mk profit… dey wud brag bout dere sexual escapades wen u pass by.. minyle he sed hi to u…gender inequality shd nt b a reason to promote rebellion coz after readin dz, sum gehs wud tell deir mums.. plz i own my body n dnt cntrol me as u used to

  75. Akan X-Imoh

    March 24, 2013 at 1:26 pm

    I soooo much love this…

  76. Vivi

    March 26, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    Hmmmmmmmmm…… The best article I have ever read. Well done Chika!

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  78. Ricky Ade

    March 28, 2013 at 3:37 am

    the truth is that God created the (wo)man for the man, and not the other around. the woman was created as an after thought, for the company (and pleasure) of the man. being a man affords certain privileges, just like being a king. just because we all have one head, two arms and two legs bound to one torso does not necessarily mean we are “equals”.
    men and women will never be equal, so stop this Western brain washed mentality of female liberation. there is no such thing. men will be men, women will be women.
    rather lets us focus on changing certain repressive attitudes towards women like rape, forced labour and prostitution etc.
    no matter how masculine she dresses, ellen degeneres will always be a woman forever. she can never use her genitals to penetrate another woman, she can never impregnate another woman.
    i wish African women would stop patronizing these misfits and their shows. a lot of women in their home country shun them like a plague, but then we Africans are the greatest wannabees. we only copy the vanities, not the honorables.

    • Ricky Ade

      March 28, 2013 at 3:38 am

      the truth is that God created the (wo)man for the man, and not the other around. the woman was created as an after thought, for the company (and pleasure) of the man. being a man affords certain privileges, just like being a king. just because we all have one head, two arms and two legs bound to one torso does not necessarily mean we are “equals”.
      men and women will never be equal, so stop this Western brain washed mentality of female liberation. there is no such thing. men will be men, women will be women.
      rather lets us focus on changing certain repressive attitudes towards women like rape, forced labour and prostitution etc.
      no matter how masculine she dresses, ellen degeneres will always be a woman forever. she can never use her genitals to penetrate another woman, she can never impregnate another woman.

  79. tope fasua

    March 29, 2013 at 4:50 am

    well written article, but it was rather reactionary. if Chika and most of the ladies here take this extreme position, then they have been moving with the wrong men. only bush men insist on things like ‘good women’, ‘virgin’ etc etc. the modern nigerian man has evolved – not ti the level of feminisation as Rudolf claims. i think a centrist approach is better. lets take this slowly. we men don’t have to be extremists or bush, but our women don’t also have to get into the habit of cudgeling is constantly about their rights etc – when in actual fact they have it all. browbeating us into total submission will create monsters, not better men, out of us. chika’s article paints men, especially those who don’t live in america, with a tar brush of barbarism. i reject that paint. she makes it look like the americans have claim to setting moral standards for the world. nothing could be farther from the truth. we may draw attention to the crazy practice of honor killing and the rest, but should not make it look like that is what men are all about. if anything, chika’s article chastises only a minority among men, and this needs to be clearly pointed out

  80. Chuks Ezinwanne

    March 29, 2013 at 1:48 pm

    Miss. Oduah,one doesnt need a Prophet 2 decipher dat u are a FEMINIST….This piece of work is feminist in all ramifications…and guess what?all u achieved is show us u are a feminist.expected better from you

  81. Baba

    March 31, 2013 at 4:49 pm

    Interesting read. One thing though, can’t fault men for desiring fresh girls. A fresh v is inherently more enjoyable than the v that has received multiple impressions, some upwards of 50,000 impressions! Do the maths: Per round, per session, per week, months and years.
    Whereas multiple impressions seem to better the p, same can’t be said of the v.

  82. Ezinne

    April 1, 2013 at 3:49 am

    I just read this on a friend’s facebook account. Quite an interesting piece but for entertainment purposes only. You are a good writer in the sense that you know the right catchy phrases to use and get some spirit moving and the right tenses to use but I think you need more coordination and of course, supporting facts for your argument.

    At some point I was not sure whether I was reading about gender discrimination that is a common issue all over the world or I was reading about cultural practices that believe in proper and specialized home training for women (based on the gender discrimination still) or I was reading about religious practices, particularly Islamic practices pertaining to Women. You have got 3 different issues although all with a common baseline – Gender discrimination all jumbled up and you would be able to get your message out better if you focus more on what you want to talk about.

    I was not too pleased with the Virgin Mary referral, I think you made some shallow comments on that and should please get some more information before you say anymore on that. I am not a Theologian but I have done a bit of theological studies and I can categorically tell you that you are wrong on that. If you need more information, I can help you.

    Finally, the V does count. Oh yes it does, BUT for what it represents, not the piece of flesh, I dont know who takes that for dinner. I know Islamic religion has a beam light on that and that is the reason you have the issues like the Iran incident you presented above but also fundamentally, it was there in the Qur’an to encourage the spirit of chastity and holiness which every other religion and every culture that recognises morality as a fundamental requirement to societal harmony and unity preaches. Its a shame that some people are shallow enough to focus on symbols like having the hymen in place instead of deep rooted morals but that does not mean morality should be done away with. So what we have going on in our world is: If a woman is a virgin but she hangs out with all the bad boys in all the bad clubs and people see her and she wears skimpies and trash clothing, she would still get looked at like a prostitute and be treated with contempt. The society or her family even do not wait to write her off after they’ve stuck their fingers into her. Its not the Hymen my dear or the Vagina, or Labia that counts. Its the morals or the lack of morals that the society attacks. The men that come back to Nigeria to take a “Good wife” do not go sticking their fingers to see who’s hymen is still intact, that is gross. So focus on battling on why women should receive a specialized grooming for their husbands instead of writing about virginity because that is a very minor part of the big problem eh. My 2 cents…

  83. Yinka Akintunde

    April 2, 2013 at 10:09 am

    Wonderful literary skill by the writer, thought provoking challenge to everyone not to see the women fold as a piece of article for gratification and use.
    Nevertheless, why the HYMEN? If who does go in and when and how the house is entered is of no consequence and absolutely insignificant, why put the door to gate the treasure within in the first place?
    Just asking, lest the flip side of the article kicks in and a reader thinks chastity is no more a virtue to be cherished and extolled.
    In as much as male folks lack such anatomical landmark, I believe God allowed our precious women to have such in order to underscore what and who is worth bleeding for. The negative impacts of wrong coital activities is far reaching on a girl than her male conterpart; not excusing the boys by any means though.
    Just adressing the lee way of imbalance for a possibly undiscerning reader who might want to throw all cautions to the wind. If it’s precious, then treasure it.

    • nwanyi na aga aga

      April 9, 2013 at 10:46 am

      Yinka yours is the best analogy i have ever met. Why the Hymen? Why the Hymen? And you reply cos our creator wanted us to know who to bleed for and who not to? Imagine a world were all these women clamoring for their great vagina treated their vagina like they treat their bank accounts and life savings? Who will be calling who bad? who will be looking for fresh people? will all not be fresh? male and female? Imagine a situation were all these women taught their sons and brothers how to respect women? Who will be disrespecting who? thats why feminism shenanigan does not get to me. Because we women are our biggest problems. There is a saying ‘The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world’ but how can we rule the world when we are busy following another woman’s husband, teaching our sons and younger brothers that all they need is money to buy over any woman, teaching our daughters that their vagina is for sale at the highest bidder. Yet we scream men are our problem. please……

  84. Stellamaris

    April 2, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    Wonderfl,God bless,i hope ds goes as far as it can 2 change d mind-set of most Nigerian men nd even some women

  85. tee

    April 3, 2013 at 6:54 pm

    i think this is a brillant piece

  86. Abdallah

    April 4, 2013 at 12:43 pm

    Well…, I still believe that a woman’s greatest enemy is her fellow woman. Your true life story from Iran confirms that.

  87. teeteewright

    April 12, 2013 at 11:59 am

    i dont get the gist of this article..are young girls still shy on their private organs in Nigeria? *confused face*

  88. Robert Munyui Kamunyu

    January 23, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    THE BUTCHERS OF WOMANHOOD- FGM ( THE COVENANT OF THE FLESH). When God told Abraham to sign the covenant of the flesh, he circumcised all the male children and he was circumcised. The message was direct and in plain language. GENESIS 17: 1-27. The agreement was strategically initiated and the male child grew beholding daily his agreement with God at every call of nature throughout his married life. The covenant of the flesh for a man is with ease to behold with no ill feelings or regrets without medication required afterwards in life. When God told Moses that the Children of Israel shall not circumcise girls, the message was well understood and was given in a spiritual language which bears two warnings Leviticus19:29-29. The Israelis parents shall not sexually mutilate daughters and fathers we commanded not have carnal knowledge (incest) of daughters making them prostitutes. Fgm prostitution is a prime satanic sacrifice for a woman, of secrecy with miseries and constrains of disgrace to behold accompanied by many cases of traumatic child delivery requiring medication. Fgm sin of crime of honor humiliation for womanhood persists for many girls globally. There is no open fold of a foreskin in a sexual organ of a woman to cut round that hides dirty stuffs that stinks. There are no undue growths that warrant cutting and scrapping in her sexual organ. There is no part of her sexual organ that rots as she grows old from childhood. Those who justify fgm benefits in any form are mare agents of satan in sheep skin. There are blunt lies of those women anointed by satan to propagate fgm when they claim women that are not cut stinks. Homes ,cities and countries where fgm is not practiced would have been stinking hell if their claim is true which would have been an open truth known by all. The devil is the father of lies and his accomplished do the falsehood. Fgm falsehood taught has remained guarded and guided in shrewd cover up of honored falsehood in fgm justification. If fgm has any level of cleanness then cleanness and holiness have lost reference value to some parents and men. There is Divine Holiness that belongs to children of God and Christians must know the truth to be free from being trapped in greatly justified fgm falsehood taught ,Ephesians4:11-14 Fgm is the most horrible heart breaking tribute to satanic sacrifice in parenthood accepted and appreciated by many communities. They have given parents prime choice of terror in fgm prostitution castration curse positive face value with wholesome none existent cleanliness which is mockery to wisdom and Word of truth unearthed today in plain language regarding the tear of the helm of womanhood in fgm. Fgm classified evils and justified heinous atrocities held by elites are the hard issues of formidable sin of horror of honor firmly held in terror that reign on globally for many girls which many parents are unable to do away with in life in satanic cultural sacrifice justification. Can parents live to deliver dignified Holy honor to a girl child or they access and assert a girl child is sexually demonically born wild thus the need to sexually tame her in fgm the fruit of cultural atrocities and honored cultural religious prostitution castration.
    Today those women who favor crippling the heartbeat of womanhood in fgm and in fear of their marriages endangered under attack by unfolding truth on falsified physical and spiritual beneficial issues acclaimed in fgm, all they have is to keep their husbands mentally caged in epic cultural lies and remain relevant to their husbands without divine knowledge. Today it will be double tragedy for girls who have undergone fgm when men change their sexual orientation in favor of girls without the evil cultural cut. Even when some advocate for not cutting much for her benefits and the husband benefit ,this vindicate the opening door of intended sexual deprivation and suppression for the girl child bearing all the shortcomings of fgm. When some women vouch for safe mother child delivery, the devil is in front with others women in destroying the very gate way of safe mother child delivery system in fgm making the sexual organs of girls the arena of social morality without iota of remorse. Parents pay homage to satan in fgm. In old days old women who had undergone fgm used to pass direct messages to young men initiates that a woman once she grows old the man if he wants and wishes to marry another woman he should do so and not disturb her. It was clear message for the young men that past child bearing age they were not readily available for their husbands at their matrimonial bed. It were as though women were more for procreation value only. If uncircumcised was married, they called for her circumcision since she was sexually like a strong magnet to their husband and they needed him less of her. At a time in life when economic reality and faith in God turned men away from cultural way of live, some women left the matrimonial abode. Was it a secret? No. During the transformation and the transition period for the Christianity , the effects of abandoning polygamous marriages for Christians were clear evidence known. Women spent time to visit their married children and left the husbands abandoned alone. It was a sacrifice the early Christian husbands who were in monogamous marriages had to bear. The clergy would call women not to leave husbands behind. The matrimonial issues affecting the women due to fgm were put under the carpet for the deserving wises parents to discern. Women were literally running away from their matrimonial homes. Some women ended in unexplained controversial marital conflicts with husbands in their old age for men ended in undue marital frustrations. This brought the impetuous for the wise deserving Christian parents to abandon fgm prostitution castration carnage. Women in polygamous marriages passed the burden of fgm prostitution castration generation curse to young married women. Parents virtually determine the full aspiration of satanic goals in fgm honor.
    Fgm destroys the natural glorious lustrous beauty of womanhood which men are able to note today. During fgm initiation ceremonies, immoral cultural songs are accepted and openly sang for a satanic banquet. Fgm remains the formidable honorable sin of choice favored by many parents globally enslaved by satan. Let men love those ladies who have under gone the awful risk of unkind cut in Christ’s Love that bonds on love. Let those ladies not condemn themselves . Let them abound in dignified liberty that is in Christ Jesus and enjoy full life and do away with satanic barbaric fgm for their daughters. Fgm castration is done without Divine dignity for womanhood but more hedged on man’s satanic sexual superiority sort endeavors in perfecting horror of justified atrocities in fgm. The devil has his own even among the smart elites in every society that will justify various forms of fgm atrocities at religious and medical levels at all costs. Falsehoods based on fgm evils clarified and justified by elites are the hardest issues to deal with and come out of them in life. Fgm is a demonic act associated with the existent of parenthood and the devil who has given it a religious backing a cover up of deceptive acceptance in destroying the bridge of womanhood. There are women who have undergone fgm and they hold and tell the bear truth on issues based on fgm. May God Almighty shower them with blessings of fortitude of grace to forbear the deprivations done in fgm. In fgm prostitution persecution castration parents are engaged in a clear active respectable satanic open sacrifice. They indulge themselves in orgy of mutilating the very womanhood of their own girl child for none existing morality for God. Fgm is the smart satanic strategic morality sacrifice hidden tragically and endorsed by many parents across all social status around the world. Parents have their own zeal of faith in fgm and have established their own righteousness not according to righteousness of God in the knowledge of his Word. Roman 10:1-4. Parents spearhead the immoral act in fgm which is a covenant of flesh and blood with satan for society morality acceptance whereby girls loose the natural thread and tread of lustrous beauty of womanhood to satan. Many fathers are bonded and bound by it and sink to abyss of solemn silence even when children and youth raise a protest the battle of minds against the terror of fgm castration persecution. Satan has for generations perfectly cushioned fgm in many families parenthood which is un institution of tender care and love as the acceptable way of life. It is the time Satan tragically prevails in honor in parenthood. Fgm is the parental dear paradox regarding girls chastity at their approved sexual disability for the girls. On fgm sin enslavement , fathers play the pivot role in sexually crippling their daughters behind the scene having been entangled and snared by Satan as it were with Eve and Adam in garden of Aden. There are parents comfortably settled down on mutilating their young girls for community social acceptance and honor at families managed altar of satan. This defeats any iota of holy love and care for the girl child under felony of fgm, bawling for mercy when heaped on her shoulders empty promises bearing the burden of the family and the society morality placed on her very womanhood in the heinous destructive fgm operation of honor.
    In fgm operation, parents are heartless and lack ornaments of a holly heart. The formidable focused aggressive force against womanhood in fgm from her very parent is beyond many girls ability to withstand as the gilrl child is dispossessed of her womanhood. The mother’s love towards her girl child, in change of events is full of momentarily intimidation to her uncut state seen as unclean . They are faithful dependable apostles and ministers of satan bound in perpetuating fgm who taunt young girls on their uncut status which is a state of social mental torture for some hard to bear. Finally some face the martyrdom of womanhood in fgm for demonic cultural purity cleansing acceptance . To them, immorality is put to an end. The devil’s strike on womanhood is immortalized in a cultural religious ceremony given a cover up of wholesome acceptance by elders present us custodian pillars of demonic cultural sexual slavery. No earthly education and knowledge can save un ill-fated girl child from fgm with satanic fgm supper elites supporters beside her who have institutionalized women and their sex organs as the center of all evils on earth. It takes two to tangle. Men should stop having holy than though attitude and stop back setting all evils to womanhood in order to justify fgm as Adam did in the Garden of Aden when he blamed God and Eve for his sin. The filth of fgm honor is in the hands of parents and men. Men ought to seek holiness and all cleanness in Divine state. Fgm is a wrong and a sin on earth and in heaven. There is a narrow highway for Christian to follow in righteousness. There is no love or justice in fgm. Men have sought satanic refuge in fgm for their weak incompatible immoral sexual stand. In fgm, men’s protracted fear of women sexuality in Divine order is waged in fgm atrocities. They assert that God is wrong for providing girls with more active evil sexual organs not equal to men and the demonic mission of taming girls and women sexually is hatched by men for satanic cultural immoral quest for righteousness in God. Effectively men who support fgm have morally justified themselves as sexual weaklings before God and women. Thus many parents and men have stayed their morality faith in God in the sexual organs of girls and women under fgm which is demonic and abnormally absurd. Fgm has remained the satanic sacrifice sought by men for their sexual immorality prowls as many girls are dignified in fgm cultural castration atrocities. This is the scaring tragedy of satanic sacrifice and worship by some parents in Christian Churches which its existence is hard for many to believe. The Church should not give parents any form of cover up in regards to brutal realty in fgm castration atrocities nor subject them to any kind of humiliation as we stand firmly wholly against fgm in Christ’s love. Fgm satanic sacrifice stands out engrained in great honor in hearts of parents among Christians. Confession of a pastor and of a man well above 75 years old that Christian men not married to mutilated women do not know the frustrations and suffering they undergo sexually having mutilated women is mind baffling and heart humbling.
    Love cannot fathom the era of zeal outburst in fgm prostitution castration ordeal that ravage the garden of love and joy enhanced in agony of cultural honor by parents account in chopping and tearing the helm of womanhood. What is left is a figure of womanhood. In fgm operation, parents are heartless and lack ornaments of a holly heart. Fgm heinous act defines parents more in demonic world of culture gripped by satan but not in God. Some parents are hell bent in propagating fgm to a point of performing fgm to newborn girls. They are faithful dependable apostles and ministers of satan bound in perpetuating fgm with willing evil hands . Parents and close relatives continuously taunt young girls on their uncut status which is a state of social mental torture for some hard to bear. Finally some face the martyrdom of womanhood in fgm for demonic cultural purity cleansing acceptance. To them, immorality is put to an end. This is the awesome chosen sin of willful destruction in fgm of honor by parents in propagating the grave yard of womanhood. This defeats real love and wisdom. Satan hedge footstool is amicably established in fgm by some parents in a prime sin of choice of honor in depriving sexual joy from a girl child with no remorse. Girls who face the evil cut become prostitutes on altar of satan sadly without their consent which pollutes the land. Magicians and witches in the world do not make girls prostitutes. But parents by subjecting girls to fgm make them prostitutes and are worse than them. Parents have soiled their hands in fgm honorary .Humanity has been subject to satanic celebrated sacrifice in fgm prostitution beyond imaginations in many families among generations. The evil cutting is done in honor of the dead. Leviticus 19:28-29. This type of prostitution cannot be cleansed in marriage life . She bought her prostitution with her flesh, bone and blood on altar of Satan while still In her flower age when facing all evil forces under her parental care. Unless she gets saved (call upon the blood of CHRIST to cleanse her.John3:16-18, Isaiah1:18) she shall go to her grave a prostitute . Thus there were no sexual mutilations among the Israelis women. Parents zeal uphold the present atrocities in fgm sexual cultural slavery even when in Christian Churches. The value of fgm virginity by parents is purely demonic.
    The Girl child was bought up in divine order leaving the petals and stay of love intact for a beloved wise husband core co-benefits. She remained a garden fenced , a spring shut up and blessed in sealed divine state. A woman to man she is a garden and a fountain. The man plants a seed and a child grows in the womb and is born. The man quench his marital thirst with her in shared joy for woman is a keeper at home. A fountain with a cover has more flesh safe water than uncovered well. A fenced garden has a defense and is a safe comfort. Song of Solomon 5:1-2. Song of Solomon 4:12, Proverbs 5:18-19. The banner of love is at even state over the garden of love at Divine state when his hand lands at the garden of love to prop it up undisturbed as the king of marriage mark and flag the fleshy coals for un intimate marital relationship in common joy. Song of Solomon 2:2-5. Man is instructed by God not to be immoral or do any severe harm to his wife of his youth and give her conjugal wrights and benefits in shared joy as one body in common control. Malachi2;12-17. 1 Corinthians7:1-5. The devil has vested harbored honorable demonic powers to some parents to permanently control and deform girls sexual organs in fgm castration atrocities before marriage for demonic chastity status acceptance which leaves man sexually morally dry and at a loose. Circumcision in man does not destroy his body integrity and his sexual ability articulation base remains intact ready for joy. Fgm remains a deadly liability to girls’ spiritual and physical live. Nothing more satisfying against fgm than hearing present generation of fathers say that they will never allow their daughters to be mutilated and forfeit their marital joy. Fgm lacks Godly Holy Spiritual integrity of parents and reflects men dedicated atrocities on womanhood with no compassion for womanhood. The issue of Christian men against fgm is not an affront confrontation on wives measure to sexual expectation of their husbands but a reality. A woman is not only a woman by her looks but by her Divine sexual prospects based integrity bestowed upon her that are destroyed in satanic shrines of fgm . In fgm, a girl child is widowed of her womanhood for satanic cultural cleansing. Open Christian discussion on marital issues have resulted on elderly Christians men confessing clearly they have difficult love relationship with women who had gone fgm. When the redemption and sanctification of men is completed from spiritual poverty and slavery in fgm, girls who had the evil cut will be socially disadvantaged. Christian men do not put any Christian value to fgm. In Christian meetings women become agitated and extremely restless to present of husbands during fgm eradication teachings. If fgm had any value to their husbands, they would not resent husbands being present. Men must remain mentally culturally caged to fgm slavery for women to maintain safely cultural polygamous marriages. To end fgm, it requires full engagement of men in open discussion to put to a worthless dead end required perceived fgm cultural atrocities benefits by men in marriages . Fgm remains sacrilege to womanhood.
    Does it require governments to ban fgm for parents to realize they commit grave honorable abomination in fgm? Can parents understand that fgm from its conception and inception was a crime against womanhood in nature? Up to when will parents linger on honorable fgm prostitution castration of young girls? In Church of Christ, ever where parents force their daughters to face the evil cut, the parents having given the devil the first sacrifice should not be ashamed to remove the blanket of etiquette and prepare their daughters to play wives (incest) to their husbands to give the devil a complete sacrifice. Let mothers who say daughters are brave enough to face the evil cut have the final honor and have the daughter brave enough to meet fathers at the conception beds and give satan a due complete sacrifice without sanction. The community should not judge fathers as evil if they did not judge fathers as evil for allowing the evil cut on their daughters. It is not a greater evil than the first sacrifice. Fgm is an insult and assault to womanhood by parents. Let parents pride themselves in complete evils. The petals and stay of love are left strewn at altars of Satan. The sparkles of love cannot be rekindled. In natural world a door is provided for knocking before entry and an aerial is provided for effective communication so is the same for the girl child body by nature. Fgm prostitution is not done for the love of the girl child .This is misconception of love. There is no barbaric action done in love. Fgm prostitution is done when the sex organ of a girl child is viewed as a source of all immoralities and a center of all evils that engulf a community to satisfy men honored demonic cultural sexual whims. It is done as satanic sacrificial proactive cleansing of a society from immoralities. They view mutilated sex organ of a girl child as clean and holy thus up rifting it’s status to satanic reverence.
    Love does not seek its own benefits, 1Corinthians 13:1-13. Prostitutes made by parents in fgm prostitution are honored and encouraged . Us no man can miss the mouth even when eating in total darkness, so shall man falter in search of the marital coals removed in sexual mutilation how foolish he is. From the family parliament man becomes a slave of satan . Fgm prostitution keeps man out of natural way of life in marriage .Song of Solomon 2:6-7. After fgm is done there are no boughs for man to hold since the woman was subjected to sexual excavation and torture of honor in fgm rampage by satan . Song of Solomon 7:1-8. Girls subjected to fgm is a reflection of man’s moral decay which leaves fgm atrocities flying back to his face. Men must decide and channel their spiritual morality command zeal for God eventually sealed in great dignity of personal love for God and not stayed in fgm. In fgm prostitution castration ceremonies parental authority is enhanced and preserved in funding sustained satanic professional priests black bloody economic proceeds.
    When the wife at the family parliament loses esteemed value to her husband due to fgm , all that pertains to the family losses value to him and this is the widest wild gate for the man that leads to lack of burden of responsibility for the family that opens the highway of family destruction by the devil. Even higher university education may not save a girl child in hands of parents gripped by satan in fgm slavery. Fgm lays social foundations for unstable marital lives. Parents are highly entrenched in prostitution with their girl child. When in demonic world parents say fgm prostitution makes a girl child clean but God says she defiled and made a prostitute. Fgm remains the annual mass overwhelming celebrated parental satanic human sacrifice for the mankind under cover of social morality ever witnessed. Ironically these parents are active in the Church who shoulder burdens for the church but with continuous unresolved marital problems a dilemma to the clergy. They are workers of Satan who have camouflaged as believers in the Church of Christ. How do they differ from magicians and witches ? Fgm prostitution castration remains the coveted sin of choice by many parents for a satanic sexual morality held in deceptive assault, insult and abuse of a girls sexual integrity held in cultural cerebrated religious manner. They pollute the land in prostitution and the land becomes full of all evils. How can a father be obsessed with the sexual organ of his daughter as a bearer of holiness in the mutilated state? It is hypocritical for him to be in a place where GOD is worshiped. Why should parents be obsessed to place the family uprightness and the country holiness in the mutilated sex organ of their girl child? After fgm is done ,the girl child is highly esteemed and it is a demonic cover up of the plight of evils done. The underworld of unlimited miseries in fgm thrives with stubborn mothers energetically engaged in executing fgm in disguise for their daughters love which leave fathers subdued, desolated and disoriented when mothers declare that they cannot stand having uncut girls beside them when satan rule supreme in womanhood. Where are the wise loving brothers to stand up without fear that will not feast and cerebrate when their dear sisters are sacrificed to satanic under world in fgm prostitution castration by their own parents? Fgm was authored in Egypt by Pharaoh as Satanic sacrifice to increase pain and wailing in child birth . The fleshy sexual coals are excavated leaving her frigid and rocky thus denying her for live time Divine marital gift which she requires in marriage for a lively marital relationship with her husband. How stupid a man may be, by instinct a man will falter in search of the fleshy coals removed in fgm thus leaving him at moral loose for unfulfilled marital mission not achievement which may end up in frustrations and unusual marital conflicts. The fleshy coals are provided for the benefits of their marriage life. 1Corithians7: 9. The fleshy coals help a woman in marriage to lock in emotionally with her husband in a cordial cushy marital sexual relationship. Some parents send their daughters far away to close relatives for retrogressive fgm as a cover up without the girl child knowledge of the adverse side effects on her body and spirit. The onus of fgm prostitution castration atrocities is more in parents hands held captive by culture as the power house of demonic oppressive honored culture.
    Today, knowledgeable granddaughters are running away from grandparents and aunts since they hold the mutilating blades of tear and terror of horror for their bodies. Wise parents are shielding their daughters from them. Paul told Timothy not to listen to old women unholy stories. This they call breakdown of extended families ties which brethren in Christ are ready to uphold for their faith in God .The spiritual and physical integrity of their daughters remain intact. The shedding of the blood and flesh of their daughters in honoring satanic sacrifice in fgm they cannot allow it us the uniting bonding force for the extended families unity. Their faith in Christ breaks the yoke of satan. It is quite evident parents are under blind cultural moral slavery siege and ready to sacrifice their daughters in Fgm at demonic alter of cultures for community social acceptance but they are an eye sore before God for performing this type of heinous prostitution. Fgm is more of rottenness of morals for the man as the head of the family. How would parents commit their daughters to Fgm so us someone can have food for the mouth calling it their trade of life? How could someone say it was done in honor of religion where God is mentioned and the clergy exist? How will girls ever be compensated after the evil trade of forced fgm is abandoned while their mutilated sexes organs remain and the wounded soul and spirit cry to God Almighty. Young girls desperation explode without relieve in dying hope when the devil in his status establish authority over her body in fgm. Her fate in fgm is firmly sealed by her own very parents in stunning atrocities of honor held together by grandparents and aunts us bedrock of fgm prostitution castration cause in the society. Many parents are still committed and stuck in wilderness of demonic cultures though in institutions of Godly worship. Even from time of old women can perform all types of evils counting on their husbands support. Israelis women in the Bible told Jeremiah the Prophet that the sacrifices they offered to queen of heaven they did so with the support and knowledge of their husbands. Jeremiah 44:15-22. Even today women who force their daughters to undergo fgm count on their husbands full support. They confirm their husbands are part of Satanic sacrifice performed on their daughters in fgm when they disregard Godly advice and truth concerning fgm. It is the time parental love and care are nonexistent as the girl child is raised on alter of Satan for sexual excavation in fgm thus dethroning her from her very womanhood with full parental honor and the pleas by young girls for justice fall to deaf ears. The coveted cultural benefits and rights in fgm are left in the hands of parents who become cultural heroes out of fgm crime as the girl child is merchandised at the altar of Satan leaving her empty handed bearing all adverse severe effects and defects in her body and spirit for the lest her life time. For how long will parents hold this form of prostitution dear to their bosom for earthly respect ,honor and social acceptance? Is it that before God our beloved parents are not aware they are in a cerebrate honored prostitution with their daughters in fgm or they are stiff necked? The earth is annually drenched with the innocent blood of young girls and the seed of terror of evils is planted and established by parents in honor. Who will pull out parents stuck in the wilderness of demonic illustrious cultures with love and care in order for them to overcome satanic tall order in fgm high window seat?
    Fgm is in the bosoms of parents and the community at large. It all boils down to communities morals social rottenness. The battle fields of double faiths range in their hearts and they fail terribly to test faith in God. GOD is not a respecter of persons and you cannot modify evils committed by parents to less evils to look upright. No form of gm is acceptable before God. To think you can subject girls to less invasive form of fgm is spiritually deceptive and not acceptable . Where Man circumcision involve removal of an open fold of the fore skin by cutting round the foreskin , fgm involves massive dense muscles cutting removal with high concentration of sensitive network nerves and soft bone removal which leaves a woman sexually excavated and crippled out phase with man. Her bone left in the air to dry like dead wood. This is not circumcision. It is Sexual excavation and rip of womanhood to the hilt. Let have fathers who can stand for God with their families when the lest rebel against God. Joshua 24:14-15.The greatest force behind fgm are fathers and young men. It is heart breaking to hear women say if it were not of demands by fathers and young men behind the sin they will not do it. In fgm parents break the spiritual and physical integrity well-being of their daughters. It is all known some men dare not speak against fgm for it propel them to social political powers. The parents and the whole families supports are crucial to them thus they endear themselves us champion of fgm bearer as a cultural heritage bedrock. Their enthronements to social powers are fueled by blood and flesh of young girls sacrificed to satan in fgm thus weakening laws passed to ban fgm crime the sin of honored celebrated atrocities. The thought of a woman having an open foreskin in her sexual organ is a demonic falsehood after thought by sadist men and satan intended to legitimize fgm under all costs. There is no fold of un open foreskin in a girl child’s sex organ. Which man would ever leave part of his bone cut to dry in the air like dead wood? After Fgm is done ,there are no bows left for man to hold. Song of Solomon 7:8 .NO blood should be spilled in Fgm. Leviticus 19:28-29. God purposed a woman to enjoy sex in marriage life and the husband to mark the coals in his joy endeavors for her sexual joy. No human being should play God to her life even her parent. Song of Solomon 2:2-5. Sexual joy is Divine given to her and parents have no rights in sexually crippling her in cold blood . Do not give parents a soft landing ground in their evils adventures by making them acceptable knowledgeable social criminals. The youths of today face great moral social battles against fgm which is a must win goal since they are blessed and enlightened with abundant interactive active knowledge concerning ills of fgm. They must not allow themselves to be engulfed in a cocoon of hypocritical suffering in fgm culturally mounted in rooted demonic cultural sexual atrocities in fgm which make the lustrous glory of womanhood to fade away faster. In fgm men must know that the devil has invaded the sanctuary of marriage and defiled the fountain of marriage by sharing a wife in fgm with satan. Fgm is no longer a trivial issue for the girl child since it has adverse effects on man in Christian marriage life style. There is a natural drive for man to prop up the garden of love and enjoy in divine state which is never taught even in cultural initiations. When men discover that they are twice outwitted by satan in scheduled sharing a wife in fgm with satan ,it would end fgm social upheavals.
    The Royal Priesthood of Jesus Christ should not be spiritually comfortable when fgm satanic crafted sacrifice is not sideshow or walk over by parents which is destabilizing the Church of Christ in well-organized underground demonic manner globally. The hidden seasoned ills resulting from fgm satanic rituals atrocities are hostile to Christian marriages globally. Fgm is satanically tooled for cultural polygamous marriages slavery embodiment. Today in Church of Christ even women who claimed fgm was part of their culture won’t like to hear their husband can go back to polygamous marriages. The highly educated woman with fgm inclination support do not add polygamous marriage to her life style. The worst enemy to a woman remains a woman with honored satanic affinity life style and stands who lure women to satanic world. Women give birth and they face life threating challenges men will never under go. Fgm support should go hand in hand with polygamous marriage which has pillars in fgm. Men know about it. You either support fgm and leave free your husbands to un adulterous promiscuous life style and dream not of having monogamous Christian marriage. Let those women who support fgm support polygamous marriage and call it their culture under attack. Women deserve to be understood for their unspoken in depth fear of unstable families which can result from husbands resenting being fooled in satanic fgm sacrifices . We call husbands to maintain and love wives in Christ’s love. The Church has to deal firmly against fgm satanic sacrifice wrap in cultural religious honor.
    Man has a natural sexual desire at play with a bride at divine natural state of womanhood . Men must assert final authority against fgm in face of taunting incredible forces of demonic honored cultures. There is nothing more annoying than hearing in Christian discussion in place of worship of a learned uncouth sadist man declare that the clitoris which is well above the virginal opening obstruct man in intercourse. Nothing more unkind to truth than falsehood unearthed in fgm foul evil act by using truth in plain language only to be declared fouls course language by those who have holy than thou attitude. They view naked truth that can eliminate fgm overnight as a threat to their cash cow as fgm fighters. They black list truth as dangerous to their trade pretending it hurts more those who had the evil cut. This is the way the devil fights back. Those who teach the truth about fgm are not for character assassination. It is a an agonizing hair raising sensational experience encounter with a learned ardent fgm cultured man heaving angrily for an almost physical confrontation with those who are opposed to fgm prostitution castration on defenseless innocent young girls.
    In the Church of Christ, let fathers not exercise the dead terror of silence which has allowed satan to raid and rain terror on young girls in fgm. Let fathers stand up for the divine rights of their daughters in marriage. Where Christian mothers pride themselves in fgm , let them have their husbands know their daughters before they pass on from earth as the final functional triggered banquet for satan without sanction. This will give satan the deserved complete sacrifice . Parents owe their sons in laws lifetime gratitude for agreeing to marry their daughters whom they sexually assaulted, muted and sexually crippled. God has never asked parents to sexually cripple their daughters so as to remain virgins and holly. Is holiness attained by sexually crippling a girl child acceptable to God purposes for her live destiny entity? No! There is holiness that pertains to children of God. Fgm is direct mitigated assault and insult to her real womanhood benefits. The sex organ of a girl child cannot be manipulated through sexual mutilations as a gate way for man to heaven. Parents owe their daughters a life time apology for their inhuman acts which robbed them their divine marital gifts. Parents who force their daughters to undergo Fgm exercise the most dignified unreserved beastly cultural atrocities on the girl child with man child at the receiving end as beneficially in marriage. Parents owe their sons in laws lifetime gratitude for agreeing to marry their daughters whom they sexually assaulted, sexually muted and sexually crippled. God has never asked parents to sexually cripple their daughters so as to remain virgins and holly. Is holiness attained by sexually crippling a girl child acceptable to God purposes for her live destiny entity? Where God has created for the man a luxurious marital hotel between two sewerage systems, the increase of fistula complications due to fgm will leave man taking the marriage supper in sewerage blinded in fgm honor.
    Fgm remains the tested brutal cultural yard stick for girls sexual excavation in honored cultural morality preservation goals. The livelihood of devil’s priest in fgm is enhanced by parents with no remorse. Parents who perform the grand satanic sacrifice of fgm are sources of families marital instabilities and of great evils to the land. When their daughters face marital problems originating from their family parliaments, they offer themselves as prayer partners with their daughters before God interceding for stability and peace for their families. They do not count themselves as the cause of the marital problems affecting their daughters marriage, for they remain acceptable social criminals in life for breaking and dismantling the defense and the fences of the marriage courts in fgm. The grandmothers and aunts are in a more canning defensive hypocritical state buying time for their daughter to bring up girls just to storm in unto them demanding sex mutilation mayhem as an exercise of honor for them to behold. Paul told Timothy not to heed unholy stories from old women. 1Timothy4:7. In such deceptive manner unfortunately the cycle of demonic fgm prostitution repeats itself all again. Do they ever learn anything destructive in fgm or they are spiritually blind folded as they abound more in prayers? Fgm remains the most horrible trap of agony for the girl child ever chosen by parents for perceived benefits for the man child in marriage life . A foolish woman destroys her own house with her own hands Proverbs14:1-2. Some say fgm is done by parents out of love which is hypocritically wrong. Let parents face the truth and know that they demonize the sex organs of their girls in Divine state as sexually wild and source of immoralities in the society thus the need for them to castrate their girls in all forms of fgm to gain control over their sexuality. They should not be redeemed from fgm shameful carnage act in cover up of disguise of an act of love for the girl child. The realization of distraught mistrust brought by fgm between parents and some of their intelligent daughters has brought some on a mission to salvage parents in fgm castration atrocities as un act of love to safely salvage daughters to parents tainted sore relationship. Intelligent inquisitive girls have taken into tusks parents for their beastly act in fgm. Christians women who had the evil cut orchestrated by mothers are not thanking them in their old age for sacrificing their womanhood to satan . Mothers in their old age have only to respond that they were not aware that they were committing sin and atrocities for an act of fgm that is so brutal and cruel. This has put parents at crossroad of faith as they dare affirm they performed the beastly fgm atrocities in love of their culture but cannot associate fgm with the Church of Jesus Christ. Children should live in peaceful harmony in love with their parents but not bound in satanic sacrifices. It all sum up in fgm to bane of contention concealed in deceptive manner of honor sort out by parents in girls sexuality from birth to marriage live in a religious manner. Events of fgm evil acts are purposely determined for cultural sexual purification castration for girls. The devil is always behind this deceptive allusion in fgm act as a Godly requirement acted by parents in love. Parents have reacted as an act of undressing them into open public shame to brethren who have told them of their abomination in fgm before God . We care for them spiritually in love of Christ that calls for repentant and reconciliation to their daughters. Where is even the spiritual virginity of girls mutilated by men in martyrdom of womanhood? There are tares and wheat in the field of fighting fgm. You cannot miss Judas Iscariot in the field. Tares have intertwined roots with wheat. Let them grow together lest you uproot wheat together with tare . God is delivering victory against fgm with the remnant faithful few who do not worry about their own honor and stomachs. In Church of Christ, ever where parents force their daughters to face the evil cut, the parents having given the devil the first sacrifice should not be ashamed to remove the blanket of etiquette and prepare their daughters to play wives (incest) to their husbands to give the devil a complete sacrifice. Let mothers have the final honor and pride themselves in remaking the conception beds of their daughters and prepare their husbands to know their daughters and give satan a due complete sacrifice. It is not a greater evil than the first sacrifice. Fgm is an insult and assault to womanhood by parents. Let parents pride themselves in complete evils. The petals and stay of love are left strewn at altar of Satan..
    Parents should repent to God and ask for re-conciliatory forgiveness from their daughters without beating the bush. Let our beloved sister forgive them in Christ’s love and free them to freedom from hidden anger of cultural turmoil. It is unbelievable bearable that fgm satanic heinous act can be practiced by parents in Churches. It is not a home coming event for a girl child to release she has been sacrificed to satan in fgm in honor of the dead by her own parents. We are not demonizing parents and creating wedges and rifts between daughters and parents by calling unto parents to face the real reality diligently in due plain truth for their awful injustices in beastly fgm castration officiated by satan. It is more sickening for parents in their old to realize they had no clear warning from the clergy as pertaining to satanic sacrifice in fgm. We are just telling parents openly to stop prostituting honorably with their daughters in fgm and get saved for dear relationship with God. Christians Churches and information medias are now more vocal against fgm. Grandparents are at pain and suffering quietly of being accused by daughters for sacrificing them to satanic world in fgm while in Churches. Will parents tell daughters they are wright in fgm and justify it when Governments have burned fgm? Girls have come out to question the immoral act of fgm atrocities operation directed by parents which has caused cold blood between daughters and parents. In the spirit world parents spy their daughters and are envious of their marital bed enjoyment which they visualize bound to immorality unless castrated thus they raid the marriage court in fgm acts carnage. They view their daughters in Divine state us sexually wild and immoral children who have to be sexually tamed in fgm to gain moral control over sexuality before and after marriage. They have viewed their daughters as sexually wild without sexual moral s even in married life. But who is weak? Men or women. Is the immorality one sided based on women among themselves only? Is the girl child sexually immoral and wild to herself in her Divine state? Who is fooling who? Is the sexual organ of a girl child the pillar of immorality and evils in any given society? Fgm is the cold unjust satanic sacrifice involving blood ,flesh and bone which enhances parents more entrenchment in demonic world. Can men penis heads be cut to be near equal with women who have lost their clitoris in fgm castration? In Fgm, parents are more than a curse to their daughter and to a nation. In fgm parents craft and draw holiness for themselves and for the whole family together with the community from fgm thus they cleanse and protect themselves from immoralities in the blood of their daughters clothed in religious attires. The burden of family and the community holiness is pegged and delivered from the mutilated sex organ of a girl child. It is a complete demonic way of life. manner . This pertain more to human satanic sacrifice and worship than many would like not to believe they are more submerged in demonic world. Parents have subjected their children to satanic slavery in fgm without remorse. Fgm was designed to deliver sexual crippling effect on a girl child from her very womanhood. The liberation straggle must start with the young men as the deciding factor in fgm eradication and abandonment. Fgm prostitution castration is done for them and on their behalves which is demonically wrong. Youths have to free themselves from cultural sexual slavery in fgm prostitution banqueted for them by old generation for their none existent spiritual and physical stability benefits . In fgm prostitution parents are in satanic world together with witches and magicians turning the sexual organ of woman into an institution of satanic reverence. The devil footstool in fgm fuels men beastly carnage in societies. After fgm is done in honor of the dead, at a time in life , all evils come to the land and no other are better placed by satan to deliver the evils more than men. The purpose of excess of fgm brutality destroys the girl child sexually and the excess of the naked plain truth taught Spiritually in the Holly Bible about fgm leaves agitated camouflaged demonic collaborators in the dark underground world jittery worried and wounded in their honor. Their in-depth fear of men releasing of being fooled socially and cornered by satan on benefits of fgm in marital life and the negative devastating counter reactions upheaval of men in marriages is real. We handle fgm in Christ’s love for mankind which is an eye opener for wise Christians to keep off fgm satanic sacrificial shrines.
    It is hypocritical and mockery for parents in Church of Christ to spend patiently their early marriage live in double standards life to perpetuate FGM and live in their twilight years as devoted loving caring parents close to the clergy having soiled their hands with the blood of their daughters in a planned time staged managed shedding of blood and flesh of their daughters in fgm in early marriage life as she wade through the jungle of life for demonic chastity sacrifice acceptance. Can any wise God fearing parents subject their daughters to fgm to justify in a religious manner the sin of grandfathers for their past historical generation sexual immorality dynasty pacification cover up? Fgm remains the grandfathers generation to generation curse and sexual social slavery for culturally battered women. As far as parents remain appreciated in spectacular honored motivated prostitution in fgm they will never fathom from the bottom of their hearts the unjust physical and spiritual injuries inflicted in fgm onslaught on womanhood? The girl child is deprived of her authority and integrity of her womanhood to demonic world and men who believe in their objective holiness gain for earthly humanity gains based on her precarious live in fgm. Parents pride themselves in fgm for tearing down the defense and fences of the marriage court a sacrifice to Satan. Women and girls are given to demonic world morality and will of men which is the hid out of satan. They do not pride and delight themselves in God. But GOD can never be mocked. Some men force their daughters to undergo fgm under the mothers pressure and pleasure forgetting there are no curses for those in Christ Jesus. Galatians3:10-14, Proverb26:1-2. It is quite evident parents are under cultural moral slavery siege and ready to sacrifice their daughters in fgm at alter of demonic cultures for community social acceptance. Fgm is the historical prostitution and plunder of womanhood bound in cultural respect and honor. Evil committed by parents in fgm cannot be justified by existent of time done or by one’s sacrificial faith to do it willingly at peace. Fgm cultural sexual slavery is fortified by parents lack of due love for the girl child.
    Men must soberly disengage themselves honorary behind the scene for being the custodian pillars of sin of fgm making the sex organs of women as the moral battle fields of faith in God and call fgm the bygone unjust case of mayhem. Fgm foe must be purged from the battle field of minds and hearts of men in order of give girls social justice and enable women to overcome fgm. Youth must diligently determine the breaking and leveling of grandfathers extra ordinary generation curse in fgm grip to enable girls walk over it to freedom. This is the present single generation gigantic cultural crush win for youth to freedom from shackles of cultural sexual slavery in fgm. Train men to do away with fgm and there will be no fgm. Men form the bedrock of fgm. Man cannot seek Holy Almighty God in mirror of fgm castration. Can a man kneel before God and support fgm? It is awkward to hear men say what is good for a woman and not say what God says is good for a woman and him. It seems some men want to craft a way of holy life from the sex organ of women for themselves in name of purity for God. When God told Moses that the Israelis fathers shall not subject their daughters to fgm in honor of the dead or have sex with them, He did not leave any form of fgm for a girl child. To suggest there can be mild form of FGM is not acceptable before God. Leviticus 19:28-29. FGM is the annual mass satanic sacrifice done honorably by parents. Once the blood of a girl child is shed in fgm the land is polluted and the country becomes full of all evils. Mothers are the accomplished with devils’ priests in satanic underground of honor who mutilates the sex organs of young girls with full expressed active acknowledgment of fathers enslaved by satan.
    Youth in unique spiritual flight must dislodge themselves from the yoke of fgm prostitution slavery offered honorary by parents in satanic sacrifice. They are dependable defensive force for young girls who cannot be ignored. Let brothers give our beloved sister a heart of change with helping hand against fgm. How would parents commit their daughters to fgm so us someone can have food for the mouth calling it their trade of life? How could someone say it was done in honor of religion where God is mentioned and the clergy exist? How would parents commit their daughters to fgm so us someone can have food for the mouth calling it their trade of life? How will ever be girls compensated who are forced to fgm in their flower age after abandoning the evil trade? Parents and the clergy should know that the mutilated injured defenseless girls remain and the wounded souls and spirit in anguish of their heart cry to Almighty God. Fgm prostitution is a satanic prime reward sacrifice more tied to man as the enforcer but he does not bear the physical scaring scars sufferings women go through silently with physiological scars and no Christian should apply it in life. Christian should eliminate FGM with ability given to us by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for in him there are no generation curses. Christians must redeem the time and not be foolish in daily life. The sex organ of a woman is not a battle field of faith for man in God. Men must purge social evils from within the depth their hearts, minds and not from the sexual organs of women in fgm operation ruins. Fgm was started by men and they must battle it to a dead end. It is a deeply rooted cultural faith they can win overnight. It takes less than two hrs to teach men and women on Biblical perspective of fgm ills to bring it to a dead end. And this is the Lord doing. Can wise knowledgeable youth forgo the pertinent tool of sexual oppression and suppression in fgm held dearly in slavery by old respected cultural elites?. Middle aged fathers have to come in and break the yoke of satan in fgm that is held dearly by the old cultural elites.
    Laws to ban fgm may not eliminate fgm since it can be done clinically at home. Parents require deliverance of their souls and spirits to God. In their liberated hearts their will not suffer any loose for abandoning fgm for their trust in God is paramount. Let all Children of Abraham by faith face the full real reality of life that there is no fgm with God. God bless you all united against this demonic cultural practice called fgm, a hard nut to crack preserved and hidden in parenthood for honorary acceptance. It is the time the promises in fgm die out and the demonic world open her gates wide for the girl child and closes its’ behind her as she leaves the alter of Satan empty handed for the rest of her life time. This is satanic torture for a girl child has to face to satisfy the demonic world cultural purity. Can the young men and girls muscle enough will power and do away with fgm prostitution forced down their lives by the old generation? Yes, they can since they are strong with open clear minds. They have the divine provision of a happy marriage within their reach. Their marriages belong to them and not to their parents. Youths obedience to parents stays within the confines of Godly practiced boundaries. God says you are strong and you can overcome the wicked one. 1 John2:14. We must hold the Word of God within its content and contest lest or we be found to have contempt for the Word of God. Fgm prostitution defeats any Godly purpose for it. The survival of young girls from fgm is in the hands of men who must salvage girls from fgm in the hands wicked culturally enslaved women. Their hands are washed with innocent blood of young girls sacrificed to satan in fgm. Fgm betrays and dwindle the full dignity of men in faith in God. When parents advance in age they present themselves as faithful model of faith full of prayers which is a mere mockery to devotional integrity of a holy faith in God having well planned to accomplish honorary executed fgm for all of their daughters in early marriage life. Many parents are still stuck in wilderness of demonic cultures though in institutions of Godly worship. Who will pull out parents stuck in the wilderness of demonic cultures with love and care? Let all Children of Abraham by faith face the full reality of the demands in their faith in God. God bless you all united against this demonic cultural practice called FGM.
    Some men say when women are sexually crippled, men and women remain faithful but to who? Which men are sexually crippled for women to remain holy? Is the sexual organ of a woman an institution of worship for men? GOD IS HOLLY. Men shouldn’t have defiled faith in God based on crippled sexual organ of a woman. Men should love God with a pure heart. The sexual organs of women are not stays for men to anchor their faith in God. Should a man share a wife with the devil? Fgm is ill tagged as a benefit to a man child by those who perpetuate this demonic sacrifice. Men who view their holiness in God through the mutilated sexual organ of a woman put their faith in God in demonic practices perspectives Fgm prostitution is a satanic prime reward sacrifice more tied to man as the enforcer but he does not bear the physical scaring scars sufferings women go through silently with physiological scars and no Christian should apply it in life. The sex organ of a woman is not a battle field of faith for man in God. Fgm was started by men and they must battle it to a dead end. It is a deeply rooted cultural battle field they can win overnight. It takes less than two hrs to teach men and women on Biblical perspective of fgm ills to bring it to a dead end. The survival of young girls from fgm is in the hands of parents and men whose souls and minds are liberated from satanic cultural of fgm . Men must salvage girls from fgm in the hands culturally battered enslaved women. Their hands are washed with innocent blood of young girls sacrificed to satan in fgm. Fgm betrays and dwindle the full dignity of men in faith in God. The young girls fate in fgm hangs of balance since she cannot count on rescue even from her dear brothers. Her fate is sealed in dying hourly hope held by those who thirst and hunger for her flesh and blood since the injustice her beloved parents is awful cruel. It is in the hour of need when a father turns a cold shoulder to a girl child and commit her to Satan in fgm prostitution castration curse persecution of honor . The girl child lives with unresolved burning personal reserved resentments against her parents but all they see is well to their eyes. The dark embarrassing day of losing her womanhood in fgm remains vivid to her mind. Parents will have their daughters physically but emotionally detached from them in their old age a dilemma and a surprise for them to unravel. Their silent heart acre of lack of mutual trust between their daughters will go down to their old age. It is the dare devil fight win for the youths against the respected old culture elites who offer girls for satanic sacrifice in fgm. Once fgm is offered as a satanic sacrifice for men ,then they remain the deadly aggressive brutal force against womanhood and humanity at large. Young men become the scaring fire ball of satan against humanity.
    Legend has it that men were going for wars for a very long time against others communities and on return they found their beautiful young wives and girls were sexually molested and impregnated by the old men that were left behind . Sexual depression and deprivation were introduced in fgm as a tool of sexual suppression oppression. The macabre of fgm castration by parents was left settled by satan in prime hands of women so as appear as women affairs. Can any wise God fearing parents subject their daughters to fgm to justify in a religious manner the sin of grandfathers for their past historical generation sexual immorality dynasty pacification cover up? Fgm remains the grandfathers generation to generation curse and sexual social slavery for culturally battered women. Men must soberly disengage themselves honorary behind the scene for being the custodian pillars of sin of fgm making the sex organs of women as the moral battle fields of faith in God and call fgm the bygone unjust case of mayhem. Fgm foe must be purged from the battle field of minds and hearts of men in order of give girls social justice and enable women to overcome fgm. Youth must diligently determine the breaking and leveling of grandfathers extra ordinary generation curse in formidable sin of honor in fgm filthy firm grip to enable girls walk over it to freedom. This is the present single generation gigantic cultural crush win for youth to freedom from shackles of fathers faults in disgrace of cultural sexual slavery in fgm. Culturally women who had gone FGM as they passed child bearing age and hung up the plough, the old man would marry another young woman who had gone fgm referred to us the wife of his old age with desires to have children. No eyes blow were raised against the wife by the other wives since they understood their frigid morbid rocky sexual state as the aged. Their sexual live was thrown into disarray by fgm. They were not a joy to have as wives in their old age. Love to them was like surgery awake and they acknowledged the sexually active state of their husband. It was a time their husband was like a sexual beast to them. They sexually off loaded themselves through their husband’s young wife of his old aged thus shifting the burden of the fgm curse to the younger woman. If a man has to be circumcised in the Church of Christ, he should join our sisters in spiritual circumcision for all that is salvation. Colossians 2: 8-12. Roman2:28-29. Can a wise man pride himself before God counting the benefits of marrying a prostitute? In Church of Christ, only uncultured men in Godly practices, uncouth, no witty and demonic sadist will applaud sexual mutilation of young girls.
    Men must break free overnight from long overdue cultural desert edge of fgm atrocities and roll back the sheet of fgm loose to historical events. Youths are on a race against time whether to subject their marriages to generations prostitution in fgm. Parents can socially lose their children in their old age with phenomenal of being neglected by their children becoming more apparent. Fgm condemns a girl child to a life time of sexual cultural slavery. This is the misery bestowed upon her by her own parents in honor of the dead which they hold dear to their hearts. Parents pride themselves in fgm prostitution since they receive their communities social recognition and acceptance at a price of permanently sexually deforming their girls in fgm which they can view in a mirror. God says a woman is strong like merchants ships but the same easily destroyed and she has to submit to her husband who is supposed dwell with her in knowledge and love her as she navigate the stormy sea of live heavily loaded. This very strong vessel in waters of life called woman who can carry heavily in abundance is easily destroyed like merchants ships which have to navigate storms, rocks and remain without holes or eroding rusty floors to remain afloat in water .Ephesians5:22-25, Proverbs31:10-17. Parents have no rights in deforming and destroying the fountain of marriage. Proverb5:18-19. A virtuous woman girds her loins with strength and thinks of no harming her husband. The word weaker vessel Peter 3:1-7 is an illustration of being easily destroyed irrespective of her great strength in carrying capacity.
    Some parents are in Sodom of their own even in places of worship. Laws to ban FGM may not eliminate fgm since it can be done clinically at home. Even from time of old women can perform all types of evils counting on their husbands full support. Israelis women in the Bible told Jeremiah the Prophet that the sacrifices they offered to queen of heaven they did so with the support and knowledge of their husbands. Jeremiah 44:15-22. Even today women who force their daughters to undergo fgm count on their husbands endorsed full support. They confirm their husbands are part of Satanic sacrifice performed on their daughters in fgm when they disregard Godly advice and truth concerning fgm ill side effects. Parents require redemption and deliverance of their souls and spirit to God. In their liberated hearts they will not suffer any loose for abandoning fgm for their trust in God is paramount. God Himself told Moses that the Israelis fathers shall not subject their daughters to fgm in honor of the dead or have sex with them making them prostitutes, Leviticus 19:28-29. In honored sin fgm prostitution, parents plant the seed of all evils which is watered and guarded by them in joy. Let all Children of Abraham by faith face the full reality of the demands in their faith in God that fgm is demonic cultural practice preserved and hidden in honored parenthood for hard acceptance as the girl child is merchandised at the altar of Satan leaving her empty handed bearing all adverse severe effects and defects in her body and spirit for the lest her life time. For how long will parents hold this form of prostitution dear to their bosom for earthly respect ,honor and close social acceptance? Is it that before God our beloved parents are not aware they are in a cerebrate prostitution with their daughters in fgm or they are stiff necked? The earth is annually drenched with the innocent blood of young girls and the seed of terror of evils is planted and established by parents in honor. Who will pull out parents stuck in the wilderness of illustrious demonic cultures of fgm with love and care. As far as parents remain clothed and enthroned in binding force of satanic honor in fgm with close relatives and neighbors in celebrations , parents will never comprehend the crude cruelty and evils in fgm aftermaths. They actually gang up spiritually against the Church of Christ and only the brave and honest preaching fraternity can rub them head on.
    In fgm ,parents’ cultural promises die out and the demonic world open her gates wide for the girl child and closes them behind her back as she leaves the alter of Satan empty handed for the rest of her life time. This is the satanic torture for a girl child has to face to satisfy the demonic cultural purity acceptance. Can the young men and girls muscle enough will power and do away with fgm prostitution forced down their lives by the old generation? Yes, they can since they are strong with an open clear mind. They have the divine provision of a happy marriage within their reach. Their marriage belong to them and not to their parents. Your obedience to parents stays anchored within the practices of Godly confined boundaries ,Ephesians 6:1-4. God says you are strong and you can overcome the wicked one. 1 John2:14. We must hold the Word of God within its content and contest lest or we be found to have contempt for the Word of God. Fgm prostitution defeat any Godly purpose for it. The sin of fgm castration is in the harbor of men and fathers hearts who hold firmly the filthy fgm as a stronghold for their source of morality enrichment support from womanhood castration. The

  89. t c

    January 14, 2018 at 9:44 am

    Well written, researched and thought provoking article. Thanks Chika.

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