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“Dwell on Positive Valuable Ideas!” – Read 5 Steps To Achieving a Peaceful Mind



I used to be a sucker for worry. I thought the more I dwelt on something negative and brooded about it, the better I would feel. I would whine about almost anything, easily throw a tantrum, cry out so loud, ask God and myself “why?” and end up feeling consumed by the silence that always crept up on me afterwards. Some days I just wanted to stick my head in the sand and just wait for the world to stop revolving. Sometimes I wanted to be still for a minute and hope all the crap would just pass me by. My mind was a home for junk, very messy, nothing valuable springing forth.

I was fast dying on the inside, my mind became a ball of confusion, my thoughts spiraling out of control and I was beginning to lose everything. Until one day, I fervidly decided to get my head straight and my mind cleared. And then it got better, my life drastically and surprisingly improved. Upon reflection, I asked myself “how could anyone just subject their brain and heart to that kind of needless torture.” – A cluttered mind is devastating.

The mind is a very powerful force in humans, it controls the body. Thinking, which is the process of using the mind to meditate or reflect on something is quite different from worrying. Worrying is the process of allowing one’s mind dwell on negativity and obscurity. Thinking clearly and creatively yields productivity. When the mind is cluttered, the man loses clarity, focus, direction and motivation. A clear mind is a healthy mind, healthy minds birth wealthy ideas. The greatest innovations of the world today started in the minds of people who used their thought processes clearly and creatively. Clear your mind of negative worthless thoughts and dwell on positive valuable ideas. A clear mind is the direct opposite of a cluttered mind.

The four areas of life that can be affected by a clear mind:
• The physical- Your body=your health.
• The mental- Your brain=your thoughts.
• The social- Your interactions=your relationships
• The spiritual- Your soul=your purpose

Effects of a cluttered mind

Worry: Most people worry from time to time. A new research study, led by a Case Western Reserve University faculty member in psychology, also shows that worrying can be so intrusive and obsessive that it interferes in the person’s life and endangers the mental health and the health of social relationships.

Stress: Stress stinks (literally). Biological studies have shown that there is a chemical difference between the sweat of a work-out and the sweat of a freak-out. Any sweat can cause body odour but the smell of stress sweat is a stench that comes on real strong and real long. Apart from body odour, stress is also a harbinger of diseases.

Confusion: A person who started out focused on studying to pass an exam will get confused when he suddenly starts thinking of how to cheat his way through that exam. Focus is one of the abilities successful people thrive on.

Frustration: The feeling of fear, failure and defeat are the results of a cluttered mind. A clear mind dwells on positivity. The most common response to frustration is aggression and pathological anger which leads to further frustration.

Depression: People suffering from depression often seek help from a myriad of therapists. The simple cure to depression is the control of the mind where happiness and sense of meaning can be found, not necessarily in many medicines, techniques or religions.

Anxiety: Anxiety is a disorder that is characterized by excessive and uncontrollable worry about everyday things. The frequency, intensity, and duration of the worry are disproportionate to the actual source of worry, and such worry often interferes with daily functioning.

Addiction: Addiction and substance abuse can be conquered when a person decides to channel their thoughts positively and far away from those objects of addiction. ‘Dutch courage’ is actually false courage. Real courage is in employing and deploying the mind positively.

Mental illness: In worst cases, some persons with cluttered minds lose their senses entirely. The term ‘mental illness’ can also be referred to as ‘the disease of the mind’. The effects of a cluttered mind listed above could ultimately result to mental illness.


Here are 5 simple steps to achieving a clear mind

Recognise Anger
Understand that anger comes from hurt. It is advisable to get to the root of the matter by addressing the real issue that caused the hurt in the first place. Turn your focus away from whomever or whatever it is that is making you angry and turn inward to meditating on wholesome stuff. Recognising anger helps you understand how to react to situations that tend to make you lose control of your emotions.

Release Sadness
Sadness is justifiable. But when it stretches and you cannot identify the cause of it, it is time to let go. I once taught one of my clients to learn to immediately replace sadness with gratefulness. That way she can focus on the good and jettison the bad feelings. If you sincerely look, you’ll always find the good no matter what. When she lost her sister, she was very sad but she de-cluttered her mind soon enough to dwell on loving herself and the people around her.

Reprimand Fear
I use this method to regularly clear my mind of fear. I allow myself to fear and then I face that fear and steadily conquer it. I practically slap myself on the wrist whenever I notice fear is almost winning over me. When I face whatever it is I’m afraid of, I feel so relieved and clutter-free.

Reject Negativity
Guilt, jealousy, procrastination, unforgiveness, doubt, low self esteem, lack of trust, etc., are very negative feelings that should never be dwelt on. Reject them the moment they spring up in your mind. Do not spew clutter by using the wrong words, you contaminate those around you and harm your relationships.

Reflect Optimism
When thinking or communicating with others, use positive words. Positive words enhance positive feelings. Always be hopeful, bright, cheerful and calm. You can only be very calculated when you are calm. Also, let the positivity around you reflect on others.

Imagine what you could achieve if your mind is clutter-free. The world is for the grasping only for those who will think clearly and creatively.Relish a relaxed and clear mind.

Cheers to great thinking and greater achievements!

Photo Credit:
Jesmine Chinwe Onyeukwu is a productivity/simplicity coach and the CEO of JessylsCharm.

Jesmine Chinwe Onyeukwu is an Organising/Productivity Expert, Coach, Speaker, Writer and the CEO of JessylsCharm, Nigeria’s first and leading Organising/Productivity Company. JessylsCharm helps clients beautify their lives, reclaim their effectiveness and boost their productivity with her space, paper and time management solutions.


  1. Retrochic

    June 24, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    WOW, this helped alot

  2. jcsgrl

    June 24, 2013 at 1:19 pm

    Productivity/Simplicity coach! Hmnn everybody just dey package themselves. Carry go Jas…aint nothing wrong with you. Me too make I go package myself com brand myself something gan…no be only una.
    But the write up o mekiri sense shaa.

  3. Me

    June 24, 2013 at 1:21 pm

    Thank you. You made a whole lot of sense

  4. temitope

    June 24, 2013 at 1:24 pm

    GOD bless u, it was a lift for me and what I need this moment.

  5. Me!

    June 24, 2013 at 1:36 pm

    Thanks for the write up! Am passing through what i dunno. always trying to hit it big and get richer! Am just 24yrs old and age wise am a lil financially stable. I can atleeast brag of having more than A million but still i don’t feel like am doing well for my self! I guess am suffering from peer pressure cuz my friend’s re way ahead of me. This article just touched me and am done worrying about nothing. in btw am a graduate.

  6. Tess

    June 24, 2013 at 2:09 pm

    Very good write-up! Lord knows we all need productive & peaceful minds. Thanks Jesmine.

  7. me again

    June 24, 2013 at 2:31 pm

    oh dear, you just saved a life and a soul, God bless you, i used to be a happy person, but now am angry at every little thing, am always sad, and its worry that turned me into this. but after today am back to the happy me. Thanks to you jes

  8. Nathaniel's Daughter

    June 24, 2013 at 2:33 pm

    Nice one. I’ve been practicing how to recognize my reason for getting angry but sometimes there’s no reason at all!

  9. bolivia

    June 24, 2013 at 2:45 pm

    JESUS is the only source of a peaceful mind.end of.

  10. honey D

    June 24, 2013 at 2:48 pm

    I really needed those words of wisdom,the mind can be extremely powerful,am so gonna put them into practice.

  11. Masked

    June 24, 2013 at 3:02 pm

    Just as i wondered off in my land of worries, i decided to open this page to distract me from my plenty worries and then it was this inspiring piece…i think i need more than this piece thou,worrying for me is an unconscious thing that springs off from fear of what if tomorrow doesn’t go the way it should go.Feels like the worrying is getting worse sef. The Lord is my strength. 9c piece.

  12. Dami

    June 25, 2013 at 7:14 am

    nicr piece. In it all when u are consious or a higher being that is biggee n greater than all our problems put together, that has d final say, when we realise that inspite of our worries, today still gors by and tmr comes and that whatever comes may, God remains God and we remain mortal……then we will experience dat peace of mind we so crave for. Am on a journey of discovering the true worth of all i have just written

  13. Dami

    June 25, 2013 at 7:16 am

    apologies for d typo errors

  14. chizo

    June 25, 2013 at 1:22 pm

    Thanks so much. May you increase from strenght to strenght and wisdom to wisdom. God bless you.

  15. Remi

    June 25, 2013 at 2:29 pm

    d relief i feel after readin ds piece,is unquantifiable..bless u,indeed a lifting

  16. Chillin

    June 25, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    I have leant a lot from reading this.

  17. pearl

    June 25, 2013 at 8:42 pm

    lovely article…

  18. Bisi BusyBee

    June 26, 2013 at 6:00 am

    Nice Piece Jesmine!!! I just knew you got a lot to give out from d inside. Bless U… Xoxo, BusyBee

  19. Unimpressed

    June 27, 2013 at 10:01 am

    You talk about overcoming depression, mental illness or addiction like its a simple case of just changing your mind. You clearly know nothing about those crippling illnesses or have ever suffered from them and should under no circumstances talk about them. That is why millions of people kill themselves every year because of people like you who cannot provide the right support becuase your advice to them will be “get over it”. I am not a therapist or psychologist but i have watch people close to me suffer from the illness/es and it is not as simple a case as you describe.

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