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Toke Makinwa: “He’ll Brainwash You…Wake Up from Your Slumber”! Watch “Don’t be an Accidental Side Chick”



Toke Makinwa - December 2013 - BellaNaija

It’s a wrap for 2013.

Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa is out with an all new episode of Toke Moments for Christmas 2013.

She speaks on “Don’t be an Accidental Side Chick” inspired by a story of a girl who called her crying that her boo wants to get back with his ex.

Check it out!


  1. kiki

    December 25, 2013 at 2:35 pm

    like he did to u….

    • Tim'tim

      December 26, 2013 at 6:37 am

      Its nothing kiki, life goes on still. Am sure u can see she’s moved on already and so has to what happened to her not happen to u, then make use of what she’s said…. Bless 🙂

  2. Poison Ivy

    December 25, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    Toke darling,the world doesn’t revolve around love & relationship(we’ve heard).It’s Christmas,a time to be merry & charitable(Talk about giving back & a better year ahead)I don tire for this boy thing abeg!!

    • Chic

      December 25, 2013 at 4:34 pm

      Thank you!!! I tire for all this love wahala even on Christmas day enough already Toke ah ah!

    • Godslove22

      December 25, 2013 at 6:22 pm


    • Lagos is my Home

      December 25, 2013 at 7:52 pm

      i join u tire,,,,, there is more to life than constantly rambling about men this and that . Bella Naija today is Christmas so u couldnt spare us a day off Toke nonsense.
      Merry Christmas everyone

    • Anon

      December 26, 2013 at 4:13 pm

      I second that!

  3. natty

    December 25, 2013 at 3:40 pm

    loool, toke oh. may we not be side chics in 2014

    • Boondocks

      December 25, 2013 at 8:39 pm

      Amen lol

  4. lulu

    December 25, 2013 at 3:47 pm

    whats with the relationship do’s and donts…its becoming
    stale please toke

  5. J

    December 25, 2013 at 3:52 pm

    tks Toke. Merry Christmas, gud to c the positive come back.
    u not loss in ur sacarsm. keep it up. you blessed and highly

  6. Blacbeauty

    December 25, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    Lol @ like he did 2 u

  7. Bide

    December 25, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    Merry Christmas Toke..*sigh

  8. mum fola

    December 25, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee toke

  9. mee

    December 25, 2013 at 4:39 pm

    Most of these things Toke said are so true! I agree with U completely.

  10. mee

    December 25, 2013 at 4:42 pm

    I have heard all sorts of lies: ‘she’s just a friend”, ‘her parents didn’t support the relationship cos of our genotype’, ‘i am over her”……in the end,it was all lies! Freaking cheats!

  11. choice

    December 25, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    A merry Xmas you all. We reject being side chic’s.

  12. chi

    December 25, 2013 at 5:34 pm

    dear toke today is 25th december 2013. its christmas day. if it does not make any meaning to you i am sure it does to at least 50 % of your readers. the least you could do is to be a lil bit more creative and do topics relative. if you are still blank then topics like what gift to expect from boyfriend, meeting your boyfriend mama for village or better still joining your boy friends mother to make jollof rice. as na so so boy friend mata be your migraine.

    • chi

      December 25, 2013 at 5:42 pm

      *are some topics which to me are even not creative enough as i am not a vlogger like you are.
      BOTTOM LINE: YOU CAN DO BETTER!#back to my food

    • Anita

      December 25, 2013 at 7:39 pm

      You sound pretty knowledgeable on these things.Drop your email address if you’re looking for a media related job.

  13. pynk

    December 25, 2013 at 5:55 pm

    Toke leave men alone for a bit. Breathe and live laugh love . Womanhood is more than just men a beg.

    • 'Midé

      December 25, 2013 at 7:52 pm

      If there is womanhood , then it means men feature prominently. If it was humanhood then you might be correct. Abeg, leave Toke alone o! Some won’t get pleasured by men during this period.

  14. her

    December 25, 2013 at 6:57 pm

    Toks toks!!!…. oya Maje catch ya sub!!!

  15. lyn

    December 25, 2013 at 7:09 pm

    Someone should tell Olivia Pope

  16. Anita

    December 25, 2013 at 7:30 pm

    Chi…you sound pretty knowledgeable on these things.Drop your email address if you’re looking for a media related job.

  17. Deevah

    December 25, 2013 at 8:36 pm

    Toke darling, I love the fact that the man topic excites you ( more power to you) …but I think you should glide to other aspects which women everywhere will appreciate aside the “mam matter”… Biko

  18. Chigbo

    December 25, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    That was a very good video regardless. Toke knows exactly what she’s talking about.
    Merry Christmas to all Bella Naijans
    Try to do something for someone else this season as God as blessed you.X

  19. Ohmine

    December 25, 2013 at 9:28 pm

    All her talks is all about men. seems her world is all about men. No one got time for petty talks with no substance.

  20. fumbi

    December 25, 2013 at 9:58 pm

    toke found out she was a side chick …and BAM!!!!! 12 years{abbi is it 15yrs sef :s} after she broke up with him*preach toke preach*…please toke ,we love you yeah but there is more to life than guys and relationships…really…seriously ok?…byee

  21. Great Portland Street

    December 25, 2013 at 10:03 pm

    Toke is seriously missing Maje . . . It’s like the love and men talk intensified after they broke up. Even on Christmas Day OkBye

  22. Nana

    December 25, 2013 at 11:17 pm

    Toke can blow a gasket or we can go round and round this issue, either way the bottom line is if a woman is under God’s protection by being obedient to him by not sleeping with men, then how much harm can a guy really do through manipulation or whatever else? Unwise women have no idea of the power of sex and soul ties and how it can twist a person’s perception into pure foolishness. All what she is talking about comes into play when you are sleeping with a guy, if you are not you can’t be that emotionally vested, so it’s soldier come, soldier go, barrack stay…

    • nana yaa

      December 26, 2013 at 9:26 am

      U ‘ve made me feel guilty. I never cared about a guy but
      after kissing him, i feel so emotionally attached that i get
      anxious for his was app replies to ma msgs. Thanks for that

    • nhia

      December 26, 2013 at 2:48 pm

      This soul tie ni? is it only women it affects. abi God
      didnt put that on men? Women feel anxious about sex because of the
      fear society has placed on them. They tell women their virginity is
      something you give, and how their value is reduced if they sleep
      with a man. so naturally women feel they lost if a man sleeeps with
      them and they dont get commitment in return. As if men’s bodies are
      not the temple of god too.. mtchewww

    • Iris

      December 26, 2013 at 5:38 pm

      It’s not just that. As long as you’re not into casual sex a lot of women feel an emotional tie to men they sleep with even if the man’s not their first. Men don’t seem to have that tiresome problem as quickly into said relationship, so it becomes an issue of self-preservation for women. Sex does complicate things and since this message is for women it makes sense to give advice from a perspective that caters to women. I know self-assured women who aren’t virgins and have no qualms about that, but have decided to keep ’em closed till marriage because of all the drama from past relationships.

  23. Stephanie

    December 26, 2013 at 5:27 am

    • Zezee

      December 26, 2013 at 8:58 am

      Nona thank you very much oh jare. Remove sex and there is
      really no issue if a boyfriend is misbehaving. Toke all this your
      talk has not yet moved me cause if you were such an expert on the
      subject you’d have a man. So please stop telling us what we already
      know, well me sha.

    • Que

      December 26, 2013 at 8:26 pm

      Actually zeezee dat isn’t true… sex complicates, but even in celibacy u can develop a very strong bond n affections towards someone, and misbehaving will hurt all d same. Unless u’re not as connected to or invested in d person u’re wit. Pls dont be deluded dat once u’re not sexually connected it’ll save you frm emotional hurt, nothing can be further frm d truth. However it gives u less to be confused about or regretful over. Cheeers.

  24. Yours Truly

    December 26, 2013 at 12:16 pm

    Yes, she always talks about relationships, but, she makes sense 87 per cent of the time!

  25. Sharon

    December 26, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    People that come on here every week to watch the vlog and then insult Toke on top,just admit it already she’s all that,at least worth your MBs. Whether or not it’s about her is not why we’re here pls,enjoy the video and vamoose,if she ticks you off that much ignore any post that contains her name and move on,Biko live and let live….

  26. Onye

    December 26, 2013 at 12:30 pm

    I really don’t understand why a woman would allow herself to be used by a man. Firstly don’t sleep with him and you will not be hurt by him. Also, if you chase a man, they will not like it. They should chase you until they put a ring on it. Even when married, don’t make it easy for them. Have your own life too. Play the player!!

  27. M

    December 26, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    Toke kilode? 1minute you ask them to cry and beg him not to leave them ,the next you are asking them to be wise and leave him.what is the diagnosis?shizoaffective or delusional? Hahaha don’t know what you smoke but wouldn’t mind joining you when am bored though.

  28. mz mire

    December 26, 2013 at 2:43 pm

    how old is this woman ? so this is how she would be
    rambling till O”pause

  29. prim

    December 26, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    Whk Toke is Obsessed with emotional aspects of cheating , I am worried about the disease exchange part-Hpv, HIV, Herpes, Chlamydia, drug resistant disease varieties etc. if ur man is Sleeping with someone else, you are also having a sexual affair with that person and all their present and previous partners.

  30. Vivaxity

    December 26, 2013 at 11:48 pm

    I fell in luv wif a guy. @First I went hard 2get l8ta I decided let’s roll witout givin him an answer bt he figured out I was in already. Anitime he introduce me 2 his friend I remind him nt 2get we’re nt datin bt he jst smile. L8ta on we came out open. Bt we ad an issue am 2yrs olda dan him n he’s a mummy’s boi. He promised mum won’t decide 4him n bla bla blam I saw d sign abt mum interferin I even dreamt of t bt in everifin all I saw was his true luv n I felt daz d mst important fin. Afta 2gud yrs 15th Feb 2012 we ad our 1st kiss n hot romance no sex. 26th march he calld n said he n his mum had a strange drm abt him n bla bla bla. I WEPT lyk I neva did. I still weep cos 15 Feb 2012 is a day I’ll neva 4get. Twaz ma 1st kiss n 1st romance wif a guy. I figure he doesn’t knw wat he wnt cos we still talk n he still act ‘I luv u’ fin. 5th Nov 2013 he told me he’s seein sme1 n I went crazy…….bottom line is watsoeva connectn u av wif a guy b it sex or romance, u’ll find it difficult 2let go (am nt referin 2d promiscous babes). I dnt rememba anifin aprt 4rm d date we ad our 1st kiss n dat mkes me cry even as am typin cos I felt cheated on n luk stupid all bcos am olda.
    Love easily n wisely. Love cud b scary.

    • Ewa

      December 27, 2013 at 8:14 am

      Please can you re-write this in plain English… Kai..

    • Nat

      December 27, 2013 at 2:20 pm

      Please for Heaven’s sake keep these your abbreviated words for your bbm, whatsapp and 2go friends. Haba! you come on an article and instead of you to show some level of intelligence (which I am assuming you have possess), you are clearing all doubts. Just trying to read through your comment is giving me migraines *smh*

  31. Onye

    December 27, 2013 at 2:35 am

    @ vivaxity. What type of english are you writing. It’s giving me a headache, trying to read that nonsense.

  32. Ohmine

    December 27, 2013 at 5:00 am

    @Vivaxity lmao!!! I guess if u wrote in shorthand maybe we
    would understand that better. @ Onye lol for real! 🙂 🙂

  33. Ohmine

    December 27, 2013 at 5:00 am

    @Vivaxity lmao!!! I guess if u wrote in shorthand maybe we
    would understand that better. @ Onye lol for real! 🙂 🙂

  34. Ohmine

    December 27, 2013 at 5:07 am

    @Prime u spoke the total truth. The emotional aspect of a
    relationship is nothing compared to “the disease exchange part-Hpv,
    HIV, Herpes, Chlamydia, drug resistant disease varieties etc. if ur
    man is Sleeping with someone else, you are also having a sexual
    affair with that person and all their present and previous
    partners”. God bless u Prim for putting this out. People need to
    understand this.

  35. Flora

    December 27, 2013 at 5:42 am

    @ onye I concur. Pls vivaxity, is dis English or shorthand?
    Can’t even read what u typed

  36. Karo

    December 27, 2013 at 5:57 am

    I’m trying to make sure I don’t get brain washed.

  37. Ewa

    December 27, 2013 at 8:23 am

    @ Vivaxity Please can your epistle in plain English… Kai..

  38. Ewa

    December 27, 2013 at 8:39 am

    @ Vivaxity Please can you re-write your epistle in plain English… Kai..

  39. Mide

    December 27, 2013 at 10:32 am

    Then you’all needs to go back to school if you can’t read what she wrote… #THATS ALL 🙂

  40. Ozavize

    December 27, 2013 at 1:19 pm

    I think this is Toke’s niche, it’s what she’s good at. I
    agree that versatility is necessary, but what if she is not
    versatile in this regards. I think we should all cut her some
    slack…… bdw @vivaxity you cracked the hell outta me!!!!

  41. nollare

    December 27, 2013 at 2:01 pm

    I get it that this is her calling. Boy-hungry sounding topics. All I am saying tho is that no intellectual woman should find these topics interesting. Like there is a whole lot more to life. I was wondering when people would come to realize how empty these topics her. I feel bad for her and her fellow voltrons. All nothing but a bunch of empty minded shallow people. I sincerely hope those voltrons are not our young girls

    • voiceofreason

      December 27, 2013 at 11:13 pm

      Thank you very much. Tell them!

      This girl is boring, bush, tries too hard, waayyyyy over the top with everything – hair, make-up, ugly facial/mouth expressions and a very croaky voice. First time watching this vlog that BN keeps imposing on us. Fail to see the hype #yawns

  42. Toluwalope

    December 27, 2013 at 2:03 pm

    Toke…’re so on point but shey na we alone dey commit the crime ni? Ladies dey commit worse too nw……..find time to also talk about ladies tricks so that we guys can start running away from fawo raja jere

  43. stbbabe

    January 4, 2014 at 1:40 am

    You guys should cut this babe some slack nah, these vlogs are entertaining and ring true. Very true for that matter! Even her funny accent has grown on me (or maybe I have become adept at ignoring it) Like a commenter above said, you already know what her topics are about so if you’re not interested, don’t click on the videos. #gotokstarr

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