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Toke MakinwaIn this week’s episode of Toke Moments, the media personality talks about marriage in the 21st century, reasons why people just seem to find it very easy to break up and walk away.

She talks about marriage and especially touches on the things no one tells you about it.

Find out Toke Makinwa’s thoughts on marriage by watching the video!

73 Comments

  1. precious

    October 17, 2014 at 10:21 am

    been married for five years now…and i should say that i really found this so helpful! keep up the good work.God bless your marriage o!

  2. Vics

    October 17, 2014 at 10:40 am

    Nice one Toks….you hit d nail

  3. G

    October 17, 2014 at 10:57 am

    Tks Toke… yep, marriage eh.. please by the Grace of God seek God first. So that He heals you and directs you to your spouse. Marriage isn’t perfect, weapons are always formed but by His Grace they wouldn’t prosper…
    Toke I love you bc you say the real deal… Some people live in a bubble esp some married women.. As am growing in the Lord I am single. Just as you Toke mentioned, when u see the real deal in your friends marriage. Esp those that claimed publicly otherwise they will shun you.
    I had been having inclinations about some1s marriage, so I was just praying for them. Bx that one of the spouse was my friend. Only for me to witness some thing. The way my suppose friend blasted me away. then later called me to meet up. Praising their spouse… that oh their spouse is such a good person bla bla bla. I listen like mumu. I just said that eh God is great. If God can incline me to pray for you when i didn’t know the wahala in your home. I rest assured that the Lord is watching over marriages.
    Married women please don’t yield to fear, and live in a bubble. it doesn’t mean you have to confide in everybody or anybody. Please don’t also maltreat your single friends… Only the Lord has solution and wisdom.

  4. Fossil

    October 17, 2014 at 11:08 am

    I ll advice that no matter the battle u re going thru report it to God 1st and hand it over to him to sort things out for u b4 discussing it with anybody. It’s not easy but God can make things easy. There will be times u will feel like running away, or ending the marriage but u know wot ,if u re a little bit patience every thing will be ok, just as if u never had the issue bothering u in d 1st place. Trust me that is how u ll keep going on till u re 50 years into d marriage . May God help us all & All will be well

  5. anon

    October 17, 2014 at 11:11 am

    I’ve heard a lot about you but never really watched any of your videos. Thought I’d watch this one and I must say I’m pleasantly surprised :). Don’t take my comment the wrong way, it’s actually a compliment. You made a lot of sense and you were honest in everything you said. Well done!

  6. ruky

    October 17, 2014 at 11:44 am

    I recently married, and i tell you it is totally different than dating. When i was dating, if we had an argument, I will go back home to my own place, refuse his call, and he will comeback apologizing, so everything will be settled. Now that i am married, when we argue, I have no where to go, but to our matrimonial home. I cannot ignore him because he is right there, and so we have to talk it through. In marriage, arguments must be settled or it will lead to bigger issues. I love my husband very much, but some days he could be considered my enemy, especially on days he decides he wants to voice out everything.. I have learnt It is okay to have arguments as long as you prioritize your love and marriage first, then you will make it through.

    • C'est moi

      October 17, 2014 at 2:40 pm

      But surely the same ‘no where to go’ argument still arises if you’re dating and living together.

      How is different is marriage fr cohabiting with a partner?

    • MC

      October 17, 2014 at 3:24 pm

      Well yeah, of course.
      But she isn’t talking about cohabiting though.

    • ruky

      October 17, 2014 at 7:44 pm

      I was giving an example out of many differences i had noticed between dating and marriage from my personal experience. We didn’t live together, so when we argued, we spent time away from each other until someone made the first move. However, with marriage they is no shakara, push and pull or whatever else it is called. We have to talk it out, and gain a conclusion from our discussion unless it builds into more arguments, and eventually divorce. I think my point is you never really know someone, even when you are married to them. The point is will you remain with the person with all the changes that will come? I never knew my husband could talk that much until we got married lol. He showed me his quiet side only when we were dating, and now i am slowly adjusting to his talkative side, but i know this new side of him wouldn’t break us up. However, if your husband new side is abuse, please RUN.

  7. 9jalife

    October 17, 2014 at 11:46 am

    Nice one Toke…but i disagree confiding in a friends of all people..you never know who is happy for you or rejoicing in your misery..Talk to God and next person is the one you need to mend bridges with…your HUSBAND!!..only you two can FIX IT!!
    Think people are wised up to the fact that so called Celeb weddings people are nothing but a mirage…look at the number of divorces they have had!!
    But 9ja wannabes being what they are love to copy copy and no one can tell them otherwise…always looking at others if not the house…the car…marriage…never quite content!!
    Abroad you see a Bricklayer married to a hairdresser and don’t send anyone blissfully in love in their own world….
    I do agree with you tho…no one knows what goes on in other homes…every marriage and person is UNIQUE..and please stop comparing!!

    • slice

      October 17, 2014 at 2:30 pm

      surely you have one friend in your life that you trust. if u don’t, you need to start doing things a little differently. i can’t count how many times i’ve talked my friends off the ledge. sometimes when you’re really mad at your guy, you need someone to help you see it’s not that serious. find a friend like that. Or at least a mentor. it can’t be just you and God all the time

    • MC

      October 17, 2014 at 3:26 pm

      Nicely put
      I was wondering the same thing, surely everybody has that ONE friend

    • 9jalife

      October 17, 2014 at 6:39 pm

      Got friends but intimate details about my marriage is a big NO!!…I wouldn’t do that to my partner and its something we actually agreed and bought into…we not perfect but we rather keep our issues in house….
      More so it all depends on the level….does he have a mistress outside??…is there violence??..has kids outside wedlock??…in these cases you obviously have to reach out if it you just go mad…everything else see no reason why you have to tell all and sundry..you just bringing more people into your marriage!!

  8. 9jalife

    October 17, 2014 at 11:49 am

    meant… *in a friend*

    • Olope

      October 19, 2014 at 1:28 pm

      But the advice is not to tell all and sundry, as you put it. It is to share with a confidant. If you don’t have one, then you shouldn’t share with anyone. It can be a lot of burden to keep things in for most, and it leads to misery most times.

  9. Mercy

    October 17, 2014 at 12:00 pm

    I have never quite understood Toke’s intent of shoving her personal opinions down our throats with her four different accents going in ascending and descending order plus her heavily pancake-d face but as a good learner,i try to get the real message underneath the distractions(God bless me!)…and her pronunciation of Chanel tho hehe!!!Toke baby,its Castles in the air,not in the wind.Ok,time to go before the niccurs come at me!Mwah…..(oh,and yes of course we are dealing with that your mouth thing ehn,we have no choice na lol)

    • slm

      October 17, 2014 at 12:56 pm

      Where is the thumbs down button?

    • Mercy

      October 17, 2014 at 1:55 pm

      It’s in your dirty ear,not far from your garri brain!

    • Bleed Blue

      October 17, 2014 at 2:18 pm

      I know right? People can be unneccesarily harsh.

      Mercy, you don’t get her intent, yet you’re able to “get the real message underneath”? Do you not consider that you’ve just inadvertently answered your own question?

    • crystal

      October 17, 2014 at 3:01 pm

      Your so stupid. is that what they asked you? so in everything she said, its correction you came out to do..idiot fool..

    • Mercy

      October 17, 2014 at 3:37 pm

      So the niccurs still came at me *sigh* ….Well u too are stupid,u are an idiot and u are a fool.Dalu. @BleedBlue nawa o u too “Do you not consider that you’ve just inadvertently” acted foolish?

    • girl

      October 17, 2014 at 11:56 pm

      girl you know you’re giving yourself them likes, don’t front… its some miserable gravel mouthed people in the world.. Ewu ofiah

    • Olope

      October 19, 2014 at 1:44 pm

      Drat, I accidentally hit love on Mercy’s last post. Where is the remove love icon?

      This is gonna be long**, bear with me.

      Sharing advice with you shouldn’t be considered shoving opinion down your throat, unless you are insecure in your own belief. She did not put a gun to your head, asking you to do as things her way. I don’t always agree with her opinions (e.g., the Kardashian- or whatever the hell the spelling is- post), but that’s what makes life what it is. Share yours if you disagree, so others can have a chance to learn from your wealth of knowledge.

      All these insecure and/or bitter people who have to get personal for no reason. Mrs. Lecturer, Chanel pronunciation, who cares? Coco Chanel for sure cannot pronounce Toke Makinwa right either, get over it. Idioms do get reworded quite often. Given that wind results from air flow, exactly what is your point? In other videos, she has used the idiom with air.

      **I dislike haters. They never make it in life. They never reach their full potential, which I consider a major sin and waste of space. Why insult your creator that way? Why rob the world a chance of having yet another successful being contributing positively to world growth?

    • Ada Nnewi

      October 20, 2014 at 11:44 am

      And brainless mercy keeps liking her own comment …..#sigh#

  10. mama ovie

    October 17, 2014 at 12:19 pm

    toke I feel you but is not easy
    papa ovie is trying to setup a business, as a loving wife I decided to step in my little saving, bam business plans start running I was so happy , planning to go and see him next week cos we live in different cities bam got a call yesterday that the land he bought was for someone else ,
    I was so shattered and broken
    I never knew when I called all the family members I was broken , marriage is crazy sometimes
    after much ado the owner was willing to sell .
    the challenge eh is crazy , from one to another life sometimes sucks HMMMMM

    • iba

      October 17, 2014 at 1:31 pm

      I know enuf to drive you crazy right? Its well with your home.

  11. Jane

    October 17, 2014 at 12:19 pm

    Truth be told…

    Nigerwifediary.blogspot.com

  12. Tincan

    October 17, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    You dey talk true, Toke. This marriage thing, like jobs, children, family and every aspect of life, has its blissful moments but also its rather challenging moments. Sometimes the challenges are not even inter-spouse but against the unit. Only God…

  13. Mz_bi

    October 17, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    Mercy though, Honestly any frequent watcher of toke’s vlogs knows and understands that her ‘four different accents going in ascending and descending order’ is just for laughs and to keep the vlog funny. If she uses just one accent in the vlog, the likes of you will still call her fake. I don’t understand the thing with us ladies bringing our fellow women down tho..
    Babe always has a full programmed day and she is a media person so she naturally should be ‘heavily pancaked’. She rushes home every Wednesday and knows that out of loyalty to her vlog watchers, regardless of how exhausting her day has been, she still has to post that video! So because you feel she should please people like you, babe should now gaan clean her face 1st b4 she shoots her vlog abi? Just so she doesn’t get judged ba?
    Mschew.

    • Trina

      October 17, 2014 at 4:26 pm

      Mz_bi abeg leave that Mercy, she clealry has personal issues with Toke. There’s no way someone can be so dramatic in insulting someone except if there’s background beef.

      See how she came back to validate her sad self and jump on others who called her out on her bitter comments. The sister needs a fan to chill her the f*ck out.

  14. LINDA

    October 17, 2014 at 1:14 pm

    you so right…

  15. Mz_bi

    October 17, 2014 at 1:21 pm

    Mercy though, Shoving her opinion down your throat? Who forced you to watch and do as she says? If indeed you do as she says, does that not make it your business and not her shoving her opinion down your throat? Nawa o.

    • Dee

      October 17, 2014 at 5:09 pm

      Mercy is frustrated. It’s obvious na. Let us pray for her. Her type will always look for the bad in people and how to dish insults. I’m waiting to see which words she will use on the rest of us when she comes back to evaluate responses to her comments. Weakness of character dot com. Mercy abeg go and find mercy from God.

      Aaaaaaaaaaanyway, I typed my long comment before but lost it when my computer decided to crash. Imagine!
      Ok marraige abi? Toke made some valid points but the matter is not for short talk oh, we can spend 24hrs discussing and not scratch the surface. Na prayer get am. No be lie. PRAYER!

  16. Isioma

    October 17, 2014 at 1:35 pm

    lol. Toke and her different accents.
    I’ve been married for a few months and its quite an experience. its beautiful on most days and on few days, its just manageable. One requires wisdom, patience and plenty tolerance in a marriage. According to my husband, every day is a school day, you learn and learn and don’t stop learning. Its important one understands who he/she has married to else you’d have constant issues. Am grateful to God for the husband He gave me, we are different in many ways but we compliment each other in our differences. We”ve learnt and are still learning to adjust to each other.
    I think one key feature towards the success of any relationship not just marriage is the parties involved. If both parties are ready to make the relationship work despite all odds, then nothing can stop them.

  17. Temzit

    October 17, 2014 at 2:07 pm

    Toke I can soon relate… Our third year anniversary is next month… Thanks for keeping it real. Marriage is hardwork but the positives make the negatives worth it.

  18. kk

    October 17, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    i really REALLY like Toke Makinwa….hilarious babe.! Nice one 🙂

  19. uzeez

    October 17, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    Is very encouraging seeing pples write up cos it makes u feel we are after all humans and not alone, in less than 2 yrs of my marriage I am already worn out in fact. I just told my husband I am done. The worst of it is I can’t even pray, when I want to i end up cursing my self and questioning God. I hve excluded my self from social life, cos I hve friends that got married the same time I did, they all have wonderful things to talk about, but I don’t so avoid them, no face booking, not on BBM, watsapp, instagram and the rest…..

    • Ivy

      October 17, 2014 at 3:37 pm

      So sorry darling….mighty hug. Have you tried counselling? You can go on your own because if you do not know the problem, no solution can be gotten. Do not give up on God, He will never give up on you….just keep thanking him for blessings, no need to as for anything cuz He knows.

    • Anon

      October 17, 2014 at 4:03 pm

      They are probably not telling the truth. Every marriage experiences ups and downs. Just like any relationship…you just look back on your own friendships…

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      October 17, 2014 at 4:22 pm

      Their journey may have started around the same time as yours (those friends you speak of who’ve been married for the same length of time) but you can’t measure what you’re going through with their perceived bliss. You just can’t, luv, or else it’ll make you feel even more wretched.

      I’m sorry to hear about what you’ve been going through in your union and know this is a very cliched response to put up in answer to your comment because there are truthfully times when one must find a yardstick to determine if you’re going forward or staying in the same spot…. however, marriages come with their own variables. You’re a woman composed differently from them, your husband’s a different man with unique qualities from theirs and the dynamic of your own relationship just can’t be replicated by any other couple.

      So they are not your yardstick. They can’t be your yardstick. Keep talking to God – even if you can’t pray, just speak out loud to him about the issues which trouble you. And you need to talk to other people as well, including your husband. Cliche, again, I know but you both need to speak through whatever is happening. If you can’t do it together in the same space then please consider what Ivy’s already suggested above and find a good counsellor who can help you both work through your issues. I truly pray that it will be well with you – every hiccup and bend in the road doesn’t mean the end of your journey has come. You can still continue onwards if there’s something worth pushing forward for.

    • Bleed Blue

      October 17, 2014 at 4:31 pm

      Awwww Uzeez, your story makes me want to look for you and give you a big fat hug. Nobody’s marraige is perfect oh. Every one has to put in some work, just that some people’s work is more than others. As long as you’re not going through abuse, then I think you both can still work on the marraige.

      I know it sounds cliche but as Ivy said, don’t give up on God. Don’t despair completely. There’s a testimony coming after this test you’re going through. Get ready for it.
      Be blessed dear and keep strong.

    • Angel

      October 17, 2014 at 4:56 pm

      @uzeez, please do not compare ur marriage to ur friends or any other person for that matter. This is the mistake most ladies make, always comparing, competing, and trying to outdo each other. Some peeps even go to extreme lengths to show that they re living ‘the life’. The truth is that what u see most times outside, is not really same inside. Just stay focused, work on ur marriage the best way u know how to, communicate with ur husband, get self help books and above all pray my dear. U just have to learn how to unburden ur heart thru prayers cos in these terrible days, u can’t really trust nobody, so who do u talk to if not God? There are no protocols for praying, sometimes what u just need, is a quiet space alone, tell God how u feel, what u want, ask for divine help, even cry as much as u like, believe me u d’ feel better after that. Don’t quit my dear, 2 years is way too early for that. God be with u.

    • Abisoye David

      October 17, 2014 at 8:37 pm

      Sweetheart it is well with you. It is okay to feel tired sometimes but always remember that you were sent into each other’s lives for a purpose. Focus on the positive parts and you would see that your marriage is worth your while.

    • wande

      October 17, 2014 at 10:12 pm

      don’t throw in the towel. There’s nothing God cannot do. Do not compare yourself to ur friends on social media. I bet they are going through stuff too but just pretending. I pray that the love between u and your husband will be renewed. hugs

    • Olope

      October 19, 2014 at 2:01 pm

      Oh dear! Don’t be concerned with what your friends’ marriages seem like, reevaluate the expectations you had going into yours, make adjustments where needed, and assess from there. If there are things you need to work on to get your marriage to its full potential, do the work it takes – visit a counsellor. Not necessarily a bible-thumping one who is only going to tell you to go home and pray and leave God to do all the work. God is not a God of laziness. Without knowing exactly what you think is off in your marriage, it is hard to advice. Reassess to see if the things you believe are missing are things you see or hear your friend’s have, and have convinced yourself that you also need. What role is it going to play in taking your marriage to a happy, mutually rewarding place? Why do you want these things? Is it financial freedom? If so, are you working with your husband to achieve it? Is it children? If so, are you both taking medical steps to see if it can be your reality? More importantly, have you thought through why you want them now and if you are ready to give them the love, direction, and care they deserve? Your friends’ “reality” is not a reason.

      Good luck, as you work on your marriage.

    • truthinlove

      October 22, 2014 at 2:31 am

      Sending you hugs and encouragement. Marriage is difficult. 1 Corinthians 7:28 , Paul says that those who are married will have many troubles and he later goes on to say that single people are happier in his opinion. Please use this opportunity to draw closer to the real and ultimate lover of your soul – Jesus Christ.. Your suffering will make you perfect, complete and lacking in nothing :). Be strengthened dear one and use this opportunity to be perfect like your heavenly father by loving and serving even when it’s very difficult to do so. It wont always be this way but our joy must be found in Christ alone.

      ps- Also, try to make love to your spouse as often as possible. You may not feel like doing so because you are unhappy, but it creates a bond that helps you to better serve your spouse. You are certainly not alone.

    • Anjiesmum

      October 24, 2014 at 7:07 am

      Marriage no be joke, i feel you about just staying off social media at times. Focus on why you took the step in the first place, what you love about your man. My parents have been married for 45 years and when my mum complains at times i just laugh cos despite generation gap in our marriages i can relate but i know they love each other a lot and they are great if not perfect models so when the rain pours just hold on knowing the sun would come out …..soon.

    • Ajoke Thompson

      November 6, 2014 at 4:33 pm

      It is well with your marriage. Please stay strong. I know that feeling…

  20. Idomagirl

    October 17, 2014 at 3:12 pm

    I really like it when married people keep it real. Great video Toke.

  21. I just care

    October 17, 2014 at 3:24 pm

    @uzeez After 2 years of your marriage and you want to give up! my dear there are more to marriages than what you think. i might not know exactly what you are going thru but i just want you to see the brighter side of your of marriage. Continue to pray for God knows the heart of all man and maybe join some of these sisters/women fellowship around, they will pray with you too. There is nothing God cannot do! I will be praying for you! Shalom!!

  22. peace

    October 17, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    Makeup isn’t a bad thing. She choses to wear it and maybe you don’t doesn’t make her less of a woman. I wear makeup like 3-4 times a week (not as perfect as hers tho), and sometimes i just hate it. No big deal. She is beautiful with or without makeup…So please stop with all the “i must talk about her physical appearance first”…SMDH. We need to learn to be positive, and critize (with solutions not curses) when needed.
    Anyways sha good job Toke, learned a lot…God bless your home 🙂

  23. ekalor

    October 17, 2014 at 3:58 pm

    Mercy… I bet you have selective hearing, because if you did not, you would have heard her disclaim over and over again. You can tell she was being sarcastic.
    Better still pick the message not the messenger.

    GIVE IT A REST

  24. AVID BLOG READER

    October 17, 2014 at 4:26 pm

    One thing I have learnt after being married for 12 years is that if you take your spouse as you take your child i.e. unconditional love; then you can overcome a lot. No one is perfect and you will see the worst in people after living with them day in day out. Compromise is key and friendship in marriage is everything!

  25. liz

    October 17, 2014 at 7:30 pm

    Thanks Toks!! I love listening to you, You are a true Naija, you don’t fake it , you say it like it is. Marriage is exactly like you said except that some ladies might have more to say,

    To Mercy: you men that of all the fact and good things Toke said the only thing you were able to grasp is her accent and her make up,( that’s a big SHAME on you as a woman, a Nigerian and a future mother that if you are not one already) I wonder what values you have. People like you are SO SO fake especially when you have not crossed the borders of Nigeria and if you do, you tend to be “more Catholic than the pope” You are so confused you don’t even know yourself…. you end up carrying another person’s personality instead of yours.

    For me, i will encourage Toke and i will keep enjoying her accents, her jokes and her person…..because she is keeping it REAL!!!!!

  26. Fyre

    October 17, 2014 at 7:42 pm

    the sibling part is sooo true…….i wanna kill my sister right now. I hate watching this chicks vlogs but she killt it on this one.

  27. Introverted Humanist

    October 17, 2014 at 7:55 pm

    Toke, i just recently started watching your vlogs, very inspiring. Thank YOU!.

  28. cicimileko

    October 17, 2014 at 8:17 pm

    triple WOW!!!! well expressed and clearly understood.
    I have been married for 10 yrs plus, in-fact my 11th is just a few days away in October and I totally agree with all you said, best line was the hubby crush is not an everyday business. I am functionally crazy and my deary me knows and appreciates my moment of wahala sometimes, but other times he just looks at me and sees the 2yr old wanting attention and knows; ignore for a while and she will come down to earth again; on the other hand, as you rightly emphasized marriage involves work ( not the cross your leg and send your house-help to do it type; but the knees on the ground, fervently pouring your heart to Jehovah with hands on action whilst focusing on the positive and giving it time to work type) and the earlier each partner comes to term with it, the sooner you make your house into a home and enjoy all (GOD + BAD = REALITY) that comes with building it

  29. Que

    October 17, 2014 at 10:46 pm

    As in even Jesus addresses himself as friend…to show that friends are important….she didnt say go to d village square and cry out your woes…..just have ears that can see in both interests and advise objectively….sometimes they can help u detach from the situation a bit, cos they aren’t as involved as you….God doesn’t drop from heaven all d time, thats why he created us to help each other….sometimes a good old shoulder is all u need to ‘wash’ u andbhelp u forget ur sorrows…..

    That said, I feel d vedio was very generic…. when she went on about being ‘very real’, I was expecting some specific experiences to follow….not d same things we’ve heard!

  30. NNENNE

    October 17, 2014 at 11:02 pm

    Marry someone you love well enough that you can take their none sense. There is no perfect human being.

  31. NNENNE

    October 17, 2014 at 11:02 pm

    “Nonsense”

  32. Fossil

    October 17, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    I’m 5 years into marriage institution & u know wot d lord hears all our silent prayers, @ times u feel like u ve abandon all ur dreams & aspiration & all u re doing is just helping d man build or coordinate his life, while ur life remain stagnant . In marriage a lot of things begins to unveil .Men can be something else, they offend u yet they want u to appologies, u prove stubborn they use it as an excuses to stay away from home or spend time with their mistress, when they re not happy they want the whole house not to be happy ,it’s hard for them to spend time with d kids yet they complain when the kids re injured. U know wot d Lord is they only person that can touch their heart to give u peace & make fill ur home with love. Some men even complain of being broke yet spend so much on their mistresses .some even infect their spouse with STD”s and other sexually transmitted diseases, yet still behave unquestionable. Some even lie to single girls that they re still single or divorce just to get them to bed yet when their wife find out about this they still put on this unquestionable face, some even ll abandon their responsilities when ever they ve misunderstanding with their spouse . So ladies, girls, women prepare ur mind & ve it @ d back of ur mind that no matter wot God ll c u thru.

  33. BlueEyed

    October 18, 2014 at 7:09 am

    Totally agree with toke on this one, no marriage is perfect…a lot of work is put into the sustainance of any marriage or partnership.
    I remember my elder sister’s best friend, who got married around the same time as my elder sister……whenever her and her husband stepped out it was all rainbows and sunshine. Infact I prayed to have a marriage like theirs…in plain sight they looked so perfect. Unknown to many and even my sister who was her best friend, she was going through a lot, she had bottled so much inside that when she spilled out some things out of frustration at one of out family gatherings……my mind was in shock (still is)…..I mean I always thought marriage started and ended with those two. My sister really felt sad that her best friend with which they have been through everything together couldn’t discuss with her, because in sight of her seemingly perfect marriage my sis always made it obvious that marriage is a learning process and it always doesn’t go that easy.

  34. quiet confidence

    October 18, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    The Yorubas have a saying “ile oko, ile eko”. Literal translation is husband house, lesson house. In other words, marriage teaches you a lots of things, you learn a lot in marriage. May we all be wiser in our marriage.

  35. standout

    October 19, 2014 at 7:00 am

    belive me or not, i will like to think my marriage is Perfect by God’s grace…..been married for 6yrs plus,and it gets better by d day ,glory to God. ..NB,build ur marriage on a solid foundation,which is Christ,AVOID premarital sex yes and learn to understand ur spouse..

  36. ao

    October 19, 2014 at 10:46 pm

    An old woman that has been married for decades once told me that the best marriage is between the deaf woman and the blind man.

    • step77

      October 21, 2014 at 10:08 pm

      Nice one! to me though it’s more like blind woman and deaf man

  37. Grown Woman

    October 21, 2014 at 7:46 am

    Chai this marriage talk no be easy oo only God can make it work

  38. k

    January 10, 2015 at 10:00 pm

    My dear stop going around trying to scare people about marriages. Some marriages are happy…..love, respect, trust and understanding is the key to a happy marriage.. thats why you marry a man who you love n u sure he loves you back. When u love genuinely u will put each others need ahead of one….satisfying his needs will make you happy…its just that feeling., that connection

  39. k

    January 10, 2015 at 10:36 pm

    Toke dear, i am your fan but things can never be generalised. I like that ur master class…it was quite inspiring….but dis marriage thing ex it….some marriages are happy

  40. k

    January 10, 2015 at 10:50 pm

    When i was in school, some people will tell you that a course was hard….never have that mindset. Those people with that mindset ended up having extra years in school. I finished with a 2.1. My higher degree i finished with a distinction, some people told me it was hard to get the distinction….they ended up not getting. I never listened to them. I read, listened to advise from someone who got a distinction n prayed n fasted n it was easy…never have that mindset that something is difficult. I am your fan cause i like the way you are excelling in the entertainment industry, u have a mind of your own which is good…..so pls dont embrace negativity. Follow the godly advise for marriages n by God’s grace ur marriage will be easy….some couples are actually really happy so dont generalise things. I know u r not perfect so u might still say things that i wont agree with.xxx

  41. louisa

    January 11, 2015 at 4:54 am

    Nice one toke

  42. Veritas

    February 9, 2015 at 2:33 pm

    My love, everything about you makes me happy while watch ur episoles on my pc. The way u roll ur eyes, lips, shake ur head, and many more. The most amusing thing is that each of words make me happy. You are hitting the nail on d head. keep it up. Listening to Your talk makes me happy.
    Pls gv me a sign when u receive this text as comment. Love u my fine lady

  43. YVONNE

    July 31, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    Feeling Toke 100 percent. She is real and not fake. No one is perfect, you got a fan for life. Keep it up

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