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Fola Daniel Adelesi: Thick Skin For a New Phase



One major lesson I have learnt in life is that you will need a thick skin for every new phase in your life. If you don’t develop a thick skin you will soon find yourself crumbling under every situation rather than facing it. The issue is akin to an animal and human – scared of each other. The loser will be the first person to show the inner fear and the other person whose fear is hidden can then exhibit some courage.

The new phase can be a new level or New Year or new responsibility. There are challenges that come with all of those phases and when you don’t brace up for them the smallest of those challenges can tear you apart.

You would have had some challenges yesterday, or in the previous years, but that does not mean you will not have another one this year. The only thing is that you may not go through the same phase of challenges again if you have learnt your lessons and have done the needful.

To develop a thick skin for a new phase does not mean you become nonchalant to the issues you are supposed to face. Having a thick skin does not mean you will not respond to the challenges or deal with them. The most important thing is that you will not be shaken by those challenges you are now facing. They will come but your mind will be prepared for them.

What even makes you overcome the challenges is how well prepared your mind is to face them. You may have a situation where some people have the solution to their challenges but they still will not face those challenges because they are afraid. They will hold on to the solution but will not do what is needed.

Get ready in this new phase of your life. People will say ‘no’ to some of your propositions but you can’t afford to let that shake you. You will be in some situations where there are so many things to be done urgently but with very limited resources to move ahead. You can’t let that determine your mood or take over your mind and get you worried.

To have a thick skin really means that there are challenges around you but none of it can get into your mind and make you lose your mind. It is like insulating your mind against anything that wants to drive you crazy. You need to expect some of those things to come. They will really want to drive you crazy. You may find someone who should help you and is refusing to help you even though the person obviously has all it takes to help you. You will present some nice ideas that should not meet any opposition but you will find people fighting it.

If you have your mind prepared for such you will just look forward to the next step and face it. In fact, before those things happen you would have prepared a possible scene that can play out so as soon as resistance comes you are already doing the next thing you planned out.

The reason some people failed before now is not because they do not have a great plan. As far as life or business is concerned, they have it all planned out. Some of the people with the best business proposals and business plans have everything well laid out and were also ready to execute but they did not have the thick skin to get through the plans.

My dear friend, you will need a thick skin to get through most of the things you want to do in this new phase. You will soon find out that you need more than intelligence or strategy. Your mind has to be ready for resistance from known and unknown people. You need to get yourself ready for anything that wants to discourage you. Arm yourself with the necessary tools to fight through till you access the next phase of your life.

Get ready! To succeed in life you need more than brains!

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Fola Daniel Adelesi (also Fola Daniel Speaks) is a Professional Public Speaker, Learning & Development Expert, Communications Professional, and an author of more than 13 books. He's a highly engaging training facilitator who holds his audience spellbound when speaking at gatherings. Apart from his several platforms which include banks, insurance companies, and religious organizations, he has been part of some national television shows and he spoke so intelligently. Some of his published books include: - Get Up and Hit That Goal - Basic Skills for Outstanding Leadership - Breaking Grounds Despite Backgrounds - Writing Business Proposals - Indebted to Ignorance He's also a highly skilled master of ceremony with excellent poise and diction who is endeared to many corporate clients. He was on the Debaters TV reality show Season 1, he presented 'You Can' on Radio Continental in 2011 and he did motivational segments on Galaxy Television from Dec. 2008 to August 2009. He currently features consistently on Channels Television and Television Continental, two of the leading TV stations in Nigeria to discuss national and youth issues. He keeps a vlog at and his books are available on or


  1. JustBrowsing

    January 8, 2015 at 12:13 pm

    Please don’t develop a thick skin regarding tossing this suit and/or updating your photograph.
    Sheesh !

    • Busarni

      January 8, 2015 at 12:31 pm

      Awww!!!! below the belt.

  2. wunmi

    January 8, 2015 at 2:58 pm

    Thanks Fola. As always spot on. This is one time I REALLY need to develop a thick skin. There’s a lot going on all at the same time. The year started with so much attack on my resistance & faith. The guy I had hoped things would work out with just got married to someone else last Saturday. I’m facing serious threat to my job as in ehn one leg seriously out o & living with my brother & his wife has become so unbearable. I am so tempted to give up all my goals for the year. In fact strangely that was one of my resolve this year to develop a thick skin but its easier said than done. When life hits you ehn! God should just please help me. *sadmuch*

    • Tosin

      January 9, 2015 at 1:40 am

      Step one: no more living with brother and wife. If you have a job and determination, you can pay rent.

  3. dubai mum

    January 9, 2015 at 1:56 am

    @wumi- the Masters got your back dear!

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