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Adesola Ade-Unuigbe

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Toke MakinwaToke Makinwa’s weekly vlog is out and this week she is talking relationships with the hashtag #Youarebetteroffalone.

The media personality talks about relationships that drain you – and says it’s time for women to start telling themselves the truth. She says it is high time women start to take notice of the things men do and know when to leave.

Watch her vlog below.

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164 Comments

  1. Better to be single

    June 25, 2015 at 5:02 pm

    My own be say when the going was good, babe be saying my husband is this, my husband is that -left the single girls club and left the men bashers behind.

    Now that the going is bad, it is better to be alone abi? WHEN EVEN THE BIBLE SAYS IT IS NOT GOOD FOR A MAN/WOMAN TO BE ALONE. Those who listen to you and take your advice must be so dumb.

    Conclusively, out of a thousand and one (1001) issues plaguing this country and world, WHY MUST IT BE MAN MATTER EVERY SINGLE DAY? Is your life centered around men?

    People don’t give a hoot bout what is not important but to talk about men day in day out shows how important men must really be.

    Babe be doing vlog to please people who don’t care about you at the expense of your life and future.

    Any adult who cant handle marriage is a failure, simple!

    • faith

      June 25, 2015 at 5:12 pm

      U re the dumb one.

    • Seun

      June 25, 2015 at 5:40 pm

      Well said! Bravo *clapping hands*.

    • Onye

      June 25, 2015 at 9:08 pm

      So, if a man cheats or beats on his wife, she should stay there and not only be miserable but be exposed to possible death and various STDs so that she doesn’t fail? My dear, it is best to just walk away and I believe that is the bravest thing a woman can do especially in this society.

    • ISIGINI.BIKO

      June 26, 2015 at 12:51 am

      Why people dey carry toke mata for head like gele?

      So many idiotic comments! Haters! The lot of them!

      See them forming council of the fallen in times of distress.

      All of a sudden everyones attacking toke like say na una sure pass! Una give am cooking pot wey for house? abi rent money? abi petrol money? una send am go school? Dense and Densers! Man pike no go chop?

      99% of the time, i click on links about your vlogs only to read comments and laugh, cos most of your topics don’t interest me, hence i don’t watch. MAKE NO MISTAKE THO, the 1% i do watch, if you F-up and yarn okpata, ME SEF DON YARB YOU DIE!

      THAT BEING SAID!……

      Tokingstar abi wetin be that yah name sef, milk this shit till we all want to blow our freaking heads off! The idiots coming here to complain and pick at your life struggles aint got shit going for them. BAD BELLE ANUOFIAS!

      TOKE THERE IS NO FOOD FOR THE LAZY OO….. AND SINCE YOU ARE NOT A LAZY WOMAN, OIL YOUR KNUCKLES AND KEEP FIRING THEM.

      THEIR CONSTANT AMEBO AND CRITICISMS UNTOP YOUR MATTER IS GIVING YOU ****FEEDS***** = ENDORSEMENTS = MORE MULA!!!!

      Biko, if you stop your vlogs to “chill”, “heal” or “deal”, I will be highly disappointed o!

    • A Real Nigerian

      June 25, 2015 at 5:42 pm

      “Any adult who cant handle marriage is a
      failure, simple!”
      You must be a failure as a human being if you think someone should be judged based on their success in something as trivial as marriage.

    • Ada

      June 26, 2015 at 9:20 am

      Marriage isn’t trivial! The home is the bedrock of society! Wash your mouth with soap please.

    • Baddie

      June 25, 2015 at 5:47 pm

      Thank you jor. This hypocrite of a lady really needs to have several seats. She went from tutoring girls on how to “lock a man down”, “how to be a sharp babe”, “how to get married” etc.. Now suddenly we are all better off alone abi? Nonsense. Maybe this is her way of dealing with the pain. Goodluck to her.

    • Jubemi

      August 12, 2015 at 10:37 am

      Me thinks you have issues! All her Vblog does is to make people laugh. Only people dumb as you would think they were actual life lessons.

    • Bola

      June 25, 2015 at 5:48 pm

      Any adult who can’t handle marriage is a failure? Hmmm na wa , no wonder we have women dying in bad marriages just so your likes won’t call her a failure. Very myopic way to view life

    • briggs

      June 25, 2015 at 5:50 pm

      OH But i thought the Bible says you can leave when there is sexual immorality in the marriage no? Abi she should stay even at that? What of if the guy is beating you? i guess leaving still makes you a kid abi? dont be ridiculous, its ideas like yours that ruins our kids…. Dont misquote the Bible and before calling someone a failure think twice…… aND YES 1001 ISSUES PLAGUING THE COUNTRY BUT HOW CAN ONE HAVE PEACE OF MIND WHEN THE HOME IS ON FIRE? REASON LIKE AN ADULT….. CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME….KISSES

    • babym

      June 25, 2015 at 5:50 pm

      omo y do ppl like to pretend??? geeeezz, u clearly care what toke has to say and you clearly give a hoot!! otherwise you will not have wasted your time to watch and listen to her man gist. and then take time to comment rubbish. Gosh Toke is such a big deal in so many ppls life hehehehe its soo funny. Agbaya

    • tsav

      June 25, 2015 at 5:56 pm

      Ur last sentence spoilt ur almost-applaudable write up.
      I disagree with u on that one. One with an unfortunate situation like a failed marriage IS NOT A FAILURE.

    • Kizzle

      June 26, 2015 at 3:52 am

      As in!! U got it.

    • ngozi

      June 25, 2015 at 6:01 pm

      @better to be single , I am sorry but the last bit is retarded. Someone who leaves a marriage with a serial cheat as a partner who exposes him/her to stds and death is a failure? Someone who leaves an abusive relationship is a failure? This coming from someone who is supposedly educated! CHAI

    • Osa

      June 25, 2015 at 6:08 pm

      Infact ehn, did u see my comment on Linda Ikeji’s blog. That was exactly what I said. Her husband may be a dog, which she cant deny she didnt know (bitterness is now oozing out of her from her vlogs). she didnt sit at home and was always attending every function. some hate comments about her can even make hubby drift away. also she never born which im not saying is her fault but as a married woman when such things happen u have to ease a bit of the partying etc. and start doing serious things in that aspect. sebi she sabi attend church etc forget he met her that way. when u become a married woman or married man u have responsibilities on all front and u have to adjust ur life and stop behaving u are still like 17 year old

      she always felt like one relationship expert advising people wey never marry etc and justified the discrimination that some married idiots do to unmarried. well its her wahala. let her solve it.

      meanwhile she is a bloody liar. she will compose a very intense fan mai l praising and loving herself and now post it on IG. i have my raw facts and evidence. toke has a big problem in personality matter. Toke, chill out small ehn, and reflect on ur life

    • tosin

      June 25, 2015 at 11:05 pm

      This doesn’t make any sense.. You gave evidence? Any for those who CLEARLY LACK emotional INTELLIGENCE. Shes clearly talking about herself and to herself and now at this point shes hurting. This will be therapeautic

    • Nnenna

      June 25, 2015 at 6:15 pm

      You must be kidding. “Any adult that can’t handle marriage is a failure”? You can’t control/”handle” others behavior/emotions.

    • L.L

      June 25, 2015 at 6:28 pm

      So, if you can’t handle marriage, you’re a failure? Seriously? How ignorant does that sound! You can’t judge one by the success or demise of a marriage. There’s more to this life than getting hitched. Most married couple these days are extremely miserable. So, should one succumb to dejection and misery all in the name of marriage? Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for marriage, a happy one. Not saying marriage is built on a bed of roses but there are different reasons people seek divorce, to each its own. But for you to judge one because they decide not to be married anymore? Not kosher….absolutely unfriggin’ kool! In Toke’s case, if she decides to leave that man, you can’t fault her for that. She has to deal with the fact that the man didn’t only cheat (which is hard to forgive) but he also impregnated someone. Seriously dude!!!!!!!! C’mon na….I was once married and divorced and I was glad I got out when I did, Judge me if you wish. Your call. Why be miserable with some Joe Schmo when you can be a happy lone wolf? Girl bye!

    • PurpleiciousBabe

      June 25, 2015 at 7:20 pm

      Your last sentence messed up the comment..
      You have missed the point..

      Re.Toke, she is talking about herself but not talking about herself. A mixture of rant, motivation and self confession. In a way, its good for her to lament so it helps her move on.
      About people bashing her for talking about being single…. she is at a different phase right now and if that is what she feels like talking, please let her oo..
      Generally, she talks about relationships so I dont mind if this is her topic for today.

    • BEAUTIFULNBLESSED

      June 25, 2015 at 8:11 pm

      HOPE YOU DON’T HAVE LOW SELF CONFIDENCE BC THAT’S WHAT YOU ARE RELAYING. JUST SAYING. GOODLUCK!

    • Naomi

      June 25, 2015 at 8:15 pm

      Aunty, its God that said “its not good for MAN to be alone” not woman oo

    • damseldam1

      June 25, 2015 at 8:37 pm

      “Any adult who cant handle marriage is a
      failure, simple!” really! does that mean i am a failure because my marriage didn’t work out? lol you having a laugh mate! i presumed you have not yet “enroll” into the marriage school when you do then your understanding would be enlarged!!

    • wen

      June 27, 2015 at 12:18 pm

      she probably typed right out of her Arse

    • wen

      June 27, 2015 at 12:19 pm

      He/She

    • Woman to Woman

      June 25, 2015 at 8:55 pm

      You most be single. ODE” ” Anybody that can handle married is a failure” you are so ignorant.

    • Bukku

      June 25, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      @Better to be single, anyone that can utter this; “Any adult who cant handle marriage is a failure, simple!”, is the biggest failure of all!

    • Latifa

      June 25, 2015 at 10:06 pm

      @better…… Will you keep quiet when have you heard her talking abt her husband this or that i am pretty sure you only started watching her vlog after the scandal ?? Some if you need to drop your phones or laptops before you comment.

    • hawttalkwithtosan.blogspot.ca

      June 25, 2015 at 10:21 pm

      Your comment is one big OXYMORON.

    • Kizzle

      June 26, 2015 at 3:45 am

      I disagree with this ur last line Abeg. Which one be “any adult who can’t handle marriage is a failure”? U were making small sense till u said that nonsense. Hiss.

    • MOM

      June 26, 2015 at 8:41 am

      NOW I SEE GREAT REASONS TO RESPECT ANN IDIBIA, COS LOVE CONQUERS ALLLL.

    • Funmi

      July 19, 2015 at 4:27 pm

      Ann’s case is different. Tuface pregnated the ladies before taking her to the alter. But in Tole’s case, the guy got a lady pregnant while still married to Toke.

    • Jubemi

      August 12, 2015 at 10:38 am

      Does it really? At the expense of your integrity, sanity and health? Who has Ann Idibia as a role model anyways!

    • Taipan

      June 26, 2015 at 9:01 am

      Toke, can’t you handle your issues without the public/media? for Christ sake if you have issues with your hubby(men) please take your decision and keep it to your self, because nobody took that vow in the alter with you and your hubby, in as much as no one supports men cheating or beating up their wives, you too check your self…if you cant take it WAKA, and leave the public alone

    • Medina

      June 26, 2015 at 9:25 am

      so you were making some sense until the last line…where you just had to end on a daft note! You are definitely not married…marriage is not as easy as you think…some people actually do try their best but it doesn’t just work..that does not make them a failure! kai! Aunty/ Uncle Judgmental

    • weegza

      June 26, 2015 at 10:15 am

      complete drivel what you just typed, you obviously have low self esteem issues if you think marriage defines one’s existence.

    • Jhennique

      June 26, 2015 at 11:05 am

      “any adult who cant handle marriage is a failure”? really? please who messed up your commonsensical reasoning this way?

    • sweet

      June 26, 2015 at 11:25 am

      I think you are an idiot. Why do you keep watching it if it is of no use to you? Shut up if you have nothing to say. Odeh!

    • Abi

      June 26, 2015 at 11:26 am

      Well said dear, but your last statement should be withdrawn. I mean give it to Toke, she salvaged this relationship for 12yrs, her failed marriage was a bomb that was going to explode anyways, but she still thot she would be able to salvage it for another 12yrs. You see my point is that don’t try tying a rope that has cut more than 2 times, cos it keeps reducing in length, so it can never be the same. Marriage works with 2 parties involved ready to work things out, and not one side trying to salvage it all the time. Toke we know u r hurting, but please share your hurt with your mum and sisters only, you see these people on social media aint loyal, despite the fact that some go through worse situations and remain in it, then don’t send you, so quit hurting n venting in your vlog. Can we hear you talk about fertility issues and other professional courses to build your career, thus reducing d man talk. my little advice.

    • mz_daniels

      June 26, 2015 at 2:00 pm

      The bible didn’t say man/woman now or did it?

      You know I still read the King James Version, maybe there’s a newer translation that contains man/woman.

    • tybay

      June 26, 2015 at 3:14 pm

      I agree with you up to your last sentence. It was absolutely unnecessary.

    • Lois

      June 26, 2015 at 8:45 pm

      Pathetic is your name. Sorry case

    • pd

      June 27, 2015 at 6:46 am

      Please tell us how to ‘handle marriage ‘…. pot handle abi kettle handle? Phewwww

    • L & L

      June 27, 2015 at 11:01 am

      @ Toke,was overwhelmingly embarrassed for you as I watched the video & couldn’t complete it,you need time to heal,please. The same exact thing happened to me and do understand the heart wrenching pain & humiliation you are dealing with,no woman deserves this at all. Sadly yours is out in the open. @ better,I strongly advice you choose your words wisely,remember your own story is yet unfolding.

    • Jubemi

      August 12, 2015 at 10:32 am

      But yet you took time out of your busy schedule to comment on a lady you think is dumb!
      Makes me wonder who is more jobless or dumber…. just wondering!

    • susan

      August 26, 2015 at 4:01 pm

      Please where does it state in the bible that it’s not good for a woman/man to be alone..when Peter an apostle was alone?

  2. Femi

    June 25, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    Dear Toke,
    Please STFU. You are so full of s**t.

    Thanks
    ThePublic

    • Seun

      June 25, 2015 at 5:48 pm

      She should start by losing her fake accent and just be real for once! Its So goddamn irritating!! Aghh!!

    • polypoly

      June 25, 2015 at 6:18 pm

      am not even tryna bash Toke but gworrrlllll, this her accent flip flop ti su mi…..haba!!! from Naija to Yankee to Britiko then Yoruba then to Russian accent. gurl please!!! just stick to one abeg and let the viewers not be distracted by the accents.

    • Ra

      June 27, 2015 at 10:50 pm

      Lol.Toke is a #LittleMissJocelyn Wanabe

    • Pretty O

      June 25, 2015 at 7:23 pm

      I dont know why she’s still trying to justify her story. Girl bye, have several seats, but at the same time I hope everyone learns from her or whomever and try not to make the same mistake blindly…

  3. Tell-Them

    June 25, 2015 at 5:11 pm

    She should have told herself she is better off by herself before forcing herself to marry her husband… Hissing like a yoruba girl

    • teetee

      June 26, 2015 at 10:33 am

      Why are you hissing like a yoruba girl? You better take your time

  4. NaijaPikin

    June 25, 2015 at 5:12 pm

    It’s safe to say she has made the decision to leave Maje. If that’s not the case, this babe is setting herself up again

    • Dolapo

      June 25, 2015 at 5:55 pm

      Don’t mind her. She is probably just lonely cos Maje is in the UK awaiting the arrival of his child. When he is back to lie about being sorry to toke, the photo will be back on the wall and she will release another video about “forgiveness” confused deaf chic

  5. Wale

    June 25, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    Toke, here is a dust packer…pick up your dignity.

    • polypoly

      June 25, 2015 at 6:25 pm

      is it me or does she seem very unhappy. in the intro she had to remind us that she wasn’t sad. *”fake smile** I am happy guys, yay!! gurl bye!!

      NFA (no future ambition) and One Chance kinda man – now Toke I see you serving your own marital tea boo….just come on outta the closet boo. You pretty much gave us all the dirt on your marriage in a disguise of relationship advice. chaille, I am done.

    • Tanya

      June 25, 2015 at 9:09 pm

      I thought the exact same thing… An offish tone to her… Bitter sounding almost. 🙁
      She should just take a break and re discover herself as any other person would do. Cyber hugs Toke! God dey

  6. Queen S.

    June 25, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    LOL! Some Bella naija readers have bad mouth for days……

    You all should please stop being negative towards this woman, she talks about what affects her and alot of young women out there, why are you all so hatefull towards her?
    She has a right to express herself and should not be crucified for it. You all should please chill and let her be…
    Keep your head up Toke, i respect the woman you are.

    • Leah

      June 25, 2015 at 7:49 pm

      The worst thing that can happen to an air head like Toke is 1d1iot fans like yourself who feed her narcissism. Those that use “hater” and “jealousy”, the standard lame come back for those who have very limited vocabulary and are mentally weak. They live vicariously through people they see on the screen and take every criticism of that person as a direct jab at their own fragile ego. When Toke was running around and harassing that guy to marry her, these “haters” warned her that marriage should be mutual not forced. When she pulled that break up stunt and was giving interviews, “haters” told her to move on from this guy and keep her private life private. But people like you went on the guys pages to harass him for not marrying her after 50 years together. Then came that fake “secret surprise wedding” of a show and the constant public display of a perfect husband just to please those of you who seem to live on the façade others’ post on the net.

      Toke knew about the guy’s relationship and knew about the pregnant and was fine with it until the public knew, and she had to choose between the reality she put herself into or that fake life that keeps her in the headline. However bad or unhealthy most of us think about that relationship, Toke chose that guy and chose to be with him even after the pregnancy. Her decision to stay or leave should have been for her own personal good. But you guys advised her to milk for what it’s worth and now that she has, what then? Has she become Kim Kardashian yet? All to make stupid videos that you f00ls don’t even have enough credit to watch. If you know how Google ad cents work, you’ll know approximately how much she made from the last video, all at the expense of her personal life. Is it really worth it for a woman who already has a job? People are now getting bored, and she is looking more sad and pathetic than she ever has, because she was taking advice from a handle full of market women like Ada Nnewi with internet access. Now she’s gone from “if you wear a head scarf you deserve to be cheated on” to this. So at the end of the day, who is the real “hater” here?

    • Ada Nnewi

      June 25, 2015 at 8:46 pm

      I can see thoughts about me have been running through your mind all day…:D

    • Onye

      June 25, 2015 at 9:14 pm

      It’s not so serious that you have to write a whole essay on someone else’s life. Chillax!

    • CocoI

      June 25, 2015 at 9:21 pm

      Thank you @Leah. Who esle do expect to be impressed by the kind of garbage Toke puts out? You are right, Toke knew what was going on even before she posted that praise and adoration of Maje a few days before the news broke. She deleted it and played wife in distress so they can crown her a super hero strong woman victim. We all know she is obssesed with Maje and will die before she lets him go, That man has been dragged relentlessly from day one and I really don’t know what he gets out of the relationship besides helping Toke get public attetion.
      She is going to need more than that fake accent and photo shop to become Kim Kardashian.

    • MiaJadore

      June 25, 2015 at 9:54 pm

      Leah you hit that nail right on the head. Forget about those so called letters she writes to herself about being the Oprah Winfrey of her generation, her fans are just as delusional as she is. The ones that spend more time on his IG account attacking him, and on BN replying to comments instead of watching her videos which actually makes her some money. The ones that actually believe she makes money from posting a hundred selfies a day. This is how Tonto Dike became a joke. When she was running around trying to be Rihanna, people were egging her on while others were asking her to slow down.

    • Below average

      June 26, 2015 at 1:08 am

      You are a H-A-T-E-R… My goodness. How on earth did you think it was okay and sensible to type an essay this long about someone you hate? You’re sick honestly. Toke should be the least of your concerns.

      I’m far from a stan but I’m really yet to understand WHY people hate Toke so much. I really don’t get it… Majority of (if not all) nigerian celebs are pretentious so what makes her different? The bitterness is so intense that a lot of you are rejoicing over her “failed” marriage. You keep acting like you were all in the relationship with her and maje. Just let this woman live ffs. I don’t know how she’s remained sane with all the hatred and backlash.

    • tybay

      June 26, 2015 at 3:29 pm

      Elele o! You couldn’t have said it better. “Tell them girl, tell them.”

  7. Ada Nnewi

    June 25, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    If you like be in the same situation and ignore the message that applies to your situation because of the messenger that one is your own pot of burnt beans….The people God usually uses to send messages are usually highly flawed..

    • Bj

      June 25, 2015 at 8:39 pm

      Ada! Ada nwa oma! Thank you a million times. Yours is the only comment that makes actual sense. It’s like ignoring a message from someone in prison trying to inform others of what got them there in the first place.

    • Wagamama

      June 26, 2015 at 12:25 am

      I just love you this gear sha!

      Bia nne! Since i know we can’t mate to reproduce (as per females nah), Can we genetically combine our DNA using biotech or nanotech or some other awesome shit like that? Lets create the SUPER EGG, find a super dude to fertilise our SUPER EGG, implant via IVF into a super surrogate and create some kinda SUPER AWESOME HUMAN? BIKO THINK ABOUT IT O!

      My love for you knows no bounds!

      Chop MEGA KISSESS!

    • Ada Nnewi

      June 26, 2015 at 8:58 am

      I kiss you too Babey! :*

    • big boy

      July 17, 2015 at 5:38 pm

      bla bla bla…madness..remember Sodom and Gomorrah ooo.mmmnnnnnn

    • nnenne

      June 26, 2015 at 10:25 pm

      Ada Nnewi…. For once, I agree you.

  8. olu

    June 25, 2015 at 5:26 pm

    Men men men men men men men and more men ….wahala dey o…

    Men, this blog is a lot moreee fun when you just observe and watch these ladies use their mouths (or fingers) to confuse themselves.

  9. i no send

    June 25, 2015 at 5:27 pm

    hmm…….circumstances make people turn to philosophers….who would have thought

  10. anonymous

    June 25, 2015 at 5:28 pm

    Just had to comment, but seriously Toke i think u should take several seats……you contradict yourself so much. All of a sudden u are better off by yourself. i really think u shd stop doing vblog n concentrate on ur other career paths and self, I am certain u are misleading ladies who clearly look up to u with ur funny advices about relationships. I am not trying to judge u but with u so many advice….what happened to urs. Girlfriend is best u keep a low key as regards relationship topic n maybe speak on something else…e.g. how women can build der career, make something for themeself out of nothing.
    GBU.

    • Below average

      June 26, 2015 at 1:13 am

      Lol how is it contradiction? She loved her husband and wanted to marry him despite his flaws. Of course her vlogs back then were along those lines. And now her marriage didn’t work out well, she will release vlogs relating to what she’s dealing with. Why is it an issue??

  11. Bushbaby

    June 25, 2015 at 5:31 pm

    I believe any woman cud have been toke okay and the hubby is one of those men who knows a strong woman love them and looking for tactics to break her spirit. He wud do anything to break her spirit. And i hope u learned from this. It wud be much more beta after this for toke i know so.

  12. ifee

    June 25, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    God blesz her soul and hustle but like someone pointed out, its high time she move on from always talking about ‘Men’. With recent events in her marriagethe joke is now on herdespite all her advice and I too know gist.

  13. prince

    June 25, 2015 at 5:40 pm

    I still believe that she brought this to herself and she should stop disturbing us with her marriage PALAVA. Their wedding wasn’t even announced sef. I only heard she married her long time boyfriend. madam too know

    • Osa

      June 25, 2015 at 6:14 pm

      she brought some of it on herself. tho i heard the hubby is a dog. the unmarrying type like HUgh grant that just will never get married. h

    • Ewa

      June 26, 2015 at 8:29 am

      Toke knew he’s a dog before marrying him. She didn’t she just wake up to the fact.

  14. Bushbaby

    June 25, 2015 at 5:41 pm

    For all ya readers who are always sipping negative bitters does ur mouth not stink from vomiting negative words. Any adult that can’t handle marriage is a failure is like saying every widow is a failure like anyone ever foresee bad times coming. Women are the worst enemy of their fellow women.

  15. omoj

    June 25, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    Marriage is not a bed of roses neither is it a bed of thorns. When the thorns in marriage comes out, you can either take it and live with it or get out of it. I wish some of my aunts and particularly my mum learnt this a long time ago. You dont have to take an emotional abuse. I dont know the real story beyond what I read so I hope she finds the truth within herself. I may be able to stay in a marriage when a man cheats but don’t know if I can if he impregnates someone. That’s leaving me up for diseases(as in no protection whatsoever). Go ahead Toke, keep your head up, look at the mirror and say to yourself “I AM BETTER THAN THIS”. You may takehim back if you want but I love this vlog, somtimes some people are better alone than being married. Enjoy your day

    • Osa

      June 25, 2015 at 6:16 pm

      have a baby by a woman and cheat is the same ting when it comes to stds. so its the same thing. if he slept with another woman he did. emotionally baby and charting are not the same. so which one are u talkinbg?

    • pd

      June 27, 2015 at 6:58 am

      I was OK with the cheating until I knew about married friends that contracted std from their husbands!! If u are not there ensuring that he wears a condom…..then coping with his cheating can be a death warrant!

    • big boy

      July 17, 2015 at 5:45 pm

      but wait ooo, why do men cheat? is it cos the original flavour is reduced or they feel trapped in a sort of way? and do women cheat as well

  16. Anonymous

    June 25, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    Toke Ayida, do you still love gbagaun gbagaun head?

  17. Sammy

    June 25, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    This one is a case of shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted. Ngwanu!!!!! It just dey occur to you now. @AdaNnewi if Toke is the type that they want to use to bring a message to you, mehn, your case must already be well and truly messed up. Toke, give it a rest. A word of advice, vlog about makeup, hair, clothes, being an OAP, choosing the right stylist, how to be seen at parties, how to go from zero to 10 in 60 seconds. I swear, if you vlog every day about how you get dressed, you will be a YouTube sensation. Girls half your age are doing so in America and making a ton of cash, designers send them stuff for free. Use the things you actually KNOW about and do so well at. You will get more followers, more people watching your vlog, you will become an authority with these things and make a killing. In the voice of Chigul, stay in your talent lane. This is not us Marketi. This your case don pass Physician heal thy self. Play to your strengths girl and stop being the laughing stock of people, talking about topics you sef haven’t gotten right. For the Tokehive, this is constructive criticism.

    • Sammy

      June 25, 2015 at 5:59 pm

      Typo. This is not your marketiii. Toke, Arese is your friend. She blogs about personal finance, playing to her strengths and building a brand. I suggest you take a leaf from her books if you can. This relationship talk is bad market.

    • NnennaL

      March 7, 2016 at 3:36 pm

      Toke, your friends have all had bad husbands or no husbands at all. Take a leaf out of Modele’s book. Women all over are managing with cheating husbands, but I guess its difficult to manage with a broke cheating husband instead of a rich cheating husband.

    • Ada Nnewi

      June 25, 2015 at 6:19 pm

      Sammy your comment is as flawed as you are…Remove the brick in your eye before you start putting her down..

    • anon

      June 25, 2015 at 8:39 pm

      Toke voltron how much does she pay you? Sit ur butt down and stfu, her junk vlog is messing with ur brain stop watching them and reason well.

    • ISIGINI.BIKO

      June 26, 2015 at 12:31 am

      @ anon, bia mechi onu gi! When wise people talk, the likes of your kind “shut up and listen!” EFULEFU!

  18. Abena

    June 25, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    You are one to talk!Now its better to be single?When you virtually forced the guy to marry you?Please please please PUULLLEEEAASSEEEEEE TOKE!Find several seats in an empty stadium…See her mouth!
    Yup i vex

  19. Someone Naughty

    June 25, 2015 at 5:44 pm

    How to lose the sympathy of the Nigerian public: overflog an issue.
    Toke, mbok rest.

    • polypoly

      June 25, 2015 at 6:22 pm

      as in!!! a lot of the people that were in her fan club and quietly taking the exit, na real wah.
      Toke its okay to acknowledge a failed relationship. The fans are there to ensure ur ego is stroked so u don’t feel bad. Just come on outta the closet and be honest.

      Your message is not believable gurlfriend!!! cos based on all this advice u gave, you were in a relationship by urself 2years ago but still chose to marry maje. chaille cheese, please which one should we believe??

  20. Dolapo

    June 25, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    Says she who used vlogs to bully a man into marrying her. Toke, get lost. You can switch tunes just to favor your needs or present shituation. Gtfoh

    • Person

      June 26, 2015 at 4:53 am

      F*ck outta here with that nonsense. She bullied a grown ass man into marrying her?! Did she tie Maje with a rope to Wheatbaker Hotel? He allegedly stood her up once at Ikoyi Registry; why didn’t he do it again? Good for nothing old agbaya man like him. Oshisko.

  21. temi

    June 25, 2015 at 5:52 pm

    Dis lady is sooo confused. Okbye

    • Tosin

      June 26, 2015 at 1:17 am

      i liked this only twice 😉
      but there’s no solution so let’s rock this party. or i don’t know, she could surprise me and slow it down and get unconfused? nah.

  22. III

    June 25, 2015 at 5:55 pm

    @Femi. Yeah she is so full of S**t. So full of bull S**t. During the last Headies Toke said something she didn’t know people like me took note of… The next day I blasted her through a mail. I told her instead of suggesting to ladies to do immoral stuff she should have just STFU or find something else to say. She advised ladies indirectly to mess around once in a while and make sure they are not caught. WTF. So if a man goes astray the best words of advice to the lady is to also go astray?! Well I m so sure she messed around but because we didn’t hear bout it, she painted the guy’s part – black.

    She has gotten what she and people like her deserve! She should stay Single forever and use makeup to try to look young. #looser.

    • Ada Nnewi

      June 25, 2015 at 8:48 pm

      It must really hurt to be you…

  23. Brenda

    June 25, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    This is not wise counsel at all, there’s a reason why the bible says he who finds a wife not she who finds a husband, the problem is women are walking out of the will of God and are busy finding men, that is not your duty as a woman, yours is to wait upon the lord pray and ask the lord to direct your companion to you and trust me the lord will, God in Isaiah tells us that none of his creation will lack a mate so we are all created to have mates I don’t know which bible toke is reading but am not in agreement with this. so how many men will you attach yourself to? every man has their own faults and for every man there’s a woman ordained for him by God the problem is you will go and find a man that God has not assigned you to and be divorced in six months!!! women are born helpers God created us that way and our duty is to pray for our men and help them get back to the original plan God purposed for them if you find your true worth as a woman trust me your man will find you.. Remember Corinthians says that every man if the full glory of God and we women are the full glory of men – our Husbands. My husband is not perfect but trust me i would get married to him everyday because he is all i asked for from God and he found me and yes my marriage is wonderful…..

    • Bj

      June 25, 2015 at 8:55 pm

      Brenda,while your comment somewhat makes sense,I have to disagree. You may be able to say so because your husband seems to be a reasonable man. (Well, i’m hoping so, otherwise you need help). But What about the men that beat their wives within an inch of their lives, the men that constantly cheat with anything even bringing home stds that have caused multiple miscarriages? Were they ordained by God? The lady is simply saying if YOU ARE NOT happy ( within reason), IT IS BETTER TO BE ALONE.

    • big boy

      July 17, 2015 at 5:57 pm

      Brenda abeg ur still single? u can pls get in touch with me, will love to know u pls..my email is [email protected]..u r very sensible in r comment and I admire u already…trust me, u won regret contacting me…trust me on this

  24. Mystique

    June 25, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    RUBBISH!!!!!! Tokeeeeeeeee, pls go away……….gosh. aaarrrrgggghhhhhh!!!! Give it a rest……..haba.

  25. Kk

    June 25, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    Toke baby gurl!! I need you to take some time out and just do some HEALING! I can see through your smoke screen of “I have everything together” vulnarability is not a sign of of weakness.

  26. nene

    June 25, 2015 at 6:41 pm

    Toke this matter don do oooo!!!! P.s I’d like to know how ur hair is always on point…

  27. Truf

    June 25, 2015 at 6:49 pm

    Toke you are a very stupid girl… very stupid WTF must you talk? despite what you are going through .

  28. Femi

    June 25, 2015 at 6:54 pm

    even if u female celebrities get the best husband so far, that does not stop you from living along. it in your blood, fame and money make u lose ur integrity as a good wife…take care

  29. Priscilla

    June 25, 2015 at 7:04 pm

    Toke’s eyes looks as if she has being crying, she is trying too hard i think she should just relax

  30. Vic

    June 25, 2015 at 7:06 pm

    Hmmmmm!!!Toke,sorry for you.but get over it ASAP.

  31. Uju

    June 25, 2015 at 7:37 pm

    I tried to watch the video but couldn’t finish……….. Thought I d just read the comments instead .

  32. funmi oguns

    June 25, 2015 at 7:42 pm

    We can say toke is talking form experience,or she is jus giving advice.the thing is most of us see the red flag in our relationship but still shove it off and continue. I

  33. Busarni

    June 25, 2015 at 7:51 pm

    This my BN fam; for once you guys should be nice. Is it too much to ask; considering what the young lady is going through.

  34. Girlie O

    June 25, 2015 at 8:09 pm

    Omotoke Makinwa (Ayida) pls give it a rest now haba! We have seen that you are strong cos you kept your head high through the scandal ,however now that focus has reduced you should be taking a step backwards (out of the spotlight) to try and heal in order to get your focus straight and not trying to draw more attention to yourself with haphazard ‘advice’. What is your message today? If you reconcile with your hubby tomorrow now it will be a different tune. Please eh we have heard you just retreat quietly while you still can. Girl you dun messed it up with this video cos even your so called fans are starting to see through your bullish*t

  35. AB

    June 25, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    @better to be single…U got it all good until the last sentence….the fact that your marriage failed, does not make you a failure….we don’t even need to preach a sermon on that …..There are stories of women who left and became even more successful and there were some who never left and died in misery!!!!! But Toke tho…take this the right way, diversify Ur topics, all this man this, man that has been beaten so hard I have lost the will to listen. Surely you are a smart women who can talk about health, finance..If I sat with you for a day and you offer me is man talk wuooo, I’m a be brain dead….2) Stay away from the public eye (even the Hollywood celebrities ask for privacy & take time off the public eye when things happen), how much more you-mere mortal…oops! celebs like you in Nigeria(Ma bad) 3) Its OK to say that you are hurting. Guess what? If you did, perhaps people would have found you more relatable , not just a robot who does not feel pain. Goodluck mami…

  36. Mabel

    June 25, 2015 at 8:45 pm

    I think she is still in shock, perhaps have not fully dealt with the pain and public humiliation. Therapy is good, no shame in getting professional help to assist with life’s struggles. One thing I have learned is that when you do not effectively deal with problems, especially high stressed ones, they will come back at you down the road in a different form until you are forced to deal with it, the worse manifestation will be in the form of disease. So Toke, take the time out to grieve and get whatever help you need so that when you finally move forward there will be nothing holding you back. You are not ready to be vlogging about relationships because you have not done your work yet, when you have completed your work and gained the necessary wisdom then you will be in a position to provide help to many other women. Things are still too fresh and raw, you may feel alright, but trust me, you are not. DO YOU INTERNAL WORK!!!!!

    • Arin

      June 26, 2015 at 12:14 pm

      Gbamest!!!

  37. sass

    June 25, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    “If you are crying all the time you need to be alone”.
    That’s stating the bloody obvious Toke.

  38. Woman to Woman

    June 25, 2015 at 9:11 pm

    Once upon a time ,Toke use to declare all along how wonderful her boo was. Now ah well,. Of cause she knew all along about the other girl and pregnancy. So much effort to feel among. Na wa!.

  39. Latifa

    June 25, 2015 at 10:14 pm

    Not even gonna read this long essay but girl you need to chill it’s really not that serious.

  40. KingsQueen

    June 25, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    Don’t shoot the messenger!!!

  41. Bruness

    June 25, 2015 at 10:50 pm

    I read the comments before I watched the video, #exhaling# I never really cared for Tokes vlogs, I indulged once and never repeated. I must say I can’t hate on her for what she does but putting herself and her marriage out there WELL!! As Aunty Betty said don’t live your life on social media. I remember once a friend raised the topic on why people especially females love to display their personal life on social media, my boo is the best, bae of life and all that rubbish talk. My response: they’re living in denial cos no marriage ever has it smooth a 100 percent and they feel the need to prove to the whole world that they’re happy. Borrow a leaf from Jinifa when her marriage was dissolved she choose not to utter a word bout it and it fizzled off but you played right into the hands of Internet and social media freaks making videos giving the public a vivid insight of your marital happenings. #smh# take it easy you don’t have to prove to anyone that you are strong or weak, make your decisions and brood in private. Make your videos about other issues.

  42. chi-e-z

    June 25, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    Madam Toke I do no know you but I like your vlog. Wish you best in life. will state two things I was told bby my grand mother and 1 I learnt
    1.All/Any decision made when angry is the wrong one 2.All/Any decision made when depressed/sad is usually the wrong one 3.Always look ahead with a smile cause all rough patches pass over. Good luck hope you live a lovely upbeat life even when things seem down 🙂

    • chi-e-z

      June 25, 2015 at 10:55 pm

      That’s if you see this.

  43. bee

    June 25, 2015 at 11:00 pm

    Toke, please don’t give advice to people that you will not practice in your life. Please be careful how you give advice.

  44. Sunshine

    June 25, 2015 at 11:51 pm

    Ok Toke we get it. Your self- therapy of dumping your experience and feeling on the public seems to be working for you. However, there is a limit to everything, so its time to move it to the shrinks office . it is obvious that you have other issues to address .Just saying.

  45. Lilo

    June 26, 2015 at 12:27 am

    Haha…toke, let it rest. Leave Maje alone. Don’t try to use vlogs to invite him back into to your life. Leave him and his Matter.

    • DAME

      June 26, 2015 at 9:41 am

      LILO…… I have been looking for your comment ni o on this issue since na u give us in depth story…lols..where u come go since na !!!

  46. ISIGINI.BIKO

    June 26, 2015 at 12:50 am

    Why people dey carry toke mata for head like gele?

    So many idiotic comments! Haters! The lot of them!

    See them forming council of the fallen in times of distress.

    All of a sudden everyones attacking toke like say na una sure pass! Una give am cooking pot wey for house? abi rent money? abi petrol money? una send am go school? Dense and Densers! Man pike no go chop?

    99% of the time, i click on links about your vlogs only to read comments and laugh, cos most of your topics don’t interest me, hence i don’t watch. MAKE NO MISTAKE THO, the 1% i do watch, if you F-up and yarn okpata, ME SEF DON YARB YOU DIE!

    THAT BEING SAID!……

    Tokingstar abi wetin be that yah name sef, milk this shit till we all want to blow our freaking heads off! The idiots coming here to complain and pick at your life struggles aint got shit going for them. BAD BELLE ANUOFIAS!

    TOKE THERE IS NO FOOD FOR THE LAZY OO….. AND SINCE YOU ARE NOT A LAZY WOMAN, OIL YOUR KNUCKLES AND KEEP FIRING THEM.

    THEIR CONSTANT AMEBO AND CRITICISMS UNTOP YOUR MATTER IS GIVING YOU ****FEEDS***** = ENDORSEMENTS = MORE MULA!!!!

    Biko, if you stop your vlogs to “chill”, “heal” or “deal”, I will be highly disappointed o!

    • DAME

      June 26, 2015 at 9:42 am

      madam…na u carry the matter pass for head ! You have commented over 10 times…who gave you the sole right to have an opinion on this matter, comment on ur space and thots and let us breathe biko.

  47. Tosin

    June 26, 2015 at 1:13 am

    Moving in the right direction, no longer crap crap cringe. Wow.
    Put a guy on the next episode. abi. what would Oprah do – Oprah I know would have quickly brought the Maje to do an exclusive nah.

    strong points: like when you said ‘many guys have no plan for you,’ EXACTLY. it’s often women that have plans for others o, many men have a plan for self. usually, boys don’t get these things twisted. see why it’s not good for chics to only talk to other chics when it comes to this stuff?
    or when you said, ah, you are an option, EXACTLY o, most guys I know won’t die for nobody, if you like to stay you stay if you like to go you go, the fact that they did the wedding thing notwithstanding. It’s women that get committed, that believe the whole thing.
    yes, i’m overgeneralizing. lifelib.blogspot.com/2015/06/understanding-women.html

    Bravo.

  48. Mostest

    June 26, 2015 at 2:08 am

    At first I thought the comment about being a failure if your marriage fails was wrong(I agreed with the previous parts though) but I read the comments and had a rethink. Why do we get married? This is one question every couple must ask each other before taking the plunge. You’ll be shocked at the answers you may get, the most common being “I just love you”. Truth is whatever problems you experience in your marriage, the signs have been there ( if you courted long enough that is). A wife beater would have at least raised his voice in the past, or treated other people poorly, or thrown a fit at some point; a cheat would have been caught several times, but as usual we hate the other woman, instead of the man hurting you. A no-good, dead beat, jobless man would have been the one to have all levels of play station while you were dating. Not saying play station is bad (before the men bite my head off), but trust me, a focused man will not have time for such, let alone spend 6 hours a day on Fifa. The signs are always there, but we choose to ignore, just because this is the bird in your hand.

    So yes, if your marriage fails, you may not necessarily be a failure, but you failed in trusting your intuition. Whether anyone says it to you or not, there is always a sense of FAILURE when your marriage ends. When you truly begin to replay events in your head, only then will you begin to acknowledge the signs you saw years ago. Toke gives the perfect example here. Being in a relationship with yourself when the handwriting is on the wall. No matter how hard she’s trying to be, she gave this man 12 years of her life(fail #1), I mean he probably deflowered her (seems to be his MO) if she’s 30 (noshade) and the only man she’s ever been with (noshadeforreal). I don’t know the circumstances that led to “the surprise wedding” (when she called for her dress days prior) but he didn’t offer a ring(hell to the NO), no plans for a proper church or traditional wedding. Nothing. When a man is not that into you, I don’t know what signs could be clearer. These “celeb” husbands who shy away from public eye is just the epic fail. Ever heard of baggage? What are you hiding from and why? I’m not saying every husband should be line Steph Linus but dear men, we women like to show off our spouses. We like the support and the attention. It is the fear of a philandering man that makes women want to keep things secret.

    • DAME

      June 26, 2015 at 9:44 am

      mostest u took the thoughts and words out of my mouth jere…nothing to add , nothing to remove

  49. Dr J

    June 26, 2015 at 2:21 am

    Nigerians, you are being “played”. Wake up!

  50. Omonla

    June 26, 2015 at 2:40 am

    Toke, you are most definitely in denial. Give it a break and take time to heal. You are fast becoming redundant.

  51. Vidavi

    June 26, 2015 at 4:49 am

    Simply put…Nigeria don miss road for this marriage matter. It’s not one size fits all, so what’s good for the goose might not be good for the gander. It’s up to each of us to know what our comfort level is. If you are in a marriage that makes you miserable, only you can tell yourself when it’s time to leave. So dear Toke, I am of the opinion that these vlogs are more for you than anyone else, some people have to hear themselves talk to be able to make sense of their own situation. So…yap away girl, and talk like no one’s watching cos I can take care of my own damn self thanks.

  52. O'Kel

    June 26, 2015 at 7:13 am

    @Mostest: You hit the head on the nail baby [sic], the signs are always dear, we just close our eyes to them, seeing as how birds are scarcely flying over our heads *rolling eyes*. And you know for us women, God has given us this FBI thingy called intuition, and guess what ladies, it works. Do use it, it will reduce sob stories such as this!

  53. WHY DO WE STAY MARRIED IN PAIN

    June 26, 2015 at 7:27 am

    I’ve never seen any of Toke’s Vlogs but reading peoples comments, I thing she might have gone way to far with her advices. The problem most people make is they take other peoples problems too personally… like this her own husband drama. Yes she gives advise on her vlog but I don’t think she’s ever put a gun on any body’s head to follow it…. NO RELATIONSHIP IS THESAME!!! WHAT APPLIES TO COUPLE A DOES NOT APPLY TO COUPLE B!!!!!!

    @the first comment… VERY DUMB!!!, i’m guessing he or she isn’t married. Funny how I think yourselve and Toke can be placed in the same category. You know… people that think they have it all figured out but they actually don’t! Trying to hold on to the pain because you’ve shown people you know it all but deep down you just want to cry. Before you judge put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself what would you do (if you think you should stay in this case, then you are not in a right state of mind….. cos this man doesn’t love you) Even though you have a point on why women revolve their daily lives around men… when they should be working hard to buy a Celine bag or even taking time out at the spa

    @Toke’s Vlog… there is nothing wrong with her thinking her marriage is perfect… Love blinds you most of the time, and with the look of things her husband seem to be a good pretender. WE ALL WISH OUR MARRIAGES WERE PERFECT…… TOKE NEED TO TAKE A BREAK FROM HER VLOG TO CRY!!!!!

    @myself in particular… before I got married I thought I had it all together… the perfect man and all… but someone asked me a few days ago if I was happy even though I replied yes, I found myself asking the same question in my head over and over again… and I couldn’t find the right answer. My husband doesn’t cheat (well not that I know of, and I hope not), but then he’s not supportive and I don’t feel any connection to him anymore, we are like two different people . I try to tell myself not to think about leaving but the longer I stay to make things work the more I hurt inside… people see us as a perfect couple but we are not (I think that’s another reason its so hard to leave)… emotionally i’m exhausted… ME STAYING DOESNT MAKE ME SMART, ACTUALLY I FEEL STUPID MOST OF THE TIME… COS FOREVER IS A LONG TIME

    • Akpeno

      June 26, 2015 at 4:54 pm

      My dear! Like the Igbos will say… Ji se Ike!

      If he’s not abusive in anyway, then maybe you need to “reconnect” you both need counselling either by a certified therapist or a good priest.

      Pray Pray Pray… It shall be well in your marriage!

  54. stylewitme

    June 26, 2015 at 7:54 am

    people let her live her life , and live by her decision , it her live she only live once ,

    get all your fabulous clothing from instylefashionista.com

    • Folsom

      June 26, 2015 at 1:51 pm

      But she is not leaving the public alone. She can’t release vlogs talking nonsense and expect the public not to respond

  55. orekelewa

    June 26, 2015 at 9:33 am

    Lol! Dis girl sha I hope u find time to deal with ursef. I’m sure anyone who really needs relationship advice wuld not waste time to go buy books,pic up a bible or quran n. Find leke Adler or lindsey n d likes.toke love I don’t watch ur vblog buh seen u on tv n ur hair,makeup,n outfit always on point, try that way now? Atleast ure consistent with that.

  56. true talk

    June 26, 2015 at 10:19 am

    Truth be told na social media break this marriage. Toke no send she for just continue jeh jeh with her hustle even forgive the boy but una no allow her rest.

    Now she dey do una bidding una no go still allow her drink water put cup down…shuooo….

  57. Abiola

    June 26, 2015 at 10:37 am

    Hnnnmmmmmmmm………

  58. Stella Kashmoney

    June 26, 2015 at 11:45 am

    Toke is really enjoying this her new found ‘fame’. Everyone is still talking about her and she is making the most of the publicity. I bet she cries herself to sleep most times.

  59. rash

    June 26, 2015 at 12:05 pm

    It hurts to see people rejoice over someone’s pain!!!!chai.it is not tokes fault that she is popular. This is exactly the price celebrities pay.she didn’t ask for all this public charade.I feel so sorry for her because it seems she doesn’t have a child yet with her husband and all he could do is impregnate her side chick.maybe toke is facing difficulties to take in.I feel her pain because I have been trying to be pregnant to no avail don’t think I can handle such betrayal from my husband.lets all be human and sympathise rather than mock her

  60. rash

    June 26, 2015 at 12:10 pm

    Her husband should apologize via social media for all this mess.what chris brown is doing to K Tran his girlfriend.if not then there was no love.then toke is free to divorce him

  61. theisokogirl

    June 26, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    YOU KNOW WHY I LOVE HUMANS,YOU KNOW HOW TO SCRUTINIZE THE LIFE OF ANOTHER PERSON 100% TOKE THIS TOKE THAT “WHO YOU HELP “.Whether she has a vlog,attends parties, or whatever story good or bad “HOW E TAKE CONCERN YOU”..Live your life ,you make your marriage work,you goan hustle,all the advice you want to give -apply it first in your life…Remove the tree from your eye before you remove the speck of sand from another.

  62. BeBlessed

    June 26, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    Thank God for social media. What would have happened if the people were not watching Toke’s Vlog and this situation happened. Endorsements deals and people’s validation of Toke will come and go – but when she is really all by yourself….. She will feel the pain -Toke, your husband left you for his ex and you nor your family members did not have an inkling?!?! Was Maje Ayida an accessory to flaunt all in the name of marriage?

    Toke once pulled a stunt, only to announce she had gotten married. I will not be surprised if she says she is pregnant, and if this story is true- Toke and Maje are definitely not on the same page. Enjoy the attention while it lasts.

  63. rash

    June 26, 2015 at 2:41 pm

    All tokes enemies are out to break hr.hahaha.but sorry to u loosers. Codemn her actions as if u are perfect.she is beautiful, intelligent,and carries herself well.besides it is not her fault that God blessed her with the gift of stardom.if she was not a star,nobody will write about her.period

  64. Meah

    June 26, 2015 at 4:11 pm

    oh, wow! Toke was definitely talking to herself on this one.

  65. Ife

    June 26, 2015 at 4:44 pm

    well i dont undeastand this strong woman of a thing. But i think Toke should take a break from public and stop pretending all is well or she,s strong. when my boyfriend called it quit after almost 8 yrs of dating, i was devastated despite i was also considering the same thing at that time. I was sad cus it did,nt work out as planned. But I decided to give myself break off relatinships.I was also able to recover cos it was,nt a do or die mindset. let alone of someone who had more than 10yrs relationship with a man and eventually got married and within two years of marriage, infidelity is d case without any child from the institution. yet ure out forming to be strong. My dear, just give yourself break and pray; waiting for God to direct you on the next step instead of you trying to advice or solve peoples problem.

    • nnenne

      June 26, 2015 at 10:31 pm

      Ife….Do you understand that this vlog is business for her. The woman is simply, working!

  66. Mama Tee's

    June 26, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    Why do people say a lot of negativity about others, even if you know Toke is hurting and this is the only way to ease the pain (whether she comes out openly or not), we should support her. We all get hurt at one time or the other and we need each others support to move forward. For crying out loud, don’t try to break this lady more. People usually says she fake, she’s unreal, etc but let her be! if you are not interested in what she’s doing then do not open it or read it.
    It hurts more when people that you are leaning on shakes off their shoulder for you to fall, not nice!!!!!!.
    Toke dear, take your time to heal, knows how painful it is when someone you love dearly disappoint you, never mind people’s comment, it takes a lot of time but you will surely heal and bounce beautifully back, cry and cry so much if it makes you feel better afterall it is not a sin to cry! Look in the mirror and said to yourself, that you (put name e’g Maje) disappoint me does not make me a lesser human, i am beautiful, lovely, good, blessed, handiwork of God (remember God does’nt make mistake) AND i am ME like no other. Go out buy yourself beautiful things that add to your joy and surround yourself with positive people that will make you realise your dreams and encourage you through your pains.
    Remember the saying that no matter how you feel, you have to get up, dress up, show up and be good. When life gets tough, without option you’ll have to gather energy and get tougher. IT IS WELL WITH YOU AND OTHER PEOPLE THAT ARE HURTING AS WELL.

  67. Jennifer

    June 26, 2015 at 7:18 pm

    I don’t know if its just me but this lady irritates me! like seriously. I don’t know why! just less than a week or two after her relationship issues went public she comes out with her typical blogs. saying she could not eat or sleep if she didn’t talk about this SILLY topic. because she is now a victim she is singing a new song of YOU ARE BETTER OFF ALONE/YOU DONT NEED A MAN! Common be real for once Toke why don’t you tell us about your marriage and how it affected you as a person. Tell us what we can learn from your experience since you are dying to make a change in society. Let people learn from your mistake. Clearly you care more about your career and yourself than your marriage. I really did not want to judge you like this but that’s how it looks. You keep giving foolish advise to ladies out there when you haven’t even advised yourself. I suggest you take a break from VLOGS and the rest to really think and analyze your life at the moment. Your marital issues won’t disappear by removing your wedding photo from the wall and getting GLAMMED up by Doranne Beauty. I understand that you deserve to be happy as well but majority of women who come out to say that, after being in similar situations have at least tried to to fix things. You may be trying but its really hard to
    believe

    • angie

      June 28, 2015 at 1:27 am

      Sisi, lets pop the lid to your life and see how well you do eh?

  68. paul

    June 27, 2015 at 1:09 am

    #4better4worst. She had the better., how about the worst?

  69. Stella

    June 27, 2015 at 1:53 am

    I love this week’s vlog episode. Can we pls keep toke’s personal life separate from her vlog (brand, bizness, and passion). Critique the vlog content if you must, but leave her personality and marriage out. Aren’t u naysayers tired of repeating the same thing over and over again?

  70. NotANutellaLover

    June 27, 2015 at 4:43 am

    Habaa! Aunty na film????? See the way you just wrote about someone’s life story like say you know am. You come add Ada Nnewi for the mata! bros/sisi… mind yasef ooo! This one na correct disrespect!

  71. Lifestreasury (Uju)

    July 1, 2015 at 10:42 am

    I love what Toke has said. This is my area of concentration as a blogger lifestreasury.com This issue cannot really be over stressed. Its better a broken relationship than a broken marriage. A guy who you cant change in a relationship cannot change in marriage. First of all, do not get to a point when you start managing. Do not let fear keep you from that beautiful future. Lets talk more about this. www’lifestreasury.blogspot.com

  72. Benita

    July 4, 2015 at 1:27 pm

    Toke, leave the internet space and go a and reflect on UR life. Stop entertaining us with your private matters. After talking about main chick side chick, how to get a man, how to keep a man, now u want to be alone, talk of being clueless. U ve wasted up to 14 years with a man who did not have regards for you. You were not strong to back out early. Pele.

  73. kkay

    November 20, 2015 at 5:38 pm

    12 years…..doing what! Dating a guy who couldn’t marry you all those years?!!! Serious low self-esteem on the lady’s side.

    Ladies love and respect yourselves and a man who knows your worth will do same.

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