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Cynthia AmadiCynthia Amadi is not here for people having children out of wedlock! She calls it a societal menace and not a part of our culture.

She especially ‘calls out’ celebrities and the women who have babies with them –

“women have no shame!

As long as a guy has half a million Naira to shoot a music video and puts out just one hit song and becomes an accidental star, every young lady wants to have a baby by him.”

She condemns ‘bloggers’ and commenters for congratulating people who do so and calls out specific celebs like Davido. She boldly adds, “just because a boy can ejaculate into a vagina, it doesn’t qualify him to be a father”.

She also mentions beauty queens (hmm…) , and speaks to women alone – ‘every woman deserves to be a wife’, warning that they may become bitter and want to ‘tell their story’ years after the celeb baby daddy marries another woman.

It’s a Must Watch!

118 Comments

  1. Naomi

    June 24, 2015 at 7:34 pm

    Chei!!! Finish them..!!!!

  2. cindy

    June 24, 2015 at 7:35 pm

    *grabs popcorn*……..patiently waiting for my fellow BN commenters. This one pass me?

  3. Naomi

    June 24, 2015 at 7:38 pm

    Sister, forget the parents oo, some encourage their daughters. I had a roommate, omo the kain advice the mama they give her then back in school ehnnn, on speakerphone ooo kaiiiii……how to trap a guy, how to meet millionaire kids, footballers, men paid for trips to dubai, london the mother knew, some dont care oo,…when i talked i was called the beefing roommate.

  4. AdaBekee

    June 24, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    She is speaking truth!!!!

  5. Naomi

    June 24, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    The men too are never satisfied, when konji catch them they forget about condoms ooo….

    • PH Boy

      June 25, 2015 at 1:32 pm

      Shooo! Now its the man’s fault!
      Then why art thou so weak, tremble in fervent abandon, yield to raw desire and open the gates of the grand temple!!!

  6. dami

    June 24, 2015 at 7:43 pm

    She nose it all

  7. EllesarisEllendil

    June 24, 2015 at 7:44 pm

    I’m sorry, Who is she?????

    Call me cynical, but using controversy to gain fame is all kinds of low. You don’t agree fine, then focus on raising your daughter not to be a Baby Mama.

    We as observers can’t really tell strangers how to leave their lives, all we can is try not to make their mistakes. In my opinion, better to be there for the child than kill it or deny it. At-least they choose the lesser of two evils.

    • Jennifer

      June 24, 2015 at 10:24 pm

      My dear! It is not about telling people how to live their lives. It’s about preserving what we have left of our culture as Africans. This culture is one that guides out very existence. We differ from the westerners because we have CULTURE(our way of life)! This lady just said what I’ve been dying to say for a while now. Why are celebrities being celebrated for committing fornication and birthing children as a result? In a typical African society this is regarded as a taboo but why is it a trend now? Young ladies who ought to be focusing on how to improve themselves and empower other women to reach greater heights are falling victim to this Baby mama Sydrome or occupation! What happened to the joy of being a mother within the sacrament of marriage and a wife? What is wrong is wrong! Let us have that at the back of our minds at all times.

    • Ihuoma

      June 25, 2015 at 4:40 am

      It’s because people choose to ‘mind their business these days that our society is on fast moving collision course to decay. Our elders say it takes a village to raise a child. Not because we are encouraged to be busybodies or the conventional ‘hater’ but because we sould take into consideration the fact that if our own child alone is raised right, they will eventually be placed in a corrupt and morally bankrupt society where they will eventually be pressured into conformity. So even if a child’s God-given caretakers have chosen to tow the line of decadence, we dont all have to close our eyes and pretend to be blind men.

    • Bere

      June 25, 2015 at 7:18 am

      Personally do not think that she made this video purposely to become famous. She’s just highlighting what we’ve been seeing. I’m sorry but I 100% agree with what she says, I’m sure she was just addressing SOME women with mentality like that….. . Something that some mothers forget to do these days. She never once mentioned that those who did it should abort their unborn kids. So I’m really not sure why you’ve taken offence to her video. Of course she’s not going to mind her business… These people are celebrities.. Their lives is an open book… So she’s going to comment on the trend that she’s seeing… Just like any normal human being,.

    • Icebag1976

      June 25, 2015 at 3:00 pm

      As their lives are an open book and she’s commenting on the trend hope say she know say she too don become open book for others to poke at. Hope she’s squeaky clean with no skeletons in her cupboard bcos she won’t like it when they start on her

  8. polypoly

    June 24, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    wooooooooo chaillleeee…..I never heard of this actress before but HUNNNNNAYYYYYYY!!!! move over Toke Makinwa, Cynthia Amadi just snatched that VLOG crown…..yassss booo. she came for bloohd gurls, and you will stretch out those arms so she can draw a pint. Go on booo, slayyyyyy these gurls…..

    Cynthia is dropping bombs left and right…..I liivvvveee for all the tea and receipts she dropped. Toke will never grow balls to actually mention names, impact of Queen Cynthia #QUEENofCallingCelebsOUT #QUEENofShade #QueenOFTellingItHowITreallyIS

    • American wannabe

      June 25, 2015 at 8:49 am

      what are all these nonesense?? Can you not type like a normal human being? I visit an African American website and they don’t even write in this exaggerated manner you’re portraying.. Stop forcing it!!

    • anonymous

      June 25, 2015 at 12:05 pm

      Like seriously! Her comments give me headache. It’s sooo annoying and ratchet. Gosh!!!!!

    • Polypoly

      June 25, 2015 at 2:22 pm

      Hey booo!!! I am just being myself online ni oh. Pls dont vex oh. Dont drag my african americans into this okay!!! This lingo is not unique to a particular race. You will allow me type however i wanna, so quit taking panadol over wetin no consign u bew bew.
      We tell people to be themselves daily but wanna come on here and condemn me for queening and stanning for my faves, bye ashy!

    • lad

      June 25, 2015 at 2:39 pm

      Ermm..Guess what, she’s not African American. She’s African and Nigerian to be precise. Not a wanna be. She expressed herself the way she could and I don’t see anything wrong with that. So aunty wannabe, cut her some slacks mbok!

    • Fab

      June 25, 2015 at 7:45 pm

      Seriously???

  9. Busarni

    June 24, 2015 at 8:04 pm

    I am just going to sit back and watch my BN fam, humour me with their diverse point of views. Tired much; oya let the comments start rolling in….
    Please, be civil; abusive words are not allowed.. respect peoples opinion.

  10. CONGLOMERATE

    June 24, 2015 at 8:08 pm

    Let people live there lives the way they choose to. A young woman or lady in her right frame of mind choosing to be and/or become a baby mother is not hurting you or anyone, so far she has the wherewithal and supports to take care of her child.
    Growing up, I had a lot classmates and colleagues who came from single parent home, and they all, if not most, lived and still living a good life. All this sanctimonious attitude and high moral pedestal wont change anything. People will continue to live there lives as they deem fit.
    The world is not stagnant, there will be change(s), it is the only constant of life. Whether good or bad, things wont remain the same, and whether you get with the program or choose to live in denial. Nigerians are hypocritical set of people, your senators are passing bills making it ok to marry minors, you wont do a vlog about that.

    • nnenne

      June 24, 2015 at 11:04 pm

      @ conglomerate. ..”Let. people live their lives? ”
      That’s the core of our problem. That statement is everything un-African.
      Remember, in African society, it takes a village to raise a child. That’s why when any body is doing something society deems bad, every and anyone will make it their responsibility to talk about/ correct it.
      It is only in the west that people stand by and let you live your life, even if your actions are detrimental to your well being.
      An African saying, states that ” it’s wrong for an adult to be at home and watch a she goat, go through labor/ deliver it’s young while leashed.

      Thanks Cynthia You nailed it.
      He who has ears. Let him hear.

    • Shannie

      June 25, 2015 at 5:09 am

      Exactly. You said a mouthful and then some.

  11. Tolulope

    June 24, 2015 at 8:14 pm

    Well said jare, was beginning to think I was the only one who thought it was trash

  12. i no send

    June 24, 2015 at 8:22 pm

    madam don’t allow @real Nigerian curse you oh…..lol…babies are the new must -have accessories.. ….. incase you don’t know…..p.s….have never heard of her before now

    • Finest

      June 24, 2015 at 9:08 pm

      Dat wan nobe BN commenter naa. Na beginning of Kray……too much anger!

  13. Lil

    June 24, 2015 at 8:32 pm

    Found this hilarious and yet so true. It’s crazy how they want babies from women but again so distant when it’s time to commit.

  14. Kels

    June 24, 2015 at 8:43 pm

    Oooooo! just shut up already. Why don’t you focus on your life and bring up your own children in the way that is morally acceptable to you.

    • Bere

      June 25, 2015 at 7:22 am

      Emotional or what?

  15. Person pikin

    June 24, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    Onye kwa wu onye a? Everybody awurula relationship adviser eh kwa?….
    Everybody with their moral compasses..What is not right is not right,….
    Okay, anula.

  16. Mystique

    June 24, 2015 at 8:56 pm

    Everyone feels the need to be heard; vlogs everywhere. Madam, if you’re bored, knit a sweater for your niece or nephew…… if other people’s lives give you panic attacks, take a pill – zanex if you may

    • Thatgidigirl

      June 24, 2015 at 9:13 pm

      Lmao @ knit a sweater. Don’t mind the busy body etcetera wannabe. She and etcetera have the same thing in common, their careers were dead on arrival and creating controversy using fellow artists is the new way of trying to resurrect a dead career. Cc: Charles Novia

    • whocares

      June 24, 2015 at 9:46 pm

      LMAOO. I would pay, I would pay sooooo much money for someone to go around and bitch slap all these sanctimonious people. What is her business if people decide to have kids outside of wedlock. Please, are they advising you to do the same? I am not the moral police, and having children out of wedlock is not the sole reason our society is morally decadent. You want an issue to be internet warrior over? lets see.. the legal age for sex is now inadvertently 11, marital rape is still condoned in Nigerian law, youths are still jobless, lack of security, economic condition in Nigeria. If you haven’t heard, the treasury is empty oo.. see six issues i just rattled off the top of my head for you erm (whats her name again? )
      Is Davido ejaculating in her vagina (or is it because he is not that she is angry?) I just hate judgemental people. who knows what she is hiding underneath her cloth. No, let me rephrase that I hate people that attempt to lecture “women” just shut the feck up and try to revive or build your career. See as she be,o san powder moju bi ebora oni oun soro (i am sorry non yoruba people, I do not know how to translated that. lool) . If she had a career would she have time to be taking register and roll call of who is a baby mama or a baby father or whatever? Jobless shit. I am jobless too for even commenting. lol. . I refuse to listen to that Vlog. I do not like to contaminate my brain too much with bs. (sips cold water)

    • whocares

      June 24, 2015 at 9:49 pm

      *how to translate that*… you get excited typing and the grammatical errors just start to fly. lool.

    • Olori Tari

      June 24, 2015 at 10:04 pm

      I haven’t even opened the video yet, I don’t plan to. The summary from BN already has me agreeing with you. Somebody needs to knit a sweater ? #Bye

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      June 25, 2015 at 12:03 pm

      Ladies… @Mystique, Thatgidigirl & whocares… I had mixed feelings about her vlog. Mainly regarding this talk of what is and isn’t our culture because I could personally identify the baby mammas in my own environment once I became old enough to “decode” certain discussions adults would have around me …. And let’s not even go into the 2nd wife/3rd wife issues brought about by polygamy which happens to be our culture and yet appears to be another unique angle to the “babymama syndrome”.

      However. My impression of the larger context of her rant is that she is speaking directly to younger females who seem to be clutching on to this warped idea of what it means to stay relevant in today’s society. Young women who don’t appear to be old enough to even make informed decisions about their bodies (or else, why oh why, will you be allowing one so-called music star THAT YOU KNOW FOR DAMN CERTAIN ISN’T FAITHFUL TO ONLY YOU to be dipping his uncondomized penis into your vajayjay in the name of gaining his spermatozoa for wilful insemination?)… and whoclearly aren’t ready to be mothers, in the full sense of that word.

      A baby isn’t an accessory. Parenthood isn’t something to be considered on whim, not to mention single parenthood and even those babymamas (how I hate that term) within my parents’ circle who happened to conceive children with the men that eventually jilted them at the altar, didn’t willingly choose that path. Raising children on your own is haaaarrddd work.

      Cynthia’s tactics and approach may require some more craft but… I see sense in wanting to speak to girls. Forget Davido, I truly don’t care what he’s doing with his own uncondomized penis but I care deeply about impressionable females who need to see bigger picture so they can understand how much more they deserve.

      Although, sista Cynthia deserves a long side-eye about this talk of women in their 30s/40s who “haven’t experienced the joy of marriage” being given carte blanche to randomly run around, giving birth as they desire. A very long side-eye…

    • whocares

      June 25, 2015 at 2:50 pm

      @ MSA – I begin to see daylight. Can we make your comment viral instead? I do agree that young impressionable girls need a good talking to.

    • lily

      June 26, 2015 at 6:56 pm

      well said ma. Thanks

  17. FasholasLover

    June 24, 2015 at 8:57 pm

    Listened to it elsewhere. Although, l totally frown at the current trendy, I’ll pass on this one.

  18. Andrew

    June 24, 2015 at 9:09 pm

    Well said Cynthia. We NIgerians only bring home the bad habits from the West. Also upbringing matters. i dont think artists like Lynxx and Falz would be dragged into this baby mama drama

  19. Ngozi

    June 24, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    Ok your closing statement just killed it for me people should share the vlog,make it go viral and follow you on yours social media handles your equally guilty of what you are accusing the baby mama’s of ,5 mins of fame on blogs and cheap publicity ,my friend face your work and don’t judge people let God who created them judge them on the last day. Study your bible well .Judge not lest ye be judged .

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      June 25, 2015 at 12:05 pm

      Indeed, that part was a bit obvious.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      June 25, 2015 at 12:06 pm

      Sorry, meant the part where we were asked to share the vlog, etc.

  20. dee

    June 24, 2015 at 9:21 pm

    Next thing we’ll hear your husband/fiancé/boyfriend is having a baby by some chick. Cc toks lol

  21. True tinz

    June 24, 2015 at 9:27 pm

    You be proper M-U-M-U…its women like you who get cheated on by men wella…why must it be women who get told off? You are still in the league of african women in the ancient days who have been brainwashed into belittling themselves…you say it is the way of life overseas…if you don’t know, the world is now a global village..women have opened their eyes now..tables have turned..there are a million and one ways for a woman to be happy in this life and a having a husband doesn’t need to be one of it…women are more powerful theses days and have realised they do not need a man..if they have an awesome career for instance, they don’t need the pain of a man trying to surpress it in the name of “you are a wife” or “na me be head of house”…na men dey even beg for these children now sef…enter jand…sperm bank full ground..very affordable..any one you want..half cast production, etc..forget!! na women dey run d world now oh..who no like am fit go siddon..as for you, you can enter a time machine back to the past where you belong…no wonder you get this kain local village face sef…u say make we dey proud of our culture, yet you carry brazillian hair and western make up–hypocrite!!! you think say you fit copy Toke Makinwa? you no even reach half sef..u be “ug” where she dey…vlog tinz no just fit you at all..you are obviously desperate 4 attention…Go siddon jare….

    • Cynthia

      June 24, 2015 at 10:42 pm

      You sound so bitter! Poor you! Jealousy is a disease, get well soon!
      If you are half as intelligent as you want readers to believe you will see that I specifically focused on young ladies who are making it a trend and i also made a case for Women of a certain age who have the means to handle bold decisions like that. You are too bitter trying to put put your unintelligent write up that the message is lost on you.

    • ShineShineShine

      June 25, 2015 at 3:10 pm

      @God’sBae, after reading you, l stood up and clapped. Thank you. I cannot stand hypocrisy and l repeat, l am yet to see a young girl that does not want to fall in love and be a wife to a good man. If a man refuses to wear a condom, pull your knickers back on and get it moving. Have sex if you must but, just know that the consequences of not insisting on one is enormous if you are not married. Condom is cheap.

    • Bere

      June 25, 2015 at 7:24 am

      Feminist

    • God'sBae

      June 25, 2015 at 10:39 am

      You my friend are super silly!!!!!!! Be there shouting women run the world, where and when? It’s like blacks saying we are in charge because they abhorred slavery!! My friend, women are not in charge any damn where!!!!!! They run nothing. Men just sat down and let a very select few with brains run very few affairs and allow them feel like they are getting somewhere and you’re here deceiving yourself. Google to confirm.Women were more in charge way back when than they are now.My dear women can never be in charge because as much as there are women trying to make good of themselves in this world, use their heads and succeed, there are the same amount of women, you inclusive that support baby mama trend, lying on your backs for favours and sexual promiscuity. Oh! How this world would have been, if only women did and promoted the right thing. Men would automatically fall in line.

      “Women don’t need a man to be happy, sperm banks et al” Be there deceiving yourself. Women need men as much as men need women. Why do single mothers bother remarrying, if men are not so important, why do divorcees give marriage a second, third and fourth try, why is not having a father while growing up one of the lines lawyers use to get criminals off the hook. A woman just talked about something important, you’re here bashing, The children you get from sperm bank, if they turn out to be male, you’ll raise them to think women don’t need them abi? Instead of raising them to be responsible partners to people’s daughters.she didn’t even focus on women alone, she called out Davido. And why wouldn’t she focus on women sef.She is simply protecting the pride of her sex and gender. Check the history of any woman who has made a name for herself in any sphere of life, they are hardly people’s baby mamas! Anyway she wasn’t talking to your likes. You think Uche Pedro could not have gone to sperm bank to save herself stress????

      Nigerians need to stop with this mind your business. Do you think our third world country that has no single head way in tech and development would thrive on “mind your business”. Do you know what is it for people to actually mind their business? I pray we never get there. The so called people you tell the mind their business are tho once you give wedding invitation to celebrate with you. They are the ones you give burial notification to mourn with you. It’s those people you ask to watch over your kids, when you need to settle urgent matters, they are the ones that assist you with your new born when you’re overwhelmed, they house you when your husband misbehaves and you’re too ashamed to go back to your family. They remove your kids form risky situations when they see them. They ask after your sick family and what they can contribute. If they don’t see you on th street for several days they come knocking to see what’s up. They celebrate religious festivities with you. They borrow you stuff you need urgently without necessary collateral so you don’t run into trouble, So why won’t this same people call you out when you’re deviating for a stable norm?Trust me Nigerians do not want Nigerians to mind their business, No ambulance, no health insurance, no proper, reliable means of transport, no established foster care, down trodden economy etc and you think the average Nigerian would survive on mind your business? Smh… If we want to behave like North Americans and Europeans fine, but let’s take the good part also, not only the one that involves constantly validating your reproduction functions without being in the proper place to do so!

    • alpha

      June 25, 2015 at 5:21 pm

      @God’sBae….. #Respect.

    • lily

      June 26, 2015 at 7:04 pm

      well said. thank you

    • Zelda

      June 26, 2015 at 7:42 pm

      Lollzzz…i’m very sure God’s Bae is actually Cynthia..True tinz just told you the actual bitter truth and then you spent the whole day drafting a reply and then getting your pals to like your comments. God is watching you. You no dey try at all…I know your friend and she tells me all the rubbish you do. Na you be the biggest runs babe sef on code…you think say you dey cover up well. Truth go soon come out and na you people go begin dey gossip. Sweet dose of your own medicine. Truth is right.\—take a seat.

    • God'sBae

      June 25, 2015 at 10:47 am

      I’m a woman by the way. Just in case you feel like blaming the reply on a misogynist, woman hating male. Cynthia please keep talking and keep saying the truth. God would give you the grace to raise your babies both male and female in the way of the lord. Your daughters would grow up, be responsible for themselves financially and otherwise, marry and have beautiful kids, Same for your sons. You’ll be glad and happy in life. You just got yourself a fan.

    • lily

      June 26, 2015 at 7:00 pm

      wow…u really need a tutorial on d differences between powerful, classy women and babymamas. we might be ruling the world but also pulling the world towards damnation

  22. uju

    June 24, 2015 at 9:39 pm

    Cynthia, you seem very anger and bitter. Why take this personal.

    Quick question – are you a virgin? What happens if some of these baby mama’s were purely accidents? We hear about it because the ladies in question did not choose to abort. How about those who do? They get pats on the back? Perhaps these baby mama’s chose to keep the babies because their “celeb” baby daddies can afford to give the child a good life, and the regular guy may not – hence why it appears it’s more prevalent with celebrities?

    O girl, thinks aborrit before getting your panties in a bunch.

    I am in no way advocating for “baby mama syndrome”. I too believe that a child should be brought into the world to 2 committed and loving parents but my sister who are you to judge. Not everyone’s life will fall into the fairy tale…date, marry, kids and happily ever after.

    • nnenne

      June 24, 2015 at 11:26 pm

      @Uju… The statistics is too much for it to be accidental. I thought contraceptives are free in Nigeria . Please don’t tell me they are ineffective. I know they are very effective if given under the supervision of an Obstetrician. What Nigerian baby mamas don’t know is that their counterparts in the west, get free housing, food and free education,from welfare. The government also force the baby Papas to play their role, at least, financially.

    • Iris

      June 25, 2015 at 2:37 am

      She is speaking passionately, not sounding bitter. Big difference

  23. Pretty girl

    June 24, 2015 at 9:46 pm

    But the babe is saying the truth we are Africans and even if we have to copy the westerners it doesn’t have to be the bad side at least if the man throughly loves u he should put a ring on ur finger then u both can have all the babies in the world .

  24. Strit Kredibility

    June 24, 2015 at 9:53 pm

    As we speak and type now, one celeb guy calling himself international super star based in Nigeria is gbenshing one girl and turning her upside down and the girl is providing him sound track, saying “stop, dont stop, stop it…. please no dont stop”. The guy full with esaoke and lyrics lori gangan would be so high in cocktail of spirit and reeking of kpoli. will be giving her from back. The poor girl having received a bank alert and taken delivery of beautiful trendy clothes, bags and accessories plus including chinko rice and ice cream would not have any moral strength to refuse the guy. Na from dia belle dey arise and baby mama contract is signed.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      June 25, 2015 at 12:14 pm

      Deep sigh. My brother, I fear that thou speaketh nothing but the truth. We dey here dey lament on top the matter, when the vision of LV, Hermes, Gucci and Louboutin collections might mean that all of this discourse will just fall on deaf ears … it is well.

  25. vicky

    June 24, 2015 at 10:08 pm

    Why do Nigerians hate hearing the truth!!!!
    Go on cythnia and voice it out….
    It morally wrong….davido baby mama is a gold digger else why somebody like David she is far older than or is David the only man or guy she dated.
    Let her go look for something better to do than showcasing her lifestyle on instagram.
    Lazy ass souls.

  26. Yebo

    June 24, 2015 at 10:14 pm

    Judging from the comments I have read, it seems like there is a shift for the worse in terms of values. And that’s why when anybody ever dares to call a spade a spade, many will start saying that the person is judging. The fact that u don’t try to whitewash something doesn’t mean you are judging the wrongdoer. It’s the act you’re judging, and there’s nothing wrong with that. When the Bible said judge not, it meant don’t condemn the sinner by saying he’s going to hell. Condemn the sin, not the sinner. And when u condemn the sin, you’re not judging.

    • chichi

      June 24, 2015 at 10:56 pm

      Phew…A brain!..Thank you so much Yebo…

    • fabulicious

      June 25, 2015 at 5:44 am

      God bless you dear. Human beings be justifying crap since 1960. Everybody is entitled to their opinion. Allow her to speak abeg.

    • Bere

      June 25, 2015 at 7:26 am

      Amen!! Seems that’s all this women against her have all been tainted.

    • Dollz

      June 25, 2015 at 10:01 am

      this is brain…opolopo ree…ure coreect o jere..

    • Just thoughts

      June 25, 2015 at 10:28 am

      As in I finally feel awake cos som1 still thinks properly. ..thanks jare

    • Anonymous

      June 25, 2015 at 11:00 am

      @ Yebo,You couldn’t have it better. How sad and painfully true “there’s indeed a shift for the worse in terms of values” what a heartbreaking shame. What bothers me the most is,why are people always under the illusion that whenever their ACTIONS are being corrected,one is termed a hater/jealous or judging? That everyone is doing it don’t make it right. Keep applauding the wrong things sooner than later it will land right at your doorstep.

  27. help

    June 24, 2015 at 10:44 pm

    Some people really disappoint we youngsters. What’s wrong with what she said?
    The truth is so bitter.
    Call me whatever, sleeping around is wrong!! It shouldn’t even get to d point of should I abort it or not.
    Please don’t support evil.
    The devil is damn cunning.. If d devil showed us the consequence of going against God, we wouldn’t follow his ways of course. Don’t allow yourself to be deceived in d name of ‘progressive societal thinking’
    I wish we still had Jesus with us to show us the way so we wouldn’t have to depend on people to tell us how to live right.
    The world is really getting bad.

    • Uju

      June 28, 2015 at 6:29 am

      Yes, sleeping around is wrong but is having a baby the only evidence of sleeping around?? From my observations the ones who do “sleep” around are the ones who don’t end up with babies.

  28. Kaeto

    June 24, 2015 at 10:56 pm

    As you lay your bed so shall you lie on it.

  29. Uncle Tom

    June 24, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    Eyaaaa!!! Truth hurts,Cynthia tell them.Shameless groupies and side chicks that have no pride as a woman opening their legs in the name of celebrity wanabe babymamas.

  30. koinz

    June 24, 2015 at 11:13 pm

    Davido will pay yr movie money n still fuck u on top… bitch ass woman

    • Debby

      June 25, 2015 at 9:21 am

      @ koinz , My dear I’m sure you yourself can pay her movie money which is very ok and fine, but Is that what you live for? Is that the moral of the topic…….I am disappointed.

  31. Alero Mii

    June 24, 2015 at 11:32 pm

    Yaaah! Very well said my girl Cynthia! We were in University together… She has always been the Activist… I am so proud of you.

  32. Mabel

    June 25, 2015 at 12:16 am

    Well, I know I am going to stir the pot with what I am about to write, but I cannot take anybody seriously talking about African values who is wearing a head full of weave, sorry. If you have a another woman’s hair in your head parading as your own you cannot tell me shyt about African values. When you own yourself, your true authentic self and can stand in it, then come talk about African values. Also, the invisible part is not really invisible dearie, fyi. I did not watch the video.

    In the spirit of full disclosure, let me state clearly, I do not have any child/ren out of wedlock. This fact does not make me superior to any woman who does. For those single mothers, love and cherish your children, inspire and lead them in love and good character, and you will live to reap the rewards one day.

    • Iris

      June 25, 2015 at 2:36 am

      But your mother had a perm in her hair. She didn’t rock the natural kinky hair she was born with. Or if she had a kinky look, she would use black thread to sometimes plait it. Your grandmother was not dressed in cow hide and making fire out of stones. She had a lighter and wore clothes made out of some textile. I’m sure they still raised you with an ‘African’ approach. Your reasons for not listening to her are baseless. Leave her exterior out of this. Asians dress like Caucasians to a great degree and insist their kids must learn English but their deep rooted culture is not lost in ‘modernization’. If something is wrong, it is wrong. Be able to intelligibly dismiss a point, and not look for facetious reasons to dismiss something you know holds the truth.

    • Mabel

      June 25, 2015 at 5:24 pm

      Sorry luv, when my mom was this woman’s age she rocked a glorious afro, both her and my dad rocked their fros like it was a halo of cloud atop their heads. So please do not jump to assumptions. There is nothing dignified about wearing hair that was growing out of someone else’s head, a goat, yak, buffalo, horse tail or whatever, not a darn thing dignified about it. But it is not my place to tell people what to do with themself, that’s their business, as it is mine to decide not to waste my time watching their video o.

    • molarah

      June 25, 2015 at 1:12 pm

      This chic just brought out the Teacher in me. Here goes:

      Class in session: All stand, greet! Good afternoon ma, we are happy to see you ma, God bless you ma!

      Teacher: Good afternoon, sit down. Today, we will be doing a revision on what we learnt last week on Cultures and Values. Class, what is culture?

      Class (chorus): Culture is the fabric of ideas, skills, tools, aesthetic objects, method of thinking, of eating and of talking, as well as customs and institutions into which each member of the society is born”

      Teacher: Very good! What is the definition of values?

      Class (chorus): Values are the shared standards of a society by which people define what is desirable or undesirable, good or bad, beautiful or ugly

      Teacher: Excellent! Clap for yourselves!!!

      Class over.

      The point of my drama is: please, please and please, people! Stop mixing the concept of culture and values up. A person can be true to the value system of a society (African in our context) and choose to indulge in aspects of other cultures (which include clothing, dressing, food, etc). Thank me later for the lecture.

  33. PD Young Billionaire

    June 25, 2015 at 12:35 am

    Truth!But don’t mention pple’s names….

  34. Benito

    June 25, 2015 at 1:04 am

    WORD!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought most African American women had very low self esteem, but my Nigerian sisters have got me all wrong. They have one of the lowest self esteem coupled with being very hungry. Which is even worst. They wanna copy what they can’t understand, they want to keep up with the Joneses. Most of them will give it up for a dime. SMDH.

  35. Psalm

    June 25, 2015 at 3:27 am

    Don’t judge! Don’t judge! Why all these tales of ‘don’t judge’ and ‘who am I to judge’ on this subject? Some of us are too scared to take a stand; others are too wise, too analylitical or too exposed for our time and environment.
    Pregnancy out of wedlock by young people is not normal, not in Nigeria. And saying it’s not normal (the summary of this post) doesn’t make one judgemental.
    When the wonderful child is born I’ll love and cherish it because a child is a blessing. Cynthia would probably do the same.
    Her grouse, I think, is with the surrounding celebration and the effect it might have on other young people.
    Never underrate the power of the media. A 16-year-old who observes the pageantry surrounding some of the babymama accounts might think it’s such a cool experiment to carry out. Some of the babymamas/daddys made mistakes and chose not to abort. Great! But this 16-year-old will do theirs with eyes wide open. Whatever your singular, ladida, funky, cutting edge brain might tell you, sweets, this is not who we are.
    And, don’t twist it. Nobody is perfect. Babymamas/daddys in Nigeria are no less humans by reason of that status. But as a people, we have a way of life.
    Some of us noted that we have more pressing issues e.g legalisation of marriage to 11-year-old children. Well, Sen. Chris Anyanwu who sponsored the bill debunked that claim, making copious references to the relevant sections of the bill to show that no mention was made of age 11. I thought her article was widely circulated.
    Young people birthing children out of wedlock may be by mistake or personal choice but it should not trend in Nigeria because … we might be shocked what will be trending next.

    • deb

      June 25, 2015 at 11:23 am

      my dear! i tire o! i just pray that in the future, some kids will not say they want to become “professional baby mamas” when they grow up. what will we say then? i worry for family histories continuing to be made up of unmarried motherhood, generation after generation. what will we say then? yes if an aspect of african culture is barbaric and/or violates human rights it should be stopped, but it doesnt mean we should abandon the ones that help uphold morality. it also doesnt mean we shouldnt reach out to those affected by this “baby mama”, nor treat them in a condescending manner either. but dont celebrate what is clearly wrong and will have lasting effects on the child that did not the parents he/she will be born to.

    • deb

      June 25, 2015 at 11:24 am

      *baby mama issue*

    • deb

      June 25, 2015 at 11:25 am

      *child that did not choose the parents* na wah

    • Uju

      June 28, 2015 at 6:33 am

      Great! Now I wish Cynthia rant was as eloquent as your comment. You can’t come online rambling like a scorned woman and not expect criticism. There’s an intelligent way to get your point across and Cynthia fails to do that.

  36. The Bull

    June 25, 2015 at 4:43 am

    This moral, great Nigerian culture, we like to reference, I hope you all know culture changes. it was in this same Nigeria people were killing twins and Albino’s. We like to take the moral high ground and condemn the west that they are immoral, when we do almost everything they do, especially behind closed doors. The numerous corrupt citizens and leaders we have today are products of this moral, great, Nigerian culture we talk about. The world is a global village and cultures will mix and change over the years, thanks to technology and the media.

  37. wande

    June 25, 2015 at 5:03 am

    I totally agree with her. When you become a baby mama you deny your child so many things. As a child whose parents never married, i was never really sad about not having my parents live under one roof. It didn’t matter to me because i still got to see my dad and i was young then so i didn’t really understand it. Also, because my parents never got married it made it easier for me, cause i did not experience any of their fight, i never saw them interact or see what they were like together. So i did. not miss it or get sad. I don’t even think i have ever even seen my parents stand side by side or maybe i just don’t remember, When i got to college, i lived in the hostel my first year and i had 5 wonderful roommates whose parents were all married. We would gist and talk all the time, they would talk about their parents and the funny things their parents did to one another, and every time they talked about their parents i never had a story to tell except that my parents were never married. Even though i laughed with them and enjoyed their stories, it was really hurtful that i never had one to tell.. That was when i finally felt the impact of my parents never marrying. Everyday, i promise myself that my child or children will have a story to tell their friends about their parents. Ladies, please stop the baby mama’s trend don’t deny your child of that happiness because of your selfish desires. My mum might have been a baby mama but she did not have me because she wanted to make money. Even though she doesn’t regret having me, she wished she had done it right the first time because she never got it right again.

  38. Shannie

    June 25, 2015 at 5:21 am

    The problem is people projecting their values onto other people. Not everybody is a bible thumper. Life happens to people and they deal with it the best way they know how. I don’t see anything wrong with being unmarried and having a child. Guaranteed the circumstances are not idyllic, but as along as both of you are committed to raising your child, the child will be fine.

    Women are constantly being told how to live our lives. As far as I’m concerned, everyone will answer for his/her own sins and that’s nobody else’s business. I applaud all of the men/women who did not plan a pregnancy, but did their best with the situation to provide a loving home for their child. My parents were never married, nor did I ever wish them to be. They loved me, raised me, and taught me how to be a decent human being.

    Marriage is not the end all to be all. So many unhappy marriages in Nigeria and elsewhere. I remember a post on BN several weeks back. It was about marriage and family (the usual). I remember some commenters saying how they grew up with parents who clearly detested each other and that at times their household was miserable and unhappy. No situation is the same, but a single parent home could be better for a child than what society sees as a picture perfect married couple who live together and raise children. What is represented on the outside is not what is going on on the inside.

  39. temilade

    June 25, 2015 at 8:13 am

    SHADEE!!!! lool she went all in! painful but truthful! I feel like some Nigerian celebrities, just don’t want to be committed as it may lower their fanbase and make them sort of out of bounds to female fans, which might make sense from their perspective. But from where I’m seated, it makes zero sense! Lol, why have a child with a woman, if you’re not going to wife her!? Honestly, I could care less about either the woman or man involved, but the child!!!! Why should that child have to go through life lacking proper parental care( I mean having both parents around together) what message are these people passing across? yes and finally, they should stop posting pictures of their baby’s fingers and toes!

  40. frances

    June 25, 2015 at 8:55 am

    Kai!!! God help us. Being labelled a baby mama is now the ‘cool thing’ to do? We are not laying a good foundation for our children with this mind your business attitude. What is wrong is wrong!

  41. Alert!

    June 25, 2015 at 9:38 am

    I AM TOTALLY IN SUPPORT! Regardless of what anyone says! Its such a SHAME the way some people support these things all in the name of individual value? F**ck it! There are some values that stands!, regardless!

    And yes!, I said it some time ago.. shame to the bloggers who promote this as well

  42. OnPoint

    June 25, 2015 at 9:38 am

    You will applaud toke’s vlog and criticize this one? It’s a pity truth’s got so bitter that we can’t taste it, not to talk of swallowing it

  43. divea

    June 25, 2015 at 9:41 am

    In fact, it is now an occupation. Mtchew

  44. You Know

    June 25, 2015 at 10:03 am

    Toke , please move out! A more sensible vlogger is in town, This is what it means to have a voice and use it,to actually send a message regardless of who is involved. Go on cynthia! you just got a new fan. If only women understand the power God has bestowed on them, we would have these men eating out of the palm of our hands, all these baby mama syndrome won’t even be something that a woman should consider. Woman understand their worth, if ever you are in doubt of how powerful a woman can be, go to the bible.

    • lily

      June 26, 2015 at 7:17 pm

      wow…i love that. just got out of an unfair relationship and when i cried back to God….i got to realize what gift i possess as a woman.

  45. vien

    June 25, 2015 at 10:10 am

    she sha said d truth,if u like cry or yabb her ,na ur cut of ogi.

    be wise nxt tym

    those who ve ears let them hear

    WORD

  46. Personal Signature

    June 25, 2015 at 10:25 am

    Cynthia, my own be say thank God you dey naija o
    If not, those guys you mentioned for serve you papers and you will pay
    If you are doing your vlog, remain on your lane and do your job

    If you want to advise, do in a dignified way but mentioning those names is so belittling
    Are you Davido’s father or mother? Who told you he isn’t ready to father?
    Havent you seen some of those guys carrying their babies, buying them replica shoes, putting it up on social media?

    Your concluding statement, people should share and make go viral? I dislike fame hunger people!

    In case of next time, be dignified a bit!

    • Personal Signature

      June 25, 2015 at 10:26 am

      *fame hungry people*

  47. MrsID

    June 25, 2015 at 10:31 am

    Ajaysglam, Babymama x 2 at 24!!!!….BN biko post my comment o.

  48. omime

    June 25, 2015 at 10:50 am

    Someone had to say something. We r talking of morals and not trends, d world has changed, for u guys saying she’s bitter or jealous, no words for u. All I know is u will be torn apart for saying d truth,that’s y d truth Is bitter. Children r beautiful gifts,we agree,but its how dey get Dem dat makes it bad. Me I wont judge oh, she’s just spoke d truth nd I’m on her side. Capish…..BN,post my comment!

  49. [email protected]

    June 25, 2015 at 11:21 am

    I agree with her, but only to an extent. I have an issue with anyone who tries to justify an opinion with culture and religion. Why not state your opinion and give logical, well-thought-out reasons to back it up instead of ‘the bible says’ or ‘it’s not our culture’? It’s such a cop out!

    Now to what I agree with. First of all, I believe that everyone should be allowed to live their lives the way they want and not answer to anyone and people ought not to judge them. I also believe that marriage isn’t for everyone, but that’s a decision for a mature woman to make. You can’ be 18 or even 21 and know for certain that you don’t want to get married and just be a baby mama. That’s why she kept emphasizing that it’s acceptable for older women who just want children.

    Also, we know that accidents happen, people are careless, and there are women who don’t even know they are pregnant until it’s too late to do something about it. This brings me to the issue of abortion. I saw some comments saying “well at least it’s better than getting rid of it”, umm no, not necessarily. People who believe that are also part of the problem. If the girl/woman doesn’t think she can give that child the kind of life it deserves or for whatever reason at all, and she decides to terminate the pregnancy, that’s her prerogative.

    About the prevalence of this so-called ‘trend’ among celebrities-well, even with the American ones, a woman with no known/stable source of income who has never been claimed by a famous man and becomes pregnant for him will also be called a gold-digger and fame-hungry and foolish. So I don’t see anything wrong with her focusing specifically on celebrities. If their parents can’t guide them, then maybe they need to hear it from someone else. It’s dumb and they’re usually either looking for a come-up or hoping to lure the man to marry them which almost always fails.

  50. red

    June 25, 2015 at 11:22 am

    Cynthia Amadi….. where have you been? we miss you on screen.

  51. pipi

    June 25, 2015 at 11:26 am

    my major issue with these baby mama thing is the children; dont you realise what you set these children up for! you use the child to manipulate the other partner, the child lacks a basic family unit etc. sometimes we make mistakes we get it, but when you delibrately set out to have a child by a celebrity thats just sooo wrong. Now lets analyse tuface’s case ; his kids are around same ages abi, how many football practices can he go for, he would miss one to attend one, somebody will get the shortend of the stick.
    i really dont understand what’s happening in the celebrity world but u would agree the baby mama thing is a really trend; one contributing factor might be the fact that remaining single makes them highly desirable by thier female fans. In as much as i agree with not outrightly shaming them but lets not celebrate it.

  52. Abena

    June 25, 2015 at 11:32 am

    Thank you Cynthia and dont pay heed to those who would come at you with sticks and stones…Baby mama trend is WRONG! It not even about Christianity or being a Muslim!Who said because white people are doing it,it makes it right?Have you sat down to calculate the cost it is having on their society?
    And why do people throw the “You are not virgin so you do not have a right to have an opinion about this subject?” Really?
    I just hate the way wrong is celebrated like its right.Wrong is wrong!

  53. Personal Signature

    June 25, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    Baby Mama somethin is not a new trend
    It existed long before i was born and it would exist long after i am gone
    You people are just giving it a new/tush name

    A resultant effect of
    -youths, adults or individual’s inability to discipline themselves (male & female)
    -Lack or inadequacy of sex education ( parents, school, religious settings all have an input in this)
    -Desire for wealth/greed by young girls who want to tie down a man at all cost (e.g Ghanian girl threatening to expose sex tapes of Gyan if he doesnt pay her $1000 monthly)
    -add the rest for me jare BN friends

  54. Icebag1976

    June 25, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    My own is how does culture or whatever bring improvement into our lives? We go to church profess Jesus and still stereotypically live our lives in the traditions of men ” as in someone mentioning our forefathers”. I believe Jesus said in the bible that prostitutes, robbers and murderers will enter the kingdom of heaven first, why did he say that? Paul said in the bible mind ur affairs which means mind ur business. You madam Cynthia have no right to worry about baby mamas or whatever, as it is trending has it affected your economy in anyway? Some people out of desperate situations end up with situations like these so it’s not ur place to condemn their actions. After all as an actor why don’t u complain about how ur fellow actors don’t help out their own when they are terminally ill and can’t afford hospital bills and so on. Is that not more important than people who have kids out of wedlock and they didn’t ask u to come feed them? please we should stop condemning people’s choices because at the end of the day you might think you have ur whole life planned out until you end up in a situation worse than these people then you know life is not as u think from the pedestal where u think ur standing on right now and talking. Peace. I believe live and let live. We wait for Christ’s coming so we should be busy preparing for our Lord’s coming like a thief in the night not you giving other embittered people room to condemn things they nothing about by commenting here. No offense meant to anyone. SHALOM…….

    • [email protected]

      June 25, 2015 at 2:12 pm

      I started reading your comment and thought, “Oh finally someone sees my point! What value do some of these cultures/traditions bring to our lives?!” And then I saw church and Jesus and realized the rest of your comment was a sermon. Meh.

    • hei

      June 25, 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Pls icebag, where did Jesus say prostitutes,thieves will enter the kingdom of heaven first?
      Please book, chapter and verse?
      #jaw-dropped

  55. PH Boy

    June 25, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    There is no excuse whatsoever, Folks should insist on the use of condoms and countless other types of contraceptives.
    Jolly get price!

  56. Icebag1976

    June 25, 2015 at 3:16 pm

    Now I’ve actually watched the video I realize the lady is a first class olodorabata! Plus her commentators that supported her. So it’s only men grown up that can handle kids born into this world meanwhile these same men still act as kids? You say only matured women in their forties can do baby mama and society can okay that? A beg u have no point just go and hug wet transformer Jare!

  57. anita's pikin

    June 25, 2015 at 3:39 pm

    You need to stop. I cant even watch this, the delivery is terrible. this is offensive, and you need to MIND YOUR Bizwax. Calling people thots, and yet, you said “you are not going to call people out”. You are a hypocrite and you are tacky!!!!!! you aint better than her. Davido has a career and a degree, last i checked. Plus he is someone’s father, the girl will grow up and see you shame her dad and mama; go seat down. Marriage is not for everyone, when you get more perspective then share your 2 cents. You don’t know these people, you just talking shit and you compare them to idiots because you think they look irresponsible. You need to have more shame, class boo lol, yeye aunty…

  58. tola

    June 25, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    Na wa Cynthia of unilag talking??she is d last person to give advice o.very morally bankrupt female and sexually loose.

  59. Joe

    June 25, 2015 at 7:11 pm

    STFU Cynthia or what so ever you call urself……

  60. tola

    June 25, 2015 at 8:03 pm

    U guys at bellanaija refused to post my earlier comment calling dis girl out for who she is.dont worry I’d post it on other blogs and people plus ur readers must see it and know she is not one to give advice

  61. The truth is Bitter

    June 25, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    Go on girl the truth is bitter, very Bitter, but Must be told….
    Not being Judgemental, but factual..
    But calling Names doesn’t mean the person’s don’t know themselves.. (What of those that are not celebrities) .

  62. vivianmorh

    June 25, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    Dis baby mama/daddy issue is becomin something else ooo. That how i met one stupid boy lik that and his own life fantasy is avin a baby mama. Its wrong we all knw that bt who are we to judge. All u can do is let the youth knw hw wrong it is nt insult does that already made the mistake.

  63. Tosin

    July 4, 2015 at 8:24 am

    1. This lady didn’t watch / read The Lion and the Jewel.
    2. Why so serious about other people’s choices?

  64. Max

    August 15, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    This is not about leaving other people to live their lives;its about making our society sane and habitable.Its not a religious thing,its about normalcy.what do you ,mean by personal choice anyways?Dont you know that someones personal choice can affect a multitude?When a child from a dysfunctional home become a delinquent and harms your own loved one at school,what would you do?
    abeg lets not bring in twisted logic of selfish individual;ism into this.baby mama nonsense is just another nonsense that has to stop.
    You can check out ideas about it here: whateverlovely.blogspot.com/2015/08/i-want-baby-mama-not-wife.html

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