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Ali Baba on Relationships: ‘If You Both Want It, You Can Work Anything Out’

Adesola Ade-Unuigbe

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Ace comedian Ali Baba is also known for his social media posts where he doles out advice on relationships or shares tips about life.

In one of his recent posts, he shares different scenarios of relationships and how all relationships differ. According to him, no matter how things get in a relationship they can always be worked out if both parties want it.

He wrote:

All relationships are not the same. Because the people in the relationships are not the same. While one lady, 22yrs of age, might be understanding and not put you under pressure to marry her, another may be 38, and not have the luxury of time.

Some ladies may not count your not buying them gifts or spending money on them, as anything. But to other babes, your gifts and spending on them is the proof of love. Some months ago, a lady’s husband impregnated his ex.. They weathered the storm and moved on. Another lady, during BRF’s first term, cant remember the year, saw a text message from a lady expressing her love and how her husband makes her feel, and she dumped the marriage in a bin. She married another guy, 4 years later. Who was later to impregnate her best friend. And that is not to say you should sit in a relationship and take crap ooo.

I know a guy whose wife has given him 4 kids. The 3rd one a boy, is not his. All the other 3 lovely girls are his. And it was not like that happened when they were separated. He knew who fathered the child, but he kept it tight to his chest. 16yrs on, they are still married. Some men have ended marriages because the wife was seen at a party dancing with an ex.

Ali Baba went on to state that relationships are not about being religious or spirit-filled because some men of God can’t be as patient in relationships as they’d have people believe.

He added:

One man’s meat is another man’s poison. What some people will take and not break their strides, could make some others to tumble over. Some men of God, yes, Pastors, can’t tolerate what some mere mortals tolerate. So its not about religion or being spirit filled.

Oh! I nearly forgot. One lady in Lekki, in 2012, was a sparring partner for her husband for nearly, 3 years. I’m talking, teeth removing beating. The First Lady of lagos intervened, and threatened the man with jail term if he ever put his hand on her again. Meanwhile, in Gbagada, a lady walked out of a marriage because “he raised his voice at me and I was scared for my life” Hiaaaan! !

In spite of all of the above, one thing is sure, if you both want it, you can work anything out. Trust me. I recently heard a guy had bedded his mother in-law. His wife’s mum. Not step. Not adopted. And it’s all forgotten. Me I no fit. Even babe wey, your guy browse dey hard… talk less, the one your old man..

Adesola is a BellaNaija editor and Voltron. Yes, things are that serious for her when it comes to BellaNaija.com.She's a lover of gist, novels, music and food. She's constantly trying not to take life for granted. She spends most of her time either keeping up with the world on the Internet or sharing some acquired knowledge about digital media.To communicate with her directly, you can hit her up on: Instagram - @adesola.au Twitter - @ThisConnectd

8 Comments

  1. Andrew

    September 22, 2015 at 8:26 am

    Well said.If you both want it, anything can be sorted out

  2. DLP

    September 22, 2015 at 8:45 am

    Na wa ohhh, i have always said relationship are complex, i dont even know what to make of some of this situations mentioned above. I really dont know what I will do if for example my hubby get someone pregnant. I just pray i does not happen to me, because this life ehhhhh it throws all sort of things at you, I really dont know how Toke keeps it together kudos to her,

  3. Chinma Eke

    September 22, 2015 at 8:54 am

    First time I’m commenting on Ali Baba’s relationship posts, and it’s because; he makes sense on this one.

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  4. nwa nna

    September 22, 2015 at 9:56 am

    Sure, you can both work through a relationship struggle but for me I’ve to feel that my mate is is worth the hard work & wants the relationship to work as much as I do. Cannot be one sided.
    Hardest part of any relationship in my opinion isn’t working through a situation but rather coming to the realization that it’s best to just work away from the it. Why settle for the less than the best we deserve all in the name of keeping a relationship?

  5. meldibson

    September 22, 2015 at 10:32 am

    thank you for letting us know that Toke is stil with Maje after all her “you better off alone or whatever”

  6. des

    September 22, 2015 at 11:28 am

    very true words. i left my boyfriend becos i found him dating a neighbour. i can not stand a cheating man. it wont work

  7. ACE

    September 22, 2015 at 11:55 am

    Well said, I have always believed that relationships are very complex and different. God help us all

  8. Elizabeth

    September 22, 2015 at 9:05 pm

    I can’t endure it

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