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Newlywed Actress Ivie Okujaye on Marriage – “it’s fun & fulfilling to submit to your man”

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Ivie Okujaye & husbandNewlywed actress Ivie Okujaye got married to her sweetheart Ezie Egbo in April this year. We loved her unconventional style, she wore trainers/sneakers during her traditional wedding, and with her reception mini-dress.

Click here for her wedding photos, and here to see her do the split at the wedding!

Even though she was an unconventional bride, she has traditional values, such as submitting to her man.

#Avizzle Even as an independent 21st Century woman, it’s fun & fulfilling to submit to your man … Especially when he’s that kind of friend that just absolutely loves to see u happy!! I celebrate u, dude!!! ? #CatholicFamily #ChristianHome #RideOrDieBuddies #TeenageBesties ?

Photo Credit: Instagram.com/Ivie_Okujaye

63 Comments

  1. somebody

    November 5, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    #CatholicFamily. By the time you’re done with 3 months marriage classes your life will never remain the same. #StrongFoundation

    • Adichie's Theory

      November 6, 2015 at 1:45 am

      I love how she’s conveniently leaving out the part about him submitting to her, as if the Bible isn’t the source of the submission message.
      Ivie, continue preaching your one-sided story because you want people to believe that your life is a fairy tale. Keep putting yourself down to lift a man up who is already lifted up because he was born with a penis. Keep voltroning for voltron.
      And keep your catholic propaganda to your damn self. That’s why your men control your ovaries.

    • NaijaPikin

      November 6, 2015 at 3:34 am

      Why so vicious? Are you so filled with hate that you can’t read? Didn’t you read where she wrote “especially where he’s the kind of friend that totally loves you”

      Does the bible not ask for submission, does the bible not ask for men to love their wives like Christ loved the church? (keep in mind Christ died for the church)

      A man that loves you will never lead you to where you are not prepared to go. So calm your hot a$$ down and stop the hating.

    • Funmi

      November 6, 2015 at 7:19 am

      Lmao. Like seriously let’s see if she will still be singing this same song 10 years from now. I wish her all the best. Its just irritating how newly weds think they have the recipe for a good marriage. If I want marriage advice I will look to people who have been married for ages and are still together and still like each other.

    • PH Boy

      November 6, 2015 at 11:05 am

      Lol! The anti-submit committee can only be gals like you who are not married. Make una dey there dey form feminist in the 21st century and watch as your akara gets old. The same bible passage you challenge was drawn up in line with the doctrines/ teachings of the man you pray to. Agreed, some men are not worth the balls they carry but some women aint shit too. It’s a no win scenario here. If you like, make you no submit, there is always the baby mama crew on the other side of the fence.
      Please leave Ivie alone, that girl wey correct die. I will continue to pray for her and her marriage because of people like you

    • Arin

      November 8, 2015 at 9:38 pm

      Ejo ooo Kila gbe, kile ju?

    • Magdalene

      December 16, 2016 at 4:28 pm

      You sound very bitter

  2. concerned

    November 5, 2015 at 11:35 pm

    really hate the word “submit”. Like if he says jump into the river because you’re submitting to him, you argue but in the end you jump anyway LOL. On a more serious note, I much rather prefer the word “compromise”. I feel as if for the partnership and teamwork that is marriage, compromise is more apt

    • Adichie's Theory

      November 6, 2015 at 1:46 am

      Exactly! But these people won’t hear because they want to marry.

    • dunni

      November 6, 2015 at 1:55 am

      We have hear you o, madam no submission… Be there and be doing word play.. Shior, it is in your body…

    • pattcute

      November 6, 2015 at 2:14 am

      Darling the word submit is irreplaceable. For marriage to work, you must SUBMIT To your husband. If you marry a man who wants you to jump into the river, Jump. You’ll float. Lol. Submit your all and your husband will give you the world.

    • Nahum

      November 6, 2015 at 3:39 am

      Sorry love, but you are a dunce. Any man that tells you to jump into a river for him is not worth submitting to. He is not God. We should only submit totally to God our Creator, because He is a God of impossibilities. If your husband tells you to run into a burning building and you submit, YOU WILL DIE!! Submission is good but we should stop worshipping our husbands, this is idolatry and God is a jealous God.

    • NaijaPikin

      November 6, 2015 at 6:20 pm

      Sorry submission does not mean stupidity. Any man that loves you like Christ loved the church will never ask you to die

  3. Ann1

    November 5, 2015 at 11:38 pm

    K.?

  4. nnenne

    November 5, 2015 at 11:58 pm

    Sure and vice versa! !!

  5. Corolla

    November 6, 2015 at 1:11 am

    Ok…good for her. I hope he submits to her too.

  6. Susan

    November 6, 2015 at 3:28 am

    Bella Naija do you ever ask permission before you pick on quotes and photos from celebrities Instagram pae, I am just curious

    I doubt it.

    Try and respect yourself

  7. simiTFee

    November 6, 2015 at 5:43 am

    She said “especially when he is the type of friend that loves to see her happy”. Meanings she is encouraging men to elevate their wives too. But u these zombies won’t see that one o. Kai! Hater sha. Kpele. Rock on ivie jor!

  8. bride2mum.com

    November 6, 2015 at 5:57 am

    I see all the response here and most people are anti-submit, I can tell you that it is not so easy to submit because you have been on your own for sometime but it is very easy to submit when you love, respect your spouse and they respect you too, when they support you in what you do. @ concerned, there is compromise and there is submission, you cannot be head strong in a relationship and expect it to work out especially in marriage, submit and even a stubborn man can grow weak by your submission.

  9. Olives

    November 6, 2015 at 6:03 am

    Pls, it shouldn’t be one sided, that is why some couples are depressed. Some men even love ladies that don’t act like mumu, seriously, that is presence. And from observations,for marriage to be heaven on earth, both should submit to each other……. My piece

  10. ima

    November 6, 2015 at 7:26 am

    The problem of women is women themselves. why are we ladies always quick to use the word submission or try to make others feel, they are not were u are because they refuse to submit. husbands and wives should love and fall for each other. making a marriage work is not one sided.
    N.B women are too expressive

  11. dee

    November 6, 2015 at 7:31 am

    Gosh the feminism here is raining fire. I agree submit is a strong word but the bible does tell us to submit to our husbands. And I’m sure even the submission sef get stages. When ur in love, u tend to want to give ur all and so would the other party. Dear adichie, ur venom is deadly. U preach anti submission but I’m sure people like u would be the first to ‘die’ for their hubby. She is happy that should be all.

    • Surely

      November 9, 2015 at 3:52 am

      So so dumb. Wow. u sound like you really wish you were talking to chimamanda in person. ur venom is worse.

  12. nomad

    November 6, 2015 at 8:20 am

    lol i have no idea what this word means and I don’t think y’all do either. Submit what? Your maths homework? what are y’all submitting to your ogas? 10x table?

  13. Sylvia

    November 6, 2015 at 8:40 am

    My dear Ivie, continue to honor God no matter what people say. The bible says husbands should love their wives, as much as giving his life for her, and in return, wives should submit to their husbands. If you’re a Christian, it is NOT NEGOTIABLE! Remember we will give account of every idle word we say, this is for those above that are trying to twist what the bible says and even giving reasons for it. That was how I went to a Pentecostal church a friend invited me to, I won’t mention the name. The pastor was preaching on tithes, next thing, this guy said tithes belong in the old testament. Of course he didn’t bother reading the part of the bible in Malachi where God said not paying tithe means you are robbing him, and therefore you and your whole nation are cursed. I am not aware of any other part in the bible where God said these words, TEST ME IN THIS AND SEE. Whenever I come across this passage, it gives me goose bumps. My point is , if you decide to be ignorant or disobey the bible, please for your own sake, don’t deceive someone else into joining you. If not, just know that you have added extra judgment on your head. Some of you women who are telling Ivie not to submit to her husband are literarily SLAVES to your boyfriends, men you’re not even sure of your future with. Yet, you will come online to form ‘strong women’ and advocate for women to divorce their husbands at the slightest provocation, God is watching all of you!

    • Cindy

      November 6, 2015 at 9:41 am

      Pls if you want to quote the bible , quote it in full. Mtchew. You people have been brainwashing women with this scripture since time immemorial. Guess how surprised I was when I discovered the verse 1 of the same scripture. Eph 5:1 “And submit one to another, in reverence of Christ”. Both should submit/compromise biko. And please husbands, submission is about Christ and not about you. So if you are not in a godly marriage in the first place, don’t expect your wives to submit. Like I’ve always said, it is easier to respect someone than to love someone the way the bible described love. So men, why don’t you remove the logs in your eyes by first loving your wives the way Christ loves the church instead of being focused on whether your woman submits or not. How many of you are actually fulfilling the love commandment? Don’t think God won’t ask you o. Christians be committing idolatary all in the name of submission. God created you not your husbands. Respect him as a human and leave it there. If you want to, worship the ground he walks on and let him step all over you as he wishes, that is your headache. Don’t come and tell us stories that touch later on please.

    • Ugly cindy

      November 6, 2015 at 4:32 pm

      Cindy you ugly thing still commenting
      I for agree say others they form feminist
      You sef, u con join?
      U were black like black soap
      short like shotput

      comot jo

    • Warizdiz

      November 6, 2015 at 7:55 pm

      @Ugly Cindy. This is cyber bullying. Leave Cindy alone. Critique her comment if you must. What is it with you?????

    • Surely

      November 9, 2015 at 4:12 am

      God bless you. People like @sylvia want to pretend like they are balanced in their views and understand the bible but only mention that a man should submit to his wife and they will go mad!

      of course some women are frustrated at YET ANOTHER “woman should submit” sermon. And why shouldn’t they??? Ivie is stating the obvious and AVOIDING AN IMPORTANT PART of the full message and this means she is pushing yet another agenda!!!!
      Why didn’t Ivie say her husband submits to her and she loves him so much and does the same??? Because she CAN’T!!! Women still can’t say so for fear of making their men look weak. YET they come on here, so ready to make their men like kings at all cost. She said he wants to see her happy and so she submits. IVIE we are not fools. The exchange for submission is not “wanting you to be happy”. It is SUBMISSION!!!

    • Engoz

      November 6, 2015 at 2:48 pm

      What you wrote is akin to saying a wife should not love her husband because love is the requirement of the man. If submission is the sole forte for women, then it means women are not entitled to love their husbands because this is the commandment given to men. Does that make sense to you? The couple should both love themselves and submit to each other.

  14. Tari

    November 6, 2015 at 9:33 am

    This talk is getting boring.
    People should go and do what they want to do.
    Ivie is my crush. Best wishes to her and her man.

  15. Ada

    November 6, 2015 at 9:45 am

    I think feminism right now has absolutely no meaning. People overlook the real tangible issues that feminism should discuss and blab a lot of rubbish over petty things like words used to describe a relationship between husband and wife. The bible expressly says submit! And then it says husband love your wives unto death. Now instead of reading the complete verse, some very silly “I am feminist individuals” pick up one word and start analysing and nailing it to death!

    For avoidance of doubt, feminism is not what we have made it. Feminism ought to discuss and promote big issues like, women inclusion in every sector of the society, education of women, abolishment of the child bride practice, empowerment of uneducated women with skills acquisition, abolishment of hateful widowhood practices, equality in the workplace etc

    But we don’t discuss these burning issues, rather we quibble over how a woman should not submit to her husband (what is your concern what she chooses to do in her marriage especially if she says her faith requires it), we argue over who should feed the kids (the mounds on your chest, are they for feeding of for flaunting and wearing decolletage?), we argue over taking our husband’s names and bearing the title of Mrs and while we squabble over the petty stuff, the real stuff goes unaddressed! Alaafin will marry teenager, Sanusi will marry his own teenager join, girls in the north will be killing old men who are defiling their young bodies and making VVF the order of the day there.

    Let’s stop being silly abeg. Regardless of whose name you take as a woman, make that name great, Akunyili did it, Okonjo-Iweala is doing it and I have never ever heard those women blab rubbish like we won’t submit, we won’t cook, we won’t clean etc, they rose above all that and became forces to be reckoned with.

    Now you people either rise above and pull people with you or you remain at the bottom rung of the ladder saying rubbish like, I won’t submit.
    Before you say, I won’t submit/take a man’s name, be sure that you are a credit to the name you currently possess!

    • Reetah

      November 6, 2015 at 10:24 am

      See eh! God will continue to bless you. I am honestly tired of this stupid feminism in Nigeria. Upon all this feminism talk, men are still getting away with crap and its not because Ivie decided to submit to her husband who in turn loves her.

      Dear feminists, please! Pick proper battles and leave petty things alone.

    • Oluwabusola Adedire

      November 6, 2015 at 4:04 pm

      and you do have good head on your shoulders.

    • Orange juice

      November 6, 2015 at 4:35 pm

      na d ones wey no get boyfy dey cry
      d ones men don show pepper
      leave em now
      make dem old for their papa house

    • Yourfavesociologist

      November 7, 2015 at 8:09 am

      Ada, i respectfully disagree with your perspective on this and i would like to urge you to consider the ways in which some aspects of it could be problematic.

      1) Language is power (or at the very least it symbolizes power), and the redistribution of power is at the root of feminism’s focus
      2) Not everyone identifies with religion, and among even those who do, not all view or experience it equally. For example, i am a christian and i don’t read certain texts in the Bible the same way others do. I’m not less of a Christian because i focus on 2- way submission. Its all about perspective. No human being owns the rights to Christianity and its membership.

      3) You accuse feminists for picking out one part of the Bible verse that you provide, while completely neglecting the fact that anti- feminists have actually abused that verse way more.

      4) You, especially as an anti- feminist, don’t get to stand beyond the periphery and decide what feminists should/ should not focus on. Issues of systematic sexism are existent in public institutions as well as in private ones(the home, in this case). Feminists are contesting these issues at every level, so please do not undermine the efforts of those who deal with it at a private level, or even those who deal with it in its more symbolic forms for that matter.

      5) Feminists ideally support both women who choose to submit and those who don’t. What feminists do, however, refuse to continue to accept, is the false idea that women who choose to submit are more “Woman” than those who don’t. I dare anyone to contest the fact that this has been an idea ingrained in society for ages.

      6) Your comment implies that women should be superwomen otherwise they are not being “wise” or they are not doing it right. If a woman is holding a position that is traditionally held by men outside the home, then why can’t men be challenged to take up some of these positions that women have been known to hold within the home? Or should we simply admit that the roles given to women are too inferior for men to want to partake in them as well?

    • Surely

      November 9, 2015 at 4:14 am

      Clumsiest logic I ever saw in my life. Jesu.

  16. Luu

    November 6, 2015 at 9:49 am

    It’s amazing how far your husband will go to see your happy when he feels you submit to him. That does not mean to MUMU around him. It means intelligently agreeing or disagreeing. My aunt would say ” You can your husband’s head around to wherever you want because you are the neck. You just have to do it subtly, so that the turning is not swift and too noticeable”.

    Besides I am Ivie-biased. The lady is talented and loaded upstairs. Kisses babe.

    Shout out to our marriage courses. The thing can be stressful but helpful. #catholichome That does not make us immune to fights and quarrels. It just gives you strength to keep pushing

  17. Ife

    November 6, 2015 at 9:58 am

    My only problem with the word ‘submit’ is the way some Nigerian men interpret it.

    To those set of men, it simply means ”Do as I say/command/order/dictate”.

    Some men ask their wives to submit their salaries (yes, all of it. Infact she is expected to wire the money as soon as she receives it). Some ask them to submit themselves for abortion (yes, their own babies just because he doesn’t want more kids). Some even go as far as asking their wives to resign/submit their jobs; reason? I want to to show you who is in charge and you need to submit to anything I say.

    Some of the reasons above is why some women scream or revolt when they hear the word ‘submit’. Because ‘submit’ in Naija is now used to aid abuse.

    For me, I will not submit to any act of wickedness, slavery, injustice or pain.

    Mba nu! My God is not a God of wickedness nor slavery.

    • Orange juice

      November 6, 2015 at 4:36 pm

      are you in their head?
      how do you know how they interprete it
      ctl shift

  18. Crofty

    November 6, 2015 at 10:36 am

    To all those who are saying “I hope he submits to her too”…The man is not called to submit to his wife but to love her as Christ loves the church. That is as equally burdensome to the mind as the wife submitting

    • Netizen

      November 6, 2015 at 10:59 am

      That is a big lie. Why the f- you lying? @crofty they are both called to submit eph 5:1

  19. whocares

    November 6, 2015 at 11:15 am

    Just to be clear. Oxford dictionary: – submission: the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person
    – archaic Humility; meekness:
    servile flattery and submission

    I suppose it depends on which you want to take. Personally, I find the though of yielding my will to another person odious.. why, why, just why? a person who is implied to be superior to me. That is my problem with the word submission. It implies that a woman is a lesser person and that is the idea that has permeated society all these years. You cannot sit down behind your screen and tell me that isn’t true especially if you live in Nigeria or any other part of the world. Women always draw the short straw.
    This has nothing to do with Feminism and I wish people would stop maligning that movement, it is common sense pure and simple. Some women who are against submission sure are feminist (I am) and some are not, they simply do not want to submit and they have the right to chose that for themselves too.
    Do you consider yourself inferior to a man? If you do, then carry go, do you. If you do not, and that idea and its connotation seems wrong to you then you should be able to talk about it and refute it. Not “submitting” does not mean you will not love your partner or act in ways to show it. Submission and basic human decency are not mutually exclusive. Not being submissive does not make a woman a bad wife, neither does submission make a woman a gem!
    Arrgh it upsets me when people who seem intelligent just miss the fine point of it all. Submission to the extent that I am supposed to always defer to a man when I know and he probably knows that my ideas are better than his in a certain situation is stupid. A marriage is a partnership. No one knows better than the other and it is why you join forces and use your resources together. If you wife is right about something and lets say even has business acumen that the man does not have, then defer to her, in that respect. In the areas where you are stronger than she is, she will do the same and your marriage will work. A compromise. No one is losing their will or “submitting to a superior force” as no one claims to be intrinsically better by virtue of the genitalia they were born with. A stroke of fate really. As for what the bible says. loool. You do realise the bible is incomplete. In as much as it is the word of God, if you are aware of your history you will know that it is a text selectively compiled. Always have that at the back of your mind when you appeal to religious texts.
    Ms. Ada where you have read the feminist agenda that feminist will not cook for their husbands or love them or care for them, kindly let me know where you found this feminist constitution from. You are as misguided as too many people I have had the misfortune of meeting. I hate the word submission really I do. However, when you respect who you are with and they treat you right, then you will not have a problem yielding to them in situations that you would otherwise stand firm, that is because the reasonable man will consult with you and reason with you as opposed to treat you like chattel who must always obey him!
    Yes, I will take that chill pill now, thank you.

    • Ada

      November 6, 2015 at 12:27 pm

      If I section your comment, I will make about four paragraphs of it. And all four paragraphs are dedicated to analysing the word submit, your hatred of it, its connotation and it’s negative effects. That, exactly, is the problem with your brand of feminism, which you are so proud of. By all means, you can refuse to submit to your husband, and scream your hatred of the word to high heavens, but you cannot decide for other women whether to apply the word in their marriages.

      As a feminist, hatred of the word submit should be secondary, promoting the cause of women is what is primary and if you cannot see that very clearly then you must not be very smart. Promoting the cause of women has nothing to do with your love or hate of the word submit. Empowering women is what is important, in your own private time as a diehard feminist and in your own home, you can practice the compromise you desire (if it works for you), you can also scream your hatred for the word in the privacy of your family house but when you come into the public where smart discussion should take place kindly make your contribution about issues that trouble and inhibit women instead of about a word from an incomplete book (as you say).

      I refuse to debate a word and its meaning with you when the real issues are far greater. In marriage, you will not always reach a compromise. Countries go to war because they did not agree. People will not always agree, sometimes, one person has to go back and analyse what going to work might cost him/her and if he or she is willing to bear that cost. What the bible is saying, is that, that person who analyses risks and desirability of those risks should be the wife.

      God knows I am very vocal, I am a talkative fighter some of the time but God knows I am also smart. I cannot in anyway be described as stupid and it is stupidity to refuse not to submit in the face of greater danger just because it is the feminist thing to do. It is also the height of stupidity to try to direct another person’s marriage with my views on submission. Finally it will be beyond stupid if I throw away my marriage over a battle that can be won by my silence, deferred by my silence or even discarded completely by my silence.
      Ms. WhoCares you really need to wise up.

      On a personal note, I have stopped fighting with my boyfriend. Why? Because I have found out that he often speaks in anger and when I respond in anger, non-issues become issues. He once said he would never enter my house again because somebody there annoyed him. We fought about it for days. With hindsight, the fight was unnecessary, he has entered the house a million times since then, even sat and waited for me one day to be done with chores and all before going out.

      Ladies, make una no pick UNA battle so, dey there dey listened to harebrained people who common sense is uncommon to.

    • whocares

      November 6, 2015 at 2:23 pm

      I take it you didn’t understand my epistle properly.. that’s ok. As it stands people will do what works best for them. Be it submitting or not and that is my main point amongst other things, and hmm that is also one of the principles of feminism. Women should be free to do what they want. Be it stay at home and cook from morning to night or go to work and work from morning to night. Two extremes but both women should be able to do what they want without condemnation. . My personal bias will come into it when certain topics are raised of course.. and as for discussing important issues, but this is one of them. I am told the family is the foundation of society? You cannot make any one topic “smarter” than the others and this is equally as important.. honestly I don’t even know why I am here commenting on this topic. Tari is right at some point it gets boring. Do you, be happy. full stop.

    • mfon

      November 6, 2015 at 4:26 pm

      u dey yarnnn all this ones…i dey here they think say u don marry….not knowing ur bobo still be boyfriend?? not even fiance…sweetie give this episodes of explanation when it is certain the dude will marry you…you are there forming peacemaker n miss silence clearly so that you will be wifed!!!!!…after ur experiences with past relatonships…u just wanna be the enabler in this one so that u will settle down…who are you deceiving??…dude be better extra vigilant…ur type wen u don enta house, ur real attitude go show…

    • mfon

      November 6, 2015 at 4:26 pm

      @Ada

    • Yourfavesociologist

      November 7, 2015 at 8:01 am

      Thank you so much for your brilliance. The onus should never be on women alone to be wise in order to keep a relationship alive.

    • Natu

      November 7, 2015 at 11:24 am

      Best comment ever!!!

  20. Dopplegang

    November 6, 2015 at 11:58 am

    Can you ladies just shut up for once. Submission in marriage context is simply honouring your man… God honours a woman who honours her man, Ode ni awon ladies yi sha.

    • Ajoke

      November 6, 2015 at 12:39 pm

      @Dopplegang Thank you ooooooooooooo. Please tell. Why are all bitter ageing single sisters here forming Feminism. This thing is simple nah. Submission here simply means honouring your man. See ehen be there forming over analysis o. Marriage is actually not that hard if only both parties can be sincere and respect each other. No sane husband will treat his wife like a slave because she is submitting to him. Neither will a sane woman jump into the river just like that like a moron just because! We ladies really need to be true to ourselves on this feminism nonsense o. Just drop the thought of trying to be equal to a man and play your part as a woman and Gid helping you, the man plays his part too. Marriage does not need to be hard. It wasnt planne dby God to be. It is people like you who wont keep it simple that make it hard.

  21. Buki

    November 6, 2015 at 12:54 pm

    marriage is not compulsory but if you must do it the Bible way then submitting to your husband has no alternative. loving your wife first has no alternative too. If you love her it makes it easy for her to submit to you. Submitting is different from being subservient. the celebrated woman in the Bible were not subservient or voiceless. Let us not use oyibo style to undermine Bible principles coupled with peace of mind

  22. kim kim

    November 6, 2015 at 1:26 pm

    For me, I hate the word submission. I respect him, he respects me, and every thing will be fine. And ms whocares, I do not consider myself inferior to a man.

  23. Bimbo

    November 6, 2015 at 3:01 pm

    Women can be so foolish! How can you be so brainwashed to the point we accept second class status so willingly? The same verse says men should love their wives which ideally should include not humiliatinur wife or demeaning ur relationship by cheating, yet men do this everyday. How many times would you see men giving themselves advice on treating their wives with respect and not cheating on them? Hardly ever! Yet foolish women will be screaming at the top of their lungs how to submit to men who never appreciate the submission. I don’t even understand why one party has to submit before the relationship works? The height of stupidity as far as I’m concerned.

    • mfon

      November 6, 2015 at 4:29 pm

      tankssss

    • Ada

      November 7, 2015 at 12:46 am

      Nne I feel a sense of loss where you are concerned, you mean after all my epistles on burning issues concerning women, all you saw was that I was unmarried and that unmarried state was a yardstick for measuring if I was genuine?

      Now do you understand why your brand of feminism is silly?

  24. Puzzles

    November 6, 2015 at 3:19 pm

    My bible translation says ” a wife should have deep respect for her husband”
    if the thought of submitting to or having deep respect for a man does not appeal to you, then don’t get married to him. shikena

  25. A feminist is

    November 6, 2015 at 5:09 pm

    Xtics of a feminist

    1. One who is single
    2. One who is devoid of love
    3. One who has had it rough with men
    4. One who doesn’t have a bf or suitor
    5. One who is ugly
    6. One who is old and has given up on relationships
    7. One whose future is bleak with men
    8. One who has never been shown love
    9. One who (most likely) never had parental love
    10. one whose father (most likely) maltreated her mother
    11.One who has hatred for anything man
    12. One who may likely never marry
    13. One who wants to find love/marry but can’t find a suitable partner
    14. One who is too full of herself, wants to boss men around bcos of the things she possess
    15. One who may most likely not enter heaven (due to hatred for God’s creature)
    16. One whose friends command attention of men but men never give her attention
    17. One who may likley have hypertension cos of what she hates (men)
    18. One whose heart is full of all forms of bile, rancour, hard feelings and resentment
    19. one who finds it hard to progress in life but blames every man in her life for her predicament
    20. One who has insecurities
    21. One who is described in nos 1- 20

  26. The feminine presence

    November 6, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    Haha what a co-incidence this topic. I spent last weekend in the home of a ‘couple’ friend of mine and the way in which the wife was submissive and caring to her husband really warmed my heart and made me think twice about this submission thing. It truly is beautiful when played out in the context of a godly marriage. Not only did he accept her submissive acts and let her play ‘woman’, on occasion he assisted her and you could just see the love and pride in his eyes.
    What I also love about the wife is even though she’s very industrious and career driven she is one of the humblest people I know.

    I’m a big proponent of femininity and hate that many of us ladies are losing it to all this ’21st century independent woman mantra’. How I long for the re establishment of finishing schools that teach us ladies deportment instead of the way we sometimes ‘react’ that make black women a laughing stock to the rest of the world. All the same I am thankful for such godly role models, and pray to see more feminine women and masculine men.

  27. Oluwabusola Adedire

    November 6, 2015 at 6:02 pm

    I do find it absurd telling grown women how to act in their own homes. It is very easy to judge a relationship from outside but one size doesn’t fit all! My own is that you know your values well before getting hitched. If you are #teamnosubmission let the man know before he marries you. Tbh, I think it is useless to marry a man you can’t trust his decision making abilities by at least 75%.

  28. hi5 ivie

    November 6, 2015 at 6:57 pm

    One thing I know is if u come on BN to learn ways of running your marriage, you are headed into a big bowl of doom. This is cos some of these commenters are either inexperienced, immature, are from unhappy homes/marriages, don’t practice what they preach and only come online to vent their anger and frustration. Dear Ivie, ur husband loves u, u submit to him, dat is the way it should be and I say well done.
    I don’t care how anyone interprets the word submit or how it sounds in their ear. My husband loving me and respecting me, submitting to him comes effortlessly. I even do that unconsciously. If u don’t want to submit to an irresponsible man, then don’t marry one. Marry someone you will be happy submitting to. The right man should have a balance of humility and authority; be humble enough to love u, respect u and listen to corrections or opinions and wise enough to take decisions.
    If only we women knew the kind of power we exude. A man may be in authority, but I think influence is more powerful which is what a woman does. Study your partner and grasp the flow of your relationship. He may be the one taking decisions but u r d one influencing it. Spend less time worrying about who is incharge or is the boss and all of that crap. Most importantly, don’t listen to impractical advice from faceless cyber beings. Ur marriage is more important than anybody’s random opinion.

  29. hey!

    November 6, 2015 at 8:48 pm

    And that is my very nice and calm ezie that ivie married ooo! How am I just knowing about thiss? Awwwwww, ezie is one of the calmest dudess ever! Uniabuja church boi!

  30. stylo

    November 9, 2015 at 7:59 pm

    no wonder una dey get issue for marriage or single still, una won rewrite bible and annoyin thing is most of you hating will claim to have read bible finish. No matter the version of Bible, God has said submit if you dont like it, kill yourself. mayb na u be creator or creature, BN will not post this am sure, but i don write am, Una go just dey won twist things to favour una self, SUBMIT is SUBMIT

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