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#BN2015Epilogues: The Doctors Said 2015 Would Be Her Last! But Hadiza is Living, Loving & Laughing

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Last year BellaNaija Features put together an inspiring feature series to round off the year. The 2014 Epilogues featured 10 real people who took an introspective look at their year and wrote about it. This year, we decided to make the call public to our readers. {Click here if you missed it} It is our hope and desire that we will have enough entries to have a story up every day from the 1st to the 31st of December. We have received an impressive number of entries and we hope that you will share yours with us.

We kicked off the series and so far we’ve had the following entries: Jennifer G , Morountodun , VictoryMayowa ,  Harmony ,Dekky , OJ , Busola , ModupeThe Prodigal Daughter , AdetolaAyomikun Omami Jojo , Kehinde and Iember.

Every entry in this year’s series has been special and BellaNaija is truly blessed to have this community of people who have emerged from 2016 as stronger and better versions of themselves. Today, as we share Hadiza‘s story, we hope that you read and are inspired by her experience. 

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Hmmm… It was early 2010, I was this young 25 years old sitting over the counter at the bank I worked in with an old (pervy lol) customer in my front. He had a pseudo-crush on me had been staring at me for almost 30 minutes. Finally he sighed and said, “Hadiza you are so beautiful, you will get married in 2015!” “huh??” I did an ‘over my dead body’ finger snap in my mind, I was said, “ah Mallam Lawal I will get married this year. Ah ahn are you cursing me?” I was dating the love of my life at that time who had come to meet my parents to ask for my hand before he went to the UK to finish up his Masters. I had a great job and we were both excitedly working hard towards a beautiful future ahead of us, life couldn’t be better.

But as usual life happened…

Fast forward to 2011, I was diagnosed with a terminal disease and given a few years to live. The love of my life went and got lost in Paradise and decided that he couldn’t stay with a girl who was “dying”. I don’t blame him.

I went into depression. I lost my job and I slit my wrist. (yes ooooo, it was that bad) He was my first and was meant to be the only. I couldn’t imagine my life without him. I spent days and nights crying with visions of suicide because I had been pronounced to be on a ticking clock so I might as well end it all right?! Well not to bore you with the long story but thanks to a very supportive family network, I was able to pick myself up and keep moving forward.

Well, fast forward to 2015, as I countdown to my 30th birthday, the words of Mallam Lawal ring in my ears. I thought it was impossible that I would be 30 and unmarried, but here I am 29 plus plus plus and not even a steady boyfriend to boast of.

But the special thing about 2015 is this year I survived.

Yes contrary to the doctor’s report that this was going to be my last year on earth, I survived. I was supposed to be gone this year but here I am, still swinging, still slanging, still making jokes, still laughing, still LIVING!

I am grateful to put one foot in front of another and keep forging ahead. I tried and tried but couldn’t get another job after a gazillion applications; so instead of getting depressed again, I decided to do what makes me happy. I started my foundation this year: a youth foundation focused on raising a new generation of Nigerian leaders.

I discovered I have the spirit of a fighter and my purpose in life is to pour that spirit into the next generation and teach anyone and everyone within my possible reach that no matter what life thrown at you, you should NEVER give up!

I discovered that it is okay to fail, it is okay to hurt, and it is okay to cry – as long as you can get up and be stronger and better than everything you were before. When they say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, there are no lies in it.

I haven’t found the “real” love of my life yet and it is okay. I still believe in that ridiculously crazy stupid love and I know it will find me soon enough. I am grateful to be alive and grateful to be able to appreciate the incredible elements of who I am, and all I have become as a person.

This year I learnt a lot about life. I developed myself, became a voracious reader and started following my dream of seeing the world. A lot of my ideologies changed especially towards general accepted societal views. I realized it’s okay to chart your own course. It’s okay to be single and 30. It’s okay to be married at 22 as well…whatever floats your boat. Life tends to box us into corners and patterns of what and who we are supposed to be, but when we get to the point where we live for ourselves and chart out own course, then we can say we are truly alive.

This year I found myself.

I fell in love with me for the first time in all my life. Truly, madly, deeply I feel in love with Hadiza and ohhh what a glorious love it was. I feel uninhibited.  I feel free. I can do anything and be anything and I am thankful.

Mistakes have been made, regrets have run their courses, “what ifs” have been thought of, but 2015 draws a curtain closed to all of that. I am hopeful, I am thankful and I am alive.

This year on the 31st I will be in NYC watching the ball drop and feeling extremely thankful for every single one of the 3 decades I have spent here on earth. I never thought I would see it but in Chris Brown’s voice “look at me now ooooh” *wink*

Thank you BellaNaija for the opportunity to share. I hope you post this… I also became addicted to your blog this year as well and I’m thankful for the enlightened minds I’ve found on here.

So cheers to 2015 and cheers to an even greater 2016.

Happy new year guys!!!
From Hadiza- The Eternal Optimist…

Photo Credit: Dreamstime | Carlosphotos 

37 Comments

  1. yeyeperry

    December 16, 2015 at 12:14 pm

    Love you Hadiza! May you have many more decades to celebrate on planet earth! Hugs

  2. DD

    December 16, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    Beautiful!!

  3. Adaeze Writes

    December 16, 2015 at 12:36 pm

    Wow! This blew me away….
    You’ll live for so long and most of all, you’ll live to see your children’s children.
    God bless your courage dear. You rock!

    For thrilling stories visit adaezewrites.com

  4. Segi

    December 16, 2015 at 12:40 pm

    I wish you nothing but the very best in life. 10 years from now, you will still be sharing a survival story with an awesome disney ending twist.

  5. kuluwa

    December 16, 2015 at 12:41 pm

    God bless you dearie, zaki kuma ga shekaru dawa.

  6. Aijay.....

    December 16, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    Lovely

  7. kuluwa

    December 16, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    *dayewa*

  8. martinson oluwaseun

    December 16, 2015 at 1:09 pm

    and u’ll live very many more years dear!

  9. Tincan

    December 16, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    Oh wow! I feel your freedom… God bless you!

  10. adeanon

    December 16, 2015 at 1:14 pm

    Hadiza
    The God who started this will perfect all that completes you. Thank God you fell in love with you!

  11. deedee

    December 16, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    My namesake and age mate, I thank Allah for your life, by His Grace u will surely live for many more years and they shall be happy and productive. Keep doing you and be happy always…Self love is the best kinda love!!!!!!

  12. kemi

    December 16, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    God bless you. One thing i keep telling people is that the doctors are not God and science is not God! The Lord that i serve will heal you and keep you whole! You will not die but live to declare the glory of the Lord in the land of the Living!

  13. Olu

    December 16, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    Whose report will you believe?
    We shall believe the report of the Lord.
    Amen

  14. Olamide

    December 16, 2015 at 4:10 pm

    What an inspiring piece. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You will have many more joyful years and all your dreams will come true.

  15. Glory!

    December 16, 2015 at 4:28 pm

    Congrats Hadiza
    we are happy for you, we celebrate your “life” and we celebrate God who has bestowed His mercy on you to live on!
    Congrats

  16. Opsy

    December 16, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    So so inspiring…

    It’s only just started…

    It’s gonna get much better my darling Hadiza…

    Lots of hugs and kisses xoxo

  17. Uju Lilian Ikegbune

    December 16, 2015 at 5:36 pm

    Oh mine! This moved me to tears may she live long to find love, and serve God and carry her children. This is a miracle and God will grant her total healing. Great testimony.

  18. Suwa

    December 16, 2015 at 5:40 pm

    I’m depressed

    • Honeycrown

      December 16, 2015 at 6:05 pm

      But why na Suwa? Cheer up abeg? Lemme copy & paste a lovely song for you….
      “Tell your heart to beat again
      Close your eyes and breathe it in
      Let the shadows fall away
      Step into the light of grace
      Yesterday’s a closing door
      You don’t live there anymore
      Say goodbye to where you’ve been
      And tell your heart to beat again”

  19. nunulicious

    December 16, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    Happy for you hadiza and I pray you have a happy long and fulfilled life.
    I am also curious and was hoping to read more about the terminal disease. what was the diagnosis. which hospital, how did you feel? etc etc. don’t hate me, we all want to hear that side of the story…

    • Hadiza

      December 19, 2015 at 9:22 am

      Heyyy Nunulicious thanks so much for your comment. You can email me [email protected], il tell you all about it.

  20. Honeycrown

    December 16, 2015 at 5:58 pm

    Whoo Hooo!! Stay well & All the best Hadiza! “Carpe the Diem” outta 2016 and beyond!

  21. ATL's finest

    December 16, 2015 at 6:50 pm

    By his stripes, U are healed. Doctors treat while God heals. He’s got the finally say not human beings. Keep on Fighting, let your faith carry you through & Oh baby watch that ball drop in NYC & make a greater wish as U celebrate 2016.. #Godis?. Well that boo of urs that ran away wasn’t urs in d first place. U aren’t dead yet & he took off smh. It just shows the lack of trust & fiath he’s got in U. ( I know u dont blame him, neither do it). Don’t be surprise when I’ll be celebrating Golden jubilee with ur future hubby, your 40th & fabulous bday, your kids birthdays etc. It is well with U.

    • Hadiza

      December 19, 2015 at 9:23 am

      Thank you so much Atls finest, I’m so touched. Kisses

  22. BIMS

    December 16, 2015 at 7:20 pm

    @Suwa I hope that you can draw some sort of inspiration from Hadiza’s story. And Hadiza may God grant you many more years on earth. God bless you.

  23. Segi

    December 16, 2015 at 7:34 pm

    Hello BN community, please your assistance is greatly required. A lady I read her story on Stella’s blog, URGENTLY needs our help to stay alive and healthy. She has been given less than a month to embark on a life saving surgery or lose it all. I have passed on my support to her but it’s not up to 20% of what’s required. I honestly don’t know how much is left to complete her surgery bill, however kindly donate funds her way . Here is the link stelladimokokorkus.com/2015/12/help-save-akuwa-adejo.html?m=1 Thank you so much!

    • Segi

      December 16, 2015 at 7:36 pm

      Apologies BN management if this negates your comment section rule, however if you will like to validate the story please follow the link. Let’s shine some light into someone’s life this festive season. Thank you!

    • BellaNaija.com

      December 16, 2015 at 10:07 pm

      Hello Segi, thank you. We were sent her gofundme link earlier today and have published a story. Hopefully, all hands together can help.

    • Segi

      December 16, 2015 at 11:08 pm

      Thank you, saw the post you’re doing a great job!

  24. Suwa

    December 16, 2015 at 9:55 pm

    Thank you honeycrown and BIMS

  25. Suwa

    December 16, 2015 at 9:56 pm

    Thank you Honeycrown for the song

  26. jjjjjjjjj

    December 16, 2015 at 10:22 pm

    my namesake

  27. chi-e-z

    December 17, 2015 at 12:26 am

    Stay blessed Hadiza. Here’s to many more years of love and joy

  28. Tee

    December 17, 2015 at 2:55 am

    Your strength inspires me!
    2015 was “such” a year. I look forward to 2016 and a refreshed me.

  29. Christiana

    December 18, 2015 at 5:26 pm

    Amazing.. I was told I had 10 years to live at the age of 10. Today am 28 counting down to 29 alive and healthy and like you in love with myself . you will live long.

  30. Hadiza

    December 19, 2015 at 9:37 am

    Thank you soooooo much everyone for your truly inspiring and supportive comments, I wish I could reply every single one of em!! I didn’t even know Bella Naija had posted up my story and you posted it up right after my birthday ! Sweet! Thanks guys I appreciate and I wish you all ,all the love,blessings andjoy you desire out of life..we will all have reasons to celebrate..

    Peace and Love…xxx

  31. ha

    December 27, 2015 at 6:59 pm

    Love ya Hadiza xxx you are truly inspiring

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