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Tgirl left this comment under another Aunty Bella post today.
I’m not Miss Tired and Broke, I’m Miss Confused and Stupid. I am 22 years old, a senior in college, I graduate this year.
For the past one year my life has been in pieces… Let me just give a little background about myself. Two and a half years ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years because he got someone pregnant. Fast forward to a month after our break up, I met this guy. It wasn’t love at first sight, as it took me a while before I started dating him. I liked him a lot and I introduced him to my mom. In fact I thought he was the one for me and all that.
Then I started noticing some changes in his behavior… He won’t let me post him on Instagram… Not even comment on his page! He is always holding on to his phone like its his life. I started suspecting stuffs….
Until April last year I found out on Instagram that he had a girl friend! So that makes me the other girl! I did my research and all that, I sha found out that he started dating this chick 3 months before we started dating! I confronted him, he begged, cried, apologized and all that!
To be honest I forgave him because we were already having sex. And he was the first person I had sex with! It was hard to let go. I endured a lot from the other chick. In fact it got to a point… I did whatever I could to make sure she didn’t leave him… Because I knew he loved her.
I broke up with him but he won’t let me go! He keeps begging and begging and promising me everything…and I always fall for it like I said I’m Miss Stupid! Even with everything, I do more for him than this babe, because I help him with school problems and real life issues! I try my best to always make sure he is doing okay and all that, as I hate to see him break down.
But I’ve had it all I just got a message from his babe’s friend that he proposed to her this December and brought her to his family! And I’m like God why I’m I so stupid?!
Don’t abuse me… I promised myself that I would let go of him after I graduate… he makes me happy and sad at the same time. Breaking up is hard! We are in the same class! We have the same friends! And if I eventually let go I’m scared I would be alone.
P.S. I have suffered from depression in the past and I’m scared I would hurt myself.
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