Aunty Bella is our agony aunt column on BellaNaija. We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers. We hope the BN family can offer insightful advice.
Hi BN Team,
I just read Esco’s article on Suffering and Smiling and it resonated deep within me. I am a student currently pursuing a masters degree to the amusement of people who looked down on my family when we were much younger, I don’t know how but my parents pushed through with God’s grace. It was so hard. My face is swollen from crying because that post just spoke to me and I know I’m not alone in this world.
I am done with exams now and I don’t have a laptop, I’m about to start my dissertation and I don’t know where help is coming from. I’ve tried to find a part time job here but these UK employers are funny. I know God is working behind the scenes.
I commented a few minutes ago on the post as below:
“Oh, how am I just seeing this article? We had it rough growing up, oh how I hold my parents in high esteem because they’ve been selfless in it all and i know God will repay them. I am the first of 3 children and my parents saw to it that we all got into the university. It was a tough ride, for days on end I wouldn’t even have food to eat because of lack of pocket money and any small money that got to my hand, I always put my brothers first and feed them. Fast forward to now, I happen to be doing my masters program and the enemy has struck again and it seems like another impoverished episode.”
As I type this, I just wrote my last exam and I don’t even know where next months rent is going to come for. I don’t even have money to take the bus. I am just here soaking up in my own tears. Thanks to good internet here, at least I get to read BN articles and still have hope. I have good writing skills and would love to put that into practice, maybe freelance even but I don’t know how.
This post was originally published on the 19th of May 2015. However, we recently received an email from the BN reader in question. She has asked us to share the update with our readers.
I’m a regular BN follower and I’ll continue to swear by Bella because it was via this platform that I received some help a few months back into 2015.
You may remember me from https://www.bellanaija.com/
As luck will have it, God used 3 major people to reach out to me during that period all from be bn comments section. I’m eternally grateful and I have kept you in by prayers all day for the past months. I joined the fundraising group as suggested by one of the commenters and quit after a week as I developed sores on my feet due to inappropriate footwear I wasn’t warned that I would have to walk to the ends of the earth to raise funds for respectable charities. I’m grateful for the experience.
I joined a stocktaking company – orridge- who only gave jobs about once in about 5 weeks or so. lol but I held onto it. I also tried to cook to earn money but found out that students would rather spend money on burger king than spend 20 pounds on a big bowl of stew so cash influx was slow on that front but i kept on.
I have been working hard to remain active and not sit idle but unfortunately I find myself behind the rent for the month of January.
I have saved a hundred and twenty pounds already from my little cooking but need two hundred and ten pounds more to give my landlord. He has been patient but he won’t hesitate to flip soon.
Please I need assistance however little. I was skeptical about sending this to the BN team because I didn’t want people to think I come here for free funds but I went with it anyway.
I have almost completed my postgraduate degree now and February is my last month here meaning all this will be over and I’ll be home soon.
I’ll drop my email for anyone who wishes to reach out. Thank you and I wish you all a fruitful week.
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