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“A woman can do multiple tasks in Life…. Stop those artificial dichotomies” – Oby Ezekwesili

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Former Minister of Education and former Vice President of World Bank (Africa Desk), Oby Ezekwesili took to Twitter on Friday to call on young people to “stop artificial dichotomies” in marriage, adding that “a woman can do multiple tasks in life”.

She added that with support from both sides, a couple can get anything they want done, done.

See the tweets below:



38 Comments

  1. Amaa

    December 30, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    ???

  2. Corolla

    December 30, 2016 at 7:18 pm

    She said it! I want to take care of my home to the best of my ability. I want to cook great meals, clean the house and nurture my family, but I want my future husband to want to do those things as well. I want him to support me like I will support him. I need a man that knows that lending support in the home is a boss move. Shikena.

    • x

      December 30, 2016 at 8:01 pm

      I love you

  3. The Real Oma

    December 30, 2016 at 7:22 pm

    The penultimate tweet is everything!

  4. Nakoms

    December 30, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    Nigerian women have been keeping the home and achieving in their chosen professions since 1345. The lie started in colonial nigeria when nigerian civil servants felt they had to imitate our colonial overlords with their sit at home wives. The 419 yahoo yahoo lifestyle of the 1990s helped to reinforce this lie that a woman shouldn’t work or aim high career wise. Men who assist in home chores are not a rarity. It’s normal for most men to assist at home. If you don’t have it, maybe you fished in the wrong water. I do it and so do my friends and brothers.. I had a civil servant father and a trader mother who was far richer than my dad and we the children knee it. But it wasn’t a big deal because she loved and respected my father. In a family of three boys and two girls we the boys did the yam pounding and assisted in the kitchen as did the girls.

    Long story short. You can achieve at home and at work. Just like madam obi, like funmilayo ransome kuti, like adeleke Williams, like my mother and a host of other too numerous to mention. You don’t need feminism to achieve!

    • tunmi

      December 30, 2016 at 11:41 pm

      It was all good until that last statement. In fact everything you wrote up is feminism

    • EE

      December 31, 2016 at 2:13 am

      No it is not.

    • LemmeRant

      December 31, 2016 at 6:09 am

      But you see… They will not follow any of those women you’ve mentioned, Its Toke Makinwa’s becoming they’ll be looking up to.

  5. Lolo

    December 30, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    googled the meaning of dichotomies

  6. Nakoms

    December 30, 2016 at 7:52 pm

    Sorry for the typos

  7. Nakoms

    December 30, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    Nigerian women have been keeping the home and achieving in their chosen professions since 1345. The lie started in colonial nigeria when nigerian civil servants felt they had to imitate our colonial overlords with their sit at home wives. The 419 yahoo yahoo lifestyle of the 1990s helped to reinforce this lie that a woman shouldn’t work or aim high career wise. Men who assist in home chores are not a rarity. It’s normal for most men to assist at home. If you don’t have it, maybe you fished in the wrong water. I do it and so do my friends and brothers.. I had a civil servant father and a trader mother who was far richer than my dad and we the children knee it. But it wasn’t a big deal because she loved and respected my father. In a family of three boys and two girls we the boys did the yam pounding and assisted in the kitchen as did the girls.

    Long story short. You can achieve at home and at work. Just like madam obi, like funmilayo ransome kuti, like adeleke Williams, like my mother and a host of other too numerous to mention. You don’t need feminism to achieve!

  8. Nakoms

    December 30, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    Typos

  9. Weezy

    December 30, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    Okay. Most people will agree that a woman can work AND take care of the home. But can a man?

    I don’t see anything 21st century about Oby writing a policy note and cook in soup for her family. What would be 21st century is ” I wrote a policy note while my husband made soup from the vegetables I bought earlier).

    • Marks

      December 31, 2016 at 12:56 am

      What policy note is she writing? What did she do as Minister of Education? Because OBJ got a Wotld Bank job for her the other time, she’s also feeling like some super-star. The woman is basically noise..little or no substance.

    • EE

      December 31, 2016 at 2:19 am

      “But can a man?”

      You believe a home ends inside the kitchen?? Who washes the cars? Does the heavy lifting? Who drops off the children at school? Changes the bulbs? Unclogs the sink?? e.t,c

      Its physically impossible for the woman to do anything. Their isn’t anything like a 21st century marriage, they are cultural differences for marriage traditions. An American husband may not cook, but he grills e.t.c

    • LemmeRant

      December 31, 2016 at 6:18 am

      The funny thing is that I can cook, clean and wash. Don’t get me wrong- I;m no a culinary expert like Sisi Yemie or a chef, but I can cook the basics, like rice, beans etc.- Its also a lot cheaper. Soups I can’t cook, i get from my mum. A lot of guys I know who live on their own also do the same.

      My sister wouldn’t even know what/where to pull to start a generator. All she knows is that the generator brings power to the house. She’s older than I am… and guess what? She’s a feminist.

    • Loki

      December 31, 2016 at 6:53 am

      Hmmm, let’s see… I wash cars, change bulbs, manage the generator in my house including servicing it personally and re-cording it when the cord snaps. I unclog sinks, toilets and repair leaky piping, I helped a family friend repair his microwave that he had packed up for a year because HE couldnt fix it, I set up the electronics in my house and do basic level carpentry (nailing, cementing, fixing faulty doorknobs), I paint my house when it needs a touch up, replace blown fuses and plugs and work with electricians when they come to re-wire or any other thing that involves the circuitry (no I am not an engineer). I also cook, clean up and do other domestic chores. I do all these because I consider them survival skills and survival has nothing to do with the shape of you genitals and internal plumbing. If you cannot turn off your circuit box when there is an electrical fire, YOU WILL DIE. Death wont ask you if you have testicles. That is the point of this post.
      Don’t be so quick to assume every woman is lost when there is no man around. Men are fantastic and everything and I love em, but I believe what they need is a partner not a liability who will stay in a dark, leaky house cos they travelled for a few days.
      I however concede that these are traditionally male roles and many women prefer to take the damsel in distress route. But make no mistake, not everyone will sit hungry and wait till you fix up the gas cooker before they feed themselves.

    • EE

      December 31, 2016 at 8:20 am

      @Loki is a trillion to infinity yards of wife material.

  10. Loki

    December 30, 2016 at 8:30 pm

    Waiting for the following Dons of the BN Male Chauvinist families to make an appearance:
    1. Paul Adeyemo: Don of the “Women-are-all-prostitutes-and-witches” Family
    2. Chief: Don of the “Women-must-all-bow-down-to-me-and-kiss-my-smelly-bum” Family
    3. John: Don of the “Women-are-all-delusional-and-sociopathic-and-can-never-amount-to-anything” Family

    I’ll formulate my thoughts then….

    • P

      December 30, 2016 at 8:34 pm

      Don’t blame Paul too much. Because that was his mother’s line of work, he thinks all women are prostitutes

    • EE

      December 31, 2016 at 2:20 am

      That was unnecessary. Attacking a fellow woman, a mother at that over disagreements with her son.

  11. Paul Adeyemo

    December 30, 2016 at 9:45 pm

    Oby, stop deceiving yourself, not all is like your husband that is not man enough to provide for his family that is why your mouth is running like tap water. The Bible makes man the head of the family and also call men that cannot provide for their family infidel. When a man can provide for his family, he is the head in the real sense and his wife must be submissive 100%. BN feminist who can’t even boast of toasters talkless of boyfriend will also be choking their smelly mouth into husband and wife affair, go and get toasters first to take you out of your masturbation frenzy.

    • Le coco

      December 30, 2016 at 10:42 pm

      mumu.. go n drink water

    • Idomagirl

      December 31, 2016 at 5:57 pm

      You never disappoint ?

  12. demashi

    December 30, 2016 at 10:07 pm

    There are tons of men that co-parent with their wives but they make no fuss about ( I fall into that category). Let’s not fall into the fallacy of hasty generation. I was raised alongside my brothers to domestic and we all are in varying degrees. My wife was recently away for a week and with no help I managed to keep d home and sort the kids. Women do have the natural ability to multitask so it’s much easier for them but it’s only an archaic/parochial man that won’t be able to offer a helping hand when the need arises.

  13. Chief

    December 30, 2016 at 10:10 pm

    Men please don’t make that mistake,if you cannot earn more than your wife,do not get married.The financial thing has overtaken “love” in the whole marriage game a turnabout,very much endorsed by the feminist themselves

    Once you have given up your power,it is impossible to take it back and by serving your wife and not taking the lead,you will forever be holding and apologetic for just being a man.The African culture believes that the man is the king of the home.We all know that a throne comes with the ability to provide.As a real man,i do enjoy providing for my family.It gives me a deep of satisfaction that i’m allowing my wife to earn less than me and also raising our children.Some people label this behaviour as chauvinistic,fine, call it what you want.

    I think women basically want options and choice.Women are brought up by feminism to expect and demand options and choice.I was raised as a real man by the thought of being able to take care of my family both financially and physically(protection).The thought has been ingrained in me by my father.It’s a point of personal pride for me.It bothers me that women breadwinners are on the rise but still a huge minority.

    • Boss chic

      December 31, 2016 at 1:06 pm

      A small man just walked in the room

  14. Loki

    December 30, 2016 at 11:31 pm

    Two out of three Dons present and accounted for… John is probably somewhere using Chloroform on some unfortunate female….Can he resist the urge to drop by? We’ll see.

    • A Real Nigerian

      December 30, 2016 at 11:58 pm

      ROTFL!!!

    • Idomagirl

      December 31, 2016 at 5:57 pm

      ?

  15. nnenne

    December 30, 2016 at 11:48 pm

    To each their own!
    In my home we don’t draw boundaries.
    My husband earns more but believes it’s okay to help as needed because by the end of the day, he needs a wife that can respond to his touches, not a tired piece of wood. We have no maid!
    Again, he says he needs me to be alive because I can take good care of the kids, more than he can ever do!
    It is never about who makes more more money, rather a HUMANE act of sharing, friendship and kindness.

    Folks, do what works for you!

    • Nahum

      December 31, 2016 at 11:11 am

      This is the most sensible response to Oby’s tweets. Don’t draw boundaries in your home, don’t assign tasks. Sometimes the woman does more, sometimes the man. Just pull forces together and get things done!! And please stop all this foolish back and forth between women and men. Responding to every chauvinistic statement cheapens the fight.

  16. Cocoa

    December 31, 2016 at 12:57 am

    Marriage is strictly for ADULTS. What qualifies an Adult to you is where you will either get it WRONG or get it RIGHT.

  17. AceOfSpades

    December 31, 2016 at 8:56 am

    All the feminist I meet in real life, the way they present things is usually very different from how women write things on here. I mean even one of them is popular on BN but she doesn’t know that I know.

    One said she won’t change her name for no man, I asked if she was married to Mark Zuckerberg or Dangote nko? She was like ‘hmmmmmmmm’

    I asked one if she had the kind of money Linda Ikeji claims she has (‘claim’ because we aren’t inside her bank account), will she agree dating a Bill Gates going through divorce and she said yes.

    If Warren Buffet is married to you and he slaps you but you can’t get a dime from him if you divorce him but you would inherit everything when he dies, will you stay? You already know her answer. Even Caroline Danjuma knows the answer too.

    This ladies are strong advocates of feminism o

    • Loki

      December 31, 2016 at 9:54 am

      This is less pseudo-feminism and more of the greed that plagues the human race. I know men taking serious crap from their wives cos they desperately married daughters of multi millionaires and they want to maintain the connection. When you ask them why they put themselves through such nonsense, they’ll ask you if you know what they are gaining from being married to so and so’s daughter.
      Shamelessness is not a gender thing.
      That being said, I’m not sure feminism is necessarily about pointless arguments about last names and ending marriages on a whim. I’m not sure what it’s about; but I doubt the movement started cos someone did not want to bear Mrs Checkoutmycoolnewlastname and her husband slapped her for it.

  18. Appy

    December 31, 2016 at 10:41 am

    Paul and Chief would say anything to make the feminists get their underwear in a bunch. And they succeed most times. just like Real Nigerian pushes the buttons of the guys here by giving them mean labels. Thing is they love trolling,and i always look forward to their sometimes logical/ analytical ,sometimes inane comments i know them enough never to get emotional or affected by ANYTHING they say.
    Whichever way,their opinions generate reactions,and makes the comment section interesting.
    I can’t believe i am typing this,but apart from the insulting and disrespectful use of words that i really dislike….i hope to read more from these people in 2017.

  19. hadiza

    December 31, 2016 at 10:49 am

    Marriage is a fraud. it is a system used to enslave women and make them Worthless. Marriage is not beneficial to women. U are used as a filthy slave with no remorse. I don’t feel any pity for those women sha, it’s their choice to be enslaved. Enjoy the slavery u put yourself in.

    • Idomagirl

      December 31, 2016 at 5:59 pm

      ?????
      Another character on thid site.

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