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Actor Yul Edochie advises that “if your man isn’t rich but he loves you…and has potentials for greatness, marry him…Grow with him”

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Nollywood actor Yul Edochie shared some candid advice in the early hours of this morning.

The movie star shared a photo of himself and his wife and in the caption of the photo urged young ladies to not always aim to marry rich men but to sometimes aim to grow and succeed with their men.

He said:

To the girls who want to marry only rich men, I don’t blame you at all. Times are hard and everybody wants financial security. But if your man isn’t rich but he loves you, loves God, hardworking, intelligent and has potentials for greatness, marry him. Support him, grow with him, and help him succeed. God will bless your union. #mystory

Do you agree with him?

60 Comments

  1. Madman

    January 26, 2017 at 7:58 am

    Never, never, never marry anyone for potential. Marry them “as is.”

    Expectations and potentials are.the fastest ways to destruction.

    If they are poor, love them anyway… If.they are rich, love them anyway. What’s the point of dreaming for someone who doesn’t dream for themselves?

    • nene

      January 26, 2017 at 11:23 am

      gbam. in those days, people wih potentials made it, but these days, it’s extremely hard.

    • Fisayo

      January 26, 2017 at 3:58 pm

      I’m just here wondering why you’re all typing “potentials”.

      No need oh. “Potential” it is.

    • Abk

      January 26, 2017 at 7:57 pm

      Truth is, everyone has potential. We’ve got to see results. Females included.

  2. Madman

    January 26, 2017 at 8:00 am

    I also know many lazy men looking for rich, single women to marry..

    I don’t know why people love to attack women and their choices.

    • Oma

      January 26, 2017 at 11:09 am

      Thank you @Madman….For me, I have now had it with alll these motivational talks that are directed at women. Everyone has something to say to the female folk in terms of advice. … please advise yourselves and leave women alone. Its so annoying…. Haba, that is why we have more reasonable women than men – when no one will wake up and advise men. Mscheewwww

  3. Madman

    January 26, 2017 at 8:01 am

    Never, never, never marry anyone for potential. Marry them “as is.”

    Expectations and potentials are.the fastest ways to destruction.

    If they are poor, love them anyway… If.they are rich, love them anyway. What’s the point of dreaming for someone who doesn’t dream for themselves?

  4. Benson Ossai

    January 26, 2017 at 8:32 am

    Your father is a made guy in the Nollywood industries which babe will not want to roll with you.Not that you are from your a poor home we know your story man.Which babe in Nigeria of today will want to roll with a guy that is from a poor background and the same time trying to find his feet?Guys are making things difficult. Babe will suffer with you, when you hammer you will tell babe funny excuse.So this makes girls don’t want to give their all.Well their are some that will want to stay around when there is love btw the lovebirds but it is rare these days.

  5. Ade

    January 26, 2017 at 8:38 am

    Rich people don’t even look at the poor again. Nobody wants to be the financial ladder or gateway out of poverty again. People fantasizing about meeting a rich person that will wedge them out of poverty are in for a rude awakening. I pray grace shines on all our diligent hard work.

  6. RIFF RAFF

    January 26, 2017 at 8:50 am

    Ok. Let us balance oga Yul’s post so that we won’t have a gender war here, lol.

    TO THE MEN:
    When you finally hit it big,

    -DO NOT in the name of “changed levels”, abandon the lady who stood patiently by your side. Be grateful. Celebrate her. She deserves it fully. Is it easy to have faith?

    -Do not start despising her, calling her local because she doesn’t ressemble those “glam IG models ” who are now swooning over you. Why did u not view her as local when she was the only one who believed in you… even with your empty pockets?

    -If you truly feel she needs a make over, just as she was patient with you during your struggling days, patiently help her upgrade too. Or get someone who can help her, if u don’t know how to go about it. She may just be clueless about these “upgrading” things. Daz all. It happens

    – Check Mark Zuckerberg. You think he couldn’t get himself any “stunner” he wanted, with all that his money? He instead chose the loyal woman who was there from the start and believed in his dreams against all odds.

    Lastly, IF your head gets swollen and u dare mistreat or dump that loyal woman of your small beginnings, God, who sees everything and forgets no one, will fight for her.

    1) YOU WILL RETURN TO POINT ZERO, WORSE THAN WHERE U WERE.
    2)THEN GOD WILL ENORMOUSLY BLESS HER IN EVERY WAY .
    3) GUESS WHAT? A MORE DESERVING AND APPRECIATIVE MAN WILL ENJOY HER….RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR EYES!!!
    4) AS FOR YOU, YOU WILL CRY THOSE SAME EYES OUT IN SHAME AND REGRET

    • my thoughts

      January 26, 2017 at 9:05 am

      My thoughts exactly. i really, really, really really LOVE YOU…..

    • Ade

      January 26, 2017 at 9:25 am

      I strongly believe in putting the woman that stood by you first after striking gold. However, all the consequences of leaving her that you described are Nigerian Nollywood sense that occurs rarely in real life.

    • EE

      January 26, 2017 at 9:42 am

      Shhhhhh, you’re ruining RIFF RAFF’s game. All the princesses here were already swooning. But we use President Trump as a marker for his thesis.

      We observe still.

    • RIFF RAFF

      January 26, 2017 at 10:22 am

      You think so? It may not happen exactly the way i portrayed it but what you do and put out there in life, will come back to you. no matter the time it takes. Brad Pitt left his wife for a “smoking A-lister” because he found her “boring”. Note that Pitt has a long history of dumping women for the next young, famous starlet in what he deems trading up

      12 years down the line; where are they?

      “Smoking chic” whose looks have faded with time and a body that has changed due to sickness is determined to reduce her ex-husband to zero in a nasty divorce and custody battle with all sorts of allegations (whether true or false).

      Now Brad looks like a jackass, while Jen is enjoying her new life……at last.

    • EE

      January 26, 2017 at 10:31 am

      @RIFF RAFF

      I see your Brad and I raise you Leonardo di Caprio, who’s enjoying his latest blondie. The moral here seems to be if you’re rich be like Leo (don’t get married) not like Brad.

      Alas matters of society, tradition, religion e.t.c prevent us all from going that route.

    • Diuto

      January 26, 2017 at 9:41 am

      Riff Raff, you just wrote everything and more I had in mind. It’s not as if women aren’t ready to stand by a guy struggling with loads of potential, it’s just that many men would decide they want a classier babe when things get better. If they had already married their wife before their status changed, they may marry another woman/women or enrol side chickens into the equation.

      Moreover, what’s the guarantee that potential would equate success? Luv your man or woman for who they are.

      It doesn’t only happen in Nigeria but all around the world. Hollywood has different shapes and sizes of men who left their high school or college sweetheart for a more glamorous woman.

      Kudos to the few real men who stay with the luv of their youths and are not distracted by all the paparazzi around them when they become more successful.

    • AceOfSpades

      January 26, 2017 at 10:49 am

      RIFF RAFF stop watching nollywood. So many women leave the men who ‘build’ them for a richer man and they are still happy. I’m not saying your woman should be treated badly but don’t bring that story here.

      Nollywood movies should be censored mehn! Sade Okoya is winning with her billionaire husband and we all know the ‘behind the scene’ story and that girl is ok. Danjuma stay cheating on Caroline and he is winning. Let’s not forget Otedola that’s straffing those Indian Canadian girls but he is still winning. Where is the Karma???

    • Thatgidigirl

      January 26, 2017 at 10:58 am

      My dear!!!! Where is the Karma truly???

    • nene

      January 26, 2017 at 11:27 am

      otedola is not winning anything. he is broke. and for the person comapring leonardo to brad pitt, leonardo has never been married. if you think karma won’t deal with you, just try it and see what happens.

    • RIFF RAFF

      January 26, 2017 at 11:53 am

      selective readers….. look at my last comment again …..I said it may NOT NECESSARILY come back to u the way I portrayed, but it will come no matter the time or form it will take.

      My first comment regarding Yul’s post is partly how i view relationships ; Not only when it comes to love but with friendships as well. I strongly believe that one of the things that creates the most solid of bonds is STARTING TOGETHER, GROWING TOGETHER,CRYING TOGETHER RIDING TOGETHER , ENJOYING TOGETHER,SLAYING TOGETHER (for fashion fans) ETC. That’s me. Doesn’t have to be your reality.

      You get why male friendships are stronger ? Why your man still insists in keeping dat idiot friend of his and can even take a bullet on his behalf? Another topic for anoda day.

      Now, regarding the people u listed. It’s going to be long….

      How is madam Sade Okoya winning with that disease her ancestor passed unto her because he doesn’t want the lady to enjoy life when he will pass away ? what kind of wickedness is dat? So u will trade your precious health over money? wow….

      Wanna talk about sex-slave Musa and those nude pics of his we can’t wait to see released, abi? For your info, Theophilus and family are equally tired of him. That’s why no body coughed when Caro finally decided she’s had enough

      Otedola and his whole private life exposed for all to see him as the monster he truly is, right? Miss me with the money, he’s losing it .

      These people just stylishly package their inner demons with wads of cash and wave them on your faces in order to create envy in the hearts of hungry nigerians and pple like u who feel they are “winning” . The real deal is much darker…..

      Look for other examples. .

      Lemme tell u: Create of your own definition of success, then (on your own terms) build the life you’ll be proud to live.
      At least, let us manage to agree with this conclusion ,naw. *winks*

    • nene

      January 26, 2017 at 11:24 am

      this is so true.

    • Lol

      January 26, 2017 at 12:55 pm

      Riff Raff, you are very stupid. Why try to shame Shade Okoya. May all your personal business and calamities be fodder for Internet gossip. May you experience shame wherever you go. May people keep bringing you down and reminding you of everything bad in your life. How dare you? Did she spread anything to your father that you use her as a point of reference. You are a mad woman. Nonsense. Did she complain to you or come beg you for money that you are shaming her online to make your point? Your type will die in shame and disgrace because you love to pretend you are perfect. O ni ku re. Idiot

    • Grace

      January 26, 2017 at 1:51 pm

      Riff Raff neither insulted nor shamed Shade Okoya, so, Lol, this was unnecessary. But again, out of the abundance of the heart … #yousalty

    • Osa

      January 27, 2017 at 2:30 am

      hmn . Sade pickin don show.
      Because I doubt he can communicate in English half as proper as this

    • Osa

      January 27, 2017 at 2:30 am

      She

    • Dtruth

      January 27, 2017 at 12:40 am

      @RIFF RAFF..Akuko Uwa…..

  7. Mz_Danielz

    January 26, 2017 at 8:52 am

    You people should leave single women alone abeg. The advice don too much. Everybody using us to form motivational speaker.

  8. Anonymous

    January 26, 2017 at 9:32 am

    How about me with potentials and striving to be rich. As a lady, who will support me?

    • Dtruth

      January 27, 2017 at 12:35 am

      @Anonymous….Your toto will support you

  9. Akin

    January 26, 2017 at 9:36 am

    One babe left me at a time i was earning 150k a month, oh i felt really sad and weak at that time. then i met my wife a year later. we wud take keke nape together. i just love the fact that she didn’t pressure me into anythin. six month later i started earning over 1million naira a month.

    • blissssss

      January 26, 2017 at 9:58 am

      #side-eyes @ Akin

    • Femfem

      January 26, 2017 at 10:33 am

      A jump from 150k to million within 6 months. Plix i need the contact details of your babalawo
      Who no like betta thing ????

    • Thatgidigirl

      January 26, 2017 at 11:02 am

      I hope you spend the remaining 850k on your wife? Who told you she left you because you were earning 150k, what if the relationship just had other issues? Do you know if she’s with a man that’s earning 2m a month now?All these Nollywood stories u pipu wld be coming here to give……i follow to give you side eyes o.

    • Humblesmith

      January 26, 2017 at 12:46 pm

      Bros, give me ur jujuman details, i was earning 150k like 8 years ago and i never still reach N1m, several jobs later…

    • bolintin

      January 30, 2017 at 4:24 pm

      I practically busted out laughing out loud in the office. abeg me sef i need the jujuman no o. Coz I have been earning all the figures from N.0 till date and he neva reach N1m o.

  10. Geraldine

    January 26, 2017 at 10:33 am

    Akin,lol. Easy bro.

  11. Puzzles

    January 26, 2017 at 10:37 am

    Yul, answer one question: Since you ‘hammered’ , can you swear that you have never cheated on your wife, that you have never given any side chick the fruit of your labour? Mshew!!!!!
    It is men who make ladies these days hesitate to suffer with a man when he was nothing. Either they dump her for someone hotter, with connections or younger, or after marrying her they cheat on her with other women

    • Jade

      January 26, 2017 at 3:19 pm

      He cannot o, he wanted to side chick my friend but she no gree

    • Osa

      January 27, 2017 at 2:33 am

      “side chic” has now become a verb

  12. Susie

    January 26, 2017 at 10:46 am

    ‘and when he get on he’ll leave your as$ for a white girl’ lmao.. ladies marry whom you want ok? there are men you build with who appreciate it and there are some you build with who will quickly dump you for someone else when things get better. there are rich men who marry poorer ladies who treat them like Queen’s & upgrade them. There are also rich men who marry poorer women & let them know their trophy wives for life (example: Donald trump and melania lol!) I used to work as a clerk in a divorce court so i’ve seen it all. So my dear sisters, when you meet someone you love, take your time to study him then if your heart & head confirm that he is the one, marry him!

  13. Ade

    January 26, 2017 at 10:49 am

    @ RIFF RAFF

    Using your analogy, may be the woman also got what she deserved as a result of her previous actions. Also, one example does not apply as the standard for all cases. If we all reap everything we sow, we will have a basket full of pain. He makes his rain to fall both on the just and evil. The prayer is that God leads us to a partner that values our sacrifices to the end, all this wishful karma thoughts of the man turning out to become dead shrub because he left a woman her borne out of pain.

    • Ade

      January 26, 2017 at 11:11 am

      **is borne out of pain

  14. Ifeyinwa Atuanya

    January 26, 2017 at 11:06 am

    Okay Yul Edochie “my story” is his story

    His wife married him for his potential

    He is lucky

  15. nene

    January 26, 2017 at 11:21 am

    of course a hard working girl would marry a man with potentials, but if i have my money and the man has no potentials (even though he claims he does), i will not marry him.

  16. Rubby

    January 26, 2017 at 11:47 am

    Pls there’s no such thing as potentials or stuffs or staffs etc…..i want to get some stuff,I want to pay my staff,the guy has potential,period!we live and we learn!

    • ogeAdiro

      January 27, 2017 at 4:44 pm

      You want to pay your “staff”? As per mkpara?

  17. Reality check

    January 26, 2017 at 12:07 pm

    Please explain what you mean by winning? How do u know dey r winning? So because dey r rich it means dey r winning? All those rich men who die or suffer from terminal diseases pls why cant d money help them? Wen u see rich pple dying before their time, or spending a good part of their money on their health, uthink that one is not karma? All ye poverty stricken pple who think money is everything, r u in their homes or marriages with them? Don’t forget that u only see what people allow u to see, and for the hoes asking wer the karma truly is keep it up, u shall experience d law of karma by urself nor be person u go take learn. It’s only natural dat u reap what u sow, if u like give it life to Christ.

  18. naija queen

    January 26, 2017 at 12:30 pm

    But they are still taking care of their wives and not abandoning them na…Riff Raff is talking about the ones that totally forget the women that endured with them during their hard times when they eventually become successful

  19. estelle

    January 26, 2017 at 12:54 pm

    using the Mark Zuckerberg and his wife as an example seems flawed to me. mark’s wife is a doctor oo, not a housewife or petty trader. as women, we should strive to upgrade ourselves for our own well being, for our children, for our emotional and mental health and for society. when this happens and you are with a ‘POTENTIAL’ who dumps you after getting on, you know you have your own shit going on for you …
    now, humans are unreliable. peoples preference change all the time. MEN have the right to change their tastes when they ‘get on’ . WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHANGE TASTES TOO.. that doesnt make it right, but what is more unright is putting all your resources in another human without striving for your own SELF IMPROVEMENT…

    • ogeAdiro

      January 27, 2017 at 4:57 pm

      Chineke gozie gi for this “…what is more unright is putting all your resources in another human without striving for your own SELF IMPROVEMENT…” When you’re doing exactly what you want/need to be doing with your life, there won’t be need for all this wishing someone else hurt for leaving you.

  20. estelle

    January 26, 2017 at 12:56 pm

    i take back the petty trader part…

    • Abk

      January 26, 2017 at 7:59 pm

      It’s good you took it back cause those petty traders and working hard to make a living and not depending on anyone. Think before you talk and type so you won’t have to take anything back.

    • Twig

      January 26, 2017 at 10:26 pm

      I wish you’d take back the house wife part too. It’s so inane.

  21. Ankara

    January 26, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    The comments for today are so sweet. Yul thanks for invoking these sweet thought from these sweet guys here. Read and learn. Learning is not only in the classroom

  22. Sweet

    January 26, 2017 at 1:43 pm

    @Riff Raff i am so happy to read your comments.. all of them. Trust me when i say you hit the nail on the head. I met a guy with potentials that loved God, loves me, hardworking, has potential for greatness ,blah blah and I stood by him till he struck gold. He had a vision for his business which to me was small and I had a talk with him and we broadened it.. everything I told him to do worked. I believed in him so much and it excited me to see it all work out well then suddenly he broke it off. When the gold left he came back with a story and cos i fell for him i went back then he struck gold again and suddenly realized we couldn’t be together., then he broke it off again. I just got tired of the whole thing and decided i would mind my business. some said i gave him wifey privileges and am like when you love someone what do you do? abeg am just going to enjoy being taking care of and allow God lead me rightly

  23. Luqman

    January 26, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    Na who wan remain for Surulere avenue when there is an alternative avenue called Olorunsogo?

  24. Salt & Honey

    January 26, 2017 at 2:22 pm

    @Riff Rafff, you are so right, I made that mistake because I thought he has future so I decided to support and encourage him when he was at the lowest point but all I got was cheating with Instagram girl, I can’t compete with her in terms of bodily structure but at least I had to walk away for my sanity despite the pain I feel whenever I think about the whole issue, I decided to let go and what we have been through together but it will never happen to me again. I forgive him but I can’t just forget the way he betrays me by posting her picture on social network claiming she is so original. I know one day karma will pay him back. I would have prefer he break up with me than plastering the girls image on social media But life goes on for me, I will definitely feel better someday.

    • mimi

      January 27, 2017 at 2:46 am

      the bastard that sent a picture of him and his new girlfriend in bed to me nko? at a hotel close to my house o.
      just to prove to me he was no longer interested in me the morning he broke up with me.. he had been cheating. Went to work, but felt I was in a prison awaiting execution self. It was a nightmare. Couldnt’ believe it, humiliation wey pass am , i no see. for no reason. just one morning like that.
      I dont know if God exists, becos if he did, That man would not be walking this earth by now.
      and even that was just a few of the really abusive things he did amidst a few other previous good tings he did before .

  25. emerald

    January 26, 2017 at 4:57 pm

    Potential…wat…….
    That was then……cos I couldn’t make a date (his fault,waiting for me to beg him.He wanted to come to my house i said no, we meet in an eatery n I’ll pay) d so called guy said if he had come from ibadan (NYsC) to see me and assist for financial assistance….is that how I’ll go about it.since Saturday he whatapp me…I didn’t call nor pick his call.He acts childish if i give him money yet telling me stories’he hasnot buyant tinr for me and tell his friend that I’m his fiance…..I lol when dey tell me
    You ask for help I give what I have yet u will be acting like I dnt like it ,,collection money from woman…..broke ass forming Husband…..Olorun lomo Oki Oju ono

  26. Hanna

    January 26, 2017 at 11:25 pm

    I read all the comments and I just tire for relationship. Oh Lord, pls order our steps, help us to make the right decisions at the right time. Amen!

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