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BN Confession Box: He Was My 17 Year Old Student & I Had Sex with Him



Hi guys, BN Confession Box is a feature on BellaNaija – curated by Nkem Ndem.

The Confession Box is our virtual confessor’s box where BellaNaijarians can let loose and say their deepest and rawest fears.
These letters are from you, and we’ll ensure that your identity is protected. Everybody needs some form of outlet or the other.


This year is ending in the worst possible way for me. I cannot believe myself. My mates are getting married and I have succeeded in having sex with a 17-year-old boy who is still in SS3.  First term.  He does not look 17 though, he looks and feels like a man.

It all started with harmless conversations. I am the only NYSC teacher in their school and because I am also young and smallish. Most of the students tend to relate better with me. So, this particular boy always had questions for me. He always tried to flirt with me, and I found it flattering, especially because he was intelligent and had swag.

All the small girls were tripping for him, but he was obsessed with me. I just wanted to be the young cool teacher every student liked. That’s how we now added each other on WhatsApp. He would call every day and give me gist about all the other students, things happening in his life too. Before long, I started telling him about myself. Maybe, the mistake I made was to tell him how old I am. I am 21.

One day, after school this young boy knocked on the door of my self-contained. How he found out where I lived, God knows. And it was a kind of hostel where a lot of other corpers lived, so I quickly let him inside so that people will not notice. I asked him what he wanted and he said that that the city is small and it was not hard to locate anyone. I felt uncomfortable and asked him to leave. He was staring at me so intensely and I swear I could see a dick print.  Like joke, he started coming more often. I relaxed and allowed him. We would talk, play scrabble and all. I allowed him to taste alcohol for the first time. He told me he about his ex-girlfriend that was ‘Keziah’. She loves too much sex. I advised him to keep himself and wait till after his final exams before having a girlfriend and having sex so that he is not distracted.

Then one day, while we were lying down on my bed watching Empire, he leaned in and kissed me. I panicked and asked him to leave. I was so upset, but deep inside a fire had been lit. I didn’t answer his calls, he begged and I even threatened to go and report him to school authorities.

Fast forward to 6 weeks later, this boy showed up unannounced at my place. I allowed him in. Maybe because I was ovulating, or it was the power of his perfume, I don’t know. Next thing I know, we were naked on my small mattress with my legs were wrapped around him.  I have blocked him and told him never to come to my place again and he is begging, saying he in love with me and will marry me. He wants to marry his mother. I am so ashamed!

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  1. Jealousy Jealousy

    December 18, 2017 at 3:46 am

    Lucky Guy!

    Where were these NYSC and Young Teachers when I was in School lol

    (And Yes, this is Hypocritical. Sexual Encounters like this are Absolutely Different for Guys and Girls)

    * sigh *

  2. wawu

    December 18, 2017 at 4:24 am

    Nawa o! Biko who gives a 17 year old child alcohol or lies down with a child with hormones raging in the name of watching empire? Pls you were ovulating..did you guys wear a condom?? Gosh gosh. All this to be the cool teacher. Don’t ruin the boy’s life by getting pregnant.This is so irresponsible on so many levels. Im just marvelled that you didnt own up to any of your actions. This is a child for crying out loud you are the ADULT! BN pls dont delete

  3. Corolla

    December 18, 2017 at 4:33 am

    Yup, you should be ashamed of yourself. If the age of consent in Naija is below 17, then this is statutory rape, and you madam corper, is a rapist.

    • KB

      December 18, 2017 at 9:16 am

      Barman!!! One COLD STOUT FOR THIS POSTER !

    • memebaby

      December 18, 2017 at 5:12 pm

      lol i should not laugh but why are you guys calling her a rapist ? lolll
      see what society has done to my thinking.. if it was the other way round.. i might be pissed off but i will not call the guy/girl a rapist because it was consensual.
      idk about you but most youths tend to lose their virginity in their teens…17 and above ..sad but true.. PLS y’all should stop calling her a rapist..
      aunty 21, pls ask for a transfer or something.. you should not be sleeping with your student! especially as his not 18 plus.. sigh

  4. le coco

    December 18, 2017 at 5:37 am

    this woman is a rapist.. BN stop encouraging sur rubbish…

  5. Me

    December 18, 2017 at 5:56 am

    Why do I find this funny… Lool “He wants to marry his mother”….

    people take it easy with the rape allegations, they are both young/in the same age group (their age difference isn’t even much)..

    • corolla

      December 18, 2017 at 6:21 am

      If genders were reversed, would you feel the same way?

  6. BlueEyed

    December 18, 2017 at 6:13 am

    Girl Bye

  7. Faith

    December 18, 2017 at 6:34 am

    You didnt see your mate to be sleeping with..its your student. My dear…small boy will never feel like a man biko. You had already crossed the line when you gave him your contact and allowed him into your house. What is student doing in your house? Is that part of the lesson? I dont even know what to to tell you sef. Just face the corper work they sent you to do. Get an adult boyfriend my sister as body no be wood, if you had one…this wont happen.

  8. akama

    December 18, 2017 at 8:04 am

    “or it was the power of his perfume,”. Which kin perfume be that one? Smart collection? On a serious note you should be ashamed of yourself.

  9. Mystery

    December 18, 2017 at 8:19 am

    @akama na rili smart collection , lol.. You is a hoe .. Bloody pedophile .. If na man now we for they shout.. I’m shaming on your behalf..get yourself a man Biko ..

  10. marlee

    December 18, 2017 at 9:14 am

    21 and 17, the age difference is 3. i see nothing wrong there. chill people. a 17 year old is not a child. in Nigeria girls as young as 12 are married off to 60 years old. double standard is a mother of all f—ers.

    • omomo

      December 18, 2017 at 7:14 pm

      would you say same if the student was your son ..ewu gambia …people should talk o i remember aa different reaction concerning the male teacher alleged rapist of queens college ..hypocrites every where

    • xoxo

      December 18, 2017 at 7:16 pm

      Which school did you learn this math? ?

  11. A

    December 18, 2017 at 9:15 am

    Just take it easy with yourself. As take it easy.. I hope he used protection or you took morning after pill.. Make the best decision for yourself and your sanity, This boy is persistent and might be dangerous.

  12. Diza

    December 18, 2017 at 9:50 am

    please can u guys check the meaning of ‘RAPE” first before tagging her a Rapist.

    • whocares

      December 18, 2017 at 11:46 am

      i dont know about nigerian criminal law, but in the UK, this is Statutory rape.. Although i dont know how it can be rape in Nigeria when girls younger than 18 are allowed to be in legal marriages..

    • MCP

      December 18, 2017 at 11:36 pm

      16 is the age of consent here. This would not be statutory rape.
      But, because they are student and teacher, this may be the crime.

  13. gbaskelebo

    December 18, 2017 at 9:54 am

    A lot happens during service year…Those secondary school student actually have something far higher than raging hormones… Personal discipline wont even cut it, just pray for God”s mercy. All the same little girl, its obvious you did not go to a public university, you went to a private university, where you have too many checks on too many things if not you should have overcome this with ease. You should be ashamed as you have rightly said! What do I know? Unto second base tinz joor…
    As an aside please to the relevant authorities
    1. CBN: We have too many mutilated currency in circulation the lower denomination of the naira notes is worst affected especially #100 & #200, there should be a mop up of these notes and an injection of clean crisp new notes.
    2 LAGOS STATE: The environment is gradually sliding back to Pre-Fashola days, lagos is becoming dirty! relevant agencies in charge should take note.
    3. GIGM (God is good motors) : You guys are good at “packaging”, your services sucks! please make sure your buses are road worthy, yes the Lagos -Abuja route is somehow we know, but we cant have six stop point to service one part of the vehicle or the other, I wont even talk about your prices that are exorbitantly high, stop packaging nonsense for us!

    • Mio

      December 18, 2017 at 6:04 pm

      Thank you. GIGM died a long time a go………only packaging left

  14. Adunnie

    December 18, 2017 at 10:00 am

    Hello PAEDOPHILE!!! What were you thinking? You’re older, you should know better. You basically took advantage of him and you should be locked up. Better have sense, do the work you were sent to do and stop gallivanting with underage boys.

    • Malvins

      June 2, 2018 at 1:50 pm

      It’s not that deep though. The sex was consensual and the boy most definitely initiated it. Please give the young lady a soft landing.

  15. nne

    December 18, 2017 at 10:44 am

    Agbaya ni yen. Sistah, you are a rapist. Better go and find another school and free that child. While you are at it, get your head checked. If you were horny, you should have bought a vibrator and data to surf porn, but instead, you carried a 17-year-old baby. Just negodu ya life. Mtchewwww. Better go and sort yourself out with God before you block your blessings.

  16. Powerpuff

    December 18, 2017 at 11:06 am

    Kendrick Lamar’s daughter had her second child at 17. The father is 1 or 2 years older.

    The only reason I think this is wrong is because it is corper and student. When we remove that, this is not anything close to rape. You people think it’s the same thing as it is when the female is 17 and male 21 but it is not.

    • tatz

      December 18, 2017 at 12:11 pm

      please what’s the difference? smh

    • nikky

      December 18, 2017 at 9:48 pm

      You mean his sister

  17. whocares

    December 18, 2017 at 11:45 am

    oh lords! I mean i know he is 17 and she is 21 etc etc but she should be ashamed of herself. she is his teacher! That position creates a fiduciary relationship- you are responsible for that boy and you fucked up when you exchanged numbers and whatspp details.. he is in secondary school as well!! We call it grooming; your youngish age is not an excuse.. because he has swag?!! this is why i have always been against the NYSC post grad work. you have people with no training chucked into professions they have no business in. It is equally as bad, but i imagine less harmful that the victim here is a boy- if it were a girl and the author of this confession a guy it might have been even more harmful- she could have gotten pregnant for instance and then what?
    This is a wakeup call to scrap NYSC or at least provide professional training and evaluation before people are posted into different businesses or at least for Nigeria to have a sort CRB database so at least people like this are on it and we know not to put them in positions they might be able to groom young adults.
    i could almost forgive this, but my girl said its because the boy has swag… swag.. SWAG of all things!! really!! she is this young!!!

    • whocares

      December 18, 2017 at 1:50 pm

      pls ignore the fiduciary before the relationship abeg. stupid predictive text..making me look like some ngbeke that just likes to use unrelated grammar unnecessarily. lol


      December 18, 2017 at 4:58 pm

      But you are an ngbeke nau. Your correction is even more confusing. Ngbeke feeling funky. lmao

    • tunmi

      December 18, 2017 at 8:23 pm

      yeah I’m with you on this. The age difference doesn’t disturb me so much. But she was his teacher. That is a line she should not have crossed. And yes, she groomed him. I have no advice as you’re not seeking for one. Can you be reposted elsewhere?

  18. bolintin

    December 18, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    This is why I advocate that we do not have to rush our kids academically.
    Emotional maturity is very very key in real life matters probably even more important than academic success. That is why you see seemingly uneducated people make more stable life decisions than some so called educated people. A child that you rush out of school will get out there and make childish mistake in adult skin!

    If you must rush your kids academically make sure you are grooming them to take on the responsibility maturely as well but my take is what is the rush about? Life has a way of balancing itself out,. you just cant cheat nature.

    Remember MJ’s excuse for all his misbehavior was that ..his childhood was taken from him. See the mess he made of himself despite the global success and love he had!!! let us learn please.

    Poster, you made a very big mistake and I hope you are beginning to learn that you are out of your parents house/umbrella and have started your adult life. Every action you carry out from now will have consequences and your parents will not always be there to shield you like they have always done. So grow up and grow up fast otherwise you will make too many foolish mistakes you will hate yourself in the nearest future.

    Wake up. find places and people that can help you grow. The road ahead of you is still very length and there will be lots of bumps and pot holes lined up so closely.
    Learn how to maneuver before you get there.

  19. zzzzzzzzzzz

    December 18, 2017 at 1:02 pm

    I served as a teacher in a secondary school and some of the students did look matured. from the onset I made it clear that I was their teacher and they all called me Aunty even though I was young and didn’t mind. you should have drawn the line lady.

  20. Iya ibeji

    December 18, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    I just need to point out that the statement that the boy looks matured or some students look matured is no justification! This is the rubbish excuse guys use when they rape underage girls and claim they are not aware of their age because they look “mature”. If a child is in secondary school, please use your God given sense to know that they might look a certain way but they are offlimit for sex! leave them alone and look for your mate!!!

    • Iya ibeji

      December 18, 2017 at 1:35 pm

      sorry for the mistakes! The statement is just annoying me

  21. Dr.N

    December 18, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    If you are not already pregnant you want to get an accountability partner
    While asking God for mercy and grace to stop seeing “swag” in small children
    You need to realize the danger of sleeping with a school boy
    1. If he sees you with someone else he can arrange for his friends to hurt you. Teenagers have more impulse than self control
    2. He will not let go overnight. He will want to keep coming for more. You are like the forbidden fruit
    3. I will advice you to find a way to end things without being too condescending.
    4. Is your time there almost up? If not begin to plan your exit without putting it out there
    5. Remember for him you are a conquest
    While to you he is a mistake
    You can see the way you both view things is different

  22. Iya ibeji

    December 18, 2017 at 1:33 pm


  23. larz

    December 18, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    So if the age of consent is 16, then it is ok?

    This is what I absolutely hate about these different age of consent. There should be a universal age of consent. Personally, I don’t think 4 years difference is too much. However I disagree with people in people of responsibility such as teachers, doctors, pastors etc shouldn’t take advantage of their wards like this.

    On a secondary but related note this is the problem with fast tracking education if most kids start uni at 18 and spend up to 4 years in university, then they will be a little much more older (and probably wiser) when they start working.

  24. Protocol

    December 18, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    I vividly remember when I was that boys age and was in secondary school, we usually fantasize about those beautiful female teachers we had then. its part of the stress of puberty. but then who are you to cross the line, and approach such a teacher, that will only get you expelled. Bottom line is that posting corpers to secondary schools is a no no for me. when I was serving, some male corpers did take such advantage over some SS3 girls in my school.. something tells me however that the protagonist must be very ugly, suffers from a low self esteem and probably also suffers from a lack of emotional intelligence, hence instead of hanging out with other adults, she prefers minors that she can prey on. just imagine the kind of psychological damage she must have done to that small boy, including the risk of transmitting an STD. ultimately the government must try to keep such predators away from our kids.

  25. John

    December 18, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    They are two things I cant seem to wrap myvhead around and that is
    1) he has swag
    2) it was the power of his perfume,I don’t know…me self, I don’t know oo but one thing I know is that your fish brain is unique…I know that to f**k Nigerian fish brains is very easy..they are cheap like that….even foreign expatriates boast of it in my place of work….a plate of indomie and a bottle of coke or fast foods or some money….you are good to go but you, my dear unique fish brain you allowed a boy of 17 fu**ed you, because he got swag and the power of his perfume…infact I am short of words ..all I have to say to you is Go Girl and woman power ???

  26. John

    December 18, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    Oops I forgot to add . You are just 21 ….enjoy your life..You can even f**k the whole school even the gateman joined..have as many body count as you want ….it is your body and right and no one should tell you what to do with it..Later in life..when it slowly starts to dawn on you that khaki no be leather…you are always welcome to the Online Nigerian feminist club(ONF) ..there you can temporally let out some can bash and blame all your whoes on men . Also, you can claim it is beacause mysognistic Nigerian men can’t handle a strong and intelligent black woman..You can also paste some feminist qoutes online and maybe throw in some bible qoutes( that one is optional)…Good Luck

    • IJS

      December 18, 2017 at 6:02 pm

      Eya. Poor John. So much negativity. Who hurt you?

  27. Loki

    December 18, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    Well.. first of all statutory rape does not apply to males under Nigerian law.
    Secondly, the crime of defilement (Nigerian legal version of statutory rape) applies to females under 13, so not 17 year old females can make a claim defilement
    Third- The age of consent in Nigeria is 16
    Fourth- This is less rape than the teenage boy “scored”. He’s 17. I assure you he is a champ among his friends and will forever remember this fondly
    Fifth – She’s 21 and he’s 17. That’s a 4 year age gap. Women have been known to marry men even 5 years younger than themselves. So that her “he wants to marry his mother” is just daft
    Sixth – This woman was just looking for the cheap thrill of adventure. She should have tried cocaine instead
    Seventh- The story reads like badly written fiction
    Eighth- If this story is true, she’s extremely dumb to have done this in this time of social media and viral photos and videos
    Ninth- The writer is extremely irresponsible . She’s a teacher and he’s her student. I blame all those stupid romance movies about forbidden love. Where the star crossed lovers find a way to triumph against all odds. This woman though she was reenacting her own version of Endless Love. Only a more stupid version
    Tenth- Dear Writer, when you start your career in earnest, please go ahead to sleep with every man in your office and blame it on ovulation. Start from the owner of the company(if male), and work your way down to the cleaners. You need to scratch that itch dontcha?

    • Meee

      December 18, 2017 at 10:56 pm

      Best comment here!!! Had me laughing like mad. Please can we be friends already???

    • Bio

      December 19, 2017 at 10:19 am

      Can we be friends?

  28. Moniker

    December 18, 2017 at 3:58 pm

    S— happens. Nothing serious. Same age range

  29. Nahum

    December 18, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    Aunty Corper, you are a rapist and if I were that boy’s mother I would beat you silly!! Disgusting human being.

    • beauty

      January 5, 2018 at 11:59 am

      Please keep quiet, she never raped him. They had consensual sex. Thank you.

  30. fabu

    December 18, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    The whole thing is a fabu

    BN and Nkem Ndem knows this is the only way to get you guys to comment. You people will never comment on any article except the one with gossip, holier than thou eish and gist.

    Now they finally got you to tallk


    • marvel

      December 19, 2017 at 9:41 am

      and they got you talking too…

  31. Student

    December 19, 2017 at 10:48 am

    Lol!…don’t worry not all your mates are married/ getting married. In fact some people clearly older are still waiting so that is not a problem!
    The only part I am scared for you is the part that says you were ovulating…my dear you may soon pass your married mates sef….you go give yourself double promotion!

  32. Ifedi

    December 20, 2017 at 9:36 am

    All this stories or rather comments would be distasteful if genders were reversed, a society that’s all about protecting the “girl child”, it isn’t rape or predatory sex in this case because our dear youth Corp member is a lady.
    Perfume my ass

  33. beauty

    January 5, 2018 at 11:58 am

    Yes, I think it was because you were ovulating… However, I still believe you are a good person who just made a mistake because you realised it almost immediately that it wasn’t right. At 21 your hormones are spiralling and there was a little fire already lit so it was bound to happen somehow if anyone gave it a chance. You clearly did so deal with it. It has happened, baby girl come to terms with it and move on okay, and everything will be alright.

  34. Luscious

    January 12, 2018 at 7:39 pm

    Wen I saw “he is 17 yrs” I was expecting the lady to be in her late twenties/far older. But at 21 (the same age grade) forget the being a corper thing.
    According to the story the feeling is mutual, so stop forming regret like you were forced to open ya legs. He wants to marry his mother like say you don reach to born person wey dey 17yrs (ask his mother how old she is)

  35. olented

    June 8, 2018 at 12:37 am

    I wouldn’t expect anymore response from ladies…but most men won’t have issues with this …your age bracket with the dude is still on a pardonable range many adult ladies would have done the same and keep it to least you shouldn’t have let me lose…I expect you to have make an advantage of his feelings to guide. Him ..since you are weak which is rampant among ladies ..the boy will sort himself out..even if the boy is my son ..all I will do is laugh about this ..cus life goes on!

  36. Karen

    October 3, 2018 at 10:49 am

    First of all, don’t be surprised at all people will judge you but sometimes in life things just happened like they happened nobody has control on it but trust me a Relationship with a teenager wil never like ever work don’t even dream about this , even if the guy in question looks so mature or think and acts like a grown man. Lol what it makes me laugh , you were watching Empire jaiye just one of the sexiest series of these days it was so bound to happen

  37. Michael Oluwafemi

    April 11, 2022 at 6:26 pm

    My name is Oluwafemi Michael and I live in Lagos and I need a sex Mate since I have a big rod I need a girl hungry for sex so we can be together you can chat me on Whatsapp or call me 0810 885 6069

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