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Adebimpe Alafe: Purpose, Perspective & Positivity

I believe everything in life has a purpose. Sometimes, awful situations become great opportunities and pain opens the door to blessings. Other times, we have to search for purpose in awful situations.



I can’t have a bad day.

In my final year, my lecturer would always embarrass me in class because my brain was too slow to process anything numbers-related. More recently, I was extremely stained and my hostel matron in NYSC camp refused to give me the keys to go and change. There was also a time I sat in a doctor’s examination room, only to hear the dreaded “Sorry, but there’s nothing I can do for you.” (But you’re a doctor! Why can’t you fix me?!)

All of these things and much more have happened to me, but I still can’t have a bad day. This is because of the three Ps I live my life by, which are a result of my faith.

Purpose. Positivity. Perspective.

I believe everything in life has a purpose. Sometimes, awful situations become great opportunities and pain opens the door to blessings. Other times, we have to search for purpose in awful situations. Although it’s hard and tiresome, I find these times to be self-fulfilling because I am rejecting the idea that a situation will get the best of me. Instead, I accept that I will get the best of the situation.

I also believe in the power of positivity. I’m sure many people have either witnessed or participated in a ‘complain war’, usually in a school or work setting. Those times where a conversation will go like this:

“I was up so late studying for my test today, I got like three hours of sleep.”

“I didn’t even go to sleep because I had to study for a test and finish a paper.”

“Well, I haven’t slept in two years.”


“My friend, I just dey suffer, I never chop for 4 days”

“Ah, my guy, you no suffer reach me, this country sef”

It’s not that I don’t complain, but I just feel much better by focusing on the positive.

Finally, these ideas of purpose and positivity give me perspective. In times where I feel like everything’s going against me and I’m backed into a corner, I push myself to shift perspectives about my situation. I think of it as a lens; if I put on a bad lens and only see things through it, I’ll have a bad day.

Alternatively, I can look at life through a positive and purposeful lens and all of a sudden, I see things differently. I see all the great things that can come out of my struggle or the great feeling I’m going to get once I jump over all the hurdles, or even just the story of inspiration I will be to someone else once I overcome my transgressions. Perspective is seeing the silver lining in even the greyest of clouds.

The bottom line? I can have as bad a day as anyone, but it still won’t be a bad day to me. That’s because I’ve just refused to have one and I’ve decided to look at the bigger picture. I don’t follow these three Ps to delude myself into thinking my world is filled with sunshine, cupcakes, and rainbows. I understand the reality of the world. These three Ps aren’t just to a way to cope – they are my way to continue.

Adebimpe Alafe is an entrepreneur and a seasoned writer who is trying to do right by writing her wrongs, when she can't right her wrongs. A friend to people both personally and professionally, she finds happiness in caring for herself extensively and volunteering to causes concerning mental health with NGOs as well as helping young girls achieve their dreams by mentoring them for free.


  1. Akpo Uyeh

    January 2, 2020 at 12:38 pm

    Thanks for the write-up. Purpose, Positivity and Perspective- the powerful three Ps. This would save me from wallowing in self-pity and self-doubts or even feel useless or bad. On those seemingly bad days, IT is good to think of worst case scenarios and stay thankful

  2. Tolu

    January 2, 2020 at 1:21 pm

    This is so reassuring. Thanks!

  3. Fiyinfoluwa Ajidagba

    January 5, 2020 at 7:08 am

    This is so inspiring, a perfect coping mechanism for those of us starting a new phase of our life.


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