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BN Hot Topic: If Your Father is a Corrupt Politician, Will You Disown Him?



Hey People!
Long time…sorry for the break in transmission. Grad School things.
So where did I stop.
I can’t remember the last topic discussed but I’m sure it had something to do with love or weddings, my two favourite topics 🙂

Today, my gist is different.
First up, some background information, I have this friend from my university days. I’m sure anyone who attended university in Nigeria knows someone like this.
This guy was a “freedom fighter”, as in, very active in university student union politics, always protesting one thing or the other. If you were in the mood for a relaxing gist session about mundane things, this was definitely not the person to hang out with.

All his gist was “the government is wrong…this; Nigeria is a rotten state…that”

We moved on from university and I reconnected with him during the blogging era when I discovered his blog which (you guessed it…) was all about the state of the nation, politicians and political issues. At that point, he had moved away from Nigeria for his post-graduate studies. We hung out a couple of times when I visited his state and he was your typical grad school student with the same “student union edge” from our university days, this time remixed with “Nigerian in diaspora” idealism – you know what I am talking about – I am afflicted with it too.

Fast forward a few years, we haven’t really been in touch, I heard he moved back to Nigeria – Abuja to be precise. Surprise surprise, he called me a few weeks ago. Said he was in my city to close a deal. I met up with him and the man I met was so different! He looked suave – the student union beard and uncombed hair was replaced by a smooth shave and a sleek cut. The jeans and tee shirt was now a blazer, slimfit jeans and a crisp shirt. He even smelled and spoke differently though he was still my humble friend.

We talked and talked. Caught up on old times. It turns out the deal he was in town to close was a real estate deal for his father. He asked if I wanted to see the house and we drove down to the house and DUDE…there is no house that I have seen on MTV’s Cribs that rivals this one.

Turns out his civil servant father rose up the ranks there and now has a cushy political position.

I’m sure he knew what I was thinking and he said “If na your papa, you go disown am?

So BN readers, that is my question to you. Each time you or I log on to twitter or facebook, we see friends ranting about Nigerian politicians, if any Nigerian politician’s child embarks on any business venture or gets married, we assume they used “our” money.

So if it was your father (or mother), would you disown him/her? Would you challenge their practices in government? Would you reject their gifts?

Sidenote – My friend is not single 🙁

Photo Credit: Dreamstime


  1. hmm

    July 26, 2012 at 12:29 pm

    What for? Not while i’m swimming in money.

    • Chattyzee

      July 26, 2012 at 2:18 pm

      Lol. True. But I’ll probably change my Last name to my mother’s last name or my father’s name…. is that still disowning? Oh well…

    • Someone

      July 27, 2012 at 2:52 pm

      Anyone who steals money is going to HELL where the demons are.

      Unless you return the money, no true repentance.

  2. lol

    July 26, 2012 at 12:31 pm


  3. lad

    July 26, 2012 at 12:31 pm

    Never!!! I will love him more LOL
    Omo Baba Olowo things

  4. alicia

    July 26, 2012 at 12:37 pm

    when it comes to money Nna you cant do anything. even as bad as it is we just cant help it that it settles a lot of things. if na me am confused guess i will come back but shaa me no fit disown the man oooooooo

  5. damojo

    July 26, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    No, I won’t. Infact I will be celebrating father’s day every friday!

    • omonaija

      July 27, 2012 at 10:18 am

      loooooooooooooool, thatt is very funny. But honestly, you are right reality is not that easy.

  6. Atoke

    July 26, 2012 at 12:43 pm

    Hahahahahahahaha @ the side note! LOL

  7. Princess of Zion

    July 26, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    I think it is easier to judge when it isn’t you, just like the case of your friend. But a very different story when it happens at home.

  8. sumin

    July 26, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    maka y? ‘corruption is usually about d money’ so… if he isnt corrupt and a politician, ….hmmmm… inono ooo…looolz

  9. anuoluwatosin soyemi

    July 26, 2012 at 12:55 pm

    Yépaaaaa……disown ké kojo mehnnn. We will spend d money together, his not the first and he won’t be d last corrupt politican nd we will b prayin along for nigeria to get better….Loba pari

  10. Lue

    July 26, 2012 at 12:57 pm

    i’m sure nobody will say yes(sincerely) to this question.
    it doesnt matter where the cash is from o, as far as theres cash

  11. omoibo

    July 26, 2012 at 1:05 pm

    Why? He’s still my father, isn’t he? In a society like 9ja where ppl celebrate thieving politicians you can walk around with your head high but in societies where corruption is frowned upon then you will stay low-key…..Abeg, share the ghana must go make I catch my flight to the cayman islands go stash my dough…… 😉

  12. Lucy

    July 26, 2012 at 1:11 pm

    Money truly is the root of all evil. If your parents want to lead you donw a road that leads to hell, you will follow? Abi. Who should we revere most in this world, you parents or your Creator. Your friend is just a darn hypocrite, with a very short memory. What do we gain, if we gain the whole world and lose our soul. I’m not being religious here, but if you share in their loot, be prepared to share in their punishment. I have an unlce that is a politician. I just cant mention his name, because he is popular. My parents have stayed clear away from him, same with my siblings and I. Sadly, we dont get to see our cousins anymore, but hey, I would rather eat from the sweat of my own work, than take a short cut and be cursed. These people and their cronies and families, are cursed as they are taking from millions of people, who are going through unbelievable suffering. At the end of the day, its all money, you won’t take it with you when you die. Sadly the majority of Nigerians lack morals and scruples, but not all of us. To answer your question, will I disown my father. YES!!!!!

    • babygirl

      July 26, 2012 at 2:23 pm

      I agree with you…… i am so sad at the responses….. Shows Politicians are not the problem, Nigerians are the problem..

    • missA

      July 26, 2012 at 4:49 pm

      well but of course. Politicians are Nigerians innit?

    • ABCOG

      July 27, 2012 at 10:18 am

      Lucy, thank God there are still people like you. I have read about 15 responses and I feel so sad. No wonder the Country is in the State it is. So far, not even one person has said they prevail on their Father\Parent to do the right things…encourage them to be a Fashola rather than an Igbinedion. Really sad.

    • Lagos girl

      July 27, 2012 at 11:13 am

      That I work as I steal does not make me Robin Hood. Ati Fashola o, ati igbinedion, same difference. All na tief. Fashola sef and I’m papa, Ojuyobo na master tief. Shebi it is the 30% of Lagos State tax revenue that they decalre as IGR that is fooling you. If they utilise half of what this state receives in taxes and levies judiciously, you fit call Ojuelegba London. Show me an honest elected/appointed Nigerian official and I’ll show you an oxymoron.

  13. kayrules

    July 26, 2012 at 1:14 pm

    na to cash in jor. which kind disown. shey person dey disown dat kind money ni. plsssss!!!!

  14. Christiana

    July 26, 2012 at 1:17 pm

    Of course I won’t! Anyone who say ‘yes’ is a big fat liar.
    Who will pay for graduate school abroad, fund my trips to foreign countries and give me that lavish talk-of-the-town BN wedding? I saved for two years just so I could go to graduate school in the UK. It wasn’t easy for my folks and I at all. On the other hand I have friends who take their “foreign education” for granted. Their fathers are “corrupt politicians” so money wasn’t a problem for them. I lived on coupons in the UK while they lived large. Did I ever wish I was in their shoes? Hell yes.
    I wouldn’t disown my father. Never.

    • Goodness me

      July 26, 2012 at 1:58 pm

      What does it serve you to have a lavish talk of the town BN wedding. And so. Ehn foreign education. My husband and I work in an oil company, and our very first trip abroad was sponsoered by the company due to work related travel. We both came from very very humble beginnings, and we applied for jobs without knowing anyone. We got the jobs with no influence from anyone. Everything we have gotten in this life, is due to hard work, dedication and prayer. So all you are talking about is just vanity. Loads of people with all their foreign degrees, dont have the kind of jobs that we do. A HND Yaba Tech Holder, and A UI ex student. Whose parents are nobodys. No fancy titles from fancy schools. So, all that you are talking about is rubbish. It is ok while millions of people die and starve, so you can travel all over the world and live large. You are a disgrace, a big disgrace.

    • Concerned Citizen

      July 26, 2012 at 2:42 pm

      well said dear, people need to stop chasing shadows.

    • Yinka

      July 26, 2012 at 5:16 pm

      For your info your bosses are bribing the government officials….so in a way you are spending money from corrupt activities

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      July 27, 2012 at 1:27 pm

      @Yinka, and for your own information, governments around the world allegedly receive different forms of gratification from large corporations – case in point: candidates for American presidential elections, the News of the World & D. Cameron saga, my list goes on. So what’s your point exactly??

  15. Sean

    July 26, 2012 at 1:19 pm

    Just because everyone is doing it, doesn’t make it right. If as a dependant, there is nothing you can do about it, but when you are old enough to be independent, yes you can disown your father. Money is like an evil spirit, very contagious. it can change people, only if you let it. Unfortunately, the children of politicians, usually dont know right from wrong, as the apple they say doesn’t fall far from the tree.We still dont know how these politicians and their families will end. it is still too soon to tell. We’ve not had a democracy for up to 50years. Lets see in 20, 30, 40 years time. Many days are for the thief, one day is for the owner. As a believer, I know that these people wont go scot free, because the Lord is not mocked. If earthly powers let you go scot free, you cant escape divine justice. Remember in the Bible, what happened to the families of the Egyptians.

  16. Vordina

    July 26, 2012 at 1:20 pm

    The truth be told, I woll love him more


    July 26, 2012 at 1:24 pm

    corrupt ke….where there do that at? disown gini….corruption is the same so maka y must i disown my father….almost every politician is corrupt from Lagos to Timbuktu. the real question here is will you disown ur father when u find out his money is of BLOOD MONEY, JUJU, HUMAN SACRIFICE. Thats where your conscience starts to prick your soul. because u are now aware that one’s life is being taken to satisfy the cash flow. but as for corruption, corrup gini. when school fees is there to pay, you think peruvian hair will buy itself ni, lol. hmmm disown ko dis-father ni.

    • chris

      July 26, 2012 at 1:41 pm

      Hypocrite. What is the difference between blood money that comes from juju, and blood money that the politicians steal. People are dying in their thousands due to lack of facilities. How is that different,, please tell me. A man that was given a contract to supply medical equipement to a hospital and stole the money. People who were sick and went to that hospital, and couldnt be treated properly because those equipment, were not in place and they died. Please tell me how that money is not blood money. Or the millions that die on the road, due to bad roads, and from armed robbers, and even plane crashes because of ejunge. Dont qualify as blood money. Plus the person that directly killed someone for juju money, and the person whose actions or inactions led to someone else dying are one and the same. Dont be fooled. If you can have your conscience pricked, because of juju money, please dont be hypocritical and say you will spend a corrupt politicians money.

    • mac

      July 26, 2012 at 1:45 pm

      lol, i feel u… But if u look at it another way, corruption can be regarded as blood money. Lets say for example, ur dad (as a politician) decided to pocket a large portion of (or d whole) money that is meant for renovating and funding hospitals across the state, of course the renovation wouldn’t go down and lives would be lost due to lack of infrastructure. The list goes on, but if i were a politicians child i can’t disown my pops even though it breaks my heart to see the poverty level in our country. Another point is that as a nigerian our parents and we ourselves have been involved in corruption one way or the other, it has become a way of life which is very sad of course. We just have be optimistic about naija, keep praying and work at building a better country cos this condition wouldn’t last much longer.

    • Goodness me

      July 26, 2012 at 1:51 pm

      Who is worse. A man that killed one person for juju money, or pata pata a few people. Or a man whose actions have caused millions of people to die. What are you talking about. Abi the 150 souls who died in the dana crash because of corrupt practices, are not human beings too. Or the people who collected bribes for such a company to operate such planes in nigeria havent collected blood money. Shaking my head at your analogy. I swear

    • Aminawon

      July 26, 2012 at 2:11 pm

      Blood money is now different from stolen money abi? Na wa o. i thought “good is good” and “bad is bad”. Now, its time for money and you are looking for shades of grey.

      Maybe we should rephrase the question. “If Your Father Is On His Way To Hell, Will You Follow Him?

      No, please dont tell me the answer.

      “To thine own self, be true”

  18. TruthTeller

    July 26, 2012 at 1:31 pm

    To be very sincere I would NOT disown my father. However,i’ll try and be independent of him if I claim to fight for my country so much, that’ll be a good way to “practice what I preach”. I’ll try not to meddle with taxpayer’s monies and just live my life free of his financial support. I’ve seen few people like that and I just want to go like hey, your dad has so much money and influence, why do you choose to suffer this much?Integrity is key. Practice what you preach.If you choose to chop and clean mouth, just make sure you’re not one of those “occupying Nigeria”.

  19. chris

    July 26, 2012 at 1:33 pm

    I am truly disgusted at the comments i’ve read so far. Yet, when articles like the one of Patience Jonathan comes up, we all rant and curse. Why wont Nigeria be the way it is.. Honestly, WE DESERVE WHAT WE GET. The leaders are a true reflection of the people. We can go to church and pray for Nigeria to be better, guess what people? IT WON’T GET ANY BETTER. Its not cursing, but its just the truth. Someone even said, we will chop the money, and be praying for the country to get better. Thunder fire your mouth. Youa re praying to the devil, not the Lord. Someone else also said, cash is cash, you don’t care where it is from. Will you prostitute yourself, because cash is cash. Will you tell your daughter to go prostitute herself because cash is cash. Nigerians, truly disgust me. I’m really glad I dont live there anymore, and I really try to distance myself from Nigerians, because it doesnt take long, before they tar you witth the same brush, as Nigerians are like vermin, they spread their crap wherever they go, and disgrace themselves. Day in day out, these criminals get away with it, maybe it is until you have been personally affected by their actions, e.g you lose a family member because of bad roads, bad hospitals, electricity problems, bad water, armed robbers, or even plane crash, Before it dawns on you, what you are silently supporting. Nonsense

    • Kathy

      July 26, 2012 at 3:14 pm

      True talk my brother! like you, I’m happy I’m no longer living in Nigeria but I only sympathise for the rest of my family still living there. Like you too, i distance my self VERY MUCH from Nigerians I meet here ‘cos I don’t want to be linked with them as they never fail to spread their crap wherever they step foot, home or abroad. What a shame!
      It is dissapointing to see all these thread of hypocritic comments. God help us! shame

    • Toyin

      August 1, 2012 at 5:10 am

      Pls don’t disgust us with ur holier than thou talk. Whether u like it or not u’re still very much a Nigerian, disown ur country all u want but it’ll always be a part of u. There are still a few good ones that still live in Nigeria and yes we plan to go for our masters abroad and we definately want to come back and make things better. Things are bad, people are corrupt but it doesn’t make everybody all the same so pls do not generalize everybody. Deny us all u want but Nigeria will be here waiting to accept u back with open arms!

    • SteveDickinson

      August 1, 2012 at 2:39 pm

      It’s not a matter of being holier than thou. Nigeria is in a crappy state whether you like to hear that or not. Nigerians hate to hear the truth and lie to themselves in the name of patriotism. Corruption is the norm that’s why you see no problem with it. You don’t think you deserve better than what Nigeria is offering you. You need to live in a country where the system works, where people are held accountable for their actions, where people get punished if they cross the line, where you don’t have to bribe your way for everything, where there is constant power supply, where you don’t have to be hitting pot holes constantly with your car, where you can go out at 3am and sleep at night and still feel safe. If you want to live in Nigeria or go back to Nigeria after your Masters Degree that’s your own. Don’t come here criticizing others that don’t want to go back. For some of us we will be under utilizing ourselves if we were to return to Nigeria. Also, some of us have attained and gained so much that we are not just going to dump ourselves in the sorry state of Nigeria where no one will value or appreciate us.

  20. Austine Da Whizchap

    July 26, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    I Will Ensure That I Continue From Where He Stopped Sef…..Disown Ko….Dis-Father Ni!

    • BANKE

      July 26, 2012 at 6:27 pm

      wow! are u sure u want a better ngr then? so disgusting! do you know hw mny ppl die day by day coz of the greed in that country. whoa! if u insist u will continue den d sins of the father will surely cum on the child. you will bith reap what u sow

  21. Theodora

    July 26, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    Lord knows i dont lie,so even if he is a Corrupt Politician he is my father and i wont disown Jack…..its all about the Benjamin’s and also its all about family…

  22. Goodness me

    July 26, 2012 at 1:49 pm

    Are these the same BN readers that were screaming about madam first lady and 200 cars. The same people that were screaming about Lawan, and the same people that were outraged at Perm Sec appointment, abi my eyes are deceiving me. WOW, I am in shock. Are there no more righteous people in Nigeria again. Have we turned to Sodom and Gommorah. What am I saying, of course we have. Shame on all of you o. The Lord is watching all of you. Chei. It is situations like this, that we Nigerians really show ourself. The Lord has truly turned His back on us. Make una continue. I know I will get a lot of flack for this, but you guys should just bring it, I really don’t send. If 140 million people are wrong, as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord and speak against what is wrong. You lot are despicable

    • Italian Mistress

      July 26, 2012 at 1:54 pm

      My dear sweet lady! God will bless you over and over for this comment.

      Infact, I’ve come to the conclusion that the people who come to comment on this site have NO idea what they want. Dearly beloved, here lies the future of the Nigerian State!


    • partyrider

      July 26, 2012 at 2:26 pm

      i was thinking the same thing as i read the comments above yours.

  23. Bili

    July 26, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    Wow!!!!! Just looking at the responses,naija has a big big problem. How does corruption change when we all are born with the mindset!!!! Lord help us ooooooo chai

  24. laide

    July 26, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    lmao at all the comments….now i understand why Nigeria hasnt moved forward…the only reason most Nigerians complain is because they are not the ones ‘chopping the money….but if na me …wud tell daddy to remember the people as he chops the money.

  25. chee-chee

    July 26, 2012 at 2:00 pm

    Na wah o!!! Over 90% of ppl have said dey wont disown but will continue to enjoy the money!!!
    This just got me thinking. How will we ever get the corrupt free Nigeria we all want when if you and i get there we are comfortable with eating our own share of the national cake? how can the countyr change when almost everyone has a mindset like dis?
    hmmmm… God help us and help nigeria.

  26. Thatgidigirl

    July 26, 2012 at 2:02 pm

    Shuuuu!!! As how na???? The bible says to “honor your FATHER and your MOTHER……” bella pls don’t make me backslide, i’m a good christian so i have to obey the bible…kpomkwem!

  27. If you like vex!

    July 26, 2012 at 2:03 pm

    Easy said than done!

  28. buchi

    July 26, 2012 at 2:03 pm

    LOL…. But we r quick to judge other families with their supposed ill-gotten wealth! Adeola Adeyomo will soon post an article on say…Farouk or Jonathan n same ppl will be raining curses just cos their turn never reach, SMH! lets face it- Nigeria may never be better than it is now

  29. cynthia

    July 26, 2012 at 2:11 pm

    i believe that when pple work hard to make their money pple respect them for that. for example bill gate the guy that started from nothing and work hard to be the richest man and this kind of stories inspires many pple but someone like obj or abacha that are corrupt politician nobody want to be like them becos obj will go to sleep with one eye open. remember money can buy u many things but it can never buy u peace of mind. many of this corrupt politician have no peace of mind.

  30. purplepearl

    July 26, 2012 at 2:18 pm

    With the comments i have read so far…. simply unbelievable. Is there a future for Nigeria at all? God will not help us until we decide to change our ways and thinking. P/s the fathers have eaten grapes and the children’s teeth have gone sour….SMH

  31. Sayo

    July 26, 2012 at 2:22 pm

    This comment from Chris. Sums it up nicely. “Maybe it is until you have been personally affected by their actions, e.g you lose a family member because of bad roads, bad hospitals, electricity problems, bad water, armed robbers, or even plane crash, Before it dawns on you, what you are silently supporting. Nonsense” Tell that to the children who lost both parents in the Dana Crash, that it isnt blood money. Or someone who lost her husband, or his wife, or the family that lost 6 or was it 8 people. Father Mother, children, grandmother, cousin. We all commented on the article on the crash and we felt so bad, and cursed the people who let it happen. It touched us all, and weeks after we can come here and say why not. Cash is cash, of course i will spend out of the money.

  32. Christiana

    July 26, 2012 at 2:22 pm

    @ Goodness Me. Yawn, Yawn, Yawn. I have one name for people like you – hypocrites.
    You and your goody two shoes husband haven’t yet seen “the money” that’s why you’ve had no choice but to work hard so far. The day you see “the money”, you’ll change mouth so fast your own head will spin.
    So spare me the crap about your oil company job and your lack of fancy degrees from fancy schools. Yaba Tech ko, UI ni. The day you get into power, you will be worse than those you deride. You, Madam, are THE big disgrace.

    • Goodness

      July 26, 2012 at 2:38 pm

      Sorry dear, not everyone is like you. Some of us still have morals and scruples. I have a great job, my husband has a great job, we are living very very well thank you. I have seen money, more money than I ever thought possible, but I have the fear of the Lord within me. The Lord has been good to us, so far. On our own steam and trust in Him. Why will i stretch out my hand for something i know will burn me. Ehya aunty, you feel bad abi, that not everyone is a thief like you. That is why you are attacking me. You almost sound like a demon. You cant believe there is truth in this world. With your foreign degree, which job do you have. You must be one of those oyinbo slaves, who do their 9 – 5 jobs, and haven’t gotten anywhere in life. Keep your fancy degree, how far has it gotten you in life. Disgusting excuse for a human being. People should suffer, so you can enjoy. If that is not despicable, tell me what is

    • Kathy

      July 26, 2012 at 3:34 pm

      I like you even more! How could That Christiana girl open her gutter to utter such filth? What moral justification does she have to insult a person who works hard under the sweat of her life to make living? You’d expect a thief to admire the good ethics of another person. Shame on you Christiana. BN pls post my comment, evil has got to stop!

    • Sayo

      July 26, 2012 at 2:43 pm

      Ole, ole, ole, ole, ole. Barawo. What is wrong with working hard. Instead of you to commend someone who has worked hard for what they have, you are dissing the person. She and her husband have nothing to fear. It is a sad state of affairs, when someone who hasnt stolen money is rubbished, and a corrupt politician is glorified and supported. Ole, Ole, Ole barawo, thief o, thief o. You Christiana are the big disgrace. You are what is wrong with this country. Will you be able to steal if you work in the UK. Curse be onto people who steal money from this country. The people that are stealing, and the people that support stealing.

    • Concerned Citizen

      July 26, 2012 at 2:52 pm

      well said dear, people need to stop chasing shadows.
      We know pple like you, hungry wanna bes, that will never be contented with whatever you have , you and your nasty profane attitude, pple like you disgust me, and you my dear are a big DISGRACE, I bet there is no honour or shame in your family, that is why you can open your maggot infested gutter mouth to utter such rubbish, BN pls post my comment unless you are encouraging ppl with attitudes like this.

    • Karen

      July 26, 2012 at 2:57 pm

      Chei, you want a BN talked about wedding. Mehn, BN, see wetin una cause o. Displaying weddings of children of thieves. People who have murdered sleep. So, because of a foreingdegree, it is okay to steal. I’m surprised at you. Someone who saved for 2years, to go abroad for post graduate, someone who lived on food stamps, abi coupons, should be the one that should first and foremeost champion the value of hardwork and integrity. You worked hard for what you achieved. Your own sweat, nothing was handed to you, don’t you feel good about that? So because your friends were living large, whilst you sufferred, now makes it ok for you to chop government money, when you get the opportunity. You my dear are the hypocrite, a living breathing oxymoron. You have seen the value of hard work. What you just typed, has negated all the work and effort you put in to get to the UK for post grad. All that means nothing, with the kind of mentality you have.
      @Sayo, i second that. Lol. Ole, Ole, Ole, Ole

    • bimpz

      July 26, 2012 at 6:42 pm

      so u can clling her a disgrace coz she disagreed wiv corruption? no sympathy 4 nigerians anymre! my God! so sad. my father worked so hard to get his money, no matter wat hapens… my dad has always been invited to join politics but because he has dignity and he relies on God he says NO. God has blessed him enuff to the extent he dusnt want extra, certainly nt from the wrong place. To think i wanted to pursue a law degree in Ngr as well, certainly having second thoughts about it coz of ppl like u.

    • tk

      July 26, 2012 at 6:42 pm

      am sure you haven’t seen money before.. Just like a great man will say, poverty is a mindset. Most of you are just poor mentally. I might not disown him, but i sure won’t partake of his loot. I will be a constant thorn. And trust God to help me prove to him that i sure don’t need his ill gotten wealth.

    • Micheal

      July 26, 2012 at 9:52 pm

      My people , you said have you seen money? yes money is a two edged sword……it the easiest way to kill a foolish man..Give him money he becomes more foolish. Money in the hands of a wise man leaves lasting legacies for their children. Some on those people or ploticians who stole always have a bitter pill in their homes money cannot cure. Drug addicted children, terminal illness, sleepless nights, restless mind, etc some bitter pill doled on them by nature for their atrocities which money cannot buy………the worst of all, some off those you think are the big names now 20 to 30yrs from now if jesus tarries, you may not even recon with their children despite the stolen wealth of their fathers…..Why? you can build a castle with corrupt gold, it only takes a man of character to make that castle a fortress through the years…..”money has wings”!!


      July 26, 2012 at 8:42 pm

      Gbam!!!!!!!….everyone is rebuking and hissing, but put them in the same situation and all is forgotten and am the hypocrite.

  33. Mary O

    July 26, 2012 at 2:24 pm

    Character is something one is whether someone is watching or not. I do not have a father anymore but I have siblings who are much older. I have made it clear what I stand for – truth and justice and try to live as simply as possible so I don’t get lured by greed to go against my core values. It’s unfortunate that we are in this present mess as a nation but my belief is that for transformation to come we must have a sizeable number of transformed and disciplined individuals who can see far enough and willing to make the sacrifices required to make the much desired change come. Check out my blog post addressing this point

  34. efe

    July 26, 2012 at 2:31 pm

    Vanity upon Vanity,When u meet your God,He would not ask you about the degree you got on earth,or the BN wedding you had and all that.The question is how well have you lived your life for might not disown your father because of the short pleasures you are getting from the money but God has rejected him,HE is a living corpse who will realize on getting to the other side that he can not come back to make amends,all those politicians who stole money are paying one way or the other and even their children,we should be careful whose standard we are tending to.God has a standard that He will not lower for anyone.His grace,mercy and love abounds towards all.Let us change from our wicked ways and begin to make conscious effects in making things right.GOD is ABOVE

  35. Observer

    July 26, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    To me the best thing for a person in that position is to obtain financial independence from such a father. Best believe that money is cursed. As they say you can’t ever do any good thing with ill gotten wealth. Ask yourself why armed robbers can’t just steal once and start a good profitable business? Because they become slaves to the money they stole. Them and their entire generations. God deliver our country from the spirit of corruption. Everybody wants to steal their share no more integrity in the land! Shame on you BN readers!

  36. TruthTeller

    July 26, 2012 at 2:39 pm

    I am glad there are some well meaning Nigerians still (purplepearl,cynthia,Cheechee, Laide, Bili, gooness me ,Chris, aminaone,lucy, sean, thumbs up!).We celebrate thieves and think there’s nothing wrong with it. At the expense of people’s lives some’ll rather buy their designer clothes/bags/shoes, mammy water hair, exotic cars,houses e.t.c.SHAME! Think of it this way.would you like it if your father was the one at the receiving end , i.e. the one who hasn’t been paid salary/pension for years, has been robbed of his entitlements,demoted, e.t.c? I still emphasize on not disowning my father.If he wouldn’t take advice to end his evil ways (yes, EVIL is also when you deprive people of what rightfully belongs to them) then I would be independent of him and his money. I would honor him by giving my due respect as a daughter, but it’ll have to end there.

    • sofee

      July 27, 2012 at 11:00 am


  37. richard mammah

    July 26, 2012 at 2:47 pm

    We have had some celebrated father-son tangles. The one of the Sarakis in the 2011 elections did not have much going for it by way of sound moral principles in my view. But that between Alvan Ikoku and Sam Ikoku in the First Republic was at that time deeply quite deeply ideological.

    • Porshlla

      July 26, 2012 at 5:37 pm

      Mr. History, sorry I don’t quite understand what you talking about. You seem to want to make sense, but try articulate yourself better. No one understands what you’re trying to drive at, sounds a bit confusing

  38. iwalewa

    July 26, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    habi mo ti change oruko ni.he remains my father and she remains my mother.i cant disown anyone of dem. if i had wanted to disown them,i should have done that before i graduated from university so that corrupt money will not see me through school. E gbagbe bose sele. i cant disown them

  39. Kunle

    July 26, 2012 at 2:52 pm

    I will not disown my father
    I will definitely not celebrate him either
    Some comments here are disheartening

  40. Miss C

    July 26, 2012 at 3:01 pm

    @goodness ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥, God will bless U̶̲̥̅̊, wen i tell pple dat Nigeria can neva change even if d youths become d ones i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ power, d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ think i’m joking…. Thank God BN comments have exposed d kind of Nigerians dat we α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥, and den we abuse madam GEJ, Farouk Lawan and d rest of d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥♏…… Nigeria’s problem ȋ̝̊̅§ nt i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ d leaders, we all as Nigerians α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ our own problem, our VALUE system ȋ̝̊̅§ corrupt…… Even kids dese daiz believe i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ chop and clean mouth **God help us all**

    • Say the truth

      July 26, 2012 at 6:23 pm

      I think something is wrong with your keyboard. You should get that checked out.

    • Ivy

      July 27, 2012 at 12:53 am

      Abeg..Pls before you comment on a blog remove that ridiculous childish font! Its aweful and distasteful! And doesn’t help you pas across any message at all!

  41. Joseph

    July 26, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    BN, edit the ttitle to IF YOUR FATHER SAYS FOLLOW ME TO THE ORACLE IN OUR VILLAGE FOR A HUMAN SACRIFICE THAT WILL MAKE US MONEY, WILL YOU DISOWN HIM. The same people saying they will gladly chop the money, are the same people who go to church on sunday, screaming fire and brimstone. Be aware, the devil you are screaming and kabashing against is within you. End of.

    • Beau

      July 26, 2012 at 6:26 pm

      Exactly! Thank you jare Joseph. BN ask them the question please; if your father is going to hell and wants to drag you with him will you disown him or follow him? Haba my Naija people can make me laff o, we rail against politicians and what not yet we want to be like them. Is it because the gist is just about money? Make una think well and deep and remember salvation is personal. If you were chopping the money before when you were a child and did not know you can feign ignorance, but as men and women there is no excuse o.

  42. tbn

    July 26, 2012 at 3:05 pm

    I was tempted to go with those who said they would not disown their father because of the money… but on second thoughts i don’t think that what you become in life is dependent on money that is stolen which has curses attached to it. It comes from determination and belief in oneself, i have travelled to at least 20 countries around the world and still counting, by virtue of my job and savings of my hubby and i, not because i am related to any politician or any ill gotten wealth. My husband and I have humble beginnings, our parents are not rich and cannot even sponsor a trip abroad but we’ve been able to achieve all we did through hard work and holding steadfastly to God. While i won’t disown my father, i believe i can well survive without wealth that was ill gotten. Sadly, people’s responses here have clearly shown that any one who finds himself in power today would be there to pilfer public funds just like their predecessor regardless of their previous ranting against the government.

  43. Christiana

    July 26, 2012 at 3:08 pm

    LMAO @ all the hypocritical comments from ‘well meaning Nigerians’.
    Aunty Goodness Me, so with the “fear of the Lord” that dwells within you, you can comfortably type that someone sounds “like a demon.” And how do you know that my fancy degree hasn’t brought me far in life or that I’m an “Oyinbo slave?” Sit there and deceive yourself. Voice of the Voiceless. This is such fun, BN. Please keep the foolish, hypocritical comments coming.

    • Aunty Christy tif tif

      July 26, 2012 at 3:23 pm

      Ole, Ole, Ole, Ole, Ole, Ole, Ole o. Tif o, tif o, tif o, tif o, tif o. Your family must be so proud. Your parents that worked hard to bring you up, you are not proud of them abi. As far as you are concerned, they should have gone out like their mates and chased political positions so you didnt have to suffer. Ole, Ole, Ole

    • Observer

      July 26, 2012 at 3:32 pm

      Honestly I don’t undestand the hatred towards someone who prides themself in hard work and integrity. I pray you realize the error in your thinking and repent. Let’s call what is bad bad and what is good good. If anyone has participated (whether directly or indirectly) in corruption, let him stop or dissociate himself. Which one is the attacking? The day you witness suffering that goes beyond logic that’s the day you too will change mouth so fast your head will spin! By the way I live in the US, went to one of the best schools, work in a great firm AND MY FATHER IS NOT A CORRUPT POLITICIAN. So it’s possible to come from a well to do family and know money without being a slave to it!

    • Beau

      July 26, 2012 at 6:09 pm

      You are so far gone you don’t even realize it, you clearly lack morals. I really truly do feel sorry for you, your children and your future generations. Nothing good comes of evil. Unless you do not believe that someday we will all give account of ourselves before the ultimate judge, feel free to carry on reveling in wickedness and evil.
      You can chose not to fear the Lord for the fear of Him is the beginning of wisdom, and it shows in your speech that you clearly lack the fear of the Lord, but do not spew your vile bile against someone who clearly has chosen well and is doing what is right before God.
      Remember Joseph? Who said how can I do this wicked thing and sin against God. It was the fear of God that stopped him from committing adultery and damning himself. On the flip side imagine if he had gone ahead and had a fleeting moment of pleasure. He would have sold himself so far short of what God had intended for him. A lot of us don’t even have a full understanding of the consequences of our action. We just want instant gratification. Be careful people, be careful.
      The fear of God is what keeps us in line, once we lose it or disregard it we begin to have exactly what we have now; a nation of wicked people who are cursed. As long as the majority of Nigerians think like you Christiana we shall continue down this path of destruction, poverty and misery.
      I can see that lot of us think it’s a joke or that we can justify it. I say to you go ahead you will surely reap what you sow, whether now or generations down the road. God cannot be mocked!
      As for me and my house we will serve God. It profits me nothing to gain the world and lose my soul. You cannot take it with you when you die or perhaps you think you can bribe your way into heaven? I take my example from the Word of God. Believe it or not some of us still have morals and will chose to do what is right when it comes right down to it. The fact that you do not have a concept of it does not make us hypocrites, we are simply saying the truth as we know it. Thank you very much!

  44. D Pretty

    July 26, 2012 at 3:12 pm

    Some comments here sha especially d one who say he/she will continue from where the father stopped. I ask myself then, why do y’all cry when our 1st lady, presidents, ministers, DGs, rep members n so on steal loot public fund that’s meant for all of us. Maybe our prayers shld changer from God save Nigeria to God put my own folks in high positions where they can also loot money for us all to enjoy..Hypocrites.Mschewwwwww

  45. Joseph

    July 26, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    @Christiana – with your UK post grad degree, it didnt broaden your mind at all, and weep for Nigeria. You have the fingers to type and to be abusing someone who doesn’t have what you have, in terms of education and has done very well for herself. You have lived for at least a year, in a system that works. You have used the NHS without paying, you have used the trains, buses, you have had electricity and water 24/7, you have broadband and your mobile phone works with internet and 3G services. You haven’t been afraid to approach a policeman, you have walked home at night, with no fear. You have had a quality of education, the british and EU citizens enjoy at a discounted fee compared to international students. You have had your lecturer show up on time, deliver you quality lectures, you have approached such lecturers wiht no fear. Your exams were marked fairly, you didnt have to bribe or sleep with anyone to pass. All that UK system didnt go through you, all you noticed is that you were living on coupons while your friends were enjoying. YET WITH ALL THAT YOU SAW IN THE UK, YOU DONT WISH YOUR OWN FELLOW NIGERIANS THE SAME, IT IS OK BY YOU IF POLITICIANS STEAL, AS LONG AS THEY GET MONEY. YOU WICKED SOUL.

    • laide

      July 26, 2012 at 11:48 pm

      the best comment I ve read in a while…i also live in the UK…and I wish I didnt have to travel this far to enjoy all this…wish I could get it in my own country…and here some people are still dignifying corruption…smh.

  46. ij

    July 26, 2012 at 3:21 pm

    i will let him know how i feel about him, then in a show of disapproval of his lifestyle , just for effect , i will slam the door and drive off in the jaguar he bought me for my birthday earlier in the year to my serviced apartment that he paid for.

    no but seriously this is a tricky question , At the pearly gates i won’t be judged based on what my dad did or how he lived, but i will express my concerns to him and all but i sure won’t disown him, i mean just how do you do that? Honestly

  47. TruthTeller

    July 26, 2012 at 3:34 pm

    @Christiana, not all Nigerians are hypocrites. some truly mean well and would stand by their decision. Is that too hard to understand? From your comments you’re most likely a very vain person. “Of course I won’t! Anyone who say ‘yes’ is a big fat liar.
    Who will pay for graduate school abroad, fund my trips to foreign countries and give me that lavish talk-of-the-town BN wedding? ” shaking my head!

    • Porshlla

      July 26, 2012 at 4:03 pm

      Infact I can genuinely understand alot of people’s view here saying they’d support the corrupt dad as it only human, even though some of us still stand for what is good and stand against such ideals. But for a person to single her self out to attack someone who stood up for her good morals of having worked for her money is very dispeakable! indeed that Chritiana girl has to be a very vain person in real life.

  48. mosun

    July 26, 2012 at 3:39 pm

    Just want to say that not all nigerian parents that send their children abroad is corrupt or a politician….my dad retired in 2004 and he set up a small business before retiring…he has been able to see me through my undergrad degree from a prestigious uni in uk and my three siblings too.. my parents would rather starve than steal they have been able to train all four of us abroad and ild be going for my post grad dis sept…one of my brother is also in medical school.. most times you just have to trust God.

    • Goodness me

      July 26, 2012 at 3:44 pm

      Those are the kinds of comments I love to read and see. It must feel good to know that what you have came from hard work, and not fron stealing, and you will pass that kind of upbringing to your children. For those who still believe all Nigerians are like them. Misery loves company indeed.

  49. Emem

    July 26, 2012 at 3:44 pm

    @ Christiana At least you’re honest enough to admit that you’re vain and materialistic.
    I noticed that most people hurled insults at you without answering the question. How convenient.
    As for me, I won’t disown my father.

  50. Laide

    July 26, 2012 at 3:49 pm

    LMAO. The ole, ole, ole chants are truly making me laugh. I swear. BN no go kill me o. If only the people of 9ja can chant this anytime we see people spending ill gotten wealth. Maybe our reality will be better than what we have now. So, i’m joining in the chant, not just for the likes of Christiana (someone who sadly, her name makes you recall Christ), but for all the politicians, their families and cronies. Ole, ole, ole, ole, ole, o.

    • laide

      July 26, 2012 at 11:55 pm

      u re impersonating me …*crying* am the only laide on here…change ur name oo 🙁 ok am the laide with small letter l

  51. praisy

    July 26, 2012 at 3:54 pm

    It is well o! God will have mercy on us.

  52. sofire

    July 26, 2012 at 3:59 pm

    I read all these comments and I know for sure Nigeria is never going to change. Greed rules most of us and some comments here expose that fact. My dad and mom are 2 and 4 years from retirement respectively. They are building their first property. They sacrificed foolish spending to give their 5 kids good education and when we were done with our bachelor degrees we worked to train ourselves in graduate school. Today all but one (who just finished university) have these ‘foreign’ degrees that are all so important to Nigerian employers. Our parents can now afford to spend their money on these luxury cars you all crave without worrying about much, their children have values that we hope to pass on to our children and yes, we did have those expensive weddings you are ready to steal to get; paid for by the sweat of our hard work and contributions from our parents. In case you don’t understand what I am saying, I would be ashamed if I my parents were thieves (or corrupt politicians as you tastefully put it) and I would distance myself from them.

    • Bunmi

      July 27, 2012 at 12:02 am

      are they civil servants? how much exactly is a directors salary??…food for thought

  53. Nk

    July 26, 2012 at 4:15 pm

    If I was still in Nigeria,probably wouldn’t have seen anything wrong with what politicians are doing… But coming to Uk … I see things clearly now…
    Me now? … I will be a torn on his flesh!

  54. Christiana

    July 26, 2012 at 4:16 pm

    *Dancing Azonto to the chants of Ole*

    • Seun

      July 26, 2012 at 5:53 pm

      tif o, tif o. You should be ashamed of yourself I tell you. Dancing azonto to the chants of Ole.

    • Say the truth

      July 26, 2012 at 6:28 pm

      But majority of the people who died weren’t politicians and thieving family members. What’s your point?

    • Seun

      July 26, 2012 at 6:02 pm

      Copied from Chris – “Day in day out, these criminals get away with it. Maybe it is until you have been personally affected by their actions, e.g you lose a family member because of bad roads, bad hospitals, electricity problems, bad water, armed robbers, or even plane crash, Before it dawns on you, what you are silently supporting or agreeing to” Christiana, some of those who died in the plane crash were govt thieves and their family members. End of………

    • Beau

      July 26, 2012 at 6:28 pm

      Continue to dance o, the road is wide it can take many more dancers sef. As many as wish to dance down that path are welcome, more than welcome. There is room for all sweetie.

    • Seun

      July 26, 2012 at 6:44 pm

      You no understand english again? “Some” doesn’t quantify the majority. My point was, you can never tell when the retribution of your actions will come. Some of them in their own way have collected money through the back door, and it was that same corrupt practices, that allowed a faulty plane to fly that day. Karma is a bitch. I was not mentioning the rest of the victims. It just struck me, as quite a coincidence, that corruption was one of the main reasons why that plane crashed, and some of the names on board reeked of corruption. Remember one of the past Minister of Works. Very famed for his phrase who built all these gathers. He died in a road accident years ago. The same road that his ministry refused to maintain properly, due to corruption is what killed him. Hospitals they refused to equip, due to corruption, couldn’t save his life, when he was rushed there.

  55. Mata Hari

    July 26, 2012 at 5:13 pm

    I’m not surprised. I’ve read comments here that someone has worn these shoes twice or someone’s dress is cheap. A lot of the readers here are silly girls who imagine that everyone should live the lives of Hollywood celebrities. When sites like this encourage that in Nigeria’s youth what hope do we have? Ofcourse they’ll be praying their fathers land cushy government jobs where they can steal for them to rock designer clothes and have destination weddings. I’m actually pleasantly surprised that there is even a single comment condemning bad leaders. You can be dressed in Chanel from head to toe, driving a Maybach but its still on bad Naija roads because your father chopped the money for the contract. Nails will puncture your tyre and out come the bandits to rape and kill, same as if you were in a one chance bus. If there’s traffic because the roads are bad, you in the Maybach will sit there same as a keke marwa. If there’s an accident with fuel tanker, you plus your Maybach will burn. No world-class hospital will spring up because your father has used the money to throw you a wedding. Short-sightedness and greed don’t let people see that when they steal from the public they steal from themselves.

  56. Tiki

    July 26, 2012 at 5:15 pm

    I had blogged about a related topic not too long ago. See here :

    I guess it all boils down to your conscience. I for one, know the great pride to be found in working for something, not having it given to you, and succeeding on your own merit, as opposed to your father’s [tainted] name.

    Besides, do not forget that any curses which are aimed at and deserved by someone will follow not only them, but accomplices. And accomplices are not only actual partners, but facilitators and physical/financial/moral supporters.

  57. Bunmi

    July 26, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    For your info your bosses are bribing the government officials….so in a way you are spending money from corrupt activities

  58. Anon

    July 26, 2012 at 6:21 pm

    Just remember that vanity upon vanity, all is vanity!

  59. Say the truth

    July 26, 2012 at 6:31 pm

    All I can say is, it is terrible to benefit from the suffering of others. At the end of the day, you’re responsible for your own actions and will have to deal with the consequences alone. Nobody will share your punishment with you.

  60. bimpz

    July 26, 2012 at 6:34 pm

    there is no need to disown him, at the end of the day he is still ur father. however, you sholdnt follow his footsteps. Be your own person and stand for wat u believe is right. as for everyone else that agrees wiv the corruption- yall shud just keep living for the rave of the moment and nt 4 tomorrow. coz am seriously tellin u, it will hit u say hard that u great great great grand kids wudnt b able 2 overcome it like Abacha’s children. to the extent ur handwork will hit u bk in d face. I really dont sympathise with nigerians anymre. bunch of ridicules

  61. kiks

    July 26, 2012 at 6:42 pm


  62. Ugo Igbokwe's story

    July 26, 2012 at 7:29 pm

    To Christiana, I wish you can click on this link, and read this man’s story. I’m sure your kind will sneer at him, for all that suffering, when he could have gone into politics. The suffering you said you faced while a student in the UK, can it be as much as this man’s own. Yet with handwork, he has made it. I tire for nigerians like you o. I really tire.

  63. Naija must be sweet again

    July 26, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    No one needs to disown their father because he is a thief. There is nothing wrong with loving your father despite his sins and faults. I think the problem is often times, as I have observed here in the US, is the children of corrupt govt officials blowing money like they or their parents worked for it. They buy out clubs replete with alcohol for all their invited and uninvited guests. They make international trips like they’re crossing the street. They can drop a couple hundred dollars on a belt from a high end shop and o yea their $35k tuition is also all taken care of and a sweat failed to break. If you know your father is corrupt then don’t take the money happily and go on a spending spree. Every dollar spent is a dollar that some poor family is praying for in Nigeria to put bread on the table and meanwhile you’re clubbing drinking alcohol like its Poland Springs water. I would not disown but I would not spend what my father did not work for and what someone else did. PS. Saddened by the comments of some people saying they would celebrate a corrupt man…what a country of people we have built, Naija must be sweet again.

  64. Mariam

    July 26, 2012 at 7:39 pm

    I don’t know where the mentality that all Nigerians are the same comes from. I think as goodness me said. Misery does love company. It must be their conscience silently pricking them, so to justify their actions, they console themselves with, at least everyone does it. If they get there they too will do worse, so abeg, no one should condemn me. That analogy is not only sad, but pathetic as well. That you will drive by in your Range Rover while you can see people on the road suffering in abject poverty, and you will close your eyes. You must not be a human being anymore, but a robot. Your spirit must be dead, because anyone who doesn’t have any iota of human kindness for a fellow man, ceases to be a human being in my eyes, and is worse than an animal.

  65. Anonymous

    July 26, 2012 at 7:55 pm

    Children are not told by their parent, they became rich through corruption. You see, Dad gives you everything you ask for, he spends money lavishly with no concern. When asked what your dad does, you say he’s a businessman. Nigerians love living the HIGH LIFE and don’t have any concern as long as they are part of the money spending, they couldn’t care less. Also, there’s no consequence for their action, so they go as far as they can go. If I don’t get caught, it means I didn’t do it and if I get caught, I will find a way to convince you that I didn’t do is the mentality many Nigerians have.

    I will speak from personal experience. My dad is a rich man. My childhood was filled with sweet memories of having the best of everything, going on vacations abroad and living the good life. I went to a top school in the U.S, my tuition was paid for and I lived in a condo where my dad paid for everything. And, when your dad pays for everything, you don’t ask him how he gets his money, you just go with the flow. It’s actually disrespectful to your elders to question especially in the Nigerian culture. As I got older, I began to put two and two together. I became more culturally, morally aware in a different way. Since I studied Law, and my dad once worked for the government, we end up talking about the political affairs in Nigeria most of the times. His responses/mindset is very interesting, which gives me a different insight to the reasons Nigerian government is the way it is and the way Nigerians are in general. I’m not saying, I’m perfect but I don’t know how someone goes to bed every night knowing what they do is wrong especially if you also claim to be a so called “christian”. The complicated part is, we have become so desensitized to many wrong things, it’s become the norm or part of a culture that shouldn’t be in the first place. The question is, will I disown my dad? that’s hard to do. I will create a distance. My dad suggested I go into politics in Nigeria after I graduated, not a bad idea. Politics is a dirty game everywhere, it’s a different type of game in Nigeria and I doubt I’m ready for that type of game neither are they ready for a different mindset from what they are used to. I don’t condone my dad’s behavior at all, I let him know my opinion, we get into arguments, disagree on a lot of issues all the time but will not disown him.

  66. Thatgidigirl

    July 26, 2012 at 8:07 pm

    @ goodness me, I may have been moved by ur cute story if it didn’t come with so much contempt, and name calling. Please note that stealing is not the only sin against God, and im sure you know this since u claim to have a good relationship with God. Please free Christiana guys, I agree with her when she says u’re all a bunch of hypocrites and all i can see are ppl trying to classify sins……sin is sin! bitterness/hatred and corruption are the same! Love ur neighbour as your self, a man that loves his neighbour wld not call her a demon(goodness me) ,and a man that loves his neighbour wld not seal from him (politicians), so both of you r basically committing the same sin. Lets take a poll and see how many ppl here have paid their taxes faithfully in the past 2yrs, or can honestly say they have never given a lastma official small change for breaking a traffic rule. As for those that are glad that they dont live in nigeria and do not communicate with nigerians, news flash! this is a naija website so get lost. And please do not come here to parade your cowardice, you dont work in mobil and collect salaries from oceanic bank… dont expect to pay tax to the british or american govt and expect a change in nigeria, where u dont vote btw, be the change!!! i travel at least 5 times every year and see lots of gifted nigerians under-utilizing themselves “abroad”, and marrying old haggard white people just to get red or blue passports. Hisss!!!!

    • Chris

      July 26, 2012 at 8:29 pm

      Not all of us are under utilised, let me quickly correct you there, and not all of us are under utilised. A lot of immigrants, not only Nigerians, are valuable employees to their company. You that are talking about not generalising, or someone not criticising Christiana. I’m shocked by your generalisation. I don’t blame goodness me for speaking with contempt, because she should. You should speak with contempt at anyone who thinks corruption is acceptable. Corruption is something that gets to you so badly, you can say anything, especially when you come across someone who condones it. If your family member died because of bad hospitals or bad road, or plane crash, you won’t be so blasé about this. If the majority of people are so passionate and disgusted about corruption, the way goodness me is, we will get somewhere. Sadly, this will never happen. I am on a work permit, on track to permanent residency, I can already vote in some elections, and in a few years, I will be able to vote. I don’t need to marry anyone. My skills are very well sought out in my industry, I can choose to change employers if I want. I’m darn good at my job, and I am very very well utilised. I will gladly pay my tax to my adopted country, times 10 because I can see where the taxes are going. I have the kind of peace of mind, I have never felt in Nigeria. Yes i dissociate myself from Nigerians, because as you say you travel 5 times a year, you will see how our countrymen disgrace themselves, all in the name of making money. The making money at all cost mentality, they carry it abroad.

    • BrittanyVaughn

      July 27, 2012 at 12:15 am

      @Chris I totally agree with you. You couldn’t have said it any better. I am in the same boat as you with the work permit stuff and will be getting my permanent residency next year. I would not be half of who I am today if I was in Nigeria.

    • Thatgidigirl

      July 27, 2012 at 1:46 am

      Chris you can move to the moon for all we care, if the so called skills you think you have cannot be used to advance Nigeria then you are definitely under utilised, stop complaining. An accessory to murder, is almost as guilty as a murderer and running away from your problems doesn’t solve them. When i travel, people are pleasantly surprised that i am nigerian because i project the image of my country in a positive light not deny my nationality. You can keep “hustling” to get all the permits available to a second class citizen, doesnt change the fact that you’re a full fledged Nigerian. pele o, it must be an awful predicament for u *rolling eyes*

    • Chris

      July 27, 2012 at 9:32 am

      You still dont get it. Narrow minded person, i’m not surprised. You have a job too, I am guessing. So because you are in Nigeria, you are not hustling. Shaking my head seriously. I have a job, just the way you have a job. So if I am hustling, technically, it means you are also hustling too, whether it is in your country of birth, is immaterial. You travel 5 times a year, you say, I must question the circles you move in, because if you think all of us here are hustling, then it must be the low income “hustlers” you are mixing with. Not all Nigerians who live abroad hustle. We have millions of professionals, we are just under the radar because we don’t commit crimes, and we are decent and respected members of society. Second class citizen you say, anyone who is contributing positively, to a society, can never be a second class citizen. You don’t need to be white, to be a “first class” citizen. My skills to advance Nigeria, tofiakwa. How now? The kind of job I do, Nigeria is not even there yet, and may not be in the next 50 years, so, I will be useless, and my dear, under utilised. I didnt run away from a problem, I came for an education, sadly Nigeria couldn’t give me, and I was taught skills, Nigeria couldn’t give me. So why will I come back to Nigeria, where I won’t be able to use those skills. I am giving back to a society that has given me a wealth of knowledge and expereince. I owe that society to give something back. You accused me of being under utlised. IF I COME BACK TO NIGERIA THAT IS WHERE I WILL BE UNDER UTILISED. So, please my dear, broaden your mind, the world doesn’t begin and end in Nigeria. I also project Nigeria very well, but narrow minded people like you too who see nationality first person later, is the reason why I distance myself from a lot of Nigerians, because for all my hard work, it really stings, to be tarred with the same brush. Yes, that your comment about white people, is racist. There are also old haggard people in Nigeria too. Many are that way because the system has failed them. In their old age, they have no care, no support. So, before you go all gung ho praising Nigeria, let me remind you, you are praising mediocrity, and you think it is acceptable.

    • JenniferSanders

      July 27, 2012 at 3:00 pm

      @Chris Preach it. You couldn’t have said it any better.

    • EricDupre

      July 26, 2012 at 9:46 pm

      This website is not only for naija people.

    • Marialunder

      July 27, 2012 at 12:05 am

      “old haggard white people” that’s such a tacky and racy comment to make.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      July 27, 2012 at 2:11 pm

      @ Chris, I don’t know if you’re a sister or a brother but preach!! PREACH! And my question to people who make these snide comments about “Nigerians suffering abroad” is – are those the only kind of Nigerians you know abroad? ‘Cos I live in a city where some of the highest earners in the oil & gas industry are Nigerians.

      Also, why do the same people who make these comments travel out of Nigeria themselves if not for the usual reasons of shopping, medical check-ups, training courses, etc? So you know it’s good to get these things abroad and yet you insult those people who’ve made a decision to be permanently based in those countries??

      I can vote for change in this country and I dont have a british passport. I manage a team of people in a company where my skills/qualifications are respected and I dont have a british passport. I earn a really decent wage that I wouldn’t have received for doing the same job in Nigeria (in fact, the usual office/tribal/age-related bad-belle no for even make all my promotions possible, sef) and I dont have a british passport. So how does that make us Nigerians living in another country “second-class citizens”? I’m honestly curious.

    • MattDickinson

      July 27, 2012 at 9:42 pm

      @Thatgidigirl you talk about projecting positive image for Nigeria meanwhile you make racist comments like “old haggard white people”. You think the kind of education you get in Nigeria is a good one. There is practically no exposure when it comes to the education system in Nigeria. Thatgidigirl I am pretty sure you enjoy driving on roads for hours with tons of potholes (sitting down in traffic for hours) and going days without power supply. You also must enjoy going to an hospital with archaic facilities. Seriously you call that a life, why do you think the mortality rate is so high in Nigeria. There are people that make legitimate money in Nigeria but they can’t fully enjoy it because of all the crap that goes on Nigeria. I love the United States because I work hard and I see the fruit of my labor; I don’t need to almost kill myself or have hypertension to get what I want. I worked hard, got into an ivy league school, graduated with honors and didn’t have to bribe anyone. I was never afraid of any of my professors. I didn’t have to bribe them to get better grades. I can go out pretty late with my friends in the night and not worry/shiver that some crazy will attack me. I can go to sleep at night without shaking or scared. I don’t have to wake up at some miserable hours of the morning to go to work because of bad roads and useless traffic. I wouldn’t trade it for anything because I wouldn’t be a quarter of who I am today if I was in Nigeria. If I came to Nigeria my skill sets will be underutilized and I will rather give back to the country that made me who I am. Nigeria had no contribution to my well being. It’s sad if you think the state of Nigeria is normal. You need to live in a place were the system works and then you will realize that Nigeria is a sorry state.

  67. Mariam

    July 26, 2012 at 8:10 pm

    Will i disown him? YES. You know why, because this was a man who taught me right from wrong growing up. A man who whooped my ass if i ever came home with something in my school bag that didn’t belong to me. A man who whopped me silly, if i told a lie, or if i was rude. A man who taught me we should be kind to others, and treat everyone with respect and dignity irrespective of their social status. A man who taught me the quran, took me to mosque, and taught me all my prayers. A man who would whoop you silly if you were ever rude to the maid or the driver. A popular phrase was, would you be rude to this man/woman, if you met them on the street, and they weren’t doing these jobs. Do you think they are happy doing these jobs, if they had the opportunities you have would they be here. So how dare you look your nose down at them. Is it your money that pays their fees. So, a man i respect more than anything, to take a political position. YES I WILL DISOWN HIM! Because it means my entire childhood was a lie, and all the memories i have of him will be tainted. I will never forgive him

  68. theresa

    July 26, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    yep…..the problem with nigeria is the nigerian mentality…..very sad indeed

  69. faith

    July 26, 2012 at 8:48 pm

    All the times I askedmy friends if they would steal if dey find Dem selves in politics they always reply “I will eat my ow” none has Eva said he or she will not steal money….as for me I will try not to steal o

  70. Sansarai

    July 26, 2012 at 9:39 pm

    Nawaoooo….the people have spoken and…I am shocked. Nigerians truly deserve the leaders they get.

    • sofee

      July 27, 2012 at 10:51 am

      Bang on! And I’m sure you feel like you just made a rocket-science like speech…Mchew

  71. 200 million mumu

    July 26, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    Where does one even start to address issues like this. It’s so sad that young people are thinking like this someone even said, I will continue from where he left. Nigeria is so far from progress and it is just unfortunate that the marginalized only complain because they are on the receiving end but their ultimate prayer is to switch sides so they can oppress those who are now where they used to be. This I’m sure of power will change hands because God is not mocked, generation curses that can never be broken follow you and the father your refuse to disown, the riches of the wicked are being stored up for the righteous…it’s only a matter of time.  Y’all should listen to Lagbaja’s  200 million mumu series on YouTube. BN will never post that kind of stuff…because they don’t like true talk…BN u better post my comment btw.

  72. Mujer casada

    July 27, 2012 at 12:04 am

    Honey, Amen to your question! Of course, its different strokes for different folks. In Nigeria, people will sell their mothers for a couple of naira. Everything and everybody has a price. when his dada was not favored, all in govt needed to die. Now his daddy is favored and the favor has extended to him, WTF? He is riding the wave and he would never question. What pains me is that even if he hears his father committed murder, he still will not ask. Nigeria is a place where the moral compass changes with each circumstance. God will help us.

  73. lilly

    July 27, 2012 at 12:37 am

    LOL…this just reminds me of when i was growing my father has the money and all we did was to spend the money. fast forward 10 years later where is the money? everything was gone. I had to be extremely hardworking (whether i was sick or not i had to go to work cos i and my family were in desperate need of need) and totally independent. I had to see myself through school in the US which God only knows how i managed to survive it because i had to work my ass off and also make sure i had good grades. Although i and my family are still struggling financially it has made me more responsible (in terms of managing my money and buying my needs instead of wants) and mature in a different way (including professional level). Now will i disown my dad? No!! I won’t BUT i will have no part take of his money no matter how hard it is for me.

  74. Papa

    July 27, 2012 at 2:14 am

    Your question is too general. You need to define corruption. I’m against stealing from public coffers but I believe in lobbying . No big deal in using your influence to get contracts or to secure employment for someone or pass legislation wey go favor your business. A little ‘greasing of palms’ here and there never hurt nobody. You scratch my back I scratch yours.
    The problem is that many of us chop money without brain. Power is like a woman. One should enjoy it and not abuse it, because e fit kill you. We need to learn from our senior brothers from the west-side. It’s good to look out for your family but we to also need to remember that one family does not make a nation.

    • Papa

      July 27, 2012 at 2:21 am

      BTW, disown over harsh. My parents and I don’t see eye to eye on every issue but that does not mean that I’ll disown them.

  75. Wahl

    July 27, 2012 at 3:41 am

    Of course. I have no problem disowning them. After all, I can’t count how many times they’ve disowned me.

  76. Love

    July 27, 2012 at 4:04 am

    Some of the comments here are very disturbing, especially comments from those glorifying corruption. Just remember that everyone will stand before God to give account. I have friends whose fathers are thieves, and I see how they live lavishly. In fact, one particular friend knows that his family’s wealth was acquired through corruption, and when some of us (whose parents didn’t steal money) are talking about corruption in Nigeria, he gets very uncomfortable. This my friend is a very nice guy, but someone said he is “a victim of his father’s sins.” First, some of these people know their parents are corrupt and they really don’t care about how the money was gotten. Some others know their parent’s money is ill-gotten, but they don’t have the financial independence to break lose. Both categories of people are without excuse.

    On Judgement Day, when people are telling God that they could not serve Him because they had no shoes, God will bring someone with no legs who still managed to serve Him. So we’re without excuse! A close friend of mine (who is now saved) is cutting financial ties with her parents because she questions their source of wealth. God is merciful: if you have been living large on your parent’s ill-gotten wealth, ask God for forgiveness and break off from the money. That money is cursed and will surely lead you to hell. After reading all these BN comments, you can no longer claim ignorance. If need be, have a heart-to-heart talk with your parents and ask them how they got their money. It is possible to live a wonderful life without relying on filthy lucre. Remember “godliness with contentment is great gain.” If you put your trust in God, He will not disappoint.

    • tk

      July 27, 2012 at 9:24 am

      Do u really think God will be calling each one of us one after the other asking if u stole money or not? My dear, you’ll be judged by only one standard! Whether you accepted His Son Jesus or not. Just leave judgement day out of this issue.

    • Concerned Citizen

      July 27, 2012 at 1:42 pm

      You need to read the old testament, where Moses went up to the mountain to get the ten commandments, if you follow those rules you will have a better understanding.

  77. Anonymous

    July 27, 2012 at 4:09 am

    Nigerians are hard working group of people, there are some who work very hard for their money and some who like the quick/fast money. The question of disowning is a bit difficult because it’s like you don’t just disown anybody especially a family member because you don’t agree with his or her lifestyle. The best you can do, is to disagree, state your opinion and let them know what they are doing is wrong. Imagine a parent disowning their child just because he/she is misbehaving, it’s not that easy. Distant yourself from such bad behavior, make sure you don’t fall into the type of lifestyle and work hard in a clean way for your money.

  78. Concerned

    July 27, 2012 at 4:15 am

    I must confess that of all the stories and events that Bella Naija has ever featured this is the most sensitive and thought provoking. Its rather mind bugging to read the mindset of Nigerians even in 2012. Its quite disturbing. I am no saint and neither am I any better than most people who have made comments in this forum, however if the bulk of peoples’ opinion here is the case, then Nigerians deserve the quality of leaders we’ve been cursed with in the last three decades. I wouldn’t disown my father for any reason judging from the Nigerian culture and beliefs, but we have to admit that these people we call politicians are our parents, brothers, friends, church members, ex-colleagues and neighbours. The question is what do we tell these people when we are alone with them? Do we tell them the truth or sing their praises because of what we benefit from them at the expense of the states or the entire nation? We criticize politicians but when we are related to them we see no wrong in their corrupt practices. Have we wondered why civil servants and political appointees that are meant to serve their states and the nation always end up being the richest people in our communitie and the country but nobody cares to ask how or why? I believe the issue of disowning one’s father is rather thought provoking and needs pondering on if your father is part of those unleashing economic hardship on an entire nation and generations yet unborn.

  79. l♥ver

    July 27, 2012 at 9:02 am

    To all the people screaming in favour of the subject, I will say 3 words – TALK IS CHEAP!!

    Talk is cheap people. While I applaud your seeming “good sense” I will tell you for free that it is sooo hard. Turn your back on your parent(s) because they are corrupt politicians? This sounds like the perfect text book answer but trust me, it is hard…I will praise God for ever for not “blessing” me with Politician parents but I will not go as far as to say I would disown them if they were.
    This is such a tough question and I just thank God that I do not have to ponder over it..

    And for the people talking from both sides of their mouth, saying yeah, they will disown their parents and using their ‘Nigerian Dream’ examples one minute and hurling abusive, low-down vile words the next at people with dissenting opinions I have four words: GOD IS WATCHING YOU!

    • Laide

      July 27, 2012 at 9:43 am

      It is hard, but it is NOT IMPOSSIBLE. No good thing ever comes easy. Living a decent and moral lifestyle is never easy. That is the point. The wide pah is there free for all, but the narrow way is usually scanty, because people want easy life. Hardwork never killed anyone. So, it is hard is soooooo not an excuse. If your daughter came to you and said prostituiton is easy. Just a few nights with one senator and she’ll be rolling in money, will you say go ahead. I know it is hard. Please. Let’s not grey things up. The issue of corruption is black and white, don’t rationalise it abeg. We need people in this country who will pick a side, and not stay on the fence. This your response is very lukewarm. Which is the problem we are facing in this country.

    • Jospeh

      July 27, 2012 at 10:04 am

      Dis you just simply say dissenting opinion. Oh wow, you must be a politicians relative. This isn’t some flash in the wind topic, where it is allowed for other people to have “dissenting” opinions. This is about corruption in Nigeria, and as far as you are concerned, it is okay for someone to have “a dissenting” opinion. Abi? You are of the opinion that it is okay, or we should allow for some people to say corruption is okay, and we should not abuse them. We should molly coddle them and even hail them for bringing diversity to this topic. After all they are entitled to have their own opinion. Anyone that condones corruption is a wicked soul, and such a person deserves all the abuse in this world. Someone who can see that people are dying everyday, going through hardship because of corrupt politicians, and says it is okay, afterall it is money to live large deserves all the insults they can get, because they have no feeling for another human being. Such a person does NOT deserve to be spoken to with respect, or dignity. Such people are lower than low, and are the scum of the earth. I don’t think you will speak kindly about armed robbers or rapists, or ritual killers. So, why shouldn’t someone who condones corruption be spoken to like that, because overall, they are one and the same with armed robbers, rapists and ritual killers. You don’t need to have a gun, or a machete in your hands to kill someone.

    • l♥ver

      July 27, 2012 at 10:47 am

      @ Jospeh: What you are on about I have no idea..whether or not I have relatives or whatevs as politicians is all semantics as it does not apply to this situation… and as I earlier stated, “……..hurling abusive, low-down vile words the next at people with dissenting opinions I have four words: GOD IS WATCHING YOU!”

      Meaning, you do not have to hurl abusive words at people with dissenting opinions….State your case sans insults and keep it moving.. Still confused?

      @ Laide…YES!! I’m all for the ready made text-book answer of YES!!! I WILL DISOWN THEM! But really. Really. Will you? If your politician-rogue father was for example a guv’nor in the ’80’s and trained you trough primary, secondary school and Uni with his rogue money, rising to the upper echelons of his politricking as the years went by, going as far as to give you that dream wedding with your boo (another politrickian’s spawn), fully sponsored honeymoon…got you your first home in the high-brow area of wherever you choose to live in your mid-late 20’s..etc, etc, etc…YOU, YOU., YOU, the same Laide would disown her dad after all of these? Too funny to even imagine…

      People need to stop with the pretentious, self-righteous talking and actually ACT right. I am all for keeping it real and to be honest, I can only HOPE that I will walk away were I in those shoes…

    • Laide

      July 27, 2012 at 11:07 am

      Are you speaking from personal expereince? You didnt answer Jospeh’s question. Are you a politicians relative? Why are you talking about vain aspects of life. Wedding, house, education, cars, honeymoon. Like that is what is important in life. Not once have you mentioned the real issues. The problems in this country caused by corruption. Not once have you empathised with the people who are the victims of corruption. Yet just like christiana you are talking about the flashy things of life. If you read up at some of the previous comments, you will see that, while you are still dependent on the ill gotten finances, you may have no choice, but as full fledged adult, who can see things objectively, if you still want to continue enjoying the ill gains of corruption, you have no one else to blame but yourself. You can survive without the wealth of corruption. But as they say the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. So a man who raised you with the ill gotten wealth from corruption, will never have instilled values within you anyway, because that makes him a hypocrite, so you will grow up thinking it is ok, it is a way of life.
      Go back and read Mariam’s comment. If you had that kind of a father, and he became a politician, you should disown him, but if you are raised by a thief, raised with blood money, of course the chances are that you will continue the vicious cycle.
      Yes, you should hurl abuse at people who condone corruption, this is not a matter of they are entitled to their own opinion. If their opinion causes other people to suffer and die, civility should be off the table. Please don’t give me a textbook answer. Like Jospeh said, will you be civil to an armed robber, rapist or ritual killer, after all it is his opinion to harm and kill people, so he is entitled to their own opinion. If a family member was killed by any of those people, and you had the chance to talk to them, will you be civil and simply conclude, it is their opinion. Still confused?
      To say you can only HOPE, is also sitting on the fence. Act right and say you WILL NOT partake in corruption, because you may never know. Tomorrow a family member can be a politician, so if you don’t take a stance now and stick to it. I can only HOPE, is the easy way out. Stand up for what is right. It is hard no doubt, but not impossible.

    • l♥ver

      July 27, 2012 at 1:28 pm

      @ Laide below this comment….I’m speaking from an outside POV meaning, I’m not in that box that you want to put me in, but I want to have a birds’ eye view before answering wholeheartedly. Unfortunately for you and Jospeh, I do not have ties to politicians, real or imagined but I’m not going to argue that on the http://www…feel free to force them on me if you feel so inclined by the way.

      Yeah, I mentioned Wedding, house, education, cars, honeymoon, before NKO the stolen money na wetin again dem wan take am do? Puhleese!! Even in your arguments you seem unrealistic and dogmatic without carefully reasoning out my sentiments. Odds are, if IF and IF you were raised by a rogue, you would think like a rogue. I don’t get where Mariam is coming from with her ….”after I find out, I will disown my father” #Indeed!!

      And as for your “…. Not once have you empathised with the people who are the victims of corruption….” Excuse me? is that what this forum is for? We are here to answer a simple question so rather than emphatise on the www why don’t you take your empathy the next step by actually DOING something about it rather than talk about it on Bella Naija?

      As for your ….Yes, you should hurl abuse at people who condone corruption, this is not a matter of they are entitled to their own opinion…..I seriously wonder where you get your inspiration from…I have NEVER heard of insults serving as a tool for positive change but rather superior arguments as well as hard facts. Let me guess: That’s something your STRAIGHT AND NARROW FOLKS taught you?

      Lastly on your …Act right and say you WILL NOT partake in corruption, because you may never know. Tomorrow a family member can be a politician, so if you don’t take a stance now and stick to it… just plain rambling on your part, surely you too can see that…ACT NOW? On what? Typing what you want me to type? Sheesh! Anyways, it was fun while it lasted, I’m off to actually DO something and have no more time for this banter. Until you stop your CHEAP TALKING, Imma BE WALKING!!

  80. Michelle

    July 27, 2012 at 9:52 am

    In regular situations, I dont condone abusive words, but with the matter of corruption and how it affects some of us, me as a person it makes me mad. At the beginning of democracy, all we used to herar was millions stolen. 2million, 3, 10. Later it moved to 100 million, then hundreds of millions, now its billions, and they do it with such impunity. The media reports it like they are reporting the weather. It makes me mad and drives me crazy. You need to see the heated arguments with family and friends on this issue. Everyone throwing out words, because my dear it is painful. You travel abroad and you weep. These same politicians and their families travel abroad, and they clsoe their eyes when they come back. Don’t they wish the same for their own people. Why, why are they so wicked. So if someone used their Nigerian dream as an example and started hurling words, my dear don’t blame the person at all, because I myself will hurl words at anyone who condones corruption. Sadly we cant hurl the words directly at the politicians themselves, but they deserve all the curses we rain down on them. I have had friends and family members die because of the situation in this country. So, until it has affected you personally, you can decide to sit on the fence, anday it doesn’t concern me. Afterall I have money to live the good life. The day that money, will not save your child, husband, wife, mother, father, friend. At least the victims of the dana plane crash like others have mentioned had money. It didn’t save tehm. We all need to rise up and say no. The kingdom of the Lord suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force. There is no room for civility when discussing the issue of corruption. These people are monsters, and you cant be saying pretty words when dealing with monsters. My 2 cents.

  81. tunde

    July 27, 2012 at 10:23 am

    Y wld I disown him?afterall He trained me with d so called Corrupt money.abeg I go spend yanfu yanfu.if u were in my shoes,I’m sure u won’t mind too

  82. Lolade

    July 27, 2012 at 11:17 am

    Why have re all resigned ourselves to fate. Abi, what defines a human being, if you can just give up and say, abeg everyone is doing it, or everyone will do it. It is incredibly narrow inded to think everyone will be corrupt when they have the chance to, and we are the most religious nation on earth. For christians, remember sodom and gomorrah, only a few were saved even though everyone in the place was rotten to the core. So, as @ Mariam said “I don’t know where the mentality that all Nigerians are the same comes from. I think as goodness me said. Misery does love company. It must be their conscience silently pricking them, so to justify their actions, they console themselves with, at least everyone does it. If they get there they too will do worse, so abeg, no one should condemn me. That analogy is not only sad, but pathetic as well” GBAM!!!!!.

  83. Joey

    July 27, 2012 at 11:20 am

    Many have not answered the question only commenting on other issues like attacking Christiana who spoke her mind though might not go well with most people or like attacking those that said they distance theirselves from Nigerians when abroad and they don’t want to come back here.
    As for me I will NOT disown my father cause he is still my dad at the end of the day but will I support what he is doing hell to the NO. God doesn’t disown me when i commit any sin. He only tries to make me feel guilty (through my conscience) and not do those things again by repentance.
    I will try my every best with the grace of God to ensure that I don’t have to partake in the money he is spending.
    The question is “if your father was a corrupt politician will you disown him?” this is totally different from the general corrupt practises that happens in our country because almost every one if not all is involved in this so called corruption. (Now I’m speaking to those complaining and saying they will disown their father…… and they work hard for their money…….. and people are slaving for oyinbos and waisting their talent………..and so on)
    1). How many of you realise that your true taxes are not paid to the govt because your employees reduce the basic salary they declare to the govt? Is that not a corrupt practise? Have you left that organisation?
    2). How many of you have not tipped a police or lastma or frsc person when you break the law (knowningly or unknowingly)? E.g you did not see a one way sign but it is there and you are stopped by the police.
    3). The person that sighted Ugo Igbokwe’s story did you forget to read the part where he mentioned he was trying to get visa twice through pple that promised to get it for him? Was that not a back door runs? If he had succeeded his story would not be what we are reading.
    I dont want to continue so i don’t bore pple.
    My conclusion, we humans have a natural instincts of wanting things fast fast, its just the grace of God when we end up going the right way. For most that are staying away from Nigeria, the want better life for their children and childrens’ children thats why they don’t want to come back.

    • To Joey

      July 27, 2012 at 11:45 am

      Let me see. I’m in my mid 20’s. I have never driven in my life, so I have never tipped a policeman or lastma. I take only buses and okada and keke maruwa. When the issue of helmets came in, i stopped taking okada (much to the relief of my parents), and went the keke maruwa and bus route. I have only applied for visa through the legal route. When I was going to university, luckily the cut off mark for my course wasnt so high, so i didnt bribe anybody, where was the money sef. I wrote SAT and Toefl, and got a scholarship a few months ago, so I’m leaving Nigeria in the next couple of weeks. At banks, hospitals and other public places, the rule of the game is get there very early, so u dont have to bribe anyone or jump the queue. I’m not saying i’m perfect, in my own way I also commit sins, but i’m saying it is how you were brought up, and the values that you were given, that determine the adult you grow up to be. You can make yourself immune from corruption, IF you choose it, and make life choices that wont make you so prone to temptation. Who my papa be now, I didn’t get a job after university, and someone suggested I write foreign exams to get scholarship. Luckily, i never had to bribe anyone at university, where was the money sef. Shey it is someone that has extra, that will use that extra to bribe someone. Life has not been so rosy, but I have been given an escape route, and for that I am happy. Will i disown my father, I am not sure of the exact specifics of disown, but I will not want to have anything to do with him, because like Mariam said, it means my entire life has been a lie. For all this years, he held onto the values he taught me, then tomorrow he becomes a politician. mehn, I will be sorely dissappointed.

  84. ogochukwu

    July 27, 2012 at 3:20 pm

    so true. once the government do what they are supposed to do one have no problem paying tax. am here in USA and i pay tax and the govt pays my tuition through fasfa which i know will never happen in naija

  85. AJOKE

    July 27, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    Everyone saying they will disown their father is a straight up liar. madam goodness i can see that blood surely does not run through your veins abi, abegi dont come up in here talking high and mighty and holier than thou, pls gerrof your high horse talking ish that money will not change you, its obvious you have not seen money yet, you think the chnge that the oil company is giving you and you husband is money. wifey we are talkin gpple looting millions and billions here and your shouting about thousands that you fit carry home in your purse mtchewwwwww….when did you become an angel, talkin like you wasnt given birth to by a woman, madam news flash you are human and humans are liars and no matter how born again and prayerful they will fall and they cannot be trusted.
    leave christiana alone atleast she is honest, i am a born again christian but i am no angle i am human i will still fall just like Kind david fell. abeg no one holy pass Jesus Christ. all you humans judging each other i taya o

    furthermore God is watching yall on 4D hiss

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      July 27, 2012 at 5:16 pm

      And through what medium exactly might He be watching you on? I wonder…

      I don’t get any sense that Goodness Me was making a point about “having seen money”. I think her point was that she was content with that which she’d worked for and I have to agree with a commenter above who says it’s disheartening to see Nigerians throwing stones at someone for wanting to live honestly.

      When it comes down to human behaviour, it’s always that element of greed which truly determines whether you’re satisfied with your “thousands you fit carry home in your purse” or even the … how did you put it… “gpple looting millions and billions”?? Because I tell you, even if you’ve “seen money” but you can’t be happy with your millions, you’ll still be looking to loot trillions and zillions. And the heart of every corrupt person is grasping & greedy.

    • JenniferSanders

      July 27, 2012 at 6:07 pm

      Will I disown him: Yes. Will it be an easy decision or path: No. The fact that you will loot or majority of the people here will loot doesn’t mean everyone is doing it. Definitely we are not all perfect, but when corruption and stealing becomes a way of life and the norm then there is a problem. This is why Nigeria will never change, we keep recycling the same set of people with this nonsense mentality. It’s people like you that are destroying the country. How do you go to sleep at night knowing that multiple people’s family are suffering, dieing, and aching because of you. You definitely don’t have a heart if you are able to sleep fine. I have always said it that most Nigerians “not all” are heartless and don’t value human lives. Nigerians don’t mind using or looting money at the detriment of other people. Since it makes you money you wouldn’t mind if someone else’s family suffers or dies from your actions. I am glad that I don’t live in Nigeria or associate with people that have such mentality. If you live in Nigeria or have family in Nigeria, I pray you wouldn’t be at the receiving end ( whereby your mum, dad, sister, brother, or extended family will die because some nasty politician is looting money and spending it lavishly). It’s people with mentality like yours that’s affecting the entirety of Nigeria e.g: the education system in Nigeria is the worst I have ever seen (no facilities), horrendous medical system ( people die over things that could have been easily prevented), bad roads (constant accidents), worst airport and aviation system in the world ( constant plane crash), Power supply and electricity (Nigeria is amongst the top 10 crude oil producing nation in the world but we still don’t have power supply, sometimes there is even scarcity of fuel). Does this all make sense to you now, that Nigeria has all this problems because somebody somewhere is looting money at the detriment of the citizens. Don’t you think you deserve better than this, our children and generations to come deserve better than this. We all need to fight and break this yoke of corruption and it all starts with the mindset. Peace

  86. cathy

    July 27, 2012 at 4:56 pm

    hahaahaha we shout, jump and criticize all things wrong but we never honestly want change. sad but true

  87. jeanette

    July 27, 2012 at 5:11 pm

    Nigerians sure know how to talk. I’m not Nigerian but I grew up in Nigerian from ages 7-15 and I feel I’m part Nigerian. The lot of us (if you will permit me) are CHEATS! Everyone! From the worker who retires more money to his company than s/he spends to the underpaid nannies, butlers, drivers, cooks, cleaners, you name it. From the average Jane on this blog who disses her fellow girl for re-rocking a piece and who suggests that a girl on honest pay who is struggling to make ends meet should as you have often put it – hire a stylist – to the celebration of the children of the very people who we all know to be thieves. Why are we behaving so SANCTIMONIOUS? And please can anyone show me one, just 1 politician in Nigeria who is not corrupt? Are you saying they should disown them all? And you wonder why Nigeria remains stagnant. Giants of Africa, WAKE UP!

  88. Beau

    July 27, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Not to flog a dead horse but people please stop and think before you rationalize evil.
    If my brother were an armed robber would I condone it because he is my flesh and blood and because I can benefit from his ill gotten gains? If my father were a murderer would I say it’s okay to condone his act because he is my flesh and blood and I am a beneficiary of his largess? Should we now condone all acts of rape, incest, murder, homosexuality, bestiality, corruption, witchcraft etc because we should not be ‘holier than thou’ as’ nobody holy pass Jesus’? Since we fall occasionally we should all shut up and let everyone run amok and do as they please? What a wonderful place the world would be if we simply do all these right?
    Common, people your salvation is very important, it is no joke. We need to remember the children of who we claim to be in Christ. The question we should ultimately ask ourselves is do we engage in acts we would be ashamed to give account of before God? Everybody will stand on their own to give an account I say. Let’s not get bogged down by trying to rationalize stuff.
    Any child of God born of water and fire really ought to hate wickedness and evil in its entirety, regardless of who is perpetuating the act. The very nature of God despises sin and all manner of evil; therefore, if we truly are born-again and have taken on this nature we should not find it difficult to do what is right before God. The nature of Christ in you should make it possible for you to reject wickedness and evil and speak out against it. It’s not rocket science. Will I disown my father? It is not for me to disown him to begin with, but I will most definitely keep my distance from it all lest I become weak and tow his line. I will be his conscience if he doesn’t have any per chance I bring him to his senses. I love my father too much to let him carry on a path that would lead him to destruction. It is for the sake of love that God corrects us and instructs us in the way we should go so that we too will not meet a fiery end. God is love as we should love our family and set them straight.
    At the end of it all these things shall pass away and what are we left with? Where will we stand? What will we say?

    • JenniferSanders

      July 27, 2012 at 6:39 pm

      Preach it Beau. You hit all the points, couldn’t have said it any better.

    • Tolu

      July 27, 2012 at 7:33 pm

      Thank you o. Laide asked @Thatgidigil if she will be civil to an armed robber, rapist or ritual killer, she conveniently avoided that question, and went on yarning dust. The day we as a people put corruption in the same box as armed robbers, rapists and ritual killers, maybe then our eyes will open. After all armed robbers and ritual killers are also into it to make money.

  89. Bianca

    July 27, 2012 at 7:54 pm

    It makes sense why Nigeria can’t move forward because their mindset is distorted. Even, ones that are not in position of power share the same mentality of ones who are in and abusing power. Nigeria is built on a dishonest way of thinking. You have to lie your way to be successful in Nigeria. You have young generation who have the same corrupt mindset, they don’t know any better. I’m convinced that there’s no hope for Nigeria’s future because the same corrupted mindset is passed down. You see young Nigerians who are involved in dishonest business, they lie about everything, infact lying is part of the culture, it’s a norm, went through the illegal way to travel abroad, involve in 419 scam business and it’s a shame that they don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s sickening. It’s a change of mindset, and Nigerians stop being so religious and start practicing what they preach.

  90. AmberSchultz

    July 27, 2012 at 8:58 pm

    Then you wonder why Nigeria is the way it is. These are the same people that go to Church, Mosque or Shrine and pray and fast for a better Nigeria. Meanwhile you don’t see anything wrong in stealing money at the detriment of other citizens. I have said it before praying and fasting cannot save Nigeria with the kind of mindset and mentality people have. It all starts in the mind. Most people have become so immune to corruption that it has now become a norm and a way of life.

  91. Ajoke

    July 28, 2012 at 12:59 am

    Should I even be shocked by this comments, this is why we will never move forward, smh.

  92. Major

    July 28, 2012 at 6:33 am

    The question (“If na your papa, you go disown am?“) from whence all these (scalding) comments (erroneously directed at fellow commenters) stemmed from, itself stemmed from guilt. Guilt makes everyone jump on the offensive. I couldn’t read all the comments but from the 50 or so I’ve gone through, it looks like a repetitive pattern. I’m truly sorry for my country. It’s true that nobody can sincerely say yes to the question, but one can live independent of his father’s financial support. It all boils down to conscience. Stealing from the rich to feed the poor is still stealing, so no good can come from bad.

  93. Mata Hari

    July 28, 2012 at 1:49 pm

    For those who won’t disown would you report your father to the authorities? The father of the infamous underpants bomber was honorable to report his own son.

  94. Imma

    July 28, 2012 at 9:13 pm

    Everyone has a right to their personal opinion. I don’t know why some people have to throw missiles and bombs at each other. It seems like a boko haram war in here. Goodness gracious.

  95. Bianca

    July 28, 2012 at 11:22 pm

    @ Mata Hari

    If you don’t disown your father, report him to authorities. There has to be consequence for his bad actions. One of my good friends father was involved in 419 scam, had illegal medical supply business here in the U.S. His own son eventually turned him in to authority and he’s currently serving his time. They are not speaking at the moment because the dad is so angry for what his son did. The best way to clear your conscience and go against any evil ways. The sad part is, Nigerians don’t hold each other accountable. The government are very lenient on corrupt leaders because all of them are corrupt. No form of consequence, they just do whatever.

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