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How Many “Shades of Grey” For A Nigerian Woman?

Ainehi Edoro

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You’ve probably heard all the noise about the book  Fifty Shades of Grey by British author E.L James and you’re wondering what makes it a best-seller. I’m going to try and demystify the book for those of you who haven’t read it and then leave you to decide whether it’ll be worth your while.

The Plot: Ana Steele is a virgin’s virgin. She’s 21 and has never had a real kiss. Christian Grey, on the other hand, is a 27 year old billionaire with control issues and when it comes to sex and relationships, he is a bit twisted. When Ana meets Mr. Grey during an interview for her college newspaper and falls for him, you know it would be the first of many things for both her and Mr. Grey. Ana is your girl next door. She’s finishing a degree in English, works at a hardware store and drives an old beetle. But she’s in love with a wealthy man who is so obsessed with control that he would not touch her until she signs a legal document giving him control over her body to do with as he pleases. Naive and impressionable, meeting Christian Grey is, for Ana, a dizzying ride down the rabbit hole of sex, money, and power.

My Thoughts: So, what is new about this book? After all, it’s merely Pretty Woman with lots of kinky sex. How many Nollywood movies have told and retold the story of the poor, naive damsel and the charming cash machine lover? So why the hype? Why is this story gripping the imagination of millions of women across the world? And as women living in Nigeria who do not have young white American billionaires to deal with on a daily basis, why should you bother joining the conversation?

The answer is simple. Fifty Shades of Grey makes women tick because it exploits anxieties and fantasies that everyone thought were dead and buried, thanks to feminism.An example is the subtle desire for a controlling man. Take Nigeria for example. You could argue that men with Mr. Grey’s kinky sexual taste are rare in Nigeria. I personally don’t think they’re that rare, but that’s discussion for another day. What is definitely not rare are Nigerian men who love to have financial and sexual control over their women. But what kind of woman would find these types of men appealing? Ask yourself: could you ever be caught in a relationship where even though you suspect that your guy loves you mostly for your body and what he can do to it, you stick around because you like the idea of being the center of  his money, power and eccentric sexual needs? Could it even be that, embarrassed as you might be to admit it, you love the control freak in him? I have to admit, though, that it’s easy to think like this when you’re dealing with a certain kind of controlling man.

Let me bring Mr. Grey a tad closer to home. It’ll help clarify things. Picture your young Lagos entrepreneur  who comes from old family money but has succeeded in building an empire all by himself. He lives in a Lekki mansion but with fleet of cars and a helicopter; he lives and loves Lagos like he owns it. Women meet him and they instantly go weak in their knees. He’s an art connoisseur and a lover of the classics. He knows his Soyinka as much as he knows his Mozart. With money, self-confidence, and mad sex appeal, he can get anyone to do just about anything. Hard work, healthy living, and zero tolerance for hard drugs keep him grounded.

Now there you are, just graduated from university, your life spread out before you like one big puzzle. Amidst all the uncertainties of job haunting, living in a big city, and searching for love, you meet a man like this. On the practical side of things, he can and is more than willing to give you the security you need. In fact, he’s begging to spend money on you. But then, money and security aside, you are in love with him and you know that he has strong feelings for you. But the catch is this: Mr. Perfect comes with a dark and troubled past that has made him incapable of thinking about relationships beyond the desire to dominate. So Mr. Perfect tells you: “Look, I want you so much that I want to own your body. When it comes to sex, I want you to do things with me that are majorly unconventional. I’ll make you push your sexual boundaries, but I’ll never ever hurt you. And I assure you that whatever it is we do, you’re bound to love.”  What will you do?

That’s pretty much the question the novel is asking. When I first heard about the story, all the feminist bone in my body went on a rampage. I couldn’t help thinking that that there was something deeply wrong about the scenario. But that didn’t stop me from itching to know how things unraveled. What did Ana do? What would I have done? Is it possible to change a man like Mr. Grey from a mindless-sex machine to a doting boyfriend? When it comes to experimenting in the bedroom, where should a woman draw the line and and how can she make herself understood? I’m not saying that Fifty Shades of Grey is a relationship manual, but then novels, no matter how fictional, fantastic, or weird, try to grapple with real-life issues.

My recommendation: In all my years as a novel reader, I have never come across such a massive collection of the world’s most worn-out sexual cliches. Fifty Shades is not the most well-written novel. In fact, the writing is abysmally poor. It’s pretty much a long list of cringe-worthy sentences, but somehow the book manages to be an irresistible pageturner. If you love Bridget Jones Diary and you’re hankering for some good ole romantic story, you’ll enjoy reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Just so you know, the book goes well with a nice plush couch, wine or tea, and a room of your own.

Where you can buy Fifty Shades of Grey: Amazon.com (e-book and paperback)

The Publisher: Arrow

Year of Publication: April, 2012

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Ainehi Edoro blogs at Brittle Paper (brittlepaper.com)

I'm finishing up a phd at Duke University where I study African novels, which I believe are some of the loveliest things ever written. Brittle Paper is a blog where I live and write fun and ridiculous things about African literature and the African literary scene. Come say hi at {brittlepaper.com}Twitter handle: @brittlepaper Instagram: @brittlepaper

135 Comments

  1. ZM

    July 5, 2012 at 6:42 pm

    This! The moment I finished the 1st chapter I was confused, I didn’t understand the hype, It was Mills and Boons meet BDSM. I certainly do not find Mr Grey’s character attractive, ugh. although phrases like laters, baby caught my attention. The people fascinated about the 50 shades trilogy either don’t read much, don’t read a lot of erotica or are in very dissatisfied relationships. And I found the sex rather irksome.
    http://uberchicmichi.blogspot.com

    • Nwunye

      July 6, 2012 at 1:14 am

      I think I LOVE YOU. Thank you o! I have been preaching. Nobody listens.

    • IceTee

      July 6, 2012 at 2:43 am

      Thank you!!!!

    • ij

      July 6, 2012 at 10:06 am

      “The people fascinated about the 50 shades trilogy either don’t read much, don’t read a lot of erotica or are in very dissatisfied relationships.”

      or just maybe , they simply like the story and not necessarily because they fall into any of the groups you mentioned, for crying out loud ,Erica James is not Honoré de Balzac.

    • Ms Ogelicious!

      July 18, 2012 at 6:28 pm

      My dear, I absolutely do not fall into any or your ‘little categories’ and I absolutely ENJOYED the books. Just so you know, the author is currently receiving fabulous acclaim. International o. She is making plenty money while you are here writing arrant nonsense. Those books (the entire trilogy), is a collection of awesomeness.
      U, madam/oga reviewer, how many books have you written???Rubbish! (putting on my half moon designer specs and crossing my hawt legs!).

  2. anon

    July 5, 2012 at 6:47 pm

    Dont know why everybody is going on about this book, heard its been dubbed “mummy porn” guess if you are single dont bother reading it cos it will only succeed in making you horny as shit.

    • sassycassie

      July 5, 2012 at 7:51 pm

      only if bondage, S and M, getting tied up, punched, fisted, damn near strangled, spanked wih a real cane, pounded in the name of having sex is your thing. the author of this book has a depraved mind ( yes na me talk am). I dont get the whole fascination with this book. it’s so sexually violent, it’s sickening

    • TG

      July 5, 2012 at 8:19 pm

      LMAO!!!!! U r funnaaaayY! Pls y’all should go to. http://www.obooko.com and download Free books jare. #bookaddict#

    • Ijeoma

      July 5, 2012 at 8:48 pm

      It will surprise you how man men in Nigeria want to be able to do that but are afraid of what their wives and girlfriends will say. So they go somewhere else…
      I think part of what makes Grey so appealing is that he can put his money where his mouth is. He made himself, he is disciplined, and he’s used to being the boss AND he has earned the title (big difference between him and many Naija guys who want to control you just because they think they are entitled to). And he’s not a complete a**hole. I thought he was a perverted psychotic at first but he grew on me A LOT towards the end. And it’s really not about the BDSM. It’s poorly written – probably because it started out as fan fiction – but the characters are interesting.

    • Lue

      July 6, 2012 at 9:05 am

    • UsaveOne

      July 5, 2012 at 8:14 pm

  3. purplepearl

    July 5, 2012 at 6:49 pm

    Now i feel like reading the book….Thanks for the extract

  4. Nice Anon

    July 5, 2012 at 6:55 pm

    At first when you read this book you’re like “oh i’m here for the erotica” Then as it goes on you some how fall in love with Christian Grey and wanna put a sock over Ana’s mouth because she talks(thinks)way too much. Book 1&2 aren’t half bad at all but then book 3 is just the writer taking the absolute piss. The conversations are redundant af! The sex scenes we’ve read and seen it all before. The love story is somewhat stomach churning. The dialogue doesn’t flow at all.

    My suggestion is read book 1&2 and then find a cliff note on book 3 and just call it a day jare.

  5. Atukpa

    July 5, 2012 at 7:02 pm

    I like your take on this book. I’m reading it and i have mixed feelings. It is erotica which is fine, but a lot of it is too intense for me. I’m skipping a lot of pages.

  6. chinco

    July 5, 2012 at 7:16 pm

    I love Bridget jones diary(novel n movie) but its not ur soppy romantic tale, she had a lotta ups n downs and d characters are very interesting. 50 shades of grey just sounds like d M&B novels I used to read as a pre teen. As regards wat I wld do in a real life suitation, I’ll go with it but make sure I don’t become obsessed in d process, as a career gal,I’ll also try 2 get wat I can from him, career wise.

  7. Tobechdaniel

    July 5, 2012 at 7:21 pm

    Give me a romance book straight and skip all the cringe worthy pages. If I wanted BDSM, I would have bought it. Sometimes too much is just too much. Jeez.
    http://tobechidaniel.blogspot.com

  8. Mermaid

    July 5, 2012 at 7:43 pm

    Oh well, I have read all three books twice in the space of 1 month and all I can say is- I absolutely love it! I also beg to differ that the book was abysmally poorly written. Personally, I feel like the writer’s choice of words and how she was able to string the entire world along with her plot and characterization is just simply amazing and the art of story telling at its best.

  9. M

    July 5, 2012 at 7:43 pm

    I used to tell my christian sisters to pray never to meet a very, rich and powerful man with a dark sexual side, cos it’s only the grace of God cos ……..story for another day. The man will confuse not only your life but those around you in Nigeria. He will use family, friends to confuse u

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 9:01 am

      excuse my curiosity. But i’m intrigued by your story. do share. pwetty pwease. I dated someone with a dark sexual side once. he used to be very rich and powerful but he lost his wealth before he met me. I wasnt having any of his crappiness and pervesion so yeah we were fought A LOT. he was very good looking , could charm the pants off you in a min- and he looked so innocent I let him go jor. I like my peace of mind.

  10. Ray

    July 5, 2012 at 7:48 pm

    The xtract is wonderful. Now i wish to lay my hands on dis book and do justice to it.

  11. Ray

    July 5, 2012 at 7:48 pm

    The xtract is wonderful. Now i wish i could lay my hands on dis book and do justice to it.

  12. frank

    July 5, 2012 at 8:01 pm

    This book is not so different from other mills and boon bovels BUT it keeps u wanting more, it opens up the chest of sexual desires most women actually long for but are locked up due to societal pressure. I actually enjoyed it!!!!

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 9:10 am

      Please can we stop all these generalisation about women. if bondage and domination is you and gfs’/wife’s /exes’ thing, go h’ead wif ya bad selves. but please dont assume that’s what every woman ‘secretly’ wants. Now a lof of naija men will start using this as an excuse for violence ‘cos dat’s what women ”secretly long” for ,right?

  13. ij

    July 5, 2012 at 8:07 pm

    its either you love it or you hate it, the author did not write it to be taken too seriously , its basically a love story with a loooooooooooot of kinky sex. I guess the hype is because most people like a good love story and E.L James delivered on that and she is smiling all the way to the bank. I guess the moral if the book has one, is that even extreme differences can be accommodated in relationships , neither is there one way to attaining happiness and fulfilment in a relationship,do whatever works for you ,the conventional is becoming very passé and a lot of people are embracing newer ways of entertaining themselves . I liked the book and can’t wait for the movie

    • ij

      July 5, 2012 at 8:10 pm

      meanwhile I have the 3 books on PDF if anyone wants it, send me an email [email protected]

    • Abs

      July 6, 2012 at 10:48 am

      errrrm I wanna send u a mail oo. so tempted but dont wanna open a can of worms by reading these books. 🙂

      http://www.abadawoode.blogspot.com

    • omada

      July 6, 2012 at 11:16 pm

      pls i just sent an email. 🙂

    • Brownsugah

      July 17, 2012 at 3:58 pm

      I have sent u a mail, Ij! please reply with the books abeg! The have stirred up my curiousity and i can only conclude by reading it myself. Thanks!
      http://nitabrownsugah.wordpress.com

    • Dulcinia

      July 27, 2012 at 1:44 pm

      Ij pls send me the books [email protected]-thanks

    • Adesuwa

      July 30, 2012 at 10:45 am

      I just did. Hope to hear from yo soon. Thank you

  14. Janded

    July 5, 2012 at 8:10 pm

    I am also an avid reader and I am currently reading 50 shades. I agree that the writing is kinda poor but this is a romantic fantasy that excites the “inner goddess” of every woman. The author makes an otherwise twisted sexual being so appealing and sexy. Christian Grey is every woman’s fantasy, rich, wickedly handsome, charismatic and has great sexual control. The book basically gives a peek into the world of BDSM yet giving the reader choices and limits. Who would think a woman like Ana a virgin would be so drawn to a devious sexual world but yet she is. I think innately, women love to be dominated in bed. We want a man to take charge. I must say I am turned on by the book but some stuff in there are definitely hard limits for me.

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 9:06 am

      ” inner goddess”? more like inner deep seated insecurities. Please dont assume you can speak for all women. if bondage and domination is your thing, go h’ead wif ya bad self. but please dont assume that’s what every woman ‘secretly’ wants.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      July 7, 2012 at 2:43 am

      lol.. hahahaha.. deep come back…

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

  15. habba!

    July 5, 2012 at 8:21 pm

    i did not like the book! the girl had no self confidence and she was doing too much thinking about nothing! the Man was like 26 years old had all this money and wanted to be punching peoples vagina! maybe if it was a movie it wud be ok! but as a book i was quite annoyed by the lack of confidence the woman had!

    • Nwunye

      July 6, 2012 at 1:19 am

      Hahahahahaahahahah! The phrase ‘punching people’s vagina’ will haunt me as long as I live.

    • Pd

      July 7, 2012 at 12:55 pm

      Punching…….lmao

  16. Aba

    July 5, 2012 at 8:50 pm

    As someone rightly said, the book is just like marmite, you either hate or you love it, no in betweens and boy how I hated it. I bought it just because like a lot of people, I wanted to know what the hype was all about. I managed to read the book to the end, gosh I had to as I needed to know if the storyline will get any better. It didn’t. Will I be reading the other two books? NO. EL James has a very good PR machinery as as yet another article appeared on UK Daily Mail yesterday that a lot of babies will be born next year because of 50 shades! The book wasn’t for me, it was very poorly written, the supposed sex stuff dragged and dragged I just wanted to find someone and thump with the book!

  17. observant

    July 5, 2012 at 9:57 pm

    Haha.nyc! Jus that there is something odd in d way the writer of this excerpt went 4rm talking abt d character 2 talking about herself in d line” and how can she make MYSELF understood.” I thot it shld av been herself.wats up writer?do u have a personal, sexy,sexed craved control freak in your life?haahah

    • iya oloja

      July 6, 2012 at 12:52 pm

      @Observant, noticed it too…hahaha

  18. TALover

    July 5, 2012 at 9:59 pm

    And as the story goes…. you just joined the crew giving the book a lot of press! Funny how people dismiss it but continue to talk about it and share, which = more publicity for the author!

  19. TALover

    July 5, 2012 at 10:04 pm

    Oh, and how insane?!?! Theres close to 8000 reviews about the book on Amazon. Authour’s delight or nigthmare?!?! …SMH

    • ij

      July 6, 2012 at 9:47 am

      Author’s delight i tell you ,20 million copies worldwide, fastest-selling paperback of all time surpassing the Harry Potter series. Again Author’s delight!!

  20. MBeezy

    July 5, 2012 at 10:11 pm

    Reading your summary above, I think quite a handful of women are going to grab this and read it with the expectation that its some sort of Mills & Boon or light erotica

    However this plot is actuall pretty standard as far as BDSM goes, and BDSM has a lot to do with mental & sexual manipulation. However, although the guy is a sadomasochist with a preference for bondage, violent plays, breath control, torture etc It does not neccesarily imply that he is depraved or not in love with the girl.

    As per your question as to what kind of women find this appealing..you’d be surprised. I personally cannot be in a relationship without there being a good aspect of it being of a subdom nature, both mentally & sexually, the key aspect however is establishing trust and love BEFORE exploring further into that type of relationship. The man in the book is all kinds of appealing as a dom…the witholding, the control..infact please give me the document make i sign if she no go sign am. Shuo, naija men no be into bdsm like that, its hard out here for a naija sub. Lol.

    But seriously, I can see how the whole book can be upsetting or depraved to some women, especially is a new or previously unexplored concept .. and hey, diferent strokes for different folks.

  21. miadm

    July 5, 2012 at 11:13 pm

    @TG, thanks 4d obooko link. Just joined! Nw I av a whole range of books 2wread witout payn a dime

    • TG

      July 6, 2012 at 9:23 am

      You are sooooo welcome. Enjoy.

  22. Queen

    July 5, 2012 at 11:16 pm

    After reading all these comments i can tell this book is for hungry old women, who started having sex at a young age, bored of their regular sex life as they are now old and want something new, and of course this book gives them what they want. If not, just for horny little girls :/ i will not read such a book, i don’t want to pollute my mind with such evil smh! God bless the minds of those who read it, i will pray and fast for you that your vagina doesn’t swell after your man punches it for you. Smh !

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 10:30 am

      lolz. u’re right on the money, ma!

    • Purpleicious Babe

      July 7, 2012 at 2:46 am

      lol.. hahahaha.. nawahoooo…

      dont get the last sentence?? . lol. #renewmind’

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

  23. tee

    July 5, 2012 at 11:28 pm

    still cant get over mummy porn very funny. am still on my first chapter i still get what the fuss is about .

  24. NNENNE

    July 6, 2012 at 1:09 am

    Nice reviews! Now, I feel like reading the book.

  25. Ajoke

    July 6, 2012 at 1:11 am

    Good article! You pretty much summed up my sentiments about the book, very poorly written but somewhat interesting. I got about half way through and couldn’t finish it because the writing style was so annoying. Also, I found the book less enjoyable because the characters were white and when I imagined everything in my head it wasn’t as uuumm, nevermind. I know that last sentence sounds kind of racist but I’m just being honest lol.

  26. Nwunye

    July 6, 2012 at 1:15 am

    I think I LOVE YOU. Thank you o! I have been preaching. I thought no one was listening. By the way have you read the Rowan Pelling review in the Telegraph? Very spot on.

    Nice review.

  27. fussylizy

    July 6, 2012 at 1:22 am

    TG, that is one fantastic site; you just made my day. Cheers!

    • TG

      July 6, 2012 at 9:28 am

      I totally agree, it rocks! Lol. Welcome to da club. Enjoy.

  28. Bianca

    July 6, 2012 at 2:01 am

    I was intrigued by the book at first but towards the end of the book, I lost all interest. Honestly, the society is into this whole sexual freedom, like it’s going to save the world. How far are we willing to go? After having the intense sex, so what happens after that? How far are we willing to go to get more pleasure or feel accepted? Well, it depends on individual. Everybody has sexual fantasies or crazy imaginations but doesn’t necessarily mean you have to play or act it out. My bf is great in bed but one day he asked if he can tie me up while he does anal sex on me. My response was, sorry, you are with the wrong person. I already feel somehow that we are having sex, now this. I told him, he should go find another girl to do that with, there are certain things I just can’t do. I hate when women or men use it as an excuse to cheat or if the woman is not giving him what he wants, he will leave. My confidence, dignity doesn’t come from how much sexual craziness I can take. Upon that, the man will steal step out because it’s never enough for him. i believe everything goes back to self control. I mean, our parent had sex, reproduced before all this sexual freedom came into the picture, and they seem fine, so what’s the big deal.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      July 7, 2012 at 2:53 am

      oh no tie you up ke?? when you are not a dog.lol. thank God u drew the line.

      I tire for the sexual perversion sef… u said it all. after all then what?? VANITY UPON VANITY. ITS ALL VANITY.

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

    • YummyMummy

      July 30, 2012 at 4:30 pm

      buhahahaha…….Laughing really loud…tieing up plus anal to gbono feli feli….

  29. izzy

    July 6, 2012 at 3:44 am

    I agree with the pooorly written part but it sure was entertaining. I read the 3 books in a couple of days…what can i say, i like to finish what i start. For the sake of progress in life and salvaging brain cells, dont read book 3, waste of glucose turning the page.

  30. pynk

    July 6, 2012 at 8:36 am

    I will probably be the first Naija erotica writer. That said, 50 shades of grey was extremely over-rated especially if u are just into sex and straight vanilla brapping and not the whole mile into BSDM.
    As for Naija babes, you will find that many women will try almost anything once, however anastasia got the cake – a rich man that married her. Try being experimental in naija, u will probably end up with a few BROKE boyfriends and a ridiculous reputation.

  31. mama tamar

    July 6, 2012 at 9:04 am

    I totally agree with your analysis of the book! I think it’s got the spell of being an irresistible page turner. Curiosity at it’s peak! And somehow, you get to always slip yourself into Ana’s shoes and ask “what would i do if it was me”!

  32. Ces

    July 6, 2012 at 9:16 am

    What Nigerian man knows his Soyinka and ‘his’ Mozart ?

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 10:36 am

      lolz. the million dollar question!

    • Turayo

      July 6, 2012 at 9:01 pm

      LMAO

  33. climax

    July 6, 2012 at 9:39 am

    i beg to differ, i love the book, call me twisted, i am one of those girl who doesn`t pretend that they don`t like sex, judge me all you want, i am married and i like t get spanked once in a while during sex, and my hubby is willing to oblige, that is what rocks our booat, that you have conservative views about sex doesnt mean everyone will be like you….some of us love to get adventurous, it doesnt mean we have issues, its just how some people are made, i agree the scenes in the book are a bit exaggerated, but for a naughty girl like me i find it entertaining. Some women feel that the book paints a picture of a woman being reduced to disgraceful level, but funny enough, anna enjoyed it and she has this certain power as well over Christian, wether we like it or not, women have to accept that they will always be under men, ask women in successful marriages, make a man feel like a king while also maintaining a certain level of your own individuality, he will be like putty in your hands, so forget this women`s lib rubbish, it is totally unrealistic and misleading, why do you think a damsel in distress always appeals to men, cos it gives him leave to exhibit his masculinity and the protective streak in him……and correction to the writer, he touched her even before she signed the contract.

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 10:35 am

      being a man or having control in the bedroom=/= BDSM. and yes if your hubby punches your vajayjay, your face, burst your lip open, fists your a-hole like chrstian grey does all in d name of spicing things up or being naughty, you and your husband need serious therapy. a lil bum tapping is the same as being lascerated with a whip!!

    • climax

      July 6, 2012 at 11:14 am

      lol, i knew some people would be miffed, no sweetie he doesnt punch my vajayjay, bust my lips or those other things, just some little spanking in the rear……lol, we dont need any therapy.

    • fairweatherfriendnot

      July 6, 2012 at 7:11 pm

      ooh, i have been a hard head and still am but you are so right. And even though my hubby totally adores me (just like i do him) , it’ ll even be better when i let him be king and that i have realized.

  34. Summer

    July 6, 2012 at 9:47 am

    @ TG…der s nting free abt those books…. 🙁 or maybe am goin abt it d wrong way. Bt all d freebies I saw r junkies

  35. well

    July 6, 2012 at 9:56 am

    i love christian grey anyday anytime….twisted? yes…but common, someone made him that way…it wasnt entirely his fault….i enjoyed all three books

  36. Summer

    July 6, 2012 at 10:29 am

    @ TG….. I found it thanks a bunch…. 🙂

    • TG

      July 6, 2012 at 3:32 pm

      Hahhaha….u got me worried for a bit! U are welcome. Enjoy.

  37. Abs

    July 6, 2012 at 10:38 am

    Been reading reviews about this book for about two weeks now and in all its been made clear that the book isn’t a well-written one. I guess folks are missing the M&Bs, Harlequins and Silhouettes days thus the mighty hype for this book. Ain’t gonna buy.

    http://www.abadawoode.blogspot.com

  38. pretty confused

    July 6, 2012 at 10:50 am

    hmmmm…………..from BN’s extract is the story of what am presently going thru.am so confused,in love,scared the list is endless.i really need your advice please.am Ana in the extract.

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 11:25 am

      please pick your shoes and run as fast as you can without looking back. an abusive relationship will fuck you up mentally, psychologicall, emotionally and physically. it will make u question your worth as a woman-heck as a human being. my major gripe with 50 shades is the the way it romanticizes abuse. yeah christian eventually ‘changes’ and marries ann, but at what cost. we women need to rid ourselves of this destructive saviour mentality. it might sound appealing in fictio, but that ish will drain you in real life. IT.WILL.MESS.YOU.UP!!!!! THERE’S NOTHING SEXY ABOUT ABUSE. DO NOT FANTASIZE ABOUT ABUSE.lET THOSE WHO HAVE EARS LISTEN

    • ij

      July 6, 2012 at 12:06 pm

      For the Love of God, keep your hair on , this book is a love story between 2 people , one who is very heavily into BDSM and the other a totally inexperienced but willing to try virgin. She wasn’t FORCED to do anything she didn’t want to, not to spoil the book for others who haven’t read it but at some point she left him.
      Their relationship was NOT an abusive relationship, it was just not your conventional, take me to Mr Biggs, hold hands, go see a movie, then do me relationship .
      @pretty confused, i think as an adult you know when a relationship is doing more harm than good, if you are not happy then get out of the relationship , if you dont feel safe in a relationship , you know what to do.

  39. Emeralds

    July 6, 2012 at 10:57 am

    I love romance but do we have it here?

    http://houseofemeralds.blogspot.com/

  40. vampirahna

    July 6, 2012 at 12:30 pm

    choi!! everyone’s comment is entertaining on its own without having to read the book. y’all just made my morning!

  41. sassycassie

    July 6, 2012 at 12:33 pm

    SHE WAS WILLING TO TRY BECAUSE SHE FELT SHE COULD MAKE HIM MORE LOVING BY GETTING INVOLVED IN THE THINGS CHRISTIAN LOVED. SHE WAS WILLING TO TRY COSSHE FELT THAT WAS THE ONLY WAY SHE COULD PROVE HER LOVE FOR HIM…TO LOVE HIM INTO REDEMPTION. SO YES MA IT WAS AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. JUST NBECAUSE SHE WAS A WILLING PARTNER DOESNT MAKE IT ANY LESS

    • ij

      July 6, 2012 at 1:25 pm

      writing in shouty capitals is not going to change the fact that Ana was curious, scared at some point because Christian’s lifestyle was new to her, all the same , she enjoyed the kinky side of Christian maybe not all of it but she made it clear what she could not accommodate and because he wanted her anyway he could , he compromised , how is that an abusive relationship?

  42. mie

    July 6, 2012 at 2:51 pm

    2 each his own!

  43. brownie

    July 6, 2012 at 3:01 pm

    What I’m more miffed about than this book (which I haven’t read and will not be reading) is how complacent we have become in this world when it comes to many things and especially in the area of premarital sex. Just today I read a very interesting article on how the Church (all of us who are believers) is in danger of becoming lukewarm. The ease with which we now accept things that God clearly frowns upon is mind boggling to me. Yes I know this is fiction but it still doesn’t change the fact that reading this book really can open up a can of worms in our thoughts, minds and lives. I’ve pasted the article for those interested in reading.

    The Hole Under The Door

    February 2011

    I know your deeds that you are neither cold nor hot. I would that you were cold or hot. So because you are lukewarm and neither hot nor cold I will spit you out of my mouth. – Revelation 3:15-16

    I noticed it almost immediately–the hole under the door. My discovery came while lying prostrate on the floor in a time of intimate prayer. I had known that the insulation at the base of the doorways in our home had begun to wear with age, but I had never seen the proof this clearly.
    I often have my quiet time in my bedroom. Sometimes I pray sitting on the bed or kneeling by my open window, but today, after asking the Lord to speak clearly during our time together, I felt prompted to lie flat. Turning my head to the side brought my vision directly in line with the base of the door in my bedroom that leads to the outdoor patio. In the center at the base of the door between its bottom edge and the carpeted bedroom floor was a hole. The insulation designed to keep out the cold air of winter and the heat of the summer had begun to disintegrate. Years of swinging the door open and closed to access the backyard had rubbed the insulation harshly causing it to no longer adequately supply the padding needed. Trying to ignore this seemingly trivial and unspiritual interruption to my quiet time, I closed my eyes and tried to refocus. But I couldn’t . . .
    “There’s a hole under the door.” The Holy Spirit’s voice resonated deep within me. I remembered the hot Texas summer months when my bedroom had been the hottest room in the house. Even with our air condition turned on high, our room was still uncomfortably warm. And this January brought some of the coldest days that Dallas would probably see for the year; my bedroom was never quite warm enough as the cold air seeped into the room. I huddled cozily into the warm terrycloth robe my mother had purchased me for Christmas as the wintry air from outside crept in and swept across my face. All those months of trying to figure out why our bedroom wasn’t ever fully warm or fully cool made sense now. I had found the culprit-the hole under the door.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    “The Spirit of the age seeps into the church,” the great Francis Schaeffer once said. This quote flashed into my mind as I recalled the encouraging words that an older woman recently said to me. She sat me down to remind me of the craftiness of this world. In her wisdom, she had challenged me to always remember that I was a part of the church, and I must beware of the often unnoticed impressions that the world and its influences have on even well-guarded Christians. This cunning influence is made not in overt or explicit ways but delicately as it seeps unseen and unnoticed through the holes we have left unguarded. The result: a spiritual thermostat that reads “lukewarm,” an atmosphere that is not leaning to either extreme.
    Was this what the Holy Spirit was saying to the church of Laodicea as recorded in Revelation 3? These believers were the last of the seven churches to be addressed. Each one had received its own specific set of instruction and was admonished to hear and obey what they had been told. Refusal to do this would result in a removal of the very presence and power of God from their midst. When the time came to address the specific needs of this church body, the Spirit spoke of their inability to be used by Him because of their “lukewarm” temperature. In no uncertain terms, he makes clear that they would have to be set aside until they determined to re-ignite the fire of passion in their relationship to God. He stated that he would prefer that they choose an extreme, either red hot or icy cold, because being lukewarm wasn’t an acceptable option. The middle ground of mediocrity-halfhearted indifference-weakened their effectiveness and diluted their usefulness. The reality of this passage began to unravel in my mind’s eye. Our bedroom had become the least used room because, like Laodecia, it had holes that needed to be fixed.
    What had caused the tepid apathy of this church? What had crept in through the hole under their spiritual door? The writer puts it this way in Revelation 3:17, “For you say, I am rich, I have prospered and I need nothing, not realizing that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked.” Like an alarm clock breaking the silence of the spiritual night and jarring these believers awake from their slumber, the Holy Spirit spoke with clarity to address them. The Spirit of the age had begun to seep into this church. Instead of trusting in the divine riches they had discovered in Christ, they had placed faith in the physical wealth they had acquired. They had become blind to their own depravity and need for more than what their money could buy. Thirty-five years prior to this letter, Laodecia had been destroyed by an earthquake and their resources had established their recovery. As a result, they had begun to trust in what they could do for themselves rather than what Christ had done for them and wanted to do through them. The cool breeze of self-sufficiency was seeping into the church and chilling the temperature of their relationship with God.
    I couldn’t move from my prostrate position as the same Spirit that spoke to the believers at Laodecia 2000 years ago spoke clearly to me. “You belong to my church Priscilla, and you are the very temple of the living God. Watch for the holes through which the subtle spirits of this age have begun to seep in and corrupt the purity of our relationship”. As I stared at the glaring physical illustration of a deep spiritual principle, I began to feel soothing conviction as the holes in my “church” and the effect they had caused were revealed. I saw clearly the spirit of the age that had begun to seep in through that movie and magazine; television program and idle time; book and relationship. I could see how the world’s spirit had caused my judgment to become slightly impaired; my spiritual vision partially blocked; and my ambitions leaning toward fleshly. As clearly as my physical eyes could see the hole under the door in my bedroom, the Spirit allowed my spiritual eyes to see the fissures that were keeping my relationship with Christ mild tempered and worldly.
    After my quiet time, I called a contractor to fix the problem with my bedroom door. By the time she came, another major renovation had already begun. The Contractor of my soul had arrived to help me begin to patch up the holes in my life so that my fiery passion for God could remain ignited, flaming and furiously heated, not just now but until I see Him face to face.

    • Purpleicious Babe

      July 7, 2012 at 2:59 am

      WOW………..

      AMAZING……. SIMPLY AMAZING AND WELL WRITTEN. Yep we are lukewarm…

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

    • Partyrider

      July 8, 2012 at 10:05 pm

      Awesome!
      Thanks a lot for this.

    • brownie

      July 9, 2012 at 11:05 am

      you’re welcome!

  44. TG

    July 6, 2012 at 3:48 pm

    With all these comments and drama who needs the book? *grabs popcorn sprinkled with malteasers* This is more interesting! Hehehhheheehee.

  45. BK

    July 6, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    nothing wrong with a good spanking. lol

  46. climax

    July 6, 2012 at 4:28 pm

    @sassy casssie, you must have had a terrible experience, i think you are the one that needs therapy to help you get over it, its just a book for Pete`s sake, and we have different sexual preferences, get a grip on yourself, your vehemence isnt necessary

    • sassycassie

      July 6, 2012 at 5:28 pm

      lol. dont get it twisted,ma. like i said i dont do abusive relationships. i wont stick around to be degraded by any man. i dont hav daddy issues and i didnt grow up in a dysfunctional family. however i have seen first hand ( from both friends and family) what it can do to a woman. trust me it aint pretty. that’s why i’m shocked at some of the comments praising the book. then again, i guess it’s a sign of the time we live in. when people start making look like women want to be treated the way anna was treated in the book, then we’re no longer talking fiction here. we’d all like to think that we’re smart enough to seperate fact from fiction, but time and again, life has proved this to be untrue. when it comes books and tv, there’s a thin line between the and the real. if this weren’t the case you would have so may people recreating sex acts they saw in porn movies or women longing for mr perfect as described in romance novels. anyways i’ll rest my case here. Just do you. just dont come on here or linda ikeji’s blog when things get outta hand to complain about abuse from your partner and asking for advice on what to do. adios

  47. Janded

    July 6, 2012 at 4:30 pm

    @Climax, you are dead on on how to make a man potty in your hands. That is how to really make a marriage work!

  48. QueenofEverything

    July 6, 2012 at 4:55 pm

    oh wow… maybe we should keep the personal out of it? #just saying… i for one will not be reading, i have been put off by all the hype surrounding it

  49. sassycassie

    July 6, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    sorry for the typos. typed too fast

  50. lilly

    July 6, 2012 at 7:48 pm

    i have heard all the hype and all that crap. As for me i don’t think i will be reading it. I will just stick to my DANIELLE STEEL novels and keep going. #sips wine

  51. Sexxie!

    July 7, 2012 at 11:55 am

    To each is own! Pls u guys shld let us enjoy ds book and decide for ourselves. I’m loving every page cos Christian Grey reminds me of my bobo. *wink*

  52. Anon

    July 7, 2012 at 6:34 pm

    @ Sexxie!

    Good for you, that Christian Grey remind you of your bobo. For me, he reminds me of a man, I don’t want to be with. I enjoy great sex without the extra or doing too much in the name of sex. I like simple things, yet still be satisfied.

  53. Chysom

    July 8, 2012 at 10:48 pm

    @TG.. U’re a sweetheart, thanks for d obooko link., the best link I’ve opened since ever……..just joined and I’m loving it already.. Still can’t believe I can get all these books for freeeeeee*screaming joyfully* #book addict#

    • TG

      July 10, 2012 at 12:40 pm

      Bisou, Bisou.

  54. tee

    July 9, 2012 at 1:53 am

    The author’s got a damn good PR, read the book within a day.. my verdict – average mummy porn ,there are better erotic books out there

  55. Jamce

    July 9, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    MBeezy, I find it difficult to accept that a guy who is a “sadomasochist with a preference for bondage, violent plays, breath control, torture etc… does not neccesarily imply that he is depraved…” The truth is that such a person is depraved or possessed or demonized. The guy may truly love the girl but the mind is depraved. Do you realize that most stories of domestic violence or violence against women by a guy is not because of lack of love but because the guy is depraved or possessed. This is why after the violent act they turned around to beg, be overly loving and promising and swearing that such acts of violence will never be repeated. In the next few hours or days the process starts again and they will tell you that they do not know why they get into such murderous mood.

    It is also known that some women enjoy violence and violent sex. This too is depravity and these things creep on us as a result of exposure to their glorification through books, movies and financial inducements. The more you get involved in something out of the ordinary, the more your mind and body begin to get attuned to its enjoyment even when it is killing you psychologically and physically. This is how addiction starts. Of course demon forces are waiting to catch on such slips to bound the person to such addiction and begin to influence the person’s mind to like and crave for such item of addiction.

    Please note that from time immemorial, a lot of rich and powerful people have covenanted their souls to satan who possess them and use their body to manifest all sorts of depraved practices that are ungodly and this depravity is a form of worship to satan to sustain the material wealth that they get from the covenant. If I may ask, is it the poor who are more proned to homosexual behavior and drug addiction. No. However, the rich use their wealth to lure and entice the poor classes into such practices. This is exactly what 50 Shades of Grey is portraying.

    • Lucy

      July 9, 2012 at 4:36 pm

      Poor people are not prone to homosexuality and drug addiction. WOW, thats ignorance on another level, I dont know where to start from. My dear, open your eyes, and take off that church obsessed glasses, and stop drinking the cool aid.

    • ij

      July 10, 2012 at 1:43 pm

      “a lot of rich and powerful people have covenanted their souls to satan who possess them and use their body to manifest all sorts of depraved practices that are ungodly and this depravity is a form of worship to satan to sustain the material wealth that they get from the covenant. If I may ask, is it the poor who are more proned to homosexual behavior and drug addiction”

      WOW!!! now there is a statement for the books surely. All i can say is step away from the bath salts, i mean its like saying HIV is common to the uneducated or depression is very common amongst the poor and most alcoholics are rich folks

  56. Lucy

    July 9, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Classic Nigerian Christian. You must introduce christianity and bible and satan and demons and possessed into it. Do you know how ignorant u sound, I mean come on, cant you have an intelligent conversation, or an intelligent rebuttal without going all religious on us? Ah ah, i’m sick to death of having such convos with nigerians (and before sm1 crucifies me, i usually get this talk with nigerian christians. Hypocrites the majority of them, and narrow minded people. U cant conceive anything out of the dogmas and religious traditions that entangle you, and finally reason with the brain you were given).

  57. Lucy

    July 9, 2012 at 4:24 pm

    Now back to my comment, what exactly is your definition of ordinary, and NO, i have not read the book, and I will not read it because I dont do violence of any sort, S and M inst my thing, and all the hype for a book a lot of people have said is poorly written, is not worth my time. I will agree with you on one front, such books can open doors in your mind you would rather have left closed, and if you are weak enough, you can be influenced by such, and seek to explore or try it out. We all know the phrase, Life imitates art, or is it the other way around, not sure. So, Jance, that is how to carry out a decent rebuttal, without going all lets kabash and cast out the devil. Do i think the author is depraved, nah, thats a matter of perception, do i think the readers are depraved, nah, they are probably just curious, and got sucked in by all the media hype. The PR machine of the author, should be awarded a gold star. One warning though with such books, read and be merry, just know where to draw the line. Ask yourself, if i didnt read this book, would I ever have envisaged having a sex life like that. If the answer is NO, you had better let your NO be NO, and dont be easily influenced but if secretly u want that kind of experience, its up to you, as long as you forewarn yourself of the consequences, and you are prepared to face whatever comes through that door. Dont let the religious nut jobs, make you feel bad about it, at the end of the day, you are only answerable to your maker and not your Pastor. Sorry for the long comment, i just got pissed.

  58. Anon

    July 9, 2012 at 8:57 pm

    @ Jamce

    Although, you are over spiritualizing it, I also see where you are coming from. It’s annoying when people bring Jesus or the devil into the mix of a lot of things. The reality is, as long as we live on this earth there will always be fight against flesh and the spirit of God. A lot of things, that we do, we call Art, we call creativity, we call freedom of expression, we desensitized ourselves from, or expose ourselves to out of curiosity is harming us than doing us any good. From the surface, we say what’s the big deal, but it’s much deeper than that, where we can’t even see or connect it sometimes. The argument of many people is, the morals and values that people still talk about is far long outdated, this modern civilization is where anything goes, we should be more tolerant. The poor is not prone to homosexuality or drug addiction because these things knows nobody. You will see a wealthy man who is involved in these type of lifestyles just like how you will see a poor man. However, I will say wealthy/rich people have the power to control a lot of things. Look at how much hype this book is getting in the media, and it shows that the author has money to pay for some really good PR. Money speaks in a lot of cases, and their targets or victims are usually poor people. Not in this case but a lot of people with money, influence, target poor people because poor people are easily influenced out of ignorance. Just like when celebrities introduce certain things, it’s automatically seen as good because people are very gullible and impressionable. Hollywood brought open marriage into everyone’s attention, and all of a sudden, it’s okay now. Street drugs was mostly introduced to minorities, poor people by rich people and that’s how they made their money. Guess who is suffering the most from it, poor people. I personally think, 50 shades of Grey is an overrated book. Of course, many people were into that type of BDSM before the book came out, now more people will be influenced and curious. Curiosity led me to read the book, it’s fascinating at the same time I had to remind myself that, be careful what you expose yourself to. Your mind is very powerful.

    • Lucy

      July 10, 2012 at 12:09 am

      Now that is what i call a decent conversation without any mention of the devil, or demons, or their first cousins, and uncles. Take note Jance. Thanks Anon, i’m actually going to copy parts of that comment and pass to my friends (christians and non christians alike) who have been gushing about that book. They think i’m forming, by insisting I won’t read it. I’m not so easily influenced, no thank you. Empty barrels, make the loudest noise. When the hype is this much, thats my cue to run in the opposite direction. I actually have never seen Twilight, and you should see the shock on people’s faces, when I mention that, considering, I’m a huge Harry Potter and Vampire Diaries fan. Mills and Boon books actually make me laugh silly with their stupidity and terrible writing. I read them when i’m upset about something, and I find that I’m laughing again, and my issues forgotten. The thing with M and B, is you drop it, and you walk away, no harm done, its forgotten after a few minutes, well unless you are 13, and still dreaming of Prince Charming. At the age the market of Fifty Shades is targeted at, you know by now that Prince Charming doesn’t exist. Even William took 10 years not fifty pages to marry Kate, and that’s a real life Prince. I won’t take it a step further and pollute my mind. I hope its okay to say my condolences Anon, that you have read the book. I hope you have strong steel bars on your mind and soul. In the words of Jance, before demons possess you, and you have dual personality disorder. Smh. seriously smh. Lol

  59. Jamce

    July 9, 2012 at 9:36 pm

    @Lucy, perhaps you don’t understand the meaning of the word “ignorance” otherwise you won’t be labeling anyone as ignorant merely because he states a position from both a spiritual and physical/psychological point of view. No amount of intellectual knowledge can compare to spiritual knowledge because the spiritual is superior to and controls the physical. What psychologists may term “personality disorder” “dual personality” are in reality deep spiritual issues that those who choose to live in the material world cannot truly comprehend. So I will excuse your “high intellectualism” and please excuse my “ignorance” which I acknowledge but has been of great benefit to me.

    Perhaps you should know that in almost every country of the world and international organizations, the ruling elite in politics, businesses, entertainment and other spheres of life have deep spiritual affiliations of the unGodly variety. It is the same people who control the media and the information space to influence people and policies in the direction they desire. When I say “more proned” to, it is an indication that the poor classes are not exempted but the are only engaged to a lesser degree. You would be amazed to know the spiritual implication of homosexuality and other forms of depraved sexual practices that the world is seeking to justify and glorify through false scientific research and propaganda. I will implore to study the origin of homosexuality and other forms depraved and/or sexual behaviours and draw your conclusions.

    Am glad at least that violent sex is not your thing and also you recognize that we are all answerable to our Maker. But there is a standard which our merciful Maker has laid down and from my “little ignorant understanding”, the practices so described are contrary to that standard. At the risk of offending your sensibilities and aversion towards the Bible, I will refer to Romans 1:26-32 which says: “For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil- mindedness; they are whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful; who, knowing the righteous judgment of God, that those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the same but also approve of those who practice them.”
    Also see 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 which says: “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.” I pray in the name of Jesus that God will deliver our souls from the grip of this end time spirits and manifestations of the anti-Christs seeking to draw people to eternal damnation.

    Only Jesus can save or deliver anyone from the grip of such spirits. He who is wise should take heed. Shalom.

  60. Lucy

    July 9, 2012 at 11:50 pm

    Spiritual point of view, abeg go sitdon. Give me an intelligent and decent conversation, and don’t go all demons and possessed. Thats just reductive. If the Almighty didn’t want us to have a brain to think for ourselves, and weigh issues properly, HE won’t have given us one. You shouldn’t embrace technology then, if every dual personality disorder is spiritual, abi, what nonsense were you yarning. It is easy for people like you to point out the negatives, yet you use laptops, drive cars and mobile phones. If you wanted to prove your point to a Muslim or Buddhist, who can be helped with an advise of tread carefully with that book, would you get your point across? Such a person would be turned away, and your opportunity to help a fellow human being would have been lost. That was my point. What you were trying to say made sense, but you reduced its value drastically, by bringing in all the talk of demons, possessed, anti christ, abi what other drivel did you write. That was the point I was trying to make. We live in a secular world now, just because Nigeria is overly churcheous (one of the greatest ironies of life, considering we are the most corrupt, and our Pastors live like kings – modern day Pharisees, I will say, yet millions flock every sunday, quoting and worshiping these people without knowing it). Please carry your Africa Magic mentality, somewhere else abeg. Like anonymous said, every social or spiritual vice is present in every sphere of society, even poor people have affiliations of the ungodly variety. Even poor people go to babalawos and the likes, so please stop the rich people bashing abeg, you sound more ignorant (and yes, I am using the word ignorance again), like those yahoo and daily mail commenters who keep spouting illuminati, a new world order, and the likes. Poor people will match juju and voodoo, and satanic cults just as much. Open your eyes Jance, the world is round by the way. I happen to be a Christian too, loud and proud, its people like you who give Christians a bad name, and its people like you who have turned the world away from accepting Jesus. You can pass a message across, without making people roll their eyes, and not carefully consider the content. People who sit on their high horse, in their “ignorance” by the way, and forget that even Jesus was sent down from the Most High, to save us from ourselves. So please get off that your pedestal. Someone said to me one day, apart from homosexulaity, which is clearly stated, where in the Bible was the act of sex written, as in well detailed, this is how you should do it between husband and wife, a, b,c, to z. The world has explored a lot of depravity now, I didn’t even know how to answer that question. To attribute that depravity solely to rich people and the ruling class is beyond belief. Yes when we preach the message of Christ, we have to make biblical inferences, because it encompasses christianity, but to go the typical Nigerian way, and add demonise and possess to your message, ad nauseum. Please

  61. Jamce

    July 10, 2012 at 2:25 am

    @Lucy and co, if you choose to play the ostrich as a Christian and shy away from the reality of the spirit realm you cannot be helped. Perhaps, to you these passages from the Bible are fables only meant for the time of Jesus Christ. Mark 1:21-28: “Then they went into Capernaum, and immediately on the Sabbath He entered the synagogue and taught. And they were astonished at His teaching, for He taught them as one having authority, and not as the scribes. Now there was a man in their synagogue with an unclean spirit. And he cried out, saying, “Let us alone! What have we to do with You, Jesus of Nazareth? Did You come to destroy us? I know who You are—the Holy One of God!” But Jesus rebuked him, saying, “ Be quiet, and come out of him!” And when the unclean spirit had convulsed him and cried out with a loud voice, he came out of him. Then they were all amazed, so that they questioned among themselves, saying, “What is this? What new doctrine is this? For with authority He commands even the unclean spirits, and they obey Him.” And immediately His fame spread throughout all the region around Galilee.”

    You can see that even the people of Israel at that time marvelled concerning the issue of demons because they lacked understanding. See also Acts 19:11-18 “Now God worked unusual miracles by the hands of Paul, so that even handkerchiefs or aprons were brought from his body to the sick, and the diseases left them and the evil spirits went out of them. Then some of the itinerant Jewish exorcists took it upon themselves to call the name of the Lord Jesus over those who had evil spirits, saying, “We exorcise you by the Jesus whom Paul preaches.” Also there were seven sons of Sceva, a Jewish chief priest, who did so. And the evil spirit answered and said, “Jesus I know, and Paul I know; but who are you?” Then the man in whom the evil spirit was leaped on them, overpowered them, and prevailed against them, so that they fled out of that house naked and wounded. This became known both to all Jews and Greeks dwelling in Ephesus; and fear fell on them all, and the name of the Lord Jesus was magnified. And many who had believed came confessing and telling their deeds.

    No matter what you choose to believe be rest assured that demons are as real as your physical existence for Ephesians 6:12 says, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.” Satan is a master of deception using false intellectualism to confuse people and divert their attention from the knowledge of God. If you would only seek knowledge, you will find that these things are true. I have seen “seemingly normal” persons who were possessed and in the course of deliverance prayers the demons speaking through them confessed to entering them through viewing of pornographic movies. Others were through their sex partners. These are no stories or fables and are verifiable.

    The mere fact that we have fake pastors, hypocrites, apostates who have become agents of the devil does not change the word of God and His standard of righteousness. Their judgment is settled if you must know. It is foolhardy and pure fallacy to discuss issues of righteousness without reference to the Fountain and Source of righteousness. What brain do you think you have? And what has that brain done for your salvation? Perhaps you should study the book of Job and in particular chapters 38-41 before you start thinking that your brain is the ultimate.

    I do not claim to be a perfect Christian or better than any other Christian, but if your Christianity justifies the anti-Christ doctrine of “DO WHAT THOU WILT” which is to deny the knowledge and supremacy of God, then you need to re-examine yourself. This doctrine suggests to man that “For each person, these include the right to: live by one’s own law; live in the way that one wills to do; work, play, and rest as one will; die when and how one will; eat and drink what one will; live where one will; move about the earth as one will; think, speak, write, draw, paint, carve, etch, mould, build, and dress as one will; love when, where and with whom one will; and kill those who would thwart these rights.” This is exactly how Satan led man to think that he can be like and play God in the garden of Eden. See Genesis 3:1-5 “Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’? “And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die. ’” Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

    My final point to us is that we should learn not be wise or knowledgeable in our own eyes. Proverbs 1:7 “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, But fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

    • Purpleicious Babe

      August 27, 2012 at 3:36 am

      You have good knowledge of the bible.. I love it..

      I beg u open a blog and start dissecting it more. it would be fun… I am serious.

      Finally, keep the spirit burning….

      🙂

      http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk

  62. Tade

    July 10, 2012 at 9:35 am

    Ok, this is the definition of a religious nut job. Shuh, wrong forum dear, carry your talk commot. Ah ah, i was beginning to laugh silly about the comments, and i scrolled down to yours. From where did fifty shades of grey turn into demons and all this preaching. Pls, pls abeg, carry your comments waka. I am as christian as the next person, and i know my bible just as well as the next person who takes matters of spirituality seriously. I dont think the other comments were denying the reality of demons, but their argument is you can make a point without being sanctimonious. This not the forum for talk like this, and you should know that. There is a reason why the word sanctimonious was invented, please, take your talk to christian forums and the likes. Totally wrong place. No one comes to bella naija for church. It is not your soul that will be possessed by reading the book, so what is your problem gan gan. The message of Christ, never forced anyone, you are trying to force that same message down people’s throats. There must be a word for people like that, I’m trying to think now what it is. If your christianity doesn’t allow you consider another person’s point of view, and study it carefully, to find out if there is any hint of truth in it, then you are not being a true christian. The rest didnt disagree with you that your intentions were right, it was just the manner of passing that message across that, even I as a Christian see it as wrong. So, please. Over sabi much.

  63. ij

    July 10, 2012 at 9:58 am

    oh my E.L James see what you have caused now eh
    Camomile tea all around , i think that the arguments here show how different we all are and how we are able to analyse things very differently based on our experiences, our religion, our knowledge of things regardless of how limited or unlimited and of course our exposure.
    if E.L James had written the book to be about a married couple, would that have made it OK? or a bit more acceptable , i really don’t know .
    There is really no right or wrong answer , I’ve read all 3 books twice actually and i haven’t gone about elbowing my way into BDSM stores around the country. Yes i did a Google image search on the famous silver balls because i was curious about them just like i was curious about Thomas Tallis (I’m a big fan now) and what an Audi R8 Viper looks like (Lucky cow that Anna girl).
    From what I’ve read BDSM is about being creative with intimacy, now the question is what is the motive? selfish desire or mutual sexual gain

  64. naijadoll

    July 10, 2012 at 10:57 am

    @ Anon
    I agree 100%. Be careful what you expose yourself to. Your mind is very powerful. A lot of times, it’s better not to expose ourselves to certain things. I’m not perfect but I stay away from things that has too much hype around it. I haven’t read the book, don’t plan to, mainly because I’m not interested. I’m single, trying to stay celibate and don’t want anything that will distract or make me struggle more than what I’m already faced with. And, I think Jamce, should be allowed to express her opinion, even if we don’t agree or think she’s doing too much, we are all entitled to our opinions.

  65. Sexxie!

    July 10, 2012 at 12:30 pm

    Jst finished book 2. All u critics above failed to point out, IMHO, the most important aspect of these books, LOVE! And its powers. U failed to see how much Ana changed Christian, a dark sad depraved, perverted man who thanks to his early days chose to continue in that dark trail until their paths crossed & slowly got h im back in touch with his human side…well I just read the most beautiful love story ever. I forgive E L James for making me cry so much. Can’t wait to read the last installment.

  66. camo

    July 10, 2012 at 4:46 pm

    Most people claim they are Christians when they are not. Christian means christ like, now if you cannot behave and talk in such a way that people are reminded of Christ then you are not one. @Lucy Jamce has a right to spit as much bible and call as much demons as he wants because he says he is a christian, i.e a christ follower and wants to be seen as such without hiding. but you on the other hand am surprised to hear you are a Christian when ur sensibilities are insulted when bible, demons, spirits and the rest are mentioned knowing that those are every significant issues in Christianity. i shake my head when i hear ppl claim to be christians in one hand but scream blue murder when a mention of the Bible is made. Well to each His/Her own but i must say you gave your opinion no one rejected it,. If Jamce feels its of demons and spirits he has a right to it and you calling him ignorant beats me.
    Well as for the book. there is no point in hurting and destroying my mind. i will let it go. i dont do abuse nor depraved. let them sell, read and enjoy.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      July 11, 2012 at 12:57 pm

      I totally agree with everything you’ve written in your comment.

    • TG

      July 17, 2012 at 1:06 pm

      To most people Christianity is just going to church on Sunday. From Monday to Saturday people are disconnected from God and free to do what ever they like and the mere mention of the bible and issues related to it will cause problems. This is a forum where everyone is free to air their views…be it religious or otherwise, it’s left for you to accept or not…there’s really no need for long…looong……..loooooong…………….loooong writeups or having our grannie pants in knots! Hand no pain una?

  67. bebe

    July 10, 2012 at 11:05 pm

    Please help me with the book. I live in Maiduguri and can’t get it 🙁 email me [email protected] 🙂 pretty please? #bookaddict

  68. Janded

    July 11, 2012 at 6:57 pm

    Who need 50 shaded with a forum like this??? I just hope y’all were not at work while typing all the long comments. @ Sexxie, you are so on point!

  69. Sexxie!

    July 11, 2012 at 10:36 pm

    @Bebe u can buy d ebook from http://www.kobo.com or read free online on http://www.yourgatewaytosuccess.com. Enjoy!
    @Janded…thanks

  70. sijibomi

    July 13, 2012 at 11:55 am

    amazing………. all these long comments and christian public fights. only sexxie got the whole essence of the book. love and its redemptive power. most people could not see past the sex and what not. you don’t have to read the sexual bits na. haba. thank you jare sexxie and thanks to ij_bubbles for the books. i thoroughly enjoyed them!

  71. s

    July 14, 2012 at 11:59 pm

    I agree with you Tade, JARE!!! All this judgement day talk for what abeg koshilo joor. Read the book, if you no wan read am abi d ‘preaching’ inside the book dey vex you, keep quiet and carry your kaya commot. Now back to 50 Shades…It is one hot book. Though badly written, it’s very enjoyable and realistic in so many ways. All that BDSM is not for everyone but the book gives me an insight into it as I would not necessarily have gone out of my way to find out about it. It explores an unconventional storyline and challenges your thought process about what the society makes us accept as “normal”. Would I do what Ana did? NO, because I’m much older/wiser than she is. What If I was 21? Probably. Enjoy the book. @ least they get married in the end – Surely that’s enough to please our Over Sabi Christians.

  72. Anon

    July 15, 2012 at 6:34 pm

    Why are people attacking each other. Some enjoyed the book, and some that read it, say they didn’t like it and then some said, I will never read it. Free the over sabi christians, just like the other ones. It’s a free world, you say your opinion and keep it moving.

  73. Violette

    July 16, 2012 at 10:54 am

    HMM why all the arguments nah?
    All i can say is God pls send me my own Christian Grey,,,,, without the kinky fuckery ofcourse hahahahahah

    • Ivy

      July 23, 2012 at 5:37 am

      Haaha you better be careful for what you wish for dearie.. EVen without the Kinky stuff Christian is preetty messed up!

  74. Mrs Grey

    July 17, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    To each his own oh… The book is simply about this “thing” called LOVE !!!! Very very powerful .. I suggest you take what you can out of the book.. I LOVED it and it reaffirms my belief that love surpasses and can conquer anything.. Gbam !

  75. Rhecks

    July 19, 2012 at 1:14 pm

    Well, after reading all the conflicting opinions highlighted above, I have come to the conclusion that in this world, in any circumstance, people must always have conflicting ideas. Fifty Shades of Grey is a very deep book and not for the faint hearted at all. It is a love story, yes! with all the kinky sides, yes! But it is a story of how love conquers evil…[email protected], thank for sending the books, mwah! @TG, thanks for that Obooko.com link too. Keep reading y’all!

  76. Eni

    July 20, 2012 at 8:37 am

    Thanks IJ for the books. I read all the comments here before I read the book. Truth is, I couldn’t understand the reason for all the negative criticism. I think I love the books.
    Eliminate the sex, and what do you have? A beautiful love story. It’s that simple.
    I also see a lot of girl power. How many girls are that daring? I admire Ana’s courage. And I also learnt about patience. Yes, she was very patient with the guy. I do not think I could tolerate Christian’s controlling attitude.
    And all’s well that ends well.

  77. @ ALL BN lovers

    August 2, 2012 at 7:35 pm

    Hope you all have read the bible fully?
    No matter how good or bad you all make it look/sound? I will never read it. I am in control of what I see, hear, read, watch and listen too. The whole world may be going crazy, I won’t join them!

    The more you see, hear, read, watch, listen to corrupt things, the more corrupt you will be. For months I stopped coming to this site(even forgot about the site cos most advices, words here are not biblical and moral and will definately affect the way you think either knowingly or unknowingly. People give opinions from past failed relationships and others buy it easily. If Peter and Judas could be used against Jesus, how much more others. Be careful!) someone opened the site beside me and made me remember that BN exists.

    My advice for young ladies here- don’t allow anyone manipulate your mind/thoughts. I just weep cos most people don’t have a mind of their own, therefore they always agree, support, go with anything that is said by someone.

    Whatever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are of good report…, think on these things!

  78. @ ALL BN lovers

    August 2, 2012 at 8:05 pm

    Hope you all have read your bible fully?
    No matter how good or bad you all make it look/sound, i will never read it. I am in control of what i see, hear, read, watch and listen too. The whole world may be going crazy, i wont join them!

    The more you see, hear, read, watch, listen to corrupt things, the more corrupt you will be. For months, i stopped visiting this site (even forgot about the site cos most advices and words here are not biblical and moral which will definitely affect the way you think either knowingly or unknowingly. People give opinions from past failed relationships and others buy it easily. If Peter and Judas could be used against Jesus, how much more others? Be careful) someone opened the site beside me and made me remember the site existed.

    My advice for young ladies here, dont allow anyone manipulate your mind/thoughts. I just weep cos most people dont have a mind of their own, therefore they always agree, support or go with anything that is said by someone.

    whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things

  79. Miss jay

    August 12, 2012 at 8:34 pm

    Different strokes for different folks! absolutely loved the books, as a matter of fact, I’ve got all three books, maybe fifty shades freed was a bit of a drag, i’ll still recommend it to anyone willing to try something new.

  80. Love Erotica

    December 4, 2012 at 4:22 am

    I read the trilogy a few times and enjoyed every single one of them but didn’t take them seriously. These types of books are purely for entertainment purposes. If you think 50 shades is steamy, then you should read “Sexational Satsuma:Confessions of a Naughty Sex Therapist” by Lana Yves. I’ve read this erotica over and over again on Amazon. People have to remember that we are all sexual beings and there’s nothing wrong with exploring our sexuality. It keeps a relationship fresh and strong! Stop being so uptight!

  81. IFH

    December 16, 2012 at 12:08 pm

    It quite funny the way you guys are criticizing this book, yes the writing is not so professional, but the idea is making this book sound like every day conversation.

    The second opinion is, this book is not all about sex, get Christian;s background, what he went through and deprived of, and how he was trying to blend (to light) despite the fact that he is super rich and powerful.
    The love story is about a rich guy with an adult mind who tries to get his adolescence back, he was very insecure and vulnerable.

    there are a lot of things to get from this book other than the sex stories.
    Its also about dealing with ut past demons.

    You guys should read them again and get the gist, there are two sides of a coin.

  82. Layo marcus.

    December 18, 2012 at 2:01 pm

    Exactly! I agree with you, the book was unecessarily extended It could have been written as a single book, there were too many invaluable information e.g (their email convo) .Tbh the major thrill was the way he spent lavishly on her.

  83. Dating in Nigeria

    July 22, 2014 at 2:10 pm

    whatever you like girl.. The world is your oyster

  84. The Observer

    February 7, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Ahh, the age-old dilemma/conflicts of women worldwide… including you, OP. Thanks to all that social conditioning from books such as this (which I’ve not ever read, but heard about.)

    Choose YOUR path, ladies. To go on and on pontificating over some book for answers, is to miss that path.

    Or, take some clay, iron, brick and mortar, and build your own ideal rich-romantic-hero-cum-bad-boy-when-needed kinda guy, abeg!

    For the people who argue against ‘premarital sex’, I have this:

    1. Stealing a biro is also considered a sin, last I checked.
    2. Worse things can (and DO) happen after marriage.
    3. ALL relationships are voluntary, including marriage. Else, it is co-dependence.

  85. t

    February 24, 2016 at 4:24 pm

    lol.
    you know what pained me the most about fifty shades was the fact that ana way just plain gullible.
    bdsm wasn’t a problem for me.
    you hate it or you don’t.
    but Christian practically took her life from her with the snap of his fingers.
    lol.
    the story even said she had a 4.0 gpa.
    and she was so clueless about bdsm.
    you can’t study english and do such extensive reading and not come across bdsm themes.
    I understood the concept in ss1 reading anne rice and I’m a tech student.

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