As Pure As a Mother’s Love – Lilian Adjarho Shares the Story of A Mother, Ready to Lay Down Her Life For Her Children

There’s really nothing like a mother’s love. One of Nigeria’s leading consumer product brands is set to unveil its new product. As part of its pre-launch activities, there was a call for people to send in stories of their mothers’ love. The poignant story of Elizabeth Omafuare Adjarho is told so passionately by her daughter, Lilian. We hope you’re inspired by her story. Keep checking BellaNaija for more details on the unveiling of the product that tells the story of a Mother’s True Love.

Lilian & her siblings

My name is Lilian Adjarho and this is my pure mother’s love story. I am the third child in my family and I am so immensely influenced by her mother’s love. This love has made me the strong, positive, patient lady I am today. My mother, Mrs. Elizabeth Omafuare Adjarho, groomed her four children to become individuals who would make a difference in society. .
In 1982, my mother was really ill but she stayed strong because of her children. Although she was frail, she never stopped caring and sacrificing for her family.

My father lost his job just as my mother started having children, and was also of ill health in the 6 years she had the four of us. A few years later, he had a stroke. His illness was a heavy financial burden on the family because he needed periodic treatments.
My mother struggled with her job as a teacher in Ughele Primary school. She added to that farming and petty trading in order to keep our family going. The stress for her was so much that her health began to fail her. She was diagnosed of kidney disease and a hole in her heart. With this, came the high blood pressure. She has been on medication for almost two decades, yet never one day has she slowed down on her sacrifices for her family. She ensured that no matter what happened,  her children were never out of school. She made sure food was always on the table.

She borrowed to ensure her family was running as it should. Usually, her entire teacher salary was used to offset loans which she took. She was dragged to court several times. At a point she went into hiding because people she owed wouldn’t give her a moment of peace.

She did all this to ensure that we never lacked good food and education. She did all this alone with no help from anyone. Her family members who could assist rejected her and even told her directly that she was killing herself unnecessarily.
I recall a  time we went to sell things in the market and there was an open fire robbery going on in the market. She risked her life not minding if she might get hit by a stray bullet. She rushed down to the market to ensure we were fine. Someone asked her if she wanted to die for her kids. She responded that the only joy she had were her children.
This woman was ready to lay down her life just so we would be okay. I can confidently say not many women will go through what my mum went through for over 30 years. She never gave up on her sacrifices for us even for a minute!
Today, my mother though alive, bears the scars of the struggle she had for her children. Last month, I turned 26 and  I promised I’d share her love story with all of Nigeria and the world. This is my pure gift to her, and a more importantly a way to inspire every mother.
I’m sharing this story of Elizabeth Omafuare Adjarho because there’s indeed is nothing as pure as a mother love!

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38 Comments on As Pure As a Mother’s Love – Lilian Adjarho Shares the Story of A Mother, Ready to Lay Down Her Life For Her Children
  • chibugo November 15, 2012 at 9:59 pm

    i’m so wowed. nice

  • Joan November 15, 2012 at 10:12 pm

    Such a touching story!!!!
    No words! There are absolutely no words to describe a mother’s love. My mum has done so much for me my whole life, I can’t even put it all in words. Going from days when she had to borrow food/money from her siblings just so we could have food on Christmas day to buying provisions on credit from the store down the road so I wouldn’t go back to boarding school empty-handed to days when even to buy Vaseline to rub on the body was a problem. But God pulled her from all of that and lifted her up.
    She struggled with all that, she definitely raised a darn great child, and I will never forget those sacrifices!!! She always said, “humility will take you places. When God lifts you up, never forget where you are coming from and always thank Him for where you are”. We have our squabbles sometimes, at other times we don’t even see eye to eye on certain issues. But in all, I wouldn’t trade her for anything or anyone in the world. Even though things are waayyyyy better than they used to be and I try my best to support her now with the little I have, I can’t wait till I can pamper her the way she truly deserves.
    Love you always, Momma!!!

  • Onyinye November 15, 2012 at 11:37 pm

    A Mother’s/Woman’s love…Hmm Dat is how it should be…My Mum wud sacrifice her last capital just to make sure dat we eat to our fill…Make the mistake of giving my Mum monies to buy wat she needs like clothes and so on, she will go and buy all the foodstuffs in the market..She has tot me how to love, to sacrifice for ur family, to manage ur family to ur taste, she inspire me to go higher…I love my Mum and wouldnt trade her for anybody…By God’s grace, i hope to pamper her and let her enjoy the benefit of ME (That is if she is going to leave her husband and my siblings for a week) i am privileged to learn from her…My Model

  • Adedoyin November 15, 2012 at 11:41 pm

    Such a touching story!….

    Each time i remember how much my mother gave up for me, giving up a lot pleasure just because she wanted us to be fine. i just cant help the tears… She constantly stood in gap for us in terms of prayers and she still does… Would never trade her for anything in this world..I just pray that God will help me do much more than she did for my kids. and by his grace, she will live in good health to reap the fruits of her labour…..God bless you Momma…You rock my world!!

  • Partyrider November 16, 2012 at 12:33 am

    Mothers are super humans!
    To every mother out there striving day and night for their kids,especially those who do it alone,may God bless&keep you to enjoy the fruit of your labour! Amen!
    Indeed there’s nothing like a mother’s love,nothing!!

  • Miss K November 16, 2012 at 12:58 am

    Your mum sounds like an amazing woman! There really is nothing like a mother’s love. God bless all the wonderful mothers and mothers-to-be who are doing all they can to make sure their kids make it.

  • Hakeem November 16, 2012 at 4:37 am

    I’m always touched each time i read about a mother’s love, matter fact its a sensitive subject to me.

    My mother had my older brother while in school (high school to be precise) she became the object of ridicule then, her father instantly threw her out but her mother somehow took her into hiding to have the baby. She knew what she wanted so she went back to school and started working menial jobs. 8 years later she got married to my father and had me but trouble started when she insisted on having her first son live with her. I guess she was unlucky in love coz my father left us, i remember her crying her heart out, rolling on the floor begging him not to let the world laugh at her but it fell on deaf ears. She even refused to leave my father’s house and got beat by soldiers who came to force her out. That alone could have made her dislike her own blood, but no she aint leaving without her son. She slept outside my fathers house for two days demanding for me. I remember her words clearly “if you don’t want me again let me have my son, two misfortune can’t hit one at thesame time, give me my son and i will leave”.
    That’s how the journey started, journey of bliss, love, pain & most of all happiness. Days she wouldnt eat to make sure we had enough, days she had sell her gold to make sure our school fees were paid on time, the sacrifice are too numerous to write. She’s a gracious woman, strong and independent who put her ‘fruits’ first (that’s what she calls me and brother). The unforgettable day will be the riot in mushin market where we were shopping and the army released tear-gas in the air, shooting at sight so she picked me up and dragged my brother telling him to run forward but on getting to a safe shade she couldnt find my brother. She immediately begged a stranger to look after me and ran back out, the words of the stranger still echoes she said this woman will get herself killed because of a child that must be hiding somewhere, citing that kids are smart and very fast. I cant go on but honestly its been over 22 years now and every time she visits me and brother, no amount of dollars can buy the fulfilling smile on her face and in her words “MY FRUITS WE MADE IT”

    • awww November 16, 2012 at 11:22 am so touched. God bless ur mum!

      • Hakeem November 16, 2012 at 3:49 pm

        thnx God bless your mom too

    • Mee November 16, 2012 at 11:49 am

      Woah i’m crying.

      • Hakeem November 16, 2012 at 3:51 pm

        Its all tears of joy now Mee

    • buchi November 16, 2012 at 12:03 pm

      Mothers r truly priceless. I’m in awe at my mother’s expression of love. Sometimes I wonder if i can be so giving! God help me…

    • Sharon April 24, 2013 at 2:34 pm

      Wow! *tears*

  • barbz November 16, 2012 at 4:59 am

    very touching story, nothing can be compared to a mother’s love.. this makes me remember my mum’s struggle atm in her marriage wit my dad, sometimes i wonder and ask her what she’s still doing in it considering the fact that we are all grown and she says ‘ the reason i am here is because of my children” and it hurts me that despite all the hurt my dad puts her through she still puts up a big smile and has’nt given up on her struggle to make sure her children reap the fruit of her labor.. I love you mummy, God bless and keep you for us, i pray you live long to reap the fruit of all you have labored for and for my father, I ll continue to pray for him

  • Jamce November 16, 2012 at 6:15 am

    Wao, great story. It is really the story of our great mothers, the true African woman. Volumes of books can be written on our mother great sacrifices to keep us alive and well. I wish mine was still alive for me to look after the way she looked after us. Those whose mothers are still alive spare no thought or resources in looking after them, honour them as the Bible enjoins us to do and you will be truly blessed. God bless our great mothers.

  • A loved child November 16, 2012 at 7:38 am

    My mother! What can i say about my mother. She did more than lay down her life for me. Even as i post this comment , my mother a young beautiful woman in her late thirties is still unmarried because she devoted her entire life taking care of me and making sure that even if i wore rags , i had the best education nigeria has to offer. After my father abandoned us, we were so poor, we had to beg to eat, my mother sacfriced her educational dreams of being a doctor to cater for me. She work under people, in church, under rain, under sun to make sure her child never lacked. As a young child in the 90’s, i wnet to one of the best nursery and primary schools in portharcourt (bereton). Everyone new me as the child that always owed school fees but that didnt stop us. She wanted the best for me and we got even if we had to face ridicle. As at today am in the UK studying in a prestigious university. I had to read and work hard to get a schorlarship as a thank you gift to my mother. I will graduate soon and i will do anything to wipemthe tears off her face. My mother, my world

  • loveth O. November 16, 2012 at 9:39 am

    i Love my Mum and Prays that God Should keep her Much more alive to enjoy the fruit of her Labour

  • Retrochic November 16, 2012 at 10:07 am

    A mother’s love, this is bringing tears to my eyes right now, my mother got married to a difficult man (my father) several times he threatened to send her out of the house, but she persevered and said she was in the marriage because of her children, several times i would beg my mom let us leave, you are not happy in this marriage why dont we leave, buh as years grew by, they kept on coping, they have been married for 30years now, i wouldnt say it has been easy, but unlike any other marriage that faces challenges, my mum thought me tolerance, ignorance, patience, i dont really think anybody can be as tolerant and understanding as my mum.
    Even in the aspect of sacrifice, my mum still is a thriving business woman, she doesn’t even care about herself, everything she does is for her children, am happy now that we are grown and doing well enough to take care of ourselves and lift a huge weight of her shoulders, i really cant wait to do so much more for her, because she deserves much more than the best. i love you mum, God bless u.

  • Engel November 16, 2012 at 10:32 am

    that’s exactly a mother’s love. My mum scarified for us all(seven children). before my dad retired he was the paying our fees. but after he’s retirement in the 90’s my mum automatically took over. paying schools fees, imagine having 7 kids in school(university, secondary and primary school). 5 out of 7 all live in school, so my mum would buy provisions for all of us. i am the 6th child and i witnessed everything though i was small (Junior CLASS). sometimes she will go hungry just to make sure we are satisfied. Today, we are all working and married. Giving them grand children (i am waiting for God’s time). i thank God for keeping my parents alive to enjoy more of the fruits of their labour. i pray they shall live more more years. Amen. LOVE U MUM.

  • Ogizi November 16, 2012 at 10:40 am

    what about fathers does anyone want to talk of their fathers?

    • Chicanita November 16, 2012 at 11:14 am

      Maybe you should tell us about yours

  • Iseoluwa November 16, 2012 at 10:53 am

    My MOTHER! an inestimable jewel, where do i start?
    I was 4yrs old when my father passed away, leaving my mother to raise five children all by herself. growing up was really tuff, my father’s family threw us out of our father’s house and sold his properties. we lived in our shop for more than 5years….u can imagine six people in one small shop. My mother was so keen on us schooling, she would go any length just to pay our school fees and help us stay in school. some years back, three out of her children including me gained admission into uni, it was a good and bad news for her, good in the sense that three of her children would be going to uni, and bad in the sense that; where would she get money to pay for their school fees cos one was going in to study medicine and that required lots of money. she had this lil piece of land she treasures so much, something she always looked up to, she sold that land to send us to school, there was nothing my mother would not sell, she stayed away from friends to avoid them from influencing her to join meeting/group to attend parties and all cos to her, those money for aso ebi could be used to feed, cloth and send her children to school. To God be the glory, we are all graduates today, and my mother is doing pretty well now.
    I THANK GOD for giving me such wonderful mother, cos many would have abandoned their children (5 girls) to fend for themselves, some would even say “afterall they are all girls, they should go out to do same thing their mates are doing and bring money home for me”. But i thank God my own mother is not like that. And i always pray she will live, in good health to eat the fruit of her labour.

  • Jane November 16, 2012 at 11:17 am

    @ Ogizi. Hmmm. Let’s not even go there. Trust me, most comments about Nigerian men of our parents’ generation will not be pleasant at all. I’ll never forget what I saw on Twitter on Father’s Day. So much vile and anger. Most of those men messed up big time. Hopefully the men of our generation will do things right.

    • Purpleicious Babe November 18, 2012 at 12:31 am

      Amen sis… AmEN…

      i agree…

      I cant describe my MUM, I am simply in love with her and in awe of all she has sacrificed and still doing…

      TO all the mothers that gave all for their children to live and lead better lives, I pray you will not die but LIVE TO EAT AND ENJOY the FRUITS of your labour in good health and wealth.

      I pray that we will also take on the great uncompromising values our GREAT AWESOME mothers have taught us..


  • Chattyzee November 16, 2012 at 11:36 am

    I love my parents!!! And I celebrate them.

  • efe November 16, 2012 at 1:23 pm

    The Love of a MOTHER,is awesome,l must say.
    My mother is one in a zillion,reading this stories about our inestimable jewels(MOTHERS), is bringing about old memories of my mum raising 4 children by herself without her husband who walked out of the marriage over 20 years ago.The days without food,borrow money to meet our needs a,the mother who has cried with her children and laughed with us and the day l thought she would not make it due to the pain she was going through at a time,but God be praised who spared her life .Though we our kids are still struggling to get there by God’s grace so that we can give her the very best she deserves which l know God alone will make it happen,keep her in good health and sound mind to enjoy the fruit of her labour.
    My Mummy,l love you again,again and over again and will choose you again

  • folashade tope ige November 16, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    My mother!no word can best describe or qualify her worth. she’s made alot of sacrifice to raise her two children after my daddy was assasinated 28years ago.she was just 22years old then.the pain of loosing her husband was still fresh when she heard the news from her office that she’s been advised to resign.through these odds she was able to educate us to university level attending some of the best schools in the country.she made up her mind not to remarry but rather see her children have the best she can afford in life.she’s sacrificed alot.i thank God for sparing her life till today to see the result of her sacrifices and all the loving mothers out there,you shall live to reap the fruit of your labour.

  • avid reader November 16, 2012 at 4:19 pm

    OK I know this article is about celebrating mothers, but I feel majority of Nigerians hardly celebrate their fathers! Mothers are precious pearls that can never be replaced. My mum has sacrificed a lot for us, gone through stuff to help the kids and my dad out. She really has showed me what a good wife and mother should be. And what even inspires me more is that my father does not take it for granted. He always looks for any opportunity to praise my mum infront of us. That’s if they are not busy teasing one another. This leads me to say how exceptional my daddy is. If I go with the usual trend of only praising mothers, I will be doing a great injustice to my daddy.
    So in short, I celebrate and thank God for my parents! I know for sure my siblings and I are blessed to have them in our lives, and they have set the standards for us on what marriage is. If both of your parents are awesome, celebrate them…don’t join the bandwagon and only mention the mum!

  • nita November 17, 2012 at 2:21 pm

    I thank God 4 a gr8 Dad bcos of him my Mum did not av to Sacrifice but her support is constant! My Dad loved me despite my misfortune wit Jamb. He neva complained; he encouraged. He made sure I got d best schs abroad to study. Even though he did nt av much money then. He wud empty his account n borrow money just to giv us d best! I love my Parents. I want my kids to av a gr8 Dad like I did. God bless my Parents…I will mk dem proud!

  • iamfascinating November 18, 2012 at 7:16 am
  • memsie November 18, 2012 at 9:28 am

    I can so relate to this story. I’m the 1st of 5 children. And i knw what my mum went through for us. All the debts she incured just so that she could provide for us. I’m so happy that God has blessed me with a good job which has helped me pay off all those debts and help put my siblings through school. And i also pray God will provide for me to set up a business for her.
    I thank God for you mummy and as you celebrate your birthday today, I pray God reward you for all the sacrifices you made for us.
    I love you mum.

  • tem’tope November 19, 2012 at 4:14 pm

    My mom is a superwoman, as a nurse she went on to learn tailoring to augment our household income when my father was out of job. she never complained for one day. even now that I work, she goes the extra mile to make sure I am comfortable, encouraging me to save and not buy things for the house. She is so protective of her girls (we are 3 girls). My father is also a great dad; they have shown my sisters and I soooooooooooooo much luv and have sacrificed a lot on our behalf. I pray God rewards their efforts in Jesus name. Amen

  • Gina November 19, 2012 at 5:14 pm

    My dad was everything to me. he made sure i never lacked , his luv was wonderful. i luv my mum too. but it pains that he dint wait to see me finish my nysc and atleast pay/appreciate him for all he did. but the good thing is my mum is here to reap it. may God continue to rest ur soul daddy and may He keep mummu strong and healthy for us. luv my parents somuch

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  • larakingz… November 22, 2012 at 12:44 pm

    While I love my mum for being a mother, I love my dad so so much. My dad is the most caring man I know and my is he HONESt. He goes all out to make us happy and even now (am 26+) he is most concerned about me and my younger ones. we even call my mum my dads first daughter/ baby cos of his care. I have disappointed him a couple of times and am I praying God lifts me up to bless him and if i am to come back to this world again I would want my daddy to be my “daddy.

  • keppy November 27, 2012 at 4:02 pm

    Mothers love can’t be compare to anything. I love you mum and i pray, God gives you long life to enjoy the fruit of your labor.

  • jyde December 15, 2012 at 1:49 am

    How i wish i had a mother.

  • Don ADJARHO Ejiro September 9, 2016 at 8:21 am

    Wow,,,,,,,kid sist am jst seeing D’s,,,,,guess I was too busy,anyways our mum is a super mum…….love her plenty I pray God keeps her for us….to enjoy her hard work

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