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Toke Makinwa

Last week, media personality Toke Makinwa gave all the ladies 5 signs you are a side chick via her video blog post on her website. Now she’s taking on the men.

Do you always wonder why that girl in your office or across the street isn’t giving you the time of the day or she keeps putting you in the friend zone, Toke – the new relationship guru – has all the answers.

So just before you plan that perfect Valentine’s Day, here are 5 signs to know she’s not that into you;

  • You are the one that calls all the time
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • She mentions other guys in a conversation
  • Her description of a perfect man is far from you
  • Self Obsessed

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  1. dont mention

    January 25, 2013 at 3:19 pm

    every body is a relationship guru these days…..well, until i see her in a successful relationship i.e marriage, her advice will def not be for me. goodluck to her doh in whatever she tries her hands at , obviously, it is relationship expertise for now, so good luck.

    • tee

      January 25, 2013 at 11:02 pm

      you are so bitter @dont mention

    • Ebi

      January 26, 2013 at 7:30 pm

      That is wisdom, if i want tto know how to be rich, i ask the rich. If i wanna be married i ask those who are.

  2. omo Jesu

    January 25, 2013 at 3:43 pm

    oh no not again!

  3. BIG BOY

    January 25, 2013 at 3:48 pm

    Toke. women do the opposite of what they usually want

    1.You are the one that calls all the time
    what of the girl who wants you to call not cos she’s not into you but simply wants you to prove it that you care(shes prob calld guys in the past and has been taken 4 a ride she now feels you need to prove it that you care)

    2.Avoiding eye contact
    Shes a shy girl and when she looks into your eyes she feels magnetised towards you, best thing to do is to avoid that eye contact and not feel like getting sucked to you and basically fall cheap 4 u

    3 She mentions other guys in a conversation
    she does this to make you feel jealous and see how you would react as a man, remember humans are jealous beings, might not necessarily care about other blokes,just to see how u react.

    4 Her description of a perfect man is far from you
    she simply does this to throw you off course she cares and wants to make u feel or seem she’s not keen. Fact: Ladies tend to behave this way a lot

    Self Obsessed
    She does this to let u know she’s independent and not one to be obsessesd about you.not that she doesnt take keen interest in your well being

    Toke love ur vlog and write ups but u would be surprissed to know all what you said can be done by a woman who’s still and always crazy bout a guy. Trust me u dont know what a woman really wants like u said in your earlier posts.

    • Getrich

      January 25, 2013 at 4:21 pm

      The kind of girl you just described above is a perfect example of an idiot.

    • bitchpls

      January 25, 2013 at 5:23 pm

      hahahaha…….chei pple wicked ooooo

    • Ngozi

      January 27, 2013 at 2:21 pm


    • Naomi

      January 25, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      Really on point! makes a while lot more sense that Toke’s……ppl should stick to their strengths, stop giving advises u know nothing about toke!

    • Anon

      January 25, 2013 at 5:20 pm

      Advises? Okay!

    • Amina

      January 25, 2013 at 5:44 pm

      I guess you are describing yourself here. There are people who act like this you know.
      Like Getrich said – the girl must be an idiot

    • AA

      January 25, 2013 at 5:29 pm

      Wow! You are extremely arrogant and self-conceited if you believe all the crap you just wrote

    • Knut

      January 26, 2013 at 3:34 am

      Self-conceited ke? Dat is double engreesh na

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      January 25, 2013 at 7:03 pm


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    • Nok10

      January 26, 2013 at 10:01 am

      Thank you o Big boy! Definately a yes to numbers 1, 2, 3; 4 & 5 – depends on how long you’ve been dating the guy, usually women would adjust 4&5 in accordance to the dating duration, lol!

      Toke: Not really feeling your advice to guys. Truth is women can be so unpredictable and are complex. I have some female friends that go all giddy when they meet a guy they like, while some of my friends are so ‘cool and collected’ with a pokerface. Hence the guys they are dating can’t tell they are head over heels in love with them. Some women choose not to wear their heart on their sleeves as they believe in making men go the extra mile to proove their love. Men on the other hand are easier to decode, lol! When in doubt about a guy’s motive just ask another guy and he’ll tell you if he’s real or a player. This usually works because guys think alike whilst women don’t.

    • Anon

      January 27, 2013 at 1:22 pm

      *handshake* u said my mind

    • creamy

      January 26, 2013 at 12:50 pm

      my thoughts exactly

    • sj

      January 26, 2013 at 5:28 pm

      CHOP KNUCKLE!!!!

  4. Joan

    January 25, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    Toke! Toke!!
    She does make valid points though…

  5. Posh

    January 25, 2013 at 4:01 pm

    There is just something about Toke Makinwa I hate,it’s either her voice or the way she talks…arrghhhh

    • Ebi

      January 26, 2013 at 7:32 pm

      Get over it.

  6. Opsy

    January 25, 2013 at 4:23 pm

    Na wa @Posh. You shoudn’t have used the word hate. It is so strong.

  7. uby

    January 25, 2013 at 4:23 pm

    i hate used to hater this lady cos everyone hated her…
    but when she started her vlogs,i had a female crush on her…
    i mean shes real and love the way she talks n switches accent…
    plus shes making sense kwa

  8. Lol

    January 25, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    Someone should please employ her lyk a 9am-6pm job because am sure if she had a one she won’t be here. Sigh

  9. pade

    January 25, 2013 at 5:37 pm

    lolllllllll at all the comments
    Make this babe go siddon find better thing to do, how successful has are relationships been before she turn herself to another Chaz B (mchewwwww)

  10. Annnnnoonn

    January 25, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    Toke, please take a chill pill. This ish ain’t for you.

  11. Babydee

    January 25, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    Please what’s with the accent? Britico one minute, Yankee next minute, then Naija………..and then Australian for 30 seconds? Chick abeg make up your mind on which one suits you abeg. Your lack of original accent is distraction from listening to what you are trying to convey.

    • omototun

      January 26, 2013 at 12:54 am

      please let it go already!!! abi kini gan?? #redundant much!

    • Nok10

      January 26, 2013 at 10:09 am


  12. esan

    January 25, 2013 at 7:00 pm

    toke i guess u mean “5 signs Toke is not that into you”.

  13. Obie

    January 25, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    oh well,it goes to say different strokes for different folks

  14. Moyosore

    January 25, 2013 at 7:09 pm

    I love the rejoinder Bigboy gave to this…….it’s on point.

  15. timi

    January 25, 2013 at 7:37 pm

    toke you look good

  16. Jenny Craig

    January 25, 2013 at 7:50 pm

    Toke please now, speak well. Speak Nigerian. I don’t get your accent. Please. Why the fakeness/fakery/falseness/everything untrue?? You finished from lag now? How many months or years of masters did you do that your tongue changed like this?

    I don’t think I’ll ever be able to take you serious.

  17. Lafunky

    January 25, 2013 at 8:11 pm

    Low hair cut suits Toke. It brings out her pretty face and bone structure.

  18. F

    January 25, 2013 at 10:49 pm

    Please leave Toke in peace. She’s allowed to speak with any accent she finds comfortable as long as she’s clear. My housemate is non-Nigerian is perfectly able to understand and appreciate what she says. Besides, it’s the message that matters. All this talk about her accent is slightly childish, how can people be so easily distracted. Everyone has an accent from the woman under Isale Eko bridge to the President of the USA.

  19. onpoint

    January 26, 2013 at 12:07 am

    These comments r hilarious, kai! Toke has taken note(I hope)…

  20. BELLA!

    January 26, 2013 at 12:57 am

    Toke, I cant get passed your accent. I just cant. Im not hating. Its just so FAKE! Those that say there is nothing wrong with it, see nothing wrong because you too TRY to fake your accent. #cringeworthy

  21. gth

    January 26, 2013 at 6:07 am

    toke has 6 accents…confused much

  22. Cynthia

    January 26, 2013 at 6:30 am

    Haaa, [email protected] all the comments, good thing that my device has refused to play the video then.

  23. Temizzy

    January 26, 2013 at 12:30 pm

    *speechless* now i know what i sound like when i form PHONEE am totally switching to my Nigerian accent. Thank you.

    • Jenny Craig

      January 26, 2013 at 4:47 pm


  24. Bee

    January 26, 2013 at 2:15 pm

    You Nigerians are forever bitter (@posh,@ lol, @pade)… Kai, if u dnt like dis toke babe den y do u keep watching her videos, its not like any1 is forcing u to watch it…

  25. sj

    January 26, 2013 at 5:23 pm

    toke darlin’…..I like what you are doing. Though i don’t 100% agree with you and I don’t believe you can categorise these kinda things… such is life i suppose.
    Do what u enjoy doing!

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    January 26, 2013 at 6:14 pm

    Every1 wants to be popular. Vanity#

  27. Toyin

    January 26, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    All these relationship advices, it causes more confusion and it’s not helping anybody. I only receive advice about relationship/marriage from mature, married, sensible couples who are happily married and been married for a long time. And, one of the main, consistent thing they’ve said is communication. All this he/she’s not that into you is a waste of time.

  28. dede

    January 26, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    Lol…Love the comments.
    Toke you have not really made any revelation here. I suppose these are things that an idiot already knows. You have to be more intellectual with your relationship tips that when people listen to you, your accent or your hairstyle or your outfit will not even bother them. It will be the intelligent tips that you are giving that will make people know you are serious. For now I just think you are trying to hard and you may never succeed trying to be the ‘relationship guru’.

  29. my birthday loading!

    January 26, 2013 at 11:09 pm

    What new about all dis tips bikonu?

  30. MEE

    January 27, 2013 at 11:10 pm

    I dont want to mention names,but some of u who droped hate comments here about this girl should stop it already! Its becoming too childish n’unbecoming! Haba! Some of us here are begining to believe some of u have issues with her in d’past, n’u r jst glad u hav a free platform to throw words at her, she may not b making any point,but pls leave her alone! We hav seen people dressed like mad women here ,n’some people go on n’hailed dem, i am nt saying u shudnt voice ur ideas,bt coments like hate, trying too hard,u may never succed,i can never take you serious are strong words dt can go a long. Way in afecting people negatively.please,i apologise on behalf of any of u faceless people Toke has offended,enuf of d’hate comments, imagine am almost begining to tink d’poor girl is some little devil! Ah ahn now!

  31. Gracie

    January 28, 2013 at 5:04 pm

    Big boy, here is a “knuckle” for you. Well said!! Dear writer u can’t give that as an exact pattern to encourage or frustrate a relationship. What works for you may not work for another reasons is humans are bound to change. Thanks anyway for the light shed.

  32. dIMZ

    January 30, 2013 at 9:51 am

    I wonder why people find it so hard to appreciate others….. ya’ll with big mouths, go do something and lets see how far you can go…..Toke is busy carving a niche for herself and you are here hating……..But Toke, who was it that kept knocking at your door…

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