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Wana Wana: Fat Girls Shouldn’t Play Dress Up



The whole world makes it seem like playing dress up is a right only reserved for ‘normal’ sized people. I use normal in parenthesis because there has always been this notion that anything above a certain size is somewhat abnormal.

Think going to a store and when the sales girl is frantically walking around all smiles grinning from ear to ear. Then you ask the dreaded question which you know the answer to but you still ask anyway. She corks head to the side and her lips contort, her words slightly hesitant as though still constructing the sentence in her head whilst she attempts speaking. With a slight stutter to the response, she says ‘I’m so sorry, we don’t do that size but we have some nice bags and accessories you might want to look at’.

I once had a Nigerian designer tell me she couldn’t make me a dress because in her words ‘fitting and refitting would be a lot of stress’ which she didn’t have time for. I suppose she didn’t need my money anyway. After all what good is a fat person’s money?

Don’t get it wrong I’m not an advocate for people carrying around extra flesh which in the short to medium to term can cause severe health complications. As most people know I have publicly shared my weight and body image struggles. So the journey to better health, optimal fitness and attaining that realistic body size is an arduous path I still trod daily.

But I do think that whilst we are on that path depending on how long it takes to get there, everyone deserves the right to live, laugh, love, and of course play dress up if and when you want to.

So even though the world in general and the world of fashion aren’t particularly kind to chunky chicks like me, I have always found my own ways to manoeuvre around the system.

Trend Wisely
Fashion trends are equally as spastic as pop culture itself. I try to stay away from looking like the mannequin at the shop window. So I just take little bits and pieces from different trends and incorporate them into what I wear to add a contemporary feel.

D-I-Y/Find your Look
It’s always amusing when friends walk into my living room, glance through my bookshelf then with a gasp say ‘I never took you for someone who would read fashion magazines’. The comments make me wonder yet again if the right to buy fashion magazines and read fashion blogs, or even fashion itself is solely reserved for a specific group of people.

I’m personally obsessed with the looks and silhouettes of the American 40s and 50s, and I have been stuck in that time warp for quite some time. Magazines, books and websites make for fantastic research and resource tools to re-creating and finding a look that works for you.

Tailor ‘Laurent’
I know that a lot of Lagos tailors suffer from what I have come to refer to as ‘spiritual problems’ as there is no logical reasoning to consistently producing ruins and late delivery deadlines. But there are good tailors out there, a tad pricey but they exist. And they will help you bring your look to life because honestly, fabric is actually quite cheap, so why not take advantage of all that’s available at Balogun market. When I found out chiffon cost N300 per yard, trust me I almost went insane. My tailor, Sandra is on my BB and email (My famzing started long ago).


Feel Free to Break the Rules
Don’t wear patterns, don’t wear prints, don’t do strips, don’t do pleats, don’t do fitted, don’t wear flares, don’t wear frills, blah blah blah !!!!
It’s exhausting following all the supposed rules. It seems according to the experts, all I’m left with are empire waist dresses which sometimes leaves you with the pregnant or bloated look, wrap dresses; again the quintessential fat girl wardrobe staple or wearing a tent and using a belt to cinch it in the middle creating the supposed illusion that compensates for a non existent waist.

I’m sorry but I find it all a bit bland and boring. I tell people I have a big everything. Big boobs, big stomach, wide hips, thick calves, thick arms, mammoth feet and sausage fingers. Even finding a cocktail ring is an issue. Point is, I can’t be bothered with all the rules, I can rupture a blood vessel just thinking about it.

As long as the outfit doesn’t make me look or feel like a whale dipped in a pool of multicoloured paint, I’m good to go. My only rule is, if you don’t feel right in it, and it don’t look right in front of the mirror, it most probably aint right anyway.

I personally don’t like to play too much with shapes as I’m pretty simple but I do love to play with textures, colour and patterns of fabric. I don’t like stiff fabric as it makes me feel boxy, restricted and most times uncomfortable. I play with lots of flirty and soft fabrics, some patterns and I absolutely adore colours.

Latasha Ngwube

Hair and makeup is another thing to play around with. I must admit, I can be pretty boring with that as I’ve always kept a signature hair style through different portions of my life(I’m always on the go so need low maintenance hair) so when it comes to hair I’m nothing close to inspiring.

Size, Fit and Comfort
It is high time we got rid of the Pashmina security blanket. I’m not a fan and all the trying to cover your tummy, boobs or bum on every outfit just makes you look uncomfortable with yourself. Wear clothes that are your size and the right fit. You don’t need to feel or look like you are choking in your clothes. I wear an 18 from some stores, a 20 in others and on the odd occasion a 22. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have lost or put on weight so there is no need getting depressed over the fact that you go to another store and you are wearing a different size. The discomfort shines through and it’s never a good look.

Clothing and fashion have always had a very extensive and complex history to it. From politics to subculture to identity and expression and everyone reserves the right to be a part of it. So I say fat girls should play dress up too because it is fun.
Wana Udobang is a broadcaster, writer and performance poet. You can check out her other work on or or follow her on twitter @MissWanaWana


  1. Derin

    March 14, 2013 at 11:21 am

    love it!!!!

  2. pynk

    March 14, 2013 at 11:23 am

    lmao @ tailors having spiritual problems – spot on.
    As for all others, i think there should be an emphasis on style and not fashion per-say. Wear what makes you feel good.

  3. Kay

    March 14, 2013 at 11:25 am

    Loves this.. Amazing!!!

  4. shantie

    March 14, 2013 at 11:42 am

    pweety nice article, thx so much

  5. Mz Socially Awkward...

    March 14, 2013 at 11:42 am

    Oooooohhhh, BN you are on a roll this morning. I love it! (And I’m also meant to be working but let’s just ignore that little tit-bit, shall we?)

    Wana Wana, that first pic of you is oh-so-fab. As in, Asa-Nwa!! And dead @ “Lagos tailors suffer from what I have come to refer to as ‘spiritual problems’ “. Hahahahahaha!! All tailors have that malady, regardless of geographical location. I brought some fabric back with me from Naija and I’m dreading even approaching these oyibo tailors to sample their own variant of the madness.

    So, nwanyi oma, you already know all the answers to your questions. Just keep doing you, biko and working what you’ve got while you keep working towards your own personal weight targets. And the “pashmina security blanket” really does nothing else but draw attention in very unflattering ways. Why smother yourself in that thing when you can have a nice shrug on instead? And there are so many new flattering shapes for light cardigans and jackets (I’m a total blazer whore), if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, a proper fitting jacket or cardie does streamlining miracles to your look. So continue playing dress up, biko, it’s one of the very few real joys that many girls have 🙂

    • jade

      March 14, 2013 at 7:22 pm

      You have taken the words literally out of my mouth @Mz Socially Awkward. Loving you is the ultimate. I was pencil thin, I was very insecure. I was round in places that people thought to be very odd. Now i appreciate me. I red somethin once and it has been my motto forever “Fashion Rules, Trend is a Dictator and Style is a Democracy. More Power to you.

  6. Jfk

    March 14, 2013 at 11:45 am

    Girls come in different shapes and sizes! Rock your size is what i tell everyone! Go girl! Love you bikini shot. One word-amazing!

  7. Bey

    March 14, 2013 at 11:49 am

    S0 I say fat girls shld all play dress up too bcox its fun*

  8. Doks

    March 14, 2013 at 11:55 am

    Go wana!!!!

  9. olawale odutoye

    March 14, 2013 at 11:59 am

    Our Creator is our sizes and figure, am slim but appreciates all, and how you carry youself. what you have to offer matter most , you are brilliant, exceptionally good.
    More grease to your elbow.

  10. Gigi

    March 14, 2013 at 11:59 am

    i love this article…
    i don’t understand the ‘fat girl’ issue, as if they’re not human beings too! d worst part is, u’ll see Naija babes joining guys to laugh at fat girls on twitter,facebook, etc. so sad!

    when a person is fat, dyu think they dunno??????? no need to rub it in!

    Wana, I hpe u find ur happy place and do the right thing for

  11. jojononz

    March 14, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    Nice one Wana wana……………plus size girls too can play dress up…………………its just about what suits your body type and accentuates your assets , its all about size,fit and comfort as you said. keep up the good work ,God bless you

  12. Omo Naija

    March 14, 2013 at 12:02 pm

    lovely article. i can relate jare!

  13. InCotonou

    March 14, 2013 at 12:17 pm

    Preach it Sister! I hear you. We are all at different stages in our journey through life. I used to be a US size 10 (about 69Kg on a 163cm frame). THen I got by first pregnancy and gbam! 30 KG, just like that. I lost most of it and i’m now back to 70kg, but what i learned was, size/weight is not a permanant thing. So now i buy dresses in different sizes, from 8 to 12. Most important thing is to have fun!

  14. cynthia

    March 14, 2013 at 12:20 pm

    Me likey!!!
    “everyone deserves the right to live, laugh, love, and of course play dress up if and when you want to.”

  15. Debs

    March 14, 2013 at 12:34 pm

    Whos the chic in blue….she’s plus size and fabulous looking.

    I think comfort and fit all the time….forget the haters wana but as you said for health issues its good to trim down & stay fit. Am currently a UK 14 and still struggle finding the right cloths so I can imagine what you have to go thru…

    • Mama Put

      March 15, 2013 at 6:26 am

      Thank you very much! That is Latasha Nwugbe! Latasha, I have to say this! You look like a goddess in this dress! It hugs your curves in all the right places! You just look so yummy, sexy and confident. This is the best I’ve seen you look and I think you should work with more hues, styles and fabrics like this. I just can’t describe how beautiful you look. The reason I emphasize is I’ve seen different photos of you in different outfits and judging by this, they’ve been downplaying your awesomeness! Gotta say that I love tha bangs too!

  16. Tara

    March 14, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    absolutely loves this…thumbs up wana

  17. dont mention

    March 14, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    thank you wana….me and u have the same journey wen it comes to weight and i hope we finally get it right. me personnally, i dont wanna loose n b a skinny girl, i just want to return to old me , normal me….n i love dressing up. my thing is as long as i look comfotable n decent, am good to go n it is really not about fashion per se for me, its about my style which i know i got and i am on fire…….i love me

  18. Tola

    March 14, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    Forgerit!! Wana Wana and to add to that nice chunky body is a sweet sexy voice, Dammit I’m at work!!

  19. PT

    March 14, 2013 at 12:42 pm

    double ‘gbam’ for you. Everybody should wear what suits them, fat or skinny. So instance, Genny although ‘normal’ should not have worn the white bridget awosika dress…it didn’t flatter her on the bust. THe same way a bandage dress would be a waste on Eku.

    • fashionLagos

      March 14, 2013 at 8:31 pm

      If Eku is comfortable in a bandage dress so be it. As long as she likes what she sees in the mirror. We always want to tell people what to wear because we feel it is not pleasing to our own eyes. People should wear whatever they feel like.

  20. sunshine

    March 14, 2013 at 12:46 pm

    I am so happy about this write up. The fact that I can be a plus size woman and still appear fashionable is so comforting to me. Thank BN and WanaWana,

  21. Angie

    March 14, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    Oh Miss Wana Wana…I so love this article. I mean I can so relate with the changing dress sizes. I’m usually a 16 but can go from 14 to 18 depending on the stores. But you know what sis, the important thing is to be healthy, happy and fun!!! Big girls can play dress up as long as you are comfortable with yourself and not just jumping on the band wagon of a new fashion craze because everyone else is doing so. You go girl…

  22. aglow

    March 14, 2013 at 12:58 pm

    The lady in the pictures makes being big look fab!

  23. Grace

    March 14, 2013 at 1:00 pm

    Wow,Wana,u just said it all,i turly love this write up. Wether i am a size 18 or 20(which i happen to be)i luv me and i am i am beautiful. I dont have to be like everybody i am uniquely me.:) Thanks for sharing for real.

  24. x factor

    March 14, 2013 at 1:05 pm


  25. dAIY

    March 14, 2013 at 1:10 pm

    yes she is beautiful but remember its not today being FAT is not a sin but eating healthy is also neccessary. If this babes eat healthy for 1year she would loose weight drastically. Its also biblical to eat healthy. So lest stop decieving ourself please. Its a good article but mehnnnn she gotta loose weight biko. Its just the truth, wen she does her beauty will even come out well more.
    No dissing intended, shes pretty and I love the article. God bless u

    • Joan

      March 14, 2013 at 1:52 pm

      In the midst of all these nice and encouraging comments, you just had to go there!!! SMH.

    • Miss Fat n extremely fit n healthy

      March 14, 2013 at 3:27 pm

      shioorrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! she tell you say she wan thin!

    • z.z

      March 14, 2013 at 4:02 pm

      Must Nigerians reference religion in everything? “It is biblical to eat healthy” biko did she tell you she is a christian?

    • miss

      March 14, 2013 at 6:03 pm

      Sry love,u seem really shallow

    • Specs

      March 15, 2013 at 4:21 am

      As much as I don’t want to be mean….what was Goldie’s weight?? my dear, people drop dead and have cancers and stuff everyday…and as much as we might want to ignore it….I haven’t seen that much of a weight discrimination. Just do you, mind your own business, your own health and mouth off others with your Captain Obvious advice….peace out/Jtown

    • Teetee

      March 15, 2013 at 9:08 am

      Lil’,miss know-it-all, all u’ve done is assume a whole lot of stuffz. That she doesn’t eat healthy, that she’s a christain and that losing weight makes her life complete… Plz

  26. dAIY

    March 14, 2013 at 1:12 pm

    I mean its biblical to eat healthy*

  27. Berry Dakara

    March 14, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    LOVE this article, and LOVE LOVE LOVE the pictures!

    You’re beautiful and you seem to have a great dress sense, which is more than I can say for a lot of women (skinny, slim, thick, curvy, and fat alike)

  28. Anon

    March 14, 2013 at 1:21 pm

    Good comfort and write up, no doubt. But please! Chill on promoting obesity. Nothing attractive about it. There’s a difference between being on the big size and being fat. Fat is bad. Like isn’t it even tiring carrying ALL that load?! The hell?! It’s a thing if the mind tbh coz fat people never listen to their brains when it tells them the tummy is full. To cut things short, fat people are ignorant and need to get educated.

    • cynthia

      March 14, 2013 at 1:32 pm

      Oh Gosh… some poeple sha!!! Did anyone tell you that they dont know obesity is bad??? So people should now kill themselves because they are big. Please go and sit down in one place.. Ms Anon! Hiss!

    • Landon

      March 14, 2013 at 1:34 pm

      It seems like you and dAIY have selective reading problems. Did you not read this part of the post : “Don’t get it wrong I’m not an advocate for people carrying around extra flesh which in the short to medium to term can cause severe health complications. As most people know I have publicly shared my weight and body image struggles. So the journey to better health, optimal fitness and attaining that realistic body size is an arduous path I still trod daily.

      But I do think that whilst we are on that path depending on how long it takes to get there, everyone deserves the right to live, laugh, love, and of course play dress up if and when you want to.”

    • zsa zsa

      March 15, 2013 at 6:31 am

      My dear, reading is one thing….but comprehension?….clearly something different.

    • shio

      March 14, 2013 at 1:42 pm

      Seeing as she already sd she’s trying to lose weight and already sd lots of weight is not good for you, what exactly is the point of your comment. Long hiss

    • Idak

      March 14, 2013 at 1:44 pm

      so if it is tiring carrying all that load, they should kill themselves while on the way to losing it?
      Did you miss the articles where she detailed her weight loss journey?
      Making fat people miserable (like you are attempting to do) will never solve any obesity issue. Fat is bad for health reasons above all else but fat people need to rock their lives and wardrobes on the path to losing said fat. Calling them lazy and all what without knowing what each is doing to lose said weight is slightly simplistic and worst dumb.
      Do you actually think every fat person is a heavy eater?
      Fatness is a thing of the mind? Is that some joke or what?
      When those anorexic size 0 ladies are displayed here on BN(no need calling them out), i do not see you baying for blood and asking them to up their diets or increase their amala intake.
      You really need to take a chill pill.

    • Anon

      March 15, 2013 at 9:19 am

      THANK U IDAK!!!

    • beanie

      March 14, 2013 at 1:47 pm

      after this lady put a somehwat subtle disclaimer, you people still talk about promoting insatiable lot. its disgusting when people think all those who are fat are products of “the brain not listening” ignorantly not understanding that some people have hormonal imbalances and some are just depressed. im sure your level of education should have come that far

    • Slim

      March 14, 2013 at 5:01 pm

      Yes my sis has d hormonal imbalance she cnt correct it till she is ready to give birth

    • pretty eyes

      March 14, 2013 at 1:52 pm

      Really??? *rme*

    • Joan

      March 14, 2013 at 1:56 pm

      Why in God’s name would you call thick people ignorant? Look around you if you’re Nigerian. All the young people you call ‘fat’ who are living their lives and doing great at their careers (Wana, Latasha, Toolz to mention a few), they are ignorant abi? I’m getting you o…msccheeww!
      And no I’m not a thick girl, I’m actually skinny but your comment shows who the ignorant one is here!
      Go Wana! 🙂

    • fashionLagos

      March 14, 2013 at 8:46 pm

      Are you that dumb? How is she promoting obesity? It is so easy to point fingers at fat people because their “problem” is visible. People like you hate fat people because you believe they are lazy and since the society laughs at them, they are an easy target. I doubt you’ll have the same ‘concern’ for someone who is diabetic but is struggling to stop eating carbs and sugary foods. If it were that easy to loose weight, Wana wouldn’t be fat. It is a damn struggle and the girl has acknowledged it and it working towards it. This article is simply saying she is going to have fun while she reaches her desired weight goal.People like you make me so damn mad, with your fake concern for obesity.No, you are only concerned because in your shallow mind, fat people disgust you!!!

  29. Anon

    March 14, 2013 at 1:22 pm

    Big side***

  30. Idak

    March 14, 2013 at 1:37 pm

    My love for Wana knows very little limit.
    Having long confessed this crush to my significant other, i wish to make it public.
    The lady talks a lot of sense,all the time.
    I just wish most females will go beyond liking the article and practice the truth therein.

  31. JADE

    March 14, 2013 at 1:39 pm

    Wow!!! i love love love the bikini pictures, im 26 and have neva worn a bikin because im too fat! 🙁 the lowest ive ever been is a size 16 and i fell by the wayside, anyway i have picked myself up and now do intense aerobics every morning before work and eating once a day. im tired of being hearing orobo, tired of looking at myself in the mirror and not feeling sexy the worst is when a bus conductor tells u u have to pay for two!! it is absolutely demeaning, currently i have lost a dress size and can feel my body tightening up. Its a great article you have there and u look pretty amazing esp in that bikini, please dont stop trying to reduce ur weight.

    • tokunbo

      March 14, 2013 at 11:46 pm

      hahahaahahaa! U just killed me with ur post!!

    • zsa zsa

      March 15, 2013 at 6:24 am

      Please don’t starve yourself. Eating once a day only throws your body into starvation mode…you have to fuel your body to get it running just like a car. Think about it, is eating once a day sustainable for the rest of your life? you may loose some weight now but it will not last. Just make sure you fuel your body, put some thought into what you eat,make sure the majority of what you put in your mouth has some nutritional value. Supplement your food, you are not only trying to loose weight but you also need to be healthy…your eyes, hair,nails,blood,bones need food to remain healthy. If you continue at this rate you may loose weigh but also loose your hair, blood level etc. Take it easy.

    • Mama Put

      March 15, 2013 at 7:03 am

      Happy for you dear! By the way! You’re not too fat! Keep going and before the year ends, you’ll rock your bikini! As long as you feel happy, healthy and fulfilled, happy for you!!!

  32. aunty

    March 14, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    oh wana wana… i justlove you!
    mammoth feet tho? loool

  33. Liz

    March 14, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    Wanawizzy, you nailed it dear. Tailor having spiritual problem and they all need prayers. Thumb up girl.

  34. Kopho Jomo

    March 14, 2013 at 1:59 pm

    i hope to be a designer that respects and include plus sizes in my designs. really, i have some big girl-friends that are so fashionable, they inspire me

  35. fl0xy

    March 14, 2013 at 2:09 pm

    Uwana abasi a dion fi.Really love ur article so on point.I have problems with tailors too,I agree it’s spiritual,they spoil my clothes like no man’s biz.I have decided to go into tailoring b4 they run me down.I wear pleated skirts and they fit me.Can someone tell me why my belt should be under my boobs and not my waist?I get waist oooo.

  36. chynadollng

    March 14, 2013 at 2:10 pm

    thats not Wana in the bikini…that is Gabifresh..a plus sized lady who rocks her size like anything else….
    thanks Wana for this writeup….i have never been a slim girl..always bigger boned than all my friends and i have learnt to rock my size 18 bod…”i cant come and go and kee mysef abeg”….
    And yes there is alwats room for improvement…

    • Kk

      March 14, 2013 at 2:50 pm

      Size 18 is not bigger boned, abeg. The first step to change, is not coming up with excuses. I don’t know who invented the term bigger boned sef, honestly. Yes, some are genetically predisposed, but one inspiration I live by are a few wise words someone said to me. It is not air that makes you fat. So even if your body is conspiring against the will in your mind to stay trim, you have to put in extra effort to conquer genetics, or lifestyle, or eating habits, or depression, or whatever the reason behind you being overweight. The weight won’t go overnight, it is a journey, it is a struggle, just never get to the stage of aceptance, because it can be dangerous and unhealthy. I’ll share my story. I only eat one meal a day on weekdays and 2 meals a day on weekends, and now, I”m the only slim person in my family. Yeah, yeah, studies say you must have breakfast, I personally disagree, as those studies work for people who have a great metabolism. When you are overweight, you may have to skip some meals. If everyone has 3 meals a day, you may not need 3 meals. It just may be too much for you. For breakfast on weekdays I have my green juice, which keeps me till dinner at 6 -7pm. At the beginning, I felt like I was starving myself, but with time, I don’t even notice again. If I’m hungry I drink calming teas with honey. No coffee, no biscuits, no nothing. Fruit even made me feel hungrier, salads made me feel depressed, (eating vegetables like a goat). So I stopped. I found that I eat too much when I microwave food, so I started I cooking from scratch. This has helped quench my desire to gorge on food. All the cutting, dicing, tasting, clearing up, the aroma while the food cooks, I’m already halfway to feeling full. So, when the food is done, I eat a normal portion, and I’m done. I go running 1hr after dinner for about 45mins. I’ve done this for a year, and the results are astounding. Air doesn’t make you fat, food does. Whether your body stores fat differently than others or not, it comes down to the basics. It is storing soemthing based on what goes into your stomach.

    • jade

      March 14, 2013 at 7:31 pm

      I cant believe i just read what i read. So the healthy way to lose weight is simply to starve yourself. And to add insult to injury one should fight vehemently against ones genetic make-up. Absolutely ridiculous!!! Go hard or literally die trying, ha!!! And pray tell what does one do while doing the CORRECT method of fitness. Wrap yourself in a large sheet, or remove yourself from civilisation until you have accomplished the suitable weight subjected to you by society. SMH plz, the writer of the article, kudos to you my dear. PROPER dieting and excercise will get you to a healthy lifestyle, not starvation. And while you are getting there, dress the hell up, and if it takes your lifetime, enjoy the ride. You only have one body, appreciate it in all its complexity and beauty. One must be very careful we dont overdo the dieting till we are at a place in our lives where we are unhealthy and unhappy. Both work together. LOve you and keep going!!!

    • Madam the Madam

      March 14, 2013 at 10:05 pm

      Continue o. Until the day that you fall down and die untop starving yourself to be slim. You sound like a real clown.

      PS:- I wonder why my comments are mysteriously disappearing on this site *side eye to the mods*

    • zsa zsa

      March 15, 2013 at 6:27 am

      Please don’t starve yourself. Eating once a day only throws your body into starvation mode…you have to fuel your body to get it running just like a car. Think about it, is eating once a day sustainable for the rest of your life? you may loose some weight now but it will not last. Just make sure you fuel your body, put some thought into what you eat,make sure the majority of what you put in your mouth has some nutritional value. Supplement your food, you are not only trying to loose weight but you also need to be healthy…your eyes, hair,nails,blood,bones need food to remain healthy. If you continue at this rate you may loose weigh but also loose your hair, blood level etc. Take it easy.

    • yo!

      March 15, 2013 at 12:02 am

      There’s nothing wrong with what dis commenter said o! its called intermittent fasting. Many studies have shown that long life is related to decreased caloric intake. U dont have to eat everytime ur body twitches or ur stomach flips. I would be personally OVERJOYED if i can be this disciplined and eat just once a day. sure way to loose weight (food intake is 80% of the struggle).

  37. Cali

    March 14, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    Love the positivity flowing through this article. Big girls deserve some love too. Some of the prettiest girls I know are fat but the only bad thing for as long as I’ve been in this country is, big girls tend to have an attitude problem and sometimes resort to bullying skinnies I’m guessing because they’re being bullied and overlooked too.. Skinny girls have bitchy problems too especially the pretty ones. Moral of the story is, fat or skinny; be nice, dress beautifully, and don’t be a bitch. And eat healthy too! Lol

  38. munch

    March 14, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    being oversize or fat or big is the same according to bmi! and its not a function of how much u eat either…my younger sisters eat much more than i do and they are slim while i seem to keep on adding, i dont even understand it, they can indulge in anything while i restrict my diet. talk abt promoting obesity? its not as if anyone wakes up and says my new year resolution is to get obese this year! i think U need to get educated, oneself is not load (i get that a lot about my boobs “arent they too heavy for u”? sorry, no they are not); short fat people were made by the same God, its just the way they are (+/-); and about attractive? pls take a poll (in Naija anyway)! the other time on BN it was lepa girls saying they’re being discriminated against for having little or no assets… fat people that go extremes getting a gastric bypass and stuff still have to live on pills and supplements bcos they’ve cheated their bodies. pls if u dont wear the shoes biko dont judge.

    • Kk

      March 14, 2013 at 3:01 pm

      You see, thats where you are wrong. You are looking at food based on just volume. They may eat more than you do, because their body needs more food than yours because of their metabolism. At the end of the day, your weight is directly related to food. If input is larger than output, you will not lose weight. What constitutes output? Your exercise level, your metabolism etc. You may think you are eating well, but if you are not losing weight, then it means your body doesn’t agree that you are eating well. Air doesn’t make you fat. Your metabolism could be slow, your body may be predisposed to storing fat, so what do you do, give your body just enough food so that it doesnt have much to store when it gets to fat. Where does fat come from, your food. If your metabolism is slow, modify what and how you eat, so you are not giving your body ammunition to make you fat.

  39. dAIY

    March 14, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    @landon u must be a fat person…like I said i love the article i only voiced my opinion ooooo cus i can see ppl carried away cos of article. betta loose weight oooooooooooooooo lol

    all the same i love d article, but loose weight first and do before and after.


    • Landon

      March 14, 2013 at 2:46 pm

      Funny enough I am a very slim person. Size 2 to be exact. Apparently I don’t enjoy lashing other people that are on a weight loss journey. It doesn’t help them in anyway. Run along and stop oozing out your ignorance here.

    • Temto

      March 14, 2013 at 2:49 pm

      @dAIY your comment still doesn’t make sense, even when you tried coating it in “humor” – adding “lol” doesn’t automatically make it funny. Weight loss is a journey and it doesn’t happen over night; depending on how much weight you HAVE to loose, it might take up to a year or more. So in the mean time, Wana can’t have fabulous clothes and amazing style? I am assuming you are reffering to “before and after” after pictures. In that case this article, still applies because her style and confidence will remain “before and after” weight-loss.

  40. hope

    March 14, 2013 at 2:38 pm

    Abeg good article to that person saying big ladies don’t bash skinny ladies, you lie jawe names like bonga fish, broom stick, okporoko are names most fat girl call smaller ladies they put their anger on skinny girls always saying real men like flesh not bones, bones are for dogs its really offensive but when you tell them loose weight they will say, must everybody be skinny? they keep saying eat akpu or pounded yam sometimes most skinny girls you see eat a lot but don’t gain any weight due to high metabolism, big girls sometimes make fun of skinny just to make themselves feel better, i love women of all sizes because i know not everyone can be slim, not everyone can be fat that is why we are different we all can’t be slim or fat the most important thing is just be healthy whether big or slim

  41. Aisha

    March 14, 2013 at 2:38 pm

    A girl after my own heart. Your head is there o jare. Plus size ladies, please read

  42. Yemy

    March 14, 2013 at 3:22 pm

    You go girl ! Love to see you in some of my plus size dresses someday!

  43. Kike

    March 14, 2013 at 3:43 pm

    Lovely article! whether fat or thin the koko is to be happy, healthy and live right

  44. @ajiriavae

    March 14, 2013 at 3:44 pm

    Wana, dear, there is no conspiracy by clothing store owners. It’s strictly about profitability. Anybody that sells clothes will tell you that by your third trip, you will have a good idea what sizes sell fast and what sizes don’t. In my experience, anything UK size size 18 and up as well as size 8 don’t sell quite as fast. So any clothing store owner who knows that she doesn’t want clothes to just sit in her store doesn’t really stock much in those sizes. As for the dress maker who complained about fitting, that too, I’m sorry but it’s just the reality. Especially for people who sew with patterns (I can’t speak for those that don’t). There are dress makers who sew for bigger women, though, so I doubt if it’s actually difficult to get a good one.

    • Shio

      March 14, 2013 at 5:38 pm

      but how does that respond to her point that tailors or fashion designers sometimes reject her business. afterall, she’ll buy the dress after they make it so it’s not sitting on the shelf. Plus they can charge her extra if it costs extra to make. she hasn’t said she won’t pay. some people are just nasty. not u dear

  45. Dimz

    March 14, 2013 at 4:08 pm

    Nice one Wana!!!…..You really have saved some lives with this article…….Fat girls…Rock on!!!

  46. Stella Kashmoney

    March 14, 2013 at 4:09 pm

    Funny girl, lol…Nice article though.

  47. ZM

    March 14, 2013 at 4:45 pm

    lovely article

  48. madman

    March 14, 2013 at 5:40 pm

    what is this madness with promoting obesity? loool – you berra get on a diet girls and don’t die of heart attack.

    • Annoyed with anonymous

      March 15, 2013 at 5:08 am

      Madman just shut up already…’s amazing when ignorant people like you read and can’t understand? Did u pass English in school? If u meant this comment as a joke it’s so not funny…..the article is not promoting obesity, but emphasizing how not to treat big sized ple….simple English una no fit understand …..msheeeeeww

    • ella

      March 15, 2013 at 9:52 am

      Madman’s abi na Madwoman sef…this person’s comments are laced with sarcasm,albeit the tasteless kind…just look am commot face,kpele!

  49. Toeley

    March 14, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    True words and I wish my sister could read this and believe …Thumps up Wana Wana

  50. Sheila

    March 14, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    Amazing article!!! well done girl, there’s nothing like been beautiful and comfortable in your own skin.

  51. Nene

    March 14, 2013 at 6:10 pm

    I agree with the people calling out Wana…I’ve known her since primary school and she has always been fat. However, ever since I could tell the difference between right and wrong, my mum has always been fat…..220 lbs and for someone who’s just 5’5 that’s not good. Anyway, she discovered her cholesterol levels were very high amongst other medical issues and the doctor told her she had no option but to lose weigh drastically and cut back on cholesterol. Within a year due to the fear of dying nah, my mum lost over 60lbs just by following a strict diet and little exercise. My mum now weighs 160lbs. Well, the summary of my long story is that anybody can lose weight if they set their mind to it…so I’m not buying Wana’s story about trying to lose wight without results. Thanks!

    • Shio

      March 14, 2013 at 9:12 pm

      and so because your mum successfully lost weight, anybody else who has not been successful is not trying hard enough. Yours is the real danger of a single story.

    • Nene

      March 14, 2013 at 10:27 pm

      I know several people who have successfully lost weight – Jennifer Hudson and many others on biggest loser etc is one, simply because they set their mind to it. I just wanted to use my mum as an example because she had been overweight for so long without realizing she could control it until she had no choice. Well, it’s up to Wana and whoever else to keep carrying their fat around, just so long as it doesn’t catch up with them.

    • bola

      March 14, 2013 at 9:24 pm

      So Wana and your mom are one and the same? Wana must lose weight as fast as your mom?They have the same body composition and their bodies function in the exact same way, right?

    • Mama Put

      March 15, 2013 at 7:01 am

      Wow! Thank God for your mother! Wonderful!

  52. prefer fashion to xes!

    March 14, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    What is life without eating anything you want bikonu?????

  53. Voila

    March 14, 2013 at 6:37 pm

    There is NOTHING to celebrate about having a health problem. Sorry folks! Having a weight issue can lead to a lot of the major diseases that kill millions accross the globe each year: cancers, High blood pressure , diabetes and other related diseases. Even skinny people are getting these diseases. Then you are adding fat to the matter. Please do not get me started, with this “fun” article. Pay your doctors a visit!!!

    • Idak

      March 14, 2013 at 7:19 pm

      so while you pay your doctor a visit, you should hate yourself and dress unattractively and basically keep a suicide note somewhere your folks can see,abi?
      Left to folks like you, fat and or big girls should just disappear from the earth and only resurface after they have lost weight.

    • fashionLagos

      March 14, 2013 at 8:34 pm

      Did you read this article in its entirety?Did she not say she has been battling with her weight? Do you not just have the mental capacity to grasp this simple write up?

    • TITI

      March 15, 2013 at 1:38 pm

      well said. I had breast cancer last year and I am 68kg and have been told to lose weight to ensure it doesnt reoccur. please dont fool yourselves being fat is a no no. fat and overweight people have poorer prognosis for most disease and usually have deficiencies in a lot of nutrients like vitamin D which is important for warding off major diseases. get moving folks…….:). at Wana, looking for an inspirational article from you where you are telling us how you shed weight. you can do it. And, love your personality!!!

  54. Charlotte

    March 14, 2013 at 7:13 pm

    Lovely piece ,seems like it was written just for me,bn dealing wiv a lot of weight issues nd my sister isn’t even helping always trying to kill the little confidence I have left..thank u wana

  55. charming

    March 14, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    Hv u ever held a fat lady’s hand?? Hmmmm dey ar the most comfy hold I knw, my hand sinks in. Choi.. I so love. Wana wen u said u hv Sausage hands, I cudnt stop swallowing saliva ohh, dey ar my best snack*shines teeth* to does of u who read wana’s article nd al u cn think of is to gv us doctor’s report like we dnt knw dat already, u nid to wash ur mind thoroughly bcos its obvious u wre reading nd farting @ d same time dats y u didn’t get d gist. Wat more cn I say,even with d caption una still no grab?? I think I wud consider “una” as hvin d same spiritual problem like tailors. For ladies dat God has effectively equiped, wateva it is u want to do 1st love it , love u nd den u wud find weight loose really easy bcos love does nt fail. Everything starts with d riggt mind nd attitude, to achieve dat desired result nd stop listening to pple talk u down ,den ar down demselves dats y . I knw sum pple wud want to challenge dat bt its simple u cnt cliam to b up in 1 down ,u produce wat u hv in u. Wen u watch dese fitness pple on tv dey ar always smiling bcos dey knw dat dey hv dat solution to d problem nd ever ready to provide it. So chubby ladies Love ursef 1st

  56. ivy

    March 14, 2013 at 9:52 pm

    just eat healthy,that is all.being fat or big is not a crime or sin.sometimes its hereditary.i have a cousin who eats once a day and if she goes beyond that,she blows up cuz her peeps are on d big side.I on the other hand can eat everybody commenting and my tummy still stays flat and d highest i’ve been is a size 8,even my mom is a long as u’r healthy,fat is not a problem 🙂

  57. Latasha

    March 14, 2013 at 11:32 pm

    Well done Wana. Nicely written piece and thank you for using my picture. For those on the “go and loose weight band wagon” what really is an acceptable size? Funny how you guys are so quick to quip about obesity killing. I’m yet to see a death from any of those fat ass women in baligun market or the ones back in my village even. The point is looking @ it from a fashion standpoint, can a fat girl not just live her life and be entitled to look good as well as her slimmer counterparts? As for me, I can’t stand the way my face looks when I’m below a size 14. That is truly my dream size for life. Please, with the way Nigeria is going, I’d probably die from a stray dog bite, heatstroke from this deadly sun or a plane would fall from my head before I drop dead from fat. All the docs in the house, please take ur knowledge elsewhere and stop killing people’s confidence(not mine sha o)! Long live the republic of chubsters and good luck in your future weight endeavors!

  58. whatthe

    March 14, 2013 at 11:35 pm

    Every one is free to their own opinion, this is called a www site, thus billions of people are exposed to this article. I do not understand why some people get abusive when your opinion does not tally with theirs!

  59. Latasha

    March 14, 2013 at 11:43 pm

    Typos *balogun market
    *would fall on my head

  60. Bee

    March 15, 2013 at 12:41 am

    I guess, like the lady in the street, freak in the sheets post, where someone commented as Virgins Unite, I guess this one should be called Fat people unite. I’m not being mean, its just funny that the same BN readers who comment on fashion or red carpet posts, about one celeb having cottage cheese thighs, or another with her tummy protruding and needs to buy spanx, or anther with rolls of back fat. I’ve seen “if you don’t have slim legs or thighs do the rest of us a favour and don’t wear short dresses or skirts”, “kai see her christian mother arms”, backless wasn’t designed for everybody” etc. Where did those readers go o? Some of the ID’s are familiar, and I can bet I have seen them diss people in the pictures of red carpet posts. So, why the hypocrisy, or is it because Wana’s post is eloquent and well written. So it is only smart people who can write well, that should be supported about their unhealthy life choice, and those who dare to attend red carpet events showing unsightly fat should be abused. See me talking, tomorrow BN will post another red carpet event, and the claws will come out. They will not remember that they encouraged Wana and other fat women to wear anything that feel suits them, as long as they are comfortable, but they will be quick to point out someone’s belly showing. Ever thought to ask yourself too that what if like you said to Wana, that’s what she likes and feels comfortable in, the world be damned if her belly or back fat is showing. Go gangster on my comment if you like, y’all know its the truth. Coming from a UK size 6-8 and proud

    • Blake

      March 15, 2013 at 3:09 am

      Take 5! God bless you for this comment. You couldn’t have said it any better. Hypocrisy is the middle name for Nigerians. Don’t worry these same folks acting all goody goody will be back tomorrow or maybe next week to curse out or lash out on some fat or skinny person. Hypocrisy and double standards at its best.

    • Idak

      March 15, 2013 at 9:34 am

      Not very true. Some of us have been consistent in our love for all sizes, inspite of our bias for bigger women.

    • omototun

      March 15, 2013 at 4:33 am

      1. BN readers don’t gang up on fat people….they actually support “thick” Toolz when she looks good. They only complain when people look ratchet…..skinny or fat.
      2. So I assume you don’t have any overweight friends?? or maybe they think y’all are friends but you really dislike them and call them unhealthy behind their backs…..
      3. Skinny people die everyday too….#Goldie…I would think that’s quite obvious by now.
      Oh well you are entitled to your opinion no matter how myopic it is……be skinny and proud sister!!! I can only hope your dress size buys you happiness, love and peace!!

    • Na u sabi

      March 15, 2013 at 5:32 am

      #eyes rolling#Bee people like u just can’t grasp simple english or comprehend anything……so if someone is fat they should not wear clothes that fit their body shapes abi? The comments are based on how the people look with the clothes they wear…..when u are big you should be mindful of the kind of clothes and style, not that u don’t wear them but u need to ask if it compliments Ur body shape….I.e someone who is big and wear halter neck must wear a good and very firm bra specially if you have big bust or big arms……make sure the bra don’t show or Ur folds if you have don’t show……like wise if u are big and wear miniskirt, ensure your tighs are not flabby or stretch marked if not just let it be on the knees……so my point is whatever u wear just ensure your body shape fits that dress and u don’t look tacky……and for you miss skinny 6-8′ don’t go round wearing the bandage dress if you have no boobs or got skinny legs cos you will sure look like an aids victim and an eye sore….so point is whatever you wear make sure it fits well…

  61. Its an anonymous comment!

    March 15, 2013 at 12:52 am

    Do you know what, I am a size 8, have always been a size 8 or less and will sometimes wish I was a little bit bigger because some clothes just look fabulous on this or that person that was fleshier than me. And then my friend who was a size 12 is always going to the gym to make sure her weight is in check, now she is a size 10 and I personally liked her before, she has the tiniest waist, lovely curves etc, but she will tell me summin like im proportionate. The moral of the story is that we are sometimes never satisfied with so much. The people that are stick thin will still be complaining about this and that, so as Wana said, just enjoy life, fat or thin, stay healthy. There will be a prob when your anorexic or your having medical issues because your overweight. BUt in the end let us all practice loving ourselves for who we are o tan

  62. TITI

    March 15, 2013 at 4:24 am

    it doesnt matter if your slim or fat, it is the heart that is important. however, for health reasons, i have learnt that it is better to keep your weight down. We are often too lazy and willing to settle for being overweight. i am currently 68kgwhich is overweight for my height but after a recent health scare i know i must work hard to lose weight I therefore will encourage you all to get moving and keep fit.

  63. Victor

    March 15, 2013 at 6:37 am

    I wonder why plus size women worry themself. There are millions of us men who LOVE them….just the way they are. Just look good, feel good, smell good and BE GOOD! EOD

    • Idak

      March 15, 2013 at 9:36 am

      May you walk and never stumble.
      May your lineage never lack anything good.

  64. Gezani

    March 15, 2013 at 8:18 am

    I am a tall pear shaped girl and I have never been small but just had small waist. As much as one is big you must dress for your shape and size and have your own style. But this thing of finding big women with big stomachs wearing clothes which are so tired around their waist and the dress are so short it shows the cellulite is not on. Big women tend to think short, revealing and tight is sexy and its not. And it doesnt mean if the shop have something in your size you must buy it. Have you seen a big woman wearing jeans and the two things are so close to each other when she walks? I find myself at the malls its like I can take the person to shopping if I had money.

  65. HRS

    March 15, 2013 at 10:02 am

    Fabulous article, very real and relates with the everyday African woman. Chai! The struggle to be accepted in the society…. Well done Wana

  66. HRS

    March 15, 2013 at 10:15 am

    @Victor and Idak, Lol!!!!!!!! True O! I’m a 16 and there’s this guy amongst many, I just remembered he was sooooo desperate to marry me (still is) and emphasized that he absolutely adore my body type! Then My Sis boyfriend’s cousin who was chasing me around Lagos, very hot guy, I must say…. I remember a conversation we had, where he told me he’s never dated a slim lady before and can never (no offense), just like some guys who can never date plus size ladies. So truly, there are guys out there who absolutely love their ladies pluz size! 😉

    Just stay healthy and if u want to drop a size or 2, u can try but it’s important to always watch out for the health implications of being plus size… 🙂

    I’m also a very fashionable person, and love to walk gracefully. It’s soooooo important cause it even takes people’s mind off your size and just concentrate on how beautiful u look when u dress appropriately, u don’t have to always follow the trend if it doesn’t suit ur body type, instead spice it up, coupled with a brain that works and the fact that u can carry out a constructive conversation, have a sweet sense of humour, u will swing heads! 😉

  67. Okechukwu Ofili

    March 15, 2013 at 10:22 am

    On point! On point!

  68. Babe

    March 15, 2013 at 12:55 pm

    This is a breakthrough and a wow

  69. Nike

    March 15, 2013 at 7:26 pm

    This a such a well written piece with wit and humour and I cant but find appreciation in the topic of size. As a skinny swimming in the sea of big girls, I have a full appreciation for the many struggles my big friends face. However, I am quite over the debate and drama and sometimes the pity big girls try to create. Hate me for this, but the reality is that as a skinny girl, I dealt with body image issues and the taunts of big girls who seemed to derive some demonic pleasure out of mocking and insulting my size and I cant even begin to describe some of the mean things they said to me. As the good Lord will have it, I grew to love my size (more importantly, I am the delight of designers and the criteria to being beautiful, although I think the latter is a pile of rubbish) but truth is, I have never been more grateful for being a skinny. I get to eat everything and wear the best clothes and above all, I’m over the truck load of insults and taunts big girls hauled at me. I couldnt care less if a big girl is struggling because skinny girls also do same and we were always told to shut up and just eat as if that would solve our problem. I’ve been called gaunt, skinny, breakable, sickler (as if being skinny is a sign of sickle cell) and even called anorexic, so please excuse me if I dont share in the ‘Big Girl’ sentiments. With all that said, good luck to the big girls on a mission to self love and acceptance.

    • miss can't stand conceited people!

      March 19, 2013 at 5:23 pm

      *yawns*… what a great way to ruin an absolutely fabulous piece! Maybe you should write a piece on how stunning you are since u’re the ” delight of designers and the criteria to being beautiful”…*get over yourself already!…geez*

  70. sos

    March 15, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    For all you saying “I am fat” and my man likes me just like that, never mind it is this same men that would drop you like a hot brick if you develope a health problem.If you truly love me as my man you should lovingly encourage me to loose weight. Some going for IVF or other fertility treatment have been told to loose weight first.Not picking on fat girls, no way, however Being fat is a health problem…end of.

  71. Efe

    March 17, 2013 at 12:32 pm

    If the writer loved her body and weight so much she will have no qualms being called orobo which in reality is what she is… , I am a size 6/8 and always weighed about 54-55kg, I enjoy eating and cooking is my hobby! I dont have a sweet tooth and thats probably helped too, a few months ago while on holiday in america, i ate my usual amount and slept an unusual amount and to my shock and horror I gained 6kg on returning to Nigeria. I never put on weight so this was odd at first I thought the scale was playing tricks on me, water weight and all that but then I started getting comments about how much “fuller” and “thicker in the right places” i looked. I laughed it off but it really bothered me, now to alot of fat people this probably isnt alot of weight gain, i was still a size 8 and could still fit in most of my clothes, i started running and eating alot less, something had obviously changed and I obviously had to change too! i lost 5kg in a month and 2weeks!!! What i am trying to say is, it takes discipline to stay fit, seeing that big pot of jollof rice with dried fish and choosing to eat steamed vegetables instead! waking up at 5 in the morning to run and then doing crunches and then go to work! Discipline! The only reason for weight gain is indiscipline, to exercise, food, what food and when! Love fashion all you want, but you don’t see a size 20 model walking down the chanel runway!!! say no to bad foods! no one says starve yourself, i love food too much to not eat but stay disciplined! if its a battle to lose weight its because you keep quitting! Finding clothes and shopping shouldn’t be any harder than it already is! we are not all meant to be size 6s and 8s, thats bull but check your bmi and if it says you are overweight then you are overweight and same if you are underweight, do something about that! i have maintained my bmi at 19 for a while! Please do not make excuses! the bloggers are not happy with their weight either and look for affirmation from people to ease their insecurities! Toolz isnt happy with her weight, she tried to lose weight too didn’t she?? stop using them as poster people for your indiscipline. I challenge you to at least try and not give up!!

  72. Naveah

    March 18, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    Abeg who makes Jollof rice with dried fish? YUCK!

    • Ella

      March 18, 2013 at 10:14 pm

      [email protected] u are not serious o, see what u picked on!
      Jokes aside though, people actually make jollof rice with dried fish. Gives it a diffrent taste.

    • Naveah

      March 19, 2013 at 2:04 pm

      My dear, I no fit add to the koko of the matta o so I say make I find my own ting to criticize since everyone here seems to be an expert on foods, weight gain, weight lose, self esteem issue etc etc. LOL

  73. Magz

    March 19, 2013 at 11:08 am

    Wana Wana, i love this article, nice one! For those abusing Wana, i think someone commented that she knew Wana from primary schl & that she was even fat then; that tells you it’s genetic. and truthfully, it is harder for people who have “fatness” in their genetic makeup to lose weight than for people who gained weight because of food. I’m a size 14 going on 12 & by God’s Grace, i don’t want to be slimmer than size 10. Not that i have anything against Skinny ladies but i love my body & i’ve never dreamt of being stick-thin.
    All my friends know that i admire Toolz a lot because she knows how to rock her body. she said it on twitter one day that she’s trying a lot to lose weight which i admire but that doesn’t mean she won’t dress in what fits her.
    i’m a biochemist so i know in details what starvation does to the body proteins (in organs), u do not want to know all the details, my dears. so please try to reduce the starvation cos the body needs a CERTAIN amount of each nutrient, less nutrient is unhealthy, excess nutrient is harmful

  74. Magz

    March 19, 2013 at 11:20 am

    i’ve discovered that all the women in my family (maternal side) have big upper arms so even my skinny sisters have big arms. as much as i would love to curse genetics, i love it bcos the same genetics gave us good skin & firm skin. some of my friends used to abuse me until the day i told them “if u don’t like how i look, go and complain to God who made me this way”. as someone with big boobs, big ass, not-so-big tummy (still working on that 😉 ), nice skin; i wear clothes that will accentuate my curves.
    and for those that will say it’s because of what i eat, i hate junk foods, i have issues with my appetite, my mum is always complaining that i don’t eat much. so cut the ‘big’ girls some slack. and i beg to differ; there’s a difference between fat & thick. iya ofiliganga is fat, toolz is thick. gerrit?
    rock your body whether it’s a slim one, skinny one or a big one but please stay healthy!

  75. Naija Realist

    March 19, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    Apologies to all my big sistahs (and I might as well add, brothas), but there’s nothing remotely “healthy” (nor in fact attractive — except of course to chubby chasers) about being fat. Please push away the dinning cart and try some push ups.

  76. Lily

    March 19, 2013 at 12:44 pm

    Love it! Plus size girls can definitely play dress up. Just came across this website. They have beautiful clothes for plus size women to play dress up. From size 14-30

  77. Oma

    March 20, 2013 at 10:45 am

    Hmnnn BN readers will not kill me…all i know is that confidence matters a lot….i’m a UK size 14, 5ft 9 inches, always trying to convince myself i can be a 10….i dropped to a 10 at one period and that was the ugliest i have ever looked, i actually was on a diet, not eating any starchy foods, or proteinous foods…i’m not discriminating against skinny girls, i admire them in thier outfits but fact is i prefer being my 12/14, i feel confident, i only pray not to have high cholesterol levels, the bashing bigger girls recieve even from thier fellow girls is very demeaning..No one created themselves, we shouldnt let them feel any lesser of a human beign.

  78. Maryam

    April 23, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    My best friend is fat (like really huge) and always had more men runcin her from our high school days to date. They don’t even look at my side lol! and am a UK size 6 and quite presentable facially

  79. Dorcas

    July 16, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    Wanawizzy,just reading this post n I must say u are damn oN point.

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